all right hello everyone so I want you to remember when you’re a
so I want you to remember when you’re a
so I want you to remember when you’re a kid and everything seems to make you
kid and everything seems to make you
kid and everything seems to make you smile like these are pictures of me when
smile like these are pictures of me when
smile like these are pictures of me when I was five years old I used to walk
I was five years old I used to walk
I was five years old I used to walk around the house with the diaper on my
around the house with the diaper on my
around the house with the diaper on my head and that was what made me happy but
head and that was what made me happy but
head and that was what made me happy but nowadays if I did that you’d look at me
nowadays if I did that you’d look at me
nowadays if I did that you’d look at me like I was crazy
like I was crazy
like I was crazy also when I was four years old I loved
also when I was four years old I loved
also when I was four years old I loved little sandwiches like peanut butter and
little sandwiches like peanut butter and
little sandwiches like peanut butter and jelly and that was something that made
jelly and that was something that made
jelly and that was something that made me smile without a doubt but one thing I
me smile without a doubt but one thing I
me smile without a doubt but one thing I loved the most was when my sister used
loved the most was when my sister used
loved the most was when my sister used to sing to me so we’re gonna do a
to sing to me so we’re gonna do a
to sing to me so we’re gonna do a sing-along you ready if you’re happy and
sing-along you ready if you’re happy and
sing-along you ready if you’re happy and you know it clap your hands if you’re
you know it clap your hands if you’re
you know it clap your hands if you’re happy and you know it clap your hands if
happy and you know it clap your hands if
happy and you know it clap your hands if you’re happy and you know it and you
you’re happy and you know it and you
you’re happy and you know it and you really want to show it if you’re happy
really want to show it if you’re happy
really want to show it if you’re happy and you know it clap your hands
and you know it clap your hands
and you know it clap your hands that’s pretty good so you see happiness
that’s pretty good so you see happiness
that’s pretty good so you see happiness can be contagious but it’s only if you
can be contagious but it’s only if you
can be contagious but it’s only if you let it I don’t believe that happiness is
let it I don’t believe that happiness is
let it I don’t believe that happiness is a feeling I believe it’s a choice a
a feeling I believe it’s a choice a
a feeling I believe it’s a choice a choice that you make and you all made
choice that you make and you all made
choice that you make and you all made that choice some of you even sang so
that choice some of you even sang so
that choice some of you even sang so some of you who didn’t make that choice
some of you who didn’t make that choice
some of you who didn’t make that choice sell you you know you’re probably
sell you you know you’re probably
sell you you know you’re probably looking at all the rest of us like what
looking at all the rest of us like what
looking at all the rest of us like what are these people doing for instance I
are these people doing for instance I
are these people doing for instance I want to play a video of a woman that I
want to play a video of a woman that I
want to play a video of a woman that I think makes happiness continue to say
think makes happiness continue to say
think makes happiness continue to say you can tell that she’s happy so let’s
you can tell that she’s happy so let’s
you can tell that she’s happy so let’s take a look
take a look
take a look [Music]
all right so you see and if you watched
all right so you see and if you watched it from the very beginning obviously you
it from the very beginning obviously you
it from the very beginning obviously you could see that everyone behind her was
could see that everyone behind her was
could see that everyone behind her was like straight faced and then all of a
like straight faced and then all of a
like straight faced and then all of a sudden they all started smiling they
sudden they all started smiling they
sudden they all started smiling they were all really happy and you can see
were all really happy and you can see
were all really happy and you can see she’s in her element she has better
she’s in her element she has better
she’s in her element she has better dance moves than I do which is really
dance moves than I do which is really
dance moves than I do which is really hard to come by but what would happen if
hard to come by but what would happen if
hard to come by but what would happen if someone close to her that’s their
someone close to her that’s their
someone close to her that’s their husband walks down that row sees this
husband walks down that row sees this
husband walks down that row sees this wife dancing getting into the groove and
wife dancing getting into the groove and
wife dancing getting into the groove and says what are you doing you’re
says what are you doing you’re
says what are you doing you’re embarrassing yourself you’re
embarrassing yourself you’re
embarrassing yourself you’re embarrassing me
embarrassing me
embarrassing me and why are you so happy we all know
and why are you so happy we all know
and why are you so happy we all know this feeling all right at least I do
this feeling all right at least I do
this feeling all right at least I do that when you’re at your highest high
that when you’re at your highest high
that when you’re at your highest high there’s always somebody that’s gonna
there’s always somebody that’s gonna
there’s always somebody that’s gonna bring you down that might say what are
