alright are you ready to get psyched well I see some some wariness in some
well I see some some wariness in some
well I see some some wariness in some areas right well maybe you’re worried
areas right well maybe you’re worried
areas right well maybe you’re worried because you see psychologist then you
because you see psychologist then you
because you see psychologist then you think oh maybe I’m gonna analyze you
think oh maybe I’m gonna analyze you
think oh maybe I’m gonna analyze you well oh good I’m glad not you know oh
well oh good I’m glad not you know oh
well oh good I’m glad not you know oh maybe you think oh I’m a mind reader
maybe you think oh I’m a mind reader
maybe you think oh I’m a mind reader right or maybe some of you are thinking
right or maybe some of you are thinking
right or maybe some of you are thinking whoa hang on that Indian guy he’s not a
whoa hang on that Indian guy he’s not a
whoa hang on that Indian guy he’s not a doctor an engineer right you know people
doctor an engineer right you know people
doctor an engineer right you know people see Indian and they jumped a doctor or
see Indian and they jumped a doctor or
see Indian and they jumped a doctor or engineer and don’t worry Indians do it
engineer and don’t worry Indians do it
engineer and don’t worry Indians do it all the time too right I was in graduate
all the time too right I was in graduate
all the time too right I was in graduate school and I remember I went to the spot
school and I remember I went to the spot
school and I remember I went to the spot lock so I thought hey free food right
lock so I thought hey free food right
lock so I thought hey free food right grad school and there were 40 of the
grad school and there were 40 of the
grad school and there were 40 of the Indians there and every single one of
Indians there and every single one of
Indians there and every single one of them said to me hey what sort of
them said to me hey what sort of
them said to me hey what sort of engineer are you and I’d say I’m an
engineer are you and I’d say I’m an
engineer are you and I’d say I’m an engineer and they said oh you must be
engineer and they said oh you must be
engineer and they said oh you must be doctor then no no now here’s the thing
doctor then no no now here’s the thing
doctor then no no now here’s the thing right you probably guessing but you know
right you probably guessing but you know
right you probably guessing but you know a lot of Indians who are engineers and
a lot of Indians who are engineers and
a lot of Indians who are engineers and Indians were doctors and I think that’s
Indians were doctors and I think that’s
Indians were doctors and I think that’s the thing about stereotypes any useful
the thing about stereotypes any useful
the thing about stereotypes any useful they’re mostly true but they’re not
they’re mostly true but they’re not
they’re mostly true but they’re not always true and I think that’s one of
always true and I think that’s one of
always true and I think that’s one of the big things we have to hang on to
the big things we have to hang on to
the big things we have to hang on to just like that Indians tear dive I’m
just like that Indians tear dive I’m
just like that Indians tear dive I’m also guessing that you have some
also guessing that you have some
also guessing that you have some psychology stereotypes if I say
psychology stereotypes if I say
psychology stereotypes if I say psychology what comes to your mind what
psychology what comes to your mind what
psychology what comes to your mind what do you think psychology oh we don’t want
do you think psychology oh we don’t want
do you think psychology oh we don’t want to see it some people go Freud some
to see it some people go Freud some
to see it some people go Freud some people go oh a whole bunch of old white
people go oh a whole bunch of old white
people go oh a whole bunch of old white guys right they go oh couches therapy
guys right they go oh couches therapy
guys right they go oh couches therapy that’s what a lot of people think about
that’s what a lot of people think about
that’s what a lot of people think about with psychology but here’s the reality
with psychology but here’s the reality
with psychology but here’s the reality psychology is a lot more than that it’s
psychology is a lot more than that it’s
psychology is a lot more than that it’s part of it but there’s a lot more to
part of it but there’s a lot more to
part of it but there’s a lot more to psychology than couches and Freud right
psychology than couches and Freud right
psychology than couches and Freud right when you look at life life is complex
when you look at life life is complex
when you look at life life is complex right years of psychological research
right years of psychological research
right years of psychological research has shown that there is a set of
has shown that there is a set of
has shown that there is a set of critical tools that make life easier and
critical tools that make life easier and
critical tools that make life easier and here’s the bottom line for you if you
here’s the bottom line for you if you
here’s the bottom line for you if you get psyched
get psyched
get psyched you can think stronger and live longer
you can think stronger and live longer
you can think stronger and live longer why
why
why because our thinking our feeling our
because our thinking our feeling our
because our thinking our feeling our behaviors they have multiple
behaviors they have multiple
behaviors they have multiple determinants it’s not just one thing
determinants it’s not just one thing
determinants it’s not just one thing it’s multiple determinants many things
it’s multiple determinants many things
it’s multiple determinants many things determine all those things that we are
determine all those things that we are
determine all those things that we are and you need to get psyched for the big
and you need to get psyched for the big
and you need to get psyched for the big picture all right what is it what is the
picture all right what is it what is the
picture all right what is it what is the big picture why all these things that
big picture why all these things that
big picture why all these things that are going on well let’s go back to you
