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How to Achieve Maximum Happiness | Jianqing Pan | TEDxAmadorValleyHigh


okay so first of all you guys have been

okay so first of all you guys have been here for a really really long time you

here for a really really long time you

here for a really really long time you guys saw some pretty amazing stuff you

guys saw some pretty amazing stuff you

guys saw some pretty amazing stuff you guys want to see my best friend April

guys want to see my best friend April

guys want to see my best friend April that was amazing you guys go to see

that was amazing you guys go to see

that was amazing you guys go to see Nicole like I was blown away by that you

Nicole like I was blown away by that you

Nicole like I was blown away by that you guys saw these two amazing speeches and

guys saw these two amazing speeches and

guys saw these two amazing speeches and I’m just like I’m here to teach you guys

I’m just like I’m here to teach you guys

I’m just like I’m here to teach you guys how to achieve happiness like Nicole

how to achieve happiness like Nicole

how to achieve happiness like Nicole taught you guys had to become like the

taught you guys had to become like the

taught you guys had to become like the next president United States I’ll tell

next president United States I’ll tell

next president United States I’ll tell you guys how to do this so well I got to

you guys how to do this so well I got to

you guys how to do this so well I got to do without it what I have right so this

do without it what I have right so this

do without it what I have right so this is maximum happiness and it’s how to

is maximum happiness and it’s how to

is maximum happiness and it’s how to achieve the maximum happiness and your

achieve the maximum happiness and your

achieve the maximum happiness and your life you’re right there you’re the

life you’re right there you’re the

life you’re right there you’re the supreme person right there maximum

supreme person right there maximum

supreme person right there maximum happiness in your life right there all

happiness in your life right there all

happiness in your life right there all right

so can asses this is oh yes okay so it’s

so can asses this is oh yes okay so it’s actually a science it’s known as

actually a science it’s known as

actually a science it’s known as positive psychology and this science has

positive psychology and this science has

positive psychology and this science has simply grown recently and it’s

simply grown recently and it’s

simply grown recently and it’s completely exploded you see there’s a

completely exploded you see there’s a

completely exploded you see there’s a whole bunch of books on it now a lot of

whole bunch of books on it now a lot of

whole bunch of books on it now a lot of books on it now but the thing is if I

books on it now but the thing is if I

books on it now but the thing is if I came up here and just say hey guys if

came up here and just say hey guys if

came up here and just say hey guys if you want to be happy just read these

you want to be happy just read these

you want to be happy just read these like 15 books none of you guys are gonna

like 15 books none of you guys are gonna

like 15 books none of you guys are gonna do it right exactly so that’s what my

do it right exactly so that’s what my

do it right exactly so that’s what my job is for you guys here today it’s how

job is for you guys here today it’s how

job is for you guys here today it’s how to achieve maximum happiness without

to achieve maximum happiness without

to achieve maximum happiness without these books now for me and probably for

these books now for me and probably for

these books now for me and probably for you guys as a student achieving maximum

you guys as a student achieving maximum

you guys as a student achieving maximum happiness means getting some good grades

happiness means getting some good grades

happiness means getting some good grades right good grades leads to you know a

right good grades leads to you know a

right good grades leads to you know a good University all right guys I’m gonna

good University all right guys I’m gonna

good University all right guys I’m gonna wait so you guys settle down real quick

and a good university it’s going to lead

and a good university it’s going to lead to me being the most powerful person in

to me being the most powerful person in

to me being the most powerful person in the world I’m gonna be rich I gonna meet

the world I’m gonna be rich I gonna meet

the world I’m gonna be rich I gonna meet wealthy I’m gonna own six islands this

wealthy I’m gonna own six islands this

wealthy I’m gonna own six islands this is exactly how I want to live my life

is exactly how I want to live my life

is exactly how I want to live my life but the question is is this actually

but the question is is this actually

but the question is is this actually going to make me happy yes it is it’s

going to make me happy yes it is it’s

going to make me happy yes it is it’s gonna make me happy I want only six

gonna make me happy I want only six

gonna make me happy I want only six islands it’s but actually I took a class

islands it’s but actually I took a class

islands it’s but actually I took a class by a teacher named mr. Park the gun in

by a teacher named mr. Park the gun in

by a teacher named mr. Park the gun in my sophomore year if you guys had in the

my sophomore year if you guys had in the

my sophomore year if you guys had in the next year it’s really easy to remember

next year it’s really easy to remember

next year it’s really easy to remember his name he octagon talked about the

his name he octagon talked about the

his name he octagon talked about the best teacher will ever have but he kind

best teacher will ever have but he kind

best teacher will ever have but he kind of made me question whether or not this

of made me question whether or not this

of made me question whether or not this is actually worth anything so I decided

is actually worth anything so I decided

is actually worth anything so I decided to kind of go on a quest a little bit to

to kind of go on a quest a little bit to

to kind of go on a quest a little bit to find out what real happiness is because

find out what real happiness is because

find out what real happiness is because owning six islands is awesome and all

owning six islands is awesome and all

owning six islands is awesome and all but I want to see just how far six

but I want to see just how far six

but I want to see just how far six islands will take me so this is me right

islands will take me so this is me right

islands will take me so this is me right there that’s me

there that’s me

there that’s me this is me and Chyna and then I decided

this is me and Chyna and then I decided

this is me and Chyna and then I decided to move to America now for me it was a

to move to America now for me it was a

to move to America now for me it was a really really easy move but for my mom

really really easy move but for my mom

really really easy move but for my mom it actually wasn’t for my mom that meant

it actually wasn’t for my mom that meant

it actually wasn’t for my mom that meant that she had to leave all of her

