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3 words that will change your life | Emily Baker | TEDxCSULB


so this is something I don’t say out

so this is something I don’t say out loud like ever growing up I always felt

loud like ever growing up I always felt

loud like ever growing up I always felt like the dumb kid and it might have been

like the dumb kid and it might have been

like the dumb kid and it might have been because my gray is always just kind of

because my gray is always just kind of

because my gray is always just kind of terrible or because the other kids seem

terrible or because the other kids seem

terrible or because the other kids seem to understand things so much more easily

to understand things so much more easily

to understand things so much more easily it could have been the ADHD diagnosis

it could have been the ADHD diagnosis

it could have been the ADHD diagnosis but you mix all that together and I just

but you mix all that together and I just

but you mix all that together and I just perpetually felt inferior to my peers so

perpetually felt inferior to my peers so

perpetually felt inferior to my peers so imagine my surprise when in the fall of

imagine my surprise when in the fall of

imagine my surprise when in the fall of 1997 I was at Harvard right Harvard and

1997 I was at Harvard right Harvard and

1997 I was at Harvard right Harvard and I imagined when I walked on campus that

I imagined when I walked on campus that

I imagined when I walked on campus that it was going to like implode or explode

it was going to like implode or explode

it was going to like implode or explode or something involving like fire and

or something involving like fire and

or something involving like fire and brimstone and Cambridge being sucked

brimstone and Cambridge being sucked

brimstone and Cambridge being sucked into the earth didn’t by the way see my

into the earth didn’t by the way see my

into the earth didn’t by the way see my high school had so much expectation

high school had so much expectation

high school had so much expectation everyone was going to go to college and

everyone was going to go to college and

everyone was going to go to college and not just like any college but a good

not just like any college but a good

not just like any college but a good college the guys on my water polo team

college the guys on my water polo team

college the guys on my water polo team went to Notre Dame Dartmouth Bucknell

went to Notre Dame Dartmouth Bucknell

went to Notre Dame Dartmouth Bucknell UCLA good schools

UCLA good schools

UCLA good schools smart kid fancy schools yes no I said

smart kid fancy schools yes no I said

smart kid fancy schools yes no I said guys on my high school water polo team

guys on my high school water polo team

guys on my high school water polo team because I played on the men’s team all

because I played on the men’s team all

because I played on the men’s team all four years of high school well I thank

four years of high school well I thank

four years of high school well I thank you

you

you and I got through high school and my

and I got through high school and my

and I got through high school and my goal was get into college play water

goal was get into college play water

goal was get into college play water polo and there I was playing Division

polo and there I was playing Division

polo and there I was playing Division one women’s water polo now my imposter

one women’s water polo now my imposter

one women’s water polo now my imposter syndrome was flaring up because I didn’t

syndrome was flaring up because I didn’t

syndrome was flaring up because I didn’t think I was good enough to be in college

