[Music] good evening everyone I’d like to pose a
good evening everyone I’d like to pose a
good evening everyone I’d like to pose a question how many of you tell yourselves
question how many of you tell yourselves
question how many of you tell yourselves or tell others that something is
or tell others that something is
or tell others that something is impossible getting a child to clean up
impossible getting a child to clean up
impossible getting a child to clean up the room impossible
the room impossible
the room impossible becoming a doctor lawyer president
becoming a doctor lawyer president
becoming a doctor lawyer president impossible spending the summer in Boston
impossible spending the summer in Boston
impossible spending the summer in Boston when you have never really been outside
when you have never really been outside
when you have never really been outside of your city impossible these are the
of your city impossible these are the
of your city impossible these are the things we tell ourselves but are they
things we tell ourselves but are they
things we tell ourselves but are they really impossible I say they’re scary
really impossible I say they’re scary
really impossible I say they’re scary and inconceivable but I say they are
and inconceivable but I say they are
and inconceivable but I say they are possible I suggest that for many of the
possible I suggest that for many of the
possible I suggest that for many of the things we tell ourselves that are
things we tell ourselves that are
things we tell ourselves that are impossible it is not that we cannot
impossible it is not that we cannot
impossible it is not that we cannot attain them but rather we lack
attain them but rather we lack
attain them but rather we lack self-confidence first and foremost we
self-confidence first and foremost we
self-confidence first and foremost we cannot equate self-confidence with
cannot equate self-confidence with
cannot equate self-confidence with self-esteem there are two entirely
self-esteem there are two entirely
self-esteem there are two entirely different things
different things
different things that provide two entirely different
that provide two entirely different
that provide two entirely different outcomes for an example let’s take self
outcomes for an example let’s take self
outcomes for an example let’s take self away from confidence and esteem if we
away from confidence and esteem if we
away from confidence and esteem if we were to look up steam in the dictionary
were to look up steam in the dictionary
were to look up steam in the dictionary which apparently I have it means
which apparently I have it means
which apparently I have it means admiration its self esteem is South bed
admiration its self esteem is South bed
admiration its self esteem is South bed myrrh Asian what exactly would I be a
myrrh Asian what exactly would I be a
myrrh Asian what exactly would I be a miring about myself well honestly it’d
miring about myself well honestly it’d
miring about myself well honestly it’d be the reason why I’m here today as one
be the reason why I’m here today as one
be the reason why I’m here today as one looks of confidence you see that it
looks of confidence you see that it
looks of confidence you see that it speaks more closely to assurances based
speaks more closely to assurances based
speaks more closely to assurances based on one’s ability
on one’s ability
on one’s ability let’s take Steve Jobs for an example
let’s take Steve Jobs for an example
let’s take Steve Jobs for an example Steve Jobs today is known for his
Steve Jobs today is known for his
Steve Jobs today is known for his technology of the iPhone but what are
technology of the iPhone but what are
technology of the iPhone but what are his insurances and it’s basically his
his insurances and it’s basically his
his insurances and it’s basically his confidence without his confidence he
confidence without his confidence he
confidence without his confidence he would have never become the person that
would have never become the person that
would have never become the person that we remember of him without confidence
we remember of him without confidence
we remember of him without confidence Apple would have never made would have
Apple would have never made would have
Apple would have never made would have never been possible without confidence
never been possible without confidence
never been possible without confidence where would he have started his path I
where would he have started his path I
where would he have started his path I suggest that for many of the things I
suggest that for many of the things I
suggest that for many of the things I suggest up for many of things we tell
suggest up for many of things we tell
suggest up for many of things we tell ourselves in order to conquer the
ourselves in order to conquer the
ourselves in order to conquer the impossible we must first build upon
impossible we must first build upon
impossible we must first build upon self-confidence to achieve the smallest
self-confidence to achieve the smallest
self-confidence to achieve the smallest goals and get their lives Daley’s duties
goals and get their lives Daley’s duties
goals and get their lives Daley’s duties and responsibilities we must have a
and responsibilities we must have a
and responsibilities we must have a certain type of confidence well how do
certain type of confidence well how do
certain type of confidence well how do we get confidence first let’s stop for a
we get confidence first let’s stop for a
we get confidence first let’s stop for a moment and ask ourselves that question
moment and ask ourselves that question
moment and ask ourselves that question and then let’s rephrase our word into
and then let’s rephrase our word into
