I want to shave with you tonight about part of my journey and what life is all
part of my journey and what life is all
part of my journey and what life is all about for me and and what I think I am
about for me and and what I think I am
about for me and and what I think I am and I want to share with you some of my
and I want to share with you some of my
and I want to share with you some of my journeys that are painful and some of my
journeys that are painful and some of my
journeys that are painful and some of my journeys that are quite fun so it’s a
journeys that are quite fun so it’s a
journeys that are quite fun so it’s a little bit of a roller coaster ride and
little bit of a roller coaster ride and
little bit of a roller coaster ride and so my topic is ignorance is not bliss
so my topic is ignorance is not bliss
so my topic is ignorance is not bliss what you don’t know about yourself can
what you don’t know about yourself can
what you don’t know about yourself can cost you now we’re bombarded with tons
cost you now we’re bombarded with tons
cost you now we’re bombarded with tons of decision makings to do everyday many
of decision makings to do everyday many
of decision makings to do everyday many things matters compete for our attention
things matters compete for our attention
things matters compete for our attention so what do we have to do we have to make
so what do we have to do we have to make
so what do we have to do we have to make decisions about what to address what to
decisions about what to address what to
decisions about what to address what to pay attention to what to know more about
pay attention to what to know more about
pay attention to what to know more about and what to ignore and this is a very
and what to ignore and this is a very
and what to ignore and this is a very normal part of our life so the things
normal part of our life so the things
normal part of our life so the things that matter to us the things that’s
that matter to us the things that’s
that matter to us the things that’s going to be consequential the things
going to be consequential the things
going to be consequential the things that will bring good are our eyes we
that will bring good are our eyes we
that will bring good are our eyes we take care of in fact
take care of in fact
take care of in fact we search the web and we enhance
we search the web and we enhance
we search the web and we enhance ourselves and we get to know more and
ourselves and we get to know more and
ourselves and we get to know more and more so that we can get the best return
more so that we can get the best return
more so that we can get the best return and there’s absolutely nothing wrong
and there’s absolutely nothing wrong
and there’s absolutely nothing wrong about that and those that are
about that and those that are
about that and those that are inconsequential those that we think now
inconsequential those that we think now
inconsequential those that we think now it’s not important those that we think I
it’s not important those that we think I
it’s not important those that we think I will leave it alone for a while it’s not
will leave it alone for a while it’s not
will leave it alone for a while it’s not going to explode
going to explode
going to explode we don’t pay much attention to it that’s
we don’t pay much attention to it that’s
we don’t pay much attention to it that’s good resource management and I think
good resource management and I think
good resource management and I think that’s pretty good optimization of
that’s pretty good optimization of
that’s pretty good optimization of productivity and efficiency and that’s
productivity and efficiency and that’s
productivity and efficiency and that’s we all do but what is what are in the
we all do but what is what are in the
we all do but what is what are in the course of our decision-making about
course of our decision-making about
course of our decision-making about what’s important what’s consequential
what’s important what’s consequential
what’s important what’s consequential and what’s not what if we made a mistake
and what’s not what if we made a mistake
and what’s not what if we made a mistake what if somewhere on the line we got all
what if somewhere on the line we got all
what if somewhere on the line we got all important stuff now what if some of the
important stuff now what if some of the
important stuff now what if some of the nest becomes Wow and so I think it’s
nest becomes Wow and so I think it’s
nest becomes Wow and so I think it’s quite important the thing about you know
quite important the thing about you know
quite important the thing about you know artisan making what we choose to ignore
artisan making what we choose to ignore
artisan making what we choose to ignore or even become ignorant of and what we
or even become ignorant of and what we
or even become ignorant of and what we choose to pay attention to and so let’s
choose to pay attention to and so let’s
choose to pay attention to and so let’s talk about ink there is a little bit the
talk about ink there is a little bit the
talk about ink there is a little bit the two aspects of ignorance
