if you have a daughter in high school she’s more likely to consider attempting
she’s more likely to consider attempting
she’s more likely to consider attempting suicide than to suffer from asthma if
suicide than to suffer from asthma if
suicide than to suffer from asthma if you have a family of four or more
you have a family of four or more
you have a family of four or more either you or your family member will
either you or your family member will
either you or your family member will suffer from an anxiety or depressive
suffer from an anxiety or depressive
suffer from an anxiety or depressive disorder at some point and every year in
disorder at some point and every year in
disorder at some point and every year in the US alone more than 10 million people
the US alone more than 10 million people
the US alone more than 10 million people are physically abused by their intimate
are physically abused by their intimate
are physically abused by their intimate partners that means more than 300 people
partners that means more than 300 people
partners that means more than 300 people during this talk we are in the midst of
during this talk we are in the midst of
during this talk we are in the midst of several epidemics how did we get here
several epidemics how did we get here
several epidemics how did we get here and while it’s important to treat the
and while it’s important to treat the
and while it’s important to treat the millions of suffering individuals
millions of suffering individuals
millions of suffering individuals clearly it’s not enough in our pursuit
clearly it’s not enough in our pursuit
clearly it’s not enough in our pursuit of happiness we are missing something
of happiness we are missing something
of happiness we are missing something important and I want to introduce to you
important and I want to introduce to you
important and I want to introduce to you today
today
today one of the powerful missing pieces which
one of the powerful missing pieces which
one of the powerful missing pieces which is compassion and by bad I mean
is compassion and by bad I mean
is compassion and by bad I mean compassion towards ourselves and
compassion towards ourselves and
compassion towards ourselves and compassion towards others I’ve had the
compassion towards others I’ve had the
compassion towards others I’ve had the privilege of caring for a few hundred
privilege of caring for a few hundred
privilege of caring for a few hundred amazing patients every year the stories
amazing patients every year the stories
amazing patients every year the stories I’m going to tell you today are based on
I’m going to tell you today are based on
I’m going to tell you today are based on a few prototypes from having seen
a few prototypes from having seen
a few prototypes from having seen several patients with similar
several patients with similar
several patients with similar presentations so they don’t represent
presentations so they don’t represent
presentations so they don’t represent any one person in particular a few years
any one person in particular a few years
any one person in particular a few years ago on a sunny summer afternoon I was in
ago on a sunny summer afternoon I was in
ago on a sunny summer afternoon I was in a session with a high school student
a session with a high school student
a session with a high school student let’s call her Jane Jane was smart and
let’s call her Jane Jane was smart and
let’s call her Jane Jane was smart and vivacious that day she was telling me
vivacious that day she was telling me
vivacious that day she was telling me that she was getting all A’s at school
that she was getting all A’s at school
that she was getting all A’s at school she was a president of her school’s
she was a president of her school’s
she was a president of her school’s geography Club she had good friends and
geography Club she had good friends and
geography Club she had good friends and a supportive boyfriend her parents were
a supportive boyfriend her parents were
a supportive boyfriend her parents were very proud of her and she had been
very proud of her and she had been
very proud of her and she had been feeling good but all of a sudden she
feeling good but all of a sudden she
feeling good but all of a sudden she started crying I asked her what happened
started crying I asked her what happened
started crying I asked her what happened she paused slowly looked up and said
she paused slowly looked up and said
she paused slowly looked up and said something that was shocking she said
something that was shocking she said
something that was shocking she said that if she didn’t win the geography
that if she didn’t win the geography
that if she didn’t win the geography trivia contest at her school she was
trivia contest at her school she was
trivia contest at her school she was going to kill herself
now suicidal thoughts usually result
now suicidal thoughts usually result from a calm
from a calm
from a calm neck’s interplay of biological and
neck’s interplay of biological and
neck’s interplay of biological and psychosocial factors so I don’t want to
psychosocial factors so I don’t want to
psychosocial factors so I don’t want to simplify this or say that addressing any
simplify this or say that addressing any
simplify this or say that addressing any one factor will make this go away but
one factor will make this go away but
one factor will make this go away but like many suicidal teens Jane was not
like many suicidal teens Jane was not
like many suicidal teens Jane was not viewing herself as the invaluable person
viewing herself as the invaluable person
