my name is dr. Paul Miller I am the current CEO and principal of Green Tech
current CEO and principal of Green Tech
current CEO and principal of Green Tech High we are charter school in Albany New
High we are charter school in Albany New
High we are charter school in Albany New York today I’m gonna discuss my topic
York today I’m gonna discuss my topic
York today I’m gonna discuss my topic that I frequently discuss on how we all
that I frequently discuss on how we all
that I frequently discuss on how we all need to do better we need to make a
need to do better we need to make a
need to do better we need to make a conscious effort to do better we need to
conscious effort to do better we need to
conscious effort to do better we need to work to change the mindset of children
work to change the mindset of children
work to change the mindset of children and we can do that through family
and we can do that through family
and we can do that through family community and education you see a man in
community and education you see a man in
community and education you see a man in a suit it looks like I made it
a suit it looks like I made it
a suit it looks like I made it sometimes I even feel safe sometimes I
sometimes I even feel safe sometimes I
sometimes I even feel safe sometimes I feel elated
feel elated
feel elated just because I’m dressed to impress
just because I’m dressed to impress
just because I’m dressed to impress doesn’t mean that I can’t be depressed
doesn’t mean that I can’t be depressed
doesn’t mean that I can’t be depressed depressed because my brother next to me
depressed because my brother next to me
depressed because my brother next to me in the Tim’s and the fitted often feels
in the Tim’s and the fitted often feels
in the Tim’s and the fitted often feels like his life was omitted we live in
like his life was omitted we live in
like his life was omitted we live in this country that’s the land of the free
this country that’s the land of the free
this country that’s the land of the free with all the riches and so many
with all the riches and so many
with all the riches and so many opportunities yet many of my brothers
opportunities yet many of my brothers
opportunities yet many of my brothers feel like they can’t get ahead yeah we
feel like they can’t get ahead yeah we
feel like they can’t get ahead yeah we create our own misery with our thoughts
create our own misery with our thoughts
create our own misery with our thoughts and our actions you might even say what
and our actions you might even say what
and our actions you might even say what about affirmative action you throw us
about affirmative action you throw us
about affirmative action you throw us crumbs like we’re homeless bums
crumbs like we’re homeless bums
crumbs like we’re homeless bums and don’t acknowledge but still expect
and don’t acknowledge but still expect
and don’t acknowledge but still expect us to go to college we can commit the
us to go to college we can commit the
us to go to college we can commit the same crimes and get four times the time
same crimes and get four times the time
same crimes and get four times the time you might say don’t commit the crime I
you might say don’t commit the crime I
you might say don’t commit the crime I say you’re right but it’s a privilege to
say you’re right but it’s a privilege to
say you’re right but it’s a privilege to be white you understand the rules to the
be white you understand the rules to the
be white you understand the rules to the game however poverty and slavery a lot
game however poverty and slavery a lot
game however poverty and slavery a lot to blame
I’m so angry because you’re all up here
I’m so angry because you’re all up here judging me I’m so angry because I’m sad
judging me I’m so angry because I’m sad
judging me I’m so angry because I’m sad because I grew up without a dad I didn’t
because I grew up without a dad I didn’t
because I grew up without a dad I didn’t have what I know what I wanted nor what
have what I know what I wanted nor what
have what I know what I wanted nor what I needed I had to go without or hustle
I needed I had to go without or hustle
I needed I had to go without or hustle to figure it out yeah I did some dirt
to figure it out yeah I did some dirt
to figure it out yeah I did some dirt I’ve been through a lot of pain and a
I’ve been through a lot of pain and a
I’ve been through a lot of pain and a lot of hurt my pain runs deep but I was
lot of hurt my pain runs deep but I was
lot of hurt my pain runs deep but I was taught not to be weak say weakness in my
taught not to be weak say weakness in my
taught not to be weak say weakness in my hood will make you unsafe did any of
hood will make you unsafe did any of
hood will make you unsafe did any of your kids have to sleep next to the trap
your kids have to sleep next to the trap
your kids have to sleep next to the trap gate so when I remove this shirt and tie
do you still think I’m such a good guy
do you still think I’m such a good guy what about the tattoos in the branch or
what about the tattoos in the branch or
what about the tattoos in the branch or how about when I look like this in the
how about when I look like this in the
how about when I look like this in the summer time and I’m driving my $80,000
summer time and I’m driving my $80,000
summer time and I’m driving my $80,000 car do you turn and tap your wife and
car do you turn and tap your wife and
car do you turn and tap your wife and say look how far he overcame or do you
say look how far he overcame or do you
say look how far he overcame or do you just shake your head and pull me over
just shake your head and pull me over
just shake your head and pull me over because I look like I’m carrying cane
excuse me sir you failed to change lanes
excuse me sir you failed to change lanes you’re driving in the passing lane oh
you’re the CEO I’m gonna let you go see
you’re the CEO I’m gonna let you go see I earn that title blood sweat and tears
I earn that title blood sweat and tears
I earn that title blood sweat and tears and years of facing all my fears if I
and years of facing all my fears if I
and years of facing all my fears if I can do it so can you