think I was good enough to be in college

think I was good enough to be in college or good enough to be playing Division

or good enough to be playing Division

or good enough to be playing Division one college athletics but there I was I

one college athletics but there I was I

one college athletics but there I was I might have given you the wrong

might have given you the wrong

might have given you the wrong impression though I wasn’t going to

impression though I wasn’t going to

impression though I wasn’t going to Harvard I was at Harvard for a water

Harvard I was at Harvard for a water

Harvard I was at Harvard for a water polo game it was the beginning of my

polo game it was the beginning of my

polo game it was the beginning of my sophomore year at the University of

sophomore year at the University of

sophomore year at the University of Massachusetts Amherst that’s me Westside

Massachusetts Amherst that’s me Westside

Massachusetts Amherst that’s me Westside and I was so excited to be there so

and I was so excited to be there so

and I was so excited to be there so excited to be there with my team I was

excited to be there with my team I was

excited to be there with my team I was walking around this campus looking at

walking around this campus looking at

walking around this campus looking at all these smart kids and then we beat

all these smart kids and then we beat

all these smart kids and then we beat them by over 20 goals solidifying the

them by over 20 goals solidifying the

them by over 20 goals solidifying the fact that those girls studied way more

fact that those girls studied way more

fact that those girls studied way more than they played water polo and after

than they played water polo and after

than they played water polo and after the game I’m in the locker room and my

the game I’m in the locker room and my

the game I’m in the locker room and my team was so excited talking about how

team was so excited talking about how

team was so excited talking about how many goals everyone scored and everyone

many goals everyone scored and everyone

many goals everyone scored and everyone scored multiple goals which for Yunnan

scored multiple goals which for Yunnan

scored multiple goals which for Yunnan water polo experts is fairly rare

water polo experts is fairly rare

water polo experts is fairly rare talking about how big our win was also

talking about how big our win was also

talking about how big our win was also not super common water polo to win by

not super common water polo to win by

not super common water polo to win by that much and I was sitting by myself

that much and I was sitting by myself

that much and I was sitting by myself and I was trying to get changed and I

and I was trying to get changed and I

and I was trying to get changed and I couldn’t pull my shirt over my arm

because I couldn’t move my arm and I was

because I couldn’t move my arm and I was terrified I knew I knew sitting there I

terrified I knew I knew sitting there I

terrified I knew I knew sitting there I knew that whatever happened at the end

knew that whatever happened at the end

knew that whatever happened at the end of that game in my shoulder was bad I

of that game in my shoulder was bad I

of that game in my shoulder was bad I knew that it wasn’t going to easily heal

knew that it wasn’t going to easily heal

knew that it wasn’t going to easily heal I knew I knew

that I wasn’t going to play water polo

that I wasn’t going to play water polo again and I didn’t by the time I got

again and I didn’t by the time I got

again and I didn’t by the time I got home for winter break back to California

home for winter break back to California

home for winter break back to California I was destroyed the whole plan go to

I was destroyed the whole plan go to

I was destroyed the whole plan go to college play water polo I’m a sophomore

college play water polo I’m a sophomore

college play water polo I’m a sophomore there’s no other plan I transferred

there’s no other plan I transferred

there’s no other plan I transferred schools after that part of it was the

schools after that part of it was the

schools after that part of it was the depression part of it was that I was so

depression part of it was that I was so

depression part of it was that I was so embarrassed

embarrassed

embarrassed was I not strong enough smart enough

was I not strong enough smart enough

was I not strong enough smart enough good enough why couldn’t i hack it what

good enough why couldn’t i hack it what

good enough why couldn’t i hack it what was wrong with me my whole plan go to

was wrong with me my whole plan go to

was wrong with me my whole plan go to college play water polo so I had to

college play water polo so I had to

college play water polo so I had to figure out a new plan but that was after

figure out a new plan but that was after

figure out a new plan but that was after I as a richer and responsible 19 year

I as a richer and responsible 19 year

I as a richer and responsible 19 year old responded and a mature and

old responded and a mature and

old responded and a mature and responsible 19 year old way I climbed

responsible 19 year old way I climbed

responsible 19 year old way I climbed into bed and stayed there for like six

into bed and stayed there for like six

into bed and stayed there for like six months after that I figured I have to at

months after that I figured I have to at

months after that I figured I have to at least do the go to college part

least do the go to college part

least do the go to college part transferred to Cal State Long Beach go

transferred to Cal State Long Beach go

transferred to Cal State Long Beach go Beach found a great home here and then I

Beach found a great home here and then I

Beach found a great home here and then I had to figure out a new plan shockingly

had to figure out a new plan shockingly

had to figure out a new plan shockingly I hadn’t planned to pass and go to

I hadn’t planned to pass and go to

I hadn’t planned to pass and go to college and play water polo I hadn’t

college and play water polo I hadn’t

college and play water polo I hadn’t planned any further than that and then

planned any further than that and then

planned any further than that and then one day it came to me I’ll go to law

one day it came to me I’ll go to law

one day it came to me I’ll go to law school

school

school this was a perfect plan I was always

this was a perfect plan I was always

this was a perfect plan I was always fairly loud people told me my whole life

fairly loud people told me my whole life

fairly loud people told me my whole life that I was argumentative I talked my way