that she had to leave all of her

that she had to leave all of her security

security

security she left her friends she left any sort

she left her friends she left any sort

she left her friends she left any sort of just like belonging back in China and

of just like belonging back in China and

of just like belonging back in China and it’s because of this that my mom

it’s because of this that my mom

it’s because of this that my mom actually fell into almost 12 years now

actually fell into almost 12 years now

actually fell into almost 12 years now of extreme depression this is to the

of extreme depression this is to the

of extreme depression this is to the point where she had incredible medical

point where she had incredible medical

point where she had incredible medical illnesses that just came out of nowhere

illnesses that just came out of nowhere

illnesses that just came out of nowhere that we were just so bewildered by and

that we were just so bewildered by and

that we were just so bewildered by and so when I was young I really wanted to

so when I was young I really wanted to

so when I was young I really wanted to treat my mom but I was not a doctor by

treat my mom but I was not a doctor by

treat my mom but I was not a doctor by any means and so I decided to ask my

any means and so I decided to ask my

any means and so I decided to ask my best friend like the one closest to my

best friend like the one closest to my

best friend like the one closest to my heart ask Google

alright alright so I asked Google how do

alright alright so I asked Google how do you be happy and Google responded to me

you be happy and Google responded to me

you be happy and Google responded to me she said this is how to be happy always

she said this is how to be happy always

she said this is how to be happy always with pictures happiness isn’t planning

with pictures happiness isn’t planning

with pictures happiness isn’t planning on who you are what you have it depends

on who you are what you have it depends

on who you are what you have it depends on what you think reduce complications

on what you think reduce complications

on what you think reduce complications life is simple

life is simple

life is simple and lastly understand balance okay that

and lastly understand balance okay that

and lastly understand balance okay that did not make me happy at all

did not make me happy at all

did not make me happy at all so I really wanted to find out what

so I really wanted to find out what

so I really wanted to find out what scientifically it makes us happy because

scientifically it makes us happy because

scientifically it makes us happy because simply googling this kind of question

simply googling this kind of question

simply googling this kind of question doesn’t really bring us an accurate

doesn’t really bring us an accurate

doesn’t really bring us an accurate answer and it does certainly doesn’t

answer and it does certainly doesn’t

answer and it does certainly doesn’t make me feel happy I would rather to own

make me feel happy I would rather to own

make me feel happy I would rather to own 6 eyelids so I decided to go on a quest

6 eyelids so I decided to go on a quest

6 eyelids so I decided to go on a quest for happiness and my sophomore and

for happiness and my sophomore and

for happiness and my sophomore and junior year I just went on a year of

junior year I just went on a year of

junior year I just went on a year of research and I discovered two categories

research and I discovered two categories

research and I discovered two categories of happiness now the first category is

of happiness now the first category is

of happiness now the first category is elation elation comes it’s short-term

elation elation comes it’s short-term

elation elation comes it’s short-term and it’s very sudden such as winning a

and it’s very sudden such as winning a

and it’s very sudden such as winning a jackpot or doing drugs now the second is

jackpot or doing drugs now the second is

jackpot or doing drugs now the second is fulfillment and this is where true

fulfillment and this is where true

fulfillment and this is where true and this is where true happiness as

and this is where true happiness as

and this is where true happiness as opposed to come from these are the

opposed to come from these are the

opposed to come from these are the people that you’re truly considered to

people that you’re truly considered to

people that you’re truly considered to be happy who can somehow get through the

be happy who can somehow get through the

be happy who can somehow get through the most toughest of things now of course

most toughest of things now of course

most toughest of things now of course the school tells me that I’m not allowed

the school tells me that I’m not allowed

the school tells me that I’m not allowed to tell you to do drugs so I’m gonna

to tell you to do drugs so I’m gonna

to tell you to do drugs so I’m gonna tell you exactly why I doing drugs

tell you exactly why I doing drugs

tell you exactly why I doing drugs annulation is bad because it’s something

annulation is bad because it’s something

annulation is bad because it’s something that’s very very short-term it doesn’t

that’s very very short-term it doesn’t

that’s very very short-term it doesn’t fill the hole within you doing drugs and

fill the hole within you doing drugs and

fill the hole within you doing drugs and just becoming happy for that short term

just becoming happy for that short term

just becoming happy for that short term period is not going to lead you to true

period is not going to lead you to true

period is not going to lead you to true happiness but fulfillment and Bob Ross

happiness but fulfillment and Bob Ross

happiness but fulfillment and Bob Ross my friend right here this is what real

my friend right here this is what real

my friend right here this is what real happiness really means so to get here

happiness really means so to get here

happiness really means so to get here there are three main ways the first is

there are three main ways the first is

there are three main ways the first is going to be a healthy body the second is

going to be a healthy body the second is

going to be a healthy body the second is going to be a healthy status and lastly

going to be a healthy status and lastly

going to be a healthy status and lastly it’s going to be a healthy mind so let’s

it’s going to be a healthy mind so let’s

it’s going to be a healthy mind so let’s start the healthy body now a healthy

start the healthy body now a healthy

start the healthy body now a healthy body means that you take care of your

body means that you take care of your

body means that you take care of your own body and preserve your own temple

own body and preserve your own temple

own body and preserve your own temple that you made for yourself

because you are not going to be happy if

because you are not going to be happy if you’re dying of some kind of chronic

you’re dying of some kind of chronic

you’re dying of some kind of chronic pain illness I promise you about that so

pain illness I promise you about that so

pain illness I promise you about that so to take to take research from this I use