can do it so can you
can do it so can you I do what I do so our kids can too
see we are not statistics anymore
see we are not statistics anymore we are graduates and bosses but that
we are graduates and bosses but that
we are graduates and bosses but that takes a mindset that takes a mindset a
takes a mindset that takes a mindset a
takes a mindset that takes a mindset a mindset of elev Frederick Douglas once
mindset of elev Frederick Douglas once
mindset of elev Frederick Douglas once said that knowledge makes a man unfit to
said that knowledge makes a man unfit to
said that knowledge makes a man unfit to be a slave so yes we don’t have physical
be a slave so yes we don’t have physical
be a slave so yes we don’t have physical slavery here in the United States
slavery here in the United States
slavery here in the United States anymore however we have mental slavery
anymore however we have mental slavery
anymore however we have mental slavery so as I explained to you
so as I explained to you
so as I explained to you I run a charter high school the charter
I run a charter high school the charter
I run a charter high school the charter high school that I run clicker the
high school that I run clicker the
high school that I run clicker the charter school the charter high school
charter school the charter high school
charter school the charter high school that I run is comprised of 97%
that I run is comprised of 97%
that I run is comprised of 97% african-american males we have over 87
african-american males we have over 87
african-american males we have over 87 percent poverty we are in all-boys
percent poverty we are in all-boys
percent poverty we are in all-boys school and yet we have a 95 percent
school and yet we have a 95 percent
school and yet we have a 95 percent graduation rate we have a hundred
graduation rate we have a hundred
graduation rate we have a hundred percent acceptance to college and we’ve
percent acceptance to college and we’ve
percent acceptance to college and we’ve had that every year since existence
had that every year since existence
had that every year since existence we’ve been open 10 years and we had last
we’ve been open 10 years and we had last
we’ve been open 10 years and we had last year we had over 6 million almost 7
year we had over 6 million almost 7
year we had over 6 million almost 7 million dollars in scholarship money so
million dollars in scholarship money so
million dollars in scholarship money so why is that what makes us different what
why is that what makes us different what
why is that what makes us different what makes us special well what makes us
makes us special well what makes us
makes us special well what makes us special is that we build the young men
special is that we build the young men
special is that we build the young men from inside out and it’s the systems
from inside out and it’s the systems
from inside out and it’s the systems that we have and then it’s the people
that we have and then it’s the people
that we have and then it’s the people that help pull these systems off so we
that help pull these systems off so we
that help pull these systems off so we couldn’t do it without the good people
couldn’t do it without the good people
couldn’t do it without the good people but we couldn’t do it without the
but we couldn’t do it without the
but we couldn’t do it without the systems either our people have to be
systems either our people have to be
systems either our people have to be resilient and understand the good fight
resilient and understand the good fight
resilient and understand the good fight and understand that there is a history
and understand that there is a history
and understand that there is a history of mental slavery for our boys and we
of mental slavery for our boys and we
of mental slavery for our boys and we have to break that those chains those
have to break that those chains those
have to break that those chains those psychological trains and we work on it
psychological trains and we work on it
psychological trains and we work on it day in and day out and sometimes it
day in and day out and sometimes it
day in and day out and sometimes it takes four years to break that mental
takes four years to break that mental
takes four years to break that mental slavery however we do it through
slavery however we do it through
slavery however we do it through building relationships that’s key that’s
building relationships that’s key that’s
building relationships that’s key that’s first and foremost next it’s our
first and foremost next it’s our
first and foremost next it’s our teaching and learning process third what
teaching and learning process third what
teaching and learning process third what it is is that we must use data to inform
it is is that we must use data to inform
it is is that we must use data to inform our instructional decisions and last but
our instructional decisions and last but
our instructional decisions and last but not least we must hold young men
not least we must hold young men
not least we must hold young men accountable but we must hold ourselves
accountable but we must hold ourselves
accountable but we must hold ourselves accountable so what I’m going to ask
accountable so what I’m going to ask
accountable so what I’m going to ask you to do is to hold yourselves
you to do is to hold yourselves
you to do is to hold yourselves accountable also and think about how you
accountable also and think about how you
accountable also and think about how you can continue to build your mindset and
can continue to build your mindset and
can continue to build your mindset and build your muscles so that if you help
build your muscles so that if you help
build your muscles so that if you help yourself you then can help someone else
yourself you then can help someone else
yourself you then can help someone else so this is part of what we teach our
so this is part of what we teach our
so this is part of what we teach our young men we need to help them learn
young men we need to help them learn
young men we need to help them learn their identity they need to learn who
their identity they need to learn who
