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hi everybody six years ago I launched it

hi everybody six years ago I launched it women up higher in nutrition we had to

women up higher in nutrition we had to

women up higher in nutrition we had to reinvent feminism we add to a fair a

reinvent feminism we add to a fair a

reinvent feminism we add to a fair a fresh look on this hot and crucial topic

fresh look on this hot and crucial topic

fresh look on this hot and crucial topic we had to develop a positive and

we had to develop a positive and

we had to develop a positive and enthusiastic approach to involve the new

enthusiastic approach to involve the new

enthusiastic approach to involve the new generation of men and women six years

generation of men and women six years

generation of men and women six years ago hired an intuition that the

ago hired an intuition that the

ago hired an intuition that the generational questions and the gender

generational questions and the gender

generational questions and the gender issues are linked especially talking

issues are linked especially talking

issues are linked especially talking about gender diversity in the workplace

about gender diversity in the workplace

about gender diversity in the workplace indeed we are very first generation of

indeed we are very first generation of

indeed we are very first generation of young workers who the majority of moms

young workers who the majority of moms

young workers who the majority of moms have worked and we observed that the

have worked and we observed that the

have worked and we observed that the heart of feminist demands meritocracy

heart of feminist demands meritocracy

heart of feminist demands meritocracy flexibility work-life balance are now

flexibility work-life balance are now

flexibility work-life balance are now the very first expectations of the

the very first expectations of the

the very first expectations of the milanese generation in the workplace

milanese generation in the workplace

milanese generation in the workplace that means what he fought for is now

that means what he fought for is now

that means what he fought for is now what we expect I think it’s time to

what we expect I think it’s time to

what we expect I think it’s time to propose a transversal way to appreciate

propose a transversal way to appreciate

propose a transversal way to appreciate gender diversity that breaks silos that

gender diversity that breaks silos that

gender diversity that breaks silos that offers new perspectives but first of all

offers new perspectives but first of all

offers new perspectives but first of all that is disconnected from the

that is disconnected from the

that is disconnected from the traditional feminist ideology based on

traditional feminist ideology based on

traditional feminist ideology based on domination relationship between men and

domination relationship between men and

domination relationship between men and women the story of women up is a story

women the story of women up is a story

women the story of women up is a story of an idea this idea the Jung’s dreams

of an idea this idea the Jung’s dreams

of an idea this idea the Jung’s dreams and projection could leverage a feminist

and projection could leverage a feminist

and projection could leverage a feminist vision of our society because the Jung’s