that I was argumentative I talked my way

that I was argumentative I talked my way onto a men’s water polo team law school

onto a men’s water polo team law school

onto a men’s water polo team law school and then I don’t ever have to decide

and then I don’t ever have to decide

and then I don’t ever have to decide anything again right go to law school

anything again right go to law school

anything again right go to law school get a job be a lawyer no more decisions

get a job be a lawyer no more decisions

get a job be a lawyer no more decisions the thing is though I chose a job

the thing is though I chose a job

the thing is though I chose a job I never stopped and chose a life college

I never stopped and chose a life college

I never stopped and chose a life college check Law School check 100,000 plus and

check Law School check 100,000 plus and

check Law School check 100,000 plus and student loan debt check uh passed the

student loan debt check uh passed the

student loan debt check uh passed the California Bar Exam first time whoo and

California Bar Exam first time whoo and

California Bar Exam first time whoo and then I got hired for my dream job and

then I got hired for my dream job and

then I got hired for my dream job and there I was from 19 years old a complete

there I was from 19 years old a complete

there I was from 19 years old a complete embarrassed loser not knowing what I was

embarrassed loser not knowing what I was

embarrassed loser not knowing what I was going to do with my life 227 years old

going to do with my life 227 years old

going to do with my life 227 years old and I was a deputy district attorney for

and I was a deputy district attorney for

and I was a deputy district attorney for the County of Los Angeles and it was

the County of Los Angeles and it was

the County of Los Angeles and it was everything to me go to law school get a

everything to me go to law school get a

everything to me go to law school get a job

job

job be a lawyer and I shoved myself into

be a lawyer and I shoved myself into

be a lawyer and I shoved myself into that lawyer box I was such a lawyer and

that lawyer box I was such a lawyer and

that lawyer box I was such a lawyer and I’m not talking like Ally McBeal lawyer

I’m not talking like Ally McBeal lawyer

I’m not talking like Ally McBeal lawyer I’m talking like black suit pearls don’t

I’m talking like black suit pearls don’t

I’m talking like black suit pearls don’t mess with me I’m a badass you don’t want

