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Tapping Your Superpowers | Micki O’Brien | TEDxBellevueCollege


remember when you were six years old and

remember when you were six years old and you went looking for four-leaf clovers

you went looking for four-leaf clovers

you went looking for four-leaf clovers with a bunch of other kids remember how

with a bunch of other kids remember how

with a bunch of other kids remember how the Sun felt warm on your back how the

the Sun felt warm on your back how the

the Sun felt warm on your back how the grass tickled your feet remember

grass tickled your feet remember

grass tickled your feet remember thinking you wanted to be the first kid

thinking you wanted to be the first kid

thinking you wanted to be the first kid to find a four-leaf clover

to find a four-leaf clover

to find a four-leaf clover why weren’t you happy just to find all

why weren’t you happy just to find all

why weren’t you happy just to find all the three leaf clovers that filled that

the three leaf clovers that filled that

the three leaf clovers that filled that grassy spot what is the big deal about

grassy spot what is the big deal about

grassy spot what is the big deal about that fourth leaf anyway could it be that

that fourth leaf anyway could it be that

that fourth leaf anyway could it be that there’s something not standard typical

there’s something not standard typical

there’s something not standard typical or normal about finding a four-leaf

or normal about finding a four-leaf

or normal about finding a four-leaf clover

clover

clover the odds of finding one are 1 in 10,000

the odds of finding one are 1 in 10,000

the odds of finding one are 1 in 10,000 just as we value the unique difference

just as we value the unique difference

just as we value the unique difference of a four-leaf clover so 2 we have the

of a four-leaf clover so 2 we have the

of a four-leaf clover so 2 we have the opportunity to value the unique

opportunity to value the unique

opportunity to value the unique difference of each individual person we

difference of each individual person we

difference of each individual person we have the opportunity to create a new

have the opportunity to create a new

have the opportunity to create a new normal that’s about each person being

normal that’s about each person being

normal that’s about each person being who they uniquely are we know we’re pack

who they uniquely are we know we’re pack

who they uniquely are we know we’re pack animals and as such it’s our instinct to

animals and as such it’s our instinct to

animals and as such it’s our instinct to be normal so that we fit in the pack and

