I would like to everyone to take a moment close your eyes and think about
moment close your eyes and think about
moment close your eyes and think about the thing that you are most afraid of is
the thing that you are most afraid of is
the thing that you are most afraid of is it does damping spiders
it does damping spiders
it does damping spiders I get the spider one I myself am afraid
I get the spider one I myself am afraid
I get the spider one I myself am afraid of a lot of things some of them real and
of a lot of things some of them real and
of a lot of things some of them real and some of them totally made up in my head
some of them totally made up in my head
some of them totally made up in my head so I’m going to start with a story that
so I’m going to start with a story that
so I’m going to start with a story that includes both it was 2004 that sounds
includes both it was 2004 that sounds
includes both it was 2004 that sounds like a really long time ago
like a really long time ago
like a really long time ago it’s 2004 in the summer I was doing my
it’s 2004 in the summer I was doing my
it’s 2004 in the summer I was doing my master’s research in a very northern
master’s research in a very northern
master’s research in a very northern corner of California and my field site
corner of California and my field site
corner of California and my field site was about an eight hour drive from where
was about an eight hour drive from where
was about an eight hour drive from where I lived so I had to do a lot of that
I lived so I had to do a lot of that
I lived so I had to do a lot of that field research by myself and one day I
field research by myself and one day I
field research by myself and one day I was out in my beautiful sagebrush scrub
was out in my beautiful sagebrush scrub
was out in my beautiful sagebrush scrub field site and I heard this pop of
field site and I heard this pop of
field site and I heard this pop of course my fear instincts are gonna kick
course my fear instincts are gonna kick
course my fear instincts are gonna kick in and I hit the deck and I hide under
in and I hit the deck and I hide under
in and I hit the deck and I hide under the nearest bush and I’ve been trying to
the nearest bush and I’ve been trying to
the nearest bush and I’ve been trying to get small hide I realize that I’m
get small hide I realize that I’m
get small hide I realize that I’m dressed in all grey in a field full of
dressed in all grey in a field full of
dressed in all grey in a field full of sagebrush which is also grey and it’s
sagebrush which is also grey and it’s
sagebrush which is also grey and it’s hunting season yeah maybe not the best
hunting season yeah maybe not the best
hunting season yeah maybe not the best life choices but it was a little too
life choices but it was a little too
life choices but it was a little too late at that point as I turned my head
late at that point as I turned my head
late at that point as I turned my head away from the bush I’m snuggled into I
away from the bush I’m snuggled into I
away from the bush I’m snuggled into I noticed just maybe a couple feet away
noticed just maybe a couple feet away
noticed just maybe a couple feet away from me is a giant fire ant hill so at
from me is a giant fire ant hill so at
from me is a giant fire ant hill so at this point I need to decide which I’m
this point I need to decide which I’m
this point I need to decide which I’m more afraid of the very real threat just
more afraid of the very real threat just
more afraid of the very real threat just feet away from me from the fire ants or
feet away from me from the fire ants or
feet away from me from the fire ants or my perceive but of the unknown hunters
my perceive but of the unknown hunters
my perceive but of the unknown hunters were they shooting at me because they
were they shooting at me because they
were they shooting at me because they didn’t see me were they shooting at me
didn’t see me were they shooting at me
didn’t see me were they shooting at me because they did I didn’t know so I
because they did I didn’t know so I
because they did I didn’t know so I needed to make a decision whether to
needed to make a decision whether to
needed to make a decision whether to stay or whether to go when we think
stay or whether to go when we think
stay or whether to go when we think about fear it is extraordinary complex
about fear it is extraordinary complex
about fear it is extraordinary complex situation in our body of dozens of
situation in our body of dozens of
situation in our body of dozens of hormones many different parts of the
hormones many different parts of the
hormones many different parts of the brain all working together and when we
brain all working together and when we
brain all working together and when we have something sparking our fear
have something sparking our fear
have something sparking our fear response
response
response a spider getting shot at something is
a spider getting shot at something is
a spider getting shot at something is going to be a threat and our body
going to be a threat and our body
going to be a threat and our body perceives that threat it’s going to do