vision of our society because the Jung’s

vision of our society because the Jung’s dreams and projection design a feminist

dreams and projection design a feminist

dreams and projection design a feminist vision of our society much more equal

vision of our society much more equal

vision of our society much more equal much more inclusive much more balanced

much more inclusive much more balanced

much more inclusive much more balanced but bringing the new generation of men

but bringing the new generation of men

but bringing the new generation of men and women in the intellectual game for

and women in the intellectual game for

and women in the intellectual game for feminism was not easy and to do that we

feminism was not easy and to do that we

feminism was not easy and to do that we have to prove the

have to prove the

have to prove the in between gender issues and

in between gender issues and

in between gender issues and generational aspects is a reason why six

generational aspects is a reason why six

generational aspects is a reason why six years ago we conducted the first

years ago we conducted the first

years ago we conducted the first international survey about gender

international survey about gender

international survey about gender molinos generation and the workplace the

molinos generation and the workplace the

molinos generation and the workplace the name the y revolution and in order to

name the y revolution and in order to

name the y revolution and in order to specifically involve the new generation

specifically involve the new generation

specifically involve the new generation of men one year later we can until a new

of men one year later we can until a new

of men one year later we can until a new survey what do men sink guys on the 30

survey what do men sink guys on the 30

survey what do men sink guys on the 30 60 different countries and very very

60 different countries and very very

60 different countries and very very interesting results when you ask this

interesting results when you ask this

interesting results when you ask this young man

young man

young man how could you describe young women today

how could you describe young women today

how could you describe young women today the answers were amazing unpredictable

the answers were amazing unpredictable

the answers were amazing unpredictable strong powerful and necessary

strong powerful and necessary

strong powerful and necessary forget about kindness and gentle

forget about kindness and gentle

forget about kindness and gentle attitudes but when you ask these men

attitudes but when you ask these men

attitudes but when you ask these men how could you describe yourself the

how could you describe yourself the

how could you describe yourself the answers were dramatically predictable

answers were dramatically predictable

answers were dramatically predictable trustworthy and responsible we can see

trustworthy and responsible we can see

trustworthy and responsible we can see through these results that effeminate is

through these results that effeminate is

through these results that effeminate is in movement reinventing itself with new

in movement reinventing itself with new

in movement reinventing itself with new attributes masculinity stagnates and

attributes masculinity stagnates and

attributes masculinity stagnates and this discrepancy is dangerous this young

this discrepancy is dangerous this young

this discrepancy is dangerous this young men are watching women empowering

men are watching women empowering

men are watching women empowering themselves they are observing this

themselves they are observing this

themselves they are observing this emancipation trend they are

emancipation trend they are

emancipation trend they are understanding that Malala Beyonce Emma

understanding that Malala Beyonce Emma

understanding that Malala Beyonce Emma Watson and so on I know of feminist

Watson and so on I know of feminist

Watson and so on I know of feminist heroes they are realizing that their

heroes they are realizing that their

heroes they are realizing that their girlfriends are superheroes too but they

girlfriends are superheroes too but they

girlfriends are superheroes too but they stay stuck in the old and Static vision

stay stuck in the old and Static vision

stay stuck in the old and Static vision of what is masculinity and this

of what is masculinity and this

of what is masculinity and this discrepancy is dangerous now let’s talk

discrepancy is dangerous now let’s talk

discrepancy is dangerous now let’s talk about today in 2017 and I have a look at

about today in 2017 and I have a look at

about today in 2017 and I have a look at a world to make this statement

a world to make this statement

a world to make this statement women’s rights in many societies around

women’s rights in many societies around

women’s rights in many societies around the world are in danger among the causes

the world are in danger among the causes

the world are in danger among the causes are this setback the return of the

are this setback the return of the

are this setback the return of the infamous patriarchal white man model the

infamous patriarchal white man model the

infamous patriarchal white man model the one that is making its comeback to face

one that is making its comeback to face

one that is making its comeback to face the so called masculinity crisis more

the so called masculinity crisis more

the so called masculinity crisis more than ever

than ever

than ever masculinity seems in the middle of a

masculinity seems in the middle of a

masculinity seems in the middle of a questioning a reconsideration which has

questioning a reconsideration which has

questioning a reconsideration which has become unsafe some men think that

become unsafe some men think that

become unsafe some men think that masculinity should be reinforced in a

masculinity should be reinforced in a

masculinity should be reinforced in a world more and more konkey about women

world more and more konkey about women

world more and more konkey about women but really are with that scary I mean ok

but really are with that scary I mean ok

but really are with that scary I mean ok this mask in this discourse calls out a

this mask in this discourse calls out a

this mask in this discourse calls out a broad image collision of men due to this

broad image collision of men due to this

broad image collision of men due to this great feminine journey

great feminine journey

great feminine journey these men feel insecure they fear for

these men feel insecure they fear for

these men feel insecure they fear for the loss of a masculine identity and the

the loss of a masculine identity and the

the loss of a masculine identity and the disappearance of the dominant position

disappearance of the dominant position

