a very good afternoon and thanks for that brief but generous introduction
that brief but generous introduction
that brief but generous introduction it’s an it’s an absolute pleasure to be
it’s an it’s an absolute pleasure to be
it’s an it’s an absolute pleasure to be here and what I’m going to do over the
here and what I’m going to do over the
here and what I’m going to do over the next few minutes is talk to you or or
next few minutes is talk to you or or
next few minutes is talk to you or or share certain thoughts you know stuff
share certain thoughts you know stuff
share certain thoughts you know stuff that is worked for me over the years and
that is worked for me over the years and
that is worked for me over the years and let’s see probably there would be some
let’s see probably there would be some
let’s see probably there would be some stuff that you could mull over and may
stuff that you could mull over and may
stuff that you could mull over and may make sense for you so let me let me step
make sense for you so let me let me step
make sense for you so let me let me step back and first share with you or tell
back and first share with you or tell
back and first share with you or tell you about one of my most prized
you about one of my most prized
you about one of my most prized possessions till today so it was a book
possessions till today so it was a book
possessions till today so it was a book a small little book which was gifted to
a small little book which was gifted to
a small little book which was gifted to me by my father when I was about 13 or
me by my father when I was about 13 or
me by my father when I was about 13 or 14 years of age
14 years of age
14 years of age it’s called Jonathan Livingston Seagull
it’s called Jonathan Livingston Seagull
it’s called Jonathan Livingston Seagull right a single as you can see there and
right a single as you can see there and
right a single as you can see there and the author is a gentleman called Richard
the author is a gentleman called Richard
the author is a gentleman called Richard Bach now the book still stands at the
Bach now the book still stands at the
Bach now the book still stands at the corner of my bookshelf in my home till
corner of my bookshelf in my home till
corner of my bookshelf in my home till today and of course it was extremely
today and of course it was extremely
today and of course it was extremely powerful because the learnings that I
powerful because the learnings that I
powerful because the learnings that I took from it the thoughts that I took
took from it the thoughts that I took
took from it the thoughts that I took from it actually ended up in shaping my
from it actually ended up in shaping my
from it actually ended up in shaping my life and to be fair I think I would have
life and to be fair I think I would have
life and to be fair I think I would have read the book more than a dozen times
read the book more than a dozen times
read the book more than a dozen times over the past three decades and the
over the past three decades and the
over the past three decades and the magic of it is that every time I read it
magic of it is that every time I read it
magic of it is that every time I read it there is something new that actually
there is something new that actually
there is something new that actually cropped up there are some new learnings
cropped up there are some new learnings
cropped up there are some new learnings something that I didn’t fathom or I
something that I didn’t fathom or I
something that I didn’t fathom or I couldn’t get when I last read it or in
couldn’t get when I last read it or in
couldn’t get when I last read it or in the previous stage of my life so the
the previous stage of my life so the
the previous stage of my life so the story is about a young bird a young
story is about a young bird a young
story is about a young bird a young seagull whose name is Jonathan
seagull whose name is Jonathan
seagull whose name is Jonathan Livingston and Jonathan is somewhat of a
Livingston and Jonathan is somewhat of a
Livingston and Jonathan is somewhat of a contrary in’ if I could call him that
contrary in’ if I could call him that
contrary in’ if I could call him that Jonathan goes against the existing norms
Jonathan goes against the existing norms
Jonathan goes against the existing norms of seagull society if there is something
of seagull society if there is something
of seagull society if there is something called a seagull Society he goes against
called a seagull Society he goes against
called a seagull Society he goes against those norms he is out to seek his higher
those norms he is out to seek his higher
those norms he is out to seek his higher purpose in life and he becomes best at
purpose in life and he becomes best at
purpose in life and he becomes best at doing what he loves the most so the book
doing what he loves the most so the book
doing what he loves the most so the book goes on to tell us how exactly to live
goes on to tell us how exactly to live
goes on to tell us how exactly to live your life even if you are a contrary
your life even if you are a contrary
your life even if you are a contrary even if your views do not match the
even if your views do not match the
even if your views do not match the norms of society the norms of
norms of society the norms of
norms of society the norms of neighborhood the norms of a flock the
neighborhood the norms of a flock the
neighborhood the norms of a flock the norms of a tribe whichever way you look
norms of a tribe whichever way you look
norms of a tribe whichever way you look at it and it tells you about the journey
at it and it tells you about the journey
at it and it tells you about the journey that you face when you are stepping onto
that you face when you are stepping onto
that you face when you are stepping onto something like this something that’s
something like this something that’s
something like this something that’s against the grain against the norm the
against the grain against the norm the
against the grain against the norm the kind of people you meet some of them
kind of people you meet some of them
kind of people you meet some of them would adore you some would despise you
would adore you some would despise you
would adore you some would despise you some would call you devil some would
some would call you devil some would
some would call you devil some would call you God that’s how strong and
call you God that’s how strong and
call you God that’s how strong and powerful it is so here’s what it did to
powerful it is so here’s what it did to
powerful it is so here’s what it did to me I began to Ravel in the philosophy
me I began to Ravel in the philosophy
me I began to Ravel in the philosophy that my life is mine to own every single
that my life is mine to own every single
that my life is mine to own every single moment every single day I could actually
moment every single day I could actually
moment every single day I could actually catch hold of it shape it it’s more like
catch hold of it shape it it’s more like
catch hold of it shape it it’s more like clay you know I could shape it into the
clay you know I could shape it into the
clay you know I could shape it into the manner that I wanted they were no rights
