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Making a Commitment | Shiv Khera | TEDxIIFTDelhi


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[Applause] good morning folks January 1973 I

good morning folks January 1973 I

good morning folks January 1973 I remember very distinctly we had coal

remember very distinctly we had coal

remember very distinctly we had coal mines in India and they got nationalized

mines in India and they got nationalized

mines in India and they got nationalized the government took over and right from

the government took over and right from

the government took over and right from being a mine owner we came on the street

being a mine owner we came on the street

being a mine owner we came on the street Street Main Street we had a thousand

Street Main Street we had a thousand

Street Main Street we had a thousand people working my father had died when I

people working my father had died when I

people working my father had died when I just about finished college we were left

just about finished college we were left

just about finished college we were left with the liabilities and the assets were

with the liabilities and the assets were

with the liabilities and the assets were gone and I was just married four weeks

gone and I was just married four weeks

gone and I was just married four weeks then some of your calculating my age but

then some of your calculating my age but

then some of your calculating my age but that’s your problem but folks I saw my

that’s your problem but folks I saw my

that’s your problem but folks I saw my life change we started selling little

life change we started selling little

life change we started selling little little things to get money for food we

little things to get money for food we

little things to get money for food we started selling furniture I remember a

started selling furniture I remember a

started selling furniture I remember a year later my daughter was born and I

year later my daughter was born and I

year later my daughter was born and I saw some of the last pieces of my

saw some of the last pieces of my

saw some of the last pieces of my mother’s Julie to get a release from the

mother’s Julie to get a release from the

mother’s Julie to get a release from the hospital

hospital

hospital did not have ten bucks to buy milk that

did not have ten bucks to buy milk that

did not have ten bucks to buy milk that night I tried my hands on three

night I tried my hands on three

night I tried my hands on three businesses with no money and I failed in

businesses with no money and I failed in

businesses with no money and I failed in all three finally November 13 1975 I

all three finally November 13 1975 I

all three finally November 13 1975 I decided to live in there my sister

decided to live in there my sister

decided to live in there my sister sponsored me from Canada went to Toronto

sponsored me from Canada went to Toronto

sponsored me from Canada went to Toronto rented a one-bedroom apartment we were

rented a one-bedroom apartment we were

rented a one-bedroom apartment we were sleeping on the floor we had no

sleeping on the floor we had no

sleeping on the floor we had no furniture my wife is an MBA she took up

furniture my wife is an MBA she took up

furniture my wife is an MBA she took up a job as a cashier at a bank at six

a job as a cashier at a bank at six

a job as a cashier at a bank at six hundred dollars a month to keep money

hundred dollars a month to keep money

hundred dollars a month to keep money coming in for food and I used to go out

coming in for food and I used to go out

coming in for food and I used to go out wearing my suit and my tie doing nothing

wearing my suit and my tie doing nothing

wearing my suit and my tie doing nothing and when people asked me what do you do

and when people asked me what do you do

and when people asked me what do you do for a living I was embarrassed to tell

for a living I was embarrassed to tell

for a living I was embarrassed to tell them I am

them I am

them I am unemployed I used to say I do

unemployed I used to say I do

unemployed I used to say I do import-export

import-export

import-export don’t get me wrong I tried went on like

don’t get me wrong I tried went on like

don’t get me wrong I tried went on like this for a year now just about that time

this for a year now just about that time

this for a year now just about that time after a year I was going through a trade

