[Applause] this is what I look like when I was 12
this is what I look like when I was 12
this is what I look like when I was 12 trying to look like Katy Perry fail this
trying to look like Katy Perry fail this
trying to look like Katy Perry fail this is what I look like when I was 14 China
is what I look like when I was 14 China
is what I look like when I was 14 China look like Angelina Jolie fail this is me
look like Angelina Jolie fail this is me
look like Angelina Jolie fail this is me when I was 16 trying to be like Kate
when I was 16 trying to be like Kate
when I was 16 trying to be like Kate Winslet disaster I must say I looked
Winslet disaster I must say I looked
Winslet disaster I must say I looked hideous in all of those pictures and
hideous in all of those pictures and
hideous in all of those pictures and this is really not normal for any child
this is really not normal for any child
this is really not normal for any child that age I used to literally live on
that age I used to literally live on
that age I used to literally live on Kellogg’s Kay for two meals a day so
Kellogg’s Kay for two meals a day so
Kellogg’s Kay for two meals a day so that I could be skinny
that I could be skinny
that I could be skinny I applied makeup before I went to school
I applied makeup before I went to school
I applied makeup before I went to school every single day so I could hide my
every single day so I could hide my
every single day so I could hide my pimples I wanted to be fair slim and
pimples I wanted to be fair slim and
pimples I wanted to be fair slim and beautiful I did get a lot of acceptance
beautiful I did get a lot of acceptance
beautiful I did get a lot of acceptance through my peers however I must confess
through my peers however I must confess
through my peers however I must confess that I wasn’t a normal child that’s my
that I wasn’t a normal child that’s my
that I wasn’t a normal child that’s my mother ladies and gentlemen and being
mother ladies and gentlemen and being
mother ladies and gentlemen and being her daughter
her daughter
her daughter Kamath a lot of pressure from the
Kamath a lot of pressure from the
Kamath a lot of pressure from the society in general most of my relatives
society in general most of my relatives
society in general most of my relatives were often comparing me to her and told
were often comparing me to her and told
were often comparing me to her and told me that she was much prettier than I
me that she was much prettier than I
me that she was much prettier than I ever could be she looks much older now
ever could be she looks much older now
ever could be she looks much older now and that’s a very furry leaf the way
and that’s a very furry leaf the way
and that’s a very furry leaf the way Beauty has been defined by media is
Beauty has been defined by media is
Beauty has been defined by media is fixed and it is nearly impossible to
fixed and it is nearly impossible to
fixed and it is nearly impossible to achieve millions and billions of boys
achieve millions and billions of boys
achieve millions and billions of boys and girls around the world are told that
and girls around the world are told that
and girls around the world are told that they need to look a certain way it
they need to look a certain way it
they need to look a certain way it includes tall slim and fair for girls
includes tall slim and fair for girls
includes tall slim and fair for girls and tall handsome and rugged for boys
and tall handsome and rugged for boys
and tall handsome and rugged for boys and so many youngsters these days are
and so many youngsters these days are
and so many youngsters these days are trying to live up to that image so that
trying to live up to that image so that
trying to live up to that image so that they’re able to be accepted and liked by
they’re able to be accepted and liked by
they’re able to be accepted and liked by their peers as having a conversation
their peers as having a conversation
their peers as having a conversation with my best friend aria about a month
with my best friend aria about a month
with my best friend aria about a month ago and I was telling her that what a
ago and I was telling her that what a
ago and I was telling her that what a relief it is to not get back sing done
relief it is to not get back sing done
relief it is to not get back sing done in winters she agreed and then she began
in winters she agreed and then she began
in winters she agreed and then she began to tell me about this woman in
to tell me about this woman in
to tell me about this woman in admiration who does not get her vaccine
admiration who does not get her vaccine
admiration who does not get her vaccine or her upper lips done I asked her
or her upper lips done I asked her
or her upper lips done I asked her why would she not she said who defines
why would she not she said who defines
why would she not she said who defines that women are not supposed to have hair
that women are not supposed to have hair
that women are not supposed to have hair and if they’re not supposed to have hair
and if they’re not supposed to have hair