manner that I wanted they were no rights
manner that I wanted they were no rights or wrongs I could play with it exactly
or wrongs I could play with it exactly
or wrongs I could play with it exactly the way I wanted every decision that I
the way I wanted every decision that I
the way I wanted every decision that I took thereafter till today is always the
took thereafter till today is always the
took thereafter till today is always the right decision so there is nothing
right decision so there is nothing
right decision so there is nothing called wrong decisions so like I said
called wrong decisions so like I said
called wrong decisions so like I said and why I call this the antigravity just
and why I call this the antigravity just
and why I call this the antigravity just checking the clicker so why the
checking the clicker so why the
checking the clicker so why the antigravity
antigravity
antigravity because the analogy here for me is
because the analogy here for me is
because the analogy here for me is gravity is fear and failure something
gravity is fear and failure something
gravity is fear and failure something that stays with us all through our lives
that stays with us all through our lives
that stays with us all through our lives it never it never goes away and
it never it never goes away and
it never it never goes away and anti-gravity is the vision or the dreams
anti-gravity is the vision or the dreams
anti-gravity is the vision or the dreams that we have which is something like the
that we have which is something like the
that we have which is something like the context or the evoke inspire what you
context or the evoke inspire what you
context or the evoke inspire what you have is the theme for this right so what
have is the theme for this right so what
have is the theme for this right so what I’ll do like I said is I’ll give you
I’ll do like I said is I’ll give you
I’ll do like I said is I’ll give you some of my thoughts stuff that has
some of my thoughts stuff that has
some of my thoughts stuff that has worked for me and hopefully it would
worked for me and hopefully it would
worked for me and hopefully it would form the base of what the future holds
form the base of what the future holds
form the base of what the future holds for me so The Seagull effect is
for me so The Seagull effect is
for me so The Seagull effect is essentially the manner in which I was
essentially the manner in which I was
essentially the manner in which I was affected by this book and continue to
affected by this book and continue to
affected by this book and continue to use it at leisure and at pleasure to
use it at leisure and at pleasure to
use it at leisure and at pleasure to shape my life so talking about the first
shape my life so talking about the first
shape my life so talking about the first thing which is vision and I have only
thing which is vision and I have only
thing which is vision and I have only two big themes to talk about today so
two big themes to talk about today so
two big themes to talk about today so first is the vision and I will not go
first is the vision and I will not go
first is the vision and I will not go deep into why you need a vision and why
deep into why you need a vision and why
deep into why you need a vision and why you need to dream etc I think they are
you need to dream etc I think they are
you need to dream etc I think they are all very clear that you don’t have a big
all very clear that you don’t have a big
all very clear that you don’t have a big picture if you don’t have a vision
picture if you don’t have a vision
picture if you don’t have a vision chances are you don’t know where you’re
chances are you don’t know where you’re
chances are you don’t know where you’re headed
headed
headed chances are you may get caught up in the
chances are you may get caught up in the
chances are you may get caught up in the weeds at some stage so to have a vision
weeds at some stage so to have a vision
weeds at some stage so to have a vision to
to
to a dream a big dream is critical having
a dream a big dream is critical having
a dream a big dream is critical having put that aside one of the big things
put that aside one of the big things
put that aside one of the big things that I have learned and I talk about is
that I have learned and I talk about is
that I have learned and I talk about is something called state a state is who
something called state a state is who
something called state a state is who you are it is what you are it is your
you are it is what you are it is your
you are it is what you are it is your being it is your intrinsic being if I
being it is your intrinsic being if I
being it is your intrinsic being if I can call it that so the state is what
can call it that so the state is what
can call it that so the state is what you are when you walk onto a stage when
you are when you walk onto a stage when
you are when you walk onto a stage when you walk into a boardroom of any walk
you walk into a boardroom of any walk
you walk into a boardroom of any walk into a classroom it’s the unsent
into a classroom it’s the unsent
into a classroom it’s the unsent communication
communication
communication it’s the unsaid words that speak for
it’s the unsaid words that speak for
it’s the unsaid words that speak for themselves and you could always tweak it
themselves and you could always tweak it
themselves and you could always tweak it you could be excited you could be
you could be excited you could be
you could be excited you could be passionate you could be somber or you
passionate you could be somber or you
passionate you could be somber or you could be sad right so there are
could be sad right so there are
could be sad right so there are different kinds of states that you have
different kinds of states that you have
different kinds of states that you have but why is state so important and why am
but why is state so important and why am
but why is state so important and why am i connecting it to vision a state is
i connecting it to vision a state is
i connecting it to vision a state is paramount because a state dictates what
paramount because a state dictates what
paramount because a state dictates what kind of a vision
kind of a vision
kind of a vision what kind of dreams you are capable of
what kind of dreams you are capable of
what kind of dreams you are capable of having are you ready to get into
having are you ready to get into
having are you ready to get into uncharted territory
uncharted territory
uncharted territory are you ready ready to falter and fail
are you ready ready to falter and fail
are you ready ready to falter and fail all of that gets determined by your
all of that gets determined by your
all of that gets determined by your state so if you are in a state of
state so if you are in a state of
state so if you are in a state of confidence if you are in a state of
confidence if you are in a state of
confidence if you are in a state of excitement passion chances are that you
excitement passion chances are that you
excitement passion chances are that you will push the envelope you’ll push the
will push the envelope you’ll push the
will push the envelope you’ll push the envelope you’ll get into areas which are
envelope you’ll get into areas which are
