hello everyone welcome to another episode of unlocking Lille so I have a
episode of unlocking Lille so I have a
episode of unlocking Lille so I have a dream to live in a world where we can
dream to live in a world where we can
dream to live in a world where we can all move towards our truest potential
all move towards our truest potential
all move towards our truest potential which is what led me to leave my
which is what led me to leave my
which is what led me to leave my corporate job to work and mentor under
corporate job to work and mentor under
corporate job to work and mentor under Evan today we’re building a business
Evan today we’re building a business
Evan today we’re building a business around my speaking and coaching and all
around my speaking and coaching and all
around my speaking and coaching and all of you are invited to join me on my
of you are invited to join me on my
of you are invited to join me on my startup journey so far all of you have
startup journey so far all of you have
startup journey so far all of you have been following my speaking journey I
been following my speaking journey I
been following my speaking journey I have spoken at TEDx I’ve spoken at
have spoken at TEDx I’ve spoken at
have spoken at TEDx I’ve spoken at congregations and even libraries and I
congregations and even libraries and I
congregations and even libraries and I love it and I have many more coming my
love it and I have many more coming my
love it and I have many more coming my way but I do have another love something
way but I do have another love something
way but I do have another love something that brings me a lot of joy and
that brings me a lot of joy and
that brings me a lot of joy and happiness that is being a coach I have
happiness that is being a coach I have
happiness that is being a coach I have coached hundreds of people in finding
coached hundreds of people in finding
coached hundreds of people in finding their one word and helping them with
their one word and helping them with
their one word and helping them with their business and life so today I’m
their business and life so today I’m
their business and life so today I’m gonna share with you how I became a
gonna share with you how I became a
gonna share with you how I became a coach so when Evan and I first sat down
coach so when Evan and I first sat down
coach so when Evan and I first sat down to strategize how to move my business
to strategize how to move my business
to strategize how to move my business forward one of the things that he
forward one of the things that he
forward one of the things that he suggested I do was to be a coach and it
suggested I do was to be a coach and it
suggested I do was to be a coach and it was so reluctant about it because I did
was so reluctant about it because I did
was so reluctant about it because I did not see myself as a coach I saw myself
not see myself as a coach I saw myself
not see myself as a coach I saw myself as a speaker and it was never part of my
as a speaker and it was never part of my
as a speaker and it was never part of my plans to that point I’ve only been
plans to that point I’ve only been
plans to that point I’ve only been prepping to be a speaker I have done
prepping to be a speaker I have done
prepping to be a speaker I have done workshops in front of large groups of
workshops in front of large groups of
workshops in front of large groups of people so doing one-on-one coaching was
people so doing one-on-one coaching was
people so doing one-on-one coaching was something that didn’t even cross my mind
something that didn’t even cross my mind
something that didn’t even cross my mind until he had mentioned it so I hand and
until he had mentioned it so I hand and
until he had mentioned it so I hand and hard for a bit and eventually I said yes
hard for a bit and eventually I said yes
hard for a bit and eventually I said yes I said yes because might mean objective
I said yes because might mean objective
I said yes because might mean objective in going on stage and speaking in front
in going on stage and speaking in front
in going on stage and speaking in front of thousands of people is because I
of thousands of people is because I
of thousands of people is because I wanted
wanted
wanted be the catalyst to help someone change I
be the catalyst to help someone change I
be the catalyst to help someone change I want to be able to show people that they
want to be able to show people that they
want to be able to show people that they can live their true potential
can live their true potential
can live their true potential so really coaching is no different I
so really coaching is no different I
so really coaching is no different I could still do the same thing just on a
could still do the same thing just on a
could still do the same thing just on a one-on-one basis instead of a large
one-on-one basis instead of a large
one-on-one basis instead of a large group in addition I get to take some of
group in addition I get to take some of
group in addition I get to take some of the common problems that come up during
the common problems that come up during
the common problems that come up during my coaching sessions and bring them as
my coaching sessions and bring them as
my coaching sessions and bring them as themes unsaved so I could help even more
themes unsaved so I could help even more
themes unsaved so I could help even more people so knowing those two things I
people so knowing those two things I
people so knowing those two things I took my workshop and I customized it in
took my workshop and I customized it in
took my workshop and I customized it in such a way that was suitable for a 1o1
such a way that was suitable for a 1o1
such a way that was suitable for a 1o1 coaching session so I set out to do 100