after a year I was going through a trade

after a year I was going through a trade show and a young Canadian was following

show and a young Canadian was following

show and a young Canadian was following me from behind

me from behind

me from behind looked like a handyman came close asked

looked like a handyman came close asked

looked like a handyman came close asked my name and he asked me what do you do

my name and he asked me what do you do

my name and he asked me what do you do for a living I said import/export and he

for a living I said import/export and he

for a living I said import/export and he asked me how much money do you make now

asked me how much money do you make now

asked me how much money do you make now I did give him a rather flat answer I

I did give him a rather flat answer I

I did give him a rather flat answer I said that’s none of your business but

said that’s none of your business but

said that’s none of your business but that day it got me thinking it doesn’t

that day it got me thinking it doesn’t

that day it got me thinking it doesn’t matter how many suits and ties you where

matter how many suits and ties you where

matter how many suits and ties you where people can tell you got nothing inside

people can tell you got nothing inside

people can tell you got nothing inside well I asked him his name was bill weir

well I asked him his name was bill weir

well I asked him his name was bill weir and I said what do you do for a living

and I said what do you do for a living

and I said what do you do for a living he said I simonize cars folks people who

he said I simonize cars folks people who

he said I simonize cars folks people who don’t know what Simon izing is it’s a

don’t know what Simon izing is it’s a

don’t know what Simon izing is it’s a glorified word for washing cars with the

glorified word for washing cars with the

glorified word for washing cars with the machines that’s all well I asked him how

machines that’s all well I asked him how

machines that’s all well I asked him how much money do you make

much money do you make

much money do you make he says sometimes $25 $30 45 55

he says sometimes $25 $30 45 55

he says sometimes $25 $30 45 55 depending on number of cars oh I wash as

depending on number of cars oh I wash as

depending on number of cars oh I wash as we went out of the auditorium as if he

we went out of the auditorium as if he

we went out of the auditorium as if he could read my mind

could read my mind

could read my mind right outside he stopped me look into

right outside he stopped me look into

right outside he stopped me look into the eye and he asked me would you like

the eye and he asked me would you like

the eye and he asked me would you like to wash cars with me

to wash cars with me

to wash cars with me I started thinking how long can I go

I started thinking how long can I go

I started thinking how long can I go like this I got nothing to eat

like this I got nothing to eat

like this I got nothing to eat I asked him what will you pay me he said

I asked him what will you pay me he said

I asked him what will you pay me he said I’ll take off five dollars for the

I’ll take off five dollars for the

I’ll take off five dollars for the chemicals rest we will split half as a

chemicals rest we will split half as a

chemicals rest we will split half as a when do we start is at tomorrow I asked

when do we start is at tomorrow I asked

when do we start is at tomorrow I asked him I said build washing cars is not

him I said build washing cars is not

him I said build washing cars is not high-tech you’re doing well by yourself

high-tech you’re doing well by yourself

high-tech you’re doing well by yourself you don’t need a joint-venture

you don’t need a joint-venture

you don’t need a joint-venture collaboration why do you want to split

collaboration why do you want to split

collaboration why do you want to split money with me he said share washing cars

money with me he said share washing cars

money with me he said share washing cars alone can get very lonely I just need

alone can get very lonely I just need

alone can get very lonely I just need somebody to talk to that’s all well next

somebody to talk to that’s all well next

somebody to talk to that’s all well next I went out washing cars we made 25 bucks

I went out washing cars we made 25 bucks

I went out washing cars we made 25 bucks each

each

each the day after 45 25 55 every day started

the day after 45 25 55 every day started

the day after 45 25 55 every day started making little little money

making little little money

making little little money and I started buying things for the home

and I started buying things for the home

and I started buying things for the home and right about that time I saw an ad in

