love is not at all what it used to be trust me I know
trust me I know
trust me I know unhhhh single love today means swiping
unhhhh single love today means swiping
unhhhh single love today means swiping right sexting ghosting snapping imaging
right sexting ghosting snapping imaging
right sexting ghosting snapping imaging and a hundred other things that didn’t
and a hundred other things that didn’t
and a hundred other things that didn’t exist ten years ago this digital love is
exist ten years ago this digital love is
exist ten years ago this digital love is not the love I grew up with or ever
not the love I grew up with or ever
not the love I grew up with or ever aspired for it’s a different beast and
aspired for it’s a different beast and
aspired for it’s a different beast and one have grown familiar with over time
one have grown familiar with over time
one have grown familiar with over time though I still don’t fully understand it
though I still don’t fully understand it
though I still don’t fully understand it but I’m trying to and I’m trying to
but I’m trying to and I’m trying to
but I’m trying to and I’m trying to because I believe it’s very important
because I believe it’s very important
because I believe it’s very important that we are always aware of the present
that we are always aware of the present
that we are always aware of the present narrative of love so we can love those
narrative of love so we can love those
narrative of love so we can love those we care for as they want or perhaps know
we care for as they want or perhaps know
we care for as they want or perhaps know how to be loved this isn’t easy and it
how to be loved this isn’t easy and it
how to be loved this isn’t easy and it demands great courage from all of us but
demands great courage from all of us but
demands great courage from all of us but I believe it’s essential for us to love
I believe it’s essential for us to love
I believe it’s essential for us to love better consider my example I grew up in
better consider my example I grew up in
better consider my example I grew up in India a place where love and sex with
India a place where love and sex with
India a place where love and sex with the universal secret everyone knew about
the universal secret everyone knew about
the universal secret everyone knew about it and was probably doing it but no one
it and was probably doing it but no one
it and was probably doing it but no one ever spoke about it and that’s why we
ever spoke about it and that’s why we
ever spoke about it and that’s why we have 1.3 billion Indians out there
well as I had puberty
well as I had puberty my parents never sat me down and gave me
my parents never sat me down and gave me
my parents never sat me down and gave me the talk about the birds and the bees
the talk about the birds and the bees
the talk about the birds and the bees and in this vacuum of knowledge I had to
and in this vacuum of knowledge I had to
and in this vacuum of knowledge I had to rely on movies as many teenagers do to
rely on movies as many teenagers do to
rely on movies as many teenagers do to fill in the blank spaces of adulthood
fill in the blank spaces of adulthood
fill in the blank spaces of adulthood but didn’t always help to see flowers
but didn’t always help to see flowers
but didn’t always help to see flowers trembling and birds kissing in Indian
trembling and birds kissing in Indian
trembling and birds kissing in Indian Bollywood movies English movies on the
Bollywood movies English movies on the
Bollywood movies English movies on the other hand provided way more realism but
other hand provided way more realism but
other hand provided way more realism but the price of it was always awkward
the price of it was always awkward
the price of it was always awkward conversations pointed stairs and cold
conversations pointed stairs and cold
conversations pointed stairs and cold judgment from my parents
judgment from my parents
judgment from my parents fortunately sex is now taught in most
fortunately sex is now taught in most
fortunately sex is now taught in most schools all over the world but only from
schools all over the world but only from
schools all over the world but only from the perspective of health and education
the perspective of health and education
the perspective of health and education and never pleasure and affection and
and never pleasure and affection and
and never pleasure and affection and what this does is it creates a deficit
what this does is it creates a deficit
what this does is it creates a deficit of intimacy in all of us we are all
of intimacy in all of us we are all
of intimacy in all of us we are all becoming dysfunctional beings for
becoming dysfunctional beings for
becoming dysfunctional beings for failing to explore our own notions of
failing to explore our own notions of
failing to explore our own notions of sexuality and intimacy this sucks
sexuality and intimacy this sucks
sexuality and intimacy this sucks we need to fix this we need to provide
we need to fix this we need to provide
we need to fix this we need to provide safe spaces and mediums where this
safe spaces and mediums where this
safe spaces and mediums where this exploration of ourselves and our
