is there something you want to change any kind of change
any kind of change
any kind of change big or small more money less wait
big or small more money less wait
big or small more money less wait a new job less debt to have different
a new job less debt to have different
a new job less debt to have different results you must change your actions but
results you must change your actions but
results you must change your actions but before you can change your actions you
before you can change your actions you
before you can change your actions you must first change the way you would
must first change the way you would
must first change the way you would think and feel we are given knowledge
think and feel we are given knowledge
think and feel we are given knowledge and information on what to think
and information on what to think
and information on what to think however we are never taught how to feel
however we are never taught how to feel
however we are never taught how to feel our feelings I have been through four
our feelings I have been through four
our feelings I have been through four years of college okay five I was finding
years of college okay five I was finding
years of college okay five I was finding myself four years of medical school and
myself four years of medical school and
myself four years of medical school and three years of residency there is a lot
three years of residency there is a lot
three years of residency there is a lot of knowledge in here most of it useless
of knowledge in here most of it useless
of knowledge in here most of it useless with all of this knowledge I could give
with all of this knowledge I could give
with all of this knowledge I could give you loads of information on what to eat
you loads of information on what to eat
you loads of information on what to eat when to eat how much to eat what type of
when to eat how much to eat what type of
when to eat how much to eat what type of exercise to do when to exercise how much
exercise to do when to exercise how much
exercise to do when to exercise how much to exercise hormones in the body and
to exercise hormones in the body and
to exercise hormones in the body and many other things related to weight loss
many other things related to weight loss
many other things related to weight loss and weight gain however all of that
and weight gain however all of that
and weight gain however all of that knowledge has not kept me from getting
knowledge has not kept me from getting
knowledge has not kept me from getting in fat according to the National
in fat according to the National
in fat according to the National Institutes of Health two-thirds of
Institutes of Health two-thirds of
Institutes of Health two-thirds of Americans are overweight or obese are
Americans are overweight or obese are
Americans are overweight or obese are the rest of you thinking this has
the rest of you thinking this has
the rest of you thinking this has nothing to do with me
nothing to do with me
nothing to do with me but ask yourself do you watch too much
but ask yourself do you watch too much
but ask yourself do you watch too much TV do you drink too much alcohol do you
TV do you drink too much alcohol do you
TV do you drink too much alcohol do you spend too much time on the internet or
spend too much time on the internet or
spend too much time on the internet or Facebook / work / shop / gamble /
Facebook / work / shop / gamble /
Facebook / work / shop / gamble / exercise perhaps you can relate to one
exercise perhaps you can relate to one
exercise perhaps you can relate to one of these things or even something else
of these things or even something else
of these things or even something else the one thing I’ve learned as a
the one thing I’ve learned as a
the one thing I’ve learned as a physician is we all have something in my
physician is we all have something in my
physician is we all have something in my case after a long journey I learned I
case after a long journey I learned I
case after a long journey I learned I became fat by overeating shocking right
became fat by overeating shocking right
became fat by overeating shocking right what was a little shocking was realizing
what was a little shocking was realizing
what was a little shocking was realizing that I overate because I did not know
that I overate because I did not know
that I overate because I did not know how to feel my feelings what does it
how to feel my feelings what does it
how to feel my feelings what does it mean to feel your feelings how does a
mean to feel your feelings how does a
mean to feel your feelings how does a person do this let’s walk through the
person do this let’s walk through the
person do this let’s walk through the process first you have to take the time
process first you have to take the time
process first you have to take the time to feel your feelings be aware you are
to feel your feelings be aware you are
to feel your feelings be aware you are having feelings and emotions I know it
having feelings and emotions I know it
having feelings and emotions I know it sounds funny however so much of this is
sounds funny however so much of this is
sounds funny however so much of this is so unconscious next name your feelings
so unconscious next name your feelings
so unconscious next name your feelings you may have to start out with is this a
you may have to start out with is this a
you may have to start out with is this a good feeling or a bad feeling and then
good feeling or a bad feeling and then
good feeling or a bad feeling and then narrow it down and get more specific
narrow it down and get more specific
narrow it down and get more specific from there now explain your feelings
from there now explain your feelings
from there now explain your feelings where is it in your body your head your
