well thank you all very much for being here so I’m a guy who’s interested in
here so I’m a guy who’s interested in
here so I’m a guy who’s interested in science
science
science interested in creativity but as the
interested in creativity but as the
interested in creativity but as the Science Guy thing’s actually brought me
Science Guy thing’s actually brought me
Science Guy thing’s actually brought me to meditation which is really
to meditation which is really
to meditation which is really interesting to me but not to some of the
interesting to me but not to some of the
interesting to me but not to some of the you know kind of someone in traffic
you know kind of someone in traffic
you know kind of someone in traffic means you’ll never get a good parking
means you’ll never get a good parking
means you’ll never get a good parking spot
spot
spot it’s more kind of complicated than that
it’s more kind of complicated than that
it’s more kind of complicated than that and that made sense to me but as I kind
and that made sense to me but as I kind
and that made sense to me but as I kind of studied neuroscience a little bit
of studied neuroscience a little bit
of studied neuroscience a little bit more and studied things like social
more and studied things like social
more and studied things like social science as a psychologist actually came
science as a psychologist actually came
science as a psychologist actually came to disagree at least that part about
to disagree at least that part about
to disagree at least that part about kind of how we drive affecting whether
kind of how we drive affecting whether
kind of how we drive affecting whether we get a good parking spot so I’ll
we get a good parking spot so I’ll
we get a good parking spot so I’ll explain to you how this kind of works
explain to you how this kind of works
explain to you how this kind of works now we’ve probably all had that
now we’ve probably all had that
now we’ve probably all had that experience where we’re driving in rush
experience where we’re driving in rush
experience where we’re driving in rush hour traffic and you know we’re kind of
hour traffic and you know we’re kind of
hour traffic and you know we’re kind of going so slowly and then we see someone
going so slowly and then we see someone
going so slowly and then we see someone kind of in the distance just trying to
kind of in the distance just trying to
kind of in the distance just trying to cut us off right that you know we can
cut us off right that you know we can
cut us off right that you know we can think of a creative adjective for how
think of a creative adjective for how
think of a creative adjective for how you might describe them right but we
you might describe them right but we
you might describe them right but we have a dilemma in that moment right do
have a dilemma in that moment right do
have a dilemma in that moment right do we listen to the kinder angel on our
we listen to the kinder angel on our
we listen to the kinder angel on our shoulder and wave them in order listen
shoulder and wave them in order listen
shoulder and wave them in order listen to that devil on our shoulder and just
to that devil on our shoulder and just
to that devil on our shoulder and just like do the thousand-yard stare like I’m
like do the thousand-yard stare like I’m
like do the thousand-yard stare like I’m never going to let them in person
never going to let them in person
never going to let them in person doesn’t exist right and so before I kind
doesn’t exist right and so before I kind
doesn’t exist right and so before I kind of get into what the parking gods or
of get into what the parking gods or
of get into what the parking gods or karma or whoever decides what happens
karma or whoever decides what happens
karma or whoever decides what happens whether we let them in or not let’s look
whether we let them in or not let’s look
whether we let them in or not let’s look at like why we might let them in or not
at like why we might let them in or not
at like why we might let them in or not let them in now we know about human
let them in now we know about human
let them in now we know about human behavior that it’s based on two things
behavior that it’s based on two things
behavior that it’s based on two things right nature and nurture biology and
right nature and nurture biology and
right nature and nurture biology and like our social experiences and the kind
like our social experiences and the kind
like our social experiences and the kind of events that happen in our lives
of events that happen in our lives
of events that happen in our lives nature is like our DNA and our biology
nature is like our DNA and our biology
nature is like our DNA and our biology and you know other things you see up on
and you know other things you see up on
and you know other things you see up on this list here nurture is like our
this list here nurture is like our
this list here nurture is like our childhood experiences our parents the
childhood experiences our parents the
childhood experiences our parents the friendships that we have like they say
friendships that we have like they say
friendships that we have like they say are the average of the five people you
