a few years ago my boss called to ask me a favor
a favor
a favor he’s like would you be interested in
he’s like would you be interested in
he’s like would you be interested in developing a new course for the
developing a new course for the
developing a new course for the university it’s right up your alley with
university it’s right up your alley with
university it’s right up your alley with your behavioral science background and
your behavioral science background and
your behavioral science background and clinical skills it’s exactly what they
clinical skills it’s exactly what they
clinical skills it’s exactly what they need apparently they were having trouble
need apparently they were having trouble
need apparently they were having trouble with some overachievers he told me that
with some overachievers he told me that
with some overachievers he told me that they were perfectionistic and wound
they were perfectionistic and wound
they were perfectionistic and wound tight and then he says you’d be the
tight and then he says you’d be the
tight and then he says you’d be the perfect role model for that so I’m like
perfect role model for that so I’m like
perfect role model for that so I’m like what’s the class and he tells me
what’s the class and he tells me
what’s the class and he tells me personal branding are you serious what
personal branding are you serious what
personal branding are you serious what do you want me to teach them some kind
do you want me to teach them some kind
do you want me to teach them some kind of creepy personal sales pitch
of creepy personal sales pitch
of creepy personal sales pitch that they have to start their own
that they have to start their own
that they have to start their own nonprofit by the time they’re 12 that
nonprofit by the time they’re 12 that
nonprofit by the time they’re 12 that they have to have the Kardashian rear
they have to have the Kardashian rear
they have to have the Kardashian rear end or that they can never let anyone
end or that they can never let anyone
end or that they can never let anyone see them sweat unless it’s to show off
see them sweat unless it’s to show off
see them sweat unless it’s to show off their hot yoga class that’s the last
their hot yoga class that’s the last
their hot yoga class that’s the last thing they need in a world where there’s
thing they need in a world where there’s
thing they need in a world where there’s even pressure to be Zen where
even pressure to be Zen where
even pressure to be Zen where mindfulness has become the new kale
the last thing I wanted was to teach
the last thing I wanted was to teach some kind of template for climbing the
some kind of template for climbing the
some kind of template for climbing the ladder especially not when I’d spent my
ladder especially not when I’d spent my
ladder especially not when I’d spent my entire career helping people get back on
entire career helping people get back on
entire career helping people get back on their feet after falling off of it
their feet after falling off of it
their feet after falling off of it before I could say no my boss says you
before I could say no my boss says you
before I could say no my boss says you can put your own spin on it so I say
can put your own spin on it so I say
can put your own spin on it so I say okay I didn’t want him to think bad at
okay I didn’t want him to think bad at
okay I didn’t want him to think bad at me so the first night of class comes and
me so the first night of class comes and
me so the first night of class comes and this guy walks in and he says where’s
this guy walks in and he says where’s
this guy walks in and he says where’s the professor I can’t find him it’s me
the professor I can’t find him it’s me
the professor I can’t find him it’s me have a seat the rest of the class goes
have a seat the rest of the class goes
have a seat the rest of the class goes huh and I’m like well I guess it’s safe
huh and I’m like well I guess it’s safe
huh and I’m like well I guess it’s safe to skip the icebreaker now besides that
to skip the icebreaker now besides that
to skip the icebreaker now besides that everybody else had shown up early
everybody else had shown up early
everybody else had shown up early sitting straight up at their desks all
sitting straight up at their desks all
sitting straight up at their desks all with their fresh copy of this authentic
with their fresh copy of this authentic
with their fresh copy of this authentic personal branding our textbook they had
personal branding our textbook they had
personal branding our textbook they had come ready to make a good first
come ready to make a good first
come ready to make a good first impression
impression
impression this one guy sits right in front of me
this one guy sits right in front of me
this one guy sits right in front of me like right where you are I can smell his
like right where you are I can smell his
like right where you are I can smell his minty breath you all know this guy right
minty breath you all know this guy right
