you know there’s a story here my legs used to be like most of yours
my legs used to be like most of yours
my legs used to be like most of yours standing here on this prosthetic leg
standing here on this prosthetic leg
standing here on this prosthetic leg miracle of design and engineering though
miracle of design and engineering though
miracle of design and engineering though it may be and this other reconstructed
it may be and this other reconstructed
it may be and this other reconstructed leg which is the surgical miracle all
leg which is the surgical miracle all
leg which is the surgical miracle all its own I won’t tell you that I never
its own I won’t tell you that I never
its own I won’t tell you that I never missed the originals but I’ve gotten so
missed the originals but I’ve gotten so
missed the originals but I’ve gotten so much better at focusing on what’s now
much better at focusing on what’s now
much better at focusing on what’s now and what’s ahead that wishing things
and what’s ahead that wishing things
and what’s ahead that wishing things were the way they used to be happens
were the way they used to be happens
were the way they used to be happens less and less and I’m here to say you
less and less and I’m here to say you
less and less and I’m here to say you don’t have to get run over by a boat
don’t have to get run over by a boat
don’t have to get run over by a boat dance with the propeller wind up with
dance with the propeller wind up with
dance with the propeller wind up with three severely injured limbs including
three severely injured limbs including
three severely injured limbs including one that had to be amputated and years
one that had to be amputated and years
one that had to be amputated and years of recovery and adaptation ahead to gain
of recovery and adaptation ahead to gain
of recovery and adaptation ahead to gain that perspective you can have it for
that perspective you can have it for
that perspective you can have it for free and between those two options
free and between those two options
free and between those two options that’s also my recommendations
that’s also my recommendations
that’s also my recommendations you know this gap between what we want
you know this gap between what we want
you know this gap between what we want and what we get or what we used to have
and what we get or what we used to have
and what we get or what we used to have and we have now can be vast and we fill
and we have now can be vast and we fill
and we have now can be vast and we fill that gap with the yearning for what was
that gap with the yearning for what was
that gap with the yearning for what was or what could have been you know I
or what could have been you know I
or what could have been you know I compared this to a phantom limb
compared this to a phantom limb
compared this to a phantom limb sensation the feeling of actually
sensation the feeling of actually
sensation the feeling of actually believing you still have a limb that’s
believing you still have a limb that’s
believing you still have a limb that’s no longer part of you you know I
no longer part of you you know I
no longer part of you you know I distinctly remember days after my
distinctly remember days after my
distinctly remember days after my accident feeling this string stuck
accident feeling this string stuck
accident feeling this string stuck between my toes the sensation was so
between my toes the sensation was so
between my toes the sensation was so real even though those toes were no
real even though those toes were no
real even though those toes were no longer part of me and it was completely
longer part of me and it was completely
longer part of me and it was completely maddening and want to change something I
maddening and want to change something I
maddening and want to change something I couldn’t you know this natural desire we
couldn’t you know this natural desire we
couldn’t you know this natural desire we all have to change something we can’t
all have to change something we can’t
all have to change something we can’t that yearning for the unfulfilled wish
that yearning for the unfulfilled wish
that yearning for the unfulfilled wish or the thing we lost I can creep into
or the thing we lost I can creep into
or the thing we lost I can creep into our lives
our lives
our lives it can pervade our entire experience of
it can pervade our entire experience of
it can pervade our entire experience of being alive our sense of self our
being alive our sense of self our
being alive our sense of self our capacity to be here now I’m calling it
capacity to be here now I’m calling it
capacity to be here now I’m calling it phantom life that nagging dissonance
phantom life that nagging dissonance
phantom life that nagging dissonance between what was or should be and what
between what was or should be and what
between what was or should be and what is you know nothing in my first 36 years
is you know nothing in my first 36 years
is you know nothing in my first 36 years of life ever really confronted me with
of life ever really confronted me with
of life ever really confronted me with the reality all that demanding I’ve
the reality all that demanding I’ve
the reality all that demanding I’ve always been generally happy but like
always been generally happy but like
always been generally happy but like most people I’d find reason at times you
most people I’d find reason at times you
most people I’d find reason at times you know oddly wished life were different
know oddly wished life were different
know oddly wished life were different easier better
easier better
easier better I focus on little things that don’t
I focus on little things that don’t
I focus on little things that don’t really matter or I’d compare the real to
really matter or I’d compare the real to
