hello my name is Nikki Hein and I ask you why are people afraid to talk about
you why are people afraid to talk about
you why are people afraid to talk about death I get it it’s sad it’s scary it’s
death I get it it’s sad it’s scary it’s
death I get it it’s sad it’s scary it’s final but it is 100% going to happen and
final but it is 100% going to happen and
final but it is 100% going to happen and ignoring us doesn’t make it go away what
ignoring us doesn’t make it go away what
ignoring us doesn’t make it go away what if you looked at it differently when I
if you looked at it differently when I
if you looked at it differently when I think about my death I immediately think
think about my death I immediately think
think about my death I immediately think about my life it’s the default you think
about my life it’s the default you think
about my life it’s the default you think about the big picture if you think about
about the big picture if you think about
about the big picture if you think about your life you immediately think about
your life you immediately think about
your life you immediately think about your death what does it mean who do I
your death what does it mean who do I
your death what does it mean who do I love who do I want to spend my life with
love who do I want to spend my life with
love who do I want to spend my life with what do I want to do how do I give back
what do I want to do how do I give back
what do I want to do how do I give back what’s my legacy
what’s my legacy
what’s my legacy brawny where is an Australian nurse she
brawny where is an Australian nurse she
brawny where is an Australian nurse she worked in palliative care with patients
worked in palliative care with patients
worked in palliative care with patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives and
in the last 12 weeks of their lives and
in the last 12 weeks of their lives and she wrote a book that identified the
she wrote a book that identified the
she wrote a book that identified the five top regrets of the dying they wish
five top regrets of the dying they wish
five top regrets of the dying they wish they’d had the courage to express their
they’d had the courage to express their
they’d had the courage to express their true selves not what people expected of
true selves not what people expected of
true selves not what people expected of them they wish they hadn’t worked so
them they wish they hadn’t worked so
them they wish they hadn’t worked so hard they wish they’d been able to
hard they wish they’d been able to
hard they wish they’d been able to express how they really felt they wished
express how they really felt they wished
express how they really felt they wished they’d stayed in touch with their
they’d stayed in touch with their
they’d stayed in touch with their friends and they wish they’d let
friends and they wish they’d let
friends and they wish they’d let themselves be happier my grandfather
themselves be happier my grandfather
themselves be happier my grandfather died in 2016 he was a hundred and five
died in 2016 he was a hundred and five
died in 2016 he was a hundred and five and a half years of age he was the
and a half years of age he was the
and a half years of age he was the oldest man in Ireland he was born into
oldest man in Ireland he was born into
oldest man in Ireland he was born into the British Empire he saw Ireland fight
the British Empire he saw Ireland fight
the British Empire he saw Ireland fight for their independence he lived through
for their independence he lived through
for their independence he lived through two world wars he saw the invention of
two world wars he saw the invention of
two world wars he saw the invention of the motorcar telephones electricity the
the motorcar telephones electricity the
the motorcar telephones electricity the moon-landing rock and roll he saw
moon-landing rock and roll he saw
moon-landing rock and roll he saw incredibly hard times an incredible
incredibly hard times an incredible
incredibly hard times an incredible change but he was so interested
change but he was so interested
change but he was so interested and excited about life and the future
and excited about life and the future
and excited about life and the future and technology he owned the first
and technology he owned the first
and technology he owned the first computer in the family and he Skyped my
computer in the family and he Skyped my
computer in the family and he Skyped my aunt and uncle in America every day he’d
aunt and uncle in America every day he’d
aunt and uncle in America every day he’d been blind for the last 20 years of his
been blind for the last 20 years of his
been blind for the last 20 years of his life when I was growing up my whole life
life when I was growing up my whole life
life when I was growing up my whole life was the end of his life he’d raised his
was the end of his life he’d raised his
was the end of his life he’d raised his family he’d finished his career he was
family he’d finished his career he was
family he’d finished his career he was so interested and I used to tell him
so interested and I used to tell him
so interested and I used to tell him about how I ran an online store and how