to take to take research from this I use

to take to take research from this I use the blue zone now the blue zone is a

the blue zone now the blue zone is a

the blue zone now the blue zone is a term coined by Dan Buettner and

term coined by Dan Buettner and

term coined by Dan Buettner and partnership with National Geographic and

partnership with National Geographic and

partnership with National Geographic and it was kind of groundbreaking research

it was kind of groundbreaking research

it was kind of groundbreaking research the time of 2007 and basically their

the time of 2007 and basically their

the time of 2007 and basically their geographic locations in the world where

geographic locations in the world where

geographic locations in the world where people grow to be extremely extremely

people grow to be extremely extremely

people grow to be extremely extremely healthy now just how healthy let me show

healthy now just how healthy let me show

healthy now just how healthy let me show you the average lifespan for a US

you the average lifespan for a US

you the average lifespan for a US citizen for all of you guys it’s pretty

citizen for all of you guys it’s pretty

citizen for all of you guys it’s pretty much seventy eight point four years

much seventy eight point four years

much seventy eight point four years after that I got to going to the grave

after that I got to going to the grave

after that I got to going to the grave you know Cemetery something like that

you know Cemetery something like that

you know Cemetery something like that people in the Blue Zone live up to over

people in the Blue Zone live up to over

people in the Blue Zone live up to over a hundred years you are adding 20 years

a hundred years you are adding 20 years

a hundred years you are adding 20 years to your lifespan and none of you guys

to your lifespan and none of you guys

to your lifespan and none of you guys are even 20 yet think about that I know

are even 20 yet think about that I know

are even 20 yet think about that I know right it’s crazy

right it’s crazy

right it’s crazy so how do you achieve a hundred plus

so how do you achieve a hundred plus

so how do you achieve a hundred plus years of beautiful age the question or

years of beautiful age the question or

years of beautiful age the question or the answer is brains more vegetables of

the answer is brains more vegetables of

the answer is brains more vegetables of meat in the diet and a lot of olive oil

meat in the diet and a lot of olive oil

meat in the diet and a lot of olive oil apparently instead of using vegetable

apparently instead of using vegetable

apparently instead of using vegetable oil or saturated fats and now for

oil or saturated fats and now for

oil or saturated fats and now for Italians and Italians only a glass of

Italians and Italians only a glass of

Italians and Italians only a glass of wine every single day benefit before you

wine every single day benefit before you

wine every single day benefit before you do that science is still trying to prove