are the average of the five people you
are the average of the five people you spend the most time with right these
spend the most time with right these
spend the most time with right these kinds of things influence us and even
kinds of things influence us and even
kinds of things influence us and even our driver’s ed teacher to some extent
our driver’s ed teacher to some extent
our driver’s ed teacher to some extent so we start out with this blueprint of
so we start out with this blueprint of
so we start out with this blueprint of DNA and then
DNA and then
DNA and then kind of combines with with our nurture
kind of combines with with our nurture
kind of combines with with our nurture experiences that we have but where does
experiences that we have but where does
experiences that we have but where does that kind of DNA even come from in the
that kind of DNA even come from in the
that kind of DNA even come from in the first place and one thing that’s
first place and one thing that’s
first place and one thing that’s interesting is that kind of over the
interesting is that kind of over the
interesting is that kind of over the last few years there’s a new aspect of
last few years there’s a new aspect of
last few years there’s a new aspect of genetic science that’s actually
genetic science that’s actually
genetic science that’s actually overturned decades of understanding and
overturned decades of understanding and
overturned decades of understanding and this is called epigenetics and it’s
this is called epigenetics and it’s
this is called epigenetics and it’s actually how our nurture experiences
actually how our nurture experiences
actually how our nurture experiences actually affect our nature they affect
actually affect our nature they affect
actually affect our nature they affect our DNA so these scientists basically
our DNA so these scientists basically
our DNA so these scientists basically what they did was they found some
what they did was they found some
what they did was they found some genetically identical mice and they
genetically identical mice and they
genetically identical mice and they basically just like stressed out half of
basically just like stressed out half of
basically just like stressed out half of them right and what they found compared
them right and what they found compared
them right and what they found compared to their genetically identical brothers
to their genetically identical brothers
to their genetically identical brothers and sisters was that a few months later
and sisters was that a few months later
and sisters was that a few months later those mice were acting differently no
those mice were acting differently no
those mice were acting differently no big surprise because they were stressed
big surprise because they were stressed
big surprise because they were stressed out but they they did a blood test and
out but they they did a blood test and
out but they they did a blood test and they found that their genes had actually
they found that their genes had actually
they found that their genes had actually kind of turned on and off in certain
kind of turned on and off in certain
kind of turned on and off in certain ways that were different than the mice
ways that were different than the mice
ways that were different than the mice that had the low stress life of like you
that had the low stress life of like you
that had the low stress life of like you know hamster wheel workouts and sleeping
know hamster wheel workouts and sleeping
know hamster wheel workouts and sleeping in sawdust and all that kind of stuff
in sawdust and all that kind of stuff
in sawdust and all that kind of stuff and what they found that was even more
and what they found that was even more
and what they found that was even more interesting was that those mice that
interesting was that those mice that
interesting was that those mice that experienced the stress these kind of
experienced the stress these kind of
experienced the stress these kind of genetic changes that they saw they saw
genetic changes that they saw they saw
genetic changes that they saw they saw them in those mice as children and in
them in those mice as children and in
them in those mice as children and in their grandchildren as well so that some
their grandchildren as well so that some
their grandchildren as well so that some of the genetic information that was
of the genetic information that was
of the genetic information that was being passed down was actually starting
being passed down was actually starting
being passed down was actually starting to change just based on their experience
to change just based on their experience
to change just based on their experience so what does this mean for us well for a
so what does this mean for us well for a
so what does this mean for us well for a lot of us if we look at our family tree
lot of us if we look at our family tree
lot of us if we look at our family tree maybe we’ve had our grandparents or our
maybe we’ve had our grandparents or our
maybe we’ve had our grandparents or our ancestors have had some traumatic
ancestors have had some traumatic
ancestors have had some traumatic experiences right War slavery genocide