are going on well let’s go back to you
are going on well let’s go back to you know the stereotypes all right I
know the stereotypes all right I
know the stereotypes all right I mentioned you may think you may think
mentioned you may think you may think
mentioned you may think you may think psyche is just one thing or the other
psyche is just one thing or the other
psyche is just one thing or the other the reality is psyche is a lot more than
the reality is psyche is a lot more than
the reality is psyche is a lot more than just one narrow area of therapy all
just one narrow area of therapy all
just one narrow area of therapy all right
right
right I’ve been a psychologist for 25 years or
I’ve been a psychologist for 25 years or
I’ve been a psychologist for 25 years or so and the reality is there’s a lot that
so and the reality is there’s a lot that
so and the reality is there’s a lot that I do
I do
I do now here’s what gets interesting I may
now here’s what gets interesting I may
now here’s what gets interesting I may not be able to read your mind or analyze
not be able to read your mind or analyze
not be able to read your mind or analyze you I’m not that kind of psychologist
you I’m not that kind of psychologist
you I’m not that kind of psychologist that’s just a clinical psychologist and
that’s just a clinical psychologist and
that’s just a clinical psychologist and that’s what clinical psychologists do
that’s what clinical psychologists do
that’s what clinical psychologists do that’s what who does the analysis but I
that’s what who does the analysis but I
that’s what who does the analysis but I am a social psychologist and I can’t
am a social psychologist and I can’t
am a social psychologist and I can’t tell you what I can do is predict
tell you what I can do is predict
tell you what I can do is predict behavior so a lot of my research for
behavior so a lot of my research for
behavior so a lot of my research for example looks at clothing and it’s a and
example looks at clothing and it’s a and
example looks at clothing and it’s a and I can tell based on what you are wearing
I can tell based on what you are wearing
I can tell based on what you are wearing a lot about you and I know some of you
a lot about you and I know some of you
a lot about you and I know some of you are really grateful that it’s sort of
are really grateful that it’s sort of
are really grateful that it’s sort of dark out there okay you need to talk to
dark out there okay you need to talk to
dark out there okay you need to talk to me later but right predictions right
me later but right predictions right
me later but right predictions right predictions you can predict things when
predictions you can predict things when
predictions you can predict things when I was at UCLA we did we did work that
I was at UCLA we did we did work that
I was at UCLA we did we did work that showed that just based on your gender
showed that just based on your gender
showed that just based on your gender I can probably predict how you’re gonna
I can probably predict how you’re gonna
I can probably predict how you’re gonna deal with stress for many many years
deal with stress for many many years
deal with stress for many many years people are caught hate everybody just
people are caught hate everybody just
people are caught hate everybody just fights or flees right it’s that it’s
fights or flees right it’s that it’s
fights or flees right it’s that it’s that response fight or flee and you’ve
that response fight or flee and you’ve
that response fight or flee and you’ve heard about that but we did work that
heard about that but we did work that
heard about that but we did work that showed that women may actually have an
showed that women may actually have an
showed that women may actually have an additional stress response
additional stress response
additional stress response women tend and befriend in addition to
women tend and befriend in addition to
women tend and befriend in addition to just fighting or fleeing that’s new
just fighting or fleeing that’s new
just fighting or fleeing that’s new stuff that’s what psychological research
stuff that’s what psychological research
stuff that’s what psychological research shows right now I’m doing a lot of
shows right now I’m doing a lot of
shows right now I’m doing a lot of research and teaching and learning in
research and teaching and learning in
research and teaching and learning in the classroom so I try to predict by
the classroom so I try to predict by
the classroom so I try to predict by from a small set of information predict
from a small set of information predict
from a small set of information predict which students need more help in
which students need more help in
which students need more help in learning than the others right that’s
learning than the others right that’s
learning than the others right that’s the predictive stuff that goes on so
the predictive stuff that goes on so
the predictive stuff that goes on so doing research in psychology for all
doing research in psychology for all
doing research in psychology for all these years has really shown me that
these years has really shown me that
these years has really shown me that psychology is everywhere psychology is
psychology is everywhere psychology is
psychology is everywhere psychology is much more Sherlock Holmes and CSI than
much more Sherlock Holmes and CSI than
much more Sherlock Holmes and CSI than it is Freud and couches right we are
it is Freud and couches right we are
it is Freud and couches right we are exploring what’s going on everywhere you
exploring what’s going on everywhere you
exploring what’s going on everywhere you look everywhere you look there
look everywhere you look there
look everywhere you look there psychology
psychology
psychology pick a job any job right maybe you work
pick a job any job right maybe you work
pick a job any job right maybe you work in healthcare maybe work in the food
in healthcare maybe work in the food
in healthcare maybe work in the food service maybe you work in business or
service maybe you work in business or
service maybe you work in business or industry psychology is in there you need
industry psychology is in there you need