minty breath you all know this guy right he’s got the perfectly iron polo the
he’s got the perfectly iron polo the
he’s got the perfectly iron polo the matchy Sox mr. perfect and when it’s his
matchy Sox mr. perfect and when it’s his
matchy Sox mr. perfect and when it’s his turn to introduce himself you’d think he
turn to introduce himself you’d think he
turn to introduce himself you’d think he had his resume tucked under his notebook
had his resume tucked under his notebook
had his resume tucked under his notebook he starts going off about the companies
he starts going off about the companies
he starts going off about the companies he’d started and his trophies and all
he’d started and his trophies and all
he’d started and his trophies and all the people he knew like he didn’t even
the people he knew like he didn’t even
the people he knew like he didn’t even need to be there with the rest of all of
need to be there with the rest of all of
need to be there with the rest of all of us because he already knew everybody and
us because he already knew everybody and
us because he already knew everybody and everything he was a classic humble
everything he was a classic humble
everything he was a classic humble bragger – the humble
the rest of my students were getting
the rest of my students were getting aggravated they were rolling their eyes
aggravated they were rolling their eyes
aggravated they were rolling their eyes but I could still tell that they were
but I could still tell that they were
but I could still tell that they were vying for their own airtime I was
vying for their own airtime I was
vying for their own airtime I was starting to feel more like a game show
starting to feel more like a game show
starting to feel more like a game show host and a graduate professor so he kept
host and a graduate professor so he kept
host and a graduate professor so he kept going on and on and I finally turned to
going on and on and I finally turned to
going on and on and I finally turned to him and I say hey it’s kind of not
him and I say hey it’s kind of not
him and I say hey it’s kind of not really about you it’s more than that so
really about you it’s more than that so
really about you it’s more than that so just so you know this wasn’t my best
just so you know this wasn’t my best
just so you know this wasn’t my best teaching moment but I didn’t think that
teaching moment but I didn’t think that
teaching moment but I didn’t think that I was gonna ever get through to my
I was gonna ever get through to my
I was gonna ever get through to my students for them to know what I want to
students for them to know what I want to
students for them to know what I want to talk with you about today that being
talk with you about today that being
talk with you about today that being real is the power skill of the century
real is the power skill of the century
real is the power skill of the century the risk we must take in a world that
the risk we must take in a world that
the risk we must take in a world that grooms us to show up airbrushed and act
grooms us to show up airbrushed and act
grooms us to show up airbrushed and act like puppets
like puppets
like puppets like human doings not beings research
like human doings not beings research
like human doings not beings research shows this is destroying us they say one
shows this is destroying us they say one
shows this is destroying us they say one in three of us can barely cope with the
in three of us can barely cope with the
in three of us can barely cope with the demands in this age of anxiety I was
demands in this age of anxiety I was
demands in this age of anxiety I was ready to call my boss and tell him I’m
ready to call my boss and tell him I’m
ready to call my boss and tell him I’m done call the whole thing off but then I
done call the whole thing off but then I
done call the whole thing off but then I started reading my students papers so
started reading my students papers so
started reading my students papers so they told me that authentic felt like a
they told me that authentic felt like a
they told me that authentic felt like a huge risk plus they were sick of
huge risk plus they were sick of
huge risk plus they were sick of authentic it felt like the new buzzword
authentic it felt like the new buzzword
authentic it felt like the new buzzword authentic leadership authentic parenting
authentic leadership authentic parenting
authentic leadership authentic parenting authentic living he didn’t feel like
authentic living he didn’t feel like
authentic living he didn’t feel like they could live up to it so I grabbed
they could live up to it so I grabbed
they could live up to it so I grabbed this notebook and I start writing down
this notebook and I start writing down
this notebook and I start writing down everything they’re telling me and I
everything they’re telling me and I
everything they’re telling me and I realize that they’re talking about what
realize that they’re talking about what
realize that they’re talking about what we call in psychology impostor syndrome
we call in psychology impostor syndrome
