I have a soft spot about time I always felt on running out of it with parents
felt on running out of it with parents
felt on running out of it with parents active in medicine and especially
active in medicine and especially
active in medicine and especially emergency medicine it was as if my life
emergency medicine it was as if my life
emergency medicine it was as if my life evolved around a ticking sound I heard
evolved around a ticking sound I heard
evolved around a ticking sound I heard the ticking sound as a young athlete
the ticking sound as a young athlete
the ticking sound as a young athlete I heard the ticking sound as a young
I heard the ticking sound as a young
I heard the ticking sound as a young musician I heard the ticking sound as a
musician I heard the ticking sound as a
musician I heard the ticking sound as a young activist and I was actually so
young activist and I was actually so
young activist and I was actually so interested in my high school yearbook I
interested in my high school yearbook I
interested in my high school yearbook I wrote that I feel that I’m always behind
wrote that I feel that I’m always behind
wrote that I feel that I’m always behind time and my goal in life is someday to
time and my goal in life is someday to
time and my goal in life is someday to beat it so I went I went to study
beat it so I went I went to study
beat it so I went I went to study I got passionate about student politics
I got passionate about student politics
I got passionate about student politics then European politics and that called
then European politics and that called
then European politics and that called me travelling which led to an MBA and
me travelling which led to an MBA and
me travelling which led to an MBA and more studying
more studying
more studying I got passionate about knowledge
I got passionate about knowledge
I got passionate about knowledge harvesting problem solving human rights
harvesting problem solving human rights
harvesting problem solving human rights intrapreneurship and business I founded
intrapreneurship and business I founded
intrapreneurship and business I founded companies I co-founded organizations I
companies I co-founded organizations I
companies I co-founded organizations I mentored I taught I created workshops I
mentored I taught I created workshops I
mentored I taught I created workshops I shared my opinion and spoke over and
shared my opinion and spoke over and
shared my opinion and spoke over and over and over again about all things
over and over again about all things
over and over again about all things that mattered so by 28 I felt that I was
that mattered so by 28 I felt that I was
that mattered so by 28 I felt that I was the change I wanted to see in the world
the change I wanted to see in the world
the change I wanted to see in the world you know like no time wasting or both of
you know like no time wasting or both of
you know like no time wasting or both of the air flying no dropping no hesitating
the air flying no dropping no hesitating
the air flying no dropping no hesitating the whole deal and then one day my phone
the whole deal and then one day my phone
the whole deal and then one day my phone rang while I was in Athens and my mother
rang while I was in Athens and my mother
rang while I was in Athens and my mother had a stroke and she died from a triple
had a stroke and she died from a triple
had a stroke and she died from a triple aneurysm less than 48 hours later people
aneurysm less than 48 hours later people
aneurysm less than 48 hours later people spend their lives trying to find
spend their lives trying to find
spend their lives trying to find motivation they spend their lives trying
motivation they spend their lives trying
motivation they spend their lives trying to practice time management trying so
to practice time management trying so
to practice time management trying so hard not to waste any time and I used to
hard not to waste any time and I used to
hard not to waste any time and I used to say to my friends and my colleagues and
say to my friends and my colleagues and
say to my friends and my colleagues and anybody would
anybody would
anybody would listen that your time is valuable in
listen that your time is valuable in
listen that your time is valuable in billable so you better not waste it so
billable so you better not waste it so
billable so you better not waste it so what happens when for you everything is
what happens when for you everything is
what happens when for you everything is reversed no people after something like
reversed no people after something like
reversed no people after something like this they get motivated they want to do
this they get motivated they want to do
this they get motivated they want to do things they want to tackle the things
things they want to tackle the things
things they want to tackle the things that brought them pain they tackle the
that brought them pain they tackle the
that brought them pain they tackle the issues that they had in mind they
issues that they had in mind they
issues that they had in mind they reinvent themselves they appreciate
reinvent themselves they appreciate
reinvent themselves they appreciate whatever they feel that needs
whatever they feel that needs
whatever they feel that needs appreciation so what happened went for
appreciation so what happened went for
appreciation so what happened went for you now everything seems a bit like a
you now everything seems a bit like a
you now everything seems a bit like a joke
joke
joke like why do it anyway there is like such
like why do it anyway there is like such
like why do it anyway there is like such a big chance of waking up tomorrow
a big chance of waking up tomorrow
a big chance of waking up tomorrow federally sick or even worse not waking
federally sick or even worse not waking
federally sick or even worse not waking up at all so why waste time trying to