industry psychology is in there you need psychology and the better you understand
psychology and the better you understand
psychology and the better you understand psychology and how people be work the
psychology and how people be work the
psychology and how people be work the better you are going to be at those jobs
better you are going to be at those jobs
better you are going to be at those jobs no matter what that job may be so let’s
no matter what that job may be so let’s
no matter what that job may be so let’s answer some questions for you how and
answer some questions for you how and
answer some questions for you how and why do we do what we do I’m gonna I’m
why do we do what we do I’m gonna I’m
why do we do what we do I’m gonna I’m gonna narrow it down for you right good
gonna narrow it down for you right good
gonna narrow it down for you right good news people this was worth it fifty to a
news people this was worth it fifty to a
news people this was worth it fifty to a hundred years of psych research right
hundred years of psych research right
hundred years of psych research right here right now
here right now
here right now alright and for those of you go hey you
alright and for those of you go hey you
alright and for those of you go hey you know man I should have taken interest
know man I should have taken interest
know man I should have taken interest like that I’ve just listened to this TED
like that I’ve just listened to this TED
like that I’ve just listened to this TED talk well maybe so alright when you
talk well maybe so alright when you
talk well maybe so alright when you think about why we be think behave and
think about why we be think behave and
think about why we be think behave and feel the way we do I’m gonna narrow it
feel the way we do I’m gonna narrow it
feel the way we do I’m gonna narrow it down to three things all right we think
down to three things all right we think
down to three things all right we think feel and behave because of the
feel and behave because of the
feel and behave because of the biological basis beneath them right
biological basis beneath them right
biological basis beneath them right thinking feeling and behaving has a
thinking feeling and behaving has a
thinking feeling and behaving has a basis of we learn how to do that
basis of we learn how to do that
basis of we learn how to do that thinking feeling and behaving is driven
thinking feeling and behaving is driven
thinking feeling and behaving is driven by our social surroundings and the
by our social surroundings and the
by our social surroundings and the people around us three very important
people around us three very important
people around us three very important things to keep in mind biology learning
things to keep in mind biology learning
things to keep in mind biology learning and our social surroundings one of my
and our social surroundings one of my
and our social surroundings one of my favorite examples that makes this point
favorite examples that makes this point
favorite examples that makes this point clear is emotions and we’ve heard a lot
clear is emotions and we’ve heard a lot
clear is emotions and we’ve heard a lot about emotions today right when I first
about emotions today right when I first
about emotions today right when I first started teaching intro psych we would
started teaching intro psych we would
started teaching intro psych we would put up these five pictures and say all
put up these five pictures and say all
put up these five pictures and say all around the world people will recognize
around the world people will recognize
around the world people will recognize these five emotions we thought that
these five emotions we thought that
these five emotions we thought that there was a biological footprint for
there was a biological footprint for
there was a biological footprint for those five emotions new psychological
those five emotions new psychological
those five emotions new psychological research said that’s not the case
research said that’s not the case
research said that’s not the case emotions are dependent on biology
emotions are dependent on biology
emotions are dependent on biology emotions are dependent on what you have
emotions are dependent on what you have
emotions are dependent on what you have learned and what your experiences have
learned and what your experiences have
learned and what your experiences have been and your emotions are determined on
been and your emotions are determined on
been and your emotions are determined on the people around you the very same
the people around you the very same
the people around you the very same event can be experienced as a different
event can be experienced as a different
event can be experienced as a different emotion depending on who you are what
emotion depending on who you are what
emotion depending on who you are what your learning is and who is around you
your learning is and who is around you
your learning is and who is around you that’s fascinating stuff right feelings
that’s fascinating stuff right feelings
that’s fascinating stuff right feelings have multiple determinants you need to
have multiple determinants you need to
have multiple determinants you need to get psyched for the big picture right
get psyched for the big picture right
get psyched for the big picture right very important you need to get cite for
very important you need to get cite for
very important you need to get cite for the big picture so let’s break some of
the big picture so let’s break some of
the big picture so let’s break some of this down all right I said biology
this down all right I said biology
this down all right I said biology learning and and and and social networks
learning and and and and social networks
learning and and and and social networks biology this is just absolutely
biology this is just absolutely
biology this is just absolutely fascinating you’ve heard a lot about
fascinating you’ve heard a lot about
fascinating you’ve heard a lot about biology I’m betting a lot of you know a
biology I’m betting a lot of you know a
biology I’m betting a lot of you know a little bit about biology in the brain
little bit about biology in the brain
little bit about biology in the brain but when
