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[Applause] hi guys hey that’s a good one thank you
hi guys hey that’s a good one thank you
hi guys hey that’s a good one thank you my name is Sharda and then two days i’ll
my name is Sharda and then two days i’ll
my name is Sharda and then two days i’ll be thirty-one then i’m doing absolutely
be thirty-one then i’m doing absolutely
be thirty-one then i’m doing absolutely everything I wanted to do as a kid and
everything I wanted to do as a kid and
everything I wanted to do as a kid and how I’m doing that is by asking myself
how I’m doing that is by asking myself
how I’m doing that is by asking myself what are you doing what are you doing
what are you doing what are you doing
what are you doing what are you doing what are you doing what you doing what
what are you doing what you doing what
what are you doing what you doing what are you doing what crew whatever you do
are you doing what crew whatever you do
are you doing what crew whatever you do me right so today we are going to talk
me right so today we are going to talk
me right so today we are going to talk about several things and that’s about
about several things and that’s about
about several things and that’s about coping with stress in everyday life and
coping with stress in everyday life and
coping with stress in everyday life and how I do that is with four steps
how I do that is with four steps
how I do that is with four steps self-evaluation accountability
self-evaluation accountability
self-evaluation accountability affirmation and self-care so the first
affirmation and self-care so the first
affirmation and self-care so the first part of this is that self-evaluation so
part of this is that self-evaluation so
part of this is that self-evaluation so how I got to ask myself what I’m doing
how I got to ask myself what I’m doing
how I got to ask myself what I’m doing is so my senior kind of line I failed
is so my senior kind of line I failed
is so my senior kind of line I failed the class three times and during that
the class three times and during that
the class three times and during that period of time I’m let’s go see in my
period of time I’m let’s go see in my
period of time I’m let’s go see in my advisor my advisor asked me what was
advisor my advisor asked me what was
advisor my advisor asked me what was wrong I couldn’t really put a finger on
wrong I couldn’t really put a finger on
wrong I couldn’t really put a finger on it but I knew something was wrong but
it but I knew something was wrong but
it but I knew something was wrong but I’m getting cried so for about 20
I’m getting cried so for about 20
I’m getting cried so for about 20 minutes I cried and he sat in silence
minutes I cried and he sat in silence
minutes I cried and he sat in silence and didn’t say anything I didn’t say
and didn’t say anything I didn’t say
and didn’t say anything I didn’t say anything I was just pretty much ashamed
anything I was just pretty much ashamed
anything I was just pretty much ashamed and she signed my pit was for graduation
and she signed my pit was for graduation
and she signed my pit was for graduation so I graduated college quietly I sold my
so I graduated college quietly I sold my
so I graduated college quietly I sold my tickets for the miss my craigslist
tickets for the miss my craigslist
tickets for the miss my craigslist because Bill Clinton came in a year and
because Bill Clinton came in a year and
because Bill Clinton came in a year and I widely continued like in about three
I widely continued like in about three
I widely continued like in about three months later I heard her son record work
months later I heard her son record work
months later I heard her son record work on februari my mom Pattinson’s about
on februari my mom Pattinson’s about
on februari my mom Pattinson’s about graduation and I told her I didn’t want
graduation and I told her I didn’t want
graduation and I told her I didn’t want to have
to have
to have party I begged her not to throw me a
party I begged her not to throw me a
party I begged her not to throw me a graduation party for a bachelor’s degree
graduation party for a bachelor’s degree
graduation party for a bachelor’s degree in food management and that’s when I
in food management and that’s when I
in food management and that’s when I know something’s wrong so again I ask
know something’s wrong so again I ask
know something’s wrong so again I ask you what are you doing what are you
you what are you doing what are you
you what are you doing what are you doing because from here I knew something
doing because from here I knew something
doing because from here I knew something was wrong and I asked myself what are
was wrong and I asked myself what are
was wrong and I asked myself what are you doing so in order to take care of
you doing so in order to take care of
you doing so in order to take care of whatever is going on with me I had to
whatever is going on with me I had to
whatever is going on with me I had to hold myself accountable because
hold myself accountable because
hold myself accountable because accountability starts with ch in
accountability starts with ch in
accountability starts with ch in accountability takes form in many for
accountability takes form in many for
accountability takes form in many for takes form in many ways it could be
takes form in many ways it could be
takes form in many ways it could be notes relationships friendships but for
notes relationships friendships but for
notes relationships friendships but for me in particular it’s notice so we can
me in particular it’s notice so we can
me in particular it’s notice so we can start with post-it notes cellphone
start with post-it notes cellphone
start with post-it notes cellphone reminders things that you can see that
reminders things that you can see that
reminders things that you can see that can help you do anxious times and give
can help you do anxious times and give
can help you do anxious times and give you reminders to smoke so again the
you reminders to smoke so again the
you reminders to smoke so again the definition of accountability is the
definition of accountability is the
definition of accountability is the definition of accountability is the
definition of accountability is the
definition of accountability is the quality or state of being accountable an
quality or state of being accountable an
quality or state of being accountable an obligation or willingness to accept