up at all so why waste time trying to
up at all so why waste time trying to fix something that other people do wrong
fix something that other people do wrong
fix something that other people do wrong or fix something that is unfixable or go
or fix something that is unfixable or go
or fix something that is unfixable or go against what this world and come in our
against what this world and come in our
against what this world and come in our society command like try debate aiko pay
society command like try debate aiko pay
society command like try debate aiko pay when the ceiling seems like the most
when the ceiling seems like the most
when the ceiling seems like the most attractive thing in the world it’s not
attractive thing in the world it’s not
attractive thing in the world it’s not happening but people get to that low
happening but people get to that low
happening but people get to that low point one way or another something in
point one way or another something in
point one way or another something in the course of our lives Matt livers sad
the course of our lives Matt livers sad
the course of our lives Matt livers sad demotivated or lonely even for me all
demotivated or lonely even for me all
demotivated or lonely even for me all those feelings were sparked by my
those feelings were sparked by my
those feelings were sparked by my mother’s death for other people might be
mother’s death for other people might be
mother’s death for other people might be a divorce getting fired or anything
a divorce getting fired or anything
a divorce getting fired or anything relevant to something really really
relevant to something really really
relevant to something really really important and there is no reason to hide
important and there is no reason to hide
important and there is no reason to hide that pain the more you hide it the more
that pain the more you hide it the more
that pain the more you hide it the more powerful gets and it sucks the will and
powerful gets and it sucks the will and
powerful gets and it sucks the will and the life out of you day after day week
the life out of you day after day week
the life out of you day after day week after week and then here comes a guilt
after week and then here comes a guilt
after week and then here comes a guilt guilt that you are trying to ignore as
guilt that you are trying to ignore as
guilt that you are trying to ignore as you keep on staring at that same ceiling
you keep on staring at that same ceiling
you keep on staring at that same ceiling thinking that there will never be a
thinking that there will never be a
thinking that there will never be a reason good enough to break that bond
reason good enough to break that bond
reason good enough to break that bond that seems so simple and attractive well
that seems so simple and attractive well
that seems so simple and attractive well everything around you goes to shit so
everything around you goes to shit so
everything around you goes to shit so that was me for two whole years
that was me for two whole years
that was me for two whole years like my mind was bottled my heart and
like my mind was bottled my heart and
like my mind was bottled my heart and vice versa and I promised I struggled
vice versa and I promised I struggled
vice versa and I promised I struggled God knows I did first after the incident
God knows I did first after the incident
God knows I did first after the incident I was still fierce
I was still fierce
I was still fierce still doing my stuff still doing my job
still doing my stuff still doing my job
still doing my stuff still doing my job but then slowly every project seemed
but then slowly every project seemed
but then slowly every project seemed dull and slowly and slower I keep
dull and slowly and slower I keep
dull and slowly and slower I keep pushing family of friends away clients
pushing family of friends away clients
pushing family of friends away clients and anybody would ever disturb my state
and anybody would ever disturb my state
and anybody would ever disturb my state of mind they I don’t give a rat’s ass
of mind they I don’t give a rat’s ass
of mind they I don’t give a rat’s ass one and then I try to travel and it
one and then I try to travel and it
one and then I try to travel and it seemed such an obvious thing to do
seemed such an obvious thing to do
seemed such an obvious thing to do travelling but the travel of those years
travelling but the travel of those years
travelling but the travel of those years they come to memory as a series of
they come to memory as a series of
they come to memory as a series of beautiful images paired with sad music
beautiful images paired with sad music
beautiful images paired with sad music blasting in my ears throughout all of it
blasting in my ears throughout all of it
blasting in my ears throughout all of it so I’m going to open a parenthesis here
so I’m going to open a parenthesis here
so I’m going to open a parenthesis here and introduce to you a rule that is
and introduce to you a rule that is
and introduce to you a rule that is really really important for my story do
really really important for my story do
really really important for my story do we all know the five-second rule here so
we all know the five-second rule here so
we all know the five-second rule here so okay so the five-second rule besides
okay so the five-second rule besides
okay so the five-second rule besides eating food from the floor refers to
eating food from the floor refers to
eating food from the floor refers to something very very basic our brain
something very very basic our brain
something very very basic our brain although Almighty has two basic
although Almighty has two basic
although Almighty has two basic functions function number one is the
functions function number one is the
functions function number one is the autopilot it it is what helps us form