mess with me I’m a badass you don’t want

mess with me I’m a badass you don’t want to talk to me at parties lawyer

but I never picked a life and the thing

but I never picked a life and the thing is when you start to put yourself in a

is when you start to put yourself in a

is when you start to put yourself in a box like that around a job whatever it

box like that around a job whatever it

box like that around a job whatever it is I’m a doctor I’m a teacher I’m a

is I’m a doctor I’m a teacher I’m a

is I’m a doctor I’m a teacher I’m a student I’m a starving artist you cut

student I’m a starving artist you cut

student I’m a starving artist you cut out all the other parts of yourself you

out all the other parts of yourself you

out all the other parts of yourself you just keep the parts that fit into that

just keep the parts that fit into that

just keep the parts that fit into that box but that keeps you small that cuts

box but that keeps you small that cuts

box but that keeps you small that cuts out all the other and when you live

out all the other and when you live

out all the other and when you live small you start to settle settle for

small you start to settle settle for

small you start to settle settle for good enough I’m happy enough I get paid

good enough I’m happy enough I get paid

good enough I’m happy enough I get paid well enough I mean life’s fine but it’s

well enough I mean life’s fine but it’s

well enough I mean life’s fine but it’s not extraordinary because you hadn’t

not extraordinary because you hadn’t

not extraordinary because you hadn’t picked a life I was about eight years

picked a life I was about eight years

picked a life I was about eight years into my career when I started to feel

into my career when I started to feel

into my career when I started to feel really trapped by my little lawyer box

really trapped by my little lawyer box

really trapped by my little lawyer box and I know right it’s like I’m trapped

and I know right it’s like I’m trapped

and I know right it’s like I’m trapped on my dream job whatever lady but I was

on my dream job whatever lady but I was

on my dream job whatever lady but I was I was totally trapped totally trapped

I was totally trapped totally trapped

I was totally trapped totally trapped and I wasn’t happy why is my dream job

and I wasn’t happy why is my dream job

and I wasn’t happy why is my dream job not making me happy and what does this

not making me happy and what does this

not making me happy and what does this mean go to law school get a job be a

mean go to law school get a job be a

mean go to law school get a job be a lawyer I don’t have a plan for this I

lawyer I don’t have a plan for this I

lawyer I don’t have a plan for this I don’t know what this means for my boys

don’t know what this means for my boys

don’t know what this means for my boys my husband my family for me my loser my

my husband my family for me my loser my

my husband my family for me my loser my not smart enough not good enough can I

not smart enough not good enough can I

not smart enough not good enough can I not hack it I didn’t know what to do

not hack it I didn’t know what to do

not hack it I didn’t know what to do next I didn’t have a plan but because

next I didn’t have a plan but because

next I didn’t have a plan but because the universe loves me that was the year

the universe loves me that was the year

the universe loves me that was the year I had two back surgeries – one year

I had two back surgeries – one year

I had two back surgeries – one year the thing about back surgery is you

the thing about back surgery is you

the thing about back surgery is you really have a lot of time to think about

really have a lot of time to think about

really have a lot of time to think about your life while you’re you know laying

your life while you’re you know laying

your life while you’re you know laying on your back recovering from surgery I

on your back recovering from surgery I

on your back recovering from surgery I did a lot of thinking about my life and

did a lot of thinking about my life and

did a lot of thinking about my life and hanging out on my phone I love Instagram

hanging out on my phone I love Instagram

hanging out on my phone I love Instagram and I spent a lot of time on Instagram

and I spent a lot of time on Instagram

and I spent a lot of time on Instagram during this period in my life the thing

during this period in my life the thing

during this period in my life the thing on Instagram is there are all these

on Instagram is there are all these

on Instagram is there are all these really annoying inspirational posts

really annoying inspirational posts

really annoying inspirational posts right like life begins when you decide

right like life begins when you decide

right like life begins when you decide and there’s a voice inside that doesn’t

and there’s a voice inside that doesn’t

and there’s a voice inside that doesn’t use words listen

use words listen

use words listen that one’s roomy by the way that’s a

that one’s roomy by the way that’s a

that one’s roomy by the way that’s a legit quote and as I’m trying to figure

legit quote and as I’m trying to figure

legit quote and as I’m trying to figure out you know my life I started being one

out you know my life I started being one

out you know my life I started being one of these people it’s like posting all up

of these people it’s like posting all up

of these people it’s like posting all up on their Instagram with inspirational

on their Instagram with inspirational

on their Instagram with inspirational poets because I was starting to change

poets because I was starting to change

poets because I was starting to change I wanted more from my life and I felt

I wanted more from my life and I felt

I wanted more from my life and I felt alone again and scared and I wanted

alone again and scared and I wanted

alone again and scared and I wanted other people to not feel so alone I mean

other people to not feel so alone I mean

other people to not feel so alone I mean why am I just figuring this out at like

why am I just figuring this out at like

why am I just figuring this out at like 35 plus years old that there is more to

35 plus years old that there is more to

35 plus years old that there is more to life than a job and I think it’s because

life than a job and I think it’s because

life than a job and I think it’s because we’re taught to choose a job and it

we’re taught to choose a job and it

we’re taught to choose a job and it looks like this so what do you want to

looks like this so what do you want to

looks like this so what do you want to be when you grow up right you all know

be when you grow up right you all know

be when you grow up right you all know this question you’ve asked it you’ve

this question you’ve asked it you’ve

this question you’ve asked it you’ve answered it the expected response is a

answered it the expected response is a

answered it the expected response is a job title I want to be a doctor I want

job title I want to be a doctor I want

job title I want to be a doctor I want to be a lawyer I want to be a

to be a lawyer I want to be a

to be a lawyer I want to be a paleontologist I mean when I was a kid I

paleontologist I mean when I was a kid I

paleontologist I mean when I was a kid I wanted to be an orca trainer at SeaWorld