obligation or willingness to accept
obligation or willingness to accept responsibility for your actions or
responsibility for your actions or
responsibility for your actions or others so with that I’m going to ask you
others so with that I’m going to ask you
others so with that I’m going to ask you guys to begin to write yourself love
guys to begin to write yourself love
guys to begin to write yourself love letters often place them where you can
letters often place them where you can
letters often place them where you can see them place them where they are
see them place them where they are
see them place them where they are important and write down things you need
important and write down things you need
important and write down things you need to know in order to keep moving forward
to know in order to keep moving forward
to know in order to keep moving forward so another former accountability for
so another former accountability for
so another former accountability for myself was finding your tribe and how
myself was finding your tribe and how
myself was finding your tribe and how you do that is in 2014 me and my friend
you do that is in 2014 me and my friend
you do that is in 2014 me and my friend established reestablished our companies
established reestablished our companies
established reestablished our companies my friend started a production company
my friend started a production company
my friend started a production company and I asked myself what am i doing again
and I asked myself what am i doing again
and I asked myself what am i doing again as far as my clothing company kiss was
as far as my clothing company kiss was
as far as my clothing company kiss was concerned so right before I set up a
concerned so right before I set up a
concerned so right before I set up a meeting with my friend I went and
meeting with my friend I went and
meeting with my friend I went and actually tried to make a quick buck now
actually tried to make a quick buck now
actually tried to make a quick buck now we all know fast money is not the best
we all know fast money is not the best
we all know fast money is not the best money and I ended up with a gun to my
money and I ended up with a gun to my
money and I ended up with a gun to my head and they don’t get my pockets
head and they don’t get my pockets
head and they don’t get my pockets friend and he tried to take my phone and
friend and he tried to take my phone and
friend and he tried to take my phone and the process of taking my phone I asked
the process of taking my phone I asked
the process of taking my phone I asked him why in broad daylight when he won’t
him why in broad daylight when he won’t
him why in broad daylight when he won’t hurt me um desensitized to the fact that
hurt me um desensitized to the fact that
hurt me um desensitized to the fact that violence begets violence and I was in
violence begets violence and I was in
violence begets violence and I was in the neighborhood doing something I
the neighborhood doing something I
the neighborhood doing something I is doing in the first place I continued
is doing in the first place I continued
is doing in the first place I continued all my day after that and done with go
all my day after that and done with go
all my day after that and done with go see Adrian told him about my day a
see Adrian told him about my day a
see Adrian told him about my day a little bit and he seemed to be bothered
little bit and he seemed to be bothered
little bit and he seemed to be bothered it didn’t really bother me which should
it didn’t really bother me which should
it didn’t really bother me which should have been a red flag um so then they
have been a red flag um so then they
have been a red flag um so then they today he said come over sorry contract
today he said come over sorry contract
today he said come over sorry contract let’s get started so me being white I
let’s get started so me being white I
let’s get started so me being white I have never done any type of business I
have never done any type of business I
have never done any type of business I mean I was just like okay I’ll come sign
mean I was just like okay I’ll come sign
mean I was just like okay I’ll come sign my contract I just know I want to make a
my contract I just know I want to make a
my contract I just know I want to make a change I know I wanted to this on so
change I know I wanted to this on so
change I know I wanted to this on so unbeknownst to me I signed a contract
unbeknownst to me I signed a contract
unbeknownst to me I signed a contract that actually signed all of my licensing
that actually signed all of my licensing
that actually signed all of my licensing to his company as well as a morality
to his company as well as a morality
to his company as well as a morality contract that said if I did anything
contract that said if I did anything
contract that said if I did anything that was not morally signed all business
that was not morally signed all business
that was not morally signed all business with end and none of the items that I
with end and none of the items that I
with end and none of the items that I created will be available to me so my
created will be available to me so my
created will be available to me so my friend my great great great friend
friend my great great great friend
friend my great great great friend actually put me in a position to hold me
actually put me in a position to hold me
actually put me in a position to hold me fully accountable on every aspect of my
fully accountable on every aspect of my
fully accountable on every aspect of my life and every piece of my life to keep
life and every piece of my life to keep
life and every piece of my life to keep the only thing that I desired anyway and
the only thing that I desired anyway and
the only thing that I desired anyway and that their folks is how you’re trying
that their folks is how you’re trying
that their folks is how you’re trying and accountability go hand it in and
and accountability go hand it in and
and accountability go hand it in and that’s why I’m here right now so again I
that’s why I’m here right now so again I
that’s why I’m here right now so again I ask yourself and I ask you what are you
ask yourself and I ask you what are you
ask yourself and I ask you what are you doing find your friends that hold you
doing find your friends that hold you
doing find your friends that hold you were responsible and author people who
