good evening everyone as a young boy I was always very conflicted with how I
was always very conflicted with how I
was always very conflicted with how I should express myself our society tends
should express myself our society tends
should express myself our society tends to foster a hyper masculine mindset that
to foster a hyper masculine mindset that
to foster a hyper masculine mindset that tends to place boys in one box and girls
tends to place boys in one box and girls
tends to place boys in one box and girls in another box I’ve always found that
in another box I’ve always found that
in another box I’ve always found that rather limiting considering I’ve always
rather limiting considering I’ve always
rather limiting considering I’ve always rejoiced from the way that women have
rejoiced from the way that women have
rejoiced from the way that women have expressed strength through their
expressed strength through their
expressed strength through their feminine nature throughout history
feminine nature throughout history
feminine nature throughout history there’s been this belief that men and
there’s been this belief that men and
there’s been this belief that men and women are fundamentally different
women are fundamentally different
women are fundamentally different creatures but let’s get one thing
creatures but let’s get one thing
creatures but let’s get one thing straight
straight
straight sex is a biological term it refers to
sex is a biological term it refers to
sex is a biological term it refers to which chromosomes you were born with two
which chromosomes you were born with two
which chromosomes you were born with two x’s is female XY is male gender is a
x’s is female XY is male gender is a
x’s is female XY is male gender is a social construct for the most part this
social construct for the most part this
social construct for the most part this is constant expressions of masculinity
is constant expressions of masculinity
is constant expressions of masculinity and femininity and there’s on earth they
and femininity and there’s on earth they
and femininity and there’s on earth they are on a spectrum so they can overlap
are on a spectrum so they can overlap
are on a spectrum so they can overlap and actually men and women are more
and actually men and women are more
and actually men and women are more similar than they are it’s different
similar than they are it’s different
similar than they are it’s different expressing femininity does not make me
expressing femininity does not make me
expressing femininity does not make me less of a man especially because I
less of a man especially because I
less of a man especially because I believe masculinity is not the opposite
believe masculinity is not the opposite
believe masculinity is not the opposite of femininity there are two mindsets
of femininity there are two mindsets
of femininity there are two mindsets that allow you to access what it means
that allow you to access what it means
that allow you to access what it means to be a whole human being as opposed to
to be a whole human being as opposed to
to be a whole human being as opposed to the best man or best woman as I add
the best man or best woman as I add
the best man or best woman as I add versatility endure non-conforming
versatility endure non-conforming
versatility endure non-conforming communities is experiencing at this
communities is experiencing at this
communities is experiencing at this moment I find it’s my responsibility to
moment I find it’s my responsibility to
moment I find it’s my responsibility to stand as a positive affirmation of what
stand as a positive affirmation of what
stand as a positive affirmation of what it means to amplify your masculinity
it means to amplify your masculinity
it means to amplify your masculinity through women’s wear and what the range
through women’s wear and what the range
through women’s wear and what the range of gender expression can be in our world
of gender expression can be in our world
of gender expression can be in our world gender is what you make of it and I
gender is what you make of it and I
gender is what you make of it and I refuse to let anyone tell me who I
refuse to let anyone tell me who I
refuse to let anyone tell me who I should be or wash that so my view in my
should be or wash that so my view in my
should be or wash that so my view in my fashion
fashion
fashion I see fashion or clothes as a way to
I see fashion or clothes as a way to
I see fashion or clothes as a way to reach a higher level of who we are and
reach a higher level of who we are and
reach a higher level of who we are and regardless of how you express your
regardless of how you express your
regardless of how you express your gender I think it is a powerful way to
gender I think it is a powerful way to
gender I think it is a powerful way to express your joy and what
express your joy and what
express your joy and what that is within so people tend to ask me
that is within so people tend to ask me
that is within so people tend to ask me how do I exude such great style so I
how do I exude such great style so I
how do I exude such great style so I want to I want to explore that question
want to I want to explore that question
want to I want to explore that question and answer that in a logical and
and answer that in a logical and
and answer that in a logical and intellectual way so that we can all have
intellectual way so that we can all have
intellectual way so that we can all have great style so I’ve boiled my answer to
great style so I’ve boiled my answer to
great style so I’ve boiled my answer to this question down to five steps okay
this question down to five steps okay
this question down to five steps okay and for the most part I will tell you
and for the most part I will tell you
and for the most part I will tell you that this is even though I stand up here
that this is even though I stand up here
that this is even though I stand up here giving you my prescription to style and
giving you my prescription to style and
