it’s October last year I was in the receiving Hall of the Mets Academy
receiving Hall of the Mets Academy
receiving Hall of the Mets Academy Airport and I just loved off four huge
Airport and I just loved off four huge
Airport and I just loved off four huge bags from one of two baggage claims just
bags from one of two baggage claims just
bags from one of two baggage claims just minutes before I’m standing in this
minutes before I’m standing in this
minutes before I’m standing in this receiving Hall and it helps me like one
receiving Hall and it helps me like one
receiving Hall and it helps me like one big pet in my stomach that I still don’t
big pet in my stomach that I still don’t
big pet in my stomach that I still don’t have an Italian SIM card and I’ve no way
have an Italian SIM card and I’ve no way
have an Italian SIM card and I’ve no way of contacting my professor who was
of contacting my professor who was
of contacting my professor who was supposed to pick me up
supposed to pick me up
supposed to pick me up and then acts like ten minutes I’m
and then acts like ten minutes I’m
and then acts like ten minutes I’m usually a really type-a person usually
usually a really type-a person usually
usually a really type-a person usually very organized so this is something
very organized so this is something
very organized so this is something really strange for me to do but I
really strange for me to do but I
really strange for me to do but I immediately went into a problem-solving
immediately went into a problem-solving
immediately went into a problem-solving mode I opened my purse found a couple of
mode I opened my purse found a couple of
mode I opened my purse found a couple of euros walked over to the nearest phone
euros walked over to the nearest phone
euros walked over to the nearest phone booth and punched in the ten digits it
booth and punched in the ten digits it
booth and punched in the ten digits it rang for a couple of seconds and then
rang for a couple of seconds and then
rang for a couple of seconds and then she picked up thankfully but she
she picked up thankfully but she
she picked up thankfully but she couldn’t hear me on the other end so
couldn’t hear me on the other end so
couldn’t hear me on the other end so basically after a few moments she said
basically after a few moments she said
basically after a few moments she said Tom did this is you I should be the
Tom did this is you I should be the
Tom did this is you I should be the airport in the next 15 minutes please
airport in the next 15 minutes please
airport in the next 15 minutes please wait for me outside so huge sigh of
wait for me outside so huge sigh of
wait for me outside so huge sigh of relief was really grateful about
relief was really grateful about
relief was really grateful about whatever contingency plan worked
whatever contingency plan worked
whatever contingency plan worked I stopped outside and so began that my
I stopped outside and so began that my
I stopped outside and so began that my journey in form a mid-sized city in
journey in form a mid-sized city in
journey in form a mid-sized city in California to a really small town I
California to a really small town I
California to a really small town I called the vendee in Calabria Italy okay
called the vendee in Calabria Italy okay
called the vendee in Calabria Italy okay so I have to visualize my pot here like
so I have to visualize my pot here like
so I have to visualize my pot here like where I am so excited to American
where I am so excited to American
where I am so excited to American Stockholm is Calabria is the toe Italy
Stockholm is Calabria is the toe Italy
Stockholm is Calabria is the toe Italy I’m kind of in that little arch spot and
I’m kind of in that little arch spot and
I’m kind of in that little arch spot and I work out any message that I come up
I work out any message that I come up
I work out any message that I come up yeah so that’s kind of where I’m at and
yeah so that’s kind of where I’m at and
yeah so that’s kind of where I’m at and that helps them visualize where I am but
that helps them visualize where I am but
that helps them visualize where I am but when I got there I got to really you
when I got there I got to really you
when I got there I got to really you know fast questions from everyone that I
know fast questions from everyone that I
know fast questions from everyone that I met it was who are you and what are you
met it was who are you and what are you
met it was who are you and what are you doing in Calabria okay which I’m pretty
doing in Calabria okay which I’m pretty
doing in Calabria okay which I’m pretty sure everyone here is thinking as well
sure everyone here is thinking as well
sure everyone here is thinking as well so here’s my basic answer
so here’s my basic answer
so here’s my basic answer also the dancer back home for 15 years I
also the dancer back home for 15 years I
also the dancer back home for 15 years I know what it’s like to repeat a motion
know what it’s like to repeat a motion
know what it’s like to repeat a motion or a phrase over and over again until it
or a phrase over and over again until it
or a phrase over and over again until it becomes muscle memory so here’s my
becomes muscle memory so here’s my
becomes muscle memory so here’s my muscle memory answer so in the first
muscle memory answer so in the first
muscle memory answer so in the first generation Indian American I recently
generation Indian American I recently
generation Indian American I recently graduated from Stanford University in