two aspects of ignorance
two aspects of ignorance share with you it’s part of my own
share with you it’s part of my own
share with you it’s part of my own realization one is in our own
realization one is in our own
realization one is in our own deficiencies now if there’s one category
deficiencies now if there’s one category
deficiencies now if there’s one category of matters that we decide is the part
of matters that we decide is the part
of matters that we decide is the part that will be our deficiencies nobody
that will be our deficiencies nobody
that will be our deficiencies nobody likes to talk about what they’re not
likes to talk about what they’re not
likes to talk about what they’re not good at nobody it’s not good looking
good at nobody it’s not good looking
good at nobody it’s not good looking it doesn’t feel good talking about it we
it doesn’t feel good talking about it we
it doesn’t feel good talking about it we just tend to cover it and it’s human
just tend to cover it and it’s human
just tend to cover it and it’s human nature to do that and that’s nothing
nature to do that and that’s nothing
nature to do that and that’s nothing wrong with it
wrong with it
wrong with it but what if it blows up in your face
but what if it blows up in your face
but what if it blows up in your face what is that that inconspicuous tear one
what is that that inconspicuous tear one
what is that that inconspicuous tear one day becomes a chasm in a relationship
day becomes a chasm in a relationship
day becomes a chasm in a relationship that you really treasure what if that
that you really treasure what if that
that you really treasure what if that happens what is that unnoticeable
happens what is that unnoticeable
happens what is that unnoticeable blemish later became the cause of a
blemish later became the cause of a
blemish later became the cause of a career disaster that ends in a scandal
career disaster that ends in a scandal
career disaster that ends in a scandal those things could happen and so it
those things could happen and so it
those things could happen and so it seems to me that looking at our own
seems to me that looking at our own
seems to me that looking at our own deficiencies become quite important but
deficiencies become quite important but
deficiencies become quite important but we are very good and not doing that in
we are very good and not doing that in
we are very good and not doing that in fact we invent positive words to
fact we invent positive words to
fact we invent positive words to describe negative things and look at CDs
describe negative things and look at CDs
describe negative things and look at CDs all the time we are constantly hiring
all the time we are constantly hiring
all the time we are constantly hiring teachers and consultants and do that and
teachers and consultants and do that and
teachers and consultants and do that and so I’m looking at CVS almost every week
so I’m looking at CVS almost every week
so I’m looking at CVS almost every week and you know when it comes to skills you
and you know when it comes to skills you
and you know when it comes to skills you know Excel Microsoft Office then we use
know Excel Microsoft Office then we use
know Excel Microsoft Office then we use words like mastery over that means the
words like mastery over that means the
words like mastery over that means the guy is good sometimes people use
guy is good sometimes people use
guy is good sometimes people use proficient act and you know something is
proficient act and you know something is
proficient act and you know something is not quite right when people use
not quite right when people use
not quite right when people use proficient ad because maybe they’re good
proficient ad because maybe they’re good
proficient ad because maybe they’re good at it but there are some things about
at it but there are some things about
at it but there are some things about the office Microsoft Office that they’re
the office Microsoft Office that they’re
the office Microsoft Office that they’re very good at so the use of positive word
very good at so the use of positive word
very good at so the use of positive word maybe a lower grade positive word to
maybe a lower grade positive word to
maybe a lower grade positive word to imply there’s some great area of
imply there’s some great area of
imply there’s some great area of deficiency well what’s the next level
deficiency well what’s the next level
deficiency well what’s the next level down I’ve seen the resume that says I am
down I’ve seen the resume that says I am
down I’ve seen the resume that says I am knowledgeable about well I know about
knowledgeable about well I know about
knowledgeable about well I know about Microsoft Office I may not know what to
Microsoft Office I may not know what to
Microsoft Office I may not know what to do good if I know about it so we are
do good if I know about it so we are
do good if I know about it so we are very
very
very in using positive words to cover up and
in using positive words to cover up and
in using positive words to cover up and what’s more interesting is that when we
what’s more interesting is that when we