giving you my prescription to style and they may seem easy it actually is a hard
they may seem easy it actually is a hard
they may seem easy it actually is a hard task because it has to deal a lot with
task because it has to deal a lot with
task because it has to deal a lot with self-reflection a lot of soul-searching
self-reflection a lot of soul-searching
self-reflection a lot of soul-searching and discernment but it’s an effort that
and discernment but it’s an effort that
and discernment but it’s an effort that I think that we all need to make because
I think that we all need to make because
I think that we all need to make because it’ll definitely pay dividends long into
it’ll definitely pay dividends long into
it’ll definitely pay dividends long into you know our lives so step one think
you know our lives so step one think
you know our lives so step one think about your favorite characters that you
about your favorite characters that you
about your favorite characters that you admire the most on the screen you can
admire the most on the screen you can
admire the most on the screen you can see these are my favorite characters
see these are my favorite characters
see these are my favorite characters your characters can be non fictional or
your characters can be non fictional or
your characters can be non fictional or fictional it could be famous or not
fictional it could be famous or not
fictional it could be famous or not famous they can be a family member an
famous they can be a family member an
famous they can be a family member an animal an inanimate object the thing is
animal an inanimate object the thing is
animal an inanimate object the thing is you want to think about who you want to
you want to think about who you want to
you want to think about who you want to be and who is the person that you would
be and who is the person that you would
be and who is the person that you would want to be for any reason and that’s who
want to be for any reason and that’s who
want to be for any reason and that’s who you should choose that your favorite
you should choose that your favorite
you should choose that your favorite person that you admire you want to
person that you admire you want to
person that you admire you want to identify key themes and how you think
identify key themes and how you think
identify key themes and how you think and how you want to interact with your
and how you want to interact with your
and how you want to interact with your world so be truthful and honest about
world so be truthful and honest about
world so be truthful and honest about who it is that you find yourself finding
who it is that you find yourself finding
who it is that you find yourself finding most attractive and endearing so moving
most attractive and endearing so moving
most attractive and endearing so moving into step two we want to make sure I
into step two we want to make sure I
into step two we want to make sure I want to make sure that we have come to
want to make sure that we have come to
want to make sure that we have come to an understanding about appearances one’s
an understanding about appearances one’s
an understanding about appearances one’s image is an indication of the type of
image is an indication of the type of
image is an indication of the type of interaction that one will receive from
interaction that one will receive from
interaction that one will receive from another person so with step two we want
another person so with step two we want
another person so with step two we want to consider the lasting impression that
to consider the lasting impression that
to consider the lasting impression that we’re going to leave people with when
we’re going to leave people with when
we’re going to leave people with when they walk away from us and the way that
they walk away from us and the way that
they walk away from us and the way that we’re going to determine our most
we’re going to determine our most
we’re going to determine our most defining characteristics is by returning
defining characteristics is by returning
defining characteristics is by returning to our favorite care
to our favorite care
to our favorite care right and jotting down three descriptive
right and jotting down three descriptive
right and jotting down three descriptive words for each of those characters so
words for each of those characters so
words for each of those characters so you’re gonna want to be kind of
you’re gonna want to be kind of
you’re gonna want to be kind of selective about the words that you
selective about the words that you
selective about the words that you choose for each of these characters
choose for each of these characters
choose for each of these characters because basically the words that you
because basically the words that you
because basically the words that you choose our words that will eventually
choose our words that will eventually
choose our words that will eventually define all of who you are so once you
define all of who you are so once you
define all of who you are so once you have your list of descriptive words we
have your list of descriptive words we
have your list of descriptive words we can move on to step three which is about
can move on to step three which is about
can move on to step three which is about condensing so when you’re thinking about
condensing so when you’re thinking about
condensing so when you’re thinking about condensing we you kind of want to do the
condensing we you kind of want to do the
condensing we you kind of want to do the same thing we were doing with each of
same thing we were doing with each of
same thing we were doing with each of our characters we want to come up with
our characters we want to come up with
our characters we want to come up with three characteristic words that define
three characteristic words that define
three characteristic words that define ourselves now one of my favorite fashion
ourselves now one of my favorite fashion
ourselves now one of my favorite fashion editors Diana Vreeland the fashion
