[Music]
it’s not a question it was a question
initially but then we saw a
affirmation
it’s really easier to fight with the
dads it’s really easier to fight
with all those people we want
deeply the boyfriends the dads the
brothers and it is the image that happened
when you were little
when you were little like that they were
so we have them in your hands
so we embrace you and you pass very
very happy being there but it happens that of
soon one day arrive but not only
this arrives for us the daddy arrives
this for you also because a
Once the work arrives, it arrives like this
when you arrive at the house ,
well and dads we have this image
that’s what we want and what we
we agreed at all times of the
life and all the parents we will continue
speaking children even though
have 25 30 or 40 and all the grandparents
they will continue talking about their children
in this way but when the
time and have what you have the
who are teenagers because that is not what
what ended up happening is that it is not
already for two arms crossed waiting for
see when you suddenly want
spend a little more time with 1 and
you have come out and you hear phrases like
you do not want to be so much with
US
I do not know what is happening with you and
the family why are not you here
if the family is not supposed to be
the most important thing and in this question in
this question say what is going on
that what happens for what reason is so
typical is predictable it is predictable that
the teenagers are like this man
that this is technician that takes out and leaves
what happened and for me I am a
passionate about science I love
try to find an answer that was
that took place that your explanation
that now has helped me a lot and
Welcome
the brain santiago opened us the
doors today is beautifully but
this is the brain
I brought a brain
critical to show this is a brain
and it was wonderful to put it together
As it was not, we’re going to do it because
basically right now is we’re going to
see in images but the brain put
is looked at in court this way is
in this area of the brain is growing
since it is not born and develops as
lawyer, whether it was up to 25 in
particular areas of the brain but
It is always changing and will be able to go
gaining skills that subject that I already
I can not change but also what
We did very much teenagers
I’m 53 and so you do not ask me to
changed then it is not like that then today in
graph
let’s try to understand what this is
the brain and for what reason seen is the
brain is so easy to create with
dads and with the children
the brain has what it is for us
three very important places
It works in its entirety but for
try to explain it separately
it works all the time but it’s as if
it would pretend if we put more or not
to certain areas
this red zone asks a question that
will have to talk santiago screams
Question I’m sure if I get to my
because I was late, it’s three o’clock
in the morning and said that he has arrived
at one o’clock and as soon as my dad goes, I see that my
dad freezes strap and my
survival of my security is violated
the possibilities that I usually have
are those that santiago or paralyzed me
like the footprints that remain like this pieces
so that nobody is going to hurt you or
I run out and I protect myself and more
when in a closet or I give a fist
probably return if I do not feel
sure in a situation in relationships
human is usually where the
fists
the fights but this one feels very
probably compromised
is going to do some things that what
they do is protect it physically and
all the reactions of which
speak
this is the one that will matter to us today
more than others
this one on the other hand says I feel accepted
as we are yours as we are
I want to see if you think pretty my
family is well made up I’m
dancing comes the party in the next
but what do you have if the parents of
100 exit of the people will be that a
our country seems fine as I am
dancing this place be the system
limbic here are the emotions in
this place that is also have it in
account is a big difference
are all those memories
emotional
when one comes to the house to a
occasion and it smells like home my
granny or this is a flavor that I
agreement when I was little that this
and the emotions are in this place
but when one is in crisis or
when it ‘s working from this
place of the brain is the time in the
that one screams and says things for example
who have a favorite partner can be
Easily I do not know at what time
I fell in love with you I do not know what I saw you
that moment when the fault is
rest of the world
I am angry because the
traffic and effort because you
you looked bad is that you told me this
place of the brain when this and in
crisis can not think well and when not
it works from there
after a while and it gets dirty I said
this that did not touch but what is
important is that it is working well
because the question that is asked is how
we are you and I feel loved by
I feel accepted by you and that’s what
let’s have a little soak and this one
which is the smart zone this one
called the frontal lobes but that
small dark green part are the lobes
frontal
that’s where a quantity of
skills that you have to try to
give him sitting and one is working
as you saw it goes down to
up if it does not guarantee security it can
continue to guarantee the related topic
and then yes I can answer this
ask how can I solve the
problem where I am
what can I do to get out of
this
to give an example if I’m
working from the red I give a fist
of a slap probably if I am
working from the blue I say
stupid that is in my position and if
I’m working from the green
I probably said that was my position
do not feel and that is the one that I had and
that’s how relationships work, I can
say a person
I will vote a fist probably another
a slam in a difficult moment
relationship between you and the other will be
I do not like that as you told me and
seen the brain and having this in
Of course, let’s go here because the
difficulties between dads and children or
between boyfriends are given because one moves
from here when he does not move from this
place and to the typical situation not the
situation in which the two differences
old is very evident out one
party after the multiple friends
usually if you are fighting
someone who loves are
from here and be in one of those
moments in which if one is not
conscious as in santiago where
is to be able to move forward and find a
exit and a solution to this is going to
get stuck and usually says things
very very unpleasant that hurt the
another and that then feels a guilt
savings gigas for example this we are
we dads at times
functioning from everything emotional is
the moment when dad and it’s over
discussion and point