we call in psychology impostor syndrome how many of you have heard of it all
how many of you have heard of it all
how many of you have heard of it all right so it’s that feeling like
right so it’s that feeling like
right so it’s that feeling like someone’s gonna find you out like maybe
someone’s gonna find you out like maybe
someone’s gonna find you out like maybe they made a mistake when they gave you
they made a mistake when they gave you
they made a mistake when they gave you your spot like you’re just pretending to
your spot like you’re just pretending to
your spot like you’re just pretending to have it all together so I’m going
have it all together so I’m going
have it all together so I’m going through it all and I’m thinking like
through it all and I’m thinking like
through it all and I’m thinking like what can help me take a better approach
what can help me take a better approach
what can help me take a better approach in class I really want them to get this
in class I really want them to get this
in class I really want them to get this so what does any academic do in a
so what does any academic do in a
so what does any academic do in a situation like this you come up with an
situation like this you come up with an
situation like this you come up with an acronym so ready a C’s
asinine societal and self-imposed
asinine societal and self-imposed expectations oh you thought I was going
expectations oh you thought I was going
expectations oh you thought I was going to come up with better than that didn’t
to come up with better than that didn’t
to come up with better than that didn’t you I know it’s not the most scientific
you I know it’s not the most scientific
you I know it’s not the most scientific term but it fit the measuring sticks
term but it fit the measuring sticks
term but it fit the measuring sticks that they were using ridiculous and it
that they were using ridiculous and it
that they were using ridiculous and it was causing them to either hyper perform
was causing them to either hyper perform
was causing them to either hyper perform or bleach away the messy parts of their
or bleach away the messy parts of their
or bleach away the messy parts of their stories and to me
stories and to me
stories and to me this is sad being real shouldn’t even be
this is sad being real shouldn’t even be
this is sad being real shouldn’t even be a risk but these expectations they scare
a risk but these expectations they scare
a risk but these expectations they scare us into shrinking it to what we think is
us into shrinking it to what we think is
us into shrinking it to what we think is our place and then we don’t even have
our place and then we don’t even have
our place and then we don’t even have time to redirect ourselves they say that
time to redirect ourselves they say that
time to redirect ourselves they say that we’re all walking around with info
we’re all walking around with info
we’re all walking around with info obesity that we take in the equivalent
obesity that we take in the equivalent
obesity that we take in the equivalent of a hundred and seventy four newspapers
of a hundred and seventy four newspapers
of a hundred and seventy four newspapers a day and then spend hours stalking our
a day and then spend hours stalking our
a day and then spend hours stalking our social media feeds to see how many likes
social media feeds to see how many likes
social media feeds to see how many likes are filtered pictures get and I want to
are filtered pictures get and I want to
are filtered pictures get and I want to know today has anyone seen all of these
know today has anyone seen all of these
know today has anyone seen all of these Sephora and Ulta stores popping up can I
Sephora and Ulta stores popping up can I
Sephora and Ulta stores popping up can I hear you out there anyone seen this like
hear you out there anyone seen this like
hear you out there anyone seen this like they’re like Starbucks popping up
they’re like Starbucks popping up
they’re like Starbucks popping up everywhere I was reading the other day
everywhere I was reading the other day
everywhere I was reading the other day that they made 37 billion dollars in
that they made 37 billion dollars in
that they made 37 billion dollars in 2016
2016
2016 37 billion dollars to me that’s a lot of
37 billion dollars to me that’s a lot of
37 billion dollars to me that’s a lot of money to get that natural look so we say
money to get that natural look so we say
money to get that natural look so we say we’re after and then we wonder why we’re
we’re after and then we wonder why we’re
we’re after and then we wonder why we’re the most medicated obese addicted group
the most medicated obese addicted group
the most medicated obese addicted group ever the World Health Organization says
ever the World Health Organization says
ever the World Health Organization says by 2030 lifestyle sickness is going to
by 2030 lifestyle sickness is going to
by 2030 lifestyle sickness is going to trump communicable disease so we used to
trump communicable disease so we used to
