I would like to ask you how do you feel about your body in this very moment are
about your body in this very moment are
about your body in this very moment are you proud of your body or do you try to
you proud of your body or do you try to
you proud of your body or do you try to hide it does it create stress for you
hide it does it create stress for you
hide it does it create stress for you when you look in the mirror it’s your
when you look in the mirror it’s your
when you look in the mirror it’s your body image holding you back from showing
body image holding you back from showing
body image holding you back from showing up in the world as the beautiful and
up in the world as the beautiful and
up in the world as the beautiful and powerful being that you are inside when
powerful being that you are inside when
powerful being that you are inside when I started my design house st. Pucci in
I started my design house st. Pucci in
I started my design house st. Pucci in 1985 all my runway shows from Milan to
1985 all my runway shows from Milan to
1985 all my runway shows from Milan to New York featured models in sizes eight
New York featured models in sizes eight
New York featured models in sizes eight or ten that was the fashion industry
or ten that was the fashion industry
or ten that was the fashion industry norm back then as time went on I noticed
norm back then as time went on I noticed
norm back then as time went on I noticed an alarming trend if we had models
an alarming trend if we had models
an alarming trend if we had models larger than a size two on the catwalk
larger than a size two on the catwalk
larger than a size two on the catwalk the press would refuse to feature them
the press would refuse to feature them
the press would refuse to feature them in their magazines in 2010 when
in their magazines in 2010 when
in their magazines in 2010 when Swarovski asked me to design a dress
Swarovski asked me to design a dress
Swarovski asked me to design a dress featuring their latest collection of
featuring their latest collection of
featuring their latest collection of various shapes of crystals I came up
various shapes of crystals I came up
various shapes of crystals I came up with this masterpiece and showed it on
with this masterpiece and showed it on
with this masterpiece and showed it on the catwalks and the Waldorf Astoria in
the catwalks and the Waldorf Astoria in
the catwalks and the Waldorf Astoria in New York as my model walked down the
New York as my model walked down the
New York as my model walked down the runway in this creation of shimmering
runway in this creation of shimmering
runway in this creation of shimmering crystals and intricate hand embroidery
crystals and intricate hand embroidery
crystals and intricate hand embroidery the entire hall of more than 500 people
the entire hall of more than 500 people
the entire hall of more than 500 people erupted with excitement but I was
erupted with excitement but I was
erupted with excitement but I was shocked when the press ignored this
shocked when the press ignored this
shocked when the press ignored this design that received standing ovations I
design that received standing ovations I
design that received standing ovations I found out later that there had made a
found out later that there had made a
found out later that there had made a deliberate editorial decision that my
deliberate editorial decision that my
deliberate editorial decision that my model at a size six was too heavy you
model at a size six was too heavy you
model at a size six was too heavy you see the image of a fashion model is of
see the image of a fashion model is of
see the image of a fashion model is of great significance to our culture she is
great significance to our culture she is
great significance to our culture she is a dream an unattainable ideal a paragon
a dream an unattainable ideal a paragon
a dream an unattainable ideal a paragon of beauty and consequently a symbol of
of beauty and consequently a symbol of
of beauty and consequently a symbol of oppression for many women who strive all
oppression for many women who strive all
oppression for many women who strive all their lives to be like her but
their lives to be like her but
their lives to be like her but inevitably fail because of the media
inevitably fail because of the media
inevitably fail because of the media body dissatisfaction has become an even
body dissatisfaction has become an even
body dissatisfaction has become an even a problem in recent years in Western
a problem in recent years in Western
a problem in recent years in Western societies especially the ideal body is a
societies especially the ideal body is a
societies especially the ideal body is a body that is extremely thin preferably
body that is extremely thin preferably
body that is extremely thin preferably white of a certain shape and size the
white of a certain shape and size the
white of a certain shape and size the very thin and beautiful models you see
very thin and beautiful models you see
very thin and beautiful models you see on the catwalks on social media in
on the catwalks on social media in
on the catwalks on social media in magazines are considered the most
magazines are considered the most
magazines are considered the most successful and socially desirable people
successful and socially desirable people
successful and socially desirable people on the planet did you know that most
on the planet did you know that most
on the planet did you know that most images showing us are in fact for the
images showing us are in fact for the