and if they’re not supposed to have hair then why do we have them at all
then why do we have them at all
then why do we have them at all I had no answer in fact I still don’t I
I had no answer in fact I still don’t I
I had no answer in fact I still don’t I want you to just look around this room
want you to just look around this room
want you to just look around this room now just think about five people who
now just think about five people who
now just think about five people who you’re close to imagine that four are
you’re close to imagine that four are
you’re close to imagine that four are those five people you just thought of
those five people you just thought of
those five people you just thought of suffer from low self-esteem 3/4 of the
suffer from low self-esteem 3/4 of the
suffer from low self-esteem 3/4 of the world suffers from some degree of
world suffers from some degree of
world suffers from some degree of lacking self-esteem and this is 9 out of
lacking self-esteem and this is 9 out of
lacking self-esteem and this is 9 out of every 10 people in India
self-esteem and thinking highly of
self-esteem and thinking highly of yourself has become such a task for the
yourself has become such a task for the
yourself has become such a task for the generation these days
generation these days
generation these days so what is the self-esteem that I’m
so what is the self-esteem that I’m
so what is the self-esteem that I’m talking about and how is it linked to
talking about and how is it linked to
talking about and how is it linked to thinking highly of yourself self-esteem
thinking highly of yourself self-esteem
thinking highly of yourself self-esteem is equivalent to self-worth plus self
is equivalent to self-worth plus self
is equivalent to self-worth plus self competence to simplify it it means how
competence to simplify it it means how
competence to simplify it it means how worthy do you think you are and how well
worthy do you think you are and how well
worthy do you think you are and how well do you think you’re doing in your career
do you think you’re doing in your career
do you think you’re doing in your career and education in general over the last
and education in general over the last
and education in general over the last ban of two years I’ve interviewed
ban of two years I’ve interviewed
ban of two years I’ve interviewed thousands of students and I call NFL an
thousands of students and I call NFL an
thousands of students and I call NFL an astoundingly found a commonality between
astoundingly found a commonality between
astoundingly found a commonality between what each one of them have to say all of
what each one of them have to say all of
what each one of them have to say all of them believe or are the most of them
them believe or are the most of them
them believe or are the most of them believe that they need to accomplish
believe that they need to accomplish
believe that they need to accomplish much more in life than what they
much more in life than what they
much more in life than what they currently have they all want to be more
currently have they all want to be more
currently have they all want to be more confident than they currently are and
confident than they currently are and
confident than they currently are and they’re all chasing the certain someone
they’re all chasing the certain someone
they’re all chasing the certain someone or something called success do you know
or something called success do you know
or something called success do you know these legends that we know of Angelina
these legends that we know of Angelina
these legends that we know of Angelina Jolie man Lynne Monroe John Lennon Oprah
Jolie man Lynne Monroe John Lennon Oprah
Jolie man Lynne Monroe John Lennon Oprah Winfrey they all suffered from low
Winfrey they all suffered from low
Winfrey they all suffered from low self-esteem and did not think highly of
self-esteem and did not think highly of
self-esteem and did not think highly of themselves but what differentiates them
themselves but what differentiates them
themselves but what differentiates them from others is that they were able to
from others is that they were able to
from others is that they were able to overcome that they too made both lots of
overcome that they too made both lots of
overcome that they too made both lots of mistakes like all of us do however they
mistakes like all of us do however they
mistakes like all of us do however they were able to overcome their inhibitions
were able to overcome their inhibitions
were able to overcome their inhibitions and be who they are today and I have a
and be who they are today and I have a
and be who they are today and I have a good news news for all of you you can do
good news news for all of you you can do
good news news for all of you you can do that too you can change the way you
that too you can change the way you
that too you can change the way you think about yourself and the world
think about yourself and the world
think about yourself and the world around you that is something that can be
around you that is something that can be
around you that is something that can be done but why do we need to do that at