coaching session so I set out to do 100
coaching session so I set out to do 100 free coaching sessions and the reason
free coaching sessions and the reason
free coaching sessions and the reason for that is like most new businesses you
for that is like most new businesses you
for that is like most new businesses you want to give out free trials and free
want to give out free trials and free
want to give out free trials and free samples to see if people actually like
samples to see if people actually like
samples to see if people actually like it and see if it’s a good fit for them
it and see if it’s a good fit for them
it and see if it’s a good fit for them but obviously the goal is to provide so
but obviously the goal is to provide so
but obviously the goal is to provide so much value in that free trial or free
much value in that free trial or free
much value in that free trial or free sample that people have become paying
sample that people have become paying
sample that people have become paying customers for you and even give you some
customers for you and even give you some
customers for you and even give you some referrals so we gifted a bunch of free
referrals so we gifted a bunch of free
referrals so we gifted a bunch of free sessions via our contests and promotions
sessions via our contests and promotions
sessions via our contests and promotions and then the day came the day of my
and then the day came the day of my
and then the day came the day of my first coaching session ever
first coaching session ever
first coaching session ever I remember feeling so nervous I was like
I remember feeling so nervous I was like
I remember feeling so nervous I was like sweating all over the place in fact I’m
sweating all over the place in fact I’m
sweating all over the place in fact I’m like sweating right now thinking about
like sweating right now thinking about
like sweating right now thinking about it and I was like replaying all of these
it and I was like replaying all of these
it and I was like replaying all of these like worst-case scenarios over and over
like worst-case scenarios over and over
like worst-case scenarios over and over and over again in my mind and I was like
and over again in my mind and I was like
and over again in my mind and I was like secretly help me I’m like maybe you just
secretly help me I’m like maybe you just
secretly help me I’m like maybe you just won’t show up maybe we’ll just cancel
won’t show up maybe we’ll just cancel
won’t show up maybe we’ll just cancel last minute but that’s okay it’s okay if
last minute but that’s okay it’s okay if
last minute but that’s okay it’s okay if he cancels but he did show up not only
he cancels but he did show up not only
he cancels but he did show up not only did he show up he actually showed up
did he show up he actually showed up
did he show up he actually showed up early and I was really awkward in the
early and I was really awkward in the
early and I was really awkward in the beginning but as the session went on I
beginning but as the session went on I
beginning but as the session went on I became more comfortable I found comfort
became more comfortable I found comfort
became more comfortable I found comfort in knowing that I can help him so during
in knowing that I can help him so during
in knowing that I can help him so during a session he expressed to me that he’s
a session he expressed to me that he’s
a session he expressed to me that he’s an aspiring entrepreneur and he really
an aspiring entrepreneur and he really
an aspiring entrepreneur and he really wants to start his own business but he’s
wants to start his own business but he’s
wants to start his own business but he’s afraid to leave his job because of his
afraid to leave his job because of his
afraid to leave his job because of his finances but he also hates his job and
finances but he also hates his job and
finances but he also hates his job and he doesn’t want to be there anymore so
he doesn’t want to be there anymore so
he doesn’t want to be there anymore so during our session we walk through the
during our session we walk through the
during our session we walk through the one word process he end up discovering
one word process he end up discovering
one word process he end up discovering what is what word was and we also
what is what word was and we also
what is what word was and we also strategize – how to start his business
strategize – how to start his business
strategize – how to start his business without risking the finances at the same
without risking the finances at the same
without risking the finances at the same time so we ended the call I felt like it
time so we ended the call I felt like it
time so we ended the call I felt like it was a great session for me it was a
was a great session for me it was a
was a great session for me it was a great session for her and we ended it it
great session for her and we ended it it
great session for her and we ended it it felt great but it wasn’t until the next
felt great but it wasn’t until the next
felt great but it wasn’t until the next day when he sent me an update which was
day when he sent me an update which was
day when he sent me an update which was a screenshot of this website that he
a screenshot of this website that he
a screenshot of this website that he started for his own business and there
started for his own business and there
started for his own business and there he featured the products that he wants
he featured the products that he wants
he featured the products that he wants to sell and he said that it was all
to sell and he said that it was all
to sell and he said that it was all because of
because of
because of together and that made me so happy and
together and that made me so happy and
together and that made me so happy and it probably so much joy and that joy