what’s more interesting is that when we do the series and hopefully after this
do the series and hopefully after this
do the series and hopefully after this talk when you look at your own CV or
talk when you look at your own CV or
talk when you look at your own CV or when you look at other people’s CV you
when you look at other people’s CV you
when you look at other people’s CV you have a different perspective what is the
have a different perspective what is the
have a different perspective what is the CD anyway is curriculum vitae course of
CD anyway is curriculum vitae course of
CD anyway is curriculum vitae course of life now how come everybody’s course or
life now how come everybody’s course or
life now how come everybody’s course or lab is positive how come everybody’s
lab is positive how come everybody’s
lab is positive how come everybody’s perfect I have no understanding of that
perfect I have no understanding of that
perfect I have no understanding of that I’ve never seen a CD that goes well I am
I’ve never seen a CD that goes well I am
I’ve never seen a CD that goes well I am a borderline team player you know I
a borderline team player you know I
a borderline team player you know I don’t follow instructions well I’ve
don’t follow instructions well I’ve
don’t follow instructions well I’ve erratic mood swing and I have no control
erratic mood swing and I have no control
erratic mood swing and I have no control over spending you never see that but it
over spending you never see that but it
over spending you never see that but it seems to me that you know we have turned
seems to me that you know we have turned
seems to me that you know we have turned many many things around we do everything
many many things around we do everything
many many things around we do everything we can we even rename CV so they has a
we can we even rename CV so they has a
we can we even rename CV so they has a different meaning if a CV is supposed to
different meaning if a CV is supposed to
different meaning if a CV is supposed to be a CV then it has to be the course of
be a CV then it has to be the course of
be a CV then it has to be the course of your life both the good and the bad well
your life both the good and the bad well
your life both the good and the bad well maybe we should have a curriculum bit
maybe we should have a curriculum bit
maybe we should have a curriculum bit high and curriculum mortis positive and
high and curriculum mortis positive and
high and curriculum mortis positive and negative to show me both in fact as an
negative to show me both in fact as an
negative to show me both in fact as an employer I really want to see what
employer I really want to see what
employer I really want to see what people are not good at so you know we do
people are not good at so you know we do
people are not good at so you know we do all sorts of things so what are the
all sorts of things so what are the
all sorts of things so what are the things we do is we kind of cover up our
things we do is we kind of cover up our
things we do is we kind of cover up our own deficiencies now you may say that’s
own deficiencies now you may say that’s
own deficiencies now you may say that’s my life that’s how I run my life
my life that’s how I run my life
my life that’s how I run my life bug off okay fun right and sometimes we
bug off okay fun right and sometimes we
bug off okay fun right and sometimes we choose to do that we know things are not
choose to do that we know things are not
choose to do that we know things are not quite right but there are other matters
quite right but there are other matters
quite right but there are other matters that are more urgent and so we cover up
that are more urgent and so we cover up
that are more urgent and so we cover up sometimes we ignore sometimes we tend to
sometimes we ignore sometimes we tend to
sometimes we ignore sometimes we tend to be ignorant about and what the tragedy
be ignorant about and what the tragedy
be ignorant about and what the tragedy is number two you know ignorance is not
is number two you know ignorance is not
is number two you know ignorance is not bliss when we experience the
bliss when we experience the
bliss when we experience the inevitability of the horrendous
inevitability of the horrendous
inevitability of the horrendous of deficiency unaddressed that’s a
of deficiency unaddressed that’s a
of deficiency unaddressed that’s a problem now let me share with you
problem now let me share with you
problem now let me share with you something that happened to me so it
something that happened to me so it
something that happened to me so it starts pretty bad but it will end well
starts pretty bad but it will end well
starts pretty bad but it will end well don’t worry you will end quite well I
never knew that I had an issue of
never knew that I had an issue of abandonment that I felt abandoned and
abandonment that I felt abandoned and
abandonment that I felt abandoned and out of that there was sense of
out of that there was sense of
out of that there was sense of insecurity deeply rooted and a sense of
insecurity deeply rooted and a sense of