their identity they need to learn who they are so they can help someone else
they are so they can help someone else
they are so they can help someone else so they have to be able to take their
so they have to be able to take their
so they have to be able to take their setbacks and turn them into their setups
setbacks and turn them into their setups
setbacks and turn them into their setups they have to take all their excuses and
they have to take all their excuses and
they have to take all their excuses and turn them into their reasons however
turn them into their reasons however
turn them into their reasons however until they learn how to do that it is a
until they learn how to do that it is a
until they learn how to do that it is a difficult process one of the most
difficult process one of the most
difficult process one of the most important things is that they need to
important things is that they need to
important things is that they need to learn that what they think is how they
learn that what they think is how they
learn that what they think is how they act and what they act is how they
act and what they act is how they
act and what they act is how they attract so your thoughts are things has
attract so your thoughts are things has
attract so your thoughts are things has anyone in this room ever had the ability
anyone in this room ever had the ability
anyone in this room ever had the ability to wake up without using an alarm clock
to wake up without using an alarm clock
to wake up without using an alarm clock show of hands anybody so you tell
show of hands anybody so you tell
show of hands anybody so you tell yourself you know what I need to be up
yourself you know what I need to be up
yourself you know what I need to be up at 7:00 and you wake up at 655 and you
at 7:00 and you wake up at 655 and you
at 7:00 and you wake up at 655 and you didn’t set your alarm clock why is that
didn’t set your alarm clock why is that
didn’t set your alarm clock why is that that’s because your mind is a powerful
that’s because your mind is a powerful
that’s because your mind is a powerful thing it’s the biggest muscle that you
thing it’s the biggest muscle that you
thing it’s the biggest muscle that you have it’s the strongest muscle and we
have it’s the strongest muscle and we
have it’s the strongest muscle and we don’t exercise it enough and we have to
don’t exercise it enough and we have to
don’t exercise it enough and we have to work to change our mindset so if you can
work to change our mindset so if you can
work to change our mindset so if you can wake up with an alarm clock even though
wake up with an alarm clock even though
wake up with an alarm clock even though you worked 16-hour day the day before
you worked 16-hour day the day before
you worked 16-hour day the day before and you have to get up and do it again
and you have to get up and do it again
and you have to get up and do it again why can’t you program your mind to do
why can’t you program your mind to do
why can’t you program your mind to do other things and that’s the same thing
other things and that’s the same thing
other things and that’s the same thing with our young men we have to reprogram
with our young men we have to reprogram
with our young men we have to reprogram their thoughts but before we can
their thoughts but before we can
their thoughts but before we can reprogram their thoughts we have to
reprogram their thoughts we have to
reprogram their thoughts we have to understand the mindset that they have
understand the mindset that they have
understand the mindset that they have and so you look back into the 1700s when
and so you look back into the 1700s when
and so you look back into the 1700s when slave makers especially Willie Lynch
slave makers especially Willie Lynch
slave makers especially Willie Lynch decided to make slaves their goal was to
decided to make slaves their goal was to
decided to make slaves their goal was to break the mind and keep the body they
break the mind and keep the body they
break the mind and keep the body they wanted the man to be the worker they
wanted the man to be the worker they
wanted the man to be the worker they wanted to pull them out of the house to
wanted to pull them out of the house to
wanted to pull them out of the house to destroy the family structure and when
destroy the family structure and when
destroy the family structure and when you look at it right now I believe one
you look at it right now I believe one
you look at it right now I believe one in every three households and the black
in every three households and the black
in every three households and the black families are two single parents that’s
families are two single parents that’s
families are two single parents that’s interesting because the man was pulled
interesting because the man was pulled
interesting because the man was pulled out of the household and people say Oh
out of the household and people say Oh
out of the household and people say Oh slavery doesn’t have anything to do with
slavery doesn’t have anything to do with
slavery doesn’t have anything to do with that I would say that’s an absolute lie
that I would say that’s an absolute lie
that I would say that’s an absolute lie look at the systemic
look at the systemic
look at the systemic affects what also happened was our
affects what also happened was our
affects what also happened was our differences were used against us our age
differences were used against us our age
differences were used against us our age our sex our height our color
our sex our height our color
our sex our height our color light-skinned versus dark skin we were
light-skinned versus dark skin we were
light-skinned versus dark skin we were separated we were there was a mistrust
separated we were there was a mistrust
separated we were there was a mistrust created once this mistrust was created
created once this mistrust was created
created once this mistrust was created and we couldn’t trust ourselves who
and we couldn’t trust ourselves who
and we couldn’t trust ourselves who could we trust the person who was
could we trust the person who was
could we trust the person who was enslaving us that mindset carried on and