graduated from Stanford University in
graduated from Stanford University in human biology and I’m here in Italy to
human biology and I’m here in Italy to
human biology and I’m here in Italy to study gender-based violence in Calabria
study gender-based violence in Calabria
study gender-based violence in Calabria on a Fulbright scholarship okay so my
on a Fulbright scholarship okay so my
on a Fulbright scholarship okay so my favorite scholarship really is a
favorite scholarship really is a
favorite scholarship really is a research project for nine months where I
research project for nine months where I
research project for nine months where I get to kind of research whatever topic
get to kind of research whatever topic
get to kind of research whatever topic is really interesting to me and when I
is really interesting to me and when I
is really interesting to me and when I was back in California one of the issues
was back in California one of the issues
was back in California one of the issues that I cared about was gender-based
that I cared about was gender-based
that I cared about was gender-based violence and I wanted to look at
violence and I wanted to look at
violence and I wanted to look at Jennifer’s violence in calabria from a
Jennifer’s violence in calabria from a
Jennifer’s violence in calabria from a systems perspective okay
systems perspective okay
systems perspective okay so my research really is a mixed-methods
so my research really is a mixed-methods
so my research really is a mixed-methods analysis it’s both qualitative and
analysis it’s both qualitative and
analysis it’s both qualitative and quantitative it consists of interviews
quantitative it consists of interviews
quantitative it consists of interviews focus groups with a really wide range of
focus groups with a really wide range of
focus groups with a really wide range of people from staff of anti violence
people from staff of anti violence
people from staff of anti violence centers in their region founders of
centers in their region founders of
centers in their region founders of these centers psychologists lawyers and
these centers psychologists lawyers and
these centers psychologists lawyers and academics back at the University and
academics back at the University and
academics back at the University and it’s multi-dimensional and I hope that
it’s multi-dimensional and I hope that
it’s multi-dimensional and I hope that it goes in-depth enough but also is a
it goes in-depth enough but also is a
it goes in-depth enough but also is a broad enough look at this region where
broad enough look at this region where
broad enough look at this region where data and this issue really is lacking
data and this issue really is lacking
data and this issue really is lacking but I got there I got to Calabria and
but I got there I got to Calabria and
but I got there I got to Calabria and within the first few weeks I realized
within the first few weeks I realized
within the first few weeks I realized really quickly that for the first time
really quickly that for the first time
really quickly that for the first time in my 22 years I really have no one
in my 22 years I really have no one
in my 22 years I really have no one watching me I have no one to be
watching me I have no one to be
watching me I have no one to be accountable to you know when you’re in
accountable to you know when you’re in
accountable to you know when you’re in public school until you know throughout
public school until you know throughout
public school until you know throughout high school you’re living with your
high school you’re living with your
high school you’re living with your parents you know you go to school you
parents you know you go to school you
parents you know you go to school you report to your teachers you come back
report to your teachers you come back
report to your teachers you come back home you report to your parents and then
home you report to your parents and then
home you report to your parents and then you’re in college and you’re reporting
you’re in college and you’re reporting
you’re in college and you’re reporting to your peers your roommates your
to your peers your roommates your
to your peers your roommates your professors you’re submitting assignments
professors you’re submitting assignments
professors you’re submitting assignments but there’s only someone in society
but there’s only someone in society
but there’s only someone in society that’s looking at you and kind of seeing
that’s looking at you and kind of seeing
that’s looking at you and kind of seeing what your actions are and that the
what your actions are and that the
what your actions are and that the consequences are right but for the first
consequences are right but for the first
consequences are right but for the first time on this scholarship I had realized
time on this scholarship I had realized
time on this scholarship I had realized that no one is really watching me so Who
that no one is really watching me so Who
that no one is really watching me so Who am I
am I
am I really Who am I when nobody’s watching
really Who am I when nobody’s watching
really Who am I when nobody’s watching okay so here’s my first answer for you
okay so here’s my first answer for you
okay so here’s my first answer for you that I realized I realized hey one thing
that I realized I realized hey one thing
that I realized I realized hey one thing that’s been consistent in my life is
that’s been consistent in my life is