it probably so much joy and that joy
it probably so much joy and that joy brought me some clarity my clarity and
brought me some clarity my clarity and
brought me some clarity my clarity and knowing that this is something I really
knowing that this is something I really
knowing that this is something I really want to do it really did fill my soul
want to do it really did fill my soul
want to do it really did fill my soul thinking about it but I didn’t want it
thinking about it but I didn’t want it
thinking about it but I didn’t want it to be like a one-off thing I wanted to
to be like a one-off thing I wanted to
to be like a one-off thing I wanted to get so good that I could become
get so good that I could become
get so good that I could become someone’s ongoing coach because I want
someone’s ongoing coach because I want
someone’s ongoing coach because I want to be with them every step of the way I
to be with them every step of the way I
to be with them every step of the way I don’t want them to leave after the first
don’t want them to leave after the first
don’t want them to leave after the first session and not know what’s gonna happen
session and not know what’s gonna happen
session and not know what’s gonna happen next I want to be with them in their
next I want to be with them in their
next I want to be with them in their journey because I know how lonely it can
journey because I know how lonely it can
journey because I know how lonely it can be to do everything on your own so I
be to do everything on your own so I
be to do everything on your own so I made it a goal to convert every single
made it a goal to convert every single
made it a goal to convert every single free session and provide so much value
free session and provide so much value
free session and provide so much value that they’ll come back and become my
that they’ll come back and become my
that they’ll come back and become my ongoing client and I get to be part of
ongoing client and I get to be part of
ongoing client and I get to be part of their journey so I knew in order for me
their journey so I knew in order for me
their journey so I knew in order for me to have people coming back as my ongoing
to have people coming back as my ongoing
to have people coming back as my ongoing clients I just needed to get a lot
clients I just needed to get a lot
clients I just needed to get a lot better as a coach like a lot better and
better as a coach like a lot better and
better as a coach like a lot better and I knew it was gonna take time it’s
I knew it was gonna take time it’s
I knew it was gonna take time it’s making practice an experience but I also
making practice an experience but I also
making practice an experience but I also did not want to wait ten years before I
did not want to wait ten years before I
did not want to wait ten years before I got there so I decided to really immerse
got there so I decided to really immerse
got there so I decided to really immerse myself and dedicate myself and become
myself and dedicate myself and become
myself and dedicate myself and become the best that I can be in the middle
the best that I can be in the middle
the best that I can be in the middle chain so I sped up the process by doing
chain so I sped up the process by doing
chain so I sped up the process by doing these following things number one is I
these following things number one is I
these following things number one is I got the help of my mentor Evan so after
got the help of my mentor Evan so after
got the help of my mentor Evan so after every session I would make a list of the
every session I would make a list of the
every session I would make a list of the things that
things that
things that did really well as well as the things
did really well as well as the things
did really well as well as the things that I needed improvements for so he
that I needed improvements for so he
that I needed improvements for so he would give me suggestions on all the
would give me suggestions on all the
would give me suggestions on all the things that I can compose and every time
things that I can compose and every time
things that I can compose and every time he gave me a suggestion I would go back
he gave me a suggestion I would go back
he gave me a suggestion I would go back outside to the next session and again
outside to the next session and again
outside to the next session and again and again and again and I saw that my
and again and again and I saw that my
and again and again and I saw that my sessions were getting a lot better
sessions were getting a lot better
sessions were getting a lot better thanks to Evan but in addition to that I
thanks to Evan but in addition to that I
thanks to Evan but in addition to that I also wanted to get a help of external
also wanted to get a help of external
also wanted to get a help of external sources so I started reading books on
sources so I started reading books on
sources so I started reading books on coaching I read five books on coaching
coaching I read five books on coaching
coaching I read five books on coaching and how to make myself better I also did
and how to make myself better I also did
and how to make myself better I also did two online courses to help my coaching
two online courses to help my coaching
two online courses to help my coaching as well I even spent probably a hundred
as well I even spent probably a hundred
as well I even spent probably a hundred hours dissecting Tony Robbins do his
hours dissecting Tony Robbins do his
hours dissecting Tony Robbins do his interventions to really really focus on
interventions to really really focus on
interventions to really really focus on what he’s doing really well to see if I
what he’s doing really well to see if I