experiences right War slavery genocide
experiences right War slavery genocide poverty all of these things may have
poverty all of these things may have
poverty all of these things may have affected the way your grandparents
affected the way your grandparents
affected the way your grandparents Gene’s started to express themselves and
Gene’s started to express themselves and
Gene’s started to express themselves and that actually affects the DNA that
that actually affects the DNA that
that actually affects the DNA that you’re walking around with today in
you’re walking around with today in
you’re walking around with today in terms of what’s kind of turned on and
terms of what’s kind of turned on and
terms of what’s kind of turned on and off in that DNA and so we kind of think
off in that DNA and so we kind of think
off in that DNA and so we kind of think about we have this genetic setup and
about we have this genetic setup and
about we have this genetic setup and then we think about our experiences on
then we think about our experiences on
then we think about our experiences on that day that we drive home in rush hour
that day that we drive home in rush hour
that day that we drive home in rush hour traffic and you know maybe we had a bad
traffic and you know maybe we had a bad
traffic and you know maybe we had a bad night’s sleep and we ate some junk food
night’s sleep and we ate some junk food
night’s sleep and we ate some junk food or nothing at all we got in a fight with
or nothing at all we got in a fight with
or nothing at all we got in a fight with our best friend or our partner or
our best friend or our partner or
our best friend or our partner or something like that and we’re in a bad
something like that and we’re in a bad
something like that and we’re in a bad mood and we get into traffic and we’re
mood and we get into traffic and we’re
mood and we get into traffic and we’re kind of in that fight-or-flight mode
kind of in that fight-or-flight mode
kind of in that fight-or-flight mode because the world doesn’t seem like a
because the world doesn’t seem like a
because the world doesn’t seem like a safe place
safe place
safe place you know it’s kill or be killed it’s cut
you know it’s kill or be killed it’s cut
you know it’s kill or be killed it’s cut off in traffic or cut that person off in
off in traffic or cut that person off in
off in traffic or cut that person off in traffic and we decide to cut them off
traffic and we decide to cut them off
traffic and we decide to cut them off and a few things actually happen when we
and a few things actually happen when we
and a few things actually happen when we do that we actually rewire our brain we
do that we actually rewire our brain we
do that we actually rewire our brain we know that actually forming a habit
know that actually forming a habit
know that actually forming a habit we do something today we do it tomorrow
we do something today we do it tomorrow
we do something today we do it tomorrow in our brain we do something today it
in our brain we do something today it
in our brain we do something today it creates a neural pathway and we’re more
creates a neural pathway and we’re more
creates a neural pathway and we’re more likely to do that tomorrow and a few
likely to do that tomorrow and a few
likely to do that tomorrow and a few things also happen in different parts of
things also happen in different parts of
things also happen in different parts of our brain so when we’re stressed
our brain so when we’re stressed
our brain so when we’re stressed cortisol is the stress hormone that
cortisol is the stress hormone that
cortisol is the stress hormone that blocks our ability to feel kind of
blocks our ability to feel kind of
blocks our ability to feel kind of compassionate with oxytocin the love
compassionate with oxytocin the love
compassionate with oxytocin the love hormone the limbic system which is where
hormone the limbic system which is where
hormone the limbic system which is where we feel strong emotions that shuts down
we feel strong emotions that shuts down
we feel strong emotions that shuts down our ability to think clearly and take
our ability to think clearly and take
our ability to think clearly and take perspective on this situation and then
perspective on this situation and then
perspective on this situation and then we cut that person off and then we’re
we cut that person off and then we’re
we cut that person off and then we’re kind of a nasty person people that gets
kind of a nasty person people that gets
kind of a nasty person people that gets reinforced people don’t like us so much
reinforced people don’t like us so much
reinforced people don’t like us so much we keep seeing the world as a dangerous
we keep seeing the world as a dangerous
we keep seeing the world as a dangerous place where we should only fight and
place where we should only fight and
place where we should only fight and flee from situations and that gets
flee from situations and that gets
flee from situations and that gets reinforced day by day as well and so we
reinforced day by day as well and so we
reinforced day by day as well and so we go ahead and we just cut that person off