images showing us are in fact for the shot a model is made to look lighter
shot a model is made to look lighter
shot a model is made to look lighter taller skinnier and her skin tone is
taller skinnier and her skin tone is
taller skinnier and her skin tone is perfected sometimes to the point of
perfected sometimes to the point of
perfected sometimes to the point of being unrecognizable
being unrecognizable
being unrecognizable oddly enough of the more than 15,000
oddly enough of the more than 15,000
oddly enough of the more than 15,000 women I have personally worked with over
women I have personally worked with over
women I have personally worked with over the years most were between sizes 10 and
the years most were between sizes 10 and
the years most were between sizes 10 and 18 the reality is that the average size
18 the reality is that the average size
18 the reality is that the average size worn by a woman in the United States is
worn by a woman in the United States is
worn by a woman in the United States is size 14 now Society standards of an
size 14 now Society standards of an
size 14 now Society standards of an ideal body doesn’t only apply to women
ideal body doesn’t only apply to women
ideal body doesn’t only apply to women but to men as well the male physique is
but to men as well the male physique is
but to men as well the male physique is often portrayed as chiseled and
often portrayed as chiseled and
often portrayed as chiseled and shirtless in various men’s magazines
shirtless in various men’s magazines
shirtless in various men’s magazines such as men’s health and others causing
such as men’s health and others causing
such as men’s health and others causing a feeling of embarrassment and non
a feeling of embarrassment and non
a feeling of embarrassment and non masculinity in men and driving so many
masculinity in men and driving so many
masculinity in men and driving so many to drug and alcohol abuse and steroid
to drug and alcohol abuse and steroid
to drug and alcohol abuse and steroid use women are not only expected to look
use women are not only expected to look
use women are not only expected to look thin but also to look young all the age
thin but also to look young all the age
thin but also to look young all the age and wrinkles are frowned upon so many
and wrinkles are frowned upon so many
and wrinkles are frowned upon so many teenagers and young women will do
teenagers and young women will do
teenagers and young women will do anything to alter their bodies either
anything to alter their bodies either
anything to alter their bodies either going through your your dieting or going
going through your your dieting or going
going through your your dieting or going under the knife and cosmetic surgery
under the knife and cosmetic surgery
under the knife and cosmetic surgery today girls as young as 13 are getting
today girls as young as 13 are getting
today girls as young as 13 are getting Botox to freeze their youthful
Botox to freeze their youthful
Botox to freeze their youthful appearance it doesn’t matter what they
appearance it doesn’t matter what they
appearance it doesn’t matter what they do or how beautiful and accomplished
do or how beautiful and accomplished
do or how beautiful and accomplished they are more still feel they are not
they are more still feel they are not
they are more still feel they are not good enough I should know because I was
good enough I should know because I was
good enough I should know because I was one of them even at the age of three
one of them even at the age of three
one of them even at the age of three was constantly compared to the females
was constantly compared to the females
was constantly compared to the females in my family they were very very fair
in my family they were very very fair
in my family they were very very fair and I was very dark complexioned I still
and I was very dark complexioned I still
and I was very dark complexioned I still remember this parrot green colored frog
remember this parrot green colored frog
remember this parrot green colored frog that both I and my cousin owned and
that both I and my cousin owned and
that both I and my cousin owned and unlike her I wasn’t allowed to wear mine
unlike her I wasn’t allowed to wear mine
unlike her I wasn’t allowed to wear mine all I could do was look at it longingly
all I could do was look at it longingly
all I could do was look at it longingly as his date hanging in my closet so many
as his date hanging in my closet so many
as his date hanging in my closet so many restrictions were placed on me because
restrictions were placed on me because
restrictions were placed on me because of how I looked that shame and the
of how I looked that shame and the
of how I looked that shame and the feeling of not measuring up to others
feeling of not measuring up to others
feeling of not measuring up to others perception of beauty stayed with me for
perception of beauty stayed with me for
perception of beauty stayed with me for decades it turned me into an introvert
decades it turned me into an introvert
decades it turned me into an introvert and I became comfortable hiding in my
and I became comfortable hiding in my
and I became comfortable hiding in my own little world pouring my energy into
own little world pouring my energy into
own little world pouring my energy into my studies I became an overachiever
my studies I became an overachiever
my studies I became an overachiever hoping that by showing my
hoping that by showing my
hoping that by showing my accomplishments I would be loved even at
accomplishments I would be loved even at