enslaving us that mindset carried on and
enslaving us that mindset carried on and so the woman became frozen ly
so the woman became frozen ly
so the woman became frozen ly independent where she felt like she
independent where she felt like she
independent where she felt like she didn’t need the black man anymore
didn’t need the black man anymore
didn’t need the black man anymore because he wasn’t there so she had to do
because he wasn’t there so she had to do
because he wasn’t there so she had to do it on her own and when she did it on her
it on her own and when she did it on her
it on her own and when she did it on her own which he ended up doing was raising
own which he ended up doing was raising
own which he ended up doing was raising her daughters and loving her sons what
her daughters and loving her sons what
her daughters and loving her sons what does that mean so she would raise her
does that mean so she would raise her
does that mean so she would raise her daughter to be a strong independent
daughter to be a strong independent
daughter to be a strong independent woman and she would raise her son to be
woman and she would raise her son to be
woman and she would raise her son to be nurtured and mentally weak because if he
nurtured and mentally weak because if he
nurtured and mentally weak because if he was mentally weak he was easily broken
was mentally weak he was easily broken
was mentally weak he was easily broken there she had less chance of losing him
there she had less chance of losing him
there she had less chance of losing him if he was strong physically he would be
if he was strong physically he would be
if he was strong physically he would be able to survive in the fields or
able to survive in the fields or
able to survive in the fields or wherever else so you go up to a young
wherever else so you go up to a young
wherever else so you go up to a young black man and almost any young black man
black man and almost any young black man
black man and almost any young black man learns this from an early age if someone
learns this from an early age if someone
learns this from an early age if someone hits you you hit them back almost any
hits you you hit them back almost any
hits you you hit them back almost any man learns that at an early age some man
man learns that at an early age some man
man learns that at an early age some man goes to you it comes into your face and
goes to you it comes into your face and
goes to you it comes into your face and hits you what are you going to do their
hits you what are you going to do their
hits you what are you going to do their reaction is always I’m gonna hit them
reaction is always I’m gonna hit them
reaction is always I’m gonna hit them back but then you ask them what happens
back but then you ask them what happens
back but then you ask them what happens when life hits you and mentally they’re
when life hits you and mentally they’re
when life hits you and mentally they’re not able to prepare or be able to handle
not able to prepare or be able to handle
not able to prepare or be able to handle that and so it’s about trying to improve
that and so it’s about trying to improve
that and so it’s about trying to improve that mindset and make it stronger by
that mindset and make it stronger by
that mindset and make it stronger by first identifying where they’re at and
first identifying where they’re at and
first identifying where they’re at and where they need to be but this has
where they need to be but this has
where they need to be but this has caused learned helplessness this is
caused learned helplessness this is
caused learned helplessness this is called a situation where they feel like
called a situation where they feel like
called a situation where they feel like anything that’s in front of them and
anything that’s in front of them and
anything that’s in front of them and that’s their small world that they can’t
that’s their small world that they can’t
that’s their small world that they can’t do anything about it and obstacle
do anything about it and obstacle
do anything about it and obstacle happens and they say they’re succumb to
happens and they say they’re succumb to
happens and they say they’re succumb to that obstacle they don’t aren’t mentally
that obstacle they don’t aren’t mentally
that obstacle they don’t aren’t mentally capable at least they don’t think that
capable at least they don’t think that
capable at least they don’t think that they are to go over it around it or
they are to go over it around it or
they are to go over it around it or through it and it beats them so we have
through it and it beats them so we have
through it and it beats them so we have to take this learn helplessness and we
to take this learn helplessness and we
to take this learn helplessness and we have to identify it and we have to know
have to identify it and we have to know
have to identify it and we have to know that it creates a fixed mindset so what
that it creates a fixed mindset so what
that it creates a fixed mindset so what does a fixed mindset a fixed mindset is
does a fixed mindset a fixed mindset is
does a fixed mindset a fixed mindset is when you don’t see beyond what’s in
when you don’t see beyond what’s in
when you don’t see beyond what’s in front of you
front of you
front of you when is it limited to where you are that
when is it limited to where you are that
when is it limited to where you are that you see failure as permanent when you
you see failure as permanent when you
you see failure as permanent when you can’t overcome and you need immediate
can’t overcome and you need immediate
can’t overcome and you need immediate gratification I would argue that this is
gratification I would argue that this is
gratification I would argue that this is the softest generation because it’s just
the softest generation because it’s just
the softest generation because it’s just over time and through technology and
over time and through technology and
over time and through technology and everything just is handed to them where
everything just is handed to them where
everything just is handed to them where they haven’t had to work on top of the