insecurity deeply rooted and a sense of inferiority complex you know these are
inferiority complex you know these are
inferiority complex you know these are pretty bad things I never knew that I
pretty bad things I never knew that I
pretty bad things I never knew that I thought I was fine I realized that I had
thought I was fine I realized that I had
thought I was fine I realized that I had some emotional problems of insecurity of
some emotional problems of insecurity of
some emotional problems of insecurity of blurring of personal boundaries when I
blurring of personal boundaries when I
blurring of personal boundaries when I became kind of ill and I went to see a
became kind of ill and I went to see a
became kind of ill and I went to see a counselor and I went through some
counselor and I went through some
counselor and I went through some intensive counseling you say a lot that
intensive counseling you say a lot that
intensive counseling you say a lot that happens all the time you know that’s
happens all the time you know that’s
happens all the time you know that’s good job your job is to dig up dirt you
good job your job is to dig up dirt you
good job your job is to dig up dirt you know that’s how they justify you paying
know that’s how they justify you paying
know that’s how they justify you paying them to dig up your dirt but that
them to dig up your dirt but that
them to dig up your dirt but that shouldn’t have happened to me not
shouldn’t have happened to me not
shouldn’t have happened to me not because I was perfect by any means but
because I was perfect by any means but
because I was perfect by any means but that should happen to a person with a
that should happen to a person with a
that should happen to a person with a graduate training in counseling and
graduate training in counseling and
graduate training in counseling and ministry that should happen to a person
ministry that should happen to a person
ministry that should happen to a person who does life coaching to business
who does life coaching to business
who does life coaching to business leaders in Silicon Valley that shouldn’t
leaders in Silicon Valley that shouldn’t
leaders in Silicon Valley that shouldn’t be happening to people people to a
be happening to people people to a
be happening to people people to a person who does career counseling to
person who does career counseling to
person who does career counseling to executives who does marital counseling
executives who does marital counseling
executives who does marital counseling to families and into generations that
to families and into generations that
to families and into generations that shouldn’t happen to that person because
shouldn’t happen to that person because
shouldn’t happen to that person because that person is equipped to tank knows to
that person is equipped to tank knows to
that person is equipped to tank knows to dig up to analyze to cancel and to help
dig up to analyze to cancel and to help
dig up to analyze to cancel and to help heal I’m telling you this I knew every
heal I’m telling you this I knew every
heal I’m telling you this I knew every problem that people have I’ve seen it
problem that people have I’ve seen it
problem that people have I’ve seen it all you know the pre IPO jitters the
all you know the pre IPO jitters the
all you know the pre IPO jitters the post IPO
post IPO
post IPO letäôs midlife crisis empty nest
letäôs midlife crisis empty nest
letäôs midlife crisis empty nest dysfunction relationships suicidal
dysfunction relationships suicidal
dysfunction relationships suicidal tendencies depressions you name it I’ve
tendencies depressions you name it I’ve
tendencies depressions you name it I’ve seen it all and I knew it all and I had
seen it all and I knew it all and I had
seen it all and I knew it all and I had a good head on my shoulders
a good head on my shoulders
a good head on my shoulders you know being trainer MIT with
you know being trainer MIT with
you know being trainer MIT with engineering I was rational
engineering I was rational
engineering I was rational I was totally equipped I was like the
I was totally equipped I was like the
I was totally equipped I was like the almost perfect robot to be the doctor to
almost perfect robot to be the doctor to
almost perfect robot to be the doctor to heal so I knew everything about what
heal so I knew everything about what
heal so I knew everything about what people are dealing with except my own I
people are dealing with except my own I
people are dealing with except my own I never knew that and two things come into
never knew that and two things come into
never knew that and two things come into trouble I ended up having some
trouble I ended up having some
trouble I ended up having some behavioral issues bad habits
behavioral issues bad habits
behavioral issues bad habits character issues then I realize
character issues then I realize
character issues then I realize something is deeply wrong and that’s
something is deeply wrong and that’s
something is deeply wrong and that’s when I discovered the wait a minute this
when I discovered the wait a minute this
when I discovered the wait a minute this is not funny