bring you down that might say what are
bring you down that might say what are you doing why are you so happy and it is
you doing why are you so happy and it is
you doing why are you so happy and it is our very interactions that can affect
our very interactions that can affect
our very interactions that can affect and do affect our emotions Harvard
and do affect our emotions Harvard
and do affect our emotions Harvard researchers have actually confirmed and
researchers have actually confirmed and
researchers have actually confirmed and yes I did study this I looked into it I
yes I did study this I looked into it I
yes I did study this I looked into it I googled it actually so Harvard
googled it actually so Harvard
googled it actually so Harvard researchers actually confirmed that it
researchers actually confirmed that it
researchers actually confirmed that it is our relationships our closest
is our relationships our closest
is our relationships our closest relationships that can affect our
relationships that can affect our
relationships that can affect our happiness our level of happiness but
happiness our level of happiness but
happiness our level of happiness but before the study even existed well
before the study even existed well
before the study even existed well before it even existed my grandmother
before it even existed my grandmother
before it even existed my grandmother used to teach me this when I was a
used to teach me this when I was a
used to teach me this when I was a little kid she always said that if you
little kid she always said that if you
little kid she always said that if you surround yourself with happy people then
surround yourself with happy people then
surround yourself with happy people then you’ll be happy and if you surround
you’ll be happy and if you surround
you’ll be happy and if you surround yourself with positive people it’ll be
yourself with positive people it’ll be
yourself with positive people it’ll be positive
positive
positive she never lives for just herself she
she never lives for just herself she
she never lives for just herself she lived for us she lived for her family
lived for us she lived for her family
lived for us she lived for her family and one thing that she used to tell us
and one thing that she used to tell us
and one thing that she used to tell us and this is my twin sister and I and my
and this is my twin sister and I and my
and this is my twin sister and I and my other sister I have a brother but I
other sister I have a brother but I
other sister I have a brother but I don’t really talk about him a lot so she
don’t really talk about him a lot so she
don’t really talk about him a lot so she just used to tell us to love one another
just used to tell us to love one another
just used to tell us to love one another she always said that love wanting loving
she always said that love wanting loving
she always said that love wanting loving one another means to care for other
one another means to care for other
one another means to care for other people to cherish other people to do
people to cherish other people to do
people to cherish other people to do things for other people and not just for
things for other people and not just for
things for other people and not just for yourself because if you love other
yourself because if you love other
yourself because if you love other people and you care for them then in
people and you care for them then in
people and you care for them then in turn you’ll be happy too and me and my
turn you’ll be happy too and me and my
turn you’ll be happy too and me and my siblings used to get in fights all the
siblings used to get in fights all the
siblings used to get in fights all the time and my parents are back there
time and my parents are back there
time and my parents are back there they’ll tell you we got in so many
they’ll tell you we got in so many
they’ll tell you we got in so many arguments and one thing my grandmother
arguments and one thing my grandmother
arguments and one thing my grandmother used to say is no matter what happens
used to say is no matter what happens
used to say is no matter what happens always and
always and
always and day on a positive because if you don’t
day on a positive because if you don’t
day on a positive because if you don’t then the next day you’re going to start
then the next day you’re going to start
then the next day you’re going to start back on that negative for my grandmother
back on that negative for my grandmother
back on that negative for my grandmother saw the value in life
saw the value in life
saw the value in life she’s valued her life and she valued it
she’s valued her life and she valued it
she’s valued her life and she valued it at that hundred percent that high is
at that hundred percent that high is
at that hundred percent that high is high so she lived every day at that 100%
high so she lived every day at that 100%
high so she lived every day at that 100% and by the end of the day for some
and by the end of the day for some
and by the end of the day for some reason somehow no matter what happened
reason somehow no matter what happened
reason somehow no matter what happened she ended it at a hundred percent and
she ended it at a hundred percent and
she ended it at a hundred percent and growing up and that’s me too you bald
growing up and that’s me too you bald
growing up and that’s me too you bald growing up I was like what are you
growing up I was like what are you
growing up I was like what are you talking about how is it possible for a
talking about how is it possible for a
talking about how is it possible for a teenager if you’re a teenager in here
teenager if you’re a teenager in here
teenager if you’re a teenager in here how is it possible for you guys to stay
how is it possible for you guys to stay
