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We need to embrace conflict | Maria Tran | TEDxYouth@Sydney


we all hate conflict right fighting it’s

we all hate conflict right fighting it’s bad right we are taught to avoid

bad right we are taught to avoid

bad right we are taught to avoid conflict

conflict

conflict don’t fight rise above it ignore the

don’t fight rise above it ignore the

don’t fight rise above it ignore the bullies don’t get bored and then they’ll

bullies don’t get bored and then they’ll

bullies don’t get bored and then they’ll leave you alone

leave you alone

leave you alone well maybe not conflict has been a part

well maybe not conflict has been a part

well maybe not conflict has been a part of my journey my life it’s in my genes

of my journey my life it’s in my genes

of my journey my life it’s in my genes and my family in here in Australia I was

and my family in here in Australia I was

and my family in here in Australia I was confronted challenged and bullied but as

confronted challenged and bullied but as

confronted challenged and bullied but as an adult I decided to try something new

an adult I decided to try something new

an adult I decided to try something new as a lonely scraggly kid with a bold cut

as a lonely scraggly kid with a bold cut

as a lonely scraggly kid with a bold cut with a few friends my parents enrolled

with a few friends my parents enrolled

with a few friends my parents enrolled me in to a local dojo in Cabramatta I

me in to a local dojo in Cabramatta I

me in to a local dojo in Cabramatta I had been bullied I even tried to stand

had been bullied I even tried to stand

had been bullied I even tried to stand up for other kids at school but I always

up for other kids at school but I always

up for other kids at school but I always ended up on my back

ended up on my back

ended up on my back beaten up conflict sucks doesn’t it my

beaten up conflict sucks doesn’t it my

beaten up conflict sucks doesn’t it my parents put me into the dojo to learn

parents put me into the dojo to learn

parents put me into the dojo to learn the art of self-defense to become unpick

the art of self-defense to become unpick

the art of self-defense to become unpick horrible a bully proof I was obsessed

horrible a bully proof I was obsessed

horrible a bully proof I was obsessed with watching kung fu movies as it was

with watching kung fu movies as it was

with watching kung fu movies as it was the only thing that gave me solace at

the only thing that gave me solace at

the only thing that gave me solace at that time I love the dojo but I wasn’t

that time I love the dojo but I wasn’t

that time I love the dojo but I wasn’t really in it for self-defense well not

really in it for self-defense well not

really in it for self-defense well not really as a martial artist one of the

really as a martial artist one of the

really as a martial artist one of the first few things that I learned that

first few things that I learned that

first few things that I learned that radically changed the way I lived today

radically changed the way I lived today

radically changed the way I lived today is to increase safety move towards the

is to increase safety move towards the

is to increase safety move towards the conflict engage in

conflict engage in

conflict engage in your opponent’s in kung fu movies Jackie

your opponent’s in kung fu movies Jackie

your opponent’s in kung fu movies Jackie Chan doesn’t avoid conflict and when you