is not funny
is not funny and what happened was that it didn’t go
and what happened was that it didn’t go
and what happened was that it didn’t go addressed on time and I ended up having
addressed on time and I ended up having
addressed on time and I ended up having a broken marriage and of more than 20
a broken marriage and of more than 20
a broken marriage and of more than 20 years and aesthetic career that is
years and aesthetic career that is
years and aesthetic career that is internationally rooted both collapse so
internationally rooted both collapse so
internationally rooted both collapse so I was riding high one at one moment and
I was riding high one at one moment and
I was riding high one at one moment and the next moment I was kind of crawling
the next moment I was kind of crawling
the next moment I was kind of crawling low so irrational about my background is
low so irrational about my background is
low so irrational about my background is because if it hadn’t happened to me it
because if it hadn’t happened to me it
because if it hadn’t happened to me it could happen to anyone I mean if it
could happen to anyone I mean if it
could happen to anyone I mean if it could happen to a trained professional
could happen to a trained professional
could happen to a trained professional somebody who is the eye and the heart
somebody who is the eye and the heart
somebody who is the eye and the heart and the mind to see through things to
and the mind to see through things to
and the mind to see through things to diagnose to look at the efficiencies and
diagnose to look at the efficiencies and
diagnose to look at the efficiencies and yet he himself fell into the trap if
yet he himself fell into the trap if
yet he himself fell into the trap if that could happen to me and that did
that could happen to me and that did
that could happen to me and that did happen to anyone
happen to anyone
happen to anyone and it’s always there in the ability of
things that we don’t know about
things that we don’t know about ourselves that we should have addressed
ourselves that we should have addressed
ourselves that we should have addressed well this is lower nature we are all
well this is lower nature we are all
well this is lower nature we are all human being so we come with the package
human being so we come with the package
human being so we come with the package to you right you cannot select it good
to you right you cannot select it good
to you right you cannot select it good and don’t have too bad
and don’t have too bad
and don’t have too bad so let’s not feel bad about it we all
so let’s not feel bad about it we all
so let’s not feel bad about it we all come to the package with the positives
come to the package with the positives
come to the package with the positives there is some negatives take it or leave
there is some negatives take it or leave
there is some negatives take it or leave it
it
it so that’s
so that’s
so that’s we are we are have some sort of
we are we are have some sort of
we are we are have some sort of woundedness we all have some sense of
woundedness we all have some sense of
woundedness we all have some sense of you know unfulfilled in relationships we
you know unfulfilled in relationships we
you know unfulfilled in relationships we all have some things that we know we
all have some things that we know we
all have some things that we know we should have done and that we’re not
should have done and that we’re not
should have done and that we’re not doing well but we’re just paying
doing well but we’re just paying
doing well but we’re just paying attention to it and so that’s what
attention to it and so that’s what
attention to it and so that’s what happened to me and so after the collapse
happened to me and so after the collapse
happened to me and so after the collapse of my career and my marriage all at the
of my career and my marriage all at the
of my career and my marriage all at the same time I mean talk about stress in
same time I mean talk about stress in
same time I mean talk about stress in life those are the two major stressors
life those are the two major stressors
life those are the two major stressors in life I was lucky I didn’t go crazy
in life I was lucky I didn’t go crazy
in life I was lucky I didn’t go crazy after that I realized that wait a minute
after that I realized that wait a minute
after that I realized that wait a minute I better take inventory I better take a
I better take inventory I better take a
I better take inventory I better take a closer look at what’s going on and so I
closer look at what’s going on and so I
closer look at what’s going on and so I began to think about want to think about
you know now once a while we may do
you know now once a while we may do things that we think all right is the
things that we think all right is the
things that we think all right is the demonstration of fundamental now once a
demonstration of fundamental now once a
demonstration of fundamental now once a while was short well I’m great
while was short well I’m great
while was short well I’m great and when I want my juicy hamburger
and when I want my juicy hamburger