envelope you’ll get into areas which are brand-new for you you’ll get into areas
brand-new for you you’ll get into areas
brand-new for you you’ll get into areas which are brand-new for people and you
which are brand-new for people and you
which are brand-new for people and you would expand yourself so talking further
would expand yourself so talking further
would expand yourself so talking further about state state is something that is
about state state is something that is
about state state is something that is intrinsic it is internal it is part of
intrinsic it is internal it is part of
intrinsic it is internal it is part of you having said that it doesn’t mean
you having said that it doesn’t mean
you having said that it doesn’t mean that state cannot be changed state can
that state cannot be changed state can
that state cannot be changed state can definitely be changed and and it could
definitely be changed and and it could
definitely be changed and and it could it could be an hour of talk if I was to
it could be an hour of talk if I was to
it could be an hour of talk if I was to start talking about how you change your
start talking about how you change your
start talking about how you change your state but simply put it’s what I call
state but simply put it’s what I call
state but simply put it’s what I call the reality conversation so if you came
the reality conversation so if you came
the reality conversation so if you came sitting here decide that you want to get
sitting here decide that you want to get
sitting here decide that you want to get into an excited state or a passionate
into an excited state or a passionate
into an excited state or a passionate state you would actually start
state you would actually start
state you would actually start distinguishing your reality from the
distinguishing your reality from the
distinguishing your reality from the little voice or the sounds or the
little voice or the sounds or the
little voice or the sounds or the conversation that we go on that goes on
conversation that we go on that goes on
conversation that we go on that goes on within ourself right so if you can learn
within ourself right so if you can learn
within ourself right so if you can learn to distinguish that you can learn to
to distinguish that you can learn to
to distinguish that you can learn to actually change your state or become
actually change your state or become
actually change your state or become conscious of your state then again one
conscious of your state then again one
conscious of your state then again one of the other ways is something called
of the other ways is something called
of the other ways is something called context or perspective context is
context or perspective context is
context or perspective context is paramount context is decisive so if you
paramount context is decisive so if you
paramount context is decisive so if you can change the way you look at something
can change the way you look at something
can change the way you look at something as simply as that you can change your
as simply as that you can change your
as simply as that you can change your state
state
state and the last thing about state is state
and the last thing about state is state
and the last thing about state is state has what I call a contagion factor it is
has what I call a contagion factor it is
has what I call a contagion factor it is infectious it has a contagion factor
infectious it has a contagion factor
infectious it has a contagion factor because state can spread so if I’m
because state can spread so if I’m
because state can spread so if I’m excited if I’m passionate chances are
excited if I’m passionate chances are
excited if I’m passionate chances are that my team’s chances are that people
that my team’s chances are that people
that my team’s chances are that people in the auditorium would get excited so
in the auditorium would get excited so
in the auditorium would get excited so state has a contagion factor and you
state has a contagion factor and you
state has a contagion factor and you always see it the best when you know
always see it the best when you know
always see it the best when you know before any match when you see a coach
before any match when you see a coach
before any match when you see a coach talking to his team or the captain
talking to his team or the captain
talking to his team or the captain talking to his team or from from the
talking to his team or from from the
talking to his team or from from the world I come from you know before the
world I come from you know before the
world I come from you know before the next battle that you go into or the next
next battle that you go into or the next
next battle that you go into or the next hill that you want to take so you would
hill that you want to take so you would
hill that you want to take so you would actually motivate get your team excited
actually motivate get your team excited
actually motivate get your team excited get your men excited move into a
get your men excited move into a
get your men excited move into a different realm which is state and then
different realm which is state and then
different realm which is state and then you go and get victories like you’ve
you go and get victories like you’ve
you go and get victories like you’ve never seen earlier so state is critical
never seen earlier so state is critical
never seen earlier so state is critical to summarize because state actually
to summarize because state actually
to summarize because state actually dictates how big you can dream your
dictates how big you can dream your
dictates how big you can dream your passion and how you can actually push
passion and how you can actually push
passion and how you can actually push the envelope or the boundaries the
the envelope or the boundaries the
the envelope or the boundaries the second thing as far as vision is
second thing as far as vision is
second thing as far as vision is concerned and something that I observe
concerned and something that I observe
concerned and something that I observe very carefully and speak about it very
very carefully and speak about it very
very carefully and speak about it very often is all of us are brilliant all of
often is all of us are brilliant all of
often is all of us are brilliant all of us are brilliant in at looking at life
us are brilliant in at looking at life
us are brilliant in at looking at life in retrospect joining the dots and then
in retrospect joining the dots and then
in retrospect joining the dots and then saying wow I’ve really been a huge
saying wow I’ve really been a huge
saying wow I’ve really been a huge success okay and the good part about
success okay and the good part about
success okay and the good part about this is that all of us here every single
this is that all of us here every single
this is that all of us here every single person in the world actually why this
person in the world actually why this
person in the world actually why this auditorium is a hero is a genius when we
auditorium is a hero is a genius when we
auditorium is a hero is a genius when we look back at life in retrospect and join
look back at life in retrospect and join
look back at life in retrospect and join the dots there’s no way in hell that you