go ahead and we just cut that person off
go ahead and we just cut that person off in traffic and then kind of what happens
in traffic and then kind of what happens
in traffic and then kind of what happens over time is the neurons that fire
over time is the neurons that fire
over time is the neurons that fire together wire together with
together wire together with
together wire together with neuroplasticity and then even in terms
neuroplasticity and then even in terms
neuroplasticity and then even in terms of our genes they start to change I’ve
of our genes they start to change I’ve
of our genes they start to change I’ve got this quote up here it says if you
got this quote up here it says if you
got this quote up here it says if you think of the stress system as preparing
think of the stress system as preparing
think of the stress system as preparing you for fight or flight you might
you for fight or flight you might
you for fight or flight you might imagine these epigenetic changes prepare
imagine these epigenetic changes prepare
imagine these epigenetic changes prepare you to fight harder and flee faster the
you to fight harder and flee faster the
you to fight harder and flee faster the next time you encounter something
next time you encounter something
next time you encounter something stressful like rush-hour traffic
stressful like rush-hour traffic
stressful like rush-hour traffic alright changing our change in this way
alright changing our change in this way
alright changing our change in this way and this thing is that it doesn’t
and this thing is that it doesn’t
and this thing is that it doesn’t actually stop with us it actually starts
actually stop with us it actually starts
actually stop with us it actually starts to trickle outward so that how I act
to trickle outward so that how I act
to trickle outward so that how I act affects other people it doesn’t just
affects other people it doesn’t just
affects other people it doesn’t just affect me and how I feel but I cut that
affect me and how I feel but I cut that
affect me and how I feel but I cut that person off in traffic they’re actually
person off in traffic they’re actually
person off in traffic they’re actually more likely to then go home and snap at
more likely to then go home and snap at
more likely to then go home and snap at their kids send them up to bed without
their kids send them up to bed without
their kids send them up to bed without any dessert and then those kids start to
any dessert and then those kids start to
any dessert and then those kids start to do something different they kick the dog
do something different they kick the dog
do something different they kick the dog on the way up the stairs they go to bed
on the way up the stairs they go to bed
on the way up the stairs they go to bed unhappy they wake up unhappy their gene
unhappy they wake up unhappy their gene
unhappy they wake up unhappy their gene expression starts to change itself so
expression starts to change itself so
expression starts to change itself so that those genetic materials get passed
that those genetic materials get passed
that those genetic materials get passed on to their kids and their grandkids
on to their kids and their grandkids
on to their kids and their grandkids that say you should fight and flee from
that say you should fight and flee from
that say you should fight and flee from all these just mildly stressful
all these just mildly stressful
all these just mildly stressful situations like rush hour traffic but
situations like rush hour traffic but
situations like rush hour traffic but let’s pause there and think about what
let’s pause there and think about what
let’s pause there and think about what happens when we do decide to listen to
happens when we do decide to listen to
happens when we do decide to listen to the kinder angels of our nature and just
the kinder angels of our nature and just
the kinder angels of our nature and just let that person go in traffic what
let that person go in traffic what
let that person go in traffic what happens and why and so again there’s
happens and why and so again there’s
happens and why and so again there’s some of that nature there’s some of that
some of that nature there’s some of that
some of that nature there’s some of that nurture that’s part of it right maybe
nurture that’s part of it right maybe
nurture that’s part of it right maybe even in our family tree our grandparents
even in our family tree our grandparents
even in our family tree our grandparents did experience some difficult things but
did experience some difficult things but
did experience some difficult things but maybe they went to therapy or they got
maybe they went to therapy or they got
maybe they went to therapy or they got help or they you know work
help or they you know work
help or they you know work their issues and their genetic material
their issues and their genetic material
their issues and their genetic material didn’t actually change to kind of send
didn’t actually change to kind of send
didn’t actually change to kind of send these messages on down to your parents
these messages on down to your parents
these messages on down to your parents and on to you eventually and maybe even
