[Music] hi please take a journey with me today
hi please take a journey with me today
hi please take a journey with me today inside of your mind to either start a
inside of your mind to either start a
inside of your mind to either start a new way of thinking or to change a
new way of thinking or to change a
new way of thinking or to change a pattern of thought that you already have
pattern of thought that you already have
pattern of thought that you already have as psychologists we believe that the
as psychologists we believe that the
as psychologists we believe that the greatest goal of humans is to connect
greatest goal of humans is to connect
greatest goal of humans is to connect and one of the ways that we connect is
and one of the ways that we connect is
and one of the ways that we connect is through building systems so please
through building systems so please
through building systems so please imagine with me for a second that we all
imagine with me for a second that we all
imagine with me for a second that we all live within systems starting with the
live within systems starting with the
live within systems starting with the smallest system our families and growing
smallest system our families and growing
smallest system our families and growing ever larger to include our schools work
ever larger to include our schools work
ever larger to include our schools work communities our countries and even the
communities our countries and even the
communities our countries and even the entire world this is one of the ways
entire world this is one of the ways
entire world this is one of the ways that we interact with one another it’s
that we interact with one another it’s
that we interact with one another it’s one of the ways that we connect the
one of the ways that we connect the
one of the ways that we connect the system’s impact us and we impact the
system’s impact us and we impact the
system’s impact us and we impact the systems within these systems we entry
systems within these systems we entry
systems within these systems we entry influenced one another with our
influenced one another with our
influenced one another with our individual power and with the collective
individual power and with the collective
individual power and with the collective power of the institutions that help to
power of the institutions that help to
power of the institutions that help to manage the systems the green arrows
manage the systems the green arrows
manage the systems the green arrows represent the isms and bias that we each
represent the isms and bias that we each
represent the isms and bias that we each experience pushing in on us the blue
experience pushing in on us the blue
experience pushing in on us the blue arrows pushing out represent the
arrows pushing out represent the
arrows pushing out represent the privileges and power that we each have
privileges and power that we each have
privileges and power that we each have that push on each other and the systems
that push on each other and the systems
that push on each other and the systems that we are a part of taking myself as
that we are a part of taking myself as
that we are a part of taking myself as an example some of my blue arrows are my
an example some of my blue arrows are my
an example some of my blue arrows are my privileges and power include that I am
privileges and power include that I am
privileges and power include that I am white I am straight I am sis I’m
white I am straight I am sis I’m
white I am straight I am sis I’m able-bodied I am middle-class and I am
able-bodied I am middle-class and I am
able-bodied I am middle-class and I am educated one of the green arrows are
educated one of the green arrows are
educated one of the green arrows are biased that I experience that pushes
biased that I experience that pushes
biased that I experience that pushes down on me is that I am a woman in this
down on me is that I am a woman in this
down on me is that I am a woman in this and many societies being a man has more
and many societies being a man has more
and many societies being a man has more privileges and power than being a woman
privileges and power than being a woman
privileges and power than being a woman here’s a twist we tend to only be able
here’s a twist we tend to only be able
here’s a twist we tend to only be able to see the arrows that we ourselves
to see the arrows that we ourselves
to see the arrows that we ourselves experience so for me when I see another
experience so for me when I see another
experience so for me when I see another woman I can think I bet she experiences
woman I can think I bet she experiences
woman I can think I bet she experiences bias because she’s a woman too wouldn’t
bias because she’s a woman too wouldn’t
bias because she’s a woman too wouldn’t it be great if you could know more about
it be great if you could know more about
it be great if you could know more about your own bias and privileged arrows
your own bias and privileged arrows
your own bias and privileged arrows well as those of the people around you
well as those of the people around you
well as those of the people around you that’s awareness a lot of people are
that’s awareness a lot of people are
that’s awareness a lot of people are talking about unconscious bias awareness
talking about unconscious bias awareness
talking about unconscious bias awareness and that is great it’s great to get
and that is great it’s great to get
and that is great it’s great to get awareness however what we’re finding in
awareness however what we’re finding in
awareness however what we’re finding in the research is that when people get
the research is that when people get
the research is that when people get awareness sometimes they have no idea
awareness sometimes they have no idea
awareness sometimes they have no idea what to do with it they begin to feel
what to do with it they begin to feel
what to do with it they begin to feel guilt and shame guilt and shame lead to
guilt and shame guilt and shame lead to
guilt and shame guilt and shame lead to denial when we have denial we shut down
denial when we have denial we shut down
denial when we have denial we shut down when we shut down we cannot connect with
when we shut down we cannot connect with
when we shut down we cannot connect with other people so I started thinking
other people so I started thinking
other people so I started thinking wouldn’t it be great if we were aware
wouldn’t it be great if we were aware
wouldn’t it be great if we were aware plus we had some tools that would help
plus we had some tools that would help
plus we had some tools that would help us to better connect with other people
us to better connect with other people
us to better connect with other people in all the areas of our life so I came
in all the areas of our life so I came
in all the areas of our life so I came up with this idea we have awareness plus
up with this idea we have awareness plus
up with this idea we have awareness plus we get education plus empathy and
we get education plus empathy and
we get education plus empathy and together these three equal fluid EQ
together these three equal fluid EQ
together these three equal fluid EQ fluid EQ is the ability to connect more
fluid EQ is the ability to connect more
fluid EQ is the ability to connect more deeply and more meaningfully with all
deeply and more meaningfully with all
deeply and more meaningfully with all the people in your life people like you
the people in your life people like you
the people in your life people like you and not like you in the different
and not like you in the different
and not like you in the different systems that you are a part of so let’s
