grief is a funny thing not in a haha kind of way or a slapstick comedy kind
kind of way or a slapstick comedy kind
kind of way or a slapstick comedy kind of way where I step on a banana and
of way where I step on a banana and
of way where I step on a banana and sleep and everybody laughs but grief is
sleep and everybody laughs but grief is
sleep and everybody laughs but grief is funny in a sense that’s never the same
funny in a sense that’s never the same
funny in a sense that’s never the same it’s always subjective it’s always
it’s always subjective it’s always
it’s always subjective it’s always unique it’s always mine and it’s always
unique it’s always mine and it’s always
unique it’s always mine and it’s always yours and it’s okay but the thing is
yours and it’s okay but the thing is
yours and it’s okay but the thing is that when we see something different
that when we see something different
that when we see something different what we do or what we are experiencing
what we do or what we are experiencing
what we do or what we are experiencing we tend to reject it we tend to deem it
we tend to reject it we tend to deem it
we tend to reject it we tend to deem it in a brokerage and maybe sometimes even
in a brokerage and maybe sometimes even
in a brokerage and maybe sometimes even wrong this is very typical when it comes
wrong this is very typical when it comes
wrong this is very typical when it comes to mourning online for example in my PhD
to mourning online for example in my PhD
to mourning online for example in my PhD study I investigated why where and how
study I investigated why where and how
study I investigated why where and how people more online and I came across
people more online and I came across
people more online and I came across this very deep-rooted stereotype over
this very deep-rooted stereotype over
this very deep-rooted stereotype over and over again it came across in my
and over again it came across in my
and over again it came across in my interviews in the survey answers and
interviews in the survey answers and
interviews in the survey answers and even in media stereotype this morning
even in media stereotype this morning
even in media stereotype this morning online is not real morning it’s a little
online is not real morning it’s a little
online is not real morning it’s a little fake it’s at a less than on line morning
fake it’s at a less than on line morning
fake it’s at a less than on line morning an offline morning and the thing is that
an offline morning and the thing is that
an offline morning and the thing is that we turn to these kind of stereotypes
we turn to these kind of stereotypes
we turn to these kind of stereotypes when we’re trying to seek explanation
when we’re trying to seek explanation
when we’re trying to seek explanation when you’re trying to find now why these
when you’re trying to find now why these
when you’re trying to find now why these people are truly doing different things
people are truly doing different things
people are truly doing different things that we do and stereotypes aren’t easy
that we do and stereotypes aren’t easy
that we do and stereotypes aren’t easy and kind of convenient way to put people
and kind of convenient way to put people
and kind of convenient way to put people and things into categories need a little
and things into categories need a little
and things into categories need a little boxes according to this box morning
boxes according to this box morning
boxes according to this box morning online it’s not real morning when
online it’s not real morning when
online it’s not real morning when somebody dies automation kicks in return
somebody dies automation kicks in return
somebody dies automation kicks in return to rituals because rituals they help us
to rituals because rituals they help us
to rituals because rituals they help us know what to do they tell us how to
know what to do they tell us how to
know what to do they tell us how to dispose your body
dispose your body
dispose your body they tell us how we’re with whom and how
they tell us how we’re with whom and how
they tell us how we’re with whom and how we can remember and honor somebody they
we can remember and honor somebody they
we can remember and honor somebody they tell us what happens during a funeral or
tell us what happens during a funeral or
tell us what happens during a funeral or even one what we want to do doing
even one what we want to do doing
even one what we want to do doing anniversaries I’m going to tell you a
anniversaries I’m going to tell you a
anniversaries I’m going to tell you a little story for my fieldwork I did a
little story for my fieldwork I did a
little story for my fieldwork I did a lot of fieldwork in different social
lot of fieldwork in different social
lot of fieldwork in different social media websites from Facebook to YouTube
media websites from Facebook to YouTube
media websites from Facebook to YouTube from to Twitter but I also wanted to
from to Twitter but I also wanted to
from to Twitter but I also wanted to investigate virtual worlds and online
investigate virtual worlds and online
investigate virtual worlds and online gaming environments Second Life was one
gaming environments Second Life was one
gaming environments Second Life was one part of my research it’s not a game in a
part of my research it’s not a game in a
part of my research it’s not a game in a similar sense that water war practice
similar sense that water war practice
similar sense that water war practice but their gaming experience usually
but their gaming experience usually
but their gaming experience usually comes from role-playing and there’s a
comes from role-playing and there’s a
comes from role-playing and there’s a lot of growth in communities in Second
lot of growth in communities in Second
lot of growth in communities in Second Life it’s a virtual world
Life it’s a virtual world
Life it’s a virtual world well where basically anything and
well where basically anything and