that’s been consistent in my life is that I am a lingual file I’m a lover of
that I am a lingual file I’m a lover of
that I am a lingual file I’m a lover of languages so imagine seven year old me
languages so imagine seven year old me
languages so imagine seven year old me are going to school in a suburban
are going to school in a suburban
are going to school in a suburban California elementary school
California elementary school
California elementary school everything’s in English I’m learning in
everything’s in English I’m learning in
everything’s in English I’m learning in English I’m playing with my friends in
English I’m playing with my friends in
English I’m playing with my friends in English I come back home and the parents
English I come back home and the parents
English I come back home and the parents are speaking and thummell which is the
are speaking and thummell which is the
are speaking and thummell which is the mother tongue of our state back in India
mother tongue of our state back in India
mother tongue of our state back in India but they’re also speaking in Hindi and
but they’re also speaking in Hindi and
but they’re also speaking in Hindi and Hindi’s on the television in the
Hindi’s on the television in the
Hindi’s on the television in the background and I go back to school the
background and I go back to school the
background and I go back to school the next day and I’m taking a lot of Spanish
next day and I’m taking a lot of Spanish
next day and I’m taking a lot of Spanish so here I am and this concept mix of
so here I am and this concept mix of
so here I am and this concept mix of languages and is early on that I run the
languages and is early on that I run the
languages and is early on that I run the idea and also the action of taking words
idea and also the action of taking words
idea and also the action of taking words and different tongues you know different
and different tongues you know different
and different tongues you know different syllables different places and being
syllables different places and being
syllables different places and being able to communicate with people just
able to communicate with people just
able to communicate with people just across borders communities of people
across borders communities of people
across borders communities of people that you know I wouldn’t have been able
that you know I wouldn’t have been able
that you know I wouldn’t have been able to communicate with before and when it
to communicate with before and when it
to communicate with before and when it comes to gender-based violence
comes to gender-based violence
comes to gender-based violence this is a skill that has been integral
this is a skill that has been integral
this is a skill that has been integral to my research because I’m able to
to my research because I’m able to
to my research because I’m able to converse with people on a very intimate
converse with people on a very intimate
converse with people on a very intimate level and gain their trust and you know
level and gain their trust and you know
level and gain their trust and you know gain their narratives for my research
gain their narratives for my research
gain their narratives for my research and you know for the betterment of this
and you know for the betterment of this
and you know for the betterment of this of this issue because I can speak the
of this issue because I can speak the
of this issue because I can speak the language and so I’ve studied Italian by
language and so I’ve studied Italian by
language and so I’ve studied Italian by the way like and in college for a couple
the way like and in college for a couple
the way like and in college for a couple of years but I realize really quickly
of years but I realize really quickly
of years but I realize really quickly when I was in Calabria that putting this
when I was in Calabria that putting this
when I was in Calabria that putting this language into practice was much harder
language into practice was much harder
language into practice was much harder than I expected
than I expected
than I expected especially completed with dire if it’s
especially completed with dire if it’s
especially completed with dire if it’s there an accent but it’s just been an
there an accent but it’s just been an
there an accent but it’s just been an amazing journey and something that I’m
amazing journey and something that I’m
amazing journey and something that I’m really grateful for and it’s pushed me
really grateful for and it’s pushed me
really grateful for and it’s pushed me to understand and learn this language to
to understand and learn this language to
to understand and learn this language to a whole nother level so that’s what this
a whole nother level so that’s what this
a whole nother level so that’s what this feel bite has been about it’s been about
feel bite has been about it’s been about
feel bite has been about it’s been about you know giving me the power to make the
you know giving me the power to make the
you know giving me the power to make the most out of these nine months and the
most out of these nine months and the
most out of these nine months and the way that I want to so the neurons
way that I want to so the neurons
way that I want to so the neurons watching me I got involved in the local
watching me I got involved in the local
watching me I got involved in the local community college and teaching English I
community college and teaching English I
community college and teaching English I got involved they’re going to you know
