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Как выйти из послеродовой депрессии? | Azhar Sultanova | TEDxAbayStWomen


flew to people who do these things their own

screaming child and threw it at

floor

my first reaction was shock then flow

thoughts and feelings hit me like

she could do that she was for mother

So ours is that sick but then when

passed some time I noticed that I

I constantly return to this

woman and together with old thoughts and

emotions

added one more and what if this woman

really sick

today I want to talk with you about

disease and the disease of social stigma

so great that no one talks about

many even think that it is not

there is this

postpartum depression according to data

World Health Organization

every seventh mother suffers

postpartum depression is a huge

number of women in Kazakhstan is 6

millions of women of childbearing age from

900,000 of them suffer from postpartum

depression 900000 and in fact, many none

child and two three four and even more

this means that more than a million children

are brought up by moms

with postpartum depression why is it so

scary and generally what is postpartum

depression

when a woman gives birth in her body

there is a complete hormonal

restructuring

there are still a lot of hormones

There are still very few others, and this one

imbalance is manifested following

symptoms

First, the woman becomes more

Irritable and maybe even more

aggressive or vice versa you can

note that it becomes passive and

can cry and without visible at that

causes

but the most important is what happens

inside of it what we can not see but

inside she feels helplessness despair

even when she is holding her

A newborn baby she does not experience

that joy and love

which she expected in your head

cover begin to turn

crushing thoughts I’m a bad mother I

bad mother

a woman does not understand what is happening to her

and it closes even more and

very, very rarely does she talk about

this is why she does not talk about

this in our society is taken care of

about children completely lies on the shoulders

women and if she can not cope with

his mother’s role is not pleased that her

it means there is not something that does not mean it

bad she is a bad woman she is bad

mother is a bad mistress is a bad wife

bad bad bad no woman

wants to feel this label on himself

even if she finally talks about it

shares her closest that she

hears in return and now our time even

there were not any pampers so you still have

lucky we all washed by hand

or is it our female share

tolerate the expensive we suffer what people say

on the one hand it may seem like yes

because it’s relatively true and yes

There were no pampers before and it seemed like

female share yes we give birth but she only

reinforces the isolation of women only

strengthens her state of despair

our society is also completely wrong

priorities when a woman walks

pregnant yes we pay so much

attention we tell her oh what we like

can help you before your loved ones take care

when a baby is born all this attention

love abruptly passes to him with one

it’s natural because

babies are so little sweet

such defenseless and want to surround

their love with warmth but as much love and

Heat needs his mom who just got

gave birth to scientists all over the world again and again

they say that everything that kids need

from 0 to 3 years

this is a healthy and happy mom they do not

need expensive strollers branded things

swimming lessons during the first week

life they do not need mom mom that’s in

time goes to the gynecologist and to other doctors

who monitor their health

he needs a mom who gets

an adequate allowance he needs a mom

which they love

which takes care when I become pregnant

it was the happiest time of my life

life, I’ve been waiting for so long to meet with my

toddler

so a professional in the field

Of course, I knew the psychological services

about postpartum depression I knew that

there are such consequences but this is the last

than i wanted to think i thought why should i

this negativity I know I am able to

I know how to work with my emotions .