they haven’t had to work on top of the
they haven’t had to work on top of the mindset that they have that they are
mindset that they have that they are
mindset that they have that they are soft mentally not necessarily physically
soft mentally not necessarily physically
soft mentally not necessarily physically but they are entitled so we have to work
but they are entitled so we have to work
but they are entitled so we have to work to change that
to change that
to change that we have to reverse the curse how do we
we have to reverse the curse how do we
we have to reverse the curse how do we do that by identifying the negative
do that by identifying the negative
do that by identifying the negative self-talk so if you identify the
self-talk so if you identify the
self-talk so if you identify the negative self-talk permanence that has
negative self-talk permanence that has
negative self-talk permanence that has to do with time I failed because I’m not
to do with time I failed because I’m not
to do with time I failed because I’m not smart pervasiveness has to do with space
smart pervasiveness has to do with space
smart pervasiveness has to do with space so they might say to themselves I failed
so they might say to themselves I failed
so they might say to themselves I failed because I’m not smart in math and
because I’m not smart in math and
because I’m not smart in math and personalization has to do with character
personalization has to do with character
personalization has to do with character I’m just stupid now
I’m just stupid now
I’m just stupid now whether you’re black white or any color
whether you’re black white or any color
whether you’re black white or any color any race we all have this negative
any race we all have this negative
any race we all have this negative self-talk this happens to all of us but
self-talk this happens to all of us but
self-talk this happens to all of us but it’s how you’re programmed and with the
it’s how you’re programmed and with the
it’s how you’re programmed and with the way you’re programmed to be able to
way you’re programmed to be able to
way you’re programmed to be able to overcome it and nine times out of ten
overcome it and nine times out of ten
overcome it and nine times out of ten it’s not your ability it’s your effort
it’s not your ability it’s your effort
it’s not your ability it’s your effort are you willing to do the work are you
are you willing to do the work are you
are you willing to do the work are you willing to put it in and do what it
willing to put it in and do what it
willing to put it in and do what it takes to help you improve if you’ve
takes to help you improve if you’ve
takes to help you improve if you’ve studied harder you would probably be
studied harder you would probably be
studied harder you would probably be better in math did you know that if you
better in math did you know that if you
better in math did you know that if you spend one more hour a day doing
spend one more hour a day doing
spend one more hour a day doing something it will equal to nine forty
something it will equal to nine forty
something it will equal to nine forty hour weeks in a year you mean to tell me
hour weeks in a year you mean to tell me
hour weeks in a year you mean to tell me that you can’t be great at something
that you can’t be great at something
that you can’t be great at something with nine 40-hour weeks by just giving
with nine 40-hour weeks by just giving
with nine 40-hour weeks by just giving up one more hour turn your Excuse into
up one more hour turn your Excuse into
up one more hour turn your Excuse into your reason but that takes your effort
your reason but that takes your effort
your reason but that takes your effort and so to do that we have to start
and so to do that we have to start
and so to do that we have to start thinking like a champion we have to
thinking like a champion we have to
thinking like a champion we have to think like winners we have to change our
think like winners we have to change our
think like winners we have to change our mindset
mindset
mindset you have to be able to see endless
you have to be able to see endless
you have to be able to see endless possibilities you have to be able to
possibilities you have to be able to
possibilities you have to be able to take a a deadline for a six thousand
take a a deadline for a six thousand
take a a deadline for a six thousand dollar website and you only have six
dollar website and you only have six
dollar website and you only have six hundred dollars and you have to say how
hundred dollars and you have to say how
hundred dollars and you have to say how do I create this six thousand dollar
do I create this six thousand dollar
do I create this six thousand dollar website and make sure that it’s as good
website and make sure that it’s as good
website and make sure that it’s as good if not better without giving up you have
if not better without giving up you have
if not better without giving up you have to lean into your fears because running
to lean into your fears because running
to lean into your fears because running from it won’t save you and it’s about
from it won’t save you and it’s about
from it won’t save you and it’s about progress over perfection it’s about the
progress over perfection it’s about the
progress over perfection it’s about the process it’s about growing and you know
process it’s about growing and you know
process it’s about growing and you know if you have a championship mindset you
if you have a championship mindset you
if you have a championship mindset you see life as a marathon you don’t see it
see life as a marathon you don’t see it
see life as a marathon you don’t see it as a sprint you’re looking for the long
as a sprint you’re looking for the long
as a sprint you’re looking for the long haul but how do you do that well that’s
haul but how do you do that well that’s
haul but how do you do that well that’s why I’m here right so the waggle rule so
why I’m here right so the waggle rule so
why I’m here right so the waggle rule so I kind of adapted this here you need to
I kind of adapted this here you need to