perceives that threat it’s going to do
perceives that threat it’s going to do two things simultaneously you’re going
two things simultaneously you’re going
two things simultaneously you’re going to have a fast path for your response
to have a fast path for your response
to have a fast path for your response and you’re gonna have a slow path for
and you’re gonna have a slow path for
and you’re gonna have a slow path for your response the fast path is fast but
your response the fast path is fast but
your response the fast path is fast but it’s not very good at taking in
it’s not very good at taking in
it’s not very good at taking in information this is going to be where
information this is going to be where
information this is going to be where our instincts are going to kick in and
our instincts are going to kick in and
our instincts are going to kick in and the slow path is slower but it’s going
the slow path is slower but it’s going
the slow path is slower but it’s going to be better at taking in all of the
to be better at taking in all of the
to be better at taking in all of the information and making a better
information and making a better
information and making a better assessment at what inappropriate
assessment at what inappropriate
assessment at what inappropriate responses to keep us alive so to
responses to keep us alive so to
responses to keep us alive so to illustrate let’s go back to you my story
illustrate let’s go back to you my story
illustrate let’s go back to you my story in the Warner mountains so there was I
in the Warner mountains so there was I
in the Warner mountains so there was I mean I’m small but like not that small
mean I’m small but like not that small
mean I’m small but like not that small snuggled underneath the sagebrush trying
snuggled underneath the sagebrush trying
snuggled underneath the sagebrush trying to decide what to do my fast path is the
to decide what to do my fast path is the
to decide what to do my fast path is the reason why I was under that bush in the
reason why I was under that bush in the
reason why I was under that bush in the first place and after a few beats my
first place and after a few beats my
first place and after a few beats my slow path started to think about a
slow path started to think about a
slow path started to think about a lifetime full of horror films and
lifetime full of horror films and
lifetime full of horror films and newsreels and all of the things that you
newsreels and all of the things that you
newsreels and all of the things that you hear you shouldn’t do like be a woman
hear you shouldn’t do like be a woman
hear you shouldn’t do like be a woman and go out in the woods by yourself it’s
and go out in the woods by yourself it’s
and go out in the woods by yourself it’s like damn I’m I was right
like damn I’m I was right
like damn I’m I was right and it’s at this point that after taking
and it’s at this point that after taking
and it’s at this point that after taking in all of that information I decided to
in all of that information I decided to
in all of that information I decided to stay I decided to choose my perceived
stay I decided to choose my perceived
stay I decided to choose my perceived fear being more frightening and more
fear being more frightening and more
fear being more frightening and more terrifying than the very real threat in
terrifying than the very real threat in
terrifying than the very real threat in front of me from the fire ants fear is
front of me from the fire ants fear is
front of me from the fire ants fear is very real fear keeps us alive and it’s
very real fear keeps us alive and it’s
very real fear keeps us alive and it’s not going anywhere anytime soon but fear
not going anywhere anytime soon but fear
not going anywhere anytime soon but fear can also keep us trapped in a cage of
can also keep us trapped in a cage of
can also keep us trapped in a cage of our own creation thinking about this
our own creation thinking about this
our own creation thinking about this talk I really struggled to try to put
talk I really struggled to try to put
talk I really struggled to try to put myself my story into it because as a
myself my story into it because as a
myself my story into it because as a classically trained scientist that’s
classically trained scientist that’s
classically trained scientist that’s just not what we do have a biology
just not what we do have a biology
just not what we do have a biology lecture oh I just wanted to come up here
lecture oh I just wanted to come up here
lecture oh I just wanted to come up here and use facts and figures and science
and use facts and figures and science
and use facts and figures and science but if we have learned anything from our
but if we have learned anything from our
but if we have learned anything from our post truth anti expert situation that we
post truth anti expert situation that we
post truth anti expert situation that we happen to find ourselves in is that just
happen to find ourselves in is that just
happen to find ourselves in is that just doesn’t work and it doesn’t work because