do that science is still trying to prove

do that science is still trying to prove it don’t try it at home yet I wasn’t

it don’t try it at home yet I wasn’t

it don’t try it at home yet I wasn’t paid by the addition to tell you guys go

paid by the addition to tell you guys go

paid by the addition to tell you guys go drinking that’s not my job and in

drinking that’s not my job and in

drinking that’s not my job and in addition to that is a little bit of

addition to that is a little bit of

addition to that is a little bit of light exercise now the people we’re live

light exercise now the people we’re live

light exercise now the people we’re live in the Blue Zone they’re live in places

in the Blue Zone they’re live in places

in the Blue Zone they’re live in places where grocery stores and the place that

where grocery stores and the place that

where grocery stores and the place that need to go is within walking distance so

need to go is within walking distance so

need to go is within walking distance so they get their exercise by doing their

they get their exercise by doing their

they get their exercise by doing their daily tasks but for us it’s different

daily tasks but for us it’s different

daily tasks but for us it’s different cuz we have to drive we drive to go to

cuz we have to drive we drive to go to

cuz we have to drive we drive to go to school and we rarely bike like other

school and we rarely bike like other

school and we rarely bike like other countries and that’s part of the reason

countries and that’s part of the reason

countries and that’s part of the reason why America is kind of known for being

why America is kind of known for being

why America is kind of known for being obese you know we’re not looking for a

obese you know we’re not looking for a

obese you know we’re not looking for a flat stomach but we are looking for a

flat stomach but we are looking for a

flat stomach but we are looking for a little bit of light exercise in our

little bit of light exercise in our

little bit of light exercise in our daily lives

daily lives

daily lives and now to go on is a healthy status now

and now to go on is a healthy status now

and now to go on is a healthy status now as for me as an Asian child this is

as for me as an Asian child this is

as for me as an Asian child this is probably the horror of every parent but

probably the horror of every parent but

probably the horror of every parent but I wanted to be an artist and my parents

I wanted to be an artist and my parents

I wanted to be an artist and my parents my parents

I’m a dentist

I’m a dentist no no no no

so this brings up a question this means

so this brings up a question this means of a question my parents are right if I

of a question my parents are right if I

of a question my parents are right if I become an artist there’s a probably 99%

become an artist there’s a probably 99%

become an artist there’s a probably 99% chance I will become a hobo and homeless

chance I will become a hobo and homeless

chance I will become a hobo and homeless but at the same time if I become an

but at the same time if I become an

but at the same time if I become an artist

artist

artist I’m really trying to travel to where I

I’m really trying to travel to where I

I’m really trying to travel to where I want to be to who I want to be so the

want to be to who I want to be so the

want to be to who I want to be so the question is how much does money matter

question is how much does money matter

question is how much does money matter and it turns out that researchers have

and it turns out that researchers have

and it turns out that researchers have an answer the magic number is $75,000 as

an answer the magic number is $75,000 as

an answer the magic number is $75,000 as stated by Harvard in 2010 sorry

stated by Harvard in 2010 sorry

stated by Harvard in 2010 sorry Princeton

Princeton

Princeton I apologize Princeton in 2010 $75,000

I apologize Princeton in 2010 $75,000

I apologize Princeton in 2010 $75,000 this means that if your annual income

this means that if your annual income

this means that if your annual income exceeds $75,000 you should be at your

exceeds $75,000 you should be at your

exceeds $75,000 you should be at your maximum happiness threshold however this

maximum happiness threshold however this

maximum happiness threshold however this number changes a little bit with the

number changes a little bit with the

number changes a little bit with the Council for Community and Economic which

Council for Community and Economic which

Council for Community and Economic which is 2016 for California the number for

is 2016 for California the number for

is 2016 for California the number for California is $90,000 this means that if

California is $90,000 this means that if

California is $90,000 this means that if your household annual income exceeds

your household annual income exceeds

your household annual income exceeds $90,000 you should be at that maximum of

$90,000 you should be at that maximum of