and then let’s rephrase our word into how do we lose our confidence now we
how do we lose our confidence now we
how do we lose our confidence now we start to get flashed back a lot of
start to get flashed back a lot of
start to get flashed back a lot of memory starts to come in a short brief
memory starts to come in a short brief
memory starts to come in a short brief answers most most of us in our lives
answers most most of us in our lives
answers most most of us in our lives that has have had a moment of
that has have had a moment of
that has have had a moment of insecurities right now how many of you
insecurities right now how many of you
insecurities right now how many of you have been insecure in your life when was
have been insecure in your life when was
have been insecure in your life when was the last time you were insecure or let’s
the last time you were insecure or let’s
the last time you were insecure or let’s take today as the event how many of you
take today as the event how many of you
take today as the event how many of you were running a bit late to the event
were running a bit late to the event
were running a bit late to the event trying to find parking because you were
trying to find parking because you were
trying to find parking because you were just focused on getting here on time
just focused on getting here on time
just focused on getting here on time those are insecurities we really don’t
those are insecurities we really don’t
those are insecurities we really don’t think about the importance of obtaining
think about the importance of obtaining
think about the importance of obtaining confidence is mainly to push and pull
confidence is mainly to push and pull
confidence is mainly to push and pull through the different voices and
through the different voices and
through the different voices and opinions that tell us yes No
opinions that tell us yes No
opinions that tell us yes No may we do this and do that relying on
may we do this and do that relying on
may we do this and do that relying on those negative comments and especially
those negative comments and especially
those negative comments and especially on the people tend to take our
on the people tend to take our
on the people tend to take our individuality away from us especially
individuality away from us especially
individuality away from us especially making us feel unsure about ourselves
making us feel unsure about ourselves
making us feel unsure about ourselves society today is driven by other
society today is driven by other
society today is driven by other standpoints we all have common labels
standpoints we all have common labels
standpoints we all have common labels where we team tend to engage our entire
where we team tend to engage our entire
where we team tend to engage our entire behavior especially our own lives we’re
behavior especially our own lives we’re
behavior especially our own lives we’re all we all know some of these particular
all we all know some of these particular
all we all know some of these particular labels however not all of them next
labels however not all of them next
labels however not all of them next slide looks like some of these level
slide looks like some of these level
slide looks like some of these level labels can be positive such as being the
labels can be positive such as being the
labels can be positive such as being the teacher’s pet next slide or being the a
teacher’s pet next slide or being the a
teacher’s pet next slide or being the a student and some others can be negative
student and some others can be negative
student and some others can be negative next slide go go okay one of them can be
next slide go go okay one of them can be
next slide go go okay one of them can be people thinking oh I’m too ugly oh I’m
people thinking oh I’m too ugly oh I’m
people thinking oh I’m too ugly oh I’m too fat not good enough not attractive
too fat not good enough not attractive
too fat not good enough not attractive my acne girls who have long hair and
my acne girls who have long hair and
my acne girls who have long hair and she’s that are straight wanting curly
she’s that are straight wanting curly
she’s that are straight wanting curly hair vice versa next slide and most
hair vice versa next slide and most
hair vice versa next slide and most importantly our personality so how do I
importantly our personality so how do I
importantly our personality so how do I get how do I get rid of these
get how do I get rid of these
get how do I get rid of these insecurities and become more self
insecurities and become more self
insecurities and become more self dependent upon myself well the only
dependent upon myself well the only
dependent upon myself well the only strength we have in ourselves in the
strength we have in ourselves in the
strength we have in ourselves in the defense against the world is our cm
defense against the world is our cm
defense against the world is our cm enough we don’t need any of the
enough we don’t need any of the
enough we don’t need any of the things to become confident of ourselves
things to become confident of ourselves
things to become confident of ourselves especially all those negative comments
especially all those negative comments
especially all those negative comments that come to us none of these things
that come to us none of these things
that come to us none of these things matter it doesn’t matter what our
matter it doesn’t matter what our
matter it doesn’t matter what our physical appearance is it doesn’t matter
physical appearance is it doesn’t matter
physical appearance is it doesn’t matter what others tell us who we should become
what others tell us who we should become
what others tell us who we should become what really matters as a we become the