disappearance of the dominant position of men and that’s why they refuse to

of men and that’s why they refuse to

of men and that’s why they refuse to consider the notion of gender and

consider the notion of gender and

consider the notion of gender and cultural constructions as it is

cultural constructions as it is

cultural constructions as it is challenging their conception of virility

challenging their conception of virility

challenging their conception of virility and its kind of true it’s not enough to

and its kind of true it’s not enough to

and its kind of true it’s not enough to have a penis to be considered dominant

have a penis to be considered dominant

have a penis to be considered dominant anymore as women have progressed in

anymore as women have progressed in

anymore as women have progressed in companies and society’s movements are

companies and society’s movements are

companies and society’s movements are rising in the opposite direction we are

rising in the opposite direction we are

rising in the opposite direction we are now dealing with conservative movements

now dealing with conservative movements

now dealing with conservative movements that have grown stronger in recent years

that have grown stronger in recent years

that have grown stronger in recent years which have become professionalized

which have become professionalized

which have become professionalized internationalized and politicized

internationalized and politicized

internationalized and politicized formerly minorities they are today a

formerly minorities they are today a

formerly minorities they are today a powerful voice on the political scene 14

powerful voice on the political scene 14

powerful voice on the political scene 14 oh yes show me the masculinity

oh yes show me the masculinity

oh yes show me the masculinity controversy sparked by a former Google

controversy sparked by a former Google

controversy sparked by a former Google engineer who wrote a 10 page memo

engineer who wrote a 10 page memo

engineer who wrote a 10 page memo criticizing the company’s diversity

criticizing the company’s diversity

criticizing the company’s diversity program saying women lag behind in the

program saying women lag behind in the

program saying women lag behind in the tech world because of their biology the

tech world because of their biology the

tech world because of their biology the man we’re petrified to speak to women

man we’re petrified to speak to women

man we’re petrified to speak to women anymore we may raise other ways you know

anymore we may raise other ways you know

anymore we may raise other ways you know what the women get it better than we do

what the women get it better than we do

what the women get it better than we do folks by they get it better than we do

folks by they get it better than we do

folks by they get it better than we do what fuser feet more akin to newton duma

what fuser feet more akin to newton duma

what fuser feet more akin to newton duma for personnel shouldn’t papa approve in

for personnel shouldn’t papa approve in

for personnel shouldn’t papa approve in a novel tomorrow you believe in

a novel tomorrow you believe in

a novel tomorrow you believe in punishment for abortion yes sir

punishment for abortion yes sir

punishment for abortion yes sir as a principal the answer is that it has

as a principal the answer is that it has

as a principal the answer is that it has to be some form of punishment for the

to be some form of punishment for the

to be some form of punishment for the woman yeah it has to be some form one in

woman yeah it has to be some form one in

woman yeah it has to be some form one in three one in four 25 women are gonna get

three one in four 25 women are gonna get

three one in four 25 women are gonna get sexually assaulted on campus which is

sexually assaulted on campus which is

sexually assaulted on campus which is just nonsense whether it’s the wage gap

just nonsense whether it’s the wage gap

just nonsense whether it’s the wage gap which is nonsense indeed

which is nonsense indeed

which is nonsense indeed so this type of discourse are Israel and

so this type of discourse are Israel and

so this type of discourse are Israel and it was last year and this type of

it was last year and this type of

it was last year and this type of discourse is actually not really new

discourse is actually not really new

discourse is actually not really new each big historical transformation

each big historical transformation

each big historical transformation produces this feeling of Ella’s in a

produces this feeling of Ella’s in a

produces this feeling of Ella’s in a world of deep change as the one we know

world of deep change as the one we know

world of deep change as the one we know the temptation to refer to reassuring

the temptation to refer to reassuring

the temptation to refer to reassuring our model is extremely strong but it was

our model is extremely strong but it was

our model is extremely strong but it was also the case during previous centuries

also the case during previous centuries

also the case during previous centuries for example where people privilege the

for example where people privilege the

for example where people privilege the many nights over the effeminate cultures

many nights over the effeminate cultures

many nights over the effeminate cultures it is driven mostly by the fear of

it is driven mostly by the fear of

it is driven mostly by the fear of weakness impotence and a feeling of not

weakness impotence and a feeling of not

weakness impotence and a feeling of not finding one’s place anymore in a world

finding one’s place anymore in a world

finding one’s place anymore in a world where men have to take more power and

where men have to take more power and

where men have to take more power and think that they have to take more power

think that they have to take more power

think that they have to take more power we must change and everything time has

we must change and everything time has

we must change and everything time has come for a change and this is precisely

come for a change and this is precisely

come for a change and this is precisely because we are a country generation that

because we are a country generation that

because we are a country generation that we are aware of mechanisms of domination

we are aware of mechanisms of domination

we are aware of mechanisms of domination and that we know that they are due to

and that we know that they are due to

and that we know that they are due to systemic structure rather than

systemic structure rather than

systemic structure rather than individuals we must now seek other tools

individuals we must now seek other tools

individuals we must now seek other tools to saw them and we as women also offer a