accomplishments I would be loved even at the height of my success deep inside I
the height of my success deep inside I
the height of my success deep inside I never felt deserving or worthy it didn’t
never felt deserving or worthy it didn’t
never felt deserving or worthy it didn’t matter how many shiny objects I had the
matter how many shiny objects I had the
matter how many shiny objects I had the latest fashion or the greatest
latest fashion or the greatest
latest fashion or the greatest achievements and awards
achievements and awards
achievements and awards I felt incomplete I looked for
I felt incomplete I looked for
I felt incomplete I looked for validation outside me at my work in my
validation outside me at my work in my
validation outside me at my work in my relationships in acquisitions it was
relationships in acquisitions it was
relationships in acquisitions it was exhausting and then the car accident
exhausting and then the car accident
exhausting and then the car accident happened this was March 2015
happened this was March 2015
happened this was March 2015 I was a passenger in the car that tried
I was a passenger in the car that tried
I was a passenger in the car that tried to run a red light at an intersection
to run a red light at an intersection
to run a red light at an intersection the car was totaled the driver came away
the car was totaled the driver came away
the car was totaled the driver came away unscathed the airbag deployed and hit me
unscathed the airbag deployed and hit me
unscathed the airbag deployed and hit me and my chest caved in I couldn’t breathe
and my chest caved in I couldn’t breathe
and my chest caved in I couldn’t breathe and for almost eight months I couldn’t
and for almost eight months I couldn’t
and for almost eight months I couldn’t even lie down to sleep that was a
even lie down to sleep that was a
even lie down to sleep that was a wake-up call so many things could have
wake-up call so many things could have
wake-up call so many things could have gone wrong but for the grace of God
gone wrong but for the grace of God
gone wrong but for the grace of God every waking moment was spent sending
every waking moment was spent sending
every waking moment was spent sending love to my body I would scan my body
love to my body I would scan my body
love to my body I would scan my body from head to toe and thanking every cell
from head to toe and thanking every cell
from head to toe and thanking every cell every limb every organ for being there
every limb every organ for being there
every limb every organ for being there for me my body became my best friend
for me my body became my best friend
for me my body became my best friend it took an accident for me to realize my
it took an accident for me to realize my
it took an accident for me to realize my body is a mirror
body is a mirror
body is a mirror I look at my past now and say that’s my
I look at my past now and say that’s my
I look at my past now and say that’s my past my past is only as powerful as how
past my past is only as powerful as how
past my past is only as powerful as how I perceive it and the meaning I give it
I perceive it and the meaning I give it
I perceive it and the meaning I give it we live in a society that would have us
we live in a society that would have us
we live in a society that would have us conform we look at other people’s lives
conform we look at other people’s lives
conform we look at other people’s lives and their body and the image and we
and their body and the image and we
and their body and the image and we compare ourselves with them you know
compare ourselves with them you know
compare ourselves with them you know they show us the polished version and
they show us the polished version and
they show us the polished version and it’s talks this desire to have the right
it’s talks this desire to have the right
it’s talks this desire to have the right body the right image the right fashion
body the right image the right fashion
body the right image the right fashion and one day we wake up and we realize
and one day we wake up and we realize
and one day we wake up and we realize what an empty existence that is you
what an empty existence that is you
what an empty existence that is you can’t win that game you just cannot win
can’t win that game you just cannot win
can’t win that game you just cannot win it it doesn’t matter how hard you pedal
it it doesn’t matter how hard you pedal
it it doesn’t matter how hard you pedal there’s always going to be somebody with
there’s always going to be somebody with
there’s always going to be somebody with a better body a bigger house a hotter
a better body a bigger house a hotter
a better body a bigger house a hotter partner it’s quite Hollow stop the
partner it’s quite Hollow stop the
partner it’s quite Hollow stop the comparison game and look at yourself and
comparison game and look at yourself and
comparison game and look at yourself and your body and fall in love with the
your body and fall in love with the
your body and fall in love with the beautiful and the less beautiful your
beautiful and the less beautiful your
beautiful and the less beautiful your body is a miracle now I would like to
body is a miracle now I would like to
body is a miracle now I would like to ask you again it’s your body image
ask you again it’s your body image
ask you again it’s your body image holding you back are you stuck in a
holding you back are you stuck in a
holding you back are you stuck in a limiting belief that you are not good
limiting belief that you are not good