editors Diana Vreeland the fashion
editors Diana Vreeland the fashion editor of all fashion editors had once
editor of all fashion editors had once
editor of all fashion editors had once said there’s only one life there’s only
said there’s only one life there’s only
said there’s only one life there’s only one great life it’s the one you know you
one great life it’s the one you know you
one great life it’s the one you know you want and you make it yourself so the way
want and you make it yourself so the way
want and you make it yourself so the way that we make our lives what we want it
that we make our lives what we want it
that we make our lives what we want it to be is by thinking about the energy
to be is by thinking about the energy
to be is by thinking about the energy that we want to put out into the world
that we want to put out into the world
that we want to put out into the world because the energy you put out is energy
because the energy you put out is energy
because the energy you put out is energy you get back so review your words think
you get back so review your words think
you get back so review your words think about the words that are most similar in
about the words that are most similar in
about the words that are most similar in feeling to one another so that you can
feeling to one another so that you can
feeling to one another so that you can condense them into your three core style
condense them into your three core style
condense them into your three core style words okay so as you can see most of my
words okay so as you can see most of my
words okay so as you can see most of my prescription this style has nothing to
prescription this style has nothing to
prescription this style has nothing to do with clothing but once you have your
do with clothing but once you have your
do with clothing but once you have your three style words that’s when we can
three style words that’s when we can
three style words that’s when we can start thinking about clothing so step
start thinking about clothing so step
start thinking about clothing so step four is going to be a daily practice
four is going to be a daily practice
four is going to be a daily practice okay it’s going to require you to take
okay it’s going to require you to take
okay it’s going to require you to take your three words and every day when you
your three words and every day when you
your three words and every day when you get up in the morning to get dressed you
get up in the morning to get dressed you
get up in the morning to get dressed you want to find the pieces that speak to if
want to find the pieces that speak to if
want to find the pieces that speak to if not all three of those words at least
not all three of those words at least
not all three of those words at least one or two of those words and this is
one or two of those words and this is
one or two of those words and this is about creating a recognizable look okay
about creating a recognizable look okay
about creating a recognizable look okay and when we think about the pieces that
and when we think about the pieces that
and when we think about the pieces that we’re putting on our bodies if they’re
we’re putting on our bodies if they’re
we’re putting on our bodies if they’re speaking to all three of those words
speaking to all three of those words
speaking to all three of those words then those appeal the overall appeal of
then those appeal the overall appeal of
then those appeal the overall appeal of your look is going to boil down to those
your look is going to boil down to those
your look is going to boil down to those three words and the eyes of the beholder
three words and the eyes of the beholder
three words and the eyes of the beholder now this isn’t call for you to go into
now this isn’t call for you to go into
now this isn’t call for you to go into your closet throw everything out
your closet throw everything out
your closet throw everything out and then buy a whole new wardrobe okay
and then buy a whole new wardrobe okay
and then buy a whole new wardrobe okay what it’s really the key about this step
what it’s really the key about this step
what it’s really the key about this step is to eliminate the pieces that don’t
is to eliminate the pieces that don’t
is to eliminate the pieces that don’t speak to those core words and you know
speak to those core words and you know
speak to those core words and you know it comes down even to thinking about
it comes down even to thinking about
it comes down even to thinking about something as simple as sweatpants or a
something as simple as sweatpants or a
something as simple as sweatpants or a hoodie when you think about going to buy
hoodie when you think about going to buy
hoodie when you think about going to buy your pieces you want to make sure that
your pieces you want to make sure that
your pieces you want to make sure that there are design details in them that
there are design details in them that
there are design details in them that exude those three core words so take a
exude those three core words so take a
exude those three core words so take a hoodie for example I’ll use myself if
hoodie for example I’ll use myself if
hoodie for example I’ll use myself if I’m going to go buy a hoodie maybe I
I’m going to go buy a hoodie maybe I
I’m going to go buy a hoodie maybe I want to find one that happens to be has
want to find one that happens to be has
want to find one that happens to be has fantastical colors which is one of my
fantastical colors which is one of my
fantastical colors which is one of my words I try to exude some type of fun
words I try to exude some type of fun
words I try to exude some type of fun within my style another one of my words
within my style another one of my words
within my style another one of my words is ingenious and maybe my hoodie that I
is ingenious and maybe my hoodie that I
is ingenious and maybe my hoodie that I want to find has a zipper that goes
want to find has a zipper that goes