autopilot it it is what helps us form
autopilot it it is what helps us form our routines and go by our everyday life
our routines and go by our everyday life
our routines and go by our everyday life so who here remembers how they got to
so who here remembers how they got to
so who here remembers how they got to work today
work today
work today I don’t it’s it’s on autopilot it’s the
I don’t it’s it’s on autopilot it’s the
I don’t it’s it’s on autopilot it’s the same street at the same time autopilot I
same street at the same time autopilot I
same street at the same time autopilot I don’t even remember but one day let’s
don’t even remember but one day let’s
don’t even remember but one day let’s say I woke up and I say fuck you I’m not
say I woke up and I say fuck you I’m not
say I woke up and I say fuck you I’m not going to go to work today
going to go to work today
going to go to work today and at first you get so excited but then
and at first you get so excited but then
and at first you get so excited but then a bit of guilt kicks in that you lied
a bit of guilt kicks in that you lied
a bit of guilt kicks in that you lied your way out of it and you’re kind of
your way out of it and you’re kind of
your way out of it and you’re kind of starting contemplating oh maybe I should
starting contemplating oh maybe I should
starting contemplating oh maybe I should go back so enter function number two
go back so enter function number two
go back so enter function number two which is the emergency brake
which is the emergency brake
which is the emergency brake every time we decided to leave our
every time we decided to leave our
every time we decided to leave our comfort zone our brain pulls the
comfort zone our brain pulls the
comfort zone our brain pulls the emergency brake our brain needs less
emergency brake our brain needs less
emergency brake our brain needs less than a millisecond to recognize a facial
than a millisecond to recognize a facial
than a millisecond to recognize a facial expression and it needs five seconds to
expression and it needs five seconds to
expression and it needs five seconds to pull the emergency brake that will
pull the emergency brake that will
pull the emergency brake that will safely guide us back to our lovely
safely guide us back to our lovely
safely guide us back to our lovely comfort zone that we’ve always been
comfort zone that we’ve always been
comfort zone that we’ve always been there and we kind of like it
there and we kind of like it
there and we kind of like it so a crazy idea has five seconds to
so a crazy idea has five seconds to
so a crazy idea has five seconds to survive without an action and I think
survive without an action and I think
survive without an action and I think not Brooks from introducing me to this
not Brooks from introducing me to this
not Brooks from introducing me to this rule with her TED speech of 2011 so one
rule with her TED speech of 2011 so one
rule with her TED speech of 2011 so one day two year after two years after the
day two year after two years after the
day two year after two years after the incident
incident
incident my mother incident in a bit before I
my mother incident in a bit before I
my mother incident in a bit before I turned 30 I got an invitation to speak
turned 30 I got an invitation to speak
turned 30 I got an invitation to speak at an event about women in
at an event about women in
at an event about women in entrepreneurship to your prior to that I
entrepreneurship to your prior to that I
entrepreneurship to your prior to that I would be thrilled to have the
would be thrilled to have the
would be thrilled to have the opportunity to share that opinion trust
opportunity to share that opinion trust
opportunity to share that opinion trust me I am a sharer like I share my opinion
me I am a sharer like I share my opinion
me I am a sharer like I share my opinion and this time though it felt a bit like
and this time though it felt a bit like
and this time though it felt a bit like a chore but I went there anyway Opus a
a chore but I went there anyway Opus a
a chore but I went there anyway Opus a mistake and moody like I stand in front
mistake and moody like I stand in front
mistake and moody like I stand in front of the audience at some point I told
of the audience at some point I told
of the audience at some point I told them I’m preaching to the wrong crowd
them I’m preaching to the wrong crowd
them I’m preaching to the wrong crowd and then I decided to step off and go
and then I decided to step off and go
and then I decided to step off and go back to my seat that crowd though the
back to my seat that crowd though the
back to my seat that crowd though the same one I am dressed as the wrong one
same one I am dressed as the wrong one
same one I am dressed as the wrong one to talk to decided that it wasn’t time
to talk to decided that it wasn’t time
to talk to decided that it wasn’t time for me to go back so they pulled me act
for me to go back so they pulled me act
for me to go back so they pulled me act back on the stage and i sat there
back on the stage and i sat there
back on the stage and i sat there stoically while they challenged me with
stoically while they challenged me with
stoically while they challenged me with their questions and their ideas and
their questions and their ideas and
their questions and their ideas and their experiences why do you think that
their experiences why do you think that
their experiences why do you think that quotas are ridiculous it is proven that
quotas are ridiculous it is proven that
quotas are ridiculous it is proven that in notation a and B and C they help the
in notation a and B and C they help the
in notation a and B and C they help the women movement tremendously women should
women movement tremendously women should
women movement tremendously women should pick that opportunity no matter what and