Chan doesn’t avoid conflict and when you

Chan doesn’t avoid conflict and when you avoid fighting you’re coming from a

avoid fighting you’re coming from a

avoid fighting you’re coming from a place of fear and I wanted to learn how

place of fear and I wanted to learn how

place of fear and I wanted to learn how to be strong now my mother she was

to be strong now my mother she was

to be strong now my mother she was jailed for more than six times before

jailed for more than six times before

jailed for more than six times before finally fighting away onto a small boat

finally fighting away onto a small boat

finally fighting away onto a small boat to a refugee camp in Malaysia

to a refugee camp in Malaysia

to a refugee camp in Malaysia my father was put into re-education in a

my father was put into re-education in a

my father was put into re-education in a prison where he spent almost six years

prison where he spent almost six years

prison where he spent almost six years malnourished in in solitary confinement

by the time I was born they had both

by the time I was born they had both made it to Australia to start new lives

made it to Australia to start new lives

made it to Australia to start new lives they left the war behind them but they

they left the war behind them but they

they left the war behind them but they never confronted it we never spoke about

never confronted it we never spoke about

never confronted it we never spoke about it we all hated conflict their version

it we all hated conflict their version

it we all hated conflict their version of strength is quiet they even tried to

of strength is quiet they even tried to

of strength is quiet they even tried to avoid the conflict my parents were too

avoid the conflict my parents were too

avoid the conflict my parents were too busy burying themselves in coping in

busy burying themselves in coping in

busy burying themselves in coping in this new country learning a new language

this new country learning a new language

this new country learning a new language finding work starting this new life but

finding work starting this new life but

finding work starting this new life but their traumatic experiences my homelands

their traumatic experiences my homelands

their traumatic experiences my homelands conflict was dormant left unchallenged

conflict was dormant left unchallenged

conflict was dormant left unchallenged within my parents and it never went away

growing up I saw this fear fester in

growing up I saw this fear fester in them they had escaped but they weren’t

them they had escaped but they weren’t

them they had escaped but they weren’t able to move on from the war my father

able to move on from the war my father

able to move on from the war my father turned to gambling and then became an

turned to gambling and then became an

turned to gambling and then became an alcoholic my mother found work in

alcoholic my mother found work in

alcoholic my mother found work in Vietnam

Vietnam

Vietnam in a marketing company but in Australia

in a marketing company but in Australia

in a marketing company but in Australia she was working in a sweatshop doing

she was working in a sweatshop doing

she was working in a sweatshop doing 10-hour days she fell into anxiety

10-hour days she fell into anxiety

10-hour days she fell into anxiety depression she was either sad or angry

depression she was either sad or angry

depression she was either sad or angry at herself sewing hems sleeves and

at herself sewing hems sleeves and

at herself sewing hems sleeves and collars day in day out and despite all

collars day in day out and despite all

collars day in day out and despite all of this they never once spoke about it

of this they never once spoke about it

of this they never once spoke about it it was thought that it would have

it was thought that it would have

it was thought that it would have brought shame onto my family if the

brought shame onto my family if the

brought shame onto my family if the community knew about it conflict

community knew about it conflict

community knew about it conflict avoidant praying that like the bullies

avoidant praying that like the bullies

avoidant praying that like the bullies if they didn’t fight back their ghosts

if they didn’t fight back their ghosts

if they didn’t fight back their ghosts would leave them alone meanwhile the

would leave them alone meanwhile the

would leave them alone meanwhile the only thing that kept me going was

only thing that kept me going was

only thing that kept me going was martial arts and it wasn’t to fight back

martial arts and it wasn’t to fight back

martial arts and it wasn’t to fight back the bullies or my parents but it was for

the bullies or my parents but it was for

the bullies or my parents but it was for my own strength and power my arms my

my own strength and power my arms my

my own strength and power my arms my legs and the awareness of my mind I drew

legs and the awareness of my mind I drew

legs and the awareness of my mind I drew strength from working on myself and I

strength from working on myself and I

strength from working on myself and I was a learning a different way on being

was a learning a different way on being

was a learning a different way on being strong high-energy punches are strong

strong high-energy punches are strong

strong high-energy punches are strong and fast but still loose paired with

and fast but still loose paired with

and fast but still loose paired with your legs and kicks and it’s up to your

your legs and kicks and it’s up to your

your legs and kicks and it’s up to your minds intent what you want to do with

minds intent what you want to do with

minds intent what you want to do with them but physical strength forms and

them but physical strength forms and

them but physical strength forms and skills can be learnt and taught it’s up

skills can be learnt and taught it’s up

skills can be learnt and taught it’s up to the artistic conception a true

to the artistic conception a true

to the artistic conception a true martial artist is only perceived from

martial artist is only perceived from

martial artist is only perceived from within

therefore it was essential to master

therefore it was essential to master physical movement and martial skills

physical movement and martial skills

physical movement and martial skills it was more crucial to train the mind in

it was more crucial to train the mind in

it was more crucial to train the mind in the spirit and cultivate the Chi we need