and right about that time I saw an ad in

and right about that time I saw an ad in the newspaper you want to make some

the newspaper you want to make some

the newspaper you want to make some extra money do the door-to-door demos

extra money do the door-to-door demos

extra money do the door-to-door demos for vacuum cleaners I’m sure you must

for vacuum cleaners I’m sure you must

for vacuum cleaners I’m sure you must have seen those I responded to the ad

have seen those I responded to the ad

have seen those I responded to the ad there were a couple of hundred people

there were a couple of hundred people

there were a couple of hundred people they gave us a pep talk and they said go

they gave us a pep talk and they said go

they gave us a pep talk and they said go do the demo and every demo you do you

do the demo and every demo you do you

do the demo and every demo you do you get paid five bucks folks I was

get paid five bucks folks I was

get paid five bucks folks I was genuinely knive I actually believed we

genuinely knive I actually believed we

genuinely knive I actually believed we only had to do a demo and not do sell so

only had to do a demo and not do sell so

only had to do a demo and not do sell so I used to go to an apartment building

I used to go to an apartment building

I used to go to an apartment building knock at door when the lady or the man

knock at door when the lady or the man

knock at door when the lady or the man used to open I used to say ma’am you

used to open I used to say ma’am you

used to open I used to say ma’am you don’t have to buy the vacuum cleaner all

don’t have to buy the vacuum cleaner all

don’t have to buy the vacuum cleaner all that you got to do is take a demo and

that you got to do is take a demo and

that you got to do is take a demo and I’ll get paid five bucks so some people

I’ll get paid five bucks so some people

I’ll get paid five bucks so some people took pity on me let me come in some

took pity on me let me come in some

took pity on me let me come in some people kicked me out and some people

people kicked me out and some people

people kicked me out and some people slammed the door and that was fine one

slammed the door and that was fine one

slammed the door and that was fine one day I was doing a demo in an Indian

day I was doing a demo in an Indian

day I was doing a demo in an Indian family’s home and the man and woman were

family’s home and the man and woman were

family’s home and the man and woman were sitting on the sofa and I was on the

sitting on the sofa and I was on the

sitting on the sofa and I was on the floor and this man instead of looking at

floor and this man instead of looking at

floor and this man instead of looking at the vacuum cleaner he kept looking at me

the vacuum cleaner he kept looking at me

the vacuum cleaner he kept looking at me all the time so I asked him sir

all the time so I asked him sir

all the time so I asked him sir did I do something wrong he said no I

did I do something wrong he said no I

did I do something wrong he said no I said then why do you look at me this way

said then why do you look at me this way

said then why do you look at me this way he asked me she have you ever so life

he asked me she have you ever so life

he asked me she have you ever so life insurance I said no I have never so life

insurance I said no I have never so life

insurance I said no I have never so life insurance and besides I never will

insurance and besides I never will

insurance and besides I never will because I remember back home in India

because I remember back home in India

because I remember back home in India that agent that pest who would not live

that agent that pest who would not live

that agent that pest who would not live your life for three hours till you

your life for three hours till you

your life for three hours till you signed the application I said no wonder

signed the application I said no wonder

signed the application I said no wonder they called him life insurance agents

they called him life insurance agents

they called him life insurance agents because they don’t live your life well I

because they don’t live your life well I

because they don’t live your life well I said I will never be that pest in my

said I will never be that pest in my

said I will never be that pest in my life he said no shame it doesn’t work

life he said no shame it doesn’t work

life he said no shame it doesn’t work that way here look at me I’m a life

that way here look at me I’m a life

that way here look at me I’m a life insurance agent look at my lifestyle I

insurance agent look at my lifestyle I

insurance agent look at my lifestyle I Drive a Lincoln later when I came to

Drive a Lincoln later when I came to

Drive a Lincoln later when I came to know he was working for MetLife and they

know he was working for MetLife and they

know he was working for MetLife and they had a recruitment drive going on

had a recruitment drive going on

had a recruitment drive going on if you recruited a new salesperson you

if you recruited a new salesperson you

if you recruited a new salesperson you would get a Samsonite briefcase so I was

would get a Samsonite briefcase so I was

would get a Samsonite briefcase so I was they

they

they briefcase well folks I finished the demo

briefcase well folks I finished the demo

briefcase well folks I finished the demo and I left but then you cannot go

and I left but then you cannot go

and I left but then you cannot go straight you go the other way round we

straight you go the other way round we

straight you go the other way round we were living in the same building and

were living in the same building and

were living in the same building and somehow his wife became friendly with my

somehow his wife became friendly with my

somehow his wife became friendly with my wife and convinced her that selling life