doesn’t work and it doesn’t work because
doesn’t work and it doesn’t work because it doesn’t connect us to the story and
it doesn’t connect us to the story and
it doesn’t connect us to the story and everything is about story so when I talk
everything is about story so when I talk
everything is about story so when I talk about being a scientist today I wanted
about being a scientist today I wanted
about being a scientist today I wanted to rewrite my story about what a
to rewrite my story about what a
to rewrite my story about what a scientist could say and what a scientist
scientist could say and what a scientist
scientist could say and what a scientist could be because personally I’m from a
could be because personally I’m from a
could be because personally I’m from a family of secret keepers and we were
family of secret keepers and we were
family of secret keepers and we were really great at just ignoring emotions
really great at just ignoring emotions
really great at just ignoring emotions especially fear which is probably why I
especially fear which is probably why I
especially fear which is probably why I got into science in the first place
got into science in the first place
got into science in the first place because science oh it’s so good we’re
because science oh it’s so good we’re
because science oh it’s so good we’re taught that emotions are liability and
taught that emotions are liability and
taught that emotions are liability and as a scientist you are trained
as a scientist you are trained
as a scientist you are trained remove yourself remove your humanity
remove yourself remove your humanity
remove yourself remove your humanity from the research in order to get the
from the research in order to get the
from the research in order to get the good data so science was a perfect place
good data so science was a perfect place
good data so science was a perfect place for me and if you’re like me you
for me and if you’re like me you
for me and if you’re like me you probably also never learned in school
probably also never learned in school
probably also never learned in school how to deal with your emotions or deal
how to deal with your emotions or deal
how to deal with your emotions or deal with fear unless it escalated into
with fear unless it escalated into
with fear unless it escalated into illness and that’s really a shame
illness and that’s really a shame
illness and that’s really a shame because one in eight children are
because one in eight children are
because one in eight children are affected by anxiety disorders one in
affected by anxiety disorders one in
affected by anxiety disorders one in eight and personally I didn’t even think
eight and personally I didn’t even think
eight and personally I didn’t even think about fear I’m like actually scared but
about fear I’m like actually scared but
about fear I’m like actually scared but I didn’t think about fear to study it
I didn’t think about fear to study it
I didn’t think about fear to study it until I was in my early 30s and when I
until I was in my early 30s and when I
until I was in my early 30s and when I became fascinated by it through my
became fascinated by it through my
became fascinated by it through my research I would constantly see these
research I would constantly see these
research I would constantly see these mantras being repeated and I’m sure
mantras being repeated and I’m sure
mantras being repeated and I’m sure you’ve heard these of fight the fear and
you’ve heard these of fight the fear and
you’ve heard these of fight the fear and conquer your fears and of course my
conquer your fears and of course my
conquer your fears and of course my favorite was a biologist I always just
favorite was a biologist I always just
favorite was a biologist I always just thought was the most ridiculous thing
thought was the most ridiculous thing
thought was the most ridiculous thing ever because unless you have severe
ever because unless you have severe
ever because unless you have severe damage to your medulla that’s literally
damage to your medulla that’s literally
damage to your medulla that’s literally impossible you can’t be fearless that’s
impossible you can’t be fearless that’s
impossible you can’t be fearless that’s just silly
just silly
just silly that’s like telling someone who’s trying
that’s like telling someone who’s trying
that’s like telling someone who’s trying to lose weight to just be hunger less
to lose weight to just be hunger less
to lose weight to just be hunger less okay thanks that’s not really helpful so
okay thanks that’s not really helpful so
okay thanks that’s not really helpful so we go through life pretty just
we go through life pretty just
we go through life pretty just unprepared to deal with the fear
unprepared to deal with the fear
unprepared to deal with the fear saturated culture that we find ourselves
saturated culture that we find ourselves
saturated culture that we find ourselves in now today I am NOT talking about the
in now today I am NOT talking about the
in now today I am NOT talking about the fears that are an immediate threat to
fears that are an immediate threat to