exploration of ourselves and our
exploration of ourselves and our identities is seen as a vibrant
identities is seen as a vibrant
identities is seen as a vibrant possibility and not a hidden option and
possibility and not a hidden option and
possibility and not a hidden option and what’s safer than a book a book seems
what’s safer than a book a book seems
what’s safer than a book a book seems out of place almost everywhere in
out of place almost everywhere in
out of place almost everywhere in today’s world but I believe all of us
today’s world but I believe all of us
today’s world but I believe all of us owe it to ourselves to make at least one
owe it to ourselves to make at least one
owe it to ourselves to make at least one book in our lifetime our own book of
book in our lifetime our own book of
book in our lifetime our own book of love let me explain a few months ago I
love let me explain a few months ago I
love let me explain a few months ago I found myself trapped in a crowded
found myself trapped in a crowded
found myself trapped in a crowded bookstore in Bangalore the startup
bookstore in Bangalore the startup
bookstore in Bangalore the startup capital of India I was hunched over this
capital of India I was hunched over this
capital of India I was hunched over this dusty old copy of the original book of
dusty old copy of the original book of
dusty old copy of the original book of love the Kama Sutra I picked it up from
love the Kama Sutra I picked it up from
love the Kama Sutra I picked it up from the classic section and the caricatures
the classic section and the caricatures
the classic section and the caricatures immediately made me laugh out loud I’m
immediately made me laugh out loud I’m
immediately made me laugh out loud I’m pretty sure all the women around me must
pretty sure all the women around me must
pretty sure all the women around me must have given me disgusted looks but all I
have given me disgusted looks but all I
have given me disgusted looks but all I could focus on then was how how
could focus on then was how how
could focus on then was how how unrealistic and antiquated the sex man
unrealistic and antiquated the sex man
unrealistic and antiquated the sex man every one in the book had these perfect
every one in the book had these perfect
every one in the book had these perfect superhuman bodies that none of us have
superhuman bodies that none of us have
superhuman bodies that none of us have and all the positions seem like
and all the positions seem like
and all the positions seem like something straight out of the routine of
something straight out of the routine of
something straight out of the routine of an Olympic gymnast I left the book store
an Olympic gymnast I left the book store
an Olympic gymnast I left the book store with many many questions that day but
with many many questions that day but
with many many questions that day but one of them still persists is this what
one of them still persists is this what
one of them still persists is this what love is about I’m not sure but what I do
love is about I’m not sure but what I do
love is about I’m not sure but what I do know is that this was perhaps love a
know is that this was perhaps love a
know is that this was perhaps love a long time ago and if we don’t document
long time ago and if we don’t document
long time ago and if we don’t document the cultural history of affection as
the cultural history of affection as
the cultural history of affection as experienced by our parents our
experienced by our parents our
experienced by our parents our grandparents and our elders we will lose
grandparents and our elders we will lose
grandparents and our elders we will lose it forever and so this is where all our
it forever and so this is where all our
it forever and so this is where all our books of love should begin with a deep
books of love should begin with a deep
books of love should begin with a deep appreciation of the past and where we
appreciation of the past and where we
appreciation of the past and where we come from
love isn’t finite or constant it changes
love isn’t finite or constant it changes every time we encountered and that’s why
every time we encountered and that’s why
every time we encountered and that’s why I chose to make a new Kama Sutra a book
I chose to make a new Kama Sutra a book
I chose to make a new Kama Sutra a book I hope will grow old with all of us as
I hope will grow old with all of us as
I hope will grow old with all of us as we populated taking into account all the
we populated taking into account all the
we populated taking into account all the nuances and complexities of the digital
nuances and complexities of the digital
nuances and complexities of the digital era and our future selves yeah so take
era and our future selves yeah so take
era and our future selves yeah so take it all in this book is a living book
it all in this book is a living book
it all in this book is a living book it’s like software it grows in the walls
it’s like software it grows in the walls
it’s like software it grows in the walls as we get older as we grapple with these
as we get older as we grapple with these
as we get older as we grapple with these notions of intimacy affection and