but when
but when stop to think about the absolutely
stop to think about the absolutely
stop to think about the absolutely magnificent stuff going on right here it
magnificent stuff going on right here it
magnificent stuff going on right here it is pun intended
is pun intended
is pun intended mind-boggling right when you look at the
mind-boggling right when you look at the
mind-boggling right when you look at the brain we all know there are neurons how
brain we all know there are neurons how
brain we all know there are neurons how many neurons we now know about 86
many neurons we now know about 86
many neurons we now know about 86 billion neurons 86 billion neurons each
billion neurons 86 billion neurons each
billion neurons 86 billion neurons each of those neurons have tens of thousands
of those neurons have tens of thousands
of those neurons have tens of thousands of connections you want a picture how
of connections you want a picture how
of connections you want a picture how many connections those are picture this
many connections those are picture this
many connections those are picture this see the space inside my hand right here
see the space inside my hand right here
see the space inside my hand right here if you take brain matter that fits
if you take brain matter that fits
if you take brain matter that fits inside that space there there are more
inside that space there there are more
inside that space there there are more connections than all the stars in the
connections than all the stars in the
connections than all the stars in the Milky Way yeah think about that and
Milky Way yeah think about that and
Milky Way yeah think about that and every time you think even that sigh
every time you think even that sigh
every time you think even that sigh those connections and those neurons have
those connections and those neurons have
those connections and those neurons have already fired tens of thousands of times
already fired tens of thousands of times
already fired tens of thousands of times and by the time I’m done with this talk
and by the time I’m done with this talk
and by the time I’m done with this talk they’ve fired billions of times that’s
they’ve fired billions of times that’s
they’ve fired billions of times that’s the biology we’re dealing with and you
the biology we’re dealing with and you
the biology we’re dealing with and you know what’s even cooler most of that
know what’s even cooler most of that
know what’s even cooler most of that activity is non conscious by the time
activity is non conscious by the time
activity is non conscious by the time you consciously think of ports thousands
you consciously think of ports thousands
you consciously think of ports thousands and billions of interactions have gone
and billions of interactions have gone
and billions of interactions have gone on at the level of your brain free will
on at the level of your brain free will
on at the level of your brain free will it’s mostly an illusion you may think oh
it’s mostly an illusion you may think oh
it’s mostly an illusion you may think oh I’m doing stuff but your brains been
I’m doing stuff but your brains been
I’m doing stuff but your brains been firing alright it’s been firing over and
firing alright it’s been firing over and
firing alright it’s been firing over and over again by the time something pops
over again by the time something pops
over again by the time something pops into your into your consciousness your
into your into your consciousness your
into your into your consciousness your brains all redone tons of the work okay
brains all redone tons of the work okay
brains all redone tons of the work okay biology also actually gives us some big
biology also actually gives us some big
biology also actually gives us some big clues into some everyday things
clues into some everyday things
clues into some everyday things take take obesity take being overweight
take take obesity take being overweight
take take obesity take being overweight all right I have a really good friend
all right I have a really good friend
all right I have a really good friend who is very overweight he is maybe one
who is very overweight he is maybe one
who is very overweight he is maybe one inch taller than I am and he is one and
inch taller than I am and he is one and
inch taller than I am and he is one and a half actually two and a half times my
a half actually two and a half times my
a half actually two and a half times my weight all right he’s pretty heavy and I
weight all right he’s pretty heavy and I
weight all right he’s pretty heavy and I you know it really gets me when people
you know it really gets me when people
you know it really gets me when people look at him and go oh he’s probably that
look at him and go oh he’s probably that
look at him and go oh he’s probably that way because he eats poorly
way because he eats poorly
way because he eats poorly he’s probably that way because he sits
he’s probably that way because he sits
he’s probably that way because he sits around and does nothing right food
around and does nothing right food
around and does nothing right food inactivity can contribute but what we
inactivity can contribute but what we
inactivity can contribute but what we now know is that interestingly enough
now know is that interestingly enough
now know is that interestingly enough the arrows of their the directions
the arrows of their the directions
the arrows of their the directions actually go the other way
actually go the other way
actually go the other way here’s a scary thought when we put on a
here’s a scary thought when we put on a
here’s a scary thought when we put on a certain amount of weight our body
certain amount of weight our body
certain amount of weight our body changes how we think and we think about
changes how we think and we think about
changes how we think and we think about eating more we want to sit back and do
eating more we want to sit back and do
eating more we want to sit back and do nothing so instead of those two things
nothing so instead of those two things
nothing so instead of those two things in
in
in and saying you putting on weight it’s
and saying you putting on weight it’s