viewing herself as the invaluable person she was she was beating herself up quite
she was she was beating herself up quite
she was she was beating herself up quite a lot and I started to wonder how did
a lot and I started to wonder how did
a lot and I started to wonder how did grades or performance gain so much
grades or performance gain so much
grades or performance gain so much importance that these things hearted
importance that these things hearted
importance that these things hearted superceding life itself what if Jane had
superceding life itself what if Jane had
superceding life itself what if Jane had learned at school to practice self
learned at school to practice self
learned at school to practice self compassion that day the next patient I
compassion that day the next patient I
compassion that day the next patient I saw was a 10 year old underweight girl
saw was a 10 year old underweight girl
saw was a 10 year old underweight girl amber amber was a sweet girl eager to
amber amber was a sweet girl eager to
amber amber was a sweet girl eager to please everyone she told me how she
please everyone she told me how she
please everyone she told me how she couldn’t eat most foods she had gone
couldn’t eat most foods she had gone
couldn’t eat most foods she had gone through extensive GI testing and
through extensive GI testing and
through extensive GI testing and everything had come out normal so this
everything had come out normal so this
everything had come out normal so this was not because of any problem with her
was not because of any problem with her
was not because of any problem with her GI tract this was because whenever she
GI tract this was because whenever she
GI tract this was because whenever she saw herself in the mirror she saw fat
saw herself in the mirror she saw fat
saw herself in the mirror she saw fat hanging from her body
hanging from her body
hanging from her body there was no fat hanging from her body
there was no fat hanging from her body
there was no fat hanging from her body she was underweight she denied any
she was underweight she denied any
she was underweight she denied any depressive symptoms so did her parents
depressive symptoms so did her parents
depressive symptoms so did her parents but most of the time she worried that
but most of the time she worried that
but most of the time she worried that she wasn’t good enough do you know that
she wasn’t good enough do you know that
she wasn’t good enough do you know that 7 out of 10 girls believe that they are
7 out of 10 girls believe that they are
7 out of 10 girls believe that they are not good enough and how many of you
not good enough and how many of you
not good enough and how many of you worry about fat when you look at
worry about fat when you look at
worry about fat when you look at yourself in the mirror
yourself in the mirror
yourself in the mirror imagine being 10 and feeling this way so
imagine being 10 and feeling this way so
imagine being 10 and feeling this way so every day at my clinic presented with
every day at my clinic presented with
every day at my clinic presented with the same theme most patients whether age
the same theme most patients whether age
the same theme most patients whether age 7 or aged 77 whether suffering from
7 or aged 77 whether suffering from
7 or aged 77 whether suffering from depression anxiety disorders eating
depression anxiety disorders eating
depression anxiety disorders eating disorders OCD PTSD even when these
disorders OCD PTSD even when these
disorders OCD PTSD even when these conditions were in remission were having
conditions were in remission were having
conditions were in remission were having a really hard time being compassionate
a really hard time being compassionate
a really hard time being compassionate to themselves and this lack of self
to themselves and this lack of self
to themselves and this lack of self compassion wasn’t only restricted to
compassion wasn’t only restricted to
compassion wasn’t only restricted to patients the other day I went to a
patients the other day I went to a
patients the other day I went to a social gathering and when psychiatrists
social gathering and when psychiatrists
social gathering and when psychiatrists go to social events one of two things
go to social events one of two things
go to social events one of two things happens people either really want to
happens people either really want to
happens people either really want to talk to us or they really don’t want to
talk to us or they really don’t want to
talk to us or they really don’t want to talk to us
talk to us
talk to us and someone usually says you must be
and someone usually says you must be
and someone usually says you must be psychoanalyzing me so at one of these
psychoanalyzing me so at one of these
psychoanalyzing me so at one of these events I ran into a friend she looked
events I ran into a friend she looked
events I ran into a friend she looked radiant so I gave her a compliment I
radiant so I gave her a compliment I
radiant so I gave her a compliment I said your skin looks beautiful and she
said your skin looks beautiful and she
said your skin looks beautiful and she replied I hate my skin it’s flabby I was
replied I hate my skin it’s flabby I was
replied I hate my skin it’s flabby I was taken aback here I was genuinely
taken aback here I was genuinely
taken aback here I was genuinely complimenting her and she couldn’t
complimenting her and she couldn’t
complimenting her and she couldn’t believe it so I did the most natural
believe it so I did the most natural
believe it so I did the most natural thing anyone would do in that