got involved they’re going to you know
got involved they’re going to you know protest events like in the city and it’s
protest events like in the city and it’s
protest events like in the city and it’s like these things that have really
like these things that have really
like these things that have really shaped my my experience and have shaped
shaped my my experience and have shaped
shaped my my experience and have shaped my research but now I want to get to
my research but now I want to get to
my research but now I want to get to intimate partner violence why is
intimate partner violence why is
intimate partner violence why is intimate partner violence relevant to
intimate partner violence relevant to
intimate partner violence relevant to Italy why is it relevant to Calabria
Italy why is it relevant to Calabria
Italy why is it relevant to Calabria well here’s one statistic thirty nine
well here’s one statistic thirty nine
well here’s one statistic thirty nine point five percent of women in Italy
point five percent of women in Italy
point five percent of women in Italy aged 16 to seven years or have had
aged 16 to seven years or have had
aged 16 to seven years or have had experienced physical or sexual violence
experienced physical or sexual violence
experienced physical or sexual violence in their lifetime okay thirty one point
in their lifetime okay thirty one point
in their lifetime okay thirty one point five percent that means in this room a
five percent that means in this room a
five percent that means in this room a little over three out of ten women who
little over three out of ten women who
little over three out of ten women who are in this age gap have probably
are in this age gap have probably
are in this age gap have probably experienced those aberrant sexual
experienced those aberrant sexual
experienced those aberrant sexual violence in their lifetime that is a
violence in their lifetime that is a
violence in their lifetime that is a really distressing number to me and
really distressing number to me and
really distressing number to me and something that should not even be the
something that should not even be the
something that should not even be the case but if we dive a little bit deeper
case but if we dive a little bit deeper
case but if we dive a little bit deeper when the Italians were asked what is the
when the Italians were asked what is the
when the Italians were asked what is the cause so fine answers and the economy
cause so fine answers and the economy
cause so fine answers and the economy apparently plays a role according to
apparently plays a role according to
apparently plays a role according to Italians the thirty-nine percent sir
Italians the thirty-nine percent sir
Italians the thirty-nine percent sir almost fifty percent almost half of
almost fifty percent almost half of
almost fifty percent almost half of Italians say that media causes violence
Italians say that media causes violence
Italians say that media causes violence okay
okay
okay so I want you guys to keep that in your
so I want you guys to keep that in your
so I want you guys to keep that in your mind as I continue through my talk
mind as I continue through my talk
mind as I continue through my talk diving deeper into Colombia specifically
diving deeper into Colombia specifically
diving deeper into Colombia specifically and there is not any formal studies
and there is not any formal studies
and there is not any formal studies that’s been done on this issue in the
that’s been done on this issue in the
that’s been done on this issue in the past so my study is kind of the first of
past so my study is kind of the first of
past so my study is kind of the first of its kind but in an infamous study done
its kind but in an infamous study done
its kind but in an infamous study done in 2012 by the foundation of ethics in
in 2012 by the foundation of ethics in
in 2012 by the foundation of ethics in Calabria 87% of perpetrators were found
Calabria 87% of perpetrators were found
Calabria 87% of perpetrators were found to be current or former partners so I
to be current or former partners so I
to be current or former partners so I want you to think about that this
want you to think about that this
want you to think about that this violence is not random this violence is
violence is not random this violence is
violence is not random this violence is not happening you know just like one-off
not happening you know just like one-off
not happening you know just like one-off all of a sudden you see like a big news
all of a sudden you see like a big news
all of a sudden you see like a big news story on the news this route this
story on the news this route this
story on the news this route this violence is happening in your homes by
violence is happening in your homes by
violence is happening in your homes by people in your community the people in
people in your community the people in
people in your community the people in your social circles and it’s happening
your social circles and it’s happening
your social circles and it’s happening behind closed doors so it’s a huge issue
behind closed doors so it’s a huge issue
behind closed doors so it’s a huge issue that we need to kind of break the
that we need to kind of break the
that we need to kind of break the silence about so I’ve disturbed my
silence about so I’ve disturbed my
silence about so I’ve disturbed my research is still continuing I’ve
research is still continuing I’ve