really matter or I’d compare the real to the ideal or the perceived ideal you
the ideal or the perceived ideal you
the ideal or the perceived ideal you know it’s a habit of mine
know it’s a habit of mine
know it’s a habit of mine I think shared by most of us to
I think shared by most of us to
I think shared by most of us to reflexively compare our situation to a
reflexively compare our situation to a
reflexively compare our situation to a seemingly better one but then one
seemingly better one but then one
seemingly better one but then one weekend four years ago everything
weekend four years ago everything
weekend four years ago everything changed that boat ran over me and I
changed that boat ran over me and I
changed that boat ran over me and I almost died a freak accident sent me on
almost died a freak accident sent me on
almost died a freak accident sent me on a one-way journey to find a cure for
a one-way journey to find a cure for
a one-way journey to find a cure for phantom life it was a demand to give up
phantom life it was a demand to give up
phantom life it was a demand to give up attachment not only to a limb but to a
attachment not only to a limb but to a
attachment not only to a limb but to a fixed way of thinking about loss and
fixed way of thinking about loss and
fixed way of thinking about loss and change about the way things should be
change about the way things should be
change about the way things should be and you know the perspective I learned
and you know the perspective I learned
and you know the perspective I learned on that journey was essential it was all
on that journey was essential it was all
on that journey was essential it was all so exhilarating and I want to share a
so exhilarating and I want to share a
so exhilarating and I want to share a few lessons for to be exact that I
few lessons for to be exact that I
few lessons for to be exact that I learned from that unexpected journey so
learned from that unexpected journey so
learned from that unexpected journey so the first one has centered all around
the first one has centered all around
the first one has centered all around the brain you know the brain is
the brain you know the brain is
the brain you know the brain is magnificent and there are things we all
magnificent and there are things we all
magnificent and there are things we all know about the brain such as its high
know about the brain such as its high
know about the brain such as its high level of plasticity and the ability for
level of plasticity and the ability for
level of plasticity and the ability for our brains to learn and relearn over
our brains to learn and relearn over
our brains to learn and relearn over time you know what’s most interesting to
time you know what’s most interesting to
time you know what’s most interesting to me though is how our brains react to
me though is how our brains react to
me though is how our brains react to positive and negative events did you
positive and negative events did you
positive and negative events did you know our brains actually have a
know our brains actually have a
know our brains actually have a negativity bias it’s physiologically
negativity bias it’s physiologically
negativity bias it’s physiologically easier to be negative and when something
easier to be negative and when something
easier to be negative and when something does happen that creates negativity
does happen that creates negativity
does happen that creates negativity perceived or real it’s like a
perceived or real it’s like a
perceived or real it’s like a reinforcing of this natural wiring but
reinforcing of this natural wiring but
reinforcing of this natural wiring but here’s what I learned we can actually
here’s what I learned we can actually
here’s what I learned we can actually get better at this we can practice this
get better at this we can practice this
get better at this we can practice this it’s not just something that you have to
it’s not just something that you have to
it’s not just something that you have to say Wow why is that other person so much
say Wow why is that other person so much
say Wow why is that other person so much better at dealing with whatever life
better at dealing with whatever life
better at dealing with whatever life hands them but like all brain changes
hands them but like all brain changes
hands them but like all brain changes frequent and repetitive actions are key
frequent and repetitive actions are key
frequent and repetitive actions are key to molding and reinforcing neural
to molding and reinforcing neural
to molding and reinforcing neural connections so said simply thinking more
connections so said simply thinking more
connections so said simply thinking more positive thoughts is like daily exercise
positive thoughts is like daily exercise
positive thoughts is like daily exercise for your brain just like other exercise
for your brain just like other exercise
for your brain just like other exercise strengthens your body you know this next
strengthens your body you know this next
strengthens your body you know this next lesson centers around this idea of an
lesson centers around this idea of an
lesson centers around this idea of an anchor you know what anchor means a few
anchor you know what anchor means a few
anchor you know what anchor means a few things to me first of all there was
things to me first of all there was
things to me first of all there was literally involved an anchor with my
literally involved an anchor with my
literally involved an anchor with my boating accident that day an anchor is
boating accident that day an anchor is
boating accident that day an anchor is also it grounds us and for me that’s
also it grounds us and for me that’s
also it grounds us and for me that’s always been my friends and my family my
always been my friends and my family my