thing anyone would do in that
thing anyone would do in that circumstance I checked my own skin to
circumstance I checked my own skin to
circumstance I checked my own skin to see whether it was flabby or not right
this constant pursuit of perfection in
this constant pursuit of perfection in every sphere of life is not helping this
every sphere of life is not helping this
every sphere of life is not helping this epidemic of lack of self compassion we
epidemic of lack of self compassion we
epidemic of lack of self compassion we want perfect hair a perfect body perfect
want perfect hair a perfect body perfect
want perfect hair a perfect body perfect grades perfect house perfect clothes the
grades perfect house perfect clothes the
grades perfect house perfect clothes the list goes on but perfection is an
list goes on but perfection is an
list goes on but perfection is an imperfect concept when we chase
imperfect concept when we chase
imperfect concept when we chase perfection and fall short we fault
perfection and fall short we fault
perfection and fall short we fault ourselves then we feel low is it
ourselves then we feel low is it
ourselves then we feel low is it surprising then that so many people are
surprising then that so many people are
surprising then that so many people are struggling to feel good despite the fact
struggling to feel good despite the fact
struggling to feel good despite the fact that we have the most modern
that we have the most modern
that we have the most modern technologies at our fingertips at
technologies at our fingertips at
technologies at our fingertips at another social event I ran into the
another social event I ran into the
another social event I ran into the smart young woman she always looked so
smart young woman she always looked so
smart young woman she always looked so gorgeous as if she just stepped out of a
gorgeous as if she just stepped out of a
gorgeous as if she just stepped out of a magazine cover so I said to her you look
magazine cover so I said to her you look
magazine cover so I said to her you look amazing and she said really I’ve always
amazing and she said really I’ve always
amazing and she said really I’ve always thought my face looks like a cabbage a
you mean the vegetable I had never heard
you mean the vegetable I had never heard of faces being assessed using a
of faces being assessed using a
of faces being assessed using a vegetable scale but I started to wonder
vegetable scale but I started to wonder
vegetable scale but I started to wonder which vegetable my face would look like
potato eggplant bell pepper have you
potato eggplant bell pepper have you noticed this we expect compassion from
noticed this we expect compassion from
noticed this we expect compassion from our family or friends or colleagues our
our family or friends or colleagues our
our family or friends or colleagues our bosses we are very upset when any of
bosses we are very upset when any of
bosses we are very upset when any of these people says anything critical to
these people says anything critical to
these people says anything critical to us aren’t we
us aren’t we
us aren’t we but when it comes to treating ourselves
but when it comes to treating ourselves
but when it comes to treating ourselves what do we do we give ourselves a
what do we do we give ourselves a
what do we do we give ourselves a beating so while many treatments for
beating so while many treatments for
beating so while many treatments for depression anxiety disorders eating
depression anxiety disorders eating
depression anxiety disorders eating disorders OCD PTSD and other psychiatric
disorders OCD PTSD and other psychiatric
disorders OCD PTSD and other psychiatric conditions need to be medication based
conditions need to be medication based
conditions need to be medication based or biological or therapy based and we
or biological or therapy based and we
or biological or therapy based and we need to use all the tools we have to
need to use all the tools we have to
need to use all the tools we have to address these impairing conditions but
address these impairing conditions but
address these impairing conditions but we can’t fully resolve these without
we can’t fully resolve these without
we can’t fully resolve these without addressing this common underlying theme
addressing this common underlying theme
addressing this common underlying theme the lack of self compassion so we are
the lack of self compassion so we are
the lack of self compassion so we are teaching kids extensive details of
teaching kids extensive details of
teaching kids extensive details of geography history math all of which are
geography history math all of which are
geography history math all of which are valuable and I remember and use them
valuable and I remember and use them
valuable and I remember and use them every day no I don’t but why are we not
every day no I don’t but why are we not
every day no I don’t but why are we not teaching kids self compassion at school
teaching kids self compassion at school
teaching kids self compassion at school and what is self compassion anyway self
and what is self compassion anyway self
and what is self compassion anyway self compassion means a non-judgmental
compassion means a non-judgmental
compassion means a non-judgmental acceptance of self while being aware of
acceptance of self while being aware of
acceptance of self while being aware of our shortcomings
our shortcomings
our shortcomings research shows that self compassion can
research shows that self compassion can