done but why do we need to do that at
done but why do we need to do that at all why do you need to think highly of
all why do you need to think highly of
all why do you need to think highly of yourself why do you need to become a
yourself why do you need to become a
yourself why do you need to become a better version of yourself because life
better version of yourself because life
better version of yourself because life my friend is challenging it looked like
my friend is challenging it looked like
my friend is challenging it looked like a tip see top seeker will go up and down
a tip see top seeker will go up and down
a tip see top seeker will go up and down it’s not gonna be a straight line you
it’s not gonna be a straight line you
it’s not gonna be a straight line you need to be able to think highly of
need to be able to think highly of
need to be able to think highly of yourself so that you are able to be at
yourself so that you are able to be at
yourself so that you are able to be at peace with yourself and you are able to
peace with yourself and you are able to
peace with yourself and you are able to realize your truest potential I have a
realize your truest potential I have a
realize your truest potential I have a fervent request for all of you
fervent request for all of you
fervent request for all of you if you can just take five seconds and
if you can just take five seconds and
if you can just take five seconds and compliment the person who’s sitting on
compliment the person who’s sitting on
compliment the person who’s sitting on your right if you don’t have anyone
your right if you don’t have anyone
your right if you don’t have anyone sitting on your right then just accept
sitting on your right then just accept
sitting on your right then just accept the compliment coming your way and
the compliment coming your way and
the compliment coming your way and whenever someone compliments you just
whenever someone compliments you just
whenever someone compliments you just say thank you just don’t compliment
say thank you just don’t compliment
say thank you just don’t compliment their clothes or their accessories you
their clothes or their accessories you
their clothes or their accessories you can talk about their eyes nose please go
can talk about their eyes nose please go
can talk about their eyes nose please go ahead lips and legs toes nails hair so
ahead lips and legs toes nails hair so
ahead lips and legs toes nails hair so many times in life when we receive a
many times in life when we receive a
many times in life when we receive a compliment we shun it away you look so
compliment we shun it away you look so
compliment we shun it away you look so beautiful today or no you’re just being
beautiful today or no you’re just being
beautiful today or no you’re just being very kind you’ve done an impeccable job
very kind you’ve done an impeccable job
very kind you’ve done an impeccable job at this project perhaps I think it’s
at this project perhaps I think it’s
at this project perhaps I think it’s because of so many people who helped me
because of so many people who helped me
because of so many people who helped me to do this accept the compliment because
to do this accept the compliment because
to do this accept the compliment because you deserve it so how can you start
you deserve it so how can you start
you deserve it so how can you start thinking highly of yourself there are
thinking highly of yourself there are
thinking highly of yourself there are these three ways that I figured out for
these three ways that I figured out for
these three ways that I figured out for myself first love your skin there’s a
myself first love your skin there’s a
myself first love your skin there’s a beautiful code by dr. Gayle dimes
beautiful code by dr. Gayle dimes
beautiful code by dr. Gayle dimes if tomorrow women broke up and decided
if tomorrow women broke up and decided
if tomorrow women broke up and decided that they really like their bodies just
that they really like their bodies just
that they really like their bodies just think how many industries would go out
think how many industries would go out
think how many industries would go out of business I still be really remember
of business I still be really remember
of business I still be really remember this was some five years ago when I was
this was some five years ago when I was
this was some five years ago when I was at a party this girl came to me and said
at a party this girl came to me and said
at a party this girl came to me and said Tonya your fingers and fingernails were
Tonya your fingers and fingernails were
Tonya your fingers and fingernails were a bit of fact I say what can our fingers
a bit of fact I say what can our fingers
a bit of fact I say what can our fingers and fingernails to be fat to be fat I
and fingernails to be fat to be fat I
and fingernails to be fat to be fat I said is that all that you’ve been
said is that all that you’ve been
said is that all that you’ve been looking at when I look at it today I
looking at when I look at it today I
looking at when I look at it today I realize that perhaps my fingers and