and on to you eventually and maybe even
and on to you eventually and maybe even they did or they didn’t but maybe you
they did or they didn’t but maybe you
they did or they didn’t but maybe you had a pretty good day right you got a
had a pretty good day right you got a
had a pretty good day right you got a good night’s sleep you ate a healthy
good night’s sleep you ate a healthy
good night’s sleep you ate a healthy meal that day you laughed with your
meal that day you laughed with your
meal that day you laughed with your friends the Sun was shining you weren’t
friends the Sun was shining you weren’t
friends the Sun was shining you weren’t in a rush you’re in a good mood the
in a rush you’re in a good mood the
in a rush you’re in a good mood the world seems like a safe place and
world seems like a safe place and
world seems like a safe place and letting someone go in traffic doesn’t
letting someone go in traffic doesn’t
letting someone go in traffic doesn’t seem like a big deal right so you go
seem like a big deal right so you go
seem like a big deal right so you go ahead and you’re able to let them in
ahead and you’re able to let them in
ahead and you’re able to let them in because you’re not in fight or flight
because you’re not in fight or flight
because you’re not in fight or flight you’re in that kind of mode where you’re
you’re in that kind of mode where you’re
you’re in that kind of mode where you’re able to kind of think use your whole
able to kind of think use your whole
able to kind of think use your whole brain see the whole big picture and
brain see the whole big picture and
brain see the whole big picture and think oh maybe they’re just rushing
think oh maybe they’re just rushing
think oh maybe they’re just rushing their sick kid to the hospital today
their sick kid to the hospital today
their sick kid to the hospital today right and then your your your brains
right and then your your your brains
right and then your your your brains actually also you’re kind of able to be
actually also you’re kind of able to be
actually also you’re kind of able to be compassionate with the oxytocin flowing
compassionate with the oxytocin flowing
compassionate with the oxytocin flowing and you think I’m going to do something
and you think I’m going to do something
and you think I’m going to do something kind because that feels good and you go
kind because that feels good and you go
kind because that feels good and you go ahead and you wave them in and we know
ahead and you wave them in and we know
ahead and you wave them in and we know when we do nice things right people tend
when we do nice things right people tend
when we do nice things right people tend to like us so that gets reinforced again
to like us so that gets reinforced again
to like us so that gets reinforced again and again and so I keep doing nice
and again and so I keep doing nice
and again and so I keep doing nice things it becomes a habit to do those
things it becomes a habit to do those
things it becomes a habit to do those nice things when I waive them in in
nice things when I waive them in in
nice things when I waive them in in traffic like the you know nice guy that
traffic like the you know nice guy that
traffic like the you know nice guy that I am or whatever and then that changes
I am or whatever and then that changes
I am or whatever and then that changes my brain so I have the habit of doing
my brain so I have the habit of doing
my brain so I have the habit of doing nice things and driving like a nice guy
nice things and driving like a nice guy
nice things and driving like a nice guy every day in traffic and they also have
every day in traffic and they also have
every day in traffic and they also have a few hits of some different
a few hits of some different
a few hits of some different neurotransmitters so I get serotonin
neurotransmitters so I get serotonin
neurotransmitters so I get serotonin which regulates mood and anxiety I get a
which regulates mood and anxiety I get a
which regulates mood and anxiety I get a hit of oxytocin which makes me feel kind
hit of oxytocin which makes me feel kind
hit of oxytocin which makes me feel kind of all warm and fuzzy for the next few
of all warm and fuzzy for the next few
of all warm and fuzzy for the next few hours and I get dopamine which is a
hours and I get dopamine which is a
hours and I get dopamine which is a reward transmitter that actually makes
reward transmitter that actually makes
reward transmitter that actually makes me feel good and positive as well and
me feel good and positive as well and
me feel good and positive as well and when we do good we feel good because
when we do good we feel good because
when we do good we feel good because we’re actually strengthening the parts
we’re actually strengthening the parts
we’re actually strengthening the parts of our brain that are associated with
of our brain that are associated with
of our brain that are associated with with connection and Trust with other
with connection and Trust with other
with connection and Trust with other people and then my genes don’t change to
people and then my genes don’t change to
people and then my genes don’t change to kind of send that genetic material