how to cope with stress is exactly me

I teach my clients too much

self-assured when I finally gave birth

the reality of postpartum life collapsed

on me as an avalanche in my process

there were gaps and I could not not

just sit or lie down, but when

I stood

it was unbearably painful who heard

that breastfeeding is natural

the process I heard is not to eat their son

process is at least a process

which requires a very long

when I applied my breasts

my son I did not see him as a son

I saw a toothy piranha that

tore my chest after each

Feeding the crack on the nipples of the roof and

almost every week I had

lactostasis is when the breast is formed

clogged milk ducts are formed

very smelly lumps are you yes I’m all

I remember right here and now

because of this I certainly was very

difficult to enjoy their motherhood

enjoy your baby

but despite all this I was very lucky

I was lucky because my beloved husband

specially left for several months with

work to take care of us so that

spend as much time as possible with

me and our son I was lucky

that my mother came to us almost

every day it’s a million things

only that I focus on

restore that I focus on

caring for my son

my opal who at that time lived with

we were completely engaged in cooking

cooked that is never needed

think to eat or whatever we are already

feed thanks to them thanks to my

I turned out to be 80 percent

women who will experience a postnatal

spleen is the only difference between postpartum

spleen and postpartum depression

that the spleen ends she

ends within the first two

weeks or months, unfortunately 15

percent of women and continue

feel bad and they have

will develop

postpartum depression scientists have proven

I found

The main risks that affect

development of postpartum depression there

the stress of health problems is

mothers have problems with the baby

feeding

The risk is also a history of depression

or financial problems but the most important thing

what scientists

this is something that a woman does not have a supportive

environment

that is, the less support and sleep

a woman experiences the greater the chance

development of postpartum depression as

psychotherapist for work for many years and

Women addressed me on

postpartum depression unfortunately they

addressed me not

dad’s current first couple of months when

they felt bad after a lot

months and even years

one of my clients told me how

sensation

irritability and aggression was for

her norm is that this is all this negative

who constantly cooked in it she

get on your baby

shouted at him even a few times

slapped and then experienced

guilty conscience

another my client told me that in her

head constantly attended by some

horrible fantasies about how she extinguishes

Your child is scared, but all that

need this mom is not our condemnation of them

As the air needs the support of the family and

professional help what about

occurs when mother with postpartum

depression to raise their child very much

often she can not create this

affection is that tender feeling that

connects mother and child

what then happens to this baby

who is brought up by such a mother

American scientists conducted a study

in which they traced the development of children

than we suffered postpartum depression

and there are no results they stagger the kids than

and we suffered postpartum depression

behind

intellectual development, they lag behind in

emotional development is very difficult for them

understand their own boundaries

It is difficult to respect the boundaries of other people

chance of developing hyperactivity much

above it is very difficult to concentrate

on the same job

because of this problem in school problem

school academic nature of the problem

in a school of social character they have little

friends they are more aggressive and not less

friendly and when they grow up

adolescence and adulthood

life chance of developing mental

disorders such as depression and

panic attacks are much more

much higher

I want to highlight that postpartum

depression is a disease that is not some kind of

myth that women came up with is not

some kind of story to draw to

attention to postpartum depression is

disease is one of the most

common

complications of pregnancy most

common and like any disease in

there are treatments there is a way out of it because

when a person and diagnoses with diabetes

the man is told to be silent about it and bear it

no he gives medicine and he is pricked

Insulin if you need the same with

postpartum depression treatment is

drug therapy and psychotherapy already

after a few weeks mom can

feel the taste of life it can

Finally, then experience the joy of motherhood

To help mothers ask for help

overcome this social stigma and

to overcome postnatal depression at the root

I propose the following three solutions

first information dear moms

dear future moms and all who

ever known mothers appeal to

all of you information about the postpartum

depression and especially postpartum

period is very important the more you know

now the better you can

prepare for this period yes i

I understand that oh what for to think of it or this

negative

such thoughts appear or oh with me

this will not happen to drive them away and

The more you know the less chance

development of postpartum depression 2

The second very important decision is

supportive environment

create a supportive environment before

birth of a baby how to do it in

first

share this information with your

relatives and relatives tell them that yes

there is such complication

she may be at me too

such and such are the symptoms

I will need your support your

love in this difficult period

how else to deepen this

supportive environment you can create

Plan Action Plan such as paint

that every weekend my father walks with

each child every night he gives

baby bath for example that in-law

comes to your house in a day not

prepares you to eat before or

Mom comes every day until helps

shonu cases and other things that is when u

you have a plan

It’s much easier for you to focus on

restoring one’s body and caring for

his child and of course very

an important fact in advance

find your phone professionals and

psychotherapists gynecologist consultant

Breastfeeding should be hanging

at your refrigerator or be at your place

phone if you have questions

if you notice any symptoms you

you can always contact and get

professional qualified

help as early as possible with the third

I want to appeal to all of you.

if you are a father

I look at you men if you will

father take baby take a walk simp

play with him give the mother the opportunity

relax take a bath just to sleep

if the new mother for you is a native person

come to visit her

But do not expect that it will serve you

water tea will not feed the contrary

bring her food to cook her

service and wash the dishes

suggest removing if you see

tired mother on the plane and offer

to play with the baby literally

a few minutes it will enable her

just relax just catch your breath

if you see a mother with children in the back of you

queue them forward

in order to spend half a minute

Its time but you will give her something

care in which she so needs

at the very beginning I told you about

shocking video that saw that

can be seen by many of you I see

woman who is tired woman who

does not know what is happening to her woman

which has no support was

See the video before that it is after that

ejection of the negative on all the same grabbed

your baby

she pressed her breasts was I can

guess what shame and a sense

whose guilt she experienced I am very

I hope that after what you heard

Today

what do you hope I learn from others

sources about your postpartum depression

The first instinct will not be

condemn not punish

and show caring to help them only

can be healthy and happy and mom is

means healthy and happy children

let’s take care of them together

[applause]

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