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How to use fear as motivation | Jokke Sommer | TEDxArendal


a beautiful feeling having a fear of

a beautiful feeling having a fear of rush going through your body normally

rush going through your body normally

rush going through your body normally I’m standing here and it’s a thousand

I’m standing here and it’s a thousand

I’m standing here and it’s a thousand meters straight down and that fear

meters straight down and that fear

meters straight down and that fear actually is less strong than the fear of

actually is less strong than the fear of

actually is less strong than the fear of standing here in this beautiful red safe

standing here in this beautiful red safe

standing here in this beautiful red safe dot I mean I can step here and it’s

dot I mean I can step here and it’s

dot I mean I can step here and it’s totally safe but the interesting thing

totally safe but the interesting thing

totally safe but the interesting thing with fear is that it’s by far the number

with fear is that it’s by far the number

with fear is that it’s by far the number one biggest handicap we humans are born

one biggest handicap we humans are born

one biggest handicap we humans are born with and the problem with fear is that

with and the problem with fear is that

with and the problem with fear is that it stops us for following our dreams

it stops us for following our dreams

it stops us for following our dreams stops us from dating the people that we

stops us from dating the people that we

stops us from dating the people that we would love to date or being in a

would love to date or being in a

would love to date or being in a beautiful place with the people we love

beautiful place with the people we love

beautiful place with the people we love either if it’s through work or in either

either if it’s through work or in either

either if it’s through work or in either way fear can really separate yourself

way fear can really separate yourself

way fear can really separate yourself from a really amazing life and I feel

from a really amazing life and I feel

from a really amazing life and I feel every day when I push my fear I have so

every day when I push my fear I have so

every day when I push my fear I have so much reward after after like once I go

much reward after after like once I go

much reward after after like once I go off this stage maybe later the rush that

off this stage maybe later the rush that

off this stage maybe later the rush that I get it’s so much bigger than the fear

I get it’s so much bigger than the fear

I get it’s so much bigger than the fear itself and to give you an example of the

itself and to give you an example of the

itself and to give you an example of the fair I have to deal with on a daily

fair I have to deal with on a daily

fair I have to deal with on a daily basis I can show you a place this is in

basis I can show you a place this is in

basis I can show you a place this is in hominy and in France it’s a very very

hominy and in France it’s a very very

hominy and in France it’s a very very magical jump it’s from 4,000 meters and

magical jump it’s from 4,000 meters and

magical jump it’s from 4,000 meters and it took me about an hour just to climb

it took me about an hour just to climb

it took me about an hour just to climb over the fence and to get myself

over the fence and to get myself

over the fence and to get myself situated or actually handling the fare

situated or actually handling the fare

situated or actually handling the fare good enough that I was willing to do the

good enough that I was willing to do the

good enough that I was willing to do the jump I knew I can do the jump but

jump I knew I can do the jump but

jump I knew I can do the jump but because of the magnitude and the risk of

because of the magnitude and the risk of

because of the magnitude and the risk of what I’m doing it took me some time and

what I’m doing it took me some time and

what I’m doing it took me some time and here is one of the examples of that jump

looks like it’s dummy

looks like it’s dummy yeah it is I’m just like look you’re not

yeah it is I’m just like look you’re not

yeah it is I’m just like look you’re not my exit point here all right all right

my exit point here all right all right

my exit point here all right all right guys

I do find it quite ironic that I’m

I do find it quite ironic that I’m actually terrified of heights and why

actually terrified of heights and why

actually terrified of heights and why that is I don’t know when I was born I

that is I don’t know when I was born I

that is I don’t know when I was born I had a dream about flying and even though

had a dream about flying and even though

had a dream about flying and even though when I took my first leap in the skydive