always been my friends and my family my roots but the anchor I want to talk
roots but the anchor I want to talk
roots but the anchor I want to talk about
about
about tonight is what we anchor our
tonight is what we anchor our
tonight is what we anchor our perspectives to you know we respond
perspectives to you know we respond
perspectives to you know we respond differently to other people’s struggles
differently to other people’s struggles
differently to other people’s struggles than we do to our own for ourselves we
than we do to our own for ourselves we
than we do to our own for ourselves we replay we wallow we ruminate we wish
replay we wallow we ruminate we wish
replay we wallow we ruminate we wish things were different we scratch the
things were different we scratch the
things were different we scratch the Fantom life but we often use the dire
Fantom life but we often use the dire
Fantom life but we often use the dire circumstances of other people to
circumstances of other people to
circumstances of other people to diminish our own problems you know a
diminish our own problems you know a
diminish our own problems you know a common response is wow that puts things
common response is wow that puts things
common response is wow that puts things in perspective it’s like a pop of light
in perspective it’s like a pop of light
in perspective it’s like a pop of light where the issue of the day seems
where the issue of the day seems
where the issue of the day seems meaningless in the wake of someone
meaningless in the wake of someone
meaningless in the wake of someone else’s horrific problem then what do we
else’s horrific problem then what do we
else’s horrific problem then what do we do ten minutes later we move on to
do ten minutes later we move on to
do ten minutes later we move on to worrying about you know whether we have
worrying about you know whether we have
worrying about you know whether we have something planned for dinner or who just
something planned for dinner or who just
something planned for dinner or who just texted us the Wow that puts things in
texted us the Wow that puts things in
texted us the Wow that puts things in perspective moment it’s like the
perspective moment it’s like the
perspective moment it’s like the original snapchat for our brains see it
original snapchat for our brains see it
original snapchat for our brains see it and it’s gone
and it’s gone
and it’s gone you know recovery from any trauma
you know recovery from any trauma
you know recovery from any trauma illness death divorce job loss whatever
illness death divorce job loss whatever
illness death divorce job loss whatever it is we’re not prepared to handle is
it is we’re not prepared to handle is
it is we’re not prepared to handle is hard and I’d venture to say most of us
hard and I’d venture to say most of us
hard and I’d venture to say most of us don’t want to stay depressed or angry or
don’t want to stay depressed or angry or
don’t want to stay depressed or angry or bitter I know I didn’t so I found I had
bitter I know I didn’t so I found I had
bitter I know I didn’t so I found I had to seek out those snapchat moments and
to seek out those snapchat moments and
to seek out those snapchat moments and make them last I had to start looking
make them last I had to start looking
make them last I had to start looking for perspective in a sustainable way it
for perspective in a sustainable way it
for perspective in a sustainable way it wasn’t enough to wait for those Wow that
wasn’t enough to wait for those Wow that
wasn’t enough to wait for those Wow that puts things in perspective trains to
puts things in perspective trains to
puts things in perspective trains to arrive at the station they didn’t come
arrive at the station they didn’t come
arrive at the station they didn’t come often enough and they never took me to a
often enough and they never took me to a
often enough and they never took me to a whole new place but I did find that I
whole new place but I did find that I
whole new place but I did find that I actually could make perspective last
actually could make perspective last
actually could make perspective last just by simply focusing on it to do this
just by simply focusing on it to do this
just by simply focusing on it to do this I would ask myself frequently
I would ask myself frequently
I would ask myself frequently obsessively a series of questions things
obsessively a series of questions things
obsessively a series of questions things like how could this situation have been
like how could this situation have been
like how could this situation have been worse you know that boat could have hit
worse you know that boat could have hit
worse you know that boat could have hit my head or my vital organs it’s amazing
my head or my vital organs it’s amazing
my head or my vital organs it’s amazing that it didn’t my kids could have been
that it didn’t my kids could have been
that it didn’t my kids could have been there to witness it thankfully they
there to witness it thankfully they
there to witness it thankfully they weren’t you know when we say it could be
weren’t you know when we say it could be
weren’t you know when we say it could be so much worse we usually say that about
so much worse we usually say that about
so much worse we usually say that about someone else’s problem but what I found
someone else’s problem but what I found
someone else’s problem but what I found is when you’re struggling when you’re
is when you’re struggling when you’re
is when you’re struggling when you’re really struggling kind of at the end of
really struggling kind of at the end of
really struggling kind of at the end of that proverbial rope ask yourself what
that proverbial rope ask yourself what
that proverbial rope ask yourself what are five ways it could be worse commit