where is it in your body your head your
where is it in your body your head your chest your stomach is it fast or slow
chest your stomach is it fast or slow
chest your stomach is it fast or slow does it have a color is it hot or cold
does it have a color is it hot or cold
does it have a color is it hot or cold is it a thumping or just a small
is it a thumping or just a small
is it a thumping or just a small vibration now sit with your feelings
vibration now sit with your feelings
vibration now sit with your feelings don’t try to buffer or dull the emotion
don’t try to buffer or dull the emotion
don’t try to buffer or dull the emotion but move toward it don’t try to resist
but move toward it don’t try to resist
but move toward it don’t try to resist just allow it to be take a deep breath
just allow it to be take a deep breath
just allow it to be take a deep breath in and relax into it the reason it is
in and relax into it the reason it is
in and relax into it the reason it is important to feel your feelings is to
important to feel your feelings is to
important to feel your feelings is to then identify the thought causing those
then identify the thought causing those
then identify the thought causing those feelings I found this to be the secret
feelings I found this to be the secret
feelings I found this to be the secret sauce because I could change thoughts
sauce because I could change thoughts
sauce because I could change thoughts that weren’t benefiting me but before I
that weren’t benefiting me but before I
that weren’t benefiting me but before I could get to this point I had to feel it
could get to this point I had to feel it
could get to this point I had to feel it name it explain it and sit with it again
name it explain it and sit with it again
name it explain it and sit with it again I’d feel my feelings name my feelings
I’d feel my feelings name my feelings
I’d feel my feelings name my feelings explain my feelings and sit with my
explain my feelings and sit with my
explain my feelings and sit with my feelings after I started to do this I
feelings after I started to do this I
feelings after I started to do this I found every time I was tired I ate every
found every time I was tired I ate every
found every time I was tired I ate every time I was overwhelmed I ate every time
time I was overwhelmed I ate every time
time I was overwhelmed I ate every time I was happy I ate every time he was
I was happy I ate every time he was
I was happy I ate every time he was angry bored lonely sad I ate I ate I ate
angry bored lonely sad I ate I ate I ate
angry bored lonely sad I ate I ate I ate through 30,000 hours of Education not
through 30,000 hours of Education not
through 30,000 hours of Education not one person not a single class in school
one person not a single class in school
one person not a single class in school no medical book ever taught me how to
no medical book ever taught me how to
no medical book ever taught me how to feel my feelings and experience my
feel my feelings and experience my
feel my feelings and experience my emotions without buffering so I learned
emotions without buffering so I learned
emotions without buffering so I learned the hard way I buffer with food
the hard way I buffer with food
the hard way I buffer with food I make thousands of decisions a day many
I make thousands of decisions a day many
I make thousands of decisions a day many of them critical I then go home to a
of them critical I then go home to a
of them critical I then go home to a husband two daughters two dogs and a cat
husband two daughters two dogs and a cat
husband two daughters two dogs and a cat all vying for my attention this can be
all vying for my attention this can be
all vying for my attention this can be overwhelming by eating the cookie I
overwhelming by eating the cookie I
overwhelming by eating the cookie I could empty any emotion into the pot on
could empty any emotion into the pot on
could empty any emotion into the pot on the back burner for just a moment when
the back burner for just a moment when
the back burner for just a moment when the cookie was gone and the emotional
the cookie was gone and the emotional
the cookie was gone and the emotional break was over the feeling that was
break was over the feeling that was
break was over the feeling that was still there and now intensified and
still there and now intensified and
still there and now intensified and dinner still had to be made this cycle
dinner still had to be made this cycle
dinner still had to be made this cycle was then complicated by the frustration
was then complicated by the frustration
was then complicated by the frustration of the resulting weight gain so I’d then
of the resulting weight gain so I’d then
of the resulting weight gain so I’d then buffer the frustration with a cookie
buffer the frustration with a cookie
buffer the frustration with a cookie because that made sense and then I would
because that made sense and then I would
because that made sense and then I would feel self disgust and again another
feel self disgust and again another
feel self disgust and again another cookie you see the insanity
cookie you see the insanity
cookie you see the insanity now let’s refer back to those things I
now let’s refer back to those things I
now let’s refer back to those things I mentioned earlier can you relate with
mentioned earlier can you relate with
mentioned earlier can you relate with too much alcohol TV Facebook for every
too much alcohol TV Facebook for every
too much alcohol TV Facebook for every emotion good or bad you may have tried
emotion good or bad you may have tried
emotion good or bad you may have tried to ease the feeling with something and
to ease the feeling with something and