were responsible and author people who
were responsible and author people who will hold you to a level responsibility
will hold you to a level responsibility
will hold you to a level responsibility for yourself others and the community so
for yourself others and the community so
for yourself others and the community so what are you doing se1 what are you
what are you doing se1 what are you
what are you doing se1 what are you doing come on guys what are y’all doing
doing come on guys what are y’all doing
doing come on guys what are y’all doing yeah I had said but what you’re doing
yeah I had said but what you’re doing
yeah I had said but what you’re doing thank you now look at your neighbor and
thank you now look at your neighbor and
thank you now look at your neighbor and ask them the same thing right all right
ask them the same thing right all right
ask them the same thing right all right maybe a change some numbers later and
maybe a change some numbers later and
maybe a change some numbers later and say what are you doing text each other
say what are you doing text each other
say what are you doing text each other hang out you never know so the last part
hang out you never know so the last part
hang out you never know so the last part of this process is the most vital which
of this process is the most vital which
of this process is the most vital which is speaking it thinking it and saying it
is speaking it thinking it and saying it
is speaking it thinking it and saying it out loud writing it down and getting out
out loud writing it down and getting out
out loud writing it down and getting out of your own way the last part of this is
of your own way the last part of this is
of your own way the last part of this is self-care the most important part of
self-care the most important part of
self-care the most important part of this is speaking it sinking it
this is speaking it sinking it
this is speaking it sinking it making sure you make it a part of your
making sure you make it a part of your
making sure you make it a part of your existence say it out loud write it down
existence say it out loud write it down
existence say it out loud write it down and get out of your own way wheels
and get out of your own way wheels
and get out of your own way wheels Millennials are different where the most
Millennials are different where the most
Millennials are different where the most educated with the least jobs so that
educated with the least jobs so that
educated with the least jobs so that means we have to find our way don’t be
means we have to find our way don’t be
means we have to find our way don’t be afraid of that don’t be scared of that
afraid of that don’t be scared of that
afraid of that don’t be scared of that and don’t let anyone tell you that your
and don’t let anyone tell you that your
and don’t let anyone tell you that your path is not the right back for you since
path is not the right back for you since
path is not the right back for you since this is a mindset success is defined by
this is a mindset success is defined by
this is a mindset success is defined by you and your life don’t forget right
you and your life don’t forget right
you and your life don’t forget right you’re shorting right it proud and make
you’re shorting right it proud and make
you’re shorting right it proud and make sure you know what you are doing what
sure you know what you are doing what
sure you know what you are doing what you doing so as Millennials success
you doing so as Millennials success
you doing so as Millennials success again is what you make it we are
again is what you make it we are
again is what you make it we are different it is ok don’t worry about
different it is ok don’t worry about
different it is ok don’t worry about everybody’s man you sleep on your mom’s
everybody’s man you sleep on your mom’s
everybody’s man you sleep on your mom’s couch oh well it is what it is make the
couch oh well it is what it is make the
couch oh well it is what it is make the best of it but then the process keep
best of it but then the process keep
best of it but then the process keep your feet moving forward and on the
your feet moving forward and on the
your feet moving forward and on the ground and before you look up everything
ground and before you look up everything
ground and before you look up everything will change it’s ok it is definitely
will change it’s ok it is definitely
will change it’s ok it is definitely okay that we’re different define success
okay that we’re different define success
okay that we’re different define success on your own terms make sure that all
on your own terms make sure that all
on your own terms make sure that all you’re saying your spaces are safe make
you’re saying your spaces are safe make
you’re saying your spaces are safe make sure you define your life again remember
sure you define your life again remember
sure you define your life again remember you’ll define your life and remember
you’ll define your life and remember
you’ll define your life and remember everything takes time so make sure you
everything takes time so make sure you
everything takes time so make sure you laugh make sure you shared make sure you
laugh make sure you shared make sure you
laugh make sure you shared make sure you care and again remember that your life
care and again remember that your life
care and again remember that your life is yours write your story make sure you
is yours write your story make sure you
is yours write your story make sure you enjoy every single second and again
enjoy every single second and again
enjoy every single second and again don’t work you what are you doing what
don’t work you what are you doing what
don’t work you what are you doing what are you doing what are you doing what
are you doing what are you doing what
are you doing what are you doing what are you doing so again make sure you ask
are you doing so again make sure you ask
are you doing so again make sure you ask yourself often what are you doing make
yourself often what are you doing make
yourself often what are you doing make sure you follow those four steps then
sure you follow those four steps then
sure you follow those four steps then make sure you enjoy yourself among the
make sure you enjoy yourself among the
make sure you enjoy yourself among the one thank you Miss Phaedra
one thank you Miss Phaedra
one thank you Miss Phaedra [Applause]
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