what he’s doing really well to see if I could bring back to my coaching sessions
could bring back to my coaching sessions
could bring back to my coaching sessions as well so I did that over and over and
as well so I did that over and over and
as well so I did that over and over and over and over again and eventually after
over and over again and eventually after
over and over again and eventually after 50 sessions someone asked me to be their
50 sessions someone asked me to be their
50 sessions someone asked me to be their ongoing coach and that made me so happy
ongoing coach and that made me so happy
ongoing coach and that made me so happy like finally it is paying off my goal is
like finally it is paying off my goal is
like finally it is paying off my goal is finally coming true but at the same time
finally coming true but at the same time
finally coming true but at the same time I still continue to do my free sessions
I still continue to do my free sessions
I still continue to do my free sessions and the reason for that is like many
and the reason for that is like many
and the reason for that is like many businesses you want to have a steady
businesses you want to have a steady
businesses you want to have a steady flow of new people coming through if you
flow of new people coming through if you
flow of new people coming through if you think about a restaurant they rely
think about a restaurant they rely
think about a restaurant they rely heavily on foot traffic for people to
heavily on foot traffic for people to
heavily on foot traffic for people to come in and experience their service and
come in and experience their service and
come in and experience their service and product and their food do and if people
product and their food do and if people
product and their food do and if people really like it they’ll come back and
really like it they’ll come back and
really like it they’ll come back and become long-term customers and that’s
become long-term customers and that’s
become long-term customers and that’s the same for me I wanted new people
the same for me I wanted new people
the same for me I wanted new people coming in and trying my service and
coming in and trying my service and
coming in and trying my service and again providing so much value that they
again providing so much value that they
again providing so much value that they become my ongoing clients so I kept on
become my ongoing clients so I kept on
become my ongoing clients so I kept on doing that over and over and over again
doing that over and over and over again
doing that over and over and over again and eventually one ongoing client turned
and eventually one ongoing client turned
and eventually one ongoing client turned into two turns in three five
into two turns in three five
into two turns in three five and today I have 15 ongoing clients and
and today I have 15 ongoing clients and
and today I have 15 ongoing clients and I get to meet with them on a regular
I get to meet with them on a regular
I get to meet with them on a regular basis to help them with their life and
basis to help them with their life and
basis to help them with their life and business and I get to see them change I
business and I get to see them change I
business and I get to see them change I get to see them grow after each session
get to see them grow after each session
get to see them grow after each session and they give me updates on all the
and they give me updates on all the
and they give me updates on all the things that they’re doing toward their
things that they’re doing toward their
things that they’re doing toward their mission and it makes me so incredibly
mission and it makes me so incredibly
mission and it makes me so incredibly happy and most importantly and I get to
happy and most importantly and I get to
happy and most importantly and I get to be part of their journey in realizing
be part of their journey in realizing
be part of their journey in realizing what they truly want out of life and
what they truly want out of life and
what they truly want out of life and that I don’t think there’s anything else
that I don’t think there’s anything else
that I don’t think there’s anything else that makes me happier than knowing that
that makes me happier than knowing that
that makes me happier than knowing that I could be part of someone’s life in
I could be part of someone’s life in
I could be part of someone’s life in that sort of way and I feel like I’m
that sort of way and I feel like I’m
that sort of way and I feel like I’m just getting started
just getting started
just getting started so I’m gonna still continue to do what
so I’m gonna still continue to do what
so I’m gonna still continue to do what I’m doing and I’m gonna keep going until
I’m doing and I’m gonna keep going until
I’m doing and I’m gonna keep going until I continue to grow that 15 into 20 into
I continue to grow that 15 into 20 into
I continue to grow that 15 into 20 into 30 maybe a hundred I don’t know but all
30 maybe a hundred I don’t know but all
30 maybe a hundred I don’t know but all I know is I want to continue to help
I know is I want to continue to help
I know is I want to continue to help people and impact the world in a
people and impact the world in a
people and impact the world in a positive way and the lesson that I
positive way and the lesson that I
positive way and the lesson that I learned from this experience is that you
learned from this experience is that you
learned from this experience is that you have to be flexible and open-minded with
have to be flexible and open-minded with
have to be flexible and open-minded with your how but be stubborn in your mission
your how but be stubborn in your mission
your how but be stubborn in your mission and your why so my mission was to be a
and your why so my mission was to be a