limiting belief that you are not good enough if so I would like to offer you a
enough if so I would like to offer you a
enough if so I would like to offer you a framework that if you were to follow
framework that if you were to follow
framework that if you were to follow would help change your limiting beliefs
would help change your limiting beliefs
would help change your limiting beliefs there are three steps the first step is
there are three steps the first step is
there are three steps the first step is to identify your limiting beliefs in my
to identify your limiting beliefs in my
to identify your limiting beliefs in my opinion this is the hardest step of all
opinion this is the hardest step of all
opinion this is the hardest step of all because you have to go back in time
because you have to go back in time
because you have to go back in time somewhere someone some event trigger
somewhere someone some event trigger
somewhere someone some event trigger that in you and you must deep dive into
that in you and you must deep dive into
that in you and you must deep dive into your subconscious and bring it to the
your subconscious and bring it to the
your subconscious and bring it to the surface the second step is to weaken the
surface the second step is to weaken the
surface the second step is to weaken the existing limiting beliefs because if you
existing limiting beliefs because if you
existing limiting beliefs because if you don’t do this any new belief that you
don’t do this any new belief that you
don’t do this any new belief that you put on top will not stick
put on top will not stick
put on top will not stick compare that to a mouldy wall you want
compare that to a mouldy wall you want
compare that to a mouldy wall you want to put new wallpaper but unless you
to put new wallpaper but unless you
to put new wallpaper but unless you clean off the mold first the mold will
clean off the mold first the mold will
clean off the mold first the mold will continue to grow underneath the new
continue to grow underneath the new
continue to grow underneath the new wallpaper so as you go through the
wallpaper so as you go through the
wallpaper so as you go through the second step
second step
second step ask yourself this belief that you have
ask yourself this belief that you have
ask yourself this belief that you have is this really true then there is a
is this really true then there is a
is this really true then there is a third step sorry this is where you
third step sorry this is where you
third step sorry this is where you replace your old beliefs with new ones
replace your old beliefs with new ones
replace your old beliefs with new ones that won’t limit you you can do this
that won’t limit you you can do this
that won’t limit you you can do this through affirmations visualizations and
through affirmations visualizations and
through affirmations visualizations and even vision boards but you must go
even vision boards but you must go
even vision boards but you must go through the first two steps in order to
through the first two steps in order to
through the first two steps in order to succeed here
succeed here
succeed here the third step has helped me the most
the third step has helped me the most
the third step has helped me the most and I would like to share with you a
and I would like to share with you a
and I would like to share with you a method I use to strengthen my new belief
method I use to strengthen my new belief
method I use to strengthen my new belief every single day I wake up in the
every single day I wake up in the
every single day I wake up in the morning and I meditate I light incense
morning and I meditate I light incense
morning and I meditate I light incense and a walk through my home blessing each
and a walk through my home blessing each
and a walk through my home blessing each room in the hallway is a large mirror
room in the hallway is a large mirror
room in the hallway is a large mirror where I stop for a long moment I look at
where I stop for a long moment I look at
where I stop for a long moment I look at my reflection in the mirror I look
my reflection in the mirror I look
my reflection in the mirror I look deeply into my eyes and I say to myself
deeply into my eyes and I say to myself
deeply into my eyes and I say to myself Ronny you are beautiful you are
Ronny you are beautiful you are
Ronny you are beautiful you are brilliant I love you I love you very
brilliant I love you I love you very
brilliant I love you I love you very very very much
love appreciate and accept your body
love appreciate and accept your body your body is your best friend your body
your body is your best friend your body
your body is your best friend your body is a miracle the strength of a woman is
is a miracle the strength of a woman is
is a miracle the strength of a woman is unparalleled and society’s definition of
unparalleled and society’s definition of
unparalleled and society’s definition of beauty often overshadows it I believe
beauty often overshadows it I believe
beauty often overshadows it I believe that not only are we strong but our
that not only are we strong but our
that not only are we strong but our differences are exactly what make us
differences are exactly what make us
differences are exactly what make us beautiful
beautiful
beautiful after all a rainbow would be pretty
after all a rainbow would be pretty
after all a rainbow would be pretty boring if it was just one color and one
boring if it was just one color and one
boring if it was just one color and one size thank you
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