kind of send that genetic material
kind of send that genetic material onward either but also this same social
onward either but also this same social
onward either but also this same social contagion thing happens so these
contagion thing happens so these
contagion thing happens so these researchers James Fowler and Nick
researchers James Fowler and Nick
researchers James Fowler and Nick Christie aqus they’re at Emory and at
Christie aqus they’re at Emory and at
Christie aqus they’re at Emory and at Yale and they’ve studied social
Yale and they’ve studied social
Yale and they’ve studied social contagions and they found that even just
contagions and they found that even just
contagions and they found that even just witnessing one act of generosity
witnessing one act of generosity
witnessing one act of generosity actually leads to people kind of being
actually leads to people kind of being
actually leads to people kind of being kinder three degrees of separation away
kinder three degrees of separation away
kinder three degrees of separation away so I go ahead and I wave that person in
so I go ahead and I wave that person in
so I go ahead and I wave that person in in traffic and they maybe you know make
in traffic and they maybe you know make
in traffic and they maybe you know make extra cookies for the kids before bed
extra cookies for the kids before bed
extra cookies for the kids before bed the kids go to bed happy they scratch
the kids go to bed happy they scratch
the kids go to bed happy they scratch the dogs tummy on the way
the dogs tummy on the way
the dogs tummy on the way upstairs the kids wake up happy they
upstairs the kids wake up happy they
upstairs the kids wake up happy they wake up happier and more resilient they
wake up happier and more resilient they
wake up happier and more resilient they grow up more resilient they pass new
grow up more resilient they pass new
grow up more resilient they pass new more resilient genetic material on to
more resilient genetic material on to
more resilient genetic material on to their kids and their grandkids going
their kids and their grandkids going
their kids and their grandkids going forward right and so one of the things
forward right and so one of the things
forward right and so one of the things that’s amazing about generosity and
that’s amazing about generosity and
that’s amazing about generosity and kindness is that the research is finding
kindness is that the research is finding
kindness is that the research is finding and we all know that it feels good when
and we all know that it feels good when
and we all know that it feels good when we get something right but the research
we get something right but the research
we get something right but the research is finding that we actually feel better
is finding that we actually feel better
is finding that we actually feel better when we give something away so there’s a
when we give something away so there’s a
when we give something away so there’s a study that that basically gave people a
study that that basically gave people a
study that that basically gave people a $5 bill and they said you can either
$5 bill and they said you can either
$5 bill and they said you can either keep this or you can give it away now
keep this or you can give it away now
keep this or you can give it away now what happened that surprised the
what happened that surprised the
what happened that surprised the researchers as well as the kind of
researchers as well as the kind of
researchers as well as the kind of subjects in the research study was the
subjects in the research study was the
subjects in the research study was the people that gave away the $5 bill there
people that gave away the $5 bill there
people that gave away the $5 bill there you go give it away if you like or keep
you go give it away if you like or keep
you go give it away if you like or keep it but they felt better than the people
it but they felt better than the people
it but they felt better than the people who kept it so there’s a guy named
who kept it so there’s a guy named
who kept it so there’s a guy named Richie Davidson who studies this stuff
Richie Davidson who studies this stuff
Richie Davidson who studies this stuff and what he says is that the best way to
and what he says is that the best way to
and what he says is that the best way to activate positive emotion circuits in
activate positive emotion circuits in
activate positive emotion circuits in the brain is through acts of generosity
the brain is through acts of generosity
the brain is through acts of generosity and so what we know is when we kind in
and so what we know is when we kind in
and so what we know is when we kind in traffic or whatever situation I’m
traffic or whatever situation I’m
traffic or whatever situation I’m happier more optimistic the people
happier more optimistic the people
happier more optimistic the people around me are happier my kids even my
around me are happier my kids even my
around me are happier my kids even my grandkids are happier wired for more
grandkids are happier wired for more
grandkids are happier wired for more resilience kind of going forward into