well where basically anything and anybody is possible even companies have
anybody is possible even companies have
anybody is possible even companies have used it for virtual meetings between
used it for virtual meetings between
used it for virtual meetings between their employees and even universities
their employees and even universities
their employees and even universities have used it for of virtual lectures
have used it for of virtual lectures
have used it for of virtual lectures with their students but in this case I
with their students but in this case I
with their students but in this case I wanted to investigate the kind of areas
wanted to investigate the kind of areas
wanted to investigate the kind of areas in the virtual world that people were
in the virtual world that people were
in the virtual world that people were paying respects and remembering the
paying respects and remembering the
paying respects and remembering the memory of their loved ones I came across
memory of their loved ones I came across
memory of their loved ones I came across a role-playing community group of pro
a role-playing community group of pro
a role-playing community group of pro players and they were playing this
players and they were playing this
players and they were playing this role-playing story based on the fantasy
role-playing story based on the fantasy
role-playing story based on the fantasy novels by author john norman and the
novels by author john norman and the
novels by author john norman and the fantasy story was based on this kind of
fantasy story was based on this kind of
fantasy story was based on this kind of gorian philosophy where there’s a lot of
gorian philosophy where there’s a lot of
gorian philosophy where there’s a lot of master/slave relationships between
master/slave relationships between
master/slave relationships between people and lots of hierarchy dynamics
people and lots of hierarchy dynamics
people and lots of hierarchy dynamics all of the characters in the
all of the characters in the
all of the characters in the role-playing story have important role
role-playing story have important role
role-playing story have important role in carrying out the overall story and
in carrying out the overall story and
in carrying out the overall story and these people Nadya
these people Nadya
these people Nadya Anjali and Peter Allen they didn’t know
Anjali and Peter Allen they didn’t know
Anjali and Peter Allen they didn’t know before each other beforehand very well
before each other beforehand very well
before each other beforehand very well but they all knew a character named Yuki
but they all knew a character named Yuki
but they all knew a character named Yuki Yuki
Yuki
Yuki yuppies real name was yoculan she was
yuppies real name was yoculan she was
yuppies real name was yoculan she was born in 1983 and she lived in Hong Kong
born in 1983 and she lived in Hong Kong
born in 1983 and she lived in Hong Kong she was suffering from bone cancer which
she was suffering from bone cancer which
she was suffering from bone cancer which basically meant that she was bound to a
basically meant that she was bound to a
basically meant that she was bound to a hospital bed most of our time second
hospital bed most of our time second
hospital bed most of our time second life was her escape in a sense it was
life was her escape in a sense it was
life was her escape in a sense it was her way to experience life people and
her way to experience life people and
her way to experience life people and anything in a way that was impossible
anything in a way that was impossible
anything in a way that was impossible because her illness nadia often referred
because her illness nadia often referred
because her illness nadia often referred to yuki as a lovable brat because her
to yuki as a lovable brat because her
to yuki as a lovable brat because her character was this feral child like a
character was this feral child like a
character was this feral child like a wild child who lived in what woods did
wild child who lived in what woods did
wild child who lived in what woods did not speak but grunted most of the time
not speak but grunted most of the time
not speak but grunted most of the time and she was always kind of playing these
and she was always kind of playing these
and she was always kind of playing these small pranks to people and kind of like
small pranks to people and kind of like
small pranks to people and kind of like a Miss misfit and she was much loved in
a Miss misfit and she was much loved in
a Miss misfit and she was much loved in the community she died in 2008 because
the community she died in 2008 because
the community she died in 2008 because of her bone cancer before she died she
of her bone cancer before she died she
of her bone cancer before she died she was undergoing a heart surgery and she
was undergoing a heart surgery and she
was undergoing a heart surgery and she was kind of fearing the moment that the
was kind of fearing the moment that the
was kind of fearing the moment that the worst case scenario would happen she
worst case scenario would happen she
worst case scenario would happen she wrote letters to her second life friends
wrote letters to her second life friends
wrote letters to her second life friends that would be sent to her friends as a
that would be sent to her friends as a
that would be sent to her friends as a farewell and as a thank-you for all of
farewell and as a thank-you for all of
farewell and as a thank-you for all of their time that they had to spend
their time that they had to spend
their time that they had to spend together the worst case scenario
together the worst case scenario
together the worst case scenario happened she died when the letters were
happened she died when the letters were
happened she died when the letters were sent to her friends Anjali experienced
sent to her friends Anjali experienced
sent to her friends Anjali experienced the loss of Yuki the heaviest she told