the dots there’s no way in hell that you
the dots there’s no way in hell that you can fail because you will always get the
can fail because you will always get the
can fail because you will always get the pieces of the puzzle together but how
pieces of the puzzle together but how
pieces of the puzzle together but how about actually looking at it the
about actually looking at it the
about actually looking at it the converse can you put a stake in the
converse can you put a stake in the
converse can you put a stake in the ground can you actually push the context
ground can you actually push the context
ground can you actually push the context can you put something in the vision
can you put something in the vision
can you put something in the vision something that you don’t have something
something that you don’t have something
something that you don’t have something that no one’s done can you actually
that no one’s done can you actually
that no one’s done can you actually reinvent the is or whatever is the
reinvent the is or whatever is the
reinvent the is or whatever is the status quo and then start working
status quo and then start working
status quo and then start working backwards in solving for it you find
backwards in solving for it you find
backwards in solving for it you find that the power that you have in life in
that the power that you have in life in
that the power that you have in life in your career as a student grows up
your career as a student grows up
your career as a student grows up exponentially if you start to work like
exponentially if you start to work like
exponentially if you start to work like that so put the vision plant it there
that so put the vision plant it there
that so put the vision plant it there start working with the end in mind and
start working with the end in mind and
start working with the end in mind and then see how this whole thing unfold its
then see how this whole thing unfold its
then see how this whole thing unfold its its sheer magic that unfolds and lastly
its sheer magic that unfolds and lastly
its sheer magic that unfolds and lastly of course
of course
of course the state and so so what’s the vision
the state and so so what’s the vision
the state and so so what’s the vision what’s the big picture how do you dream
what’s the big picture how do you dream
what’s the big picture how do you dream how do you actually formulate a vision
how do you actually formulate a vision
how do you actually formulate a vision so in my parlance probably something
so in my parlance probably something
so in my parlance probably something that I’ve almost paid ain’t it if I
that I’ve almost paid ain’t it if I
that I’ve almost paid ain’t it if I could call it that is simple think big
could call it that is simple think big
could call it that is simple think big think crazy think stupid think so crazy
think crazy think stupid think so crazy
think crazy think stupid think so crazy that you know you yourself get a little
that you know you yourself get a little
that you know you yourself get a little shocked at the way you’re thinking or
shocked at the way you’re thinking or
shocked at the way you’re thinking or the kind of vision that you’re
the kind of vision that you’re
the kind of vision that you’re formulating the the vision should be so
formulating the the vision should be so
formulating the the vision should be so overwhelming for anyone that hears of it
overwhelming for anyone that hears of it
overwhelming for anyone that hears of it and that’s the start point for you post
and that’s the start point for you post
and that’s the start point for you post that how do you move ahead with that
that how do you move ahead with that
that how do you move ahead with that vision what do you actually do are you
vision what do you actually do are you
vision what do you actually do are you capable of dreaming with your eyes open
capable of dreaming with your eyes open
capable of dreaming with your eyes open can you actually when you formulate a
can you actually when you formulate a
can you actually when you formulate a vision think about can you be the first
vision think about can you be the first
vision think about can you be the first in the world to do something that’s a
in the world to do something that’s a
in the world to do something that’s a that’s a big one can you be the first in
that’s a big one can you be the first in
that’s a big one can you be the first in the world to do something and and the
the world to do something and and the
the world to do something and and the best part is you don’t need to know how
best part is you don’t need to know how
best part is you don’t need to know how to do it you just need to know how to
to do it you just need to know how to
to do it you just need to know how to dream it that’s the big thing about
dream it that’s the big thing about
dream it that’s the big thing about vision connecting that the other big
vision connecting that the other big
vision connecting that the other big thing is how do you actually start
thing is how do you actually start
thing is how do you actually start voicing or declaring that vision so you
voicing or declaring that vision so you
voicing or declaring that vision so you formulated a vision you think it’s big
formulated a vision you think it’s big
formulated a vision you think it’s big it’s absolutely kick-ass how do you
it’s absolutely kick-ass how do you
it’s absolutely kick-ass how do you actually start converting into reality
actually start converting into reality
actually start converting into reality and one of my big learnings is that you
and one of my big learnings is that you
and one of my big learnings is that you need to go and voice it in the open get
need to go and voice it in the open get
need to go and voice it in the open get on to a stage like this get in with your
on to a stage like this get in with your
on to a stage like this get in with your teams get into your classroom and
teams get into your classroom and
teams get into your classroom and actually voice it and when you voice it
actually voice it and when you voice it
actually voice it and when you voice it when you voice that with that vision it
when you voice that with that vision it
when you voice that with that vision it starts becoming real it actually starts
starts becoming real it actually starts
starts becoming real it actually starts getting a shape and you find people like
getting a shape and you find people like
getting a shape and you find people like you people all across you your society
you people all across you your society
you people all across you your society starts working with you to realize that
starts working with you to realize that
starts working with you to realize that vision so that was all about vision and
vision so that was all about vision and
vision so that was all about vision and state and just the one last aspect all
state and just the one last aspect all
state and just the one last aspect all of this needs to be simple the simpler
of this needs to be simple the simpler
of this needs to be simple the simpler the better the less the jog on the
the better the less the jog on the
the better the less the jog on the better and that’s one of the big
better and that’s one of the big