trump communicable disease so we used to be all worried we were gonna catch stuff
be all worried we were gonna catch stuff
be all worried we were gonna catch stuff now it’s the stress and anxiety and all
now it’s the stress and anxiety and all
now it’s the stress and anxiety and all the numbing that comes with it my
the numbing that comes with it my
the numbing that comes with it my students Assis reminded me of the stuff
students Assis reminded me of the stuff
students Assis reminded me of the stuff that I used to see way back when I first
that I used to see way back when I first
that I used to see way back when I first started my clinical training so you know
started my clinical training so you know
started my clinical training so you know how it is
how it is
how it is school right there’s a lot of talk about
school right there’s a lot of talk about
school right there’s a lot of talk about best practice right and treating people
best practice right and treating people
best practice right and treating people well well my supervisor they gave me
well well my supervisor they gave me
well well my supervisor they gave me Mary she acted like she hated people so
Mary she acted like she hated people so
Mary she acted like she hated people so has anyone ever seen a teacher that
has anyone ever seen a teacher that
has anyone ever seen a teacher that screams at kids and you’re like like did
screams at kids and you’re like like did
screams at kids and you’re like like did you not read what color is your
you not read what color is your
you not read what color is your parachute book you know like come on so
parachute book you know like come on so
parachute book you know like come on so she was really the type that acted like
she was really the type that acted like
she was really the type that acted like everybody was a spotted puppy and she
everybody was a spotted puppy and she
everybody was a spotted puppy and she was Cruella De Vil ready to make her
was Cruella De Vil ready to make her
was Cruella De Vil ready to make her coat out of them and here I was the
coat out of them and here I was the
coat out of them and here I was the young clinician coming into her office
young clinician coming into her office
young clinician coming into her office all excited and eager to tell her all
all excited and eager to tell her all
all excited and eager to tell her all about the people that I was working with
about the people that I was working with
about the people that I was working with and the potential I saw in them and Mary
she was checked out
she was checked out she seemed much more interested in her
she seemed much more interested in her
she seemed much more interested in her Dunkin Donuts coffee and bagel with that
Dunkin Donuts coffee and bagel with that
Dunkin Donuts coffee and bagel with that three-inch thick cream cheese since she
three-inch thick cream cheese since she
three-inch thick cream cheese since she did talking about good qualities in
did talking about good qualities in
did talking about good qualities in people she was like a catatonic negative
people she was like a catatonic negative
people she was like a catatonic negative hotline if you were to call her this is
hotline if you were to call her this is
hotline if you were to call her this is what you’d get if you think people will
what you’d get if you think people will
what you’d get if you think people will never change press one
if you think people just love being
if you think people just love being victims press 2 if you like to rub
victims press 2 if you like to rub
victims press 2 if you like to rub people’s noses in their own messes press
people’s noses in their own messes press
people’s noses in their own messes press 3 are you kidding me that’s the best you
3 are you kidding me that’s the best you
3 are you kidding me that’s the best you got after all those years in the field I
got after all those years in the field I
got after all those years in the field I needed something more than that like a
needed something more than that like a
needed something more than that like a StrengthsFinder hotline to help me out
StrengthsFinder hotline to help me out
StrengthsFinder hotline to help me out press 1 to stop labeling press 2 to
press 1 to stop labeling press 2 to
press 1 to stop labeling press 2 to separate the person from the problem
separate the person from the problem
separate the person from the problem they’re not the same press 3 if you
they’re not the same press 3 if you
they’re not the same press 3 if you think shaming people stinks press 0 if
think shaming people stinks press 0 if
think shaming people stinks press 0 if you need a new supervisor
it’d be very easy to rant about Mary but
it’d be very easy to rant about Mary but she was not a pioneer in this method
she was not a pioneer in this method
she was not a pioneer in this method it’s the way old-school psychology has
it’s the way old-school psychology has
it’s the way old-school psychology has always done business on the hunt for
always done business on the hunt for