research shows that self compassion can improve motivation mastery of goals and
improve motivation mastery of goals and
improve motivation mastery of goals and even life satisfaction self compassion
even life satisfaction self compassion
even life satisfaction self compassion training can even help people accept
training can even help people accept
training can even help people accept responsibility for failures how often
responsibility for failures how often
responsibility for failures how often does that happen
does that happen
does that happen with less negative emotion so teachers
with less negative emotion so teachers
with less negative emotion so teachers if you want your students to accept your
if you want your students to accept your
if you want your students to accept your constructive feedback well get them to
constructive feedback well get them to
constructive feedback well get them to practice self compassion first coming
practice self compassion first coming
practice self compassion first coming back to Jane our high school student who
back to Jane our high school student who
back to Jane our high school student who was thinking of killing herself with the
was thinking of killing herself with the
was thinking of killing herself with the help of intensive therapy she learned to
help of intensive therapy she learned to
help of intensive therapy she learned to practice compared
practice compared
practice compared towards herself gradually she realize
towards herself gradually she realize
towards herself gradually she realize that crates were only a part of her
that crates were only a part of her
that crates were only a part of her experience grades weren’t her she
experience grades weren’t her she
experience grades weren’t her she started valuing and accepting herself as
started valuing and accepting herself as
started valuing and accepting herself as a human being regardless of her
a human being regardless of her
a human being regardless of her performance so after all this talk about
performance so after all this talk about
performance so after all this talk about compassion let’s talk a little bit about
compassion let’s talk a little bit about
compassion let’s talk a little bit about what compassion is I’ll tell you a
what compassion is I’ll tell you a
what compassion is I’ll tell you a little story about it when I was age
little story about it when I was age
little story about it when I was age five I used to spend a lot of time with
five I used to spend a lot of time with
five I used to spend a lot of time with my beloved now departed grandmother in
my beloved now departed grandmother in
my beloved now departed grandmother in India I noticed that she would go to the
India I noticed that she would go to the
India I noticed that she would go to the terrace every morning and every
terrace every morning and every
terrace every morning and every afternoon she would go out somewhere one
afternoon she would go out somewhere one
afternoon she would go out somewhere one day I decided to follow her what I found
day I decided to follow her what I found
day I decided to follow her what I found was interesting that she was spreading
was interesting that she was spreading
was interesting that she was spreading grains for birds on the terrace every
grains for birds on the terrace every
grains for birds on the terrace every morning and every afternoon she would go
morning and every afternoon she would go
morning and every afternoon she would go give the cows and dogs in the
give the cows and dogs in the
give the cows and dogs in the neighborhood some bread she had quote I
neighborhood some bread she had quote I
neighborhood some bread she had quote I asked her if the cows were able to
asked her if the cows were able to
asked her if the cows were able to appreciate the taste of her cooking she
appreciate the taste of her cooking she
appreciate the taste of her cooking she replied that there is nobody to care for
replied that there is nobody to care for
replied that there is nobody to care for these cows these dogs and these birds
these cows these dogs and these birds
these cows these dogs and these birds they need someone to care for them I
they need someone to care for them I
they need someone to care for them I noticed that the cow did look lonely
noticed that the cow did look lonely
noticed that the cow did look lonely compassion means noticing someone’s
compassion means noticing someone’s
compassion means noticing someone’s suffering with a strong desire to
suffering with a strong desire to
suffering with a strong desire to relieve that suffering even 1.5 million
relieve that suffering even 1.5 million
relieve that suffering even 1.5 million years ago great apes and early humans
years ago great apes and early humans
years ago great apes and early humans showed signs of compassionate behavior
showed signs of compassionate behavior
showed signs of compassionate behavior chimpanzees would hug the chimpanzee
chimpanzees would hug the chimpanzee
chimpanzees would hug the chimpanzee that lost in a fight so we were born to
that lost in a fight so we were born to
that lost in a fight so we were born to be compassionate and do you know that
be compassionate and do you know that
be compassionate and do you know that compassion can alter neural wiring in E
compassion can alter neural wiring in E
compassion can alter neural wiring in E even in adult brains so let me tell you
even in adult brains so let me tell you
even in adult brains so let me tell you a few stories about the other side of
a few stories about the other side of
a few stories about the other side of compassion which is compassion towards