fears that are an immediate threat to your survival I’m also not talking about
your survival I’m also not talking about
your survival I’m also not talking about the fears that come from phobias or from
the fears that come from phobias or from
the fears that come from phobias or from mental health challenges that many of us
mental health challenges that many of us
mental health challenges that many of us face in our society I am talking about
face in our society I am talking about
face in our society I am talking about the fears that
the fears that
the fears that many of us share and that may have some
many of us share and that may have some
many of us share and that may have some rooted in reality but most likely live
rooted in reality but most likely live
rooted in reality but most likely live in a future that may never exist so what
in a future that may never exist so what
in a future that may never exist so what do we do we have this very ancient fear
do we do we have this very ancient fear
do we do we have this very ancient fear response so how do we adapt that fear
response so how do we adapt that fear
response so how do we adapt that fear response for our modern lives well first
response for our modern lives well first
response for our modern lives well first we need to get curious where are these
we need to get curious where are these
we need to get curious where are these fears coming from then we need to get
fears coming from then we need to get
fears coming from then we need to get creative about how we rewrite and
creative about how we rewrite and
creative about how we rewrite and reframe those stories and finally get
reframe those stories and finally get
reframe those stories and finally get committed to practicing that reframing
committed to practicing that reframing
committed to practicing that reframing on a daily basis so it just becomes part
on a daily basis so it just becomes part
on a daily basis so it just becomes part of what we do so I get curious about
of what we do so I get curious about
of what we do so I get curious about fears we find that not all of them come
fears we find that not all of them come
fears we find that not all of them come from us they come from the media they
from us they come from the media they
from us they come from the media they come from our leaders they come from my
come from our leaders they come from my
come from our leaders they come from my friends and family and this is important
friends and family and this is important
friends and family and this is important to think about because fear is at the
to think about because fear is at the
to think about because fear is at the root of many of our world’s problems
root of many of our world’s problems
root of many of our world’s problems fear scarcity leads to overconsumption
fear scarcity leads to overconsumption
fear scarcity leads to overconsumption of resources fear of failure doesn’t
of resources fear of failure doesn’t
of resources fear of failure doesn’t allow us to take risks and create
allow us to take risks and create
allow us to take risks and create innovative solutions and fear can create
innovative solutions and fear can create
innovative solutions and fear can create political instability and violence so
what do we do about these things it’s
what do we do about these things it’s saturated within our culture
saturated within our culture
saturated within our culture fear is a powerful persuasive tool fear
fear is a powerful persuasive tool fear
fear is a powerful persuasive tool fear can counter tension and motivate us to
can counter tension and motivate us to
can counter tension and motivate us to think or act in a different way and of
think or act in a different way and of
think or act in a different way and of course get us to buy when you look in
course get us to buy when you look in
course get us to buy when you look in marketing literature you’re gonna find
marketing literature you’re gonna find
marketing literature you’re gonna find something called fear appeal that is
something called fear appeal that is
something called fear appeal that is found in lots and lots of papers and
found in lots and lots of papers and
found in lots and lots of papers and fear appeal give you a little example so
fear appeal give you a little example so
fear appeal give you a little example so we are designed we have an evolutionary
we are designed we have an evolutionary
we are designed we have an evolutionary adaptation for survival to want to
adaptation for survival to want to
adaptation for survival to want to belong to a tribe because before the
belong to a tribe because before the
belong to a tribe because before the very recent ability to just pay some
very recent ability to just pay some
very recent ability to just pay some for food and shelter and water if we
for food and shelter and water if we
for food and shelter and water if we were rejected from our tribe we would
were rejected from our tribe we would
were rejected from our tribe we would most likely die so we have a deep-seated
most likely die so we have a deep-seated