are five ways it could be worse commit
are five ways it could be worse commit to it say it out loud write it down
to it say it out loud write it down
to it say it out loud write it down whatever you’ll be amazed at how it can
whatever you’ll be amazed at how it can
whatever you’ll be amazed at how it can change your anchor point I’d also ask
change your anchor point I’d also ask
change your anchor point I’d also ask myself what’s the hidden advantage in
myself what’s the hidden advantage in
myself what’s the hidden advantage in this seemingly terrible situation you
this seemingly terrible situation you
this seemingly terrible situation you know many days I honestly couldn’t find
know many days I honestly couldn’t find
know many days I honestly couldn’t find an answer to the
an answer to the
an answer to the I was the mother of a two-year-old and a
I was the mother of a two-year-old and a
I was the mother of a two-year-old and a four-year-old crawling upstairs we’re
four-year-old crawling upstairs we’re
four-year-old crawling upstairs we’re stuck in a wheelchair my career was on
stuck in a wheelchair my career was on
stuck in a wheelchair my career was on hold my husband was instead a caregiver
hold my husband was instead a caregiver
hold my husband was instead a caregiver I couldn’t do one single thing alone but
I couldn’t do one single thing alone but
I couldn’t do one single thing alone but some days I’d find an answer I could
some days I’d find an answer I could
some days I’d find an answer I could make myself believe maybe I’ll write a
make myself believe maybe I’ll write a
make myself believe maybe I’ll write a book and go on tour and inspire Millions
book and go on tour and inspire Millions
book and go on tour and inspire Millions and work one day a month you know sounds
and work one day a month you know sounds
and work one day a month you know sounds pretty good um
pretty good um
pretty good um maybe my kids will be more accepting or
maybe my kids will be more accepting or
maybe my kids will be more accepting or empathetic I remember during this era my
empathetic I remember during this era my
empathetic I remember during this era my son would tell me that you know mom I’m
son would tell me that you know mom I’m
son would tell me that you know mom I’m gonna come live with you when you’re
gonna come live with you when you’re
gonna come live with you when you’re resting your legs and he’d tell me he’d
resting your legs and he’d tell me he’d
resting your legs and he’d tell me he’d bring me one of his stuffed animals this
bring me one of his stuffed animals this
bring me one of his stuffed animals this is usually how that would end of course
is usually how that would end of course
is usually how that would end of course I didn’t have a leg on and then I would
I didn’t have a leg on and then I would
I didn’t have a leg on and then I would also notice his high empathy as he would
also notice his high empathy as he would
also notice his high empathy as he would care for one of our special friends mr.
care for one of our special friends mr.
care for one of our special friends mr. caterpillar who also happened to lose a
caterpillar who also happened to lose a
caterpillar who also happened to lose a leg
leg
leg I remember my two-year-old daughter at
I remember my two-year-old daughter at
I remember my two-year-old daughter at this phase coming down wearing this
this phase coming down wearing this
this phase coming down wearing this single leg warmer and I asked her what
single leg warmer and I asked her what
single leg warmer and I asked her what is that and she said well that’s my
is that and she said well that’s my
is that and she said well that’s my prosthetic leg mamma solidarity ed – but
prosthetic leg mamma solidarity ed – but
prosthetic leg mamma solidarity ed – but what I really learned was that it didn’t
what I really learned was that it didn’t
what I really learned was that it didn’t matter if I found the hidden advantage
matter if I found the hidden advantage
matter if I found the hidden advantage just the practice of regularly asking
just the practice of regularly asking
just the practice of regularly asking the question changed my perspective no
the question changed my perspective no
the question changed my perspective no another tactic I would use was to think
another tactic I would use was to think
another tactic I would use was to think outside of myself the broader lens a
outside of myself the broader lens a
outside of myself the broader lens a third person point of view I would use
third person point of view I would use
third person point of view I would use this broader lens to reset my anchor to
this broader lens to reset my anchor to
this broader lens to reset my anchor to the past for instance I would make
the past for instance I would make
the past for instance I would make myself compare day 72 of my recovery to
myself compare day 72 of my recovery to
myself compare day 72 of my recovery to day 7 of my recovery versus comparing
day 7 of my recovery versus comparing
day 7 of my recovery versus comparing day 72 to my pre-accident life you know
day 72 to my pre-accident life you know
day 72 to my pre-accident life you know bearing weight on a new prosthetic leg
bearing weight on a new prosthetic leg
bearing weight on a new prosthetic leg and taking those first steps learning to
and taking those first steps learning to
and taking those first steps learning to walk again
walk again
walk again see pretty miraculous compared to you
see pretty miraculous compared to you
see pretty miraculous compared to you know not being able to roll over in bed
know not being able to roll over in bed
know not being able to roll over in bed or put in your own ponytail we need to
or put in your own ponytail we need to