wife and convinced her that selling life

wife and convinced her that selling life insurance was the right thing to do and

insurance was the right thing to do and

insurance was the right thing to do and my wife also knew we couldn’t go through

my wife also knew we couldn’t go through

my wife also knew we couldn’t go through life washing cars we had to do something

life washing cars we had to do something

life washing cars we had to do something different I had a family to support our

different I had a family to support our

different I had a family to support our little daughter and my wife also knew my

little daughter and my wife also knew my

little daughter and my wife also knew my failure record and life was pretty good

failure record and life was pretty good

failure record and life was pretty good even in school I wasn’t the brightest

even in school I wasn’t the brightest

even in school I wasn’t the brightest kid I was the backbench a troubling the

kid I was the backbench a troubling the

kid I was the backbench a troubling the front benchers in my eighth grade after

front benchers in my eighth grade after

front benchers in my eighth grade after six or seven subjects I failed and all

six or seven subjects I failed and all

six or seven subjects I failed and all except one

except one

except one so my principal called me and said she

so my principal called me and said she

so my principal called me and said she will paying too much attention on one

will paying too much attention on one

will paying too much attention on one subject well folks out of 28 kids I was

subject well folks out of 28 kids I was

subject well folks out of 28 kids I was number 27 because the 28 was absent no

number 27 because the 28 was absent no

number 27 because the 28 was absent no kidding my principal used to call my

kidding my principal used to call my

kidding my principal used to call my parents and tell them get this kid out

parents and tell them get this kid out

parents and tell them get this kid out of the school he’s one kid who’s gonna

of the school he’s one kid who’s gonna

of the school he’s one kid who’s gonna bring the average of the school well I

bring the average of the school well I

bring the average of the school well I was bringing the average down I told my

was bringing the average down I told my

was bringing the average down I told my wife I’m not selling life insurance

wife I’m not selling life insurance

wife I’m not selling life insurance she said she do sell life insurance you

she said she do sell life insurance you

she said she do sell life insurance you gotta take an exam why don’t you take

gotta take an exam why don’t you take

gotta take an exam why don’t you take the examine if you pass if you pass you

the examine if you pass if you pass you

the examine if you pass if you pass you have a choice right now you have no

have a choice right now you have no

have a choice right now you have no choice I said all right I’ll take the

choice I said all right I’ll take the

choice I said all right I’ll take the exam what I won’t sell folks I took the

exam what I won’t sell folks I took the

exam what I won’t sell folks I took the exam and guess what I I passed well this

exam and guess what I I passed well this

exam and guess what I I passed well this guy who’s got everything rolling took me