always done business on the hunt for what’s wrong and broken and then we have
what’s wrong and broken and then we have
what’s wrong and broken and then we have all these romantic ideas about setbacks
all these romantic ideas about setbacks
all these romantic ideas about setbacks and comebacks and bootstraps without
and comebacks and bootstraps without
and comebacks and bootstraps without ever talking honestly about what we need
ever talking honestly about what we need
ever talking honestly about what we need to overcome in the first place we act
to overcome in the first place we act
to overcome in the first place we act like the toxic ways that we shut each
like the toxic ways that we shut each
like the toxic ways that we shut each other down because of race class gender
other down because of race class gender
other down because of race class gender orientation age ability size religion
orientation age ability size religion
orientation age ability size religion like none of that had anything to do
like none of that had anything to do
like none of that had anything to do with how well we’re doing and whether
with how well we’re doing and whether
with how well we’re doing and whether it’s even safe to be ourselves we start
it’s even safe to be ourselves we start
it’s even safe to be ourselves we start believing that being real is too great a
believing that being real is too great a
believing that being real is too great a risk the society’s definition of normal
risk the society’s definition of normal
risk the society’s definition of normal is real like Alan Schurman put it a
is real like Alan Schurman put it a
is real like Alan Schurman put it a normal person is the sort of person that
normal person is the sort of person that
normal person is the sort of person that might be designed by a committee
everybody puts in there pretty color and
everybody puts in there pretty color and then it comes out gray my students were
then it comes out gray my students were
then it comes out gray my students were far from gray they were colorful
far from gray they were colorful
far from gray they were colorful recovering try too hard it’s what made
recovering try too hard it’s what made
recovering try too hard it’s what made them interesting and resilient and
them interesting and resilient and
them interesting and resilient and beautiful they were done with fake it to
beautiful they were done with fake it to
beautiful they were done with fake it to you make it and I was starting to
you make it and I was starting to
you make it and I was starting to realize that they were just as much my
realize that they were just as much my
realize that they were just as much my teachers as I was theirs so I did the
teachers as I was theirs so I did the
teachers as I was theirs so I did the next thing in academic does I filled out
next thing in academic does I filled out
next thing in academic does I filled out an IRB the application that I needed to
an IRB the application that I needed to
an IRB the application that I needed to conduct human research now this personal
conduct human research now this personal
conduct human research now this personal branding class I wanted nothing to do
branding class I wanted nothing to do
branding class I wanted nothing to do with had become the basis for a
with had become the basis for a
with had become the basis for a three-year study with hundreds of my
three-year study with hundreds of my
three-year study with hundreds of my students from across the world to try to
students from across the world to try to
students from across the world to try to get us a little closer to authentic
get us a little closer to authentic
get us a little closer to authentic so when I first started I thought that
so when I first started I thought that
so when I first started I thought that Albert bandura the social psychologist
Albert bandura the social psychologist
Albert bandura the social psychologist you know him so he has this theory of
you know him so he has this theory of
you know him so he has this theory of self-efficacy and I thought it was the
self-efficacy and I thought it was the
self-efficacy and I thought it was the secret sauce right so self-efficacy
secret sauce right so self-efficacy
secret sauce right so self-efficacy basically says if you think you can
basically says if you think you can
basically says if you think you can reach a goal you’re more likely to set
reach a goal you’re more likely to set
reach a goal you’re more likely to set it and then go on to reach it seems
it and then go on to reach it seems
it and then go on to reach it seems pretty common sense right but besides my
pretty common sense right but besides my
pretty common sense right but besides my humble bragger
humble bragger
humble bragger my students had already moved way past
my students had already moved way past
my students had already moved way past that they had moved from me to we so I
that they had moved from me to we so I
that they had moved from me to we so I started to call this collective efficacy
started to call this collective efficacy