I kind of adapted this here you need to welcome all challenges bring them on you
welcome all challenges bring them on you
welcome all challenges bring them on you got something for me let’s go let’s do
got something for me let’s go let’s do
got something for me let’s go let’s do it I’m not running from it you have to
it I’m not running from it you have to
it I’m not running from it you have to anticipate that there will be obstacles
anticipate that there will be obstacles
anticipate that there will be obstacles it’s not going everything’s not going to
it’s not going everything’s not going to
it’s not going everything’s not going to go smooth your greatness comes from your
go smooth your greatness comes from your
go smooth your greatness comes from your effort you have to appreciate criticism
effort you have to appreciate criticism
effort you have to appreciate criticism you know sometimes it’s hard to hear but
you know sometimes it’s hard to hear but
you know sometimes it’s hard to hear but you need to learn from others and let
you need to learn from others and let
you need to learn from others and let others inspire you others inspire you
others inspire you others inspire you
others inspire you others inspire you when you see someone grinding and
when you see someone grinding and
when you see someone grinding and working hard you know what instead of
working hard you know what instead of
working hard you know what instead of falling back or hating the hey tourism
falling back or hating the hey tourism
falling back or hating the hey tourism leave it alone what you need to do they
leave it alone what you need to do they
leave it alone what you need to do they say you know what I can do that and I’m
say you know what I can do that and I’m
say you know what I can do that and I’m gonna do that as good if not better but
gonna do that as good if not better but
gonna do that as good if not better but I’m gonna do it for myself and I’m gonna
I’m gonna do it for myself and I’m gonna
I’m gonna do it for myself and I’m gonna celebrate you along the way so as I
celebrate you along the way so as I
celebrate you along the way so as I think about this I’m gonna give you all
think about this I’m gonna give you all
think about this I’m gonna give you all an exercise to do so this exercise is
an exercise to do so this exercise is
an exercise to do so this exercise is going to help build your new habits
going to help build your new habits
going to help build your new habits rituals and routines because this
rituals and routines because this
rituals and routines because this doesn’t happen overnight they say it
doesn’t happen overnight they say it
doesn’t happen overnight they say it takes 21 days to build a new habit so it
takes 21 days to build a new habit so it
takes 21 days to build a new habit so it yeah dr. Miller this sounds good sounds
yeah dr. Miller this sounds good sounds
yeah dr. Miller this sounds good sounds good the proof is in the pudding because
good the proof is in the pudding because
good the proof is in the pudding because we’re doing it over four years were able
we’re doing it over four years were able
we’re doing it over four years were able to rebuild young men’s minds
to rebuild young men’s minds
to rebuild young men’s minds I believe graduation rates in New York
I believe graduation rates in New York
I believe graduation rates in New York State has published last four black
State has published last four black
State has published last four black males was 37 percent we graduate 95
males was 37 percent we graduate 95
males was 37 percent we graduate 95 percent of our young men because we’re
percent of our young men because we’re
percent of our young men because we’re rebuilding their mindset it’s not a
rebuilding their mindset it’s not a
rebuilding their mindset it’s not a perfect process but we’re always going
perfect process but we’re always going
perfect process but we’re always going to fight because we have a championship
to fight because we have a championship
to fight because we have a championship mindset and I’m going to give you some
mindset and I’m going to give you some
mindset and I’m going to give you some tidbits on how to improve your mindset
tidbits on how to improve your mindset
tidbits on how to improve your mindset so that you can help someone else so
so that you can help someone else so
so that you can help someone else so something we all do you and think about
something we all do you and think about
something we all do you and think about it you don’t have to answer me but how
it you don’t have to answer me but how
it you don’t have to answer me but how many times have you complained today
many times have you complained today
many times have you complained today about something can I get on your
about something can I get on your
about something can I get on your fingers to hold all the hands of if
fingers to hold all the hands of if
fingers to hold all the hands of if you’ve complained about something can I
you’ve complained about something can I
you’ve complained about something can I get a thumbs up if anyone’s complaining
get a thumbs up if anyone’s complaining
get a thumbs up if anyone’s complaining about something today okay now that I
about something today okay now that I
about something today okay now that I have now that I have your honesty and
have now that I have your honesty and
have now that I have your honesty and those of you who don’t want to put your
those of you who don’t want to put your
those of you who don’t want to put your thumbs up because we’re being recorded a
book called the no complaining rule by
book called the no complaining rule by John Gordon it’s it’s helping you to
John Gordon it’s it’s helping you to
John Gordon it’s it’s helping you to change your mindset and so this is a
change your mindset and so this is a
change your mindset and so this is a good way to establish new habits rituals
good way to establish new habits rituals
good way to establish new habits rituals and routines and make your mind stronger
and routines and make your mind stronger
and routines and make your mind stronger so what I’m gonna ask you to do for 24
so what I’m gonna ask you to do for 24