guy who’s got everything rolling took me

guy who’s got everything rolling took me to his office introduced me to his

to his office introduced me to his

to his office introduced me to his district manager was a very sharp

district manager was a very sharp

district manager was a very sharp elderly man by the name of Joe Bonney

elderly man by the name of Joe Bonney

elderly man by the name of Joe Bonney and he said Jim if you decide to become

and he said Jim if you decide to become

and he said Jim if you decide to become life insurance agent right now I’ll give

life insurance agent right now I’ll give

life insurance agent right now I’ll give you a draw of a hundred and fifty

you a draw of a hundred and fifty

you a draw of a hundred and fifty dollars a week and I’ll give you time to

dollars a week and I’ll give you time to

dollars a week and I’ll give you time to think before I would draw the offer he

think before I would draw the offer he

think before I would draw the offer he said you got 30 seconds to decide I said

said you got 30 seconds to decide I said

said you got 30 seconds to decide I said Joe you said you’ll give me time to

Joe you said you’ll give me time to

Joe you said you’ll give me time to think he said you have 20 left now I

think he said you have 20 left now I

think he said you have 20 left now I said I’ll take it and now I became a

said I’ll take it and now I became a

said I’ll take it and now I became a life insurance agent which I never in my

life insurance agent which I never in my

life insurance agent which I never in my life ever wanted to be now they gave me

life ever wanted to be now they gave me

life ever wanted to be now they gave me the book the game

the book the game

the book the game little training and they said boy goes

little training and they said boy goes

little training and they said boy goes sell and folks for the next three months

sell and folks for the next three months

sell and folks for the next three months I went out selling I put in a hundred

I went out selling I put in a hundred

I went out selling I put in a hundred percent why a hundred percent I actually

percent why a hundred percent I actually

percent why a hundred percent I actually put in two hundred percent we all can

put in two hundred percent we all can

put in two hundred percent we all can tell when we’ve done our best we all can

tell when we’ve done our best we all can

tell when we’ve done our best we all can tell when we’ve not done our best I can

tell when we’ve not done our best I can

tell when we’ve not done our best I can look at the mirror and say I did my best

look at the mirror and say I did my best

look at the mirror and say I did my best and guess what

and guess what

and guess what I broke the company’s record well

I broke the company’s record well

I broke the company’s record well obviously you’re not impressed why you

obviously you’re not impressed why you

obviously you’re not impressed why you oh thanks a lot well wait till you find

oh thanks a lot well wait till you find

oh thanks a lot well wait till you find which record I broke how many sales I

which record I broke how many sales I

which record I broke how many sales I made almost none so my manager called me

made almost none so my manager called me

made almost none so my manager called me right back he said I’ve been in it’s

right back he said I’ve been in it’s

right back he said I’ve been in it’s life insurance business 35 years and

life insurance business 35 years and

life insurance business 35 years and I’ve seen some slow starts in my life

I’ve seen some slow starts in my life

I’ve seen some slow starts in my life but I’ve never seen one like you

but I’ve never seen one like you

but I’ve never seen one like you he said don’t come back tomorrow you’re

he said don’t come back tomorrow you’re

he said don’t come back tomorrow you’re fired I said wait a minute Joe before

fired I said wait a minute Joe before

fired I said wait a minute Joe before you fire me at least you hear me out I’m

you fire me at least you hear me out I’m

you fire me at least you hear me out I’m not an educated person I’m not a doctor

not an educated person I’m not a doctor

not an educated person I’m not a doctor and Geney attorney accountant I’m a

and Geney attorney accountant I’m a

and Geney attorney accountant I’m a become third division failed in my 10th

become third division failed in my 10th

become third division failed in my 10th I got a handicap how do you expect

I got a handicap how do you expect

I got a handicap how do you expect performance out of me folks that day

performance out of me folks that day

performance out of me folks that day somebody spoke very harshly to me and

somebody spoke very harshly to me and

somebody spoke very harshly to me and I’m glad he did and later on I realized

I’m glad he did and later on I realized

I’m glad he did and later on I realized it was not anger it was concerned and

it was not anger it was concerned and

it was not anger it was concerned and here’s what he said to me he said you

here’s what he said to me he said you

here’s what he said to me he said you shut up you shut up and listen to me he

shut up you shut up and listen to me he

shut up you shut up and listen to me he said you don’t have a handicap you got a

said you don’t have a handicap you got a

said you don’t have a handicap you got a bad attitude

bad attitude

bad attitude and it is people like you not only do

and it is people like you not only do

and it is people like you not only do they do they ruin their own lives but

they do they ruin their own lives but

they do they ruin their own lives but they also ruin their family’s life too