and we do not talk anymore scati anymore anymore and
you can not talk no but if it were you
friend nugget the one that will tell you about those
and it would stop being like that you do not care
that because you can not be with us
is that with you it’s always the same
I have to repeat everything ten times and you
you never learn until when will it be
Do I have to tell you
those are the things we say the
parents when we are there but since neither
what to say about what they say teenager
a teenager says things as it seems is
crazy you started the show but it’s
what are you doing the scanner on
another day or one that is coming out
party with you can not talk
Shut up, I fell super borda and when
you are the teenagers in group
and one can you hear that
moments when they remember events
all these phrases appear are you a
that are outdated that is amazing and
they have only realized the common
is when you sit down with people from the
one’s age and we all talk very
similar to our teenagers and
when one already teens to talk
they speak very similarly of what
dads and moms do the
moms for the government because of obvious
reasons why we talk more because
our language
we go that in general terms has
more words
We talk much more lora
much more and think that the
teenagers always tell how the two
moms drive them crazy
amounts of words you have but
when one reaches a teenager
arguing from here not where the
fault is not the miniskirt she is not
is high is that love is not expensive
state infantas
it’s not that I warned that I ‘m late
that the cell phone ran out of battery and you
what do you want me to do is
moving from here and if one has in
realize that one is in this place and
Now let’s see a little we can
do and look what happens is that it is
very complex are two different brains
it’s 12 euros at two different times
of the adolescent brain has very
particular
the adolescent brain has an input
that the adult brain does not have the
input that you have with what you
Feeds is one of novel situations
then of course you have to go to eat ice cream
to the new ice cream shop two years ago
row apples that you have to go because
It’s new and you have to wear the clothes of the
brand new because that’s fun
it also feeds on emotions
intense needs intense emotions
the teenagers do not think so
cool that to stay like that triple
other teens when you do not see them
happy they are super happy and
when they are angry, there is very
angry and if they are scared
normally one sees them doing things
that do not seem scared because in addition
all this emotional movement does that
it’s permanent gas for the
brain is developed so that the lord
also be separated from the parents
remember how the monkeys we saw
a little while ago the adolescent brain
need social relationships yes or yes
although it seems to us
to dads that are many why
now you are friends of who is
who is the time but the work is the
friend of whom dam no sign had
heard that I never heard you and you
you’re going to go to laura’s house
friend and she claimed they are that is what
they need teenagers and they are
social relations and in the moment in
that one tries to limit relationships
Social problems of adolescents plus crisis
there may be and the other thing that happens
very important with teenagers is
that teenagers love the
risk because it generates intense emotions
then when you go and make a
walk and they need the ration of
march to not run out super ships
exciting and that’s fine but the
teenagers who do not have many
risk experiences
Shannon will usually end up in
very complex places looking for that
it’s so important to know what will happen
and how will I move considering that
look what happens with the teenager and
the adult the brain of the adult to be
the author passed a thing completely
different
the brain of the pope says I need
control do not go so far let me know
where are you and if it is not I do not want that
keep calling me by cellphone tell me which one
it’s the landline because I need
have control
I need to guarantee the safety of my
son and at that moment he suffers the
dads brain you are saying
who attacks with me
relate with me yours that we
we want both the teenager needs
he does
also while I go do not bother me
so much because if I do not come back I reach
of follow-up come to rescue her
bathed and considering that
considering that they think this
it’s a double-track relationship
is a two – way relationship so
so much what makes this wonderful is
what is the connection between and adolescents
and parents between children and parents parents what
that makes the difference because all the
million question is and then I
as I get the stone that
again they take it out to me they are usually
the children as they take out the dads
yet
I no longer have what we do to be left without
to be able to leave the weekend because
where he talks harder than he touches
where I say a word that does not touch me
they will leave the weekend saved
What am I going to do today as a dad?
god where I spoke harder than the
account where I criticized Sofia now
that her new best friend
as we say the parents are not going to
stay the same and you will not want to be
weekend with me and lunch the
Sunday that I do then in these
moments and basically you have to think
that we are in the blue and you have to think
that we have to open the door to that
smart zone and the key to this is
connection flame
the key to this is called trying
let you know what I understand
It’s there when I tell my son
I know that for you important and this
we had made an agreement and it is
that if the cell phone was downloaded again
we will start winning until the
next Friday all night with you and
you do not know the party is difficult
different to be able to say I understand what
difficult to stay when you know
that everyone is there to tell you
you stay because you deserve it and this is what
typical and view and hopefully it hurts but
on the other side when it is not clear that
is about to fly on the stone
say lovemaking a crazy and you started
with the show and being able to stop that is the
key to take air
I say to that abdominal breathing
let this be the one who spoke santiago
breathe deeply that you will give them
you the two seconds to be able
decide if I tell her she’s crazy
I want to see you again or if you can say
this is probably telling me
it’s not the best time and we talk now
basically for this spam to choose
and that is what is is that
not if you can catch this does not work
automatically like the transantiago
they can choose where I am
and what can I do in my relationship with
my dads because I clearly fight with
the dads is very easy
[Applause]
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