research is still continuing I’ve distilled it into four pretty easy
distilled it into four pretty easy
distilled it into four pretty easy points okay so point one is internal and
points okay so point one is internal and
points okay so point one is internal and dysfunction within the anti-violence
dysfunction within the anti-violence
dysfunction within the anti-violence center system when you look back and
center system when you look back and
center system when you look back and think back to that map that I had up
think back to that map that I had up
think back to that map that I had up there from the entire region of Calabria
there from the entire region of Calabria
there from the entire region of Calabria there are eight to twelve anti-violence
there are eight to twelve anti-violence
there are eight to twelve anti-violence centers that are established I say 8 to
centers that are established I say 8 to
centers that are established I say 8 to 12 because some of them are not
12 because some of them are not
12 because some of them are not considered legitimate centers by others
considered legitimate centers by others
considered legitimate centers by others but I would say 8 to 12 is a ballpark
but I would say 8 to 12 is a ballpark
but I would say 8 to 12 is a ballpark and internally of these anti-violence
and internally of these anti-violence
and internally of these anti-violence centers are having many issues and
centers are having many issues and
centers are having many issues and inconsistencies because funding is a
inconsistencies because funding is a
inconsistencies because funding is a problem they’re having a problem
problem they’re having a problem
problem they’re having a problem obtaining staff they’re having a problem
obtaining staff they’re having a problem
obtaining staff they’re having a problem you know having creating the events in
you know having creating the events in
you know having creating the events in the outreach that they would need and
the outreach that they would need and
the outreach that they would need and creating all the resources for support
creating all the resources for support
creating all the resources for support for survivors of violence that come to
for survivors of violence that come to
for survivors of violence that come to them in a consistent manner because
them in a consistent manner because
them in a consistent manner because they’re lacking funding but the external
they’re lacking funding but the external
they’re lacking funding but the external dysfunction is even more interesting out
dysfunction is even more interesting out
dysfunction is even more interesting out of these eight to 12 centers in their
of these eight to 12 centers in their
of these eight to 12 centers in their region I’ve kind of categorized them
region I’ve kind of categorized them
region I’ve kind of categorized them into three different ones one which is
into three different ones one which is
into three different ones one which is you know feminists are rooted in the
you know feminists are rooted in the
you know feminists are rooted in the theory of the 70s very established
theory of the 70s very established
theory of the 70s very established centers that have been around for you
centers that have been around for you
centers that have been around for you know decades and the marrow centers
know decades and the marrow centers
know decades and the marrow centers they’re religiously motivated and then
they’re religiously motivated and then
they’re religiously motivated and then there are centers that is much newer and
there are centers that is much newer and
there are centers that is much newer and have popped up in the last couple of
have popped up in the last couple of
have popped up in the last couple of years but the thing is these centers
years but the thing is these centers
years but the thing is these centers don’t really talk to each other there’s
don’t really talk to each other there’s
don’t really talk to each other there’s this idea of my methodologies the
this idea of my methodologies the
this idea of my methodologies the correct ones survive collaborate write
correct ones survive collaborate write
correct ones survive collaborate write connect and that really poses an issue
connect and that really poses an issue
connect and that really poses an issue for the entire system as a whole because
for the entire system as a whole because
for the entire system as a whole because without that integration without that
without that integration without that
without that integration without that consistency in connection the underlying
consistency in connection the underlying
consistency in connection the underlying bill as survivors are not having the
bill as survivors are not having the
bill as survivors are not having the support that they really should be the
support that they really should be the
support that they really should be the second trait that I think is really
second trait that I think is really
second trait that I think is really interesting and I was a pre-medical
interesting and I was a pre-medical
interesting and I was a pre-medical student back at home so how does the
student back at home so how does the
student back at home so how does the lens that I pretty much utilize and all
lens that I pretty much utilize and all
lens that I pretty much utilize and all of my work is that health is not a
of my work is that health is not a
of my work is that health is not a priority for survivors when talking with
priority for survivors when talking with