how is it possible for you guys to stay at a hundred percent when you get to
at a hundred percent when you get to
at a hundred percent when you get to school and you have all of these
school and you have all of these
school and you have all of these interactions and you’re going through
interactions and you’re going through
interactions and you’re going through your most awkward stage of development
your most awkward stage of development
your most awkward stage of development okay and those are me too you know we
okay and those are me too you know we
okay and those are me too you know we all had them all right it was proof so I
all had them all right it was proof so I
all had them all right it was proof so I was at this time in my life I was like
was at this time in my life I was like
was at this time in my life I was like how am I supposed to maintain a hundred
how am I supposed to maintain a hundred
how am I supposed to maintain a hundred percent when everything in life all of
percent when everything in life all of
percent when everything in life all of these interactions that I was going
these interactions that I was going
these interactions that I was going through were negative when I you know
through were negative when I you know
through were negative when I you know when I was six years old and my teeth
when I was six years old and my teeth
when I was six years old and my teeth were really big and I remember my mom
were really big and I remember my mom
were really big and I remember my mom bringing me to the dentist and I had to
bringing me to the dentist and I had to
bringing me to the dentist and I had to get them cut down you can see in the
get them cut down you can see in the
get them cut down you can see in the middle I had braces until I was a junior
middle I had braces until I was a junior
middle I had braces until I was a junior in high school which is not really no
in high school which is not really no
in high school which is not really no and I was wearing hand-me-downs every
and I was wearing hand-me-downs every
and I was wearing hand-me-downs every single year so I have two other sisters
single year so I have two other sisters
single year so I have two other sisters so you see it is those interactions that
so you see it is those interactions that
so you see it is those interactions that play a role in our emotions and at this
play a role in our emotions and at this
play a role in our emotions and at this time in my life I could never see myself
time in my life I could never see myself
time in my life I could never see myself the in here
the in here
the in here I was extremely self like I was always
I was extremely self like I was always
I was extremely self like I was always self assessing always looking at myself
self assessing always looking at myself
self assessing always looking at myself like there was something wrong with me
like there was something wrong with me
like there was something wrong with me because I was dealing with people that
because I was dealing with people that
because I was dealing with people that were saying that to me and I didn’t put
were saying that to me and I didn’t put
were saying that to me and I didn’t put any effort into my happiness I didn’t
any effort into my happiness I didn’t
any effort into my happiness I didn’t even think about it and it wasn’t until
even think about it and it wasn’t until
even think about it and it wasn’t until I got older like older now that I
I got older like older now that I
I got older like older now that I realized what my grandmother was say in
realized what my grandmother was say in
realized what my grandmother was say in college I studied science and with
college I studied science and with
college I studied science and with science we all know comes math and one
science we all know comes math and one
science we all know comes math and one of my classes that I’ll never forget was
of my classes that I’ll never forget was
of my classes that I’ll never forget was physics and it was all equations and my
physics and it was all equations and my
physics and it was all equations and my professor said to me if you can’t
professor said to me if you can’t
professor said to me if you can’t calculate something if you can’t show me
calculate something if you can’t show me
calculate something if you can’t show me proof you can’t give me a numerical
proof you can’t give me a numerical
proof you can’t give me a numerical value then it doesn’t exist and I
value then it doesn’t exist and I
value then it doesn’t exist and I thought about what my grandmother said
thought about what my grandmother said
thought about what my grandmother said and I thought about what my professor
and I thought about what my professor
and I thought about what my professor said and I said well if I can’t
said and I said well if I can’t
said and I said well if I can’t calculate my
calculate my
calculate my happiness then it doesn’t exist right so
happiness then it doesn’t exist right so
happiness then it doesn’t exist right so I came up with a system and I hope you
I came up with a system and I hope you
I came up with a system and I hope you all get to use it you have it in your
all get to use it you have it in your
all get to use it you have it in your bags alright so this is called the life
bags alright so this is called the life
bags alright so this is called the life point value chart it’s completely made
point value chart it’s completely made
point value chart it’s completely made up and it’s something that I like to do
up and it’s something that I like to do
up and it’s something that I like to do to help me to put effort into my
to help me to put effort into my
to help me to put effort into my happiness
happiness
happiness so you see we have positive actions or
so you see we have positive actions or
so you see we have positive actions or positive interactions throughout the day