about how I ran an online store and how
about how I ran an online store and how ecommerce worked and he just thought it
ecommerce worked and he just thought it
ecommerce worked and he just thought it was fascinating he had no time for
was fascinating he had no time for
was fascinating he had no time for moaning and complaining in the end of
moaning and complaining in the end of
moaning and complaining in the end of his life he he was at home with my
his life he he was at home with my
his life he he was at home with my grandmother the love of his life his
grandmother the love of his life his
grandmother the love of his life his childhood sweetheart and best friends
childhood sweetheart and best friends
childhood sweetheart and best friends when he was a little kid and he just
when he was a little kid and he just
when he was a little kid and he just enjoyed life and he enjoyed us and his
enjoyed life and he enjoyed us and his
enjoyed life and he enjoyed us and his family and his friends
family and his friends
family and his friends they lived day-to-day my dad is a serial
they lived day-to-day my dad is a serial
they lived day-to-day my dad is a serial entrepreneur he has such incredible self
entrepreneur he has such incredible self
entrepreneur he has such incredible self belief he goes out and he does what he
belief he goes out and he does what he
belief he goes out and he does what he wants and my mom is 100% supportive of
wants and my mom is 100% supportive of
wants and my mom is 100% supportive of him even when we were little and we
him even when we were little and we
him even when we were little and we hadn’t been in the 80s and he just went
hadn’t been in the 80s and he just went
hadn’t been in the 80s and he just went out there and he just went for it and my
out there and he just went for it and my
out there and he just went for it and my mom she’s the most positive optimistic
mom she’s the most positive optimistic
mom she’s the most positive optimistic person you have ever met in your life
person you have ever met in your life
person you have ever met in your life and she told me I could do anything I
and she told me I could do anything I
and she told me I could do anything I wanted to do and she told me the most
wanted to do and she told me the most
wanted to do and she told me the most important thing in life is to be happy
it makes sense if you’re happy and you
it makes sense if you’re happy and you focus on being happy no matter what you
focus on being happy no matter what you
focus on being happy no matter what you do everything else falls into place
do everything else falls into place
do everything else falls into place whether you want a career you want a
whether you want a career you want a
whether you want a career you want a family relationships the big house to
family relationships the big house to
family relationships the big house to climb Mount Everest to run marathons to
climb Mount Everest to run marathons to
climb Mount Everest to run marathons to save people whatever you want to do in
save people whatever you want to do in
save people whatever you want to do in life if you focus on being happy you’ll
life if you focus on being happy you’ll
life if you focus on being happy you’ll be happy and you’ll do all those things
be happy and you’ll do all those things
be happy and you’ll do all those things instead of having a big long list of if
instead of having a big long list of if
instead of having a big long list of if I do all these things I’ll be happy if
I do all these things I’ll be happy if
I do all these things I’ll be happy if you focus on being happy everything else
you focus on being happy everything else
you focus on being happy everything else will just fall into place
will just fall into place
will just fall into place I use social media law for my work I’m
I use social media law for my work I’m
I use social media law for my work I’m the face of my brand and people ask me
the face of my brand and people ask me
the face of my brand and people ask me all the time Nicki how are you so
all the time Nicki how are you so
all the time Nicki how are you so positive you have so much energy you’re
positive you have so much energy you’re
positive you have so much energy you’re so excited every day about what you do
so excited every day about what you do
so excited every day about what you do I’m happy I focus on my happiness I do
I’m happy I focus on my happiness I do
I’m happy I focus on my happiness I do things that make me happy
things that make me happy
things that make me happy I love Monta it’s my favorite day I get
I love Monta it’s my favorite day I get
I love Monta it’s my favorite day I get so excited on Monday mornings I’m like
so excited on Monday mornings I’m like
so excited on Monday mornings I’m like come on let’s do this and people think
come on let’s do this and people think
come on let’s do this and people think that’s mad and I don’t get it I’m like I
that’s mad and I don’t get it I’m like I
that’s mad and I don’t get it I’m like I have a fresh start a new week I can
have a fresh start a new week I can
have a fresh start a new week I can accomplish anything this week who knows