compassion which is compassion towards
compassion which is compassion towards others one day a depressed pregnant
others one day a depressed pregnant
others one day a depressed pregnant woman came to see me for treatment she
woman came to see me for treatment she
woman came to see me for treatment she had two young children her husband was
had two young children her husband was
had two young children her husband was having an affair her boss was yelling at
having an affair her boss was yelling at
having an affair her boss was yelling at her at her minimum wage job imagine this
her at her minimum wage job imagine this
her at her minimum wage job imagine this lady eight months pregnant dragging
lady eight months pregnant dragging
lady eight months pregnant dragging herself to work every day having panic
herself to work every day having panic
herself to work every day having panic attacks when she reach work afraid that
attacks when she reach work afraid that
attacks when she reach work afraid that she’d get fired if she took more time
she’d get fired if she took more time
she’d get fired if she took more time off
off
off her young family depended on her job but
her young family depended on her job but
her young family depended on her job but every day she would hear from her
every day she would hear from her
every day she would hear from her husband why was she making a big deal
husband why was she making a big deal
husband why was she making a big deal out of all this she had a serious
out of all this she had a serious
out of all this she had a serious medical condition on top of her
medical condition on top of her
medical condition on top of her pregnancy to be compassionate to her
pregnancy to be compassionate to her
pregnancy to be compassionate to her husband he was probably feeling
husband he was probably feeling
husband he was probably feeling overwhelmed himself but despite working
overwhelmed himself but despite working
overwhelmed himself but despite working every waking minute she started feeling
every waking minute she started feeling
every waking minute she started feeling like she wasn’t being a good mom or a
like she wasn’t being a good mom or a
like she wasn’t being a good mom or a good wife or a good employee she started
good wife or a good employee she started
good wife or a good employee she started having thoughts of wishing she were dead
having thoughts of wishing she were dead
having thoughts of wishing she were dead but she didn’t want to act on these
but she didn’t want to act on these
but she didn’t want to act on these thoughts she wanted to be there for her
thoughts she wanted to be there for her
thoughts she wanted to be there for her children on another day I saw a
children on another day I saw a
children on another day I saw a middle-aged corporate lawyer he was
middle-aged corporate lawyer he was
middle-aged corporate lawyer he was struggling with panic attacks as his
struggling with panic attacks as his
struggling with panic attacks as his client for frequently yell at him to
client for frequently yell at him to
client for frequently yell at him to produce large amounts of work at short
produce large amounts of work at short
produce large amounts of work at short notice he started feeling like a failure
notice he started feeling like a failure
notice he started feeling like a failure because he couldn’t provide as well for
because he couldn’t provide as well for
because he couldn’t provide as well for his wife and his kids on another day I
his wife and his kids on another day I
his wife and his kids on another day I saw nine-year-old boy he said that he
saw nine-year-old boy he said that he
saw nine-year-old boy he said that he wasn’t feeling good enough because he
wasn’t feeling good enough because he
wasn’t feeling good enough because he was struggling with math and it was
was struggling with math and it was
was struggling with math and it was really hard for him to get past his
really hard for him to get past his
really hard for him to get past his belief of not being good enough because
belief of not being good enough because
belief of not being good enough because he was constantly hearing from his
he was constantly hearing from his
he was constantly hearing from his parents and teachers that he was lagging
parents and teachers that he was lagging
parents and teachers that he was lagging behind he started feeling down he
behind he started feeling down he
behind he started feeling down he started becoming quiet and he started
started becoming quiet and he started
started becoming quiet and he started losing interest in his favorite
losing interest in his favorite
losing interest in his favorite activities now why did I tell you these
activities now why did I tell you these
activities now why did I tell you these three stories because I want you to
three stories because I want you to
three stories because I want you to imagine how this pregnant woman this
imagine how this pregnant woman this
imagine how this pregnant woman this middle-aged lawyer and this
middle-aged lawyer and this
middle-aged lawyer and this nine-year-old might have felt
nine-year-old might have felt
nine-year-old might have felt differently if they had received more
differently if they had received more
differently if they had received more compassion from people around them what
compassion from people around them what
compassion from people around them what if this pregnant woman’s husband had
if this pregnant woman’s husband had
if this pregnant woman’s husband had said to her I know this is really hard