they also ruin their family’s life too

they also ruin their family’s life too and he said do you know who has a

and he said do you know who has a

and he said do you know who has a handicap in life he said the doctor

handicap in life he said the doctor

handicap in life he said the doctor engineer attorney accounted they all

engineer attorney accounted they all

engineer attorney accounted they all have handicaps I said boy never heard

have handicaps I said boy never heard

have handicaps I said boy never heard that one how do they have handicaps

that one how do they have handicaps

that one how do they have handicaps he said go check out all over the world

he said go check out all over the world

he said go check out all over the world it is generally true exceptions

it is generally true exceptions

it is generally true exceptions different they all have chosen they feel

different they all have chosen they feel

different they all have chosen they feel they’re stuck

they’re stuck

they’re stuck they all have chosen the filthiest stuck

they all have chosen the filthiest stuck

they all have chosen the filthiest stuck he said you haven’t chosen your field

he said you haven’t chosen your field

he said you haven’t chosen your field don’t you see the world is open to you I

don’t you see the world is open to you I

don’t you see the world is open to you I said joy never thought from that point

said joy never thought from that point

said joy never thought from that point of view he said now that you’re fired he

of view he said now that you’re fired he

of view he said now that you’re fired he said you got all the time

said you got all the time

said you got all the time things that leave my office folks I left

things that leave my office folks I left

things that leave my office folks I left his office that day that evening I had

his office that day that evening I had

his office that day that evening I had an appointment about 30 miles away I had

an appointment about 30 miles away I had

an appointment about 30 miles away I had a choice to keep her not to keep I knew

a choice to keep her not to keep I knew

a choice to keep her not to keep I knew I had no job next day I might or might

I had no job next day I might or might

I had no job next day I might or might not get paid for it well I decided to

not get paid for it well I decided to

not get paid for it well I decided to keep that appointment that evening it

keep that appointment that evening it

keep that appointment that evening it was 6:30 while I was driving having

was 6:30 while I was driving having

was 6:30 while I was driving having failed one after the other in my life

failed one after the other in my life

failed one after the other in my life that night I was feeling so depressed I

that night I was feeling so depressed I

that night I was feeling so depressed I don’t know what happened to me I just

don’t know what happened to me I just

don’t know what happened to me I just burst out into crying I couldn’t

burst out into crying I couldn’t

burst out into crying I couldn’t understand what was going on in my life

understand what was going on in my life

understand what was going on in my life I had a family to support I had a little

I had a family to support I had a little

I had a family to support I had a little daughter I didn’t know how to earn a

daughter I didn’t know how to earn a

daughter I didn’t know how to earn a living I kept crying I kept praying that

living I kept crying I kept praying that

living I kept crying I kept praying that night that 30 miles distance seemed like

night that 30 miles distance seemed like

night that 30 miles distance seemed like 30 years it’s a lot easier to talk about

30 years it’s a lot easier to talk about

30 years it’s a lot easier to talk about it tonight it was not easy that night

it tonight it was not easy that night

it tonight it was not easy that night seven o’clock I reached my appointment

seven o’clock I reached my appointment

seven o’clock I reached my appointment got a handle on myself went up started

got a handle on myself went up started

got a handle on myself went up started selling by the time the man looked at

selling by the time the man looked at

selling by the time the man looked at his watch it was 11:30 I got in at 7:00

his watch it was 11:30 I got in at 7:00

his watch it was 11:30 I got in at 7:00 no wonder they call life insurance agent

no wonder they call life insurance agent

no wonder they call life insurance agent past four and a half hours I was sitting

past four and a half hours I was sitting

past four and a half hours I was sitting there he said do you realize what time

there he said do you realize what time

there he said do you realize what time it is it’s a polite way of saying get

it is it’s a polite way of saying get

it is it’s a polite way of saying get out and he said I gotta go to work

out and he said I gotta go to work

out and he said I gotta go to work tomorrow morning I said I realize but

tomorrow morning I said I realize but

tomorrow morning I said I realize but somehow that night I wasn’t moving he

somehow that night I wasn’t moving he

somehow that night I wasn’t moving he looked at me I looked back at him I

looked at me I looked back at him I

looked at me I looked back at him I don’t know what got into this person’s

don’t know what got into this person’s

don’t know what got into this person’s mind out of 11:30

mind out of 11:30

mind out of 11:30 he asked me what does it take to get rid

he asked me what does it take to get rid

he asked me what does it take to get rid of you right now I thought he was asking