the spirit and cultivate the Chi we need

the spirit and cultivate the Chi we need some brace conflict as it is what drives

some brace conflict as it is what drives

some brace conflict as it is what drives us and like the kungfu action heroes our

us and like the kungfu action heroes our

us and like the kungfu action heroes our authentic life is not free from struggle

authentic life is not free from struggle

authentic life is not free from struggle we need to engage embrace conflict as it

we need to engage embrace conflict as it

we need to engage embrace conflict as it is what drives us forward now conflict

is what drives us forward now conflict

is what drives us forward now conflict didn’t stop when he left school bullies

didn’t stop when he left school bullies

didn’t stop when he left school bullies and learnt martial arts I grew up I

and learnt martial arts I grew up I

and learnt martial arts I grew up I completed a psychology degree but deep

completed a psychology degree but deep

completed a psychology degree but deep down inside I wanted to be creative I

down inside I wanted to be creative I

down inside I wanted to be creative I wanted to make films action films but to

wanted to make films action films but to

wanted to make films action films but to my parents being an artist being

my parents being an artist being

my parents being an artist being creative were dirty forbidden words

creative were dirty forbidden words

creative were dirty forbidden words being an artist to them was equivalent

being an artist to them was equivalent

being an artist to them was equivalent to being unemployed so I was going to

to being unemployed so I was going to

to being unemployed so I was going to have to fight that one as well

now martial arts has taught me well I

now martial arts has taught me well I was precise in the dojo

was precise in the dojo

was precise in the dojo I learned to be disciplined structured

I learned to be disciplined structured

I learned to be disciplined structured and free-flowing and snap back like a

and free-flowing and snap back like a

and free-flowing and snap back like a punch I decided that I wanted to live my

punch I decided that I wanted to live my

punch I decided that I wanted to live my life kick-ass and like the heroes of my

life kick-ass and like the heroes of my

life kick-ass and like the heroes of my favorite movies Jackie Chan the hero’s

favorite movies Jackie Chan the hero’s

favorite movies Jackie Chan the hero’s journey that I knew so well I wanted to

journey that I knew so well I wanted to

journey that I knew so well I wanted to turn my life into a film so to speak the

turn my life into a film so to speak the

turn my life into a film so to speak the Hiromi started off in an ordinary world

Hiromi started off in an ordinary world

Hiromi started off in an ordinary world programmed by the learnings of my

programmed by the learnings of my

programmed by the learnings of my parents to fear the world to be conflict

parents to fear the world to be conflict

parents to fear the world to be conflict avoidant but then go on an adventure

avoidant but then go on an adventure

avoidant but then go on an adventure challenge themselves in a decisive

challenge themselves in a decisive

challenge themselves in a decisive crisis wins the victory

crisis wins the victory

crisis wins the victory comes home changed and transformed what

comes home changed and transformed what

comes home changed and transformed what was going to be my adventure of my life

was going to be my adventure of my life

was going to be my adventure of my life how do I challenge myself to become a

how do I challenge myself to become a

how do I challenge myself to become a hero and to be strong I wanted to be in

hero and to be strong I wanted to be in

hero and to be strong I wanted to be in action films but I grew up frustrated

action films but I grew up frustrated

action films but I grew up frustrated with Australian film and television I

with Australian film and television I

with Australian film and television I mean I don’t know about you but there’s

mean I don’t know about you but there’s

mean I don’t know about you but there’s not many Asian Australian women kicking

not many Asian Australian women kicking

not many Asian Australian women kicking ass on primetime TV so I was going to

ass on primetime TV so I was going to

ass on primetime TV so I was going to have to fight that one too but in 2009 I

have to fight that one too but in 2009 I

have to fight that one too but in 2009 I decided to do something pretty random

decided to do something pretty random