systems that you are a part of so let’s
systems that you are a part of so let’s think again about that awareness what is
think again about that awareness what is
think again about that awareness what is awareness awareness is knowing more
awareness awareness is knowing more
awareness awareness is knowing more about who you are in the world about
about who you are in the world about
about who you are in the world about your power and your privileges as well
your power and your privileges as well
your power and your privileges as well as the bias that you might experience
as the bias that you might experience
as the bias that you might experience what’s bias well bias is important
what’s bias well bias is important
what’s bias well bias is important because our brains have to sort through
because our brains have to sort through
because our brains have to sort through millions of pieces of information minute
millions of pieces of information minute
millions of pieces of information minute by minute bias is part of that function
by minute bias is part of that function
by minute bias is part of that function and it is essential when we talk about
and it is essential when we talk about
and it is essential when we talk about bias we generally focus on implicit bias
bias we generally focus on implicit bias
bias we generally focus on implicit bias which comes from our unconscious minds
which comes from our unconscious minds
which comes from our unconscious minds that’s unfortunate because the second
that’s unfortunate because the second
that’s unfortunate because the second half of bias is explicit bias which
half of bias is explicit bias which
half of bias is explicit bias which comes from our conscious Minds implicit
comes from our conscious Minds implicit
comes from our conscious Minds implicit bias is formed in the brainstem the most
bias is formed in the brainstem the most
bias is formed in the brainstem the most primary and basic parts of our brain the
primary and basic parts of our brain the
primary and basic parts of our brain the brainstem is responsible for helping us
brainstem is responsible for helping us
brainstem is responsible for helping us have initial reactions as well as basic
have initial reactions as well as basic
have initial reactions as well as basic functions such as breathing on the
functions such as breathing on the
functions such as breathing on the their hand explicit bias is formed in
their hand explicit bias is formed in
their hand explicit bias is formed in your frontal cortex which is the most
your frontal cortex which is the most
your frontal cortex which is the most advanced part of your brain and it’s
advanced part of your brain and it’s
advanced part of your brain and it’s responsible for executive functioning
responsible for executive functioning
responsible for executive functioning and planning you can manage your bias
and planning you can manage your bias
and planning you can manage your bias all you have to do is have some
all you have to do is have some
all you have to do is have some awareness engage your frontal cortex and
awareness engage your frontal cortex and
awareness engage your frontal cortex and come up with new ways of thinking we can
come up with new ways of thinking we can
come up with new ways of thinking we can either manage our bias or we can pretend
either manage our bias or we can pretend
either manage our bias or we can pretend it isn’t there
it isn’t there
it isn’t there if one way to manage that bias is to say
if one way to manage that bias is to say
if one way to manage that bias is to say I accept that it’s there move past
I accept that it’s there move past
I accept that it’s there move past denial and get shame and guilt out of
denial and get shame and guilt out of
denial and get shame and guilt out of the way another way to manage bias is to
the way another way to manage bias is to
the way another way to manage bias is to get educated remember the second piece
get educated remember the second piece
get educated remember the second piece how do you get educated you get new
how do you get educated you get new
how do you get educated you get new experiences you read and you start
experiences you read and you start
experiences you read and you start listening to other people because you
listening to other people because you
listening to other people because you have some awareness you realize that you
have some awareness you realize that you
have some awareness you realize that you cannot assume another person’s
cannot assume another person’s
cannot assume another person’s experience so you ask and you ask and
experience so you ask and you ask and
experience so you ask and you ask and you ask awareness helps us to know who
you ask awareness helps us to know who
you ask awareness helps us to know who we are and how we fit into the systems
we are and how we fit into the systems
we are and how we fit into the systems of our life education helps us to have
of our life education helps us to have
of our life education helps us to have shared knowledge understanding and
shared knowledge understanding and
shared knowledge understanding and language and empathy helps us to begin
language and empathy helps us to begin
language and empathy helps us to begin to see what another person’s experience
to see what another person’s experience
to see what another person’s experience is without empathy you can have
is without empathy you can have
is without empathy you can have awareness and hopefully some information
awareness and hopefully some information
awareness and hopefully some information and education but it is unlikely that
and education but it is unlikely that
and education but it is unlikely that you will be deeply connected with
you will be deeply connected with
you will be deeply connected with another person or groups of people
another person or groups of people
another person or groups of people empathy helps us to have openness to
empathy helps us to have openness to
empathy helps us to have openness to specific aspects of empathy
specific aspects of empathy
specific aspects of empathy self-awareness and mindfulness lead us
self-awareness and mindfulness lead us
self-awareness and mindfulness lead us to be less defensive and when we are
to be less defensive and when we are
to be less defensive and when we are less defensive we can move from a place
less defensive we can move from a place
less defensive we can move from a place of disconnection to connection empathy
of disconnection to connection empathy
of disconnection to connection empathy comes from genuineness and vulnerability
comes from genuineness and vulnerability
comes from genuineness and vulnerability all of these things are learned empathy
all of these things are learned empathy
all of these things are learned empathy is taught I will never become you
is taught I will never become you
is taught I will never become you and you will never become me however if
and you will never become me however if
and you will never become me however if we commit individually and collectively
we commit individually and collectively
we commit individually and collectively to raise our fluid EQ we can control our
to raise our fluid EQ we can control our
to raise our fluid EQ we can control our bias and we can all connect better and
bias and we can all connect better and
bias and we can all connect better and when we connect better we can all be
when we connect better we can all be
when we connect better we can all be better thank you
better thank you
better thank you [Applause]
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