or put in your own ponytail we need to choose our mental competition wisely we
choose our mental competition wisely we
choose our mental competition wisely we get to choose any point you want so I
get to choose any point you want so I
get to choose any point you want so I learned that the power of perspective
learned that the power of perspective
learned that the power of perspective and it is so powerful as we all know but
and it is so powerful as we all know but
and it is so powerful as we all know but it’s short-term unless you find ways to
it’s short-term unless you find ways to
it’s short-term unless you find ways to make it last
make it last
you know this next lesson centers around
you know this next lesson centers around the idea of attachment okay so first of
the idea of attachment okay so first of
the idea of attachment okay so first of all Eastern philosophy offers us a lot
all Eastern philosophy offers us a lot
all Eastern philosophy offers us a lot of wisdom about this idea of
of wisdom about this idea of
of wisdom about this idea of non-attachment basically the idea is you
non-attachment basically the idea is you
non-attachment basically the idea is you know desire suffering attachment is the
know desire suffering attachment is the
know desire suffering attachment is the root of that desire and thus the root of
root of that desire and thus the root of
root of that desire and thus the root of all of our problems this resonates with
all of our problems this resonates with
all of our problems this resonates with my idea of phantom life what we want
my idea of phantom life what we want
my idea of phantom life what we want versus what we get but you know I’m
versus what we get but you know I’m
versus what we get but you know I’m Western through and through I’m a
Western through and through I’m a
Western through and through I’m a small-town girl from Clyde Kansas in a
small-town girl from Clyde Kansas in a
small-town girl from Clyde Kansas in a row no matter how many links people sent
row no matter how many links people sent
row no matter how many links people sent me on check out this idea of
me on check out this idea of
me on check out this idea of non-attachment I didn’t know what to do
non-attachment I didn’t know what to do
non-attachment I didn’t know what to do with it it just wasn’t that useful for
with it it just wasn’t that useful for
with it it just wasn’t that useful for me but I did find something useful on my
me but I did find something useful on my
me but I did find something useful on my journey in this idea of a reattachment
journey in this idea of a reattachment
journey in this idea of a reattachment okay so my right leg was severely
okay so my right leg was severely
okay so my right leg was severely injured it was nearly amputated I had
injured it was nearly amputated I had
injured it was nearly amputated I had lost about 8 inches of my fibula which
lost about 8 inches of my fibula which
lost about 8 inches of my fibula which is your outside lower leg bum as well as
is your outside lower leg bum as well as
is your outside lower leg bum as well as key tendons and muscles the tendon loss
key tendons and muscles the tendon loss
key tendons and muscles the tendon loss was the most debilitating because I
was the most debilitating because I
was the most debilitating because I couldn’t walk without this huge clunky
couldn’t walk without this huge clunky
couldn’t walk without this huge clunky uncomfortable ugly brace so I decided to
uncomfortable ugly brace so I decided to
uncomfortable ugly brace so I decided to have a tendon transfer surgery my
have a tendon transfer surgery my
have a tendon transfer surgery my surgeon reattached that inter tendon I
surgeon reattached that inter tendon I
surgeon reattached that inter tendon I still had to the center top of my foot
still had to the center top of my foot
still had to the center top of my foot you know this was extremely successful
you know this was extremely successful
you know this was extremely successful but not immediately you know after that
but not immediately you know after that
but not immediately you know after that surgery I really learned about this idea
surgery I really learned about this idea
surgery I really learned about this idea of reattachment for over three decades
of reattachment for over three decades
of reattachment for over three decades my brain had believed that that inter
my brain had believed that that inter
my brain had believed that that inter tendon was used to move my foot inward
tendon was used to move my foot inward
tendon was used to move my foot inward and downward but now it had to
and downward but now it had to
and downward but now it had to compensate it had to do more it had to
compensate it had to do more it had to
compensate it had to do more it had to make up for what I was missing so post
make up for what I was missing so post
make up for what I was missing so post surgery for instance if I wanted to move
surgery for instance if I wanted to move
surgery for instance if I wanted to move my foot up I had to concentrate and tell
my foot up I had to concentrate and tell
my foot up I had to concentrate and tell my brain move foot in you know over time
my brain move foot in you know over time
my brain move foot in you know over time and lots of move foot movement my brain
and lots of move foot movement my brain
and lots of move foot movement my brain learned this new pathway but what it
learned this new pathway but what it
learned this new pathway but what it really started to learn was maybe
really started to learn was maybe
really started to learn was maybe there’s something bigger here maybe
there’s something bigger here maybe
there’s something bigger here maybe there’s a bigger metaphor that it’s not
there’s a bigger metaphor that it’s not