to ease the feeling with something and not even realized you were avoiding your
not even realized you were avoiding your
not even realized you were avoiding your emotions unfortunately for me my buffer
emotions unfortunately for me my buffer
emotions unfortunately for me my buffer was evident for the world to see as fat
was evident for the world to see as fat
was evident for the world to see as fat on my body over working over gambling
on my body over working over gambling
on my body over working over gambling and over shopping may not be as evident
and over shopping may not be as evident
and over shopping may not be as evident for others to be aware of maybe you’re
for others to be aware of maybe you’re
for others to be aware of maybe you’re thinking my buffer is benefiting me my
thinking my buffer is benefiting me my
thinking my buffer is benefiting me my career’s soaring I’m in great shape I’m
career’s soaring I’m in great shape I’m
career’s soaring I’m in great shape I’m the life of the party after a few drinks
the life of the party after a few drinks
the life of the party after a few drinks but are you enriching and improving your
but are you enriching and improving your
but are you enriching and improving your overall well-being are you actually
overall well-being are you actually
overall well-being are you actually engaging with the people who mean the
engaging with the people who mean the
engaging with the people who mean the most to you after years of buffering my
most to you after years of buffering my
most to you after years of buffering my brain has developed some fairly
brain has developed some fairly
brain has developed some fairly deep-rooted habits are you thinking just
deep-rooted habits are you thinking just
deep-rooted habits are you thinking just feel your feelings don’t put food in
feel your feelings don’t put food in
feel your feelings don’t put food in your mouth to understand how hard this
your mouth to understand how hard this
your mouth to understand how hard this is for me to do let’s try something grab
is for me to do let’s try something grab
is for me to do let’s try something grab your pen in the corner of the paper sign
your pen in the corner of the paper sign
your pen in the corner of the paper sign your name not in calligraphy doctor’s
your name not in calligraphy doctor’s
your name not in calligraphy doctor’s signature now take your pen and place it
signature now take your pen and place it
signature now take your pen and place it in your other hand
in your other hand
in your other hand sign your name again what was once an
sign your name again what was once an
sign your name again what was once an easy automatic mindless task now takes
easy automatic mindless task now takes
easy automatic mindless task now takes considerable conscious effort and energy
considerable conscious effort and energy
considerable conscious effort and energy this is what it’s like to no longer
this is what it’s like to no longer
this is what it’s like to no longer buffer with food for me after overeating
buffer with food for me after overeating
buffer with food for me after overeating for a lifetime
for a lifetime
for a lifetime I realized quickly that to remove this
I realized quickly that to remove this
I realized quickly that to remove this buffer would not be easy or automatic
buffer would not be easy or automatic
buffer would not be easy or automatic now let’s refer back to the your
now let’s refer back to the your
now let’s refer back to the your something again was it having that third
something again was it having that third
something again was it having that third glass of wine buying those fabulous
glass of wine buying those fabulous
glass of wine buying those fabulous shoes spending hours on the Internet
shoes spending hours on the Internet
shoes spending hours on the Internet bring awareness to it in the beginning I
bring awareness to it in the beginning I
bring awareness to it in the beginning I had to do this after I ate the cookie
had to do this after I ate the cookie
had to do this after I ate the cookie because my eating habits were so
because my eating habits were so
because my eating habits were so unconscious for example I would ask was
unconscious for example I would ask was
unconscious for example I would ask was i hungry
i hungry
i hungry I’d to make sure it was stomach hunger
I’d to make sure it was stomach hunger
I’d to make sure it was stomach hunger not brain hunger brain hunger is
not brain hunger brain hunger is
not brain hunger brain hunger is actually emotional eating or cravings if
actually emotional eating or cravings if
actually emotional eating or cravings if the answer to the stomach hunger
the answer to the stomach hunger
the answer to the stomach hunger question was no I would then try to name
question was no I would then try to name
question was no I would then try to name the feeling I was avoiding I sometimes
the feeling I was avoiding I sometimes
the feeling I was avoiding I sometimes had a hard time finding the correct word
had a hard time finding the correct word
had a hard time finding the correct word to describe my feelings and emotions so
to describe my feelings and emotions so
to describe my feelings and emotions so I did what every good mom does and every
I did what every good mom does and every
I did what every good mom does and every physician hates to hear I googled it and
physician hates to hear I googled it and
physician hates to hear I googled it and I now had my comprehensive list in hand
I now had my comprehensive list in hand
I now had my comprehensive list in hand and could name any feeling or emotion
and could name any feeling or emotion
and could name any feeling or emotion that my brain would throw at me as this