better and that’s one of the big learnings that I’ve had over the years
learnings that I’ve had over the years
learnings that I’ve had over the years so moving on and I said you know it is
so moving on and I said you know it is
so moving on and I said you know it is it is anti-gravity force okay so like I
it is anti-gravity force okay so like I
it is anti-gravity force okay so like I said gravity is fear and failure stuff
said gravity is fear and failure stuff
said gravity is fear and failure stuff that will pull you down and the
that will pull you down and the
that will pull you down and the antigravity is the vision that we just
antigravity is the vision that we just
antigravity is the vision that we just spoke about your dreams in the vision so
spoke about your dreams in the vision so
spoke about your dreams in the vision so now moving on to the gravity portion
now moving on to the gravity portion
now moving on to the gravity portion which is fear and failure and
which is fear and failure and
which is fear and failure and and very simply put and I started with
and very simply put and I started with
and very simply put and I started with it failure and fear or something that
it failure and fear or something that
it failure and fear or something that will remain with you till the last days
will remain with you till the last days
will remain with you till the last days of your life whether you’re a student
of your life whether you’re a student
of your life whether you’re a student whether in a classroom whether you’re in
whether in a classroom whether you’re in
whether in a classroom whether you’re in a b-school like this whether you’re in
a b-school like this whether you’re in
a b-school like this whether you’re in the real world whether I was in the army
the real world whether I was in the army
the real world whether I was in the army whether you’re on an operation or a
whether you’re on an operation or a
whether you’re on an operation or a mission it stays with you at any given
mission it stays with you at any given
mission it stays with you at any given time you will always have butterflies
time you will always have butterflies
time you will always have butterflies but the big part and the one single
but the big part and the one single
but the big part and the one single thing that I talk about very often is
thing that I talk about very often is
thing that I talk about very often is start playing for failure consciously
start playing for failure consciously
start playing for failure consciously start playing for failure if you’re not
start playing for failure if you’re not
start playing for failure if you’re not failing five seven eight ten times a
failing five seven eight ten times a
failing five seven eight ten times a week there’s something wrong
week there’s something wrong
week there’s something wrong you’re not playing enough you’re not
you’re not playing enough you’re not
you’re not playing enough you’re not pushing the boundaries you’re sitting
pushing the boundaries you’re sitting
pushing the boundaries you’re sitting you’re sitting in a in a spot where you
you’re sitting in a in a spot where you
you’re sitting in a in a spot where you are comfortable you’re sitting in a
are comfortable you’re sitting in a
are comfortable you’re sitting in a comfort zone you refuse to walk into
comfort zone you refuse to walk into
comfort zone you refuse to walk into uncharted territories or troubled waters
uncharted territories or troubled waters
uncharted territories or troubled waters because you are comfortable and you will
because you are comfortable and you will
because you are comfortable and you will never expand the horizon unless you get
never expand the horizon unless you get
never expand the horizon unless you get comfortable with failure simple the
comfortable with failure simple the
comfortable with failure simple the other part to failure at the way the way
other part to failure at the way the way
other part to failure at the way the way I’ve worked on it
I’ve worked on it
I’ve worked on it over the years is there has to be let me
over the years is there has to be let me
over the years is there has to be let me let me let me see how I worded giving a
let me let me see how I worded giving a
let me let me see how I worded giving a second so so you know it’s a saying that
second so so you know it’s a saying that
second so so you know it’s a saying that was very close to me over the years it
was very close to me over the years it
was very close to me over the years it says that a ship in the harbor is safe
says that a ship in the harbor is safe
says that a ship in the harbor is safe but that is not what ships are built for
but that is not what ships are built for
but that is not what ships are built for right so you have to get into uncharted
right so you have to get into uncharted
right so you have to get into uncharted territories troubled waters like I said
territories troubled waters like I said
territories troubled waters like I said that is what builds the resilience that
that is what builds the resilience that
that is what builds the resilience that is what helps shape you to what you are
is what helps shape you to what you are
is what helps shape you to what you are if you don’t do that you would be
if you don’t do that you would be
if you don’t do that you would be sitting with a me-too strategy following
sitting with a me-too strategy following
sitting with a me-too strategy following a ground that someone else has actually
a ground that someone else has actually
a ground that someone else has actually laid out following a track or a beaten
laid out following a track or a beaten
laid out following a track or a beaten track that has been laid out by someone
track that has been laid out by someone
track that has been laid out by someone else
else
else so actually venture forth into troubled
so actually venture forth into troubled
so actually venture forth into troubled waters and you will succeed like never
waters and you will succeed like never
waters and you will succeed like never before or at least that’s what I’ve
before or at least that’s what I’ve
before or at least that’s what I’ve learned over the years okay so the last
learned over the years okay so the last
learned over the years okay so the last thing that I would like to talk about
thing that I would like to talk about
thing that I would like to talk about here in this portion is about fear and I
here in this portion is about fear and I
here in this portion is about fear and I said fear in failure
said fear in failure
said fear in failure typically move hand in hand we all have
typically move hand in hand we all have
typically move hand in hand we all have fear fear is to me fear can never be
fear fear is to me fear can never be
fear fear is to me fear can never be conquered right at the maximum you can
conquered right at the maximum you can
conquered right at the maximum you can actually cross the chasm of fear as I
actually cross the chasm of fear as I
actually cross the chasm of fear as I call it move to the other side and
call it move to the other side and
call it move to the other side and continue with life continue to start
continue with life continue to start
continue with life continue to start that game and then it depends whether