started to call this collective efficacy the idea that an injury to one is an
the idea that an injury to one is an
the idea that an injury to one is an injury to all when you heard I heard and
injury to all when you heard I heard and
injury to all when you heard I heard and when you’re on top of the world
when you’re on top of the world
when you’re on top of the world that’s so am i it allows us to see each
that’s so am i it allows us to see each
that’s so am i it allows us to see each other and to be real about our strengths
other and to be real about our strengths
other and to be real about our strengths and struggles and to stop using
and struggles and to stop using
and struggles and to stop using society’s definitions that don’t begin
society’s definitions that don’t begin
society’s definitions that don’t begin to capture what we’re capable of
to capture what we’re capable of
to capture what we’re capable of together when my students learn to be
together when my students learn to be
together when my students learn to be just as proud of their scars as they
just as proud of their scars as they
just as proud of their scars as they were their trophies they begin to get
were their trophies they begin to get
were their trophies they begin to get rid of these they started to care more
rid of these they started to care more
rid of these they started to care more about the greater good than their own
about the greater good than their own
about the greater good than their own image it was all over my data that when
image it was all over my data that when
image it was all over my data that when we take the risk of being real it allows
we take the risk of being real it allows
we take the risk of being real it allows us to heal and help each other to do the
us to heal and help each other to do the
us to heal and help each other to do the same so I was all ready to package this
same so I was all ready to package this
same so I was all ready to package this up put it in a white paper and call it a
up put it in a white paper and call it a
up put it in a white paper and call it a day
day
day but I knew I needed to do more so I left
but I knew I needed to do more so I left
but I knew I needed to do more so I left work on a Monday without telling anyone
work on a Monday without telling anyone
work on a Monday without telling anyone where I was going to meet with Lyla my
where I was going to meet with Lyla my
where I was going to meet with Lyla my new therapist her first I fed her the
new therapist her first I fed her the
new therapist her first I fed her the sanitized version crazy job to teenagers
sanitized version crazy job to teenagers
sanitized version crazy job to teenagers I just need some strategies I got to get
I just need some strategies I got to get
I just need some strategies I got to get back to work and Lyla was like
back to work and Lyla was like
back to work and Lyla was like it sounds to me like you’re a
it sounds to me like you’re a
it sounds to me like you’re a perfectionist I nodded so she wouldn’t
perfectionist I nodded so she wouldn’t
perfectionist I nodded so she wouldn’t think bad at me and then I swore at
think bad at me and then I swore at
think bad at me and then I swore at myself on the way out of her office I
myself on the way out of her office I
myself on the way out of her office I didn’t want to go back there it’s too
didn’t want to go back there it’s too
didn’t want to go back there it’s too much work but I did and it was hard but
much work but I did and it was hard but
much work but I did and it was hard but Lila helped me realize I couldn’t keep
Lila helped me realize I couldn’t keep
Lila helped me realize I couldn’t keep showing up airbrushed if I was asking my
showing up airbrushed if I was asking my
showing up airbrushed if I was asking my students not to so I started to talk
students not to so I started to talk
students not to so I started to talk publicly about my lifelong battle with
publicly about my lifelong battle with
publicly about my lifelong battle with anxiety the first time I did it was at
anxiety the first time I did it was at
anxiety the first time I did it was at work in front of everyone that I never
work in front of everyone that I never
work in front of everyone that I never feel like I’m enough that I’m always
feel like I’m enough that I’m always
feel like I’m enough that I’m always letting someone down that my smile and
letting someone down that my smile and
letting someone down that my smile and mani/pedi and letters after my name tell
mani/pedi and letters after my name tell
mani/pedi and letters after my name tell you nothing about my self sabotaging
you nothing about my self sabotaging
you nothing about my self sabotaging brain it never shuts down I have really
brain it never shuts down I have really
brain it never shuts down I have really low Mouse and part of the reason I
low Mouse and part of the reason I
low Mouse and part of the reason I became a therapist was because I know
became a therapist was because I know