priority for survivors when talking with survivors when talking to staff founders
survivors when talking to staff founders
survivors when talking to staff founders anyone that I’ve interviewed the
anyone that I’ve interviewed the
anyone that I’ve interviewed the priorities for survivors of violence for
priorities for survivors of violence for
priorities for survivors of violence for job security of security for my children
job security of security for my children
job security of security for my children economic independence and that’s kind of
economic independence and that’s kind of
economic independence and that’s kind of it but the physical consequences the
it but the physical consequences the
it but the physical consequences the mental health consequences of violence
mental health consequences of violence
mental health consequences of violence for chronic health issues fine issues
for chronic health issues fine issues
for chronic health issues fine issues dental issues post amount traumatic
dental issues post amount traumatic
dental issues post amount traumatic stress disorder depression these are
stress disorder depression these are
stress disorder depression these are things that are
things that are
things that are found in the literature consistently as
found in the literature consistently as
found in the literature consistently as being consequences of violence and there
being consequences of violence and there
being consequences of violence and there found throughout the lifetime but these
found throughout the lifetime but these
found throughout the lifetime but these issues are not being addressed they’re
issues are not being addressed they’re
issues are not being addressed they’re not being addressed by survivors and
not being addressed by survivors and
not being addressed by survivors and they’re not being addressed by the
they’re not being addressed by the
they’re not being addressed by the system and third I’m pretty tragic
system and third I’m pretty tragic
system and third I’m pretty tragic there’s community pressure not to report
there’s community pressure not to report
there’s community pressure not to report and not seek help so what does this mean
and not seek help so what does this mean
and not seek help so what does this mean this means that the survivor who’s
this means that the survivor who’s
this means that the survivor who’s coming out of a extremely traumatic
coming out of a extremely traumatic
coming out of a extremely traumatic abusive environment already feeling a
abusive environment already feeling a
abusive environment already feeling a lot of shame a lot of uncertainty when
lot of shame a lot of uncertainty when
lot of shame a lot of uncertainty when they go to their nearest social circle
they go to their nearest social circle
they go to their nearest social circle whether that’s their family or their
whether that’s their family or their
whether that’s their family or their friends even if it’s a policeman or a
friends even if it’s a policeman or a
friends even if it’s a policeman or a lawyer they’re consistently told by
lawyer they’re consistently told by
lawyer they’re consistently told by these people that they shouldn’t report
these people that they shouldn’t report
these people that they shouldn’t report for the to maintain kind of homeostasis
for the to maintain kind of homeostasis
for the to maintain kind of homeostasis you know keep your issues behind closed
you know keep your issues behind closed
you know keep your issues behind closed doors you know maintain your steering
doors you know maintain your steering
doors you know maintain your steering your sense of family that’s the most
your sense of family that’s the most
your sense of family that’s the most important thing and that’s really tragic
important thing and that’s really tragic
important thing and that’s really tragic and that’s something that we as a
and that’s something that we as a
and that’s something that we as a community can really change when I asked
community can really change when I asked
community can really change when I asked all of my stakeholders kind of what are
all of my stakeholders kind of what are
all of my stakeholders kind of what are the next steps what do they do to make
the next steps what do they do to make
the next steps what do they do to make sure that gender-based violence intimate
sure that gender-based violence intimate
sure that gender-based violence intimate partner violence is not an issue in this
partner violence is not an issue in this
partner violence is not an issue in this region they said across the board
region they said across the board
region they said across the board preventive education so it’s the only
preventive education so it’s the only
preventive education so it’s the only thing preventive education you think you
thing preventive education you think you
thing preventive education you think you know education in schools let’s talk to
know education in schools let’s talk to
know education in schools let’s talk to our kids you know let’s talk to kids
our kids you know let’s talk to kids
our kids you know let’s talk to kids from when they are really young you know
from when they are really young you know
from when they are really young you know six years or seven years old in a
six years or seven years old in a
six years or seven years old in a consistent manner about letters no
consistent manner about letters no
consistent manner about letters no miscommunication that is respect that is