and when I want my juicy hamburger cheeseburger with the right amount of
cheeseburger with the right amount of
cheeseburger with the right amount of child and the right amount of cheese and
child and the right amount of cheese and
child and the right amount of cheese and with the bridge just nicely grilled you
with the bridge just nicely grilled you
with the bridge just nicely grilled you know washed out with a special you know
know washed out with a special you know
know washed out with a special you know milk with the white disgustedly
milk with the white disgustedly
milk with the white disgustedly that comes with a spoon as a standing
that comes with a spoon as a standing
that comes with a spoon as a standing issue and after the night we have an
issue and after the night we have an
issue and after the night we have an advocate animal at the apple pie has to
advocate animal at the apple pie has to
advocate animal at the apple pie has to be made with green apples when I prayed
be made with green apples when I prayed
be made with green apples when I prayed for that at the moment I didn’t I was
for that at the moment I didn’t I was
for that at the moment I didn’t I was like 5 minutes and so the question we
like 5 minutes and so the question we
like 5 minutes and so the question we have to ask ourselves if you want to
have to ask ourselves if you want to
have to ask ourselves if you want to think what I did and I Know Who am I
think what I did and I Know Who am I
think what I did and I Know Who am I really
really
really who are you really what defines you how
who are you really what defines you how
who are you really what defines you how we serve about who we are the answer is
we serve about who we are the answer is
we serve about who we are the answer is what do you what is it a horror movie
what do you what is it a horror movie
what do you what is it a horror movie what would he turn to move on in terms
what would he turn to move on in terms
what would he turn to move on in terms of excitement fulfillment realize when I
of excitement fulfillment realize when I
of excitement fulfillment realize when I started looking at my truth or my
started looking at my truth or my
started looking at my truth or my balance then I’ve been living like a
balance then I’ve been living like a
balance then I’ve been living like a tick and my deficiency in our life
tick and my deficiency in our life
tick and my deficiency in our life landmarks connected tofu well one of
landmarks connected tofu well one of
landmarks connected tofu well one of those days so to me was better home time
those days so to me was better home time
those days so to me was better home time when I had looked into my family but I
when I had looked into my family but I
when I had looked into my family but I really want but I’m going to desire he
really want but I’m going to desire he
really want but I’m going to desire he was not coming home
was not coming home
was not coming home he was not being true to myself I mean I
he was not being true to myself I mean I
he was not being true to myself I mean I can talk of my home the humanistic
can talk of my home the humanistic
can talk of my home the humanistic all but I think for me now true home is
all but I think for me now true home is
all but I think for me now true home is where I live
where I live
where I live being true to myself and according to
being true to myself and according to
being true to myself and according to the banner that I think is one and so I
the banner that I think is one and so I
the banner that I think is one and so I invite you also tonight to think about
invite you also tonight to think about
invite you also tonight to think about what is the matter but it’s a tutorial
what is the matter but it’s a tutorial
what is the matter but it’s a tutorial because they realize the fulfillment of
because they realize the fulfillment of
because they realize the fulfillment of life and now I’m very happy I’m
life and now I’m very happy I’m
life and now I’m very happy I’m indicating my teaching stem experiences
indicating my teaching stem experiences
indicating my teaching stem experiences I told you leveraging that in career
I told you leveraging that in career
I told you leveraging that in career coaching in counseling and working with
coaching in counseling and working with
coaching in counseling and working with young people and adults alike if you
young people and adults alike if you
young people and adults alike if you mentoring them working with them
mentoring them working with them
mentoring them working with them motivating them and encouraging them to
motivating them and encouraging them to
motivating them and encouraging them to find out true north and not be ashamed
find out true north and not be ashamed
find out true north and not be ashamed about their own deficiencies because at
about their own deficiencies because at
about their own deficiencies because at the very discovery of deficiencies we
the very discovery of deficiencies we
the very discovery of deficiencies we begin to find our true home so
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