that game and then it depends whether
that game and then it depends whether you fail or succeed but fear is
you fail or succeed but fear is
you fail or succeed but fear is something that can never be conquer
something that can never be conquer
something that can never be conquer don’t even try and conquer it it’s just
don’t even try and conquer it it’s just
don’t even try and conquer it it’s just something that you can step across cross
something that you can step across cross
something that you can step across cross the chasm cross the valley call it what
the chasm cross the valley call it what
the chasm cross the valley call it what you want get to the other side and start
you want get to the other side and start
you want get to the other side and start playing the game and that’s all that
playing the game and that’s all that
playing the game and that’s all that there is about fear and I remember I’ve
there is about fear and I remember I’ve
there is about fear and I remember I’ve been fearful I’ve been I can I could go
been fearful I’ve been I can I could go
been fearful I’ve been I can I could go on for hours telling you about my fears
on for hours telling you about my fears
on for hours telling you about my fears okay so it’s not that because I’m
okay so it’s not that because I’m
okay so it’s not that because I’m standing here there are no fears or they
standing here there are no fears or they
standing here there are no fears or they never were fears I remember one of the
never were fears I remember one of the
never were fears I remember one of the time then I was most petrified
time then I was most petrified
time then I was most petrified perhaps in my life was I was about 16 or
perhaps in my life was I was about 16 or
perhaps in my life was I was about 16 or 17 16 and a half years of age and I was
17 16 and a half years of age and I was
17 16 and a half years of age and I was in the National Defense Academy or the
in the National Defense Academy or the
in the National Defense Academy or the NDA and one of the things that is
NDA and one of the things that is
NDA and one of the things that is mandated by the NDA is that by the time
mandated by the NDA is that by the time
mandated by the NDA is that by the time you’re in the second or third term you
you’re in the second or third term you
you’re in the second or third term you need to actually go and jump from what
need to actually go and jump from what
need to actually go and jump from what is called the 10 meter board so for
is called the 10 meter board so for
is called the 10 meter board so for those of you who are swimmers or follow
those of you who are swimmers or follow
those of you who are swimmers or follow swimming the highest board that you have
swimming the highest board that you have
swimming the highest board that you have where divers dive from is the 10 meter
where divers dive from is the 10 meter
where divers dive from is the 10 meter board so it was mandatory for us and if
board so it was mandatory for us and if
board so it was mandatory for us and if you don’t do it you could lose six
you don’t do it you could lose six
you don’t do it you could lose six months you could get relegated now that
months you could get relegated now that
months you could get relegated now that was perhaps one of the biggest ordeals
was perhaps one of the biggest ordeals
was perhaps one of the biggest ordeals that I have ever faced it was the
that I have ever faced it was the
that I have ever faced it was the biggest nightmare how do you actually
biggest nightmare how do you actually
biggest nightmare how do you actually climb up virtually to your death right
climb up virtually to your death right
climb up virtually to your death right and then what happens is when you
and then what happens is when you
and then what happens is when you actually get on to the plank or the
actually get on to the plank or the
actually get on to the plank or the diving board as you call it it starts
diving board as you call it it starts
diving board as you call it it starts shaking and you have nothing there’s no
shaking and you have nothing there’s no
shaking and you have nothing there’s no cement there’s nothing to hold on to and
cement there’s nothing to hold on to and
cement there’s nothing to hold on to and you’re actually virtually walking the
you’re actually virtually walking the
you’re actually virtually walking the plank and you reach the edge and the
plank and you reach the edge and the
plank and you reach the edge and the board is swinging and here’s what you
board is swinging and here’s what you
board is swinging and here’s what you need to do you see the water far away
need to do you see the water far away
need to do you see the water far away below you right and the board is
below you right and the board is
below you right and the board is swinging and you are supposed to take
swinging and you are supposed to take
swinging and you are supposed to take that next step and fall into the water
that next step and fall into the water
that next step and fall into the water which is absolutely petrifying until you
which is absolutely petrifying until you
which is absolutely petrifying until you do it for the first time and once you do
do it for the first time and once you do
do it for the first time and once you do it you fall into the water you go deep
it you fall into the water you go deep
it you fall into the water you go deep down you surface after some time gasping
down you surface after some time gasping
down you surface after some time gasping for breath and you realize that the
for breath and you realize that the
for breath and you realize that the water never really hurt you
water never really hurt you
water never really hurt you the water is there to actually embrace
the water is there to actually embrace
the water is there to actually embrace you and then you do it the second time
you and then you do it the second time
you and then you do it the second time and the third time and the fourth time
and the third time and the fourth time
and the third time and the fourth time and that’s what it is about fear so you
and that’s what it is about fear so you
and that’s what it is about fear so you need to cross the chasm you need to get
need to cross the chasm you need to get
need to cross the chasm you need to get on to the other side and that’s how and
on to the other side and that’s how and
on to the other side and that’s how and you
you
you now the analogy and the book that I’ve
now the analogy and the book that I’ve
now the analogy and the book that I’ve read so Jonathan had a vision in this
read so Jonathan had a vision in this
read so Jonathan had a vision in this book that why could I not die from 8000
book that why could I not die from 8000
book that why could I not die from 8000 feet and his mother told him seagulls
feet and his mother told him seagulls
feet and his mother told him seagulls are not meant to do that
are not meant to do that
are not meant to do that seagulls are not meant to stall it’s
seagulls are not meant to stall it’s
seagulls are not meant to stall it’s blasphemy it’s the same you can’t do
blasphemy it’s the same you can’t do
blasphemy it’s the same you can’t do that John and yet he does it and he