decided to do something pretty random I made a public declaration that I was

I made a public declaration that I was

I made a public declaration that I was on the quest to find Jackie Chan I mean

on the quest to find Jackie Chan I mean

on the quest to find Jackie Chan I mean Jackie Chan is like the biggest Asian

Jackie Chan is like the biggest Asian

Jackie Chan is like the biggest Asian superstar in the whole wide world and I

superstar in the whole wide world and I

superstar in the whole wide world and I was the biggest strange kid from Western

was the biggest strange kid from Western

was the biggest strange kid from Western Sydney and you know what to be honest

Sydney and you know what to be honest

Sydney and you know what to be honest with you Jackie Chan he’s not like a

with you Jackie Chan he’s not like a

with you Jackie Chan he’s not like a relative from China or anything I had no

relative from China or anything I had no

relative from China or anything I had no connection to him but that dream it was

connection to him but that dream it was

connection to him but that dream it was something bigger that I thought would

something bigger that I thought would

something bigger that I thought would ever be possible and as a screenwriter

ever be possible and as a screenwriter

ever be possible and as a screenwriter of my own life it was the most biggest

of my own life it was the most biggest

of my own life it was the most biggest ridiculous idea that could come from a

ridiculous idea that could come from a

ridiculous idea that could come from a bullied kid from Western Sydney and I

bullied kid from Western Sydney and I

bullied kid from Western Sydney and I persisted in this quest my movie

persisted in this quest my movie

persisted in this quest my movie campaigning every Australian capital

campaigning every Australian capital

campaigning every Australian capital city and Hong Kong and then I was

city and Hong Kong and then I was

city and Hong Kong and then I was stranded in China broke left there’s

stranded in China broke left there’s

stranded in China broke left there’s only $20 and still no Jackie Chan’s

only $20 and still no Jackie Chan’s

only $20 and still no Jackie Chan’s but here’s a bit of a twist in my story

but here’s a bit of a twist in my story

but here’s a bit of a twist in my story and if you imagine the next eight years

and if you imagine the next eight years

and if you imagine the next eight years as the kind of montage I kept on working

as the kind of montage I kept on working

as the kind of montage I kept on working hard martial arts had taught me to be a

hard martial arts had taught me to be a

hard martial arts had taught me to be a warrior you must commit to your

warrior you must commit to your

warrior you must commit to your objective without shame

objective without shame

objective without shame or doubt I had failed to meet Jackie my

or doubt I had failed to meet Jackie my

or doubt I had failed to meet Jackie my quest but I wasn’t going to give up

quest but I wasn’t going to give up

quest but I wasn’t going to give up every warrior must commit to the the

every warrior must commit to the the

every warrior must commit to the the objective regardless of what people say

objective regardless of what people say

objective regardless of what people say we often to afraid that what we publicly

we often to afraid that what we publicly

we often to afraid that what we publicly declare to people we were seen as taken

declare to people we were seen as taken

declare to people we were seen as taken too seriously or what if we fail I

adopted a warrior’s mindset and

adopted a warrior’s mindset and continued training making my own movies

continued training making my own movies

continued training making my own movies in Western Sydney I got roles in China

in Western Sydney I got roles in China

in Western Sydney I got roles in China and Vietnam but there I had to deal with

and Vietnam but there I had to deal with

and Vietnam but there I had to deal with a new set of challenges in the martial

a new set of challenges in the martial

a new set of challenges in the martial arts action genre less than 1% of

arts action genre less than 1% of

arts action genre less than 1% of directors are females who get to work

directors are females who get to work

directors are females who get to work with action hence as a female action

with action hence as a female action

with action hence as a female action director it was rare now in martial arts

director it was rare now in martial arts

director it was rare now in martial arts every move comes with a risk whether you