and saying you putting on weight it’s actually the other way around because of
actually the other way around because of
actually the other way around because of how biology is working biology and
how biology is working biology and
how biology is working biology and almost everything that you and I do has
almost everything that you and I do has
almost everything that you and I do has actually everything that you and I do
actually everything that you and I do
actually everything that you and I do has a biological basis you don’t need to
has a biological basis you don’t need to
has a biological basis you don’t need to you know take a whole bunch more than
you know take a whole bunch more than
you know take a whole bunch more than the types of stuff I’ve said you got to
the types of stuff I’ve said you got to
the types of stuff I’ve said you got to stop and think wow part of my behavior
stop and think wow part of my behavior
stop and think wow part of my behavior is my biology now this doesn’t mean you
is my biology now this doesn’t mean you
is my biology now this doesn’t mean you just sit back and go it’s my biology
just sit back and go it’s my biology
just sit back and go it’s my biology nothing I can do about it so aggressive
nothing I can do about it so aggressive
nothing I can do about it so aggressive nope it’s not me it’s my biology no it’s
nope it’s not me it’s my biology no it’s
nope it’s not me it’s my biology no it’s just part of the puzzle alright wait
just part of the puzzle alright wait
just part of the puzzle alright wait Ginn
Ginn
Ginn multiple determinants you need to get
multiple determinants you need to get
multiple determinants you need to get psyched for the big picture how about
psyched for the big picture how about
psyched for the big picture how about learning reward and Punishment by the
learning reward and Punishment by the
learning reward and Punishment by the time we sit here we have Lu have a
time we sit here we have Lu have a
time we sit here we have Lu have a lifetime of learning even if you’re
lifetime of learning even if you’re
lifetime of learning even if you’re sitting here and you’re five you’ve
sitting here and you’re five you’ve
sitting here and you’re five you’ve still had a whole bunch of learning
still had a whole bunch of learning
still had a whole bunch of learning right everything you think and do you
right everything you think and do you
right everything you think and do you have learned when you do something and
have learned when you do something and
have learned when you do something and it is followed by a positive event you
it is followed by a positive event you
it is followed by a positive event you do that thing more you were nodding oh
do that thing more you were nodding oh
do that thing more you were nodding oh I’m gonna stand here a little bit more
I’m gonna stand here a little bit more
I’m gonna stand here a little bit more thank you not some more it’s reinforcing
thank you not some more it’s reinforcing
thank you not some more it’s reinforcing right if you do something and it’s
right if you do something and it’s
right if you do something and it’s punished you’re gonna do that less a lot
punished you’re gonna do that less a lot
punished you’re gonna do that less a lot of the stuff that we do is this again
of the stuff that we do is this again
of the stuff that we do is this again this very funky non conscious deal very
this very funky non conscious deal very
this very funky non conscious deal very often we don’t even realize who’s
often we don’t even realize who’s
often we don’t even realize who’s rewarding and punishing us it’s
rewarding and punishing us it’s
rewarding and punishing us it’s happening it’s those little looks those
happening it’s those little looks those
happening it’s those little looks those little smiles right reward and
little smiles right reward and
little smiles right reward and Punishment shapes our behavior there’s
Punishment shapes our behavior there’s
Punishment shapes our behavior there’s also observational learning classic
also observational learning classic
also observational learning classic study in psychology the Bobo doll study
study in psychology the Bobo doll study
study in psychology the Bobo doll study right when kids saw a Bobo doll this big
right when kids saw a Bobo doll this big
right when kids saw a Bobo doll this big inflatable doll being hit when left
inflatable doll being hit when left
inflatable doll being hit when left alone with that same doll
alone with that same doll
alone with that same doll they hit the doll as well think of the
they hit the doll as well think of the
they hit the doll as well think of the implications kids see parents smoking
implications kids see parents smoking
implications kids see parents smoking they’re more likely to smoke kids see
they’re more likely to smoke kids see
they’re more likely to smoke kids see parents marching in a hate-mongering
parents marching in a hate-mongering
parents marching in a hate-mongering parade they’re more likely to develop
parade they’re more likely to develop
parade they’re more likely to develop hate and racism all right kids learn
hate and racism all right kids learn
hate and racism all right kids learn everything we do as parents our kids are
everything we do as parents our kids are
everything we do as parents our kids are watching us earlier today you heard the
watching us earlier today you heard the
watching us earlier today you heard the phrase kids are in business some people
phrase kids are in business some people
phrase kids are in business some people think it’s unvisible they’re not we got
think it’s unvisible they’re not we got
think it’s unvisible they’re not we got to be paying more attention to them
to be paying more attention to them
to be paying more attention to them right because everything that we do can
right because everything that we do can
right because everything that we do can make a big difference
make a big difference
make a big difference this connections to alright this is
this connections to alright this is
this connections to alright this is fascinating social network so now when I
fascinating social network so now when I
fascinating social network so now when I think about connections you think about