$90,000 you should be at that maximum of happiness threshold this means that if

happiness threshold this means that if

happiness threshold this means that if you earn over this amount Bill Gates

you earn over this amount Bill Gates

you earn over this amount Bill Gates should not be any happier than you and

should not be any happier than you and

should not be any happier than you and you should not be any happier than Bill

you should not be any happier than Bill

you should not be any happier than Bill Gates and any accumulation of money

Gates and any accumulation of money

Gates and any accumulation of money beyond this point really doesn’t bring

beyond this point really doesn’t bring

beyond this point really doesn’t bring you extra happiness so the answer is yes

you extra happiness so the answer is yes

you extra happiness so the answer is yes money matters but only to a degree in a

money matters but only to a degree in a

money matters but only to a degree in a certain point you don’t want to be a

certain point you don’t want to be a

certain point you don’t want to be a hobo being a hobo isn’t gonna bring you

hobo being a hobo isn’t gonna bring you

hobo being a hobo isn’t gonna bring you happiness unfortunately I know something

happiness unfortunately I know something

happiness unfortunately I know something guys want to be like that but but money

guys want to be like that but but money

guys want to be like that but but money it really does matter so it’s important

it really does matter so it’s important

it really does matter so it’s important to find a type of path that will be able

to find a type of path that will be able

to find a type of path that will be able to bring you the balance of both sides

to bring you the balance of both sides

to bring you the balance of both sides now lastly is going to be a healthy mind

now lastly is going to be a healthy mind

now lastly is going to be a healthy mind in the Maslow’s hierarchy you have

in the Maslow’s hierarchy you have

in the Maslow’s hierarchy you have physiological needs at the very bottom

physiological needs at the very bottom

physiological needs at the very bottom but as we go back to the blue zone it

but as we go back to the blue zone it

but as we go back to the blue zone it turns out that at the bottom belonging

turns out that at the bottom belonging

turns out that at the bottom belonging with family comes first as what they

with family comes first as what they

with family comes first as what they consider to be the most important and

consider to be the most important and

consider to be the most important and Harvard actually did the longest ever

Harvard actually did the longest ever

Harvard actually did the longest ever human study spanning over 75 years with

human study spanning over 75 years with

human study spanning over 75 years with over four directors 700 for people with

over four directors 700 for people with

over four directors 700 for people with now only 6000 left and now recently it’s

now only 6000 left and now recently it’s

now only 6000 left and now recently it’s 2,000 children and

2,000 children and

2,000 children and this research actually discovered they

this research actually discovered they

this research actually discovered they were trying to measure just like the

were trying to measure just like the

were trying to measure just like the patterns and a human life but what they

patterns and a human life but what they

patterns and a human life but what they actually discovered that people who had

actually discovered that people who had

actually discovered that people who had the maximum amount were not Maxim high

the maximum amount were not Maxim high

the maximum amount were not Maxim high highest amount of happiness there were

highest amount of happiness there were

highest amount of happiness there were the happiest in a relationship there are

the happiest in a relationship there are

the happiest in a relationship there are happiest with mom their friends peers

happiest with mom their friends peers

happiest with mom their friends peers and family so it turns out that a good

and family so it turns out that a good

and family so it turns out that a good relationship actually protects you both

relationship actually protects you both

relationship actually protects you both mentally and physically and it doesn’t

mentally and physically and it doesn’t

mentally and physically and it doesn’t have to be a marital relationship either

have to be a marital relationship either

have to be a marital relationship either it can be with someone with a best

it can be with someone with a best

it can be with someone with a best friend with your parents or the really

friend with your parents or the really

friend with your parents or the really really beloved teacher or some kind of

really beloved teacher or some kind of

really beloved teacher or some kind of mentor but the thing is is that you have

mentor but the thing is is that you have

mentor but the thing is is that you have to have someone that’s there for you and