and your why so my mission was to be a catalyst to help someone change to
catalyst to help someone change to
catalyst to help someone change to really show people what their true
really show people what their true
really show people what their true potential is and my how was through
potential is and my how was through
potential is and my how was through speaking but that didn’t really matter
speaking but that didn’t really matter
speaking but that didn’t really matter what if it’s speaking or coaching it
what if it’s speaking or coaching it
what if it’s speaking or coaching it goes all in line with what my mission is
goes all in line with what my mission is
goes all in line with what my mission is not only has coaching helped me add
not only has coaching helped me add
not only has coaching helped me add another layer to my speaking when I do
another layer to my speaking when I do
another layer to my speaking when I do go on stage but has shown me something
go on stage but has shown me something
go on stage but has shown me something that I never even thought of before Evan
that I never even thought of before Evan
that I never even thought of before Evan had mentioned it it makes me so happy to
had mentioned it it makes me so happy to
had mentioned it it makes me so happy to be a coach like I love Wednesdays
be a coach like I love Wednesdays
be a coach like I love Wednesdays because I get to be a coach and I get to
because I get to be a coach and I get to
because I get to be a coach and I get to meet with my ongoing clients as well as
meet with my ongoing clients as well as
meet with my ongoing clients as well as new clients I loved it so much that I
new clients I loved it so much that I
new clients I loved it so much that I actually opened up an extra day I gave
actually opened up an extra day I gave
actually opened up an extra day I gave up my Saturdays to be a coach because it
up my Saturdays to be a coach because it
up my Saturdays to be a coach because it makes me so incredibly happy and that
makes me so incredibly happy and that
makes me so incredibly happy and that goes to show when you open-minded enough
goes to show when you open-minded enough
goes to show when you open-minded enough in your
in your
in your how in your path you just never know you
how in your path you just never know you
how in your path you just never know you might discover something that will give
might discover something that will give
might discover something that will give you incredible joy and happiness and I’m
you incredible joy and happiness and I’m
you incredible joy and happiness and I’m a special shadow from Melissa O’Brien
a special shadow from Melissa O’Brien
a special shadow from Melissa O’Brien Melissa thank you so much for being
Melissa thank you so much for being
Melissa thank you so much for being there for me since day one and always
there for me since day one and always
there for me since day one and always writing sweet supportive comments to
writing sweet supportive comments to
writing sweet supportive comments to help me to keep going
help me to keep going
help me to keep going your presence is much much appreciated
your presence is much much appreciated
your presence is much much appreciated finally the question of the day is what
finally the question of the day is what
finally the question of the day is what is your dream business write in the
is your dream business write in the
is your dream business write in the comments below and I’ll join in on the
comments below and I’ll join in on the
comments below and I’ll join in on the discussion thank you so much for
discussion thank you so much for
discussion thank you so much for watching and more importantly being part
watching and more importantly being part
watching and more importantly being part of this journey with me it’s been seven
of this journey with me it’s been seven
of this journey with me it’s been seven months but I feel like I’m just getting
months but I feel like I’m just getting
months but I feel like I’m just getting started and I couldn’t ask for a better
started and I couldn’t ask for a better
started and I couldn’t ask for a better community than the leave nation to be
community than the leave nation to be
community than the leave nation to be part of my journey so thank you so much
part of my journey so thank you so much
part of my journey so thank you so much again I will see you guys on very very
again I will see you guys on very very
again I will see you guys on very very soon bye bye raise your standard Apple
soon bye bye raise your standard Apple
soon bye bye raise your standard Apple at the core its core value is that we
at the core its core value is that we
at the core its core value is that we believe that people with passion and not
believe that people with passion and not
believe that people with passion and not one drop of my self-worth depends on
one drop of my self-worth depends on
one drop of my self-worth depends on your acceptance of me i don’t ever give
your acceptance of me i don’t ever give
your acceptance of me i don’t ever give up I’d have to be dead or completely
up I’d have to be dead or completely
up I’d have to be dead or completely incapacitated hey believe nation if you
incapacitated hey believe nation if you
incapacitated hey believe nation if you want to see my all-time favorite top 10
want to see my all-time favorite top 10
want to see my all-time favorite top 10 most a success I have a very special
most a success I have a very special
most a success I have a very special secret video for you these are the
secret video for you these are the
secret video for you these are the individual clips that I have personally
individual clips that I have personally
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