to saw them and we as women also offer a

to saw them and we as women also offer a part of responsibility in this if we

part of responsibility in this if we

part of responsibility in this if we continue to be our movements accordingly

continue to be our movements accordingly

continue to be our movements accordingly to all others we will continue to convey

to all others we will continue to convey

to all others we will continue to convey this archaic women versus men image

this archaic women versus men image

this archaic women versus men image while the context has changed in the

while the context has changed in the

while the context has changed in the same respect

same respect

same respect if these movements do not integrate

if these movements do not integrate

if these movements do not integrate feminist or gender reasoning they will

feminist or gender reasoning they will

feminist or gender reasoning they will be erasing years of work and progress 15

be erasing years of work and progress 15

be erasing years of work and progress 15 years ago Simone de Beauvoir said no one

years ago Simone de Beauvoir said no one

years ago Simone de Beauvoir said no one is more

is more

is more and aggressive or disdainful towards

and aggressive or disdainful towards

and aggressive or disdainful towards woman than a man worried about his

woman than a man worried about his

woman than a man worried about his virility men’s virility has been the

virility men’s virility has been the

virility men’s virility has been the heart of mutation at measure at every

heart of mutation at measure at every

heart of mutation at measure at every major historical transformation and now

major historical transformation and now

major historical transformation and now it’s much more validity than men’s

it’s much more validity than men’s

it’s much more validity than men’s virility is at easy heart of our

virility is at easy heart of our

virility is at easy heart of our aggression because in 15 years the

aggression because in 15 years the

aggression because in 15 years the concept of virility has totally change

concept of virility has totally change

concept of virility has totally change of substance 15 years ago it was

of substance 15 years ago it was

of substance 15 years ago it was masculine matter nowadays it’s becoming

masculine matter nowadays it’s becoming

masculine matter nowadays it’s becoming a neutral concept as a woman as an

a neutral concept as a woman as an

a neutral concept as a woman as an entrepreneur I feel very ill I think I

entrepreneur I feel very ill I think I

entrepreneur I feel very ill I think I am very maybe you you feel very too and

am very maybe you you feel very too and

am very maybe you you feel very too and as this concept of virality was becoming

as this concept of virality was becoming

as this concept of virality was becoming neutral man were completely disoriented

neutral man were completely disoriented

neutral man were completely disoriented in the masculinity why because since the

in the masculinity why because since the

in the masculinity why because since the diet the domes of days masculinity was

diet the domes of days masculinity was

diet the domes of days masculinity was linked to the reality but since the dawn

linked to the reality but since the dawn

linked to the reality but since the dawn of days masculinity is much more than

of days masculinity is much more than

of days masculinity is much more than variety it has always been much more

variety it has always been much more

variety it has always been much more than that at today it must be much more

than that at today it must be much more

than that at today it must be much more than that because nowadays virility has

than that because nowadays virility has

than that because nowadays virility has a feminine version appropriated by women

a feminine version appropriated by women

a feminine version appropriated by women who feminized masculine codes refuse to

who feminized masculine codes refuse to

who feminized masculine codes refuse to look like men to be leaders and were

look like men to be leaders and were

look like men to be leaders and were nonetheless courageous heroic and

nonetheless courageous heroic and

nonetheless courageous heroic and powerful women who are models admired

powerful women who are models admired

powerful women who are models admired and even fantasized by their fellow man

and even fantasized by their fellow man

and even fantasized by their fellow man who sees them as new equals and

who sees them as new equals and

who sees them as new equals and sometimes as new rivals until today men

sometimes as new rivals until today men

sometimes as new rivals until today men adverse masculinity which is the

adverse masculinity which is the

adverse masculinity which is the biological aspect and virility which is

biological aspect and virility which is

biological aspect and virility which is the social construction actually

the social construction actually

the social construction actually we men on the ad feminity but that was

we men on the ad feminity but that was

we men on the ad feminity but that was before before emancipation before new

before before emancipation before new

before before emancipation before new feminism before this fantastic women’s

feminism before this fantastic women’s

feminism before this fantastic women’s saga that aims at redesigning feminity

saga that aims at redesigning feminity

saga that aims at redesigning feminity in a more complex and subtle way so

in a more complex and subtle way so

in a more complex and subtle way so what’s the result Verity is no longer