pick that opportunity no matter what and
pick that opportunity no matter what and it’s unfair but they should do it so
it’s unfair but they should do it so
it’s unfair but they should do it so five-second rule I was never big on the
five-second rule I was never big on the
five-second rule I was never big on the gender equality movement never I kind of
gender equality movement never I kind of
gender equality movement never I kind of scratched the surface considering myself
scratched the surface considering myself
scratched the surface considering myself as one of those women died they get
as one of those women died they get
as one of those women died they get along with men quite nicely like tomboy
along with men quite nicely like tomboy
along with men quite nicely like tomboy half of my life one of the guys the rest
half of my life one of the guys the rest
half of my life one of the guys the rest of it
of it
of it and after that event although I kind of
and after that event although I kind of
and after that event although I kind of stood my ground inside of my beliefs
stood my ground inside of my beliefs
stood my ground inside of my beliefs there was a revelation before my own
there was a revelation before my own
there was a revelation before my own eyes like I was actually part of the
eyes like I was actually part of the
eyes like I was actually part of the problem I was part of that stereotype
problem I was part of that stereotype
problem I was part of that stereotype that kept you know breeding and you know
that kept you know breeding and you know
that kept you know breeding and you know fueling the whole income inequality in
fueling the whole income inequality in
fueling the whole income inequality in all society layers so what was I going
all society layers so what was I going
all society layers so what was I going to do about it
to do about it
to do about it five-second rule the obvious response
five-second rule the obvious response
five-second rule the obvious response was nothing obviously because who cares
was nothing obviously because who cares
was nothing obviously because who cares right but that feeling started to wear
right but that feeling started to wear
right but that feeling started to wear off because days later I was keep on
off because days later I was keep on
off because days later I was keep on discussing the matters of women
discussing the matters of women
discussing the matters of women entrepreneurship in the same way I kept
entrepreneurship in the same way I kept
entrepreneurship in the same way I kept on discussing about women representation
on discussing about women representation
on discussing about women representation in boards in government in ballads and
in boards in government in ballads and
in boards in government in ballads and some of the female participants of that
some of the female participants of that
some of the female participants of that crowd today they reached out immediately
crowd today they reached out immediately
crowd today they reached out immediately they set up meetings we had coffees and
they set up meetings we had coffees and
they set up meetings we had coffees and they fought their way into making me
they fought their way into making me
they fought their way into making me understand how important it was for me
understand how important it was for me
understand how important it was for me to join their efforts and it is because
to join their efforts and it is because
to join their efforts and it is because of that crowd that I stand here before
of that crowd that I stand here before
of that crowd that I stand here before you today based on the five-second rule
you today based on the five-second rule
you today based on the five-second rule it was a decision of a split second but
it was a decision of a split second but
it was a decision of a split second but created workshops for pushing more women
created workshops for pushing more women
created workshops for pushing more women into politics created TV trainings
into politics created TV trainings
into politics created TV trainings created the first campaign for a female
created the first campaign for a female
created the first campaign for a female disabled candidate in the past
disabled candidate in the past
disabled candidate in the past parliamentary elections at the same time
parliamentary elections at the same time
parliamentary elections at the same time the same rule government front of a
the same rule government front of a
the same rule government front of a screen applying for Asia Europe summer
screen applying for Asia Europe summer
screen applying for Asia Europe summer University taking me on an 8,000
University taking me on an 8,000
University taking me on an 8,000 kilometer journey to understanding
kilometer journey to understanding
kilometer journey to understanding transport and the impact on human
transport and the impact on human
transport and the impact on human connectivity around China Russia and
connectivity around China Russia and
connectivity around China Russia and Mongolia it’s the same rule that got me
Mongolia it’s the same rule that got me
Mongolia it’s the same rule that got me knocking on Hillary for America campaign
knocking on Hillary for America campaign
knocking on Hillary for America campaign door because a crazy idea has five
door because a crazy idea has five
door because a crazy idea has five seconds to survive without an action
seconds to survive without an action
seconds to survive without an action like ultimately an action will have a
like ultimately an action will have a
like ultimately an action will have a reaction this is not a story about a
reaction this is not a story about a
reaction this is not a story about a person
person
person totally infatuated with time overcoming
totally infatuated with time overcoming