resilience kind of going forward into
resilience kind of going forward into the generations right okay Chris this is
the generations right okay Chris this is
the generations right okay Chris this is all interesting but where’s my parking
all interesting but where’s my parking
all interesting but where’s my parking spot okay I’m getting there I’ve got one
spot okay I’m getting there I’ve got one
spot okay I’m getting there I’ve got one last study that I want to share with you
last study that I want to share with you
last study that I want to share with you that I find really interesting it’s by a
that I find really interesting it’s by a
that I find really interesting it’s by a guy with the greatest name for a
guy with the greatest name for a
guy with the greatest name for a scientist ever his name is Richard
scientist ever his name is Richard
scientist ever his name is Richard Wiseman okay so he did this study where
Wiseman okay so he did this study where
Wiseman okay so he did this study where he wanted to kind of see how optimists
he wanted to kind of see how optimists
he wanted to kind of see how optimists and pessimists happy people and unhappy
and pessimists happy people and unhappy
and pessimists happy people and unhappy people perceived the world in different
people perceived the world in different
people perceived the world in different ways what kinds of things they see so he
ways what kinds of things they see so he
ways what kinds of things they see so he gave them all on newspaper and he said I
gave them all on newspaper and he said I
gave them all on newspaper and he said I want you to count the number of
want you to count the number of
want you to count the number of photographs in the newspaper now what
photographs in the newspaper now what
photographs in the newspaper now what happened the optimists finished the job
happened the optimists finished the job
happened the optimists finished the job in just a few seconds the pessimists
in just a few seconds the pessimists
in just a few seconds the pessimists they took actually a few minutes they
they took actually a few minutes they
they took actually a few minutes they took much longer but he did a little bit
took much longer but he did a little bit
took much longer but he did a little bit of a trick when he did this experiment
of a trick when he did this experiment
of a trick when he did this experiment which was in the second page of the
which was in the second page of the
which was in the second page of the newspaper there was an ad that said stop
newspaper there was an ad that said stop
newspaper there was an ad that said stop counting there are 43 photographs in the
counting there are 43 photographs in the
counting there are 43 photographs in the newspaper
newspaper
newspaper now the optimists were able to tune into
now the optimists were able to tune into
now the optimists were able to tune into this kind of creative opportunity right
this kind of creative opportunity right
this kind of creative opportunity right in front of them but the pessimists just
in front of them but the pessimists just
in front of them but the pessimists just looked right past it they both had the
looked right past it they both had the
looked right past it they both had the same
same
same opportunity right there but it was only
opportunity right there but it was only
opportunity right there but it was only the people that were happy and
the people that were happy and
the people that were happy and optimistic that we’re really able to
optimistic that we’re really able to
optimistic that we’re really able to kind of tune into these different
kind of tune into these different
kind of tune into these different chances that were right there in front
chances that were right there in front
chances that were right there in front of everybody we’re the pessimists just
of everybody we’re the pessimists just
of everybody we’re the pessimists just kind of tuned it back out so what does
kind of tuned it back out so what does
kind of tuned it back out so what does this mean to me well to me it means that
this mean to me well to me it means that
this mean to me well to me it means that maybe my meditation teacher and my
maybe my meditation teacher and my
maybe my meditation teacher and my driver’s ed teacher were kind of on the
driver’s ed teacher were kind of on the
driver’s ed teacher were kind of on the same page and maybe they should have
same page and maybe they should have
same page and maybe they should have taught me you know that like when the
taught me you know that like when the
taught me you know that like when the driver is ready the parking spot appears
driver is ready the parking spot appears
driver is ready the parking spot appears or something you know kind of wise and
or something you know kind of wise and
or something you know kind of wise and sage like that because when we’re
sage like that because when we’re
sage like that because when we’re feeling happy and optimistic and that
feeling happy and optimistic and that
feeling happy and optimistic and that parking spot opens up were able to see
parking spot opens up were able to see
parking spot opens up were able to see it when we’re in that kind of good mood