the loss of Yuki the heaviest she told
the loss of Yuki the heaviest she told me in our interviews that she often felt
me in our interviews that she often felt
me in our interviews that she often felt that she was like a mentor to Yuki or
that she was like a mentor to Yuki or
that she was like a mentor to Yuki or even like a mother because they often
even like a mother because they often
even like a mother because they often shared details about their hopes and
shared details about their hopes and
shared details about their hopes and dreams and lives outside of second life
dreams and lives outside of second life
dreams and lives outside of second life and Yuki always told about her plans
and Yuki always told about her plans
and Yuki always told about her plans what she would do when she would get
what she would do when she would get
what she would do when she would get better
better
better she really hoped and believed that she
she really hoped and believed that she
she really hoped and believed that she would get better eventually so when you
would get better eventually so when you
would get better eventually so when you get tired anjali created a memorial
get tired anjali created a memorial
get tired anjali created a memorial inside Second Life the world is built in
inside Second Life the world is built in
inside Second Life the world is built in a sense that you can actually mold
a sense that you can actually mold
a sense that you can actually mold the world in a way not in a way that you
the world in a way not in a way that you
the world in a way not in a way that you do in regular gaming worlds but because
do in regular gaming worlds but because
do in regular gaming worlds but because this is a virtual world where you can
this is a virtual world where you can
this is a virtual world where you can add forests and lakes and buildings even
add forests and lakes and buildings even
add forests and lakes and buildings even and you can create the space in a sense
and you can create the space in a sense
and you can create the space in a sense that it’s your own and Anjali was
that it’s your own and Anjali was
that it’s your own and Anjali was responsible of creating and maintaining
responsible of creating and maintaining
responsible of creating and maintaining this role-playing area and there was
this role-playing area and there was
this role-playing area and there was this cave that was Yuki’s character’s
this cave that was Yuki’s character’s
this cave that was Yuki’s character’s home so every known thing when Anjali
home so every known thing when Anjali
home so every known thing when Anjali had the opportunity to make
had the opportunity to make
had the opportunity to make modifications in the world she could
modifications in the world she could
modifications in the world she could have left it out she could have let it
have left it out she could have let it
have left it out she could have let it go but she couldn’t because it was the
go but she couldn’t because it was the
go but she couldn’t because it was the only concrete thing still reminding her
only concrete thing still reminding her
only concrete thing still reminding her about Yuki so she decided to make a
about Yuki so she decided to make a
about Yuki so she decided to make a memorial for Yuki it’s made in a shape
memorial for Yuki it’s made in a shape
memorial for Yuki it’s made in a shape of our grave like a small dirt mound
of our grave like a small dirt mound
of our grave like a small dirt mound with a headstone at the end yes it’s a
with a headstone at the end yes it’s a
with a headstone at the end yes it’s a symbolic of memorial that it’s
symbolic of memorial that it’s
symbolic of memorial that it’s recognizable for everybody who visit the
recognizable for everybody who visit the
recognizable for everybody who visit the space on purpose or accidentally that
space on purpose or accidentally that
space on purpose or accidentally that this somebody’s buried here I although
this somebody’s buried here I although
this somebody’s buried here I although it’s symbolic oh but these kind of
it’s symbolic oh but these kind of
it’s symbolic oh but these kind of symbolic hole memorials we recognize
symbolic hole memorials we recognize
symbolic hole memorials we recognize more often we recognize them from
more often we recognize them from
more often we recognize them from offline world such as the Tomb of the
offline world such as the Tomb of the
offline world such as the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier that is the most
Unknown Soldier that is the most
Unknown Soldier that is the most recognizable symbolical memorial that we
recognizable symbolical memorial that we
recognizable symbolical memorial that we have it doesn’t have the actual physical
have it doesn’t have the actual physical
have it doesn’t have the actual physical remains of anybody but it’s still a
remains of anybody but it’s still a
remains of anybody but it’s still a symbolical memorial that is culturally
symbolical memorial that is culturally
symbolical memorial that is culturally and commonly shared concept since Second
and commonly shared concept since Second
and commonly shared concept since Second Life it’s possible to remember in a more
Life it’s possible to remember in a more
Life it’s possible to remember in a more multimedia tway Anjali was able to add a
multimedia tway Anjali was able to add a
multimedia tway Anjali was able to add a slide show indicate as well so this
slide show indicate as well so this
slide show indicate as well so this light show was displaying pictures of
light show was displaying pictures of
light show was displaying pictures of Yuki’s life inside and outside of Second
Yuki’s life inside and outside of Second
Yuki’s life inside and outside of Second Life as well when Anjali lost her actual
Life as well when Anjali lost her actual
Life as well when Anjali lost her actual parents she thought that okay I already
parents she thought that okay I already