that John and yet he does it and he
that John and yet he does it and he practices and practices virtually gets
practices and practices virtually gets
practices and practices virtually gets too near death till the time he succeeds
just another thought and it’s sporadic
just another thought and it’s sporadic so how do you actually get used to
so how do you actually get used to
so how do you actually get used to failing okay and this is something very
failing okay and this is something very
failing okay and this is something very close to my heart
close to my heart
close to my heart I call it start formulating little games
I call it start formulating little games
I call it start formulating little games start playing the little games where the
start playing the little games where the
start playing the little games where the stakes are not very high and why I use
stakes are not very high and why I use
stakes are not very high and why I use the word games is a game ends up in a
the word games is a game ends up in a
the word games is a game ends up in a winner and a loser
winner and a loser
winner and a loser the stakes are not high you know that
the stakes are not high you know that
the stakes are not high you know that one party will win and the other party
one party will win and the other party
one party will win and the other party will lose so start playing little games
will lose so start playing little games
will lose so start playing little games with your life and what I mean by that
with your life and what I mean by that
with your life and what I mean by that it could be something as simple let me
it could be something as simple let me
it could be something as simple let me come up with something so it could be
come up with something so it could be
come up with something so it could be something as simple as one of you
something as simple as one of you
something as simple as one of you wanting to learn the guitar and becoming
wanting to learn the guitar and becoming
wanting to learn the guitar and becoming part of the school or the college band
part of the school or the college band
part of the school or the college band right so you say next six months I want
right so you say next six months I want
right so you say next six months I want to learn the guitar and I want to be
to learn the guitar and I want to be
to learn the guitar and I want to be part of the college band or it could be
part of the college band or it could be
part of the college band or it could be for those of us who’ve never run more
for those of us who’ve never run more
for those of us who’ve never run more than 500 meters in your entire life you
than 500 meters in your entire life you
than 500 meters in your entire life you could actually take on that I want to be
could actually take on that I want to be
could actually take on that I want to be part of a marathon I want to run the
part of a marathon I want to run the
part of a marathon I want to run the next airtel marathon and I want to come
next airtel marathon and I want to come
next airtel marathon and I want to come in the top 50 now that’s a small little
in the top 50 now that’s a small little
in the top 50 now that’s a small little game give yourself for time and I could
game give yourself for time and I could
game give yourself for time and I could go on so keep building those little
go on so keep building those little
go on so keep building those little games where you’re sitting where they
games where you’re sitting where they
games where you’re sitting where they are in college whether you’re in the
are in college whether you’re in the
are in college whether you’re in the army radio in the corporate world
army radio in the corporate world
army radio in the corporate world whether you’re in the boardroom
whether you’re in the boardroom
whether you’re in the boardroom irrespective of geographies and what
irrespective of geographies and what
irrespective of geographies and what that does is it teaches you to fail it
that does is it teaches you to fail it
that does is it teaches you to fail it teaches you to fail when stakes are
teaches you to fail when stakes are
teaches you to fail when stakes are small you get into the habit of failing
small you get into the habit of failing
small you get into the habit of failing and guys the amount you learn when you
and guys the amount you learn when you
and guys the amount you learn when you fail is probably exponentially higher
fail is probably exponentially higher
fail is probably exponentially higher than when you succeed because when you
than when you succeed because when you
than when you succeed because when you succeed you’re perched pretty feeling
succeed you’re perched pretty feeling
succeed you’re perched pretty feeling good about yourself
good about yourself
good about yourself victorious right and when you fail you
victorious right and when you fail you
victorious right and when you fail you actually get back to the drawing board
actually get back to the drawing board
actually get back to the drawing board and understand
and understand
and understand hey what went wrong how do i improve so
hey what went wrong how do i improve so
hey what went wrong how do i improve so get into the habit of failing and yes so
get into the habit of failing and yes so
get into the habit of failing and yes so let me let me let me end let me actually
let me let me let me end let me actually
let me let me let me end let me actually end and let me tell you about
end and let me tell you about
end and let me tell you about let me tell you about something that I
let me tell you about something that I
let me tell you about something that I heard something that was that was as
heard something that was that was as
heard something that was that was as erratic as me at times something that I
erratic as me at times something that I
erratic as me at times something that I heard many years ago in one of the
heard many years ago in one of the
heard many years ago in one of the forums that I actually attended so let
forums that I actually attended so let
forums that I actually attended so let me step back a lot of us sit here like
me step back a lot of us sit here like
me step back a lot of us sit here like my friend here a lot of us sit here
my friend here a lot of us sit here
my friend here a lot of us sit here thinking that our present is who we are
thinking that our present is who we are
thinking that our present is who we are in the present today is actually because
in the present today is actually because
in the present today is actually because of what we faced in the past so a cool
of what we faced in the past so a cool
of what we faced in the past so a cool Mita is here today because I school here
Mita is here today because I school here
Mita is here today because I school here this is the way I grew up this is the
this is the way I grew up this is the
this is the way I grew up this is the cultural nuances this is the economics
cultural nuances this is the economics
cultural nuances this is the economics trainer that I actually came from and so
trainer that I actually came from and so
trainer that I actually came from and so you know all of that the city I was I
you know all of that the city I was I