when I took my first leap in the skydive

when I took my first leap in the skydive I didn’t feel that fear of heights so

I didn’t feel that fear of heights so

I didn’t feel that fear of heights so much but when I’m standing on that cliff

much but when I’m standing on that cliff

much but when I’m standing on that cliff in Xiamen II I can really feel it a lot

in Xiamen II I can really feel it a lot

in Xiamen II I can really feel it a lot and I asked myself like why am I here

and I asked myself like why am I here

and I asked myself like why am I here like why am I not just as an office

like why am I not just as an office

like why am I not just as an office chilling out like going home chilling

chilling out like going home chilling

chilling out like going home chilling Netflix and chill like don’t stress

Netflix and chill like don’t stress

Netflix and chill like don’t stress yourself but to me it’s about changing

yourself but to me it’s about changing

yourself but to me it’s about changing my perception of fear and using fear as

my perception of fear and using fear as

my perception of fear and using fear as a way to encourage myself to live more

a way to encourage myself to live more

a way to encourage myself to live more fun and to have more fun I mean I think

fun and to have more fun I mean I think

fun and to have more fun I mean I think I have more affair of missing out and I

I have more affair of missing out and I

I have more affair of missing out and I have taken the fear of missing out to

have taken the fear of missing out to

have taken the fear of missing out to quite extreme levels either if it’s true

quite extreme levels either if it’s true

quite extreme levels either if it’s true skydiving BASE jumping big wave surfing

skydiving BASE jumping big wave surfing

skydiving BASE jumping big wave surfing or speed flying which is in this picture

or speed flying which is in this picture

or speed flying which is in this picture I also find myself sometimes having

I also find myself sometimes having

I also find myself sometimes having friend being afraid of missing out so I

friend being afraid of missing out so I

friend being afraid of missing out so I took this this one time I went on this

took this this one time I went on this

took this this one time I went on this long haul date or a long-distance date I

long haul date or a long-distance date I

long haul date or a long-distance date I went all the way to Chicago across the

went all the way to Chicago across the

went all the way to Chicago across the world for a five hour day just because I

world for a five hour day just because I

world for a five hour day just because I was afraid of missing out of the

was afraid of missing out of the

was afraid of missing out of the opportunity and to me that that gives me

opportunity and to me that that gives me

opportunity and to me that that gives me excitement and joy and I mean the more

excitement and joy and I mean the more

excitement and joy and I mean the more the more people I meet the more

the more people I meet the more

the more people I meet the more countries that travel to and the more I

countries that travel to and the more I

countries that travel to and the more I experience the more value bringing it to

experience the more value bringing it to

experience the more value bringing it to my own life and even though it’s scary

my own life and even though it’s scary

my own life and even though it’s scary sometimes it’s terrifying and jumping

sometimes it’s terrifying and jumping

sometimes it’s terrifying and jumping from a cliff can be probably more

from a cliff can be probably more

from a cliff can be probably more terrifying than people would think that

terrifying than people would think that

terrifying than people would think that it is to go on a crazy date or to to

it is to go on a crazy date or to to

it is to go on a crazy date or to to apply for a job that you feel is maybe a

apply for a job that you feel is maybe a

apply for a job that you feel is maybe a little bit risky in the sense of what

little bit risky in the sense of what

little bit risky in the sense of what you know but to me it’s more about

you know but to me it’s more about

you know but to me it’s more about changing the perception and a few years

changing the perception and a few years

changing the perception and a few years ago

ago

ago this is actually a picture of a very

this is actually a picture of a very

this is actually a picture of a very dear friend of me and myself sadly he

dear friend of me and myself sadly he

dear friend of me and myself sadly he died a few months ago and this was the

died a few months ago and this was the

died a few months ago and this was the last jump that we got to do together

last jump that we got to do together

last jump that we got to do together over Venice in Italy and I think you

over Venice in Italy and I think you

over Venice in Italy and I think you know a lot of people ask me like aren’t

know a lot of people ask me like aren’t

know a lot of people ask me like aren’t you afraid of dying and and I’m like no

you afraid of dying and and I’m like no

you afraid of dying and and I’m like no you know what I’m terrified of not

you know what I’m terrified of not

you know what I’m terrified of not living and because of that I’m willing

living and because of that I’m willing

living and because of that I’m willing to take that risk on a daily basis

to take that risk on a daily basis

to take that risk on a daily basis because the life that I’ve lived today

because the life that I’ve lived today

because the life that I’ve lived today being 31 years old and feeling that I’m

being 31 years old and feeling that I’m

being 31 years old and feeling that I’m on the bonus round 200 but the things

on the bonus round 200 but the things

on the bonus round 200 but the things that I have experienced you know I I

that I have experienced you know I I

that I have experienced you know I I don’t even know how to put it into one

don’t even know how to put it into one

don’t even know how to put it into one single idea or one single thought of how

single idea or one single thought of how

single idea or one single thought of how could i potentially live my life if I

could i potentially live my life if I

could i potentially live my life if I didn’t take those risks how would it be

didn’t take those risks how would it be

didn’t take those risks how would it be maybe I would have died three years ago

maybe I would have died three years ago

maybe I would have died three years ago in a car accident you never know

in a car accident you never know

in a car accident you never know but for some reason I’m still here and

but for some reason I’m still here and

but for some reason I’m still here and I’m happy to be here and I feel that

I’m happy to be here and I feel that

I’m happy to be here and I feel that life to me has been a lot more rewarding

life to me has been a lot more rewarding

life to me has been a lot more rewarding because I took that chance ten years ago