there’s a bigger metaphor that it’s not just all about tendons and muscles and
just all about tendons and muscles and
just all about tendons and muscles and surgeries maybe there’s something about
surgeries maybe there’s something about
surgeries maybe there’s something about our lives
our lives
our lives so I started to think maybe we can
so I started to think maybe we can
so I started to think maybe we can actually detach from our old life the
actually detach from our old life the
actually detach from our old life the one that we thought had to turn out a
one that we thought had to turn out a
one that we thought had to turn out a certain way and reattach to a new one
certain way and reattach to a new one
certain way and reattach to a new one and maybe one that’s full of you know
and maybe one that’s full of you know
and maybe one that’s full of you know more
more
more ability than we could have ever imagined
ability than we could have ever imagined
ability than we could have ever imagined so my last lesson is all about a
so my last lesson is all about a
so my last lesson is all about a swimsuit you know about a year after my
swimsuit you know about a year after my
swimsuit you know about a year after my accident we took a family vacation to
accident we took a family vacation to
accident we took a family vacation to the beach there were lots of other
the beach there were lots of other
the beach there were lots of other families there and I’m guessing you know
families there and I’m guessing you know
families there and I’m guessing you know some of the moms might have been
some of the moms might have been
some of the moms might have been thinking things that I might have
thinking things that I might have
thinking things that I might have ordinarily been thinking like this
ordinarily been thinking like this
ordinarily been thinking like this swimsuit is terrible why do we have to
swimsuit is terrible why do we have to
swimsuit is terrible why do we have to wear these things could I be any fatter
wear these things could I be any fatter
wear these things could I be any fatter or pastier are my kids safe no I know
or pastier are my kids safe no I know
or pastier are my kids safe no I know all these feelings well the morning of
all these feelings well the morning of
all these feelings well the morning of my accident a near supermodel friend
my accident a near supermodel friend
my accident a near supermodel friend took this photo of my husband and me and
took this photo of my husband and me and
took this photo of my husband and me and I distinctly remember thinking okay
I distinctly remember thinking okay
I distinctly remember thinking okay let’s not document this please do not
let’s not document this please do not
let’s not document this please do not put this on social media but you know if
put this on social media but you know if
put this on social media but you know if I had only known that was the most
I had only known that was the most
I had only known that was the most perfect my body would ever be for the
perfect my body would ever be for the
perfect my body would ever be for the rest of my life so here I was on that
rest of my life so here I was on that
rest of my life so here I was on that beach year later and I’ll tell you my
beach year later and I’ll tell you my
beach year later and I’ll tell you my concerns were very different I was
concerns were very different I was
concerns were very different I was mainly just thinking about this
mainly just thinking about this
mainly just thinking about this waterproof foot I was carrying in my
waterproof foot I was carrying in my
waterproof foot I was carrying in my beach bag my normal prosthetic foot is
beach bag my normal prosthetic foot is
beach bag my normal prosthetic foot is pretty cool I mean it can do things like
pretty cool I mean it can do things like
pretty cool I mean it can do things like since terrain so if I’m going uphill or
since terrain so if I’m going uphill or
since terrain so if I’m going uphill or downhill it like mimics a natural ankle
downhill it like mimics a natural ankle
downhill it like mimics a natural ankle movement so you know all that requires
movement so you know all that requires
movement so you know all that requires electronics so I plug it in like a cell
electronics so I plug it in like a cell
electronics so I plug it in like a cell phone every night so I need this
phone every night so I need this
phone every night so I need this separate waterproof foot for water
separate waterproof foot for water
separate waterproof foot for water activities and sitting there that day on
activities and sitting there that day on
activities and sitting there that day on that beach I took footbe out of my beach
that beach I took footbe out of my beach
that beach I took footbe out of my beach bag and I replaced foot a with an Allen
bag and I replaced foot a with an Allen
bag and I replaced foot a with an Allen wrench and as I sat there during the
wrench and as I sat there during the
wrench and as I sat there during the transfer by the way I remember having
transfer by the way I remember having
transfer by the way I remember having this really weird thought as I looked at
this really weird thought as I looked at
this really weird thought as I looked at my feet I thought I actually do have two
my feet I thought I actually do have two
my feet I thought I actually do have two left feet and I took this photo and I
left feet and I took this photo and I
left feet and I took this photo and I posted it you know so excited to be on
posted it you know so excited to be on
posted it you know so excited to be on the beach and so many people actually
the beach and so many people actually
the beach and so many people actually commented about my toenail polish and I
commented about my toenail polish and I