every move comes with a risk whether you

every move comes with a risk whether you take sexism in ignore it or draw a line

take sexism in ignore it or draw a line

take sexism in ignore it or draw a line every single action that you make can

every single action that you make can

every single action that you make can invite the unknown into your life I was

invite the unknown into your life I was

invite the unknown into your life I was made fun of on set I was called weak a

made fun of on set I was called weak a

made fun of on set I was called weak a silly girl some of my co actors would

silly girl some of my co actors would

silly girl some of my co actors would even ask me are you going to show me how

even ask me are you going to show me how

even ask me are you going to show me how to punch like a girl and I did I embrace

to punch like a girl and I did I embrace

to punch like a girl and I did I embrace conflict

conflict

conflict I understood that conflict is always

I understood that conflict is always

I understood that conflict is always around us and that success can come at

around us and that success can come at

around us and that success can come at the price of someone else but failure

the price of someone else but failure

the price of someone else but failure can rock your whole entire life that’s a

can rock your whole entire life that’s a

can rock your whole entire life that’s a battle that’s a war and I learned

battle that’s a war and I learned

battle that’s a war and I learned something else people became drawn

something else people became drawn

something else people became drawn towards me stood beside me when they saw

towards me stood beside me when they saw

towards me stood beside me when they saw me take a stance against sexism I got a

me take a stance against sexism I got a

me take a stance against sexism I got a chance to try

chance to try

chance to try not to do my own stunts to choreograph

not to do my own stunts to choreograph

not to do my own stunts to choreograph fight scenes and I think it reminded

fight scenes and I think it reminded

fight scenes and I think it reminded them of their own strength

them of their own strength

them of their own strength the potential warrior from within last

the potential warrior from within last

the potential warrior from within last year

year

year I was hired by someone from the action

I was hired by someone from the action

I was hired by someone from the action film industry this time it was a long

film industry this time it was a long

film industry this time it was a long side of wait for it Jackie Chan

side of wait for it Jackie Chan

side of wait for it Jackie Chan [Applause]

after eight years my own personal movie

after eight years my own personal movie has come to a resolution I got a chance

has come to a resolution I got a chance

has come to a resolution I got a chance to work with Jackie on his film and

to work with Jackie on his film and

to work with Jackie on his film and after that I got a chance to go on a

after that I got a chance to go on a

after that I got a chance to go on a road trip with him to camera to visit

road trip with him to camera to visit

road trip with him to camera to visit his parents home and then right before

his parents home and then right before

his parents home and then right before he flew back to China

he flew back to China

he flew back to China I shared a moment with Jackie and this

I shared a moment with Jackie and this

I shared a moment with Jackie and this is what I said Jackie you like my dad

is what I said Jackie you like my dad

is what I said Jackie you like my dad no seriously that’s exactly what I said

no seriously that’s exactly what I said

no seriously that’s exactly what I said out of all things but I guess things

out of all things but I guess things

out of all things but I guess things have come full circle for me and my

have come full circle for me and my

have come full circle for me and my family and living kick-ass comes in all

family and living kick-ass comes in all

family and living kick-ass comes in all shapes and sizes but you can’t do it

shapes and sizes but you can’t do it

shapes and sizes but you can’t do it afraid you have to find ways to publicly

afraid you have to find ways to publicly

afraid you have to find ways to publicly declare your dreams be ready to meet the

declare your dreams be ready to meet the

declare your dreams be ready to meet the challenges in conflicts that comes up

challenges in conflicts that comes up

challenges in conflicts that comes up along the way with powerful fluid

along the way with powerful fluid

along the way with powerful fluid strength my parents had finally come

strength my parents had finally come

strength my parents had finally come around to creativity in the arts my dad

around to creativity in the arts my dad

around to creativity in the arts my dad is now into competitive karaoke and mum

is now into competitive karaoke and mum

is now into competitive karaoke and mum she’s passionate about Friday night

she’s passionate about Friday night

she’s passionate about Friday night disco dancing thank you

disco dancing thank you

disco dancing thank you [Applause]

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