you know all of that the city I was I was talking to Joseph who’s from
was talking to Joseph who’s from
was talking to Joseph who’s from alleppey in Kerala now all of that has
alleppey in Kerala now all of that has
alleppey in Kerala now all of that has shaped me to be Who I am today so the
shaped me to be Who I am today so the
shaped me to be Who I am today so the past is responsible for my present so
past is responsible for my present so
past is responsible for my present so here’s the here’s the weird one your
here’s the here’s the weird one your
here’s the here’s the weird one your past has nothing to do with who you are
past has nothing to do with who you are
past has nothing to do with who you are in the present it has absolutely nothing
in the present it has absolutely nothing
in the present it has absolutely nothing it is the future that you’re living into
it is the future that you’re living into
it is the future that you’re living into that actually shapes and determines who
that actually shapes and determines who
that actually shapes and determines who you are I say it again so it is the
you are I say it again so it is the
you are I say it again so it is the future that you’re living into that
future that you’re living into that
future that you’re living into that actually gives you your present and let
actually gives you your present and let
actually gives you your present and let me explain the way they had explained it
me explain the way they had explained it
me explain the way they had explained it to me it’s it’s one of the best
to me it’s it’s one of the best
to me it’s it’s one of the best learnings that I’ve had in my life so we
learnings that I’ve had in my life so we
learnings that I’ve had in my life so we love going on our holidays which which
love going on our holidays which which
love going on our holidays which which most of you do vacation time I have a
most of you do vacation time I have a
most of you do vacation time I have a family I have two girls and here’s what
family I have two girls and here’s what
family I have two girls and here’s what I notice whether it’s an holiday in
I notice whether it’s an holiday in
I notice whether it’s an holiday in Hawaii or or or the back waters of
Hawaii or or or the back waters of
Hawaii or or or the back waters of Kerala for Joseph what happens is that
Kerala for Joseph what happens is that
Kerala for Joseph what happens is that you booked your tickets a few weeks or a
you booked your tickets a few weeks or a
you booked your tickets a few weeks or a few months or a couple of months in
few months or a couple of months in
few months or a couple of months in advance and you then have that future
advance and you then have that future
advance and you then have that future that you’re living in to you have that
that you’re living in to you have that
that you’re living in to you have that vision that you’re going after that you
vision that you’re going after that you
vision that you’re going after that you know I am going for a holiday to to
know I am going for a holiday to to
know I am going for a holiday to to Hawaii or to or to Kerala and just
Hawaii or to or to Kerala and just
Hawaii or to or to Kerala and just observe what happens or what transpires
observe what happens or what transpires
observe what happens or what transpires in those two or three weeks there is an
in those two or three weeks there is an
in those two or three weeks there is an excitement in the family there is an
excitement in the family there is an
excitement in the family there is an excitement with the children there’s an
excitement with the children there’s an
excitement with the children there’s an excitement with you and in that duration
excitement with you and in that duration
excitement with you and in that duration the excitement sometimes gets so much
the excitement sometimes gets so much
the excitement sometimes gets so much that kids would love to have their bags
that kids would love to have their bags
that kids would love to have their bags open in their room three weeks before
open in their room three weeks before
open in their room three weeks before going they would come in and since
going they would come in and since
going they would come in and since they’re girls they would come in and put
they’re girls they would come in and put
they’re girls they would come in and put it in a dress take out the same one but
it in a dress take out the same one but
it in a dress take out the same one but in a new one the next day put in shades
in a new one the next day put in shades
in a new one the next day put in shades put in a hat and that’s where the
put in a hat and that’s where the
put in a hat and that’s where the excitement becomes palpable
excitement becomes palpable
excitement becomes palpable and you’re actually living in an excited
and you’re actually living in an excited
and you’re actually living in an excited world weeks before the future is
world weeks before the future is
world weeks before the future is actually hit you because you’re actually
actually hit you because you’re actually
actually hit you because you’re actually living for that future so it is the
living for that future so it is the
living for that future so it is the future that determines your present your
future that determines your present your
future that determines your present your state everything that I spoke about
state everything that I spoke about
state everything that I spoke about today is determined by the future and
today is determined by the future and
today is determined by the future and what is future in today’s parlance
what is future in today’s parlance
what is future in today’s parlance future is nothing but your vision future
future is nothing but your vision future
future is nothing but your vision future is nothing but your dreams so back to
is nothing but your dreams so back to
is nothing but your dreams so back to the point dream big dream crazy do crazy
the point dream big dream crazy do crazy
the point dream big dream crazy do crazy stuff grow against the norms it’s
stuff grow against the norms it’s
stuff grow against the norms it’s perfect it’s your life it’s your life to
perfect it’s your life it’s your life to
perfect it’s your life it’s your life to shape it’s your life to mold there is no
shape it’s your life to mold there is no
shape it’s your life to mold there is no right or wrong it is your decision
right or wrong it is your decision
right or wrong it is your decision finally and every decision that you take
finally and every decision that you take
finally and every decision that you take is right so thanks a lot thanks for the
is right so thanks a lot thanks for the
is right so thanks a lot thanks for the patient hearing and all the best for the
patient hearing and all the best for the
patient hearing and all the best for the rest of your time here and for the real
rest of your time here and for the real
rest of your time here and for the real world once you get out and are very
world once you get out and are very
world once you get out and are very happy the value of course to all of you
happy the value of course to all of you
happy the value of course to all of you thanks a lot
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