commented about my toenail polish and I thought you know that was the hidden
thought you know that was the hidden
thought you know that was the hidden advantage I haven’t hadn’t thought of
advantage I haven’t hadn’t thought of
advantage I haven’t hadn’t thought of yet that I didn’t have to go and you
yet that I didn’t have to go and you
yet that I didn’t have to go and you know get a fancy pedicure because before
know get a fancy pedicure because before
know get a fancy pedicure because before I put it in my beach bag I just set it
I put it in my beach bag I just set it
I put it in my beach bag I just set it on the table it’s like the perfect angle
on the table it’s like the perfect angle
on the table it’s like the perfect angle to paint your toenails it’s worked out
to paint your toenails it’s worked out
to paint your toenails it’s worked out great so I noted that in my hidden
great so I noted that in my hidden
great so I noted that in my hidden advantage journal that day but the
advantage journal that day but the
advantage journal that day but the biggest thing I learned through this
biggest thing I learned through this
biggest thing I learned through this whole era was that you really have to
whole era was that you really have to
whole era was that you really have to think about perspective and as I sat
think about perspective and as I sat
think about perspective and as I sat there on the beach thinking about it it
there on the beach thinking about it it
there on the beach thinking about it it lasted for a while but honestly that day
lasted for a while but honestly that day
lasted for a while but honestly that day negativity started to take over that
negativity started to take over that
negativity started to take over that waterproof foot was really just a piece
waterproof foot was really just a piece
waterproof foot was really just a piece of wood carved to look like a foot
of wood carved to look like a foot
of wood carved to look like a foot tricky enough to walk on alone let alone
tricky enough to walk on alone let alone
tricky enough to walk on alone let alone you know traverse a football field full
you know traverse a football field full
you know traverse a football field full of sand or play with my kids so we got
of sand or play with my kids so we got
of sand or play with my kids so we got back to the hotel i hobbled into the
back to the hotel i hobbled into the
back to the hotel i hobbled into the room in pain and honestly I just wanted
room in pain and honestly I just wanted
room in pain and honestly I just wanted to bawl my eyes out I couldn’t stop
to bawl my eyes out I couldn’t stop
to bawl my eyes out I couldn’t stop thinking of what that trip would have
thinking of what that trip would have
thinking of what that trip would have been like without this problem I
been like without this problem I
been like without this problem I couldn’t stop thinking about the other
couldn’t stop thinking about the other
couldn’t stop thinking about the other people at the beach there working legs
people at the beach there working legs
people at the beach there working legs and feet
and feet
and feet another wimey moment had arrived so I
another wimey moment had arrived so I
another wimey moment had arrived so I locked myself in the bathroom to shower
locked myself in the bathroom to shower
locked myself in the bathroom to shower and standing there I willed myself into
and standing there I willed myself into
and standing there I willed myself into a new perspective I literally said out
a new perspective I literally said out
a new perspective I literally said out loud things like I’m lucky to even be
loud things like I’m lucky to even be
loud things like I’m lucky to even be here so many people can’t travel for so
here so many people can’t travel for so
here so many people can’t travel for so many different reasons if anyone had
many different reasons if anyone had
many different reasons if anyone had told me six months ago I’d walk on a
told me six months ago I’d walk on a
told me six months ago I’d walk on a beach today I would have been elated
beach today I would have been elated
beach today I would have been elated standing here on this waterproof foot
standing here on this waterproof foot
standing here on this waterproof foot well at least I’m standing up in the
well at least I’m standing up in the
well at least I’m standing up in the shower which I haven’t done in a year
shower which I haven’t done in a year
shower which I haven’t done in a year that feels pretty fantastic now this
that feels pretty fantastic now this
that feels pretty fantastic now this isn’t just Pollyanna stuff by forcing
isn’t just Pollyanna stuff by forcing
isn’t just Pollyanna stuff by forcing myself just for a few minutes to flip my
myself just for a few minutes to flip my
myself just for a few minutes to flip my thinking I could feel my energy it was
thinking I could feel my energy it was
thinking I could feel my energy it was flowing down a different Road and what
flowing down a different Road and what
flowing down a different Road and what did it take didn’t cost me any money I
did it take didn’t cost me any money I
did it take didn’t cost me any money I didn’t have to visit a doctor or buy a
didn’t have to visit a doctor or buy a
didn’t have to visit a doctor or buy a book I created my own little chemical
book I created my own little chemical
book I created my own little chemical reaction in my brain by leveraging the
reaction in my brain by leveraging the
reaction in my brain by leveraging the free and abundant resource of
free and abundant resource of
free and abundant resource of perspective catalyzed by a new set of
perspective catalyzed by a new set of
perspective catalyzed by a new set of comparison
comparison
comparison and I learned something important that