miscommunication that is respect that is
miscommunication that is respect that is healthy sexuality there are actions that
healthy sexuality there are actions that
healthy sexuality there are actions that we are allowed you know and in society
we are allowed you know and in society
we are allowed you know and in society there are things that are really not
there are things that are really not
there are things that are really not allowed and how do you recognize these
allowed and how do you recognize these
allowed and how do you recognize these you know problematic behaviors that’s
you know problematic behaviors that’s
you know problematic behaviors that’s extremely important and that is in all
extremely important and that is in all
extremely important and that is in all of the literature kind of the next step
of the literature kind of the next step
of the literature kind of the next step to building the next better generation
to building the next better generation
to building the next better generation but I would say that this media issue is
but I would say that this media issue is
but I would say that this media issue is something that we can act on right now
something that we can act on right now
something that we can act on right now this is a headline from a couple weeks
this is a headline from a couple weeks
this is a headline from a couple weeks ago women worked on Italian TV in prank
ago women worked on Italian TV in prank
ago women worked on Italian TV in prank despite repeatedly telling man to stop
despite repeatedly telling man to stop
despite repeatedly telling man to stop okay I’m pretty sure some of you may
okay I’m pretty sure some of you may
okay I’m pretty sure some of you may have seen this in the news basically
have seen this in the news basically
have seen this in the news basically this woman was in the singing show and
this woman was in the singing show and
this woman was in the singing show and she was grabbed by a dancer
she was grabbed by a dancer
she was grabbed by a dancer stage and the audience was laughing the
stage and the audience was laughing the
stage and the audience was laughing the judges were laughing and later on when
judges were laughing and later on when
judges were laughing and later on when she denounced it people just said hey
she denounced it people just said hey
she denounced it people just said hey it’s a joke you should drop it off and
it’s a joke you should drop it off and
it’s a joke you should drop it off and what’s problematic because when we’re in
what’s problematic because when we’re in
what’s problematic because when we’re in the society that sees violence on such
the society that sees violence on such
the society that sees violence on such public platforms we say nothing about it
public platforms we say nothing about it
public platforms we say nothing about it we do nothing about it
we do nothing about it
we do nothing about it we become desensitized to that violence
we become desensitized to that violence
we become desensitized to that violence and we allow it to perpetuate for
and we allow it to perpetuate for
and we allow it to perpetuate for generations to come
generations to come
generations to come I think this is an issue that we can as
I think this is an issue that we can as
I think this is an issue that we can as you know Calabrian those Italians as
you know Calabrian those Italians as
you know Calabrian those Italians as people in their robe I think we can do
people in their robe I think we can do
people in their robe I think we can do something about you know band together
something about you know band together
something about you know band together with your friends band together with
with your friends band together with
with your friends band together with your family if you see something that’s
your family if you see something that’s
your family if you see something that’s going wrong on TV on a show you’re
going wrong on TV on a show you’re
going wrong on TV on a show you’re watching a video on YouTube report it do
watching a video on YouTube report it do
watching a video on YouTube report it do something about it say something about
something about it say something about
something about it say something about it don’t allow it to just pass you by
it don’t allow it to just pass you by
it don’t allow it to just pass you by because that’s what perpetuates this
because that’s what perpetuates this
because that’s what perpetuates this culture that allows ions to happen
culture that allows ions to happen
culture that allows ions to happen behind closed doors so finally I want to
behind closed doors so finally I want to
behind closed doors so finally I want to ask you guys at the end of this session
ask you guys at the end of this session
ask you guys at the end of this session even think about it when you go home who
even think about it when you go home who
even think about it when you go home who are you when nobody’s watching the moans
are you when nobody’s watching the moans
are you when nobody’s watching the moans holding you accountable for anything
holding you accountable for anything
holding you accountable for anything whether your roles whether your ethics
whether your roles whether your ethics
whether your roles whether your ethics the type of society do you want to
the type of society do you want to
the type of society do you want to create thank you
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[Applause] you
you
you [Applause]
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