totally infatuated with time overcoming a difficult situation and grief because
a difficult situation and grief because
a difficult situation and grief because grief may change shape and sizes but it
grief may change shape and sizes but it
grief may change shape and sizes but it will never go away no matter how much
will never go away no matter how much
will never go away no matter how much time passes this is a story about a girl
time passes this is a story about a girl
time passes this is a story about a girl that spent her whole life understanding
that spent her whole life understanding
that spent her whole life understanding how valuable time is finding her way
how valuable time is finding her way
how valuable time is finding her way back to what’s important of the after
back to what’s important of the after
back to what’s important of the after something like this happens going back
something like this happens going back
something like this happens going back it’s not a procedure that people can
it’s not a procedure that people can
it’s not a procedure that people can actually go through because going back
actually go through because going back
actually go through because going back and literally is impossible because
and literally is impossible because
and literally is impossible because common sense and our society commands
common sense and our society commands
common sense and our society commands that we move forward I realized that day
that we move forward I realized that day
that we move forward I realized that day after that speech that I could possibly
after that speech that I could possibly
after that speech that I could possibly never go back but I could let other
never go back but I could let other
never go back but I could let other amazing individuals show me the way to
amazing individuals show me the way to
amazing individuals show me the way to what’s important again to reintroduce me
what’s important again to reintroduce me
what’s important again to reintroduce me to the same values I once had but grief
to the same values I once had but grief
to the same values I once had but grief overshadowed them they made me
overshadowed them they made me
overshadowed them they made me understand how important it is to accept
understand how important it is to accept
understand how important it is to accept and then share they made me realize the
and then share they made me realize the
and then share they made me realize the relief you feel once you let somebody
relief you feel once you let somebody
relief you feel once you let somebody else carry you on their back just for a
else carry you on their back just for a
else carry you on their back just for a little while they made me appreciate all
little while they made me appreciate all
little while they made me appreciate all the support you can get although it’s so
the support you can get although it’s so
the support you can get although it’s so hard to reach out and how challenging it
hard to reach out and how challenging it
hard to reach out and how challenging it is to be in a position that you
is to be in a position that you
is to be in a position that you understand and feel to your core how
understand and feel to your core how
understand and feel to your core how ephemeral our existence is not just by
ephemeral our existence is not just by
ephemeral our existence is not just by reading but by experiencing as my trans
reading but by experiencing as my trans
reading but by experiencing as my trans iberian train route roommate wrote me a
iberian train route roommate wrote me a
iberian train route roommate wrote me a poem when you will make life matter and
poem when you will make life matter and
poem when you will make life matter and time matter your life becomes better
time matter your life becomes better
time matter your life becomes better your friends your families your own
your friends your families your own
your friends your families your own expectations will shatter but you will
expectations will shatter but you will
expectations will shatter but you will climb because you don’t mind you live
climb because you don’t mind you live
climb because you don’t mind you live behind money stress and pressure and you
behind money stress and pressure and you
behind money stress and pressure and you will treasure the time you had there is
will treasure the time you had there is
will treasure the time you had there is no measure
at the end of the day things will happen
at the end of the day things will happen to our lives that will force it to
to our lives that will force it to
to our lives that will force it to change paths it will be painful
change paths it will be painful
change paths it will be painful and it will be messy but one day an idea
and it will be messy but one day an idea
and it will be messy but one day an idea a spark and or someone will make time
a spark and or someone will make time
a spark and or someone will make time matter again and I know that now and
matter again and I know that now and
matter again and I know that now and just to leave you with a cliche I’m
just to leave you with a cliche I’m
just to leave you with a cliche I’m going to say a verse from one of my
going to say a verse from one of my
going to say a verse from one of my favorite songs of one of my favorite
favorite songs of one of my favorite
favorite songs of one of my favorite artists introduced to me by my dad 25
artists introduced to me by my dad 25
artists introduced to me by my dad 25 years ago and it’s Bob Dylan’s my back
years ago and it’s Bob Dylan’s my back
years ago and it’s Bob Dylan’s my back pages oh but I was so much older than I
pages oh but I was so much older than I
pages oh but I was so much older than I me younger than that now thank you
me younger than that now thank you
me younger than that now thank you [Applause]
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