accomplish anything this week who knows
accomplish anything this week who knows what’s gonna happen this week something
what’s gonna happen this week something
what’s gonna happen this week something amazing can happen this week I don’t
amazing can happen this week I don’t
amazing can happen this week I don’t mind the rain I don’t get why people get
mind the rain I don’t get why people get
mind the rain I don’t get why people get so upset about the rain like stay out of
so upset about the rain like stay out of
so upset about the rain like stay out of it use an umbrella it’s not a big deal
it use an umbrella it’s not a big deal
it use an umbrella it’s not a big deal it’s about how I look at the world it’s
it’s about how I look at the world it’s
it’s about how I look at the world it’s about perspective you can be positive
about perspective you can be positive
about perspective you can be positive and happy or you can moan and complain
and happy or you can moan and complain
and happy or you can moan and complain you can look at a situation and two
you can look at a situation and two
you can look at a situation and two people can live the exact same lives but
people can live the exact same lives but
people can live the exact same lives but look at it completely differently and
look at it completely differently and
look at it completely differently and one can be very unhappy and one can be
one can be very unhappy and one can be
one can be very unhappy and one can be extremely happy and they’ve got the same
extremely happy and they’ve got the same
extremely happy and they’ve got the same a very similar life Linda David is a
a very similar life Linda David is a
a very similar life Linda David is a training director of source America a
training director of source America a
training director of source America a non-profit and she says your perception
non-profit and she says your perception
non-profit and she says your perception is your reality it’s either an asset or
is your reality it’s either an asset or
is your reality it’s either an asset or it’s self limiting it’s your choice it’s
it’s self limiting it’s your choice it’s
it’s self limiting it’s your choice it’s simple but it’s actually not very easy
simple but it’s actually not very easy
simple but it’s actually not very easy to change your perception but a shift in
to change your perception but a shift in
to change your perception but a shift in your perception if you can’t change your
your perception if you can’t change your
your perception if you can’t change your situation is the difference between
situation is the difference between
situation is the difference between someone living a happy life or an
someone living a happy life or an
someone living a happy life or an unhappy life but if your perception is
unhappy life but if your perception is
unhappy life but if your perception is that you’re stuck you’ll be stuck
that you’re stuck you’ll be stuck
that you’re stuck you’ll be stuck forever I lived in London for four years
forever I lived in London for four years
forever I lived in London for four years I worked in premium fragrance worked
I worked in premium fragrance worked
I worked in premium fragrance worked with some of the biggest fashion brands
with some of the biggest fashion brands
with some of the biggest fashion brands in the world and it was amazing it was
in the world and it was amazing it was
in the world and it was amazing it was so cool I went to the parties there were
so cool I went to the parties there were
so cool I went to the parties there were celebrities the champagne the freebies
celebrities the champagne the freebies
celebrities the champagne the freebies it was amazing and it was so cool and
it was amazing and it was so cool and
it was amazing and it was so cool and everyone thought wow Niki you have the
everyone thought wow Niki you have the
everyone thought wow Niki you have the dream life the dream job you’re so lucky
dream life the dream job you’re so lucky
dream life the dream job you’re so lucky I knew I was lucky but after four years
I knew I was lucky but after four years
I knew I was lucky but after four years I kind of I was in a role where I didn’t
I kind of I was in a role where I didn’t
I kind of I was in a role where I didn’t want to be and it was grace but I didn’t
want to be and it was grace but I didn’t
want to be and it was grace but I didn’t see long at longevity in us and I
see long at longevity in us and I
see long at longevity in us and I decided that I wanted to change and
decided that I wanted to change and
decided that I wanted to change and everyone said you’re mad I said I’m
everyone said you’re mad I said I’m
everyone said you’re mad I said I’m gonna go home I’m gonna regroup I’m sure
gonna go home I’m gonna regroup I’m sure
gonna go home I’m gonna regroup I’m sure I’ll be there for a couple of months I
I’ll be there for a couple of months I
I’ll be there for a couple of months I go back to Kilkenny
go back to Kilkenny
go back to Kilkenny back to the cocoon of my family and I’ll
back to the cocoon of my family and I’ll
back to the cocoon of my family and I’ll make a new plan and I thought I would be