want to find has a zipper that goes asymmetrical across my body which is a
asymmetrical across my body which is a
asymmetrical across my body which is a really fun new take on how is a purse
really fun new take on how is a purse
really fun new take on how is a purse should function or perhaps I want to
should function or perhaps I want to
should function or perhaps I want to find a hoodie that has the silhouette of
find a hoodie that has the silhouette of
find a hoodie that has the silhouette of a blazer which can give off some pretty
a blazer which can give off some pretty
a blazer which can give off some pretty professional vibes the thing about this
professional vibes the thing about this
professional vibes the thing about this step two is that you really want to use
step two is that you really want to use
step two is that you really want to use your three words to elevate your
your three words to elevate your
your three words to elevate your everyday look and you want to push
everyday look and you want to push
everyday look and you want to push yourself and try to think outside the
yourself and try to think outside the
yourself and try to think outside the box and exude those three words to the
box and exude those three words to the
box and exude those three words to the fullest now for my last step in my
fullest now for my last step in my
fullest now for my last step in my prescription to style now that we know
prescription to style now that we know
prescription to style now that we know who we are and who we want to be and who
who we are and who we want to be and who
who we are and who we want to be and who we don’t want to be it’s time for us to
we don’t want to be it’s time for us to
we don’t want to be it’s time for us to see what we can do about incorporating
see what we can do about incorporating
see what we can do about incorporating all three of those words into everything
all three of those words into everything
all three of those words into everything that we do you want to align the people
that we do you want to align the people
that we do you want to align the people the clothes company that you have in
the clothes company that you have in
the clothes company that you have in your life with those three words you
your life with those three words you
your life with those three words you want to align the daily functions or
want to align the daily functions or
want to align the daily functions or daily activities that you do every day
daily activities that you do every day
daily activities that you do every day with those words you also maybe you want
with those words you also maybe you want
with those words you also maybe you want to think about what you eat and try to
to think about what you eat and try to
to think about what you eat and try to line that with rewards as well and this
line that with rewards as well and this
line that with rewards as well and this may sound unorthodox cause it may place
may sound unorthodox cause it may place
may sound unorthodox cause it may place you outside the box of what is normal or
you outside the box of what is normal or
you outside the box of what is normal or proper but as we said in Alice in
proper but as we said in Alice in
proper but as we said in Alice in Wonderland who’s to say what’s proper
Wonderland who’s to say what’s proper
Wonderland who’s to say what’s proper the thing about it is I don’t think any
the thing about it is I don’t think any
the thing about it is I don’t think any of us know what is the proper way to
of us know what is the proper way to
of us know what is the proper way to live as a human being on our planet and
live as a human being on our planet and
live as a human being on our planet and for the most part I think that the
for the most part I think that the
for the most part I think that the proper the way to distinguish who is
proper the way to distinguish who is
proper the way to distinguish who is living a proper life is there a level of
living a proper life is there a level of
living a proper life is there a level of contentment and if the way that you
contentment and if the way that you
contentment and if the way that you enjoyed life allows you to feel whole
enjoyed life allows you to feel whole
enjoyed life allows you to feel whole safe and happy and you’re not hurting
safe and happy and you’re not hurting
safe and happy and you’re not hurting anybody I think that’s the life that
anybody I think that’s the life that
anybody I think that’s the life that we’re all trying to achieve so for the
we’re all trying to achieve so for the
we’re all trying to achieve so for the most part one thing to really remember
most part one thing to really remember
most part one thing to really remember about getting dressed is that the
about getting dressed is that the
about getting dressed is that the opinions of others is none of your
opinions of others is none of your
opinions of others is none of your business okay I think what Coco Chanel
business okay I think what Coco Chanel
business okay I think what Coco Chanel meant when she said elegance is refusal
meant when she said elegance is refusal
meant when she said elegance is refusal is that you should refuse to be anybody
is that you should refuse to be anybody
is that you should refuse to be anybody but who you want to be and at the end of
but who you want to be and at the end of
but who you want to be and at the end of the day a strong sense of self is an
the day a strong sense of self is an
the day a strong sense of self is an indication that you are in control of
indication that you are in control of
indication that you are in control of where you want to go and who you want to
where you want to go and who you want to
where you want to go and who you want to be and people respond well to people who
be and people respond well to people who
be and people respond well to people who appear in control of themselves thank
appear in control of themselves thank
appear in control of themselves thank you
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