and I learned something important that
and I learned something important that day but actively forcing a new
day but actively forcing a new
day but actively forcing a new perspective on yourself is the cheapest
perspective on yourself is the cheapest
perspective on yourself is the cheapest and easiest way to change how you feel
and easiest way to change how you feel
and easiest way to change how you feel about your situation so here’s where I
about your situation so here’s where I
about your situation so here’s where I tell you you can start rewiring your
tell you you can start rewiring your
tell you you can start rewiring your brain with this kind of perspective
brain with this kind of perspective
brain with this kind of perspective training right now you know it’s so
training right now you know it’s so
training right now you know it’s so simple if you don’t have to most people
simple if you don’t have to most people
simple if you don’t have to most people probably won’t even bother to try it but
probably won’t even bother to try it but
probably won’t even bother to try it but if you knew the practicing perspective
if you knew the practicing perspective
if you knew the practicing perspective training could better prepare you to
training could better prepare you to
training could better prepare you to handle any kind of challenge or struggle
handle any kind of challenge or struggle
handle any kind of challenge or struggle would you do it would you give yourself
would you do it would you give yourself
would you do it would you give yourself the equivalent of a dopamine shot every
the equivalent of a dopamine shot every
the equivalent of a dopamine shot every day but one that’s free painless organic
day but one that’s free painless organic
day but one that’s free painless organic and on your own time would you spend
and on your own time would you spend
and on your own time would you spend just a few minutes reframing your daily
just a few minutes reframing your daily
just a few minutes reframing your daily problems – why are those pathways for
problems – why are those pathways for
problems – why are those pathways for the bigger problems to come you know
the bigger problems to come you know
the bigger problems to come you know perspective is essential we all know
perspective is essential we all know
perspective is essential we all know it’s part of the human condition to face
it’s part of the human condition to face
it’s part of the human condition to face change and struggle and challenge you
change and struggle and challenge you
change and struggle and challenge you know I always say you never meet anybody
know I always say you never meet anybody
know I always say you never meet anybody who turns 90 and says nothing ever
who turns 90 and says nothing ever
who turns 90 and says nothing ever happened in my life and we need to think
happened in my life and we need to think
happened in my life and we need to think about perspective for what it is it’s
about perspective for what it is it’s
about perspective for what it is it’s free abundant it does not discriminate
free abundant it does not discriminate
free abundant it does not discriminate it’s like air it’s all around us it’s
it’s like air it’s all around us it’s
it’s like air it’s all around us it’s life-giving we don’t notice that when
life-giving we don’t notice that when
life-giving we don’t notice that when it’s good but when it’s bad or when we
it’s good but when it’s bad or when we
it’s good but when it’s bad or when we run out of it we can notice nothing else
run out of it we can notice nothing else
run out of it we can notice nothing else and what do we do when it’s water
and what do we do when it’s water
and what do we do when it’s water instead of air even as we’re losing
instead of air even as we’re losing
instead of air even as we’re losing consciousness close to death we
consciousness close to death we
consciousness close to death we struggled a surface to breathe to save
struggled a surface to breathe to save
struggled a surface to breathe to save ourselves you know my crazy life
ourselves you know my crazy life
ourselves you know my crazy life experience along at that of other trauma
experience along at that of other trauma
experience along at that of other trauma survivors forces this kind of brain
survivors forces this kind of brain
survivors forces this kind of brain training it’s do or die time literally
training it’s do or die time literally
training it’s do or die time literally you know multiple studies have shown
you know multiple studies have shown
you know multiple studies have shown that trauma survivors are happier on
that trauma survivors are happier on
that trauma survivors are happier on average than lottery winners this makes
average than lottery winners this makes
average than lottery winners this makes sense to me because survivors have been
sense to me because survivors have been
sense to me because survivors have been forced to learn these lessons it’s like
forced to learn these lessons it’s like
forced to learn these lessons it’s like you’re awarded a free pair of life
you’re awarded a free pair of life
you’re awarded a free pair of life goggles if you make it back to the
goggles if you make it back to the
goggles if you make it back to the living but anyone living can wear them
living but anyone living can wear them
living but anyone living can wear them you’re wearing them now you just have to
you’re wearing them now you just have to
you’re wearing them now you just have to start asking the right questions
start asking the right questions
start asking the right questions and see how the view and you begin to
and see how the view and you begin to
and see how the view and you begin to change
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