to have someone that’s there for you and

to have someone that’s there for you and cares for you that gives you the amount

cares for you that gives you the amount

cares for you that gives you the amount of I know it’s gonna sound cheesy but it

of I know it’s gonna sound cheesy but it

of I know it’s gonna sound cheesy but it has to be love

has to be love

has to be love it seems that love really is a true

it seems that love really is a true

it seems that love really is a true answer to happiness and Disney was right

answer to happiness and Disney was right

answer to happiness and Disney was right all along it turns out that people who

all along it turns out that people who

all along it turns out that people who are 80 years old those who say that have

are 80 years old those who say that have

are 80 years old those who say that have a very very high satisfaction in their

a very very high satisfaction in their

a very very high satisfaction in their relationship their mental ability

relationship their mental ability

relationship their mental ability doesn’t decrease since from the time

doesn’t decrease since from the time

doesn’t decrease since from the time that they are almost 40 which is

that they are almost 40 which is

that they are almost 40 which is absolutely amazing they have decreased

absolutely amazing they have decreased

absolutely amazing they have decreased risk of Alzheimer’s mental retardation

risk of Alzheimer’s mental retardation

risk of Alzheimer’s mental retardation and all kinds of things it turns out to

and all kinds of things it turns out to

and all kinds of things it turns out to really protect you mentally and

really protect you mentally and

really protect you mentally and physically however this isn’t the fact

physically however this isn’t the fact

physically however this isn’t the fact for all of America the Harris Poll in

for all of America the Harris Poll in

for all of America the Harris Poll in Time magazine collaborated to make a

Time magazine collaborated to make a

Time magazine collaborated to make a happiness census every year for America

happiness census every year for America

happiness census every year for America and in 2016 the number was thirty one

and in 2016 the number was thirty one

and in 2016 the number was thirty one out of a hundred which is incredibly low

out of a hundred which is incredibly low

out of a hundred which is incredibly low and the University of Chicago in 2008

and the University of Chicago in 2008

and the University of Chicago in 2008 also says that one in five Americans

also says that one in five Americans

also says that one in five Americans feel that they are extremely lonely and

feel that they are extremely lonely and

feel that they are extremely lonely and the Brigham Young University in 2015

the Brigham Young University in 2015

the Brigham Young University in 2015 decided this is actually something

decided this is actually something

decided this is actually something that’s really really harmful to our

that’s really really harmful to our

that’s really really harmful to our health you have a higher risk of

health you have a higher risk of

health you have a higher risk of diabetes heart problems all kinds of

diabetes heart problems all kinds of

diabetes heart problems all kinds of things and I know that we’re young right

things and I know that we’re young right

things and I know that we’re young right now and these things don’t seem like a

now and these things don’t seem like a

now and these things don’t seem like a problem to us but that doesn’t mean

problem to us but that doesn’t mean

problem to us but that doesn’t mean they’re not gonna become a problem in

they’re not gonna become a problem in

they’re not gonna become a problem in the future

the future

the future however there is a bright side it turns

however there is a bright side it turns

however there is a bright side it turns out that the human body is incredible

out that the human body is incredible

out that the human body is incredible and it’s very very resilient it takes

and it’s very very resilient it takes

and it’s very very resilient it takes only three months for the average human

only three months for the average human

only three months for the average human after a major tragedy to get back to

after a major tragedy to get back to

after a major tragedy to get back to their baseline happiness which if you

their baseline happiness which if you

their baseline happiness which if you think about it it’s truly incredible

think about it it’s truly incredible

think about it it’s truly incredible humans are really hardwired to find a

humans are really hardwired to find a

humans are really hardwired to find a balance in life and we’re really

balance in life and we’re really

balance in life and we’re really hardwired to find our own place of

hardwired to find our own place of

hardwired to find our own place of happiness so in terms of how to achieve

happiness so in terms of how to achieve

happiness so in terms of how to achieve happiness we need one a healthy body –

happiness we need one a healthy body –

happiness we need one a healthy body – we need a healthy status and lastly we

we need a healthy status and lastly we

we need a healthy status and lastly we need a healthy mind as for me to apply

need a healthy mind as for me to apply

need a healthy mind as for me to apply this to my own life a healthy body needs

this to my own life a healthy body needs

this to my own life a healthy body needs exercising every single day no matter