that my brain would throw at me as this
that my brain would throw at me as this got easier I then had to find the split
got easier I then had to find the split
got easier I then had to find the split second right after I had the thought but
second right after I had the thought but
second right after I had the thought but right before the food was in my mouth
right before the food was in my mouth
right before the food was in my mouth and sit with the emotion for you and
and sit with the emotion for you and
and sit with the emotion for you and maybe the instant that you hear the
maybe the instant that you hear the
maybe the instant that you hear the glass clinking the ice clinking the
glass clinking the ice clinking the
glass clinking the ice clinking the glass for your gin and tonic the second
glass for your gin and tonic the second
glass for your gin and tonic the second that the shoes are in your shopping cart
that the shoes are in your shopping cart
that the shoes are in your shopping cart or the moment that you’re typing in your
or the moment that you’re typing in your
or the moment that you’re typing in your Facebook password if you have never sat
Facebook password if you have never sat
Facebook password if you have never sat with a feeling intentionally I’ll warn
with a feeling intentionally I’ll warn
with a feeling intentionally I’ll warn you it does not feel like rainbows and
you it does not feel like rainbows and
you it does not feel like rainbows and daisies my main emotion overwhelmed was
daisies my main emotion overwhelmed was
daisies my main emotion overwhelmed was the color red it was erasing in my head
the color red it was erasing in my head
the color red it was erasing in my head an uneasiness in my chest I wanting to
an uneasiness in my chest I wanting to
an uneasiness in my chest I wanting to crawl out in my skin every time I felt
crawl out in my skin every time I felt
crawl out in my skin every time I felt overwhelmed I dreamed of jumping in the
overwhelmed I dreamed of jumping in the
overwhelmed I dreamed of jumping in the car blasting the radio and driving far
car blasting the radio and driving far
car blasting the radio and driving far far away doesn’t sound terrible right
far away doesn’t sound terrible right
far away doesn’t sound terrible right uncomfortable but not horrible then the
uncomfortable but not horrible then the
uncomfortable but not horrible then the chatter and my brain started you should
chatter and my brain started you should
chatter and my brain started you should really take a break
really take a break
really take a break you would need that cookie it’ll taste
you would need that cookie it’ll taste
you would need that cookie it’ll taste so good you deserve this we all have
so good you deserve this we all have
so good you deserve this we all have that voice in our head sometimes
that voice in our head sometimes
that voice in our head sometimes I wish there was a mute button of mine
I wish there was a mute button of mine
I wish there was a mute button of mine this voice as logical as it sounds are
this voice as logical as it sounds are
this voice as logical as it sounds are just my emotions hacking my brain now
just my emotions hacking my brain now
just my emotions hacking my brain now they’ve identified the feeling and sat
they’ve identified the feeling and sat
they’ve identified the feeling and sat with the feeling what am I left with
with the feeling what am I left with
with the feeling what am I left with I’m left with not overeating and living
I’m left with not overeating and living
I’m left with not overeating and living a truly unbuffered life I now can feel
a truly unbuffered life I now can feel
a truly unbuffered life I now can feel any emotion and no it’ll be okay that
any emotion and no it’ll be okay that
any emotion and no it’ll be okay that doesn’t mean I’m in the clear though
doesn’t mean I’m in the clear though
doesn’t mean I’m in the clear though unfortunately every time I felt I had a
unfortunately every time I felt I had a
unfortunately every time I felt I had a handle on my emotions life would throw
handle on my emotions life would throw
handle on my emotions life would throw me a curveball like an eight-year-olds
me a curveball like an eight-year-olds
me a curveball like an eight-year-olds birthday party imagine a dozen
birthday party imagine a dozen
birthday party imagine a dozen eight-year-old girls running around
eight-year-old girls running around
eight-year-old girls running around chasing each other screaming at the
chasing each other screaming at the
chasing each other screaming at the bounce house parents giving pip pickup
bounce house parents giving pip pickup
bounce house parents giving pip pickup instructions
instructions
instructions presents everywhere the tables need to
presents everywhere the tables need to
presents everywhere the tables need to be set and the cake needs surgery after
be set and the cake needs surgery after
be set and the cake needs surgery after somebody took a finger sample then the
somebody took a finger sample then the
somebody took a finger sample then the injuries and the boo-boo started my
injuries and the boo-boo started my
injuries and the boo-boo started my typical response I’m not on call brush
typical response I’m not on call brush
typical response I’m not on call brush it off why would that be
it off why would that be
it off why would that be anxiety-producing
anxiety-producing
anxiety-producing you guessed it I gravitated to the chip
you guessed it I gravitated to the chip
you guessed it I gravitated to the chip Bowl looking back I should have been
Bowl looking back I should have been
Bowl looking back I should have been able to predict that one needless to say
able to predict that one needless to say