think about connections you think about
think about connections you think about Facebook and social media there we are
Facebook and social media there we are
Facebook and social media there we are all of us live in a community we live
all of us live in a community we live
all of us live in a community we live with people whether that’s our friends
with people whether that’s our friends
with people whether that’s our friends or partners we are connected and
or partners we are connected and
or partners we are connected and connections make a big big deal of
connections make a big big deal of
connections make a big big deal of difference on how we behave let me tell
difference on how we behave let me tell
difference on how we behave let me tell you about something I did in grad school
you about something I did in grad school
you about something I did in grad school again I did this little study for my
again I did this little study for my
again I did this little study for my dissertation actually where I bought
dissertation actually where I bought
dissertation actually where I bought couples into the lab gave them a list of
couples into the lab gave them a list of
couples into the lab gave them a list of topics that couples normally fought
topics that couples normally fought
topics that couples normally fought about and I said I’m gonna leave the
about and I said I’m gonna leave the
about and I said I’m gonna leave the room for 10 minutes pick a topic and
room for 10 minutes pick a topic and
room for 10 minutes pick a topic and talk about it all right so I’d leave the
talk about it all right so I’d leave the
talk about it all right so I’d leave the room and they talk about it and they get
room and they talk about it and they get
room and they talk about it and they get into a conflict but lo and behold I can
into a conflict but lo and behold I can
into a conflict but lo and behold I can predict based on psychological science
predict based on psychological science
predict based on psychological science the couples would be together six months
the couples would be together six months
the couples would be together six months later from the type of social and
later from the type of social and
later from the type of social and community network and social support
community network and social support
community network and social support that they had that’s the power of your
that they had that’s the power of your
that they had that’s the power of your social networks so there’s good news on
social networks so there’s good news on
social networks so there’s good news on this bad news what do you want first
this bad news what do you want first
this bad news what do you want first you’re getting the bed all right here’s
you’re getting the bed all right here’s
you’re getting the bed all right here’s the bad news
the bad news
the bad news here’s the bad news by the time you sit
here’s the bad news by the time you sit
here’s the bad news by the time you sit here you have your biology you have your
here you have your biology you have your
here you have your biology you have your learning you’ve got your social
learning you’ve got your social
learning you’ve got your social connections to a large extent what we
connections to a large extent what we
connections to a large extent what we have is what we have but there’s good
have is what we have but there’s good
have is what we have but there’s good news it doesn’t have to be all right it
news it doesn’t have to be all right it
news it doesn’t have to be all right it doesn’t have to be and these are the
doesn’t have to be and these are the
doesn’t have to be and these are the three things I’m gonna have you practice
three things I’m gonna have you practice
three things I’m gonna have you practice as you go out into the world chill drill
as you go out into the world chill drill
as you go out into the world chill drill and build alright if you really want to
and build alright if you really want to
and build alright if you really want to get psyched if you want the big picture
get psyched if you want the big picture
get psyched if you want the big picture you’ve got a chill you got a drill you
you’ve got a chill you got a drill you
you’ve got a chill you got a drill you got a build here’s what I mean this is a
got a build here’s what I mean this is a
got a build here’s what I mean this is a biggie remember I said that a lot of our
biggie remember I said that a lot of our
biggie remember I said that a lot of our behavior is driven by our biology what’s
behavior is driven by our biology what’s
behavior is driven by our biology what’s going on is all those connections right
going on is all those connections right
going on is all those connections right are releasing neuro chemicals when we
are releasing neuro chemicals when we
are releasing neuro chemicals when we have a lot of testosterone in our system
have a lot of testosterone in our system
have a lot of testosterone in our system we get aggressive when you have a lot of
we get aggressive when you have a lot of
we get aggressive when you have a lot of cortisol or catecholamines in your
cortisol or catecholamines in your
cortisol or catecholamines in your system you feel stressed and like I said
system you feel stressed and like I said
system you feel stressed and like I said most of this is non conscious it’s there
most of this is non conscious it’s there
most of this is non conscious it’s there it’s circulating the best thing that you
it’s circulating the best thing that you
it’s circulating the best thing that you can do when you are angry is literally
can do when you are angry is literally
can do when you are angry is literally chill step back from the situation all
chill step back from the situation all
chill step back from the situation all right step back from the situation
right step back from the situation
right step back from the situation somebody really taking you off step back
somebody really taking you off step back
somebody really taking you off step back from the situation chill
from the situation chill
from the situation chill let those brain chemicals subside all
let those brain chemicals subside all
let those brain chemicals subside all right literally by chilling and giving