what’s the result Verity is no longer

what’s the result Verity is no longer the prerogative of men it is more a

the prerogative of men it is more a

the prerogative of men it is more a matter of world evolution change of

matter of world evolution change of

matter of world evolution change of cultures than a transformation of human

cultures than a transformation of human

cultures than a transformation of human beings itself let’s take one of the

beings itself let’s take one of the

beings itself let’s take one of the three dimensions of domination physical

three dimensions of domination physical

three dimensions of domination physical strength in our civilized industrialized

strength in our civilized industrialized

strength in our civilized industrialized globalized and relatively peaceful world

globalized and relatively peaceful world

globalized and relatively peaceful world the old arrow acquires our lesson is

the old arrow acquires our lesson is

the old arrow acquires our lesson is valued the new field of expression for

valued the new field of expression for

valued the new field of expression for strength now relies on competencies a

strength now relies on competencies a

strength now relies on competencies a field where women have to win their

field where women have to win their

field where women have to win their worth

worth

worth both in terms of degrees physical

both in terms of degrees physical

both in terms of degrees physical capacities our progression within

capacities our progression within

capacities our progression within companies over the years women continue

companies over the years women continue

companies over the years women continue to counter the assumption that skills

to counter the assumption that skills

to counter the assumption that skills are gender related it is exactly the

are gender related it is exactly the

are gender related it is exactly the same concerning the dimension of

same concerning the dimension of

same concerning the dimension of domination it has become today an

domination it has become today an

domination it has become today an economic domination with women building

economic domination with women building

economic domination with women building companies who takes responsibilities who

companies who takes responsibilities who

companies who takes responsibilities who are more and more challenging these

are more and more challenging these

are more and more challenging these relations of power and all the women

relations of power and all the women

relations of power and all the women continue to be paid less than men

continue to be paid less than men

continue to be paid less than men progresses here in 25% of French couple

progresses here in 25% of French couple

progresses here in 25% of French couple women make more money than their male

women make more money than their male

women make more money than their male partners and finally the last dimension

partners and finally the last dimension

partners and finally the last dimension sexual power children of sexual

sexual power children of sexual

sexual power children of sexual liberation the women of 2017 not only

liberation the women of 2017 not only

liberation the women of 2017 not only assume their sexuality but I rather

assume their sexuality but I rather

assume their sexuality but I rather become their sole owners without being

become their sole owners without being

become their sole owners without being on the objects of male desire so several

on the objects of male desire so several

on the objects of male desire so several questions arise his manhood really

questions arise his manhood really

questions arise his manhood really escaping men as women re-appropriating

escaping men as women re-appropriating

escaping men as women re-appropriating themselves the concept of virility does

themselves the concept of virility does

themselves the concept of virility does a form of feminine Verity could finally

a form of feminine Verity could finally

a form of feminine Verity could finally break the relations of

break the relations of

break the relations of it’s very cheerily in decline or in

it’s very cheerily in decline or in

it’s very cheerily in decline or in rebirth and how can we build a gender

rebirth and how can we build a gender

rebirth and how can we build a gender equal worth with men who no longer found

equal worth with men who no longer found

equal worth with men who no longer found a place today and especially in the

a place today and especially in the

a place today and especially in the context of the Weinstein scandal we

context of the Weinstein scandal we

context of the Weinstein scandal we would like to build a bridge to our Zeus

would like to build a bridge to our Zeus

would like to build a bridge to our Zeus man who’s the ladies man who loved

man who’s the ladies man who loved

man who’s the ladies man who loved admire and support the women surrounding

admire and support the women surrounding

admire and support the women surrounding them even if these women are we will

them even if these women are we will

them even if these women are we will especially because these women are

especially because these women are

especially because these women are available because this man have

available because this man have

available because this man have understood that feminine virility isn’t

understood that feminine virility isn’t

understood that feminine virility isn’t returning at all the masculinity because

returning at all the masculinity because

returning at all the masculinity because these men feel much more male surrounded