exercising every single day no matter

exercising every single day no matter what I decided that in my senior year I

what I decided that in my senior year I

what I decided that in my senior year I was going to take something very very

was going to take something very very

was going to take something very very challenging to me that I thought I could

challenging to me that I thought I could

challenging to me that I thought I could never conquer in my life its weight

never conquer in my life its weight

never conquer in my life its weight training I

training I

training I I can barely bench thirty five pounds

I can barely bench thirty five pounds

I can barely bench thirty five pounds but I’m working on it which is why it

but I’m working on it which is why it

but I’m working on it which is why it matters now next is going thank you

matters now next is going thank you

matters now next is going thank you thank you thank you

so again will be a healthy status so

so again will be a healthy status so that means that I have to work hard no

that means that I have to work hard no

that means that I have to work hard no matter what even if I really perhaps

matter what even if I really perhaps

matter what even if I really perhaps don’t really want to be in school I

don’t really want to be in school I

don’t really want to be in school I still have to work hard try to get a

still have to work hard try to get a

still have to work hard try to get a good education make it to let’s say a

good education make it to let’s say a

good education make it to let’s say a sustainable college and try and find a

sustainable college and try and find a

sustainable college and try and find a good life for myself and try not to

good life for myself and try not to

good life for myself and try not to think about really becoming a hobo you

think about really becoming a hobo you

think about really becoming a hobo you know but lastly is a healthy mind which

know but lastly is a healthy mind which

know but lastly is a healthy mind which is a relationship that means me building

is a relationship that means me building

is a relationship that means me building my relation with my mom and I saw

my relation with my mom and I saw

my relation with my mom and I saw incredible results every single night

incredible results every single night

incredible results every single night before I would go to bed – right now

before I would go to bed – right now

before I would go to bed – right now make us a huge habit of mine but just

make us a huge habit of mine but just

make us a huge habit of mine but just say something very simple to my mom I

say something very simple to my mom I

say something very simple to my mom I love you mom you did a really good job

love you mom you did a really good job

love you mom you did a really good job today mommy worked really hard

today mommy worked really hard

today mommy worked really hard mom just know that you’re the best mom

mom just know that you’re the best mom

mom just know that you’re the best mom in the world and I saw huge improvements

in the world and I saw huge improvements

in the world and I saw huge improvements over the past year my mom just told me

over the past year my mom just told me

over the past year my mom just told me just almost a few days ago I didn’t even

just almost a few days ago I didn’t even

just almost a few days ago I didn’t even practice this for the speech but she

practice this for the speech but she

practice this for the speech but she told me a few days ago that she has

told me a few days ago that she has

told me a few days ago that she has never been happier

never been happier

never been happier in her entire life and that meant

in her entire life and that meant

in her entire life and that meant absolutely the world to me and just

absolutely the world to me and just

absolutely the world to me and just around a month ago she actually said to

around a month ago she actually said to

around a month ago she actually said to me that I read I know I said I want you

me that I read I know I said I want you

me that I read I know I said I want you to be a dentist or a lawyer but there

to be a dentist or a lawyer but there

to be a dentist or a lawyer but there was a finally time that if you really

was a finally time that if you really

was a finally time that if you really want to become an artist I think should

want to become an artist I think should

want to become an artist I think should go for it and for me this was absolutely

go for it and for me this was absolutely

go for it and for me this was absolutely groundbreaking to hear my most Asian

groundbreaking to hear my most Asian

groundbreaking to hear my most Asian tiger mom say that to me

tiger mom say that to me

tiger mom say that to me but I know that it couldn’t have

but I know that it couldn’t have

but I know that it couldn’t have happened if I didn’t try to reach for

happened if I didn’t try to reach for

happened if I didn’t try to reach for true happiness and to try to reach for

true happiness and to try to reach for

true happiness and to try to reach for equality in our relationships so please

equality in our relationships so please

equality in our relationships so please I want you to take this message from me

I want you to take this message from me

I want you to take this message from me and try to find in yourselves maximum

and try to find in yourselves maximum

and try to find in yourselves maximum happiness thank you guys

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