wanted to be an orca trainer at SeaWorld

wanted to be an orca trainer at SeaWorld and after blackfish I might not want to

and after blackfish I might not want to

and after blackfish I might not want to admit that out loud but that’s what I

admit that out loud but that’s what I

admit that out loud but that’s what I wanted to be that’s my dream but the

wanted to be that’s my dream but the

wanted to be that’s my dream but the expected response is a job we’re

expected response is a job we’re

expected response is a job we’re literally teaching kids from the time

literally teaching kids from the time

literally teaching kids from the time that they can’t understand this question

that they can’t understand this question

that they can’t understand this question and in my limited experience with my two

and in my limited experience with my two

and in my limited experience with my two boys this age is around 4:00 to pick a

boys this age is around 4:00 to pick a

boys this age is around 4:00 to pick a job we’re telling them what you are at

job we’re telling them what you are at

job we’re telling them what you are at your core is a job title and the problem

your core is a job title and the problem

your core is a job title and the problem is then I want to be a lawyer becomes

is then I want to be a lawyer becomes

is then I want to be a lawyer becomes I’m a lawyer and there’s no other plan

I’m a lawyer and there’s no other plan

I’m a lawyer and there’s no other plan what’s even worse than that is this

what’s even worse than that is this

what’s even worse than that is this question has a super judgey older sister

question has a super judgey older sister

question has a super judgey older sister yes questions have siblings go with me

yes questions have siblings go with me

yes questions have siblings go with me you’ve all been asked this question

you’ve all been asked this question

you’ve all been asked this question you’ve all asked this question so what

you’ve all asked this question so what

you’ve all asked this question so what do you do this quest this question

do you do this quest this question

do you do this quest this question judgment and expectation you’re expected

judgment and expectation you’re expected

judgment and expectation you’re expected to answer in the form of a job title but