because I took that chance ten years ago

because I took that chance ten years ago I actually just passed ten years of

I actually just passed ten years of

I actually just passed ten years of jumping recently and ten years without a

jumping recently and ten years without a

jumping recently and ten years without a single scratch even not even on my nail

single scratch even not even on my nail

single scratch even not even on my nail actually I actually you know what that’s

actually I actually you know what that’s

actually I actually you know what that’s not right because I did break this

not right because I did break this

not right because I did break this little toe in a wind tunnel which is

little toe in a wind tunnel which is

little toe in a wind tunnel which is supposed to be the same thing but

supposed to be the same thing but

supposed to be the same thing but recently a few years ago I decided to

recently a few years ago I decided to

recently a few years ago I decided to use this fear that I have built up most

use this fear that I have built up most

use this fear that I have built up most of the fair that I built up from flying

of the fair that I built up from flying

of the fair that I built up from flying it’s it’s a very high level and it’s uh

it’s it’s a very high level and it’s uh

it’s it’s a very high level and it’s uh you you what can you say like your level

you you what can you say like your level

you you what can you say like your level of the the level that you have to

of the the level that you have to

of the the level that you have to surpass to make something more scary

surpass to make something more scary

surpass to make something more scary it’s quite high when it comes to jumping

it’s quite high when it comes to jumping

it’s quite high when it comes to jumping of a cliff so I have a friend he is a

of a cliff so I have a friend he is a

of a cliff so I have a friend he is a big wave surfer and even though I barely

big wave surfer and even though I barely

big wave surfer and even though I barely could surf I told him that you know what

could surf I told him that you know what

could surf I told him that you know what I really really want to get into big

I really really want to get into big

I really really want to get into big wave surfing and to me it felt like I

wave surfing and to me it felt like I

wave surfing and to me it felt like I came there and I was thinking ah you

came there and I was thinking ah you

came there and I was thinking ah you know what I’m just on vacation I’m just

know what I’m just on vacation I’m just

know what I’m just on vacation I’m just on a holiday away from my

on a holiday away from my

on a holiday away from my and what I’m gonna do here is supposed

and what I’m gonna do here is supposed

and what I’m gonna do here is supposed to be safer and even though you know

to be safer and even though you know

to be safer and even though you know being smashed by these waves and they

being smashed by these waves and they

being smashed by these waves and they they can be quite violent this wave here

they can be quite violent this wave here

they can be quite violent this wave here is from Jaws at or in Maui in Hawaii and