right literally by chilling and giving
right literally by chilling and giving your brain some time the neurons and
your brain some time the neurons and
your brain some time the neurons and your chemicals theory to reset you’re
your chemicals theory to reset you’re
your chemicals theory to reset you’re gonna be better off big thing with anger
gonna be better off big thing with anger
gonna be better off big thing with anger a lot of people to go let’s throw some
a lot of people to go let’s throw some
a lot of people to go let’s throw some stuff it makes me feel better I’m gonna
stuff it makes me feel better I’m gonna
stuff it makes me feel better I’m gonna go for a run makes me feel better guess
go for a run makes me feel better guess
go for a run makes me feel better guess what
what
what it shows that instead of throwing
it shows that instead of throwing
it shows that instead of throwing something or even going for a run taking
something or even going for a run taking
something or even going for a run taking that time for just quiet pulling back
that time for just quiet pulling back
that time for just quiet pulling back away from the situation is much better
away from the situation is much better
away from the situation is much better for your anger again doesn’t brain
for your anger again doesn’t brain
for your anger again doesn’t brain chemicals subside and they go down chill
chemicals subside and they go down chill
chemicals subside and they go down chill really useful really useful
really useful really useful
really useful really useful okay how about drill practice practice
okay how about drill practice practice
okay how about drill practice practice practice big word that you need to be
practice big word that you need to be
practice big word that you need to be aware of as you and I sit here the way
aware of as you and I sit here the way
aware of as you and I sit here the way we think is mostly automatic all right
we think is mostly automatic all right
we think is mostly automatic all right it’s mostly automatic I mentioned
it’s mostly automatic I mentioned
it’s mostly automatic I mentioned stereotypes before right you see Indian
stereotypes before right you see Indian
stereotypes before right you see Indian you may think doctor or engineer that’s
you may think doctor or engineer that’s
you may think doctor or engineer that’s okay it’s automatic but don’t stop there
okay it’s automatic but don’t stop there
okay it’s automatic but don’t stop there go beyond it all right stereotypes are
go beyond it all right stereotypes are
go beyond it all right stereotypes are just a mental shortcut they’re useful
just a mental shortcut they’re useful
just a mental shortcut they’re useful but go beyond it stress you know what
but go beyond it stress you know what
but go beyond it stress you know what stressful this is right when we think
stressful this is right when we think
stressful this is right when we think about public speaking we go oh that’s so
about public speaking we go oh that’s so
about public speaking we go oh that’s so stressful
stressful
stressful but we can go but that’s that first
but we can go but that’s that first
but we can go but that’s that first automatic tort we don’t have to stick
automatic tort we don’t have to stick
automatic tort we don’t have to stick with that automatic tort just because
with that automatic tort just because
with that automatic tort just because it’s automatically what comes to your
it’s automatically what comes to your
it’s automatically what comes to your mind you can say you know what yeah but
mind you can say you know what yeah but
mind you can say you know what yeah but actually it’s not that bad it’s a
actually it’s not that bad it’s a
actually it’s not that bad it’s a challenging boy that’s what I and I know
challenging boy that’s what I and I know
challenging boy that’s what I and I know a lot of the folks who spoke today they
a lot of the folks who spoke today they
a lot of the folks who spoke today they this is a cool challenge and it becomes
this is a cool challenge and it becomes
this is a cool challenge and it becomes less stressful failure that’s a big one
less stressful failure that’s a big one
less stressful failure that’s a big one right fear for we talked about failure
right fear for we talked about failure
right fear for we talked about failure when you feel your lifetime of learning
when you feel your lifetime of learning
when you feel your lifetime of learning gives you an automatic port that pops
gives you an automatic port that pops
gives you an automatic port that pops into your head it’s automatic but you
into your head it’s automatic but you
into your head it’s automatic but you don’t have to let it be just because
don’t have to let it be just because
don’t have to let it be just because it’s automatic doesn’t mean you have to
it’s automatic doesn’t mean you have to
it’s automatic doesn’t mean you have to sit with it if you feel and the thought
sit with it if you feel and the thought
sit with it if you feel and the thought that pops into your head is yeah that’s
that pops into your head is yeah that’s
that pops into your head is yeah that’s me I always fail this happens in school
me I always fail this happens in school
me I always fail this happens in school a lot somebody doesn’t do well in exam
a lot somebody doesn’t do well in exam
a lot somebody doesn’t do well in exam one and they may say yeah I’m not a good
one and they may say yeah I’m not a good
one and they may say yeah I’m not a good student
student
student totally changes how they deal with
totally changes how they deal with
totally changes how they deal with studying for the next exam just because
studying for the next exam just because
studying for the next exam just because a port is automatic just because you
a port is automatic just because you
a port is automatic just because you have it as you sit here doesn’t mean
have it as you sit here doesn’t mean
have it as you sit here doesn’t mean it’s what you need to stay with change
it’s what you need to stay with change
it’s what you need to stay with change those automatic thoughts change those
those automatic thoughts change those