it when we’re in that kind of good mood
it when we’re in that kind of good mood from how we’ve acted before in traffic
from how we’ve acted before in traffic
from how we’ve acted before in traffic on that day so here’s what I encourage
on that day so here’s what I encourage
on that day so here’s what I encourage you to do I encourage you to take a page
you to do I encourage you to take a page
you to do I encourage you to take a page from the PlayBook of my good friend
from the PlayBook of my good friend
from the PlayBook of my good friend Shireen now Shireen sounds like a person
Shireen now Shireen sounds like a person
Shireen now Shireen sounds like a person I’m making up but I swear to god she’s
I’m making up but I swear to god she’s
I’m making up but I swear to god she’s real I just happened to change her name
real I just happened to change her name
real I just happened to change her name Shireen grew up in Pakistan Muslim she
Shireen grew up in Pakistan Muslim she
Shireen grew up in Pakistan Muslim she went to Catholic school she’s now an
went to Catholic school she’s now an
went to Catholic school she’s now an atheist she’s actually in 12-step
atheist she’s actually in 12-step
atheist she’s actually in 12-step recovery from alcoholism and she
recovery from alcoholism and she
recovery from alcoholism and she practices Buddhist meditation she kind
practices Buddhist meditation she kind
practices Buddhist meditation she kind of believes in everything and she kind
of believes in everything and she kind
of believes in everything and she kind of believes in nothing but what she does
of believes in nothing but what she does
of believes in nothing but what she does believe in and she inspired this talk
believe in and she inspired this talk
believe in and she inspired this talk actually is acts of kindness and what
actually is acts of kindness and what
actually is acts of kindness and what she does her act of kindness is actually
she does her act of kindness is actually
she does her act of kindness is actually just everyday she lets one person go in
just everyday she lets one person go in
just everyday she lets one person go in front of her in traffic now around where
front of her in traffic now around where
front of her in traffic now around where we live whatever you believe that
we live whatever you believe that
we live whatever you believe that probably khalaf eyes for like sainthood
probably khalaf eyes for like sainthood
probably khalaf eyes for like sainthood or some kind of incredible afterlife or
or some kind of incredible afterlife or
or some kind of incredible afterlife or heavenly realm or rebirth or something
heavenly realm or rebirth or something
heavenly realm or rebirth or something like that right but what we do know at
like that right but what we do know at
like that right but what we do know at least from the science is what that
least from the science is what that
least from the science is what that definitely qualifies her for is more
definitely qualifies her for is more
definitely qualifies her for is more happiness more resilience more happiness
happiness more resilience more happiness
happiness more resilience more happiness for herself her family maybe even some
for herself her family maybe even some
for herself her family maybe even some stranger’s too right more resilience for
stranger’s too right more resilience for
stranger’s too right more resilience for her kids going forward and maybe better
her kids going forward and maybe better
her kids going forward and maybe better odds of a good parking spot so what I
odds of a good parking spot so what I
odds of a good parking spot so what I encourage you to do as well going
encourage you to do as well going
encourage you to do as well going forward if you want more happiness
forward if you want more happiness
forward if you want more happiness optimism resilience and creativity in
optimism resilience and creativity in
optimism resilience and creativity in your life is to consider just one act of
your life is to consider just one act of
your life is to consider just one act of kindness a day whatever you want that to
kindness a day whatever you want that to
kindness a day whatever you want that to be and in that way you’ll make yourself
be and in that way you’ll make yourself
be and in that way you’ll make yourself happier more optimistic and resilient
happier more optimistic and resilient
happier more optimistic and resilient your friends some strangers your own
your friends some strangers your own
your friends some strangers your own kids and grandchildren and so on and so
kids and grandchildren and so on and so
kids and grandchildren and so on and so on and maybe even changing the course of
on and maybe even changing the course of
on and maybe even changing the course of human evolution toward greater kindness
human evolution toward greater kindness
human evolution toward greater kindness greater generosity and greater
greater generosity and greater
greater generosity and greater compassion going forward thank you so
compassion going forward thank you so
compassion going forward thank you so much
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