make a new plan and I thought I would be
make a new plan and I thought I would be off on a new adventure in Sydney or New
off on a new adventure in Sydney or New
off on a new adventure in Sydney or New York with another cool job and everyone
York with another cool job and everyone
York with another cool job and everyone said you’re mad London’s amazing how
said you’re mad London’s amazing how
said you’re mad London’s amazing how could you ever leave London but I went
could you ever leave London but I went
could you ever leave London but I went home and I recess and I really liked
home and I recess and I really liked
home and I recess and I really liked being at home and I really liked
being at home and I really liked
being at home and I really liked Kilkenny
Kilkenny
Kilkenny I mean liked living there and I took a
I mean liked living there and I took a
I mean liked living there and I took a job in the family business and on day
job in the family business and on day
job in the family business and on day one I hated it it just wasn’t for me
one I hated it it just wasn’t for me
one I hated it it just wasn’t for me I couldn’t get passionate I surveyed us
I couldn’t get passionate I surveyed us
I couldn’t get passionate I surveyed us and I thought to myself okay take a step
and I thought to myself okay take a step
and I thought to myself okay take a step back Nick you want to be happy what
back Nick you want to be happy what
back Nick you want to be happy what makes you happy and I loved living in Co
makes you happy and I loved living in Co
makes you happy and I loved living in Co Kenny I loved being that close to my
Kenny I loved being that close to my
Kenny I loved being that close to my family
family
family I was reconnecting with my old friends
I was reconnecting with my old friends
I was reconnecting with my old friends making new friends and I wanted to stay
making new friends and I wanted to stay
making new friends and I wanted to stay there and I loved fashion and
there and I loved fashion and
there and I loved fashion and accessories and I love to travel and I
accessories and I love to travel and I
accessories and I love to travel and I love to be challenged and really I
love to be challenged and really I
love to be challenged and really I wanted to start my own business all
wanted to start my own business all
wanted to start my own business all along and I said now is the time ten
along and I said now is the time ten
along and I said now is the time ten years previously in that situation it
years previously in that situation it
years previously in that situation it wouldn’t have been possible but in 2013
wouldn’t have been possible but in 2013
wouldn’t have been possible but in 2013 technology meant yeah I can start a
technology meant yeah I can start a
technology meant yeah I can start a business in cook any and I can have an
business in cook any and I can have an
business in cook any and I can have an amazing lifestyle so five years on here
amazing lifestyle so five years on here
amazing lifestyle so five years on here I am I own an incredibly successful
I am I own an incredibly successful
I am I own an incredibly successful accessories online store I travel the
accessories online store I travel the
accessories online store I travel the world I’m challenged I get to be
world I’m challenged I get to be
world I’m challenged I get to be creative I get to take risks which I
creative I get to take risks which I
creative I get to take risks which I love I get to make decisions
love I get to make decisions
love I get to make decisions I’m surrounded by my family I have the
I’m surrounded by my family I have the
I’m surrounded by my family I have the glitz and the glamour but I can dip in
glitz and the glamour but I can dip in
glitz and the glamour but I can dip in and out of it it’s amazing I feel so
and out of it it’s amazing I feel so
and out of it it’s amazing I feel so fortunate I’m so happy I give back and I
fortunate I’m so happy I give back and I
fortunate I’m so happy I give back and I lead this incredible life so I ask you
lead this incredible life so I ask you
lead this incredible life so I ask you stop look at your life think about what
stop look at your life think about what
stop look at your life think about what makes you happy
makes you happy
makes you happy what really makes you happy there’s no
what really makes you happy there’s no
what really makes you happy there’s no do-over there’s no second chance you
do-over there’s no second chance you
do-over there’s no second chance you only get one life maybe you need to just
only get one life maybe you need to just
only get one life maybe you need to just shift your perspective and look at your
shift your perspective and look at your
shift your perspective and look at your life differently but really look at your
life differently but really look at your
life differently but really look at your life look at what makes you happy and go
life look at what makes you happy and go
life look at what makes you happy and go and do that thank you
and do that thank you
and do that thank you [Applause]
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