parents she thought that okay I already have this space in Second Life where I
have this space in Second Life where I
have this space in Second Life where I go every now and then
go every now and then
go every now and then and pay rest respects and remember Yuki
and pay rest respects and remember Yuki
and pay rest respects and remember Yuki and if she decided that she would like
and if she decided that she would like
and if she decided that she would like to have the memory of her parents in the
to have the memory of her parents in the
to have the memory of her parents in the same space as well so eventually their
same space as well so eventually their
same space as well so eventually their memorial cave became like a angeles
memorial cave became like a angeles
memorial cave became like a angeles family crypt where she could go and
family crypt where she could go and
family crypt where she could go and remember and honor the people that meant
remember and honor the people that meant
remember and honor the people that meant a lot to her both offline and online now
a lot to her both offline and online now
a lot to her both offline and online now let’s go back to the stereotype that I
let’s go back to the stereotype that I
let’s go back to the stereotype that I mentioned in the beginning morning
mentioned in the beginning morning
mentioned in the beginning morning online is not real morning it’s a little
online is not real morning it’s a little
online is not real morning it’s a little fake right the thing is that this type
fake right the thing is that this type
fake right the thing is that this type of attitude usually comes from people
of attitude usually comes from people
of attitude usually comes from people were not experiencing grief at the
were not experiencing grief at the
were not experiencing grief at the moment they haven’t lost somebody
moment they haven’t lost somebody
moment they haven’t lost somebody recently so this type of experience of
recently so this type of experience of
recently so this type of experience of sharing your emotions and your loss
sharing your emotions and your loss
sharing your emotions and your loss online feels a little alien it feels
online feels a little alien it feels
online feels a little alien it feels different and it feels odd we have now
different and it feels odd we have now
different and it feels odd we have now digitalized almost every single aspect
digitalized almost every single aspect
digitalized almost every single aspect of our lives from our leisure to our
of our lives from our leisure to our
of our lives from our leisure to our work we share so much details and so
work we share so much details and so
work we share so much details and so much emotions already online from birth
much emotions already online from birth
much emotions already online from birth and now to death we share joy we share
and now to death we share joy we share
and now to death we share joy we share cat memes which had the pictures of our
cat memes which had the pictures of our
cat memes which had the pictures of our meals selfies even bell face so much
meals selfies even bell face so much
meals selfies even bell face so much content and death is the final frontier
content and death is the final frontier
content and death is the final frontier of this development it is something that
of this development it is something that
of this development it is something that is naturally evolving from the way we
is naturally evolving from the way we
is naturally evolving from the way we use this technology so I argue that
use this technology so I argue that
use this technology so I argue that morning online it is real morning it
morning online it is real morning it
morning online it is real morning it doesn’t matter which kind of tool we are
doesn’t matter which kind of tool we are
doesn’t matter which kind of tool we are using it doesn’t really matter if you’re
using it doesn’t really matter if you’re
using it doesn’t really matter if you’re we feel lighting an actual candle or on
we feel lighting an actual candle or on
we feel lighting an actual candle or on virtual candle because the intention
virtual candle because the intention
virtual candle because the intention behind it it’s the same for all we still
behind it it’s the same for all we still
behind it it’s the same for all we still want to light candles we still want to
want to light candles we still want to
want to light candles we still want to visit the places that remind us of our
visit the places that remind us of our
visit the places that remind us of our loved ones we still want to keep the
loved ones we still want to keep the
loved ones we still want to keep the items that remind us of
items that remind us of
items that remind us of once where there is a text message
once where there is a text message
once where there is a text message whether it’s perfume whether it’s
whether it’s perfume whether it’s
whether it’s perfume whether it’s furniture whether it’s a facebook
furniture whether it’s a facebook
furniture whether it’s a facebook profile page there are still digital
profile page there are still digital
profile page there are still digital items which are important to us because
items which are important to us because
items which are important to us because they enable us to keep a connection they
they enable us to keep a connection they
they enable us to keep a connection they keep us remembering and they enable us
keep us remembering and they enable us
keep us remembering and they enable us to share so eventually if this
to share so eventually if this
to share so eventually if this technology is with us long enough we
technology is with us long enough we
technology is with us long enough we will all mourn and honor
will all mourn and honor
will all mourn and honor online I will you will and that grief
online I will you will and that grief
online I will you will and that grief it’s not baked
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