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Why my wife doesn’t want children? | Ramilya Aksenova | TEDxEkaterinburg


I’m here to stay

glad to see you all I

psychologist and the last

20 years but in fact

my whole life i

I study

life and consciousness

of people

theme of my

speeches are stated

provocative

Timothy clearly and wherein

very start on

why my wife does not

wants to have children

why not about men I

I’ll tell you

about this later in

society is

well-established opinion

every woman wants

have a baby

whence then

this question appeared

who in their

practice I hear everything

more often and statistics

confirms to us that

average age for

first

child now

will take 30 years

obviously something

has changed 10 years

back when I myself

was expecting a birth

of my son I

pierced

that revolution in

consciousness that

I did not happen

was ready for this I

I realized that I did not have anything

I know about motherhood

society for this

reacted but you are the same

girl you have it all

The firmware you have

instinct and you are very

know a lot about children

if you open

any book about paradise

for parents there

will be about the development

consciousness and very

a lot and very little about

of drivers

I began to look who

is engaged

a change in consciousness

parents are

this is perinatal

psychology

studying her personal

experience with

other moms

practice gave me

very

many issues with

which

encounters

modern woman and

one of the global

problems is something that

our women

It is very difficult

to decide to become mothers

what has changed

we can get

the answer to this question

if we look at

an example from the point of view

historians because

literally another century

back women and there

mother keeper

hearth and a girl she with

childhood experience

be my mother’s

help them how to be

live how to be

woman next to her

gave birth to all grew up

she knew for sure

be approved oh she

should marry and

give birth as soon as possible

more children

changes appeared

when a woman

the road to

education policy

and business girls

Steel says another

and began to speak

teach well that you

could then work

that all of you

the girl was respected

it was said

somebody heard it

and yet we have become

speak only in

hem not bring no

did not walk who

ever give a favor

heard something

similar can be

in other words, I

just heard and

the girl obediently

studied worked

strove it means

that the school wants us

gold medal to the sky with

with a red diploma

career work is

everything requires

the maximum

concentration on

personal development

look

it turns out that

change in society

led to a change

personal

priorities for women

the second factor that

move it

birth of a child is

capabilities

post-industrial

societies

tell me which of you

can continue

training which of you

ever played

some games

eg

intellectual

games

who among you is still

can continue with

parents on this

you are adults many

you phenomenon

long

he gives us childhood

possibility more

focus on

self- development

because the fact that I

a little before perry

listed

develop learning

please be nice

others

this is all that

provided

child survival

and here we understand

that grown children do not

want to give birth to their

children are fine

we know that children

should appear

of adults

but then comes his own

public rights

which presses on us

cultural norms

need some kind of

manner

stimulate

continuation

renewal of

which of you

ever heard

when you give birth already

thought about

baby whale parts

you tick about what

you think in general find

a man and

it can be said

absolutely not here

only those close to you

people are not just a family

absolutely

strangers

which it would seem

should be all the same

it can be neighbors

and colleagues and in general

extraneous people

in transport, I myself

recently rose in

elevator with his son and

elderly neighbor

know a few

seconds he managed

praise me what

beautiful with me

child

I appeal to my

son ska but you are my mother then

Tell the couple

brother or sister

parent and went out and

left us with this

a matter which is

the final was taken so

here I turn our

she grew up

learned to work for her

men of firmware are you

you will not give birth to a child

I was told to learn

studied did not speak

I worked I worked

about the child nothing

was but it’s good

understands what to distinguish

Well, such a child

child is

pregnancy delivery and

the baby is there

do with the baby

motherhood, I do

I do not know anything about this

but it seems like my life

will change capitally

and she has a choice

or it continues

career work there

where everything is clear there

already 10 years old like everyone else

absolutely everything at all

it is known either it

radically changes

his life and he rather

only for a very long time

term because she

thinks this is the ghetto of the year

three no’s because

that us a little with

baby sit

then he goes to the kindergarten on

really understands

what is it for a long time that

it’s all for good

and still modern

women who are very

prone to

perfectionism is

goes and rules still

one task that is

plus amg already available

earlier and consciousness on

explodes with a question

how am I at all this

can consult remember

in the beginning I promised you

explain why not

about men because

the birth of a child is

crisis after his cancer

after the birth of life

women forever

is radically changing

a man can

life change

can go on

that’s why we

talking about women

therefore so

painful and more

to be honest when I

prepared for this

speech I

looked through

social networks I

wanted to see what

people write about

birth of children now

and I counted

necessary to make

some

comments

to work search

translators because

what

and my woman if you

tell the man I do not

I want a baby

I’m afraid of the baby for

men and he knows what

every woman wants

and go it can

it sounds crazy but what

so I’m afraid of the baby

but do not go there

children I do not even know

my house lives spiders

its color is usually

cockroaches feed husband

and when I decided I think

I will try to do from

the very result of it

do 3 gloves

but I could not take

cockroach in the hand I

I’m afraid I have everything

instincts and evolution

tells me what it is

can be dangerous

man after all you

understand that a woman

not so refers to

for children he does not

frightening therefore when

a woman says I do not

I want children I’m afraid

children actually

she says I do not want

changes in its

I feel life

incredible alarm

I do not understand what

will be further for

saving parity I

still a little bit

I work as an interpreter

because my darlings

women when you

I do not want to say

child and

guess what

you are talking about here that

I just said well

your man hears

I once again remind

all women want

I do not want a child

child from you I do not

I want and do not accept

you and maybe so

you will be more

understand their reaction

on your words and here

my performance

in general it would be possible

finish athletes

why my wife does not

wants to have a baby

because she does not

has a motive for

changes in its

she does not want to live

change understandably

known and yet I

has already raised

social and personal

historical aspects

we have one more

an important point is

our biology for

maternal instinct

meet the female

hormones such taxis

oxytocin estrogen

Prolactin you can

they can be clearly seen when

there is a girl he could

there are some workers

I have plans for everything

clearly

structured

here she meets

are familiar with

toddler

she feels

absolutely china

rational feelings

at that moment she

feels the desire and

the opportunity to give birth

child if same

woman is

see our active

life and muddy infantry

seeks somewhere

move

it is

impact

antagonists of female

male hormones

testosterone

adrenaline cortisol

they block and she

is considering

birth of a child but

as a long-term

project that

classifies

resources and know

Mom this work without

without

breaks without being broke

salaries without premiums

than incomprehensibility on

in fact, of course

be a mom out and this

opportunity

combine with work a

with the help of the family this

really very

really and when

see how it grows

your baby is his

unconditional love

his achievement

smile is something that does not

measured by any

money and yet

once we have a question

originated from men I

I’ll try briefly

answer the question what

do the same on the male

language

Imagine

even you

situation we are all

you know this

systems approach

system family is that

if the system has

purpose imagine

If you came up with an idea

start-up to their

friend or

partner was looking for

I have a super idea to us

you need to do this here

he is ready for you

to listen to him just like that

okay everything doing

I told you everything

I would like to do this

and ears will there be something

develop normally

when do you

some kind of project

find out what we need

will require what you need

to do this

you can be prevented

what is needed here is not

will go by the same

ways and then when

your woman will see

what are you interested in

what are you cooking for it

participate for you

this is important when she

feel you

trust in this moment

will work again

biology and

biological you here

this need

having a baby she

can be

realized it you

will be together

sometime will change

your family because

what to give birth to a child

this is not an end in itself

birth is not achieved

the birth of a child is

opportunity

this is a new

life thanks

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