able to predict that one needless to say I engaged more with that chip bull than
I engaged more with that chip bull than
I engaged more with that chip bull than I did with my birthday girl hindsight is
I did with my birthday girl hindsight is
I did with my birthday girl hindsight is 20/20 so after the party I sat down and
20/20 so after the party I sat down and
20/20 so after the party I sat down and I described anxiety as tunnel vision
I described anxiety as tunnel vision
I described anxiety as tunnel vision lightheadedness dry mouth tightness in
lightheadedness dry mouth tightness in
lightheadedness dry mouth tightness in my throat palpitations in my heart what
my throat palpitations in my heart what
my throat palpitations in my heart what are flies in my stomach sweaty palms
are flies in my stomach sweaty palms
are flies in my stomach sweaty palms jello legs and a yellow colored heel
jello legs and a yellow colored heel
jello legs and a yellow colored heel banana yellow in fact I practice all my
banana yellow in fact I practice all my
banana yellow in fact I practice all my emotions and the steps that I mentioned
emotions and the steps that I mentioned
emotions and the steps that I mentioned earlier to feeling my feelings my new
earlier to feeling my feelings my new
earlier to feeling my feelings my new habits began to take hold like anything
habits began to take hold like anything
habits began to take hold like anything the more I practice the easier it gets
the more I practice the easier it gets
the more I practice the easier it gets you too can connect with others on a
you too can connect with others on a
you too can connect with others on a deeper level rather than having that
deeper level rather than having that
deeper level rather than having that glass of wine you can get more work done
glass of wine you can get more work done
glass of wine you can get more work done rather than feeling overwhelmed you can
rather than feeling overwhelmed you can
rather than feeling overwhelmed you can have more money in the bank rather than
have more money in the bank rather than
have more money in the bank rather than all that extra stuff you’re really
all that extra stuff you’re really
all that extra stuff you’re really didn’t need in the first place now I can
didn’t need in the first place now I can
didn’t need in the first place now I can say I enjoy the girls running around
say I enjoy the girls running around
say I enjoy the girls running around screaming I know I may feel anxious but
screaming I know I may feel anxious but
screaming I know I may feel anxious but I’d rather be with these precious girls
I’d rather be with these precious girls
I’d rather be with these precious girls and unbuffered than to miss out on the
and unbuffered than to miss out on the
and unbuffered than to miss out on the joys of being a parent I know without a
joys of being a parent I know without a
joys of being a parent I know without a doubt I will reach my healthy weight
doubt I will reach my healthy weight
doubt I will reach my healthy weight I’ve already lost 35 pounds and I feel
I’ve already lost 35 pounds and I feel
I’ve already lost 35 pounds and I feel great it’s not just about the weight
great it’s not just about the weight
great it’s not just about the weight though I can focus like I never could
though I can focus like I never could
though I can focus like I never could before I can control the thoughts I’m
before I can control the thoughts I’m
before I can control the thoughts I’m overwhelmed I need a cookie I shouldn’t
overwhelmed I need a cookie I shouldn’t
overwhelmed I need a cookie I shouldn’t have a cookie I really want a cookie
have a cookie I really want a cookie
have a cookie I really want a cookie I don’t need a cookie I get more work
I don’t need a cookie I get more work
I don’t need a cookie I get more work done at work rather than at home
done at work rather than at home
done at work rather than at home routinely taking back four to five hours
routinely taking back four to five hours
routinely taking back four to five hours of precious weekend time that I now get
of precious weekend time that I now get
of precious weekend time that I now get to spend with my family as you can see
to spend with my family as you can see
to spend with my family as you can see now that I can identify the feeling and
now that I can identify the feeling and
now that I can identify the feeling and sit with the feeling I can identify the
sit with the feeling I can identify the
sit with the feeling I can identify the thought causing that feeling I want to
thought causing that feeling I want to
thought causing that feeling I want to challenge you the next time you reach
challenge you the next time you reach
challenge you the next time you reach for the credit card cupcake candy crush
for the credit card cupcake candy crush
for the credit card cupcake candy crush or captain and coke you pause feel your
or captain and coke you pause feel your
or captain and coke you pause feel your feelings name your feelings explain your
feelings name your feelings explain your
feelings name your feelings explain your feelings sit with your feelings then
feelings sit with your feelings then
feelings sit with your feelings then identify the thought causing those
identify the thought causing those
identify the thought causing those feelings imagine the results you can
feelings imagine the results you can
feelings imagine the results you can have when you feel your feelings thank
have when you feel your feelings thank
have when you feel your feelings thank you
you
you [Applause]
[Applause]
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[Music]
[Music] you
you
you [Music]
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