notions of intimacy affection and
notions of intimacy affection and romance sex toys distance body shapes
orientations diversity these are some of
orientations diversity these are some of the issues we’re tackling in our first
the issues we’re tackling in our first
the issues we’re tackling in our first release and future versions will cover
release and future versions will cover
release and future versions will cover everything from medically assisted sex
everything from medically assisted sex
everything from medically assisted sex and polyamory to Bionic penises and
and polyamory to Bionic penises and
and polyamory to Bionic penises and vaginas so I’m fairly certain
vaginas so I’m fairly certain
vaginas so I’m fairly certain we’ll never run of things to discover
we’ll never run of things to discover
we’ll never run of things to discover together and that’s a good thing that’s
together and that’s a good thing that’s
together and that’s a good thing that’s a great thing because in the world full
a great thing because in the world full
a great thing because in the world full of perfect machines our flaws and
of perfect machines our flaws and
of perfect machines our flaws and sometimes even our fetishes make us all
sometimes even our fetishes make us all
sometimes even our fetishes make us all the more human
but because we’re human were imperfect
but because we’re human were imperfect we make mistakes we hold on to false
we make mistakes we hold on to false
we make mistakes we hold on to false beliefs we limit the choice of others we
beliefs we limit the choice of others we
beliefs we limit the choice of others we tell them love is not love if it hurts
tell them love is not love if it hurts
tell them love is not love if it hurts me or challenges my understanding of it
me or challenges my understanding of it
me or challenges my understanding of it and so it’s true
and so it’s true
and so it’s true we’ve always lacked intentionality in
we’ve always lacked intentionality in
we’ve always lacked intentionality in this discourse but I believe our books
this discourse but I believe our books
this discourse but I believe our books of love will fix this our books of love
of love will fix this our books of love
of love will fix this our books of love are real they already inhabit our homes
are real they already inhabit our homes
are real they already inhabit our homes and our lives but we just haven’t paid
and our lives but we just haven’t paid
and our lives but we just haven’t paid enough attention to them yet they are
enough attention to them yet they are
enough attention to them yet they are the scribble post-it notes on the fridge
the scribble post-it notes on the fridge
the scribble post-it notes on the fridge the lost photographs the secret journals
the lost photographs the secret journals
the lost photographs the secret journals the the fragile boxes kept in dark
the the fragile boxes kept in dark
the the fragile boxes kept in dark attics away from prying eyes and
attics away from prying eyes and
attics away from prying eyes and countless other items that remind us
countless other items that remind us
countless other items that remind us every single day of our past and the
every single day of our past and the
every single day of our past and the people we once loved the people who we
people we once loved the people who we
people we once loved the people who we once called home so my request to all of
once called home so my request to all of
once called home so my request to all of you today is to go home revisit them and
you today is to go home revisit them and
you today is to go home revisit them and then think deeply about the future love
then think deeply about the future love
then think deeply about the future love you want for yourselves your children
you want for yourselves your children
you want for yourselves your children and your grandchildren ask yourselves
and your grandchildren ask yourselves
and your grandchildren ask yourselves what would I borrow from my parents era
what would I borrow from my parents era
what would I borrow from my parents era what about your own would you want your
what about your own would you want your
what about your own would you want your children to feel what you felt what
children to feel what you felt what
children to feel what you felt what would you keep what would you take away
would you keep what would you take away
would you keep what would you take away what would you protect them from these
what would you protect them from these
what would you protect them from these conversations are never the easiest to
conversations are never the easiest to
conversations are never the easiest to have with ourselves or others but this
have with ourselves or others but this
have with ourselves or others but this is precisely why we must start having
is precisely why we must start having
is precisely why we must start having them today so yeah go home
them today so yeah go home
them today so yeah go home wake up let’s love a little bit better
wake up let’s love a little bit better
wake up let’s love a little bit better tomorrow thank you
tomorrow thank you
tomorrow thank you [Applause]
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