what really matters as a we become the
what really matters as a we become the person we believe we are most secure
person we believe we are most secure
person we believe we are most secure about without those little imperfections
about without those little imperfections
about without those little imperfections of insecurities we wouldn’t define the
of insecurities we wouldn’t define the
of insecurities we wouldn’t define the person that we stand to be here today
person that we stand to be here today
person that we stand to be here today most importantly the insecurity is
most importantly the insecurity is
most importantly the insecurity is define the stamina that we have within
define the stamina that we have within
define the stamina that we have within us in school I might look like a perfect
us in school I might look like a perfect
us in school I might look like a perfect girl with her perfect life that gets
girl with her perfect life that gets
girl with her perfect life that gets things done easily honestly I have my
things done easily honestly I have my
things done easily honestly I have my own insecurities too and personally I
own insecurities too and personally I
own insecurities too and personally I know confidence is hard to come by two
know confidence is hard to come by two
know confidence is hard to come by two years ago I used to be the shy nervous
years ago I used to be the shy nervous
years ago I used to be the shy nervous girl who couldn’t take a risk because
girl who couldn’t take a risk because
girl who couldn’t take a risk because she was too focused on what the outcome
she was too focused on what the outcome
she was too focused on what the outcome would be but now I’m not that girl
would be but now I’m not that girl
would be but now I’m not that girl anymore I actually had this summer had
anymore I actually had this summer had
anymore I actually had this summer had the experience to go and take on upon an
the experience to go and take on upon an
the experience to go and take on upon an internship at best of Boston at Babson
internship at best of Boston at Babson
internship at best of Boston at Babson College and for those who don’t know
College and for those who don’t know
College and for those who don’t know buss Babson College it’s one of the
buss Babson College it’s one of the
buss Babson College it’s one of the world’s or nation’s number what top
world’s or nation’s number what top
world’s or nation’s number what top school for business most focused on
school for business most focused on
school for business most focused on entrepreneurship skills as life has
entrepreneurship skills as life has
entrepreneurship skills as life has passed by I have started to peel off
passed by I have started to peel off
passed by I have started to peel off that turtle that little turtle shell up
that turtle that little turtle shell up
that turtle that little turtle shell up on my back with it I would have never
on my back with it I would have never
on my back with it I would have never become the person I stand to be to here
become the person I stand to be to here
become the person I stand to be to here today nor would I be talking today but
today nor would I be talking today but
today nor would I be talking today but along the way I have had my family
along the way I have had my family
along the way I have had my family school faculty and best friend who have
school faculty and best friend who have
school faculty and best friend who have perpetually stood by my side telling me
perpetually stood by my side telling me
perpetually stood by my side telling me Nicole you can do anything in life as
Nicole you can do anything in life as
Nicole you can do anything in life as long as you live to your fullest give it
long as you live to your fullest give it
long as you live to your fullest give it the best you can and never give up
the best you can and never give up
the best you can and never give up easily next slide next slide next slide
easily next slide next slide next slide
easily next slide next slide next slide we should rely upon people that make us
we should rely upon people that make us
we should rely upon people that make us happy not that don’t care about us not
happy not that don’t care about us not
happy not that don’t care about us not that leave us hanging on the side and
that leave us hanging on the side and
that leave us hanging on the side and especially don’t ask us to change any
especially don’t ask us to change any
especially don’t ask us to change any aspect of our lives just to please them
aspect of our lives just to please them
aspect of our lives just to please them our deepest fear is not that we are
our deepest fear is not that we are
our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate of ourselves our deepest fear
inadequate of ourselves our deepest fear
inadequate of ourselves our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond our reach
is that we are powerful beyond our reach
is that we are powerful beyond our reach it is our light not our
it is our light not our
it is our light not our darkness that frightens us the most as
darkness that frightens us the most as
darkness that frightens us the most as the saying goes in order to gain
the saying goes in order to gain
the saying goes in order to gain confidence
confidence
confidence one must fake it fake it till you make
one must fake it fake it till you make
one must fake it fake it till you make it or what’s the reason for the
it or what’s the reason for the
it or what’s the reason for the possibility in the impossible thank you
possibility in the impossible thank you
possibility in the impossible thank you [Applause]
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