is from Jaws at or in Maui in Hawaii and

is from Jaws at or in Maui in Hawaii and it’s a very is a beautiful wave it’s

it’s a very is a beautiful wave it’s

it’s a very is a beautiful wave it’s quite challenging but at the same time

quite challenging but at the same time

quite challenging but at the same time the feeling that you get when you pass

the feeling that you get when you pass

the feeling that you get when you pass when you pass your fear and you ride

when you pass your fear and you ride

when you pass your fear and you ride that wave and you experience it you feel

that wave and you experience it you feel

that wave and you experience it you feel it that that feeling is so valuable and

it that that feeling is so valuable and

it that that feeling is so valuable and to me it’s pretty much everything that I

to me it’s pretty much everything that I

to me it’s pretty much everything that I could possibly dream of as a little

could possibly dream of as a little

could possibly dream of as a little child because I wasn’t really fearless

child because I wasn’t really fearless

child because I wasn’t really fearless or I wasn’t as fearless when I was a

or I wasn’t as fearless when I was a

or I wasn’t as fearless when I was a child as it is today and these waves

child as it is today and these waves

child as it is today and these waves this wave here is from Nazareth Portugal

this wave here is from Nazareth Portugal

this wave here is from Nazareth Portugal five minutes prior to this wave I got a

five minutes prior to this wave I got a

five minutes prior to this wave I got a really really bad beating it was one of

really really bad beating it was one of

really really bad beating it was one of those I got one of those straight in the

those I got one of those straight in the

those I got one of those straight in the head and it I mean I’m a small guy it’s

head and it I mean I’m a small guy it’s

head and it I mean I’m a small guy it’s not really when these ways wants to

not really when these ways wants to

not really when these ways wants to break me they can break me quite easily

break me they can break me quite easily

break me they can break me quite easily and it gave me one of those feelings

and it gave me one of those feelings

and it gave me one of those feelings where you get beaten up so hard and you

where you get beaten up so hard and you

where you get beaten up so hard and you feel so tiny you feel tinier then you

feel so tiny you feel tinier then you

feel so tiny you feel tinier then you can’t do it yeah it’s hard to imagine

can’t do it yeah it’s hard to imagine

can’t do it yeah it’s hard to imagine but it drags you down it pulls you down

but it drags you down it pulls you down

but it drags you down it pulls you down to a very very dark place because it

to a very very dark place because it

to a very very dark place because it goes deep the wave itself is maybe ten

goes deep the wave itself is maybe ten

goes deep the wave itself is maybe ten meters high and when he pushes you down

meters high and when he pushes you down

meters high and when he pushes you down he pushes it down at least the same the

he pushes it down at least the same the

he pushes it down at least the same the same height as well as being very

same height as well as being very

same height as well as being very violent and rapidly in terms of my my

violent and rapidly in terms of my my

violent and rapidly in terms of my my upper body went one way and the lower

upper body went one way and the lower

upper body went one way and the lower body the other way so I definitely

body the other way so I definitely

body the other way so I definitely managed to do some some good cracks and

managed to do some some good cracks and

managed to do some some good cracks and but the feeling when I came back up I

but the feeling when I came back up I

but the feeling when I came back up I said you know what I should take a break

said you know what I should take a break

said you know what I should take a break you know and then and then my tour the

you know and then and then my tour the

you know and then and then my tour the guy that put me in this way he said no

guy that put me in this way he said no

guy that put me in this way he said no no no there’s a big set coming get on

no no there’s a big set coming get on

no no there’s a big set coming get on the rope get on the robot please I want

the rope get on the robot please I want

the rope get on the robot please I want to go home and of course he put me on

to go home and of course he put me on

to go home and of course he put me on the way

the way

the way and I wrote it and now that I can look

and I wrote it and now that I can look

and I wrote it and now that I can look at it and look back at it and think

at it and look back at it and think

at it and look back at it and think about the feeling that I had of course

about the feeling that I had of course

about the feeling that I had of course it was worth it I had to push my fear I

it was worth it I had to push my fear I

it was worth it I had to push my fear I was terrified

was terrified

was terrified but I managed to do it and sometimes you

but I managed to do it and sometimes you

but I managed to do it and sometimes you know in my work normally I will do jumps

know in my work normally I will do jumps

know in my work normally I will do jumps more as a training thing but when it

more as a training thing but when it

more as a training thing but when it comes to my work sometimes we have to do

comes to my work sometimes we have to do

comes to my work sometimes we have to do commercials or if there is a Hollywood

commercials or if there is a Hollywood

commercials or if there is a Hollywood production and you know that there’s a

production and you know that there’s a

production and you know that there’s a lot of money at stake not only do I have

lot of money at stake not only do I have

lot of money at stake not only do I have to face a fear that is linked to jumping