so what I’m gonna ask you to do for 24 hours quit cold-turkey yes it’s hard
hours quit cold-turkey yes it’s hard
hours quit cold-turkey yes it’s hard it’s difficult see the deep breaths for
it’s difficult see the deep breaths for
it’s difficult see the deep breaths for 24 hours I’m gonna ask you to quit
24 hours I’m gonna ask you to quit
24 hours I’m gonna ask you to quit cold-turkey
cold-turkey
cold-turkey like like you were an alcoholic and you
like like you were an alcoholic and you
like like you were an alcoholic and you can’t have another drink you may not
can’t have another drink you may not
can’t have another drink you may not complain for the 24 hours if you are
complain for the 24 hours if you are
complain for the 24 hours if you are going to agree with me can I get another
going to agree with me can I get another
going to agree with me can I get another thumbs up if you’re willing to try it
thumbs up if you’re willing to try it
thumbs up if you’re willing to try it everyone thank you see I wasn’t sure
everyone thank you see I wasn’t sure
everyone thank you see I wasn’t sure about you in the back there but thank
about you in the back there but thank
about you in the back there but thank you I appreciate it
you I appreciate it
you I appreciate it alright so 24 hours no complaining
alright so 24 hours no complaining
alright so 24 hours no complaining however when that 24 hours is done
however when that 24 hours is done
however when that 24 hours is done you’re going to want to complain again
you’re going to want to complain again
you’re going to want to complain again it will take a and you need to think
it will take a and you need to think
it will take a and you need to think about it’s a process so you want to
about it’s a process so you want to
about it’s a process so you want to think about it in 24 hours and then you
think about it in 24 hours and then you
think about it in 24 hours and then you want to look for a week and then a month
want to look for a week and then a month
want to look for a week and then a month and then a year but complaining is
and then a year but complaining is
and then a year but complaining is natural and normal so when you want to
natural and normal so when you want to
natural and normal so when you want to complain here’s what I’m going to tell
complain here’s what I’m going to tell
complain here’s what I’m going to tell you to do use the word but okay when you
you to do use the word but okay when you
you to do use the word but okay when you use the word but we usually think of it
use the word but we usually think of it
use the word but we usually think of it as a negative conjunction or you’re
as a negative conjunction or you’re
as a negative conjunction or you’re explaining yourself but in this
explaining yourself but in this
explaining yourself but in this situation start to think about things
situation start to think about things
situation start to think about things positively so think about these guys in
positively so think about these guys in
positively so think about these guys in the audience so your your wife or
the audience so your your wife or
the audience so your your wife or significant other made you wait late oh
significant other made you wait late oh
significant other made you wait late oh honey you made us late again what you
honey you made us late again what you
honey you made us late again what you look beautiful today and so I just
look beautiful today and so I just
look beautiful today and so I just thought about it and positive I just
thought about it and positive I just
thought about it and positive I just relished the fact that she looks
relished the fact that she looks
relished the fact that she looks beautiful today and you know what yeah
beautiful today and you know what yeah
beautiful today and you know what yeah we’re a little late but she looks good
we’re a little late but she looks good
we’re a little late but she looks good all right
all right
all right so I’m starting to think about it in a
so I’m starting to think about it in a
so I’m starting to think about it in a positive manner and a positive
positive manner and a positive
positive manner and a positive perspective complaining is normal but it
perspective complaining is normal but it
perspective complaining is normal but it doesn’t have to be your normal so I get
doesn’t have to be your normal so I get
doesn’t have to be your normal so I get all that yeah yeah yeah where you going
all that yeah yeah yeah where you going
all that yeah yeah yeah where you going with this so the next thing that I will
with this so the next thing that I will
with this so the next thing that I will tell you is we need to be more
tell you is we need to be more
tell you is we need to be more appreciative and this is a mindset you
appreciative and this is a mindset you
appreciative and this is a mindset you need to walk around with stop saying I
need to walk around with stop saying I
need to walk around with stop saying I have to do this and think about it as I
have to do this and think about it as I
have to do this and think about it as I get to do this instead of I have to I
get to do this instead of I have to I
get to do this instead of I have to I get to so all I have to go to this TED
get to so all I have to go to this TED
get to so all I have to go to this TED talk today I really didn’t want to be
talk today I really didn’t want to be
talk today I really didn’t want to be here instead of I get to go to this TED
here instead of I get to go to this TED
here instead of I get to go to this TED talk today I get to hear all this new
talk today I get to hear all this new
talk today I get to hear all this new information and people’s brain trust and
information and people’s brain trust and
information and people’s brain trust and wow that was amazing
wow that was amazing
wow that was amazing but you could apply that to almost
but you could apply that to almost
but you could apply that to almost anything because we’re all privileged
anything because we’re all privileged
anything because we’re all privileged there’s people who don’t have food
there’s people who don’t have food