those automatic thoughts change those automatic thoughts and the only way you
automatic thoughts and the only way you
automatic thoughts and the only way you can do it with any gentleman is by
can do it with any gentleman is by
can do it with any gentleman is by practicing because they’re automatic for
practicing because they’re automatic for
practicing because they’re automatic for a reason this gives serve a purpose it’s
a reason this gives serve a purpose it’s
a reason this gives serve a purpose it’s gonna be tough but you go to practice
gonna be tough but you go to practice
gonna be tough but you go to practice and practice and practice drill drill
and practice and practice drill drill
and practice and practice drill drill thinking differently drill yourself into
thinking differently drill yourself into
thinking differently drill yourself into thinking more positively
thinking more positively
thinking more positively critical stuff to do chill drill and
critical stuff to do chill drill and
critical stuff to do chill drill and build social support is probably one of
build social support is probably one of
build social support is probably one of the most powerful things you can have
the most powerful things you can have
the most powerful things you can have for yourself people with higher levels
for yourself people with higher levels
for yourself people with higher levels of social support live longer don’t get
of social support live longer don’t get
of social support live longer don’t get sick as much as fast and when they do
sick as much as fast and when they do
sick as much as fast and when they do get sick they recover faster you want a
get sick they recover faster you want a
get sick they recover faster you want a real connection between psychology and
real connection between psychology and
real connection between psychology and biology and health think about this
biology and health think about this
biology and health think about this recent study in this study researchers
recent study in this study researchers
recent study in this study researchers gave a large sample a cold virus they
gave a large sample a cold virus they
gave a large sample a cold virus they literally shot a cold virus into their
literally shot a cold virus into their
literally shot a cold virus into their system and if you’re thinking who can
system and if you’re thinking who can
system and if you’re thinking who can they do that they got approval they got
they do that they got approval they got
they do that they got approval they got consent you know all right sounds a
consent you know all right sounds a
consent you know all right sounds a little shady I know what you’re thinking
little shady I know what you’re thinking
little shady I know what you’re thinking right but they give them a cold virus
right but they give them a cold virus
right but they give them a cold virus and guess what not surprisingly almost
and guess what not surprisingly almost
and guess what not surprisingly almost everybody got sick they were shot with
everybody got sick they were shot with
everybody got sick they were shot with the cold virus okay not surprisingly
the cold virus okay not surprisingly
the cold virus okay not surprisingly every almost everybody but got sick but
every almost everybody but got sick but
every almost everybody but got sick but check this out
check this out
check this out those individuals who had high levels of
those individuals who had high levels of
those individuals who had high levels of social support did not have as severe
social support did not have as severe
social support did not have as severe symptoms as those who did not seem cold
symptoms as those who did not seem cold
symptoms as those who did not seem cold virus they got sick but more social
virus they got sick but more social
virus they got sick but more social support and their symptoms were not as
support and their symptoms were not as
support and their symptoms were not as bad so by the time we think about why we
bad so by the time we think about why we
bad so by the time we think about why we do what we do here are some facts it’s
do what we do here are some facts it’s
do what we do here are some facts it’s biologically based facts we’ve learned
biologically based facts we’ve learned
biologically based facts we’ve learned how to feel that way based on reward and
how to feel that way based on reward and
how to feel that way based on reward and Punishment fad it’s determined by our
Punishment fad it’s determined by our
Punishment fad it’s determined by our situations but there is stuff that we
situations but there is stuff that we
situations but there is stuff that we can do about it there is stuff that we
can do about it there is stuff that we
can do about it there is stuff that we can do about it and psychology
can do about it and psychology
can do about it and psychology psychological science strongly suggests
psychological science strongly suggests
psychological science strongly suggests that we need to to really tackle those
that we need to to really tackle those
that we need to to really tackle those head-on acknowledge what’s automatic
head-on acknowledge what’s automatic
head-on acknowledge what’s automatic acknowledge the biology right but then
acknowledge the biology right but then
acknowledge the biology right but then chill drill and build you know
chill drill and build you know
chill drill and build you know psychology it’s not rocket science it’s
psychology it’s not rocket science it’s
psychology it’s not rocket science it’s tougher okay because we are such complex
tougher okay because we are such complex
tougher okay because we are such complex human beings feeling thinking behaving
human beings feeling thinking behaving
human beings feeling thinking behaving is so as so many multiple determinants
is so as so many multiple determinants
is so as so many multiple determinants so I hope that with these simple tips
so I hope that with these simple tips
so I hope that with these simple tips you can get psyched
you can get psyched
you can get psyched think stronger and live longer thank you
think stronger and live longer thank you
think stronger and live longer thank you [Applause]
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