of you right now I thought he was asking

of you right now I thought he was asking me the rates on the insurance I opened

me the rates on the insurance I opened

me the rates on the insurance I opened the book back again looked at the age

the book back again looked at the age

the book back again looked at the age looked at the factor multiplied with

looked at the factor multiplied with

looked at the factor multiplied with insurance and I said sir that’ll be

insurance and I said sir that’ll be

insurance and I said sir that’ll be $27.50 he said what I said 27 dollars

$27.50 he said what I said 27 dollars

$27.50 he said what I said 27 dollars and 58 cents he looked at me

and 58 cents he looked at me

and 58 cents he looked at me disgustingly why didn’t you tell me when

disgustingly why didn’t you tell me when

disgustingly why didn’t you tell me when you walked in he wrote me a check and he

you walked in he wrote me a check and he

you walked in he wrote me a check and he says take this and get out before I

says take this and get out before I

says take this and get out before I change my mind folks that was one of my

change my mind folks that was one of my

change my mind folks that was one of my first sales came home midnight next day

first sales came home midnight next day

first sales came home midnight next day morning I went to my office I went to my

morning I went to my office I went to my

morning I went to my office I went to my manager and I said Joe I got an

manager and I said Joe I got an

manager and I said Joe I got an application today

application today

application today it’s a small one but it’s a bound one

it’s a small one but it’s a bound one

it’s a small one but it’s a bound one with a check but without a check has no

with a check but without a check has no

with a check but without a check has no meaning and I said Joe will you let me

meaning and I said Joe will you let me

meaning and I said Joe will you let me stay I make one commitment to you I will

stay I make one commitment to you I will

stay I make one commitment to you I will not let you down because of my effort

not let you down because of my effort

not let you down because of my effort but if you fire me today I don’t know

but if you fire me today I don’t know

but if you fire me today I don’t know where to go

where to go

where to go the only place I know where to go is go

the only place I know where to go is go

the only place I know where to go is go back to washing cars and I said I don’t

back to washing cars and I said I don’t

back to washing cars and I said I don’t want to do that anymore I got a family

want to do that anymore I got a family

want to do that anymore I got a family to support but I commit I won’t let you

to support but I commit I won’t let you

to support but I commit I won’t let you down he looked at me he says shift that

down he looked at me he says shift that

down he looked at me he says shift that was that’s not just small one that’s

was that’s not just small one that’s

was that’s not just small one that’s your big one and he said I’ll only let

your big one and he said I’ll only let

your big one and he said I’ll only let you stay here if you make a commitment

you stay here if you make a commitment

you stay here if you make a commitment not to me but to yourself I’ll let you

not to me but to yourself I’ll let you

not to me but to yourself I’ll let you stay folks that day I made a commitment

stay folks that day I made a commitment

stay folks that day I made a commitment that day I made a commitment and that

that day I made a commitment and that

that day I made a commitment and that was one of the turning points in my life

was one of the turning points in my life

was one of the turning points in my life and he would do the papers and that year