these men feel much more male surrounded

these men feel much more male surrounded by veer women at women app we are

by veer women at women app we are

by veer women at women app we are absolutely convinced that masculinity

absolutely convinced that masculinity

absolutely convinced that masculinity could be enhanced by feminine virility

could be enhanced by feminine virility

could be enhanced by feminine virility as well as FEM feminine is enhanced by

as well as FEM feminine is enhanced by

as well as FEM feminine is enhanced by masculine blasto mania the guys we are

masculine blasto mania the guys we are

masculine blasto mania the guys we are going to present you in fuchsia gone

going to present you in fuchsia gone

going to present you in fuchsia gone through videos share with us share with

through videos share with us share with

through videos share with us share with you the insights the solutions their

you the insights the solutions their

you the insights the solutions their ideas to create a new definition of

ideas to create a new definition of

ideas to create a new definition of masculinity and virility now adays it is

masculinity and virility now adays it is

masculinity and virility now adays it is by raising our sons in that open-minded

by raising our sons in that open-minded

by raising our sons in that open-minded way that maybe we can change or save the

way that maybe we can change or save the

way that maybe we can change or save the world they will have to redesign

world they will have to redesign

world they will have to redesign virility a virility exalted by the

virility a virility exalted by the

virility a virility exalted by the strength of women and the fragility of

strength of women and the fragility of

strength of women and the fragility of men to women to do it instead of yours

men to women to do it instead of yours

men to women to do it instead of yours and I think it’s like the best way to

and I think it’s like the best way to

and I think it’s like the best way to invest is your own ability is accepting

invest is your own ability is accepting

invest is your own ability is accepting that a woman can do it better than you

that a woman can do it better than you

that a woman can do it better than you it’s our duty as millennial men to have

it’s our duty as millennial men to have

it’s our duty as millennial men to have a great appreciation for what women

a great appreciation for what women

a great appreciation for what women bring and teaching our kids as good men

bring and teaching our kids as good men

bring and teaching our kids as good men yeah of Caring the idea of love I think

yeah of Caring the idea of love I think

yeah of Caring the idea of love I think we have got to show our sons a new

we have got to show our sons a new

we have got to show our sons a new definition of manhood we really have to

definition of manhood we really have to

definition of manhood we really have to show them and model for them how a real

show them and model for them how a real

show them and model for them how a real man is someone who trusts his sisters

man is someone who trusts his sisters

man is someone who trusts his sisters and respects them and wants to be on

and respects them and wants to be on

and respects them and wants to be on their team and it stands up against the

their team and it stands up against the

their team and it stands up against the real bad guys who are the men who want

real bad guys who are the men who want

real bad guys who are the men who want to abuse the women and you Sam is the

to abuse the women and you Sam is the

to abuse the women and you Sam is the first u.s. player to reach a major

first u.s. player to reach a major

first u.s. player to reach a major semi-final since 2009 how would you

semi-final since 2009 how would you

semi-final since 2009 how would you describe them male plug which is human

describe them male plug which is human

describe them male plug which is human word so I would love to try and figure

word so I would love to try and figure

word so I would love to try and figure out how to build a bridge across that

out how to build a bridge across that

out how to build a bridge across that vast ocean of difference between what

vast ocean of difference between what

vast ocean of difference between what men and women actually view as feminism

men and women actually view as feminism

men and women actually view as feminism it’s practice and how to move it into

it’s practice and how to move it into

it’s practice and how to move it into the future in the most positive way that

the future in the most positive way that

the future in the most positive way that it’s not only that men can be feminists

it’s not only that men can be feminists

it’s not only that men can be feminists it’s that men should be feminists as

it’s that men should be feminists as

it’s that men should be feminists as well and I am proud of that

well and I am proud of that

well and I am proud of that I’m absolutely feminist it doesn’t cost

I’m absolutely feminist it doesn’t cost

I’m absolutely feminist it doesn’t cost us anything as men for women to do well

us anything as men for women to do well

us anything as men for women to do well this is what a feminist looks like I do

this is what a feminist looks like I do

this is what a feminist looks like I do call myself

call myself

call myself I’m definitely as much virile as

I’m definitely as much virile as

I’m definitely as much virile as feminist

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