positive interactions throughout the day
positive interactions throughout the day and then we have negative interactions
and then we have negative interactions
and then we have negative interactions and the science teacher in me had to put
and the science teacher in me had to put
and the science teacher in me had to put it into a data table and I’m gonna show
it into a data table and I’m gonna show
it into a data table and I’m gonna show you the graph that I do in a minute so
you the graph that I do in a minute so
you the graph that I do in a minute so you can see a couple of these I’ll do
you can see a couple of these I’ll do
you can see a couple of these I’ll do some examples like them this morning I
some examples like them this morning I
some examples like them this morning I woke up with a pimple right before TEDx
woke up with a pimple right before TEDx
woke up with a pimple right before TEDx so that’s minus five points on my life
so that’s minus five points on my life
so that’s minus five points on my life all right I started off with a hundred
all right I started off with a hundred
all right I started off with a hundred and I was at 95 and then if I wanted to
and I was at 95 and then if I wanted to
and I was at 95 and then if I wanted to get those points back maybe I would hold
get those points back maybe I would hold
get those points back maybe I would hold a door for somebody and smile awkwardly
a door for somebody and smile awkwardly
a door for somebody and smile awkwardly at them so that they smile back at me so
at them so that they smile back at me so
at them so that they smile back at me so I can get those three points back so
I can get those three points back so
I can get those three points back so this system we all do you might be
this system we all do you might be
this system we all do you might be looking at me like I’m crazy but we all
looking at me like I’m crazy but we all
looking at me like I’m crazy but we all do this if I was to ask you what your
do this if I was to ask you what your
do this if I was to ask you what your happiness score today you might say I
happiness score today you might say I
happiness score today you might say I have an 85 oh whoa why well this guy you
have an 85 oh whoa why well this guy you
have an 85 oh whoa why well this guy you know he was driving too slow in front of
know he was driving too slow in front of
know he was driving too slow in front of me we all know this so I want you guys
me we all know this so I want you guys
me we all know this so I want you guys to think to yourself right now what your
to think to yourself right now what your
to think to yourself right now what your score is are you at a hundred percent
score is are you at a hundred percent
score is are you at a hundred percent happiness right now okay so I’m going to
happiness right now okay so I’m going to
happiness right now okay so I’m going to plot an example for you of my day today
plot an example for you of my day today
plot an example for you of my day today okay so this is the value of happiness
okay so this is the value of happiness
okay so this is the value of happiness like my grandmother said I’m going to
like my grandmother said I’m going to
like my grandmother said I’m going to always start off at a hundred percent so
always start off at a hundred percent so
always start off at a hundred percent so there I am that’s my happiness level
there I am that’s my happiness level
there I am that’s my happiness level that’s 6:30 in the morning when I woke
that’s 6:30 in the morning when I woke
that’s 6:30 in the morning when I woke up and I noticed in the mirror that I
up and I noticed in the mirror that I
up and I noticed in the mirror that I got a pimple there I am
got a pimple there I am
got a pimple there I am okay drop down five points I get in my
okay drop down five points I get in my
okay drop down five points I get in my car and I look at my guests think and I
car and I look at my guests think and I
car and I look at my guests think and I see I have no gas so I’m like fine that
see I have no gas so I’m like fine that
see I have no gas so I’m like fine that doesn’t that’s up taking any points off
doesn’t that’s up taking any points off
doesn’t that’s up taking any points off my life let me get to the gas station
my life let me get to the gas station
my life let me get to the gas station get to the gas station only to figure
get to the gas station only to figure
get to the gas station only to figure out that I forgot my wallet
out that I forgot my wallet
out that I forgot my wallet boom I’m all the way down to zero
boom I’m all the way down to zero
boom I’m all the way down to zero Omo zero I’m freaking out like I have to
Omo zero I’m freaking out like I have to
Omo zero I’m freaking out like I have to do is headaches I have to talk in front
do is headaches I have to talk in front
do is headaches I have to talk in front of all these people I’m gonna be late
of all these people I’m gonna be late
of all these people I’m gonna be late I’m panicking and it’s all of that those
I’m panicking and it’s all of that those
I’m panicking and it’s all of that those things that I’m thinking about within
things that I’m thinking about within
things that I’m thinking about within myself I’m thinking about myself again
myself I’m thinking about myself again
myself I’m thinking about myself again right I’m thinking about all these
right I’m thinking about all these
right I’m thinking about all these things and
things and
things and back down to zero now if I didn’t have
back down to zero now if I didn’t have
back down to zero now if I didn’t have this system in place that I’ve
this system in place that I’ve
this system in place that I’ve completely made up then I would be stuck
completely made up then I would be stuck