realize that perhaps my fingers and
realize that perhaps my fingers and fingernails Anora slender as they show
fingernails Anora slender as they show
fingernails Anora slender as they show in advertisements but I’m grateful that
in advertisements but I’m grateful that
in advertisements but I’m grateful that I have them there is a general
I have them there is a general
I have them there is a general perception world over that it is just
perception world over that it is just
perception world over that it is just women who suffer from low low body image
women who suffer from low low body image
women who suffer from low low body image and body dysmorphia however a growing
and body dysmorphia however a growing
and body dysmorphia however a growing body of research suggests there are men
body of research suggests there are men
body of research suggests there are men to suffer from low body image and low
to suffer from low body image and low
to suffer from low body image and low self-image we expect our men to be
self-image we expect our men to be
self-image we expect our men to be strong and we discourage them from
strong and we discourage them from
strong and we discourage them from expressing any emotions which is why
expressing any emotions which is why
expressing any emotions which is why they don’t
they don’t
they don’t in the open and talk about the kind of
in the open and talk about the kind of
in the open and talk about the kind of issues that they are facing I just want
issues that they are facing I just want
issues that they are facing I just want to say that we cannot choose where we
to say that we cannot choose where we
to say that we cannot choose where we are born and how do we look so it is
are born and how do we look so it is
are born and how do we look so it is absolutely up to you do you want to
absolutely up to you do you want to
absolutely up to you do you want to spend the rest of your life not
spend the rest of your life not
spend the rest of your life not appreciating your own body love your
appreciating your own body love your
appreciating your own body love your skin and I would like to urge all women
skin and I would like to urge all women
skin and I would like to urge all women and men around the world to stop body
and men around the world to stop body
and men around the world to stop body shaming yourself and others just love
shaming yourself and others just love
shaming yourself and others just love your skin secondly laugh at yourself yes
your skin secondly laugh at yourself yes
your skin secondly laugh at yourself yes laugh at yourself as in classics when
laugh at yourself as in classics when
laugh at yourself as in classics when this boy called me up at 11 p.m. it was
this boy called me up at 11 p.m. it was
this boy called me up at 11 p.m. it was one of my classmates I picked up the
one of my classmates I picked up the
one of my classmates I picked up the phone he’s seen he said Tanya will you
phone he’s seen he said Tanya will you
phone he’s seen he said Tanya will you be my girlfriend I didn’t know what it
be my girlfriend I didn’t know what it
be my girlfriend I didn’t know what it meant at that age I didn’t know what to
meant at that age I didn’t know what to
meant at that age I didn’t know what to say so I said okay that I mean it’s
say so I said okay that I mean it’s
say so I said okay that I mean it’s that’s fine because I was like really
that’s fine because I was like really
that’s fine because I was like really nervous and I didn’t know what to say
nervous and I didn’t know what to say
nervous and I didn’t know what to say just moments later he said he was just
just moments later he said he was just
just moments later he said he was just joking and I hear people laughing in the
joking and I hear people laughing in the
joking and I hear people laughing in the background I felt it really hurt and
background I felt it really hurt and
background I felt it really hurt and rejected at the tender age but today
rejected at the tender age but today
rejected at the tender age but today when I look back at it and even in high
when I look back at it and even in high
when I look back at it and even in high school me and my friends had a good
school me and my friends had a good
school me and my friends had a good laugh about that incident that’s perhaps
laugh about that incident that’s perhaps
laugh about that incident that’s perhaps one of the things but in life we all
one of the things but in life we all
one of the things but in life we all face so many rejections that have so
face so many rejections that have so
face so many rejections that have so much of power that can they can leave a
much of power that can they can leave a
much of power that can they can leave a profound impact on how we feel and our
profound impact on how we feel and our
profound impact on how we feel and our personality in general today I would
personality in general today I would
personality in general today I would like to tell all of you to think about a
like to tell all of you to think about a
like to tell all of you to think about a story or an incident that affects you