most likely die so we have a deep-seated fear of rejection from our tribe from
fear of rejection from our tribe from
fear of rejection from our tribe from the society how does that work with
the society how does that work with
the society how does that work with marketing well you take a product let’s
marketing well you take a product let’s
marketing well you take a product let’s say a beer or a fancy handbag and you
say a beer or a fancy handbag and you
say a beer or a fancy handbag and you frame it in a way that people think that
frame it in a way that people think that
frame it in a way that people think that if you purchase that you will be better
if you purchase that you will be better
if you purchase that you will be better accepted into the tribe or maybe
accepted into the tribe or maybe
accepted into the tribe or maybe increase your social standing in the
increase your social standing in the
increase your social standing in the tribe and deeply psychologically that
tribe and deeply psychologically that
tribe and deeply psychologically that means a good thing to us because that
means a good thing to us because that
means a good thing to us because that used to mean survival until now fear is
used to mean survival until now fear is
used to mean survival until now fear is also a powerful motivator when we look
also a powerful motivator when we look
also a powerful motivator when we look at our political leaders society is more
at our political leaders society is more
at our political leaders society is more quick to react if there’s an immediate
quick to react if there’s an immediate
quick to react if there’s an immediate threat and especially if that threat can
threat and especially if that threat can
threat and especially if that threat can be rolled into a story with a clear hero
be rolled into a story with a clear hero
be rolled into a story with a clear hero and an evil villain yet the stories that
and an evil villain yet the stories that
and an evil villain yet the stories that we get from our media and our leaders
we get from our media and our leaders
we get from our media and our leaders and our friends and family they’re not
and our friends and family they’re not
and our friends and family they’re not the strongest stories we have the
the strongest stories we have the
the strongest stories we have the strongest stories come from us and the
strongest stories come from us and the
strongest stories come from us and the ones that we’ve been telling ourselves
ones that we’ve been telling ourselves
ones that we’ve been telling ourselves over and over again for many years to
over and over again for many years to
over and over again for many years to our entire lives so like I said I’m from
our entire lives so like I said I’m from
our entire lives so like I said I’m from a family of secret keepers where we
a family of secret keepers where we
a family of secret keepers where we didn’t talk about emotions we didn’t
didn’t talk about emotions we didn’t
didn’t talk about emotions we didn’t learn how to deal with emotions that’s
learn how to deal with emotions that’s
learn how to deal with emotions that’s just not what we did until a few years
just not what we did until a few years
just not what we did until a few years ago when I found myself standing in an
ago when I found myself standing in an
ago when I found myself standing in an emergency room talking to a doctor I had
emergency room talking to a doctor I had
emergency room talking to a doctor I had just met you see before that point
just met you see before that point
just met you see before that point rewind
rewind
rewind two years I had been the primary and
two years I had been the primary and
two years I had been the primary and really the only caretaker for my mom
really the only caretaker for my mom
really the only caretaker for my mom I felt enslaved by the level of care
I felt enslaved by the level of care
I felt enslaved by the level of care that she needed that my life and my time
that she needed that my life and my time
that she needed that my life and my time had been sacrificed in order to be her
had been sacrificed in order to be her
had been sacrificed in order to be her caretaker and when I walked into that
caretaker and when I walked into that
caretaker and when I walked into that emergency room it wasn’t the first time
emergency room it wasn’t the first time
emergency room it wasn’t the first time probably dozens at that point I figured
probably dozens at that point I figured
probably dozens at that point I figured this is just yet another inconvenience
this is just yet another inconvenience
this is just yet another inconvenience on my time but I was wrong
minutes past midnight standing there
minutes past midnight standing there with the emergency room doctor that I
with the emergency room doctor that I
with the emergency room doctor that I had just met I was being asked to make a
had just met I was being asked to make a
had just met I was being asked to make a decision no one should have to make
decision no one should have to make
decision no one should have to make whether to let my mom live on life
whether to let my mom live on life