completely made up then I would be stuck there and we all know that there are
there and we all know that there are
there and we all know that there are people in here that you get stuck there
people in here that you get stuck there
people in here that you get stuck there down there and you can’t get Yusei
down there and you can’t get Yusei
down there and you can’t get Yusei itself out of it and the best way to get
itself out of it and the best way to get
itself out of it and the best way to get yourself out of it is to identify what
yourself out of it is to identify what
yourself out of it is to identify what makes you happy and try to recognize it
makes you happy and try to recognize it
makes you happy and try to recognize it because if you make a choice to be happy
because if you make a choice to be happy
because if you make a choice to be happy you can get yourself up from there in a
you can get yourself up from there in a
you can get yourself up from there in a heartbeat
heartbeat
heartbeat so I’m at the gas station and I’m like
so I’m at the gas station and I’m like
so I’m at the gas station and I’m like oh my gosh I’m down here I’m freaking
oh my gosh I’m down here I’m freaking
oh my gosh I’m down here I’m freaking out and I look at the guest tenant and
out and I look at the guest tenant and
out and I look at the guest tenant and I’m smiling I’m like I’m so sorry sir I
I’m smiling I’m like I’m so sorry sir I
I’m smiling I’m like I’m so sorry sir I don’t have any money and he looks at me
don’t have any money and he looks at me
don’t have any money and he looks at me and he goes it’s okay because I was
and he goes it’s okay because I was
and he goes it’s okay because I was freaking out I was panicking because
freaking out I was panicking because
freaking out I was panicking because it’s all right gas is on the house I’m
it’s all right gas is on the house I’m
it’s all right gas is on the house I’m like the gas is on the house like who
like the gas is on the house like who
like the gas is on the house like who gives someone free gas so it’s like
gives someone free gas so it’s like
gives someone free gas so it’s like that’s so great so I jumped right back
that’s so great so I jumped right back
that’s so great so I jumped right back up right I get here to TEDx and my
up right I get here to TEDx and my
up right I get here to TEDx and my parking spots take it so I backed out so
parking spots take it so I backed out so
parking spots take it so I backed out so you can see obviously we know what the
you can see obviously we know what the
you can see obviously we know what the pattern is gonna be it’s gonna be an
pattern is gonna be it’s gonna be an
pattern is gonna be it’s gonna be an up-and-down battle and all of us have
up-and-down battle and all of us have
up-and-down battle and all of us have that throughout a day and that’s normal
that throughout a day and that’s normal
that throughout a day and that’s normal we’re supposed to have these
we’re supposed to have these
we’re supposed to have these interactions but it’s the way that you
interactions but it’s the way that you
interactions but it’s the way that you choose to get out of them that counts
choose to get out of them that counts
choose to get out of them that counts the most so I started doing this and I
the most so I started doing this and I
the most so I started doing this and I really throughout the whole day I
really throughout the whole day I
really throughout the whole day I started to plot my points and I started
started to plot my points and I started
started to plot my points and I started to recognize something if you look at
to recognize something if you look at
to recognize something if you look at this picture and hopefully you know what
this picture and hopefully you know what
this picture and hopefully you know what this is it resembles something raise
this is it resembles something raise
this is it resembles something raise your hand if you know what it resembles
your hand if you know what it resembles
your hand if you know what it resembles okay so it resembles electrocardiogram
okay so it resembles electrocardiogram
okay so it resembles electrocardiogram which is the measure of your heartbeat
which is the measure of your heartbeat
which is the measure of your heartbeat so starting to think maybe that’s what
so starting to think maybe that’s what
so starting to think maybe that’s what my grandmother was say maybe what she
my grandmother was say maybe what she
my grandmother was say maybe what she was saying was that if you if you value
was saying was that if you if you value
was saying was that if you if you value your happiness if you recognize life and
your happiness if you recognize life and
your happiness if you recognize life and you live life to the fullest
you live life to the fullest
you live life to the fullest then happiness is ultimately your
then happiness is ultimately your
then happiness is ultimately your heartbeat right because if you’re not
heartbeat right because if you’re not
heartbeat right because if you’re not happy then are you truly living and you
happy then are you truly living and you
happy then are you truly living and you have to be able to make a choice to be
have to be able to make a choice to be
have to be able to make a choice to be happy in order to live life so I just
happy in order to live life so I just
happy in order to live life so I just wanted to say thank you for giving me
wanted to say thank you for giving me
wanted to say thank you for giving me back those 15 points I lost earlier
back those 15 points I lost earlier
back those 15 points I lost earlier today and I just want you all to live
today and I just want you all to live
today and I just want you all to live life and be happy
life and be happy
life and be happy [Applause]
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