to answer in the form of a job title but

to answer in the form of a job title but it’s also supposed to kind of impress

it’s also supposed to kind of impress

it’s also supposed to kind of impress the person that’s asking you the

the person that’s asking you the

the person that’s asking you the question right and if you worry that

question right and if you worry that

question right and if you worry that your job title might not be impressive

your job title might not be impressive

your job title might not be impressive enough UX

enough UX

enough UX oh I’m a cashier at Sport Chalet oh but

oh I’m a cashier at Sport Chalet oh but

oh I’m a cashier at Sport Chalet oh but I’m studying for the LSAT yeah I’m going

I’m studying for the LSAT yeah I’m going

I’m studying for the LSAT yeah I’m going to law school no I’m gonna be a lawyer

to law school no I’m gonna be a lawyer

to law school no I’m gonna be a lawyer I was really annoying in my 20s um maybe

I was really annoying in my 20s um maybe

I was really annoying in my 20s um maybe that examples just me but we embrace

that examples just me but we embrace

that examples just me but we embrace this

this

this the problem is words matter the words we

the problem is words matter the words we

the problem is words matter the words we say to ourselves over and over matter

say to ourselves over and over matter

say to ourselves over and over matter you’re not just I’m uh but you tell

you’re not just I’m uh but you tell

you’re not just I’m uh but you tell yourself enough I’m a lawyer and that’s

yourself enough I’m a lawyer and that’s

yourself enough I’m a lawyer and that’s all you become I was lucky enough to be

all you become I was lucky enough to be

all you become I was lucky enough to be in San Diego for a conference to see

in San Diego for a conference to see

in San Diego for a conference to see Jeff Hoffman speak and he talked about

Jeff Hoffman speak and he talked about

Jeff Hoffman speak and he talked about wanting a life full of travel and then

wanting a life full of travel and then

wanting a life full of travel and then he went on to found priceline.com rock

he went on to found priceline.com rock

he went on to found priceline.com rock on Jeff mission accomplished

on Jeff mission accomplished

on Jeff mission accomplished life full travel but he got it right he

life full travel but he got it right he

life full travel but he got it right he picked a life and then built everything

picked a life and then built everything

picked a life and then built everything else around it and not the other way

else around it and not the other way

else around it and not the other way around

around

around I realized that I had been going about

I realized that I had been going about

I realized that I had been going about this completely the wrong way and I

this completely the wrong way and I

this completely the wrong way and I don’t understand because in the United

don’t understand because in the United

don’t understand because in the United States less than half of workers are

States less than half of workers are

States less than half of workers are even happy with their jobs yet we wrap

even happy with their jobs yet we wrap

even happy with their jobs yet we wrap our lives around this thing that we do

our lives around this thing that we do

our lives around this thing that we do for money

for money

for money so I walked out of that conference room

so I walked out of that conference room

so I walked out of that conference room and I went out onto the balcony

and I went out onto the balcony

and I went out onto the balcony overlooking the ocean

overlooking the ocean

overlooking the ocean and I stood at a table by myself with a

and I stood at a table by myself with a

and I stood at a table by myself with a piece of paper folded in half and I

piece of paper folded in half and I

piece of paper folded in half and I wrote down what I want my life to look

wrote down what I want my life to look

wrote down what I want my life to look like and what my life actually looked

like and what my life actually looked

like and what my life actually looked like and they weren’t the same and I

like and they weren’t the same and I

like and they weren’t the same and I knew I knew that I had to quit my dream

knew I knew that I had to quit my dream

knew I knew that I had to quit my dream job and I did on January 31st 2016 I

job and I did on January 31st 2016 I

job and I did on January 31st 2016 I turned in my badge

turned in my badge

turned in my badge obviously I instagrammed it I mean I’m

obviously I instagrammed it I mean I’m

obviously I instagrammed it I mean I’m not a psycho it has one of the highest

not a psycho it has one of the highest

not a psycho it has one of the highest likes of any of my Instagram’s

likes of any of my Instagram’s

likes of any of my Instagram’s and I’m not going to tell you that this

and I’m not going to tell you that this

and I’m not going to tell you that this was an easy decision and that it wasn’t

was an easy decision and that it wasn’t

was an easy decision and that it wasn’t scary it’s terrifying I spent all of my

scary it’s terrifying I spent all of my

scary it’s terrifying I spent all of my really adult life I’m a lawyer

really adult life I’m a lawyer

really adult life I’m a lawyer I’m a lawyer and I knew I had to

I’m a lawyer and I knew I had to

I’m a lawyer and I knew I had to II more me I had to be something else to

II more me I had to be something else to

II more me I had to be something else to find the life I wanted I had to become

find the life I wanted I had to become

find the life I wanted I had to become something more to move in to a better

something more to move in to a better

something more to move in to a better life

life

life get ready to write stuff down because

get ready to write stuff down because

get ready to write stuff down because we’re going to talk about you what do

we’re going to talk about you what do

we’re going to talk about you what do you want your life to look like you can

you want your life to look like you can

you want your life to look like you can choose what do you want your life to

choose what do you want your life to

choose what do you want your life to look like do you want to work remotely

look like do you want to work remotely

look like do you want to work remotely from Italy do you want to write a book

from Italy do you want to write a book

from Italy do you want to write a book do you want to be up here I did Here I

do you want to be up here I did Here I

do you want to be up here I did Here I am do you want to get home will the

am do you want to get home will the

am do you want to get home will the sun’s still up so that you can play with

sun’s still up so that you can play with

sun’s still up so that you can play with your kids outside maybe cook dinner it

your kids outside maybe cook dinner it

your kids outside maybe cook dinner it doesn’t have to be dramatic or

doesn’t have to be dramatic or

doesn’t have to be dramatic or conventional it just has to be authentic

conventional it just has to be authentic

conventional it just has to be authentic to you I knew that I wanted my mornings

to you I knew that I wanted my mornings

to you I knew that I wanted my mornings to be better because my mornings sucked

to be better because my mornings sucked

to be better because my mornings sucked which is why I was at the miracle

which is why I was at the miracle

which is why I was at the miracle morning conference in San Diego in the

morning conference in San Diego in the

morning conference in San Diego in the first place but my mornings look

first place but my mornings look

first place but my mornings look something like this

something like this

something like this drag two kids out of bed yell at them to

drag two kids out of bed yell at them to

drag two kids out of bed yell at them to get dressed faster yell at them to eat

get dressed faster yell at them to eat

get dressed faster yell at them to eat breakfast quicker say I got to get out

breakfast quicker say I got to get out

breakfast quicker say I got to get out the door mommy’s got to go to court no

the door mommy’s got to go to court no

the door mommy’s got to go to court no there’s a judge they’re gonna be bad

there’s a judge they’re gonna be bad

there’s a judge they’re gonna be bad mommy can’t be late go go go and there

mommy can’t be late go go go and there

mommy can’t be late go go go and there was always a judge and I was always late

was always a judge and I was always late

was always a judge and I was always late they don’t like that by the way tip they