to face a fear that is linked to jumping

to face a fear that is linked to jumping out of a helicopter or jumping from a

out of a helicopter or jumping from a

out of a helicopter or jumping from a cliff but on top of that you have a

cliff but on top of that you have a

cliff but on top of that you have a pressure from a client that is expecting

pressure from a client that is expecting

pressure from a client that is expecting quite a lot from you and you know that

quite a lot from you and you know that

quite a lot from you and you know that okay now you have one shot and you’re

okay now you have one shot and you’re

okay now you have one shot and you’re gonna do this insane line and you have

gonna do this insane line and you have

gonna do this insane line and you have the helicopters in the air and all the

the helicopters in the air and all the

the helicopters in the air and all the cameras are rolling and people are

cameras are rolling and people are

cameras are rolling and people are expecting so much and they’re thinking

expecting so much and they’re thinking

expecting so much and they’re thinking oh it’s gonna be the greatest and

oh it’s gonna be the greatest and

oh it’s gonna be the greatest and everyone believes that you know this is

everyone believes that you know this is

everyone believes that you know this is no problem nothing nothing can go wrong

no problem nothing nothing can go wrong

no problem nothing nothing can go wrong and of course in those days I’m more

and of course in those days I’m more

and of course in those days I’m more like I’m more like this and then again

like I’m more like this and then again

like I’m more like this and then again then I ask myself why did they even

then I ask myself why did they even

then I ask myself why did they even choose that like it would be better off

choose that like it would be better off

choose that like it would be better off to just sit at home and and and relax

to just sit at home and and and relax

to just sit at home and and and relax but as soon as I land I remember exactly

but as soon as I land I remember exactly

but as soon as I land I remember exactly why I do what I do and this video here

why I do what I do and this video here

why I do what I do and this video here is gonna be an example of a very very

is gonna be an example of a very very

is gonna be an example of a very very good day at my office

that definitely was an amazing day it

that definitely was an amazing day it was a few years ago but those days are

was a few years ago but those days are

was a few years ago but those days are the days that I live for and it’s what I

the days that I live for and it’s what I

the days that I live for and it’s what I do or what I choose to do what I do and

do or what I choose to do what I do and

do or what I choose to do what I do and the interesting thing now like let’s

the interesting thing now like let’s

the interesting thing now like let’s talk about something different that

talk about something different that

talk about something different that doesn’t have anything to do with my job

doesn’t have anything to do with my job

doesn’t have anything to do with my job but about fear and a lot of you guys are

but about fear and a lot of you guys are

but about fear and a lot of you guys are probably parents and I have noticed

probably parents and I have noticed

probably parents and I have noticed quite a bit in the change of human

quite a bit in the change of human

quite a bit in the change of human behavior when it comes to fear and how

behavior when it comes to fear and how

behavior when it comes to fear and how we manage to get our children more

we manage to get our children more

we manage to get our children more afraid like when I when I grew up I was

afraid like when I when I grew up I was

afraid like when I when I grew up I was a rebellious kid flying all over the

a rebellious kid flying all over the

a rebellious kid flying all over the place jumping from high mountains into

place jumping from high mountains into

place jumping from high mountains into the ocean and I probably gave my mom a

the ocean and I probably gave my mom a

the ocean and I probably gave my mom a heart attack a hundred times and today

heart attack a hundred times and today

heart attack a hundred times and today you see a lot of parents out there that

you see a lot of parents out there that

you see a lot of parents out there that are very very overprotective of their

are very very overprotective of their

are very very overprotective of their children the danger of this I mean it’s

children the danger of this I mean it’s

children the danger of this I mean it’s great to be a great parent but it’s also

great to be a great parent but it’s also

great to be a great parent but it’s also important to understand that we have

important to understand that we have

important to understand that we have instincts we humans are born with

instincts we humans are born with

instincts we humans are born with instincts and the fear is there to guide

instincts and the fear is there to guide

instincts and the fear is there to guide us through them it’s there to show us

us through them it’s there to show us

us through them it’s there to show us what is dangerous and what is not and

what is dangerous and what is not and

what is dangerous and what is not and the problem I see today is when a lot of

the problem I see today is when a lot of

the problem I see today is when a lot of parents are very overprotective of their

parents are very overprotective of their

parents are very overprotective of their of their children because when they grow

of their children because when they grow

of their children because when they grow up into this world that we clearly

up into this world that we clearly

up into this world that we clearly clearly know that is not really a safe

clearly know that is not really a safe

clearly know that is not really a safe or an easy place it’s very bad when you

or an easy place it’s very bad when you

or an easy place it’s very bad when you have had grown up and you are terrified

have had grown up and you are terrified

have had grown up and you are terrified of everything so what I always try to

of everything so what I always try to

of everything so what I always try to tell people is to let go is to start

tell people is to let go is to start

tell people is to let go is to start letting go and be more be more

letting go and be more be more

letting go and be more be more understanding of your own fear and how

understanding of your own fear and how

understanding of your own fear and how you can use that as your own friend and

you can use that as your own friend and

you can use that as your own friend and as a guide to show you the good things

as a guide to show you the good things

as a guide to show you the good things in life and it’s important to be

in life and it’s important to be

in life and it’s important to be skeptical but you know it’s it’s

skeptical but you know it’s it’s

skeptical but you know it’s it’s important also to have the children of

important also to have the children of

important also to have the children of the next generation be a little more

the next generation be a little more

the next generation be a little more bowls and then they are today thank you

bowls and then they are today thank you

bowls and then they are today thank you so much

so much

so much [Applause]

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