and he would do the papers and that year

and he would do the papers and that year I went ahead sold close to a million

I went ahead sold close to a million

I went ahead sold close to a million dollars next year 3 million the year

dollars next year 3 million the year

dollars next year 3 million the year after close to 5 million moved on to the

after close to 5 million moved on to the

after close to 5 million moved on to the US got into 3 businesses bought out a

US got into 3 businesses bought out a

US got into 3 businesses bought out a company out of California in 1984

company out of California in 1984

company out of California in 1984 started a New Jersey operation with no

started a New Jersey operation with no

started a New Jersey operation with no clients and I sold my company with close

clients and I sold my company with close

clients and I sold my company with close to 500 clients now folks why do I share

to 500 clients now folks why do I share

to 500 clients now folks why do I share my life with you for a few reasons

my life with you for a few reasons

my life with you for a few reasons number one I kept failing all my life

number one I kept failing all my life

number one I kept failing all my life and kept blaming the whole world for my

and kept blaming the whole world for my

and kept blaming the whole world for my failure not realizing that I was my own

failure not realizing that I was my own

failure not realizing that I was my own biggest problem nothing changed outside

biggest problem nothing changed outside

biggest problem nothing changed outside something changed inside here and the

something changed inside here and the

something changed inside here and the direction in my life changed folks let

direction in my life changed folks let

direction in my life changed folks let me ask you many times in life aren’t we

me ask you many times in life aren’t we

me ask you many times in life aren’t we our own biggest problem and the second

our own biggest problem and the second

our own biggest problem and the second lesson I learned was folks when he said

lesson I learned was folks when he said

lesson I learned was folks when he said to me you shut up and listen to me I

to me you shut up and listen to me I

to me you shut up and listen to me I learned that day that sometimes in life

learned that day that sometimes in life

learned that day that sometimes in life you got to be unkind to be kind and I

you got to be unkind to be kind and I

you got to be unkind to be kind and I realized one more thing that the

realized one more thing that the

realized one more thing that the greatest coaches in the world are the

greatest coaches in the world are the

greatest coaches in the world are the greatest critics in the world for

greatest critics in the world for

greatest critics in the world for and that they also realize one thing

and that they also realize one thing

and that they also realize one thing that there are only two relationships in

that there are only two relationships in

that there are only two relationships in life that care to correct

life that care to correct

life that care to correct well punishes only two relationships in

well punishes only two relationships in

well punishes only two relationships in life care to correct only parents and

life care to correct only parents and

life care to correct only parents and teachers in life care to correct the

teachers in life care to correct the

teachers in life care to correct the world punishes and that’s the time I

world punishes and that’s the time I

world punishes and that’s the time I realize the difference between a promise

realize the difference between a promise

realize the difference between a promise and a commitment folks a promise is an

and a commitment folks a promise is an

and a commitment folks a promise is an agreement we make with the world a

agreement we make with the world a

agreement we make with the world a commitment is an agreement we make with

commitment is an agreement we make with

commitment is an agreement we make with ourselves and folks unfortunately

ourselves and folks unfortunately

ourselves and folks unfortunately today’s world runs away from conviction

today’s world runs away from conviction

today’s world runs away from conviction commitments in fact they confuse the

commitments in fact they confuse the

commitments in fact they confuse the word commitment with confinement not

word commitment with confinement not

word commitment with confinement not true in fact confinement restricts you

true in fact confinement restricts you

true in fact confinement restricts you commitment frees you in life to do a lot

commitment frees you in life to do a lot

commitment frees you in life to do a lot of things and folks that’s the time I

of things and folks that’s the time I

of things and folks that’s the time I realized the difference between a moral

realized the difference between a moral

realized the difference between a moral commitment and a legal commitment I

commitment and a legal commitment I

commitment and a legal commitment I realized that in life moral commitments

realized that in life moral commitments

realized that in life moral commitments are way way way stronger than legal

are way way way stronger than legal

are way way way stronger than legal commitments and in this world of

commitments and in this world of

commitments and in this world of commitment phobia the basic ingredients

commitment phobia the basic ingredients

commitment phobia the basic ingredients to success is missing and if we want to

to success is missing and if we want to

to success is missing and if we want to succeed in life we need to make a first

succeed in life we need to make a first

succeed in life we need to make a first commitment to our values that is

commitment to our values that is

commitment to our values that is integrity live a life of integrity

integrity live a life of integrity

integrity live a life of integrity that’s first commitment to we need to

that’s first commitment to we need to

that’s first commitment to we need to make a commitment to ourselves 3 we need

make a commitment to ourselves 3 we need

make a commitment to ourselves 3 we need we need to make a commitment to our

we need to make a commitment to our

we need to make a commitment to our families

families

families 4 we need to make a commitment to our

4 we need to make a commitment to our

4 we need to make a commitment to our organizations and our customers and 5

organizations and our customers and 5

organizations and our customers and 5 need to make a commitment to society

need to make a commitment to society

need to make a commitment to society only then and then only we have the

only then and then only we have the

only then and then only we have the basic ingredient and found

basic ingredient and found

basic ingredient and found datian to success god bless thank you

datian to success god bless thank you

datian to success god bless thank you very much

very much

very much [Applause]

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