they don’t like that by the way tip they

they don’t like that by the way tip they don’t like it when you’re late I wanted

don’t like it when you’re late I wanted

don’t like it when you’re late I wanted something more for me and for my family

something more for me and for my family

something more for me and for my family so when I left my job I started an

so when I left my job I started an

so when I left my job I started an online legal services company no commute

online legal services company no commute

online legal services company no commute no start time

no start time

no start time no judge judges awesome what does that

no judge judges awesome what does that

no judge judges awesome what does that look like for you the thing is before

look like for you the thing is before

look like for you the thing is before you can shift into that life you have to

you can shift into that life you have to

you can shift into that life you have to shift yourself you have to choose who

shift yourself you have to choose who

shift yourself you have to choose who you are going to be because if I was

you are going to be because if I was

you are going to be because if I was wrapped up and I’m a district attorney

wrapped up and I’m a district attorney

wrapped up and I’m a district attorney I’m a lawyer quitting my job and

I’m a lawyer quitting my job and

I’m a lawyer quitting my job and starting something new would never have

starting something new would never have

starting something new would never have happened I had to change first and

happened I had to change first and

happened I had to change first and that’s when you picked three words that

that’s when you picked three words that

that’s when you picked three words that change your life science tells us that

change your life science tells us that

change your life science tells us that words actually affect the release of

words actually affect the release of

words actually affect the release of hormones in our bodies words affect the

hormones in our bodies words affect the

hormones in our bodies words affect the expression of genes in our brain

expression of genes in our brain

expression of genes in our brain words matter on a cellular fundamental

words matter on a cellular fundamental

words matter on a cellular fundamental level in our beings I knew I needed to

level in our beings I knew I needed to

level in our beings I knew I needed to embrace all of me not just the part in

embrace all of me not just the part in

embrace all of me not just the part in the little box and I knew becoming

the little box and I knew becoming

the little box and I knew becoming something more is all that was going to

something more is all that was going to

something more is all that was going to lead me to a life change and I decided I

lead me to a life change and I decided I

lead me to a life change and I decided I wanted to be a shiny sparkly badass what

wanted to be a shiny sparkly badass what

wanted to be a shiny sparkly badass what do you want to be who is your ideal self

do you want to be who is your ideal self

do you want to be who is your ideal self who are you how do you want to be not

who are you how do you want to be not

who are you how do you want to be not what how bold present authentic

what how bold present authentic

what how bold present authentic rebellious what are the words that

rebellious what are the words that

rebellious what are the words that you’re going to tell yourself what are

you’re going to tell yourself what are

you’re going to tell yourself what are the words that you’re going to allow to

the words that you’re going to allow to

the words that you’re going to allow to change you from the inside out

change you from the inside out

change you from the inside out the great thing about choosing words

the great thing about choosing words

the great thing about choosing words choosing your words so you don’t have to

choosing your words so you don’t have to

choosing your words so you don’t have to quit your job you don’t have to upend

quit your job you don’t have to upend

quit your job you don’t have to upend your life you just have to decide who

your life you just have to decide who

your life you just have to decide who you are and how you want to be you have

you are and how you want to be you have

you are and how you want to be you have the power to choose your life I didn’t

the power to choose your life I didn’t

the power to choose your life I didn’t know this I’m telling you this you get

know this I’m telling you this you get

know this I’m telling you this you get to choose your life you get to choose

to choose your life you get to choose

to choose your life you get to choose how you want to be in your life so

how you want to be in your life so

how you want to be in your life so choose wisely thank you

choose wisely thank you

choose wisely thank you [Applause]

you

you [Applause]

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