story or an incident that affects you
story or an incident that affects you share it with someone you love and have
share it with someone you love and have
share it with someone you love and have a good laugh about it life’s too short
a good laugh about it life’s too short
a good laugh about it life’s too short to think too much or take yourself too
to think too much or take yourself too
to think too much or take yourself too seriously be crazy and be foolish laugh
seriously be crazy and be foolish laugh
seriously be crazy and be foolish laugh at yourself because they truly set you
at yourself because they truly set you
at yourself because they truly set you free and is a sign of emotional maturity
free and is a sign of emotional maturity
free and is a sign of emotional maturity thirdly don’t be yourself
thirdly don’t be yourself
thirdly don’t be yourself yes you heard right I didn’t say be
yes you heard right I didn’t say be
yes you heard right I didn’t say be yourself I said don’t be yourself who
yourself I said don’t be yourself who
yourself I said don’t be yourself who are you tell me something about yourself
are you tell me something about yourself
are you tell me something about yourself what is your purpose in life you don’t
what is your purpose in life you don’t
what is your purpose in life you don’t have to design you don’t have to answer
have to design you don’t have to answer
have to design you don’t have to answer these questions literally so you can
these questions literally so you can
these questions literally so you can take a deep breath you don’t need to
take a deep breath you don’t need to
take a deep breath you don’t need to answer these questions because who you
answer these questions because who you
answer these questions because who you are today will not be the same as who
are today will not be the same as who
are today will not be the same as who you are going to be a year from now I
you are going to be a year from now I
you are going to be a year from now I read it somewhere that if you’re not
read it somewhere that if you’re not
read it somewhere that if you’re not embarrassed of who you were last year
embarrassed of who you were last year
embarrassed of who you were last year then you probably haven’t really grown
then you probably haven’t really grown
then you probably haven’t really grown enough I still remember I was 18 and I
enough I still remember I was 18 and I
enough I still remember I was 18 and I just entered University
just entered University
just entered University I felt students my age were much smarter
I felt students my age were much smarter
I felt students my age were much smarter than I was I was 19 and my insecurities
than I was I was 19 and my insecurities
than I was I was 19 and my insecurities about myself grew even more I still
about myself grew even more I still
about myself grew even more I still remember I had to start reading
remember I had to start reading
remember I had to start reading newspaper for the first time for an
newspaper for the first time for an
newspaper for the first time for an entrance exam I literally forced myself
entrance exam I literally forced myself
entrance exam I literally forced myself into reading the paper for the first 40
into reading the paper for the first 40
into reading the paper for the first 40 days till I even started making sense of
days till I even started making sense of
days till I even started making sense of the headlines hated it I was 20 when I
the headlines hated it I was 20 when I
the headlines hated it I was 20 when I picked up my first non-fiction book to
picked up my first non-fiction book to
picked up my first non-fiction book to read
read
read I must have stared at the cover of the
I must have stared at the cover of the
I must have stared at the cover of the book for almost a week before I even
book for almost a week before I even
book for almost a week before I even read a page of that book today ladies
read a page of that book today ladies
read a page of that book today ladies and gentlemen I’m a natural and avid
and gentlemen I’m a natural and avid
and gentlemen I’m a natural and avid reader
reader
reader my day starts and ends with reading news
my day starts and ends with reading news
my day starts and ends with reading news on the app conversations with my father
on the app conversations with my father
on the app conversations with my father are primarily about elections and
are primarily about elections and
are primarily about elections and politics I also want you to ask yourself
politics I also want you to ask yourself
politics I also want you to ask yourself one question that when is thinking
one question that when is thinking
one question that when is thinking highly of yourself not justified and
highly of yourself not justified and
highly of yourself not justified and when is it wiser to criticize yourself a
when is it wiser to criticize yourself a
when is it wiser to criticize yourself a lot of times ask
lot of times ask
lot of times ask low self-esteem makes us believe live
low self-esteem makes us believe live