there’s people who don’t have food there’s people who can’t walk who can’t
there’s people who can’t walk who can’t
there’s people who can’t walk who can’t talk who can’t hear who can’t see and
talk who can’t hear who can’t see and
talk who can’t hear who can’t see and they’re still living life so start
they’re still living life so start
they’re still living life so start taking your setbacks and turning them
taking your setbacks and turning them
taking your setbacks and turning them into your setups and if and anytime
into your setups and if and anytime
into your setups and if and anytime there is a complaint because complaining
there is a complaint because complaining
there is a complaint because complaining is still going to happen and we always
is still going to happen and we always
is still going to happen and we always have that friend that complains about
have that friend that complains about
have that friend that complains about everything goodness gracious
everything goodness gracious
everything goodness gracious they’re probably not going to stop
they’re probably not going to stop
they’re probably not going to stop complaining but if you can get them to
complaining but if you can get them to
complaining but if you can get them to start training their brain to think
start training their brain to think
start training their brain to think about things differently and you can
about things differently and you can
about things differently and you can start with yourself you need to turn
start with yourself you need to turn
start with yourself you need to turn your
your
your plates into solutions so when you take
plates into solutions so when you take
plates into solutions so when you take something that you need to do you need
something that you need to do you need
something that you need to do you need to turn it into your solution okay so
to turn it into your solution okay so
to turn it into your solution okay so think about it I’ll run through this so
think about it I’ll run through this so
think about it I’ll run through this so I started off and I use that example cuz
I started off and I use that example cuz
I started off and I use that example cuz I’m not I’m not good at math and and so
I’m not I’m not good at math and and so
I’m not I’m not good at math and and so and I never was really good at math
and I never was really good at math
and I never was really good at math however but if I studied more I would be
however but if I studied more I would be
however but if I studied more I would be more successful at it and I get to do
more successful at it and I get to do
more successful at it and I get to do math because I want to be able to be
math because I want to be able to be
math because I want to be able to be rich one day and I’m gonna need to be
rich one day and I’m gonna need to be
rich one day and I’m gonna need to be able to count my money you know what but
able to count my money you know what but
able to count my money you know what but I need a solution how am I gonna get
I need a solution how am I gonna get
I need a solution how am I gonna get there and if I do an extra two hours of
there and if I do an extra two hours of
there and if I do an extra two hours of studying a day and I set a block of time
studying a day and I set a block of time
studying a day and I set a block of time from five to seven that is my solution
from five to seven that is my solution
from five to seven that is my solution I’m gonna put that effort in and I’m
I’m gonna put that effort in and I’m
I’m gonna put that effort in and I’m going to work hard and I am going to be
going to work hard and I am going to be
going to work hard and I am going to be successful successful at this my mindset
successful successful at this my mindset
successful successful at this my mindset will not allow me to fail and if I fail
will not allow me to fail and if I fail
will not allow me to fail and if I fail I’m gonna fall still fighting then get
I’m gonna fall still fighting then get
I’m gonna fall still fighting then get up and do it again because failure
up and do it again because failure
up and do it again because failure there’s nothing wrong with failure it’s
there’s nothing wrong with failure it’s
there’s nothing wrong with failure it’s very temporary you know what you get up
very temporary you know what you get up
very temporary you know what you get up and you try again but it’s when you
and you try again but it’s when you
and you try again but it’s when you don’t get up and so the process of what
don’t get up and so the process of what
don’t get up and so the process of what I’m trying to get you to do is improve
I’m trying to get you to do is improve
I’m trying to get you to do is improve your mindset as community members as
your mindset as community members as
your mindset as community members as parents as educators so that we can then
parents as educators so that we can then
parents as educators so that we can then in turn help others with their mindset I
in turn help others with their mindset I
in turn help others with their mindset I just so happen to be in a place where I
just so happen to be in a place where I
just so happen to be in a place where I can help improve young men’s mindset and
can help improve young men’s mindset and
can help improve young men’s mindset and so I challenge you to do whatever you
so I challenge you to do whatever you
so I challenge you to do whatever you can improve mindsets and it starts with
can improve mindsets and it starts with
can improve mindsets and it starts with positive affirmations you know what
positive affirmations you know what
positive affirmations you know what positive self-talk let’s reverse the
positive self-talk let’s reverse the
positive self-talk let’s reverse the curse let’s reverse the permanence and
curse let’s reverse the permanence and
curse let’s reverse the permanence and let’s start putting more effort to also
let’s start putting more effort to also
let’s start putting more effort to also increase your ability thank you
increase your ability thank you
increase your ability thank you [Applause]
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