whether to let my mom live on life support or let her die a natural death
at this point fear swept over me through
at this point fear swept over me through my head and my heart down through my
my head and my heart down through my
my head and my heart down through my toes do about everything fear about loss
toes do about everything fear about loss
toes do about everything fear about loss fear about death at this point I’d never
fear about death at this point I’d never
fear about death at this point I’d never even been around anyone that had died so
even been around anyone that had died so
even been around anyone that had died so I had no idea what to do and of course
I had no idea what to do and of course
I had no idea what to do and of course we never talked about it because you
we never talked about it because you
we never talked about it because you know family of see friends so I didn’t
know family of see friends so I didn’t
know family of see friends so I didn’t know what she actually wanted and if I’m
know what she actually wanted and if I’m
know what she actually wanted and if I’m standing there petrified not knowing
standing there petrified not knowing
standing there petrified not knowing what to do something finally clicks and
what to do something finally clicks and
what to do something finally clicks and my science training takes in because in
my science training takes in because in
my science training takes in because in science if we have an insurmountable
science if we have an insurmountable
science if we have an insurmountable problem we’re going to look at it in a
problem we’re going to look at it in a
problem we’re going to look at it in a different way we’re going to use a
different way we’re going to use a
different way we’re going to use a different lens to try a see how we can
different lens to try a see how we can
different lens to try a see how we can solve it and in that moment I refrain
solve it and in that moment I refrain
solve it and in that moment I refrain the question do you want your mother to
the question do you want your mother to
the question do you want your mother to die too
die too
die too what would you want if it was you and
what would you want if it was you and
what would you want if it was you and then of course I knew because if it was
then of course I knew because if it was
then of course I knew because if it was me I would want an end to suffering I
me I would want an end to suffering I
me I would want an end to suffering I would want to go home to die in my own
would want to go home to die in my own
would want to go home to die in my own bed in my own pajamas surrounded by love
bed in my own pajamas surrounded by love
bed in my own pajamas surrounded by love and so that’s what we did
but like many things in the world life
but like many things in the world life doesn’t happen like it does in the
doesn’t happen like it does in the
doesn’t happen like it does in the movies so after I took my mom home a
movies so after I took my mom home a
movies so after I took my mom home a natural death or her took about a week
natural death or her took about a week
natural death or her took about a week and during that week I got to wrestle
and during that week I got to wrestle
and during that week I got to wrestle with all of those same fears and as I
with all of those same fears and as I
with all of those same fears and as I was holding her hand for her last breath
was holding her hand for her last breath
was holding her hand for her last breath I made a bow not a bow to make her proud
I made a bow not a bow to make her proud
I made a bow not a bow to make her proud or do right by the family name but a vow
or do right by the family name but a vow
or do right by the family name but a vow to not live in fear like she had her
to not live in fear like she had her
to not live in fear like she had her entire life and instead to be curious
entire life and instead to be curious
entire life and instead to be curious about fear and see fear as an
about fear and see fear as an
about fear and see fear as an opportunity not an obstacle so I wanted
opportunity not an obstacle so I wanted
opportunity not an obstacle so I wanted to take a moment go back to that fear
to take a moment go back to that fear
to take a moment go back to that fear that you were thinking about earlier how
that you were thinking about earlier how
that you were thinking about earlier how did that feel and make you feel so for
did that feel and make you feel so for
did that feel and make you feel so for me when I get scared I got like hunch my
me when I get scared I got like hunch my
me when I get scared I got like hunch my shoulders get like shortness of breath
shoulders get like shortness of breath
shoulders get like shortness of breath like kind of gets queasy stomach
like kind of gets queasy stomach
like kind of gets queasy stomach everyone has a little bit different
everyone has a little bit different
everyone has a little bit different reaction and when you’re in fear what do
reaction and when you’re in fear what do
reaction and when you’re in fear what do you do it’s probably one of these poor