low self-esteem makes us believe live about ourselves it makes us believe that
about ourselves it makes us believe that
about ourselves it makes us believe that either we are not capable of growing or
either we are not capable of growing or
either we are not capable of growing or we cannot where we don’t deserve to grow
we cannot where we don’t deserve to grow
we cannot where we don’t deserve to grow and just because we are so busy guarding
and just because we are so busy guarding
and just because we are so busy guarding our own self-esteem that we are not able
our own self-esteem that we are not able
our own self-esteem that we are not able to realize our potential
to realize our potential
to realize our potential and not overlooking our shortcomings and
and not overlooking our shortcomings and
and not overlooking our shortcomings and weaknesses you can be whoever you want
weaknesses you can be whoever you want
weaknesses you can be whoever you want to be if I fall into the trap of being
to be if I fall into the trap of being
to be if I fall into the trap of being myself I would have never dreamt of
myself I would have never dreamt of
myself I would have never dreamt of creating a world that’s more inspired
creating a world that’s more inspired
creating a world that’s more inspired informed and intelligent along with so
informed and intelligent along with so
informed and intelligent along with so many young students around the world who
many young students around the world who
many young students around the world who joined the movement don’t make this is
joined the movement don’t make this is
joined the movement don’t make this is who I am and alibi for change and
who I am and alibi for change and
who I am and alibi for change and learning I am a million different people
learning I am a million different people
learning I am a million different people from one day to another I cannot define
from one day to another I cannot define
from one day to another I cannot define myself because I am living my life one
myself because I am living my life one
myself because I am living my life one day the one moment and one year at a
day the one moment and one year at a
day the one moment and one year at a time so ladies and gentlemen don’t be
time so ladies and gentlemen don’t be
time so ladies and gentlemen don’t be yourself be your better self if you can
yourself be your better self if you can
yourself be your better self if you can love your skin laugh at yourself and be
love your skin laugh at yourself and be
love your skin laugh at yourself and be your better self from now onwards you
your better self from now onwards you
your better self from now onwards you would have increased your self esteem
would have increased your self esteem
would have increased your self esteem it’s least a tad bit more change
it’s least a tad bit more change
it’s least a tad bit more change learning growth fashion self-esteem
learning growth fashion self-esteem
learning growth fashion self-esteem self-confidence they all stem from
self-confidence they all stem from
self-confidence they all stem from within we all have this gift called life
within we all have this gift called life
within we all have this gift called life for us to know how long for however long
for us to know how long for however long
for us to know how long for however long we do don’t waste it
we do don’t waste it
we do don’t waste it by not loving yourself and those around
by not loving yourself and those around
by not loving yourself and those around you if you can truly admire
you if you can truly admire
you if you can truly admire imperfections and imperfections of
imperfections and imperfections of
imperfections and imperfections of others if you can love yourself and
others if you can love yourself and
others if you can love yourself and think highly of yourself the world will
think highly of yourself the world will
think highly of yourself the world will fall in love with your soul I’m going to
fall in love with your soul I’m going to
fall in love with your soul I’m going to end this with one of my favorite quotes
end this with one of my favorite quotes
end this with one of my favorite quotes in Hindi that really motivates me every
in Hindi that really motivates me every
in Hindi that really motivates me every single day it goes like Cutco Kabul and
single day it goes like Cutco Kabul and
single day it goes like Cutco Kabul and Aetna key heart of disabled a coup
Aetna key heart of disabled a coup
Aetna key heart of disabled a coup d’etat MC cudoce key bata Terasaki ahead
d’etat MC cudoce key bata Terasaki ahead
d’etat MC cudoce key bata Terasaki ahead which loosely translates to make
which loosely translates to make
which loosely translates to make yourself so fierce and so strong that
yourself so fierce and so strong that
yourself so fierce and so strong that god has to ask you what is your wish
god has to ask you what is your wish
god has to ask you what is your wish before any destiny thank you very much
before any destiny thank you very much
before any destiny thank you very much ladies and gentlemen Kshatriya
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