became a therapist was because I know firsthand about dark emotions and
firsthand about dark emotions and
firsthand about dark emotions and balance the only balance in my life is
balance the only balance in my life is
balance the only balance in my life is that I try to do everything perfect when
that I try to do everything perfect when
that I try to do everything perfect when I was done I thought I had committed
I was done I thought I had committed
I was done I thought I had committed professional suicide
professional suicide
professional suicide now I’d help them find me out and when I
now I’d help them find me out and when I
now I’d help them find me out and when I went back to work my colleagues were
went back to work my colleagues were
went back to work my colleagues were like that’s exactly how I feel but I was
like that’s exactly how I feel but I was
like that’s exactly how I feel but I was afraid to say it I thought it was just
afraid to say it I thought it was just
afraid to say it I thought it was just me thank you for saying
being real doesn’t mean I never care
being real doesn’t mean I never care what people think
what people think
what people think I still wear makeup and sometimes take
I still wear makeup and sometimes take
I still wear makeup and sometimes take selfies it also doesn’t mean that I have
selfies it also doesn’t mean that I have
selfies it also doesn’t mean that I have to wear all my emotions on my sleeve or
to wear all my emotions on my sleeve or
to wear all my emotions on my sleeve or broadcast all of my ruminations that
broadcast all of my ruminations that
broadcast all of my ruminations that wouldn’t be safe and trust me it would
wouldn’t be safe and trust me it would
wouldn’t be safe and trust me it would be annoying it’s more than that being
be annoying it’s more than that being
be annoying it’s more than that being real is about kicking your asses out so
real is about kicking your asses out so
real is about kicking your asses out so you don’t risk the chance to live an
you don’t risk the chance to live an
you don’t risk the chance to live an authentic life you’ve asked yourself
authentic life you’ve asked yourself
authentic life you’ve asked yourself this before right what’s the point of
this before right what’s the point of
this before right what’s the point of living a fake life who is it for
after all my talks with Lila and my
after all my talks with Lila and my students I was thinking about my humble
students I was thinking about my humble
students I was thinking about my humble bragger for my first class my boss’s
bragger for my first class my boss’s
bragger for my first class my boss’s boss called to tell me he’d applied for
boss called to tell me he’d applied for
boss called to tell me he’d applied for a job where I work but when they went to
a job where I work but when they went to
a job where I work but when they went to check out his references they found out
check out his references they found out
check out his references they found out that the companies he worked the
that the companies he worked the
that the companies he worked the trophy’s the people he knew the places
trophy’s the people he knew the places
trophy’s the people he knew the places he’d went it was all a lie none of it
he’d went it was all a lie none of it
he’d went it was all a lie none of it was true so sad he’d wasted all this
was true so sad he’d wasted all this
was true so sad he’d wasted all this time promoting his fake self and we
time promoting his fake self and we
time promoting his fake self and we never got to know the real guy the one
never got to know the real guy the one
never got to know the real guy the one we would have loved to have known the
we would have loved to have known the
we would have loved to have known the one who could have made a real
one who could have made a real
one who could have made a real difference with all of his talents our
difference with all of his talents our
difference with all of his talents our bumps and bruises and wrinkles and scars
bumps and bruises and wrinkles and scars
bumps and bruises and wrinkles and scars are not meant to be airbrushed this is
are not meant to be airbrushed this is
are not meant to be airbrushed this is the risk you must take showing up has to
the risk you must take showing up has to
the risk you must take showing up has to reel you it might feel raw and
reel you it might feel raw and
reel you it might feel raw and terrifying and counterintuitive and like
terrifying and counterintuitive and like
terrifying and counterintuitive and like it’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken
it’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken
it’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken but the risk of not doing so is greater
because just like I once told my humble
because just like I once told my humble bragger
bragger
bragger it’s kind of not really about you it’s
it’s kind of not really about you it’s
it’s kind of not really about you it’s more than that
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