you do it’s probably one of these poor
you do it’s probably one of these poor things for me I’m an avoider
things for me I’m an avoider
things for me I’m an avoider I will avoid it and pretend like it
I will avoid it and pretend like it
I will avoid it and pretend like it doesn’t exist until the last possible
doesn’t exist until the last possible
doesn’t exist until the last possible moment when I have no choice but to face
moment when I have no choice but to face
moment when I have no choice but to face it but the problem is is that just
it but the problem is is that just
it but the problem is is that just because I ignore it doesn’t mean it goes
because I ignore it doesn’t mean it goes
because I ignore it doesn’t mean it goes away how we think about fear matters
away how we think about fear matters
away how we think about fear matters because when our brain is focused on
because when our brain is focused on
because when our brain is focused on fear it’s only concentrating on the
fear it’s only concentrating on the
fear it’s only concentrating on the threat and can’t do anything else
threat and can’t do anything else
threat and can’t do anything else to make us successful so all of us in
to make us successful so all of us in
to make us successful so all of us in this room want to be successful so
this room want to be successful so
this room want to be successful so playing around with those fears and
playing around with those fears and
playing around with those fears and rewriting those fears stories and
rewriting those fears stories and
rewriting those fears stories and reframing them is going to help get us
reframing them is going to help get us
reframing them is going to help get us there I want to go ahead and play around
there I want to go ahead and play around
there I want to go ahead and play around with this today this rewriting of a fear
with this today this rewriting of a fear
with this today this rewriting of a fear story a lot of people are afraid of
story a lot of people are afraid of
story a lot of people are afraid of strangers right so what I want you to do
strangers right so what I want you to do
strangers right so what I want you to do is that fear that you thought about get
is that fear that you thought about get
is that fear that you thought about get it down to one or two words and go ahead
it down to one or two words and go ahead
it down to one or two words and go ahead and share that with a neighbor
and share that with a neighbor
and share that with a neighbor preferably a stranger right now
preferably a stranger right now
preferably a stranger right now go on oh wait I know I’m the worst just
go on oh wait I know I’m the worst just
go on oh wait I know I’m the worst just turn around someone you don’t know and
turn around someone you don’t know and
turn around someone you don’t know and tell them your biggest deepest darkest
tell them your biggest deepest darkest
tell them your biggest deepest darkest fear
so what some of our theories maybe some
so what some of our theories maybe some of these do we share any any same fears
of these do we share any any same fears
of these do we share any any same fears with each other
so I love the fact that this is the top
so I love the fact that this is the top 13 fears because the Gallup Organization
13 fears because the Gallup Organization
13 fears because the Gallup Organization that did this list of top 13 had to have
that did this list of top 13 had to have
that did this list of top 13 had to have known that there’s actual clinical
known that there’s actual clinical
known that there’s actual clinical phobia of 13 the number 13 so it’s just
phobia of 13 the number 13 so it’s just
phobia of 13 the number 13 so it’s just really mean that they made the top 13
really mean that they made the top 13
really mean that they made the top 13 adult fears but see we shares so many of
adult fears but see we shares so many of
adult fears but see we shares so many of these fears and I hope that we can start
these fears and I hope that we can start
these fears and I hope that we can start to come together and see that fear
to come together and see that fear
to come together and see that fear itself is something that should be
itself is something that should be
itself is something that should be shared as a community and is not an
shared as a community and is not an
shared as a community and is not an inevitable destination and that fighting
inevitable destination and that fighting
inevitable destination and that fighting and struggling against ourselves trying
and struggling against ourselves trying
and struggling against ourselves trying to be fearless is exhausting so instead
to be fearless is exhausting so instead
to be fearless is exhausting so instead let’s reframe because each one of us is
let’s reframe because each one of us is
let’s reframe because each one of us is one rewrite away from changing our lives
one rewrite away from changing our lives
one rewrite away from changing our lives thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]
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