said to her I know this is really hard
said to her I know this is really hard for you I’ll be there what if the
for you I’ll be there what if the
for you I’ll be there what if the parents and teachers of this
parents and teachers of this
parents and teachers of this nine-year-old had focused on the things
nine-year-old had focused on the things
nine-year-old had focused on the things he was good at such as reading an art
he was good at such as reading an art
he was good at such as reading an art self compassion and compassion towards
self compassion and compassion towards
self compassion and compassion towards others are closely intertwined when
others are closely intertwined when
others are closely intertwined when children start believing that they are
children start believing that they are
children start believing that they are not good enough they can turn to
not good enough they can turn to
not good enough they can turn to bullying in an unconscious attempt to
bullying in an unconscious attempt to
bullying in an unconscious attempt to make themselves look better every middle
make themselves look better every middle
make themselves look better every middle school or high schooler I have seen has
school or high schooler I have seen has
school or high schooler I have seen has been bullied at some point and you can
been bullied at some point and you can
been bullied at some point and you can think about the last one week in your
think about the last one week in your
think about the last one week in your life you may have
life you may have
life you may have road rage or when you turned on the news
road rage or when you turned on the news
road rage or when you turned on the news maybe you heard of some violent event
maybe you heard of some violent event
maybe you heard of some violent event I’m not saying that there is no
I’m not saying that there is no
I’m not saying that there is no compassion in the world right now we do
compassion in the world right now we do
compassion in the world right now we do hear amazing stories about compassion
hear amazing stories about compassion
hear amazing stories about compassion all the time but what I am saying is
all the time but what I am saying is
all the time but what I am saying is that we are entire need of more
that we are entire need of more
that we are entire need of more compassion without compassion towards
compassion without compassion towards
compassion without compassion towards others the world cannot survive and
others the world cannot survive and
others the world cannot survive and without compassion towards ourselves a
without compassion towards ourselves a
without compassion towards ourselves a reservoir of compassion towards others
reservoir of compassion towards others
reservoir of compassion towards others gets drained very quickly so how
gets drained very quickly so how
gets drained very quickly so how powerful would it be if every child
powerful would it be if every child
powerful would it be if every child learnt at school to practice compassion
learnt at school to practice compassion
learnt at school to practice compassion the same way every child learns to read
the same way every child learns to read
the same way every child learns to read or write we now know that compassion
or write we now know that compassion
or write we now know that compassion training decreases anger decreases
training decreases anger decreases
training decreases anger decreases depression and anxiety improves
depression and anxiety improves
depression and anxiety improves pro-social behavior and improves ability
pro-social behavior and improves ability
pro-social behavior and improves ability to cope wouldn’t it make sense to teach
to cope wouldn’t it make sense to teach
to cope wouldn’t it make sense to teach something that improves all aspects of
something that improves all aspects of
something that improves all aspects of emotional health like compassion does we
emotional health like compassion does we
emotional health like compassion does we all have an inner child longing to feel
all have an inner child longing to feel
all have an inner child longing to feel understood accepted and loved we often
understood accepted and loved we often
understood accepted and loved we often expect this love or acceptance to come
expect this love or acceptance to come
expect this love or acceptance to come from others but we haven’t learned to
from others but we haven’t learned to
from others but we haven’t learned to give this child our own acceptance let’s
give this child our own acceptance let’s
give this child our own acceptance let’s do this little exercise this exercise is
do this little exercise this exercise is
do this little exercise this exercise is often practiced by compassion focused
often practiced by compassion focused
often practiced by compassion focused therapist it’s going to be relaxing for
therapist it’s going to be relaxing for
therapist it’s going to be relaxing for me if you like close your eyes now think
me if you like close your eyes now think
me if you like close your eyes now think of yourself at age five think of this
of yourself at age five think of this
of yourself at age five think of this five-year-old child standing in front of
five-year-old child standing in front of
five-year-old child standing in front of you think of an incident in the last one
you think of an incident in the last one
you think of an incident in the last one week where you beat yourself up about
week where you beat yourself up about
week where you beat yourself up about something or where you were
something or where you were
something or where you were self-critical imagine this five-year-old
self-critical imagine this five-year-old
self-critical imagine this five-year-old child experiencing that criticism and
child experiencing that criticism and
child experiencing that criticism and feeling miserable because of it what
feeling miserable because of it what
feeling miserable because of it what would you say to this child you can open
would you say to this child you can open
would you say to this child you can open your eyes did any of you feel like
your eyes did any of you feel like
your eyes did any of you feel like telling this child you’re stupid you
telling this child you’re stupid you
telling this child you’re stupid you made a huge mistake I doubt it many of
made a huge mistake I doubt it many of
made a huge mistake I doubt it many of you may have felt like giving this child
you may have felt like giving this child
you may have felt like giving this child reassurance or giving this
reassurance or giving this
reassurance or giving this hugg when our inner child feels
hugg when our inner child feels
hugg when our inner child feels invalidated or is suffering we will see
invalidated or is suffering we will see
invalidated or is suffering we will see the effects of this invalidation seep on
the effects of this invalidation seep on
the effects of this invalidation seep on to our outside world but compassion
to our outside world but compassion
to our outside world but compassion allows us to move ahead it allows us to
allows us to move ahead it allows us to
allows us to move ahead it allows us to fully realize our potential it allows us
fully realize our potential it allows us
fully realize our potential it allows us to get past this suffering when I see
to get past this suffering when I see
to get past this suffering when I see patients the most common reason they
patients the most common reason they
patients the most common reason they come back to see me is not because I
come back to see me is not because I
come back to see me is not because I give them a certain medication or a
give them a certain medication or a
give them a certain medication or a unique intervention that can’t be found
unique intervention that can’t be found
unique intervention that can’t be found anywhere else it is because they know
anywhere else it is because they know
anywhere else it is because they know that I will be there through their pain
that I will be there through their pain
that I will be there through their pain through the silence through the
through the silence through the
through the silence through the suffering through the disappointments
suffering through the disappointments
suffering through the disappointments through the victories through their
through the victories through their
through the victories through their journey they can sense my deep wish that
journey they can sense my deep wish that
journey they can sense my deep wish that they heal and recover and you my friends
they heal and recover and you my friends
they heal and recover and you my friends deserve your own compassion you deserve
deserve your own compassion you deserve
deserve your own compassion you deserve your own acceptance grades performance
your own acceptance grades performance
your own acceptance grades performance or appearance cannot define you
or appearance cannot define you
or appearance cannot define you you’re already precious just by virtue
you’re already precious just by virtue
you’re already precious just by virtue of being a human being
of being a human being
of being a human being the main limiting factor in your pursuit
the main limiting factor in your pursuit
the main limiting factor in your pursuit of happiness is going to be whether you
of happiness is going to be whether you
of happiness is going to be whether you treat yourself with love or whether you
treat yourself with love or whether you
treat yourself with love or whether you beat yourself up compassion will play a
beat yourself up compassion will play a
beat yourself up compassion will play a key role in how happy and peaceful you
key role in how happy and peaceful you
key role in how happy and peaceful you feel and if you want to stop these
feel and if you want to stop these
feel and if you want to stop these epidemics of abuse violence bullying
epidemics of abuse violence bullying
epidemics of abuse violence bullying from taking over you need to start
from taking over you need to start
from taking over you need to start acting now we can’t afford to lose more
acting now we can’t afford to lose more
acting now we can’t afford to lose more time my favorite prescription is a dose
time my favorite prescription is a dose
time my favorite prescription is a dose of compassion three times daily because
of compassion three times daily because
of compassion three times daily because every child every human being every
every child every human being every
every child every human being every living being deserves compassion and
living being deserves compassion and
living being deserves compassion and every child deserves to learn compassion
every child deserves to learn compassion
every child deserves to learn compassion that is the way to spread happiness in
that is the way to spread happiness in
that is the way to spread happiness in this world and that’s what makes this an
this world and that’s what makes this an
this world and that’s what makes this an idea worth spreading thank you
idea worth spreading thank you
idea worth spreading thank you [Applause]
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