be normal so that we fit in the pack and

be normal so that we fit in the pack and we’ll be safe and survive we can think

we’ll be safe and survive we can think

we’ll be safe and survive we can think of this normal as a box a normal box

of this normal as a box a normal box

of this normal as a box a normal box over time we’ve come to realize that the

over time we’ve come to realize that the

over time we’ve come to realize that the normal box is no longer adequately

normal box is no longer adequately

normal box is no longer adequately serving its functions it’s getting tired

serving its functions it’s getting tired

serving its functions it’s getting tired so we’ve done some work on the box

so we’ve done some work on the box

so we’ve done some work on the box we’ve tried redecorating it we’ve tried

we’ve tried redecorating it we’ve tried

we’ve tried redecorating it we’ve tried moving it around

moving it around

moving it around we’ve even tried redesigning the box

we’ve even tried redesigning the box

we’ve even tried redesigning the box thinking that a relocated redesigned box

thinking that a relocated redesigned box

thinking that a relocated redesigned box might be able to adequately serve its

might be able to adequately serve its

might be able to adequately serve its function but it’s like this we’ve got

function but it’s like this we’ve got

function but it’s like this we’ve got this shoe box and it’s such a great

this shoe box and it’s such a great

this shoe box and it’s such a great container for shoes

container for shoes

container for shoes but there’s this basketball and no

but there’s this basketball and no

but there’s this basketball and no matter how hard we try we can’t get the

matter how hard we try we can’t get the

matter how hard we try we can’t get the basketball to fit in the shoebox we end

basketball to fit in the shoebox we end

basketball to fit in the shoebox we end up missing who’s here in our present-day

up missing who’s here in our present-day

up missing who’s here in our present-day world when we rely on the normal box a

world when we rely on the normal box a

world when we rely on the normal box a container that’s inadequate for

container that’s inadequate for

container that’s inadequate for basketballs what we need now is a

basketballs what we need now is a

basketballs what we need now is a container that can hold both shoes and

container that can hold both shoes and

container that can hold both shoes and basketballs we need a space expansive

basketballs we need a space expansive

basketballs we need a space expansive enough to include everyone we are

enough to include everyone we are

enough to include everyone we are creating the new normal a normal defined

creating the new normal a normal defined

creating the new normal a normal defined by each person being who they uniquely

by each person being who they uniquely

by each person being who they uniquely are by definition we live in a

are by definition we live in a

are by definition we live in a neuro-diverse world that is a world

neuro-diverse world that is a world

neuro-diverse world that is a world filled with people whose brains and

filled with people whose brains and

filled with people whose brains and nervous systems function in a wide

nervous systems function in a wide

nervous systems function in a wide diversity of ways the ways that people’s

diversity of ways the ways that people’s

diversity of ways the ways that people’s brains and nervous systems function

brains and nervous systems function

brains and nervous systems function including how their perceptions function

including how their perceptions function

including how their perceptions function those are called neuro cognitive

those are called neuro cognitive

those are called neuro cognitive functions

functions

functions Robert Frost ends his poem the road not

Robert Frost ends his poem the road not

Robert Frost ends his poem the road not taken’ with two roads diverged in the

taken’ with two roads diverged in the

taken’ with two roads diverged in the wood and I I took the one less traveled

wood and I I took the one less traveled

wood and I I took the one less traveled by and that has made all the difference

by and that has made all the difference

by and that has made all the difference when we separate or depart from the

when we separate or depart from the

when we separate or depart from the normal standard typical Road we could

normal standard typical Road we could

normal standard typical Road we could say we diverged from that road getting

say we diverged from that road getting

say we diverged from that road getting back to the normal box if your neuro

back to the normal box if your neuro

back to the normal box if your neuro cognitive functions fall within the

cognitive functions fall within the

cognitive functions fall within the dominant societal standard of normal you

dominant societal standard of normal you

dominant societal standard of normal you are considered neurotypical and

are considered neurotypical and

are considered neurotypical and hopefully at least some of the time that

hopefully at least some of the time that

hopefully at least some of the time that normal box will be adequate now if your

normal box will be adequate now if your

normal box will be adequate now if your neurocognitive functions significantly

neurocognitive functions significantly

neurocognitive functions significantly diverge from the dominant societal

diverge from the dominant societal

diverge from the dominant societal standard of normal you are considered

standard of normal you are considered

standard of normal you are considered neuro divergent a basketball for which

neuro divergent a basketball for which

neuro divergent a basketball for which the shoe box

the shoe box

the shoe box is inadequate I am talking about this

is inadequate I am talking about this

is inadequate I am talking about this because I have long been a basketball

and I have experienced what it’s like to

and I have experienced what it’s like to not fit in the normal box and cultures

not fit in the normal box and cultures

not fit in the normal box and cultures and communities that were more expansive

and communities that were more expansive

and communities that were more expansive where I was included and valued in the

where I was included and valued in the

where I was included and valued in the pack

pack

pack I am neuro divergent when I was a kid I

I am neuro divergent when I was a kid I

I am neuro divergent when I was a kid I spent part of elementary school at a

spent part of elementary school at a

spent part of elementary school at a school in a military base where I was

school in a military base where I was

school in a military base where I was treated as a unique individual and a

treated as a unique individual and a

treated as a unique individual and a valued member of the community then I

valued member of the community then I

valued member of the community then I attended conventional public suburban

attended conventional public suburban

attended conventional public suburban schools where my unique differences were

schools where my unique differences were

schools where my unique differences were simply considered problems to be solved

simply considered problems to be solved

simply considered problems to be solved where I was consistently pressured to at

where I was consistently pressured to at

where I was consistently pressured to at least try to act like a pair of shoes

least try to act like a pair of shoes

least try to act like a pair of shoes and wear my learning differences they

and wear my learning differences they

and wear my learning differences they were simply considered deficits in high

were simply considered deficits in high

were simply considered deficits in high school this played out as a severe

school this played out as a severe

school this played out as a severe depression stemming from

depression stemming from

depression stemming from misunderstandings around my dyslexia and

misunderstandings around my dyslexia and

misunderstandings around my dyslexia and dysgraphia instead of being given the

dysgraphia instead of being given the

dysgraphia instead of being given the strategies tools and environments I

strategies tools and environments I

strategies tools and environments I needed to use my uniqueness well I was

needed to use my uniqueness well I was

needed to use my uniqueness well I was shunned and treated like I was lazy

shunned and treated like I was lazy

shunned and treated like I was lazy unambitious and stupid there was one

unambitious and stupid there was one

unambitious and stupid there was one correct way to look an act and function

correct way to look an act and function

correct way to look an act and function because that normal box was inadequate

because that normal box was inadequate

because that normal box was inadequate for this basketball I began to believe

for this basketball I began to believe

for this basketball I began to believe that I was broken and unworthy if it

that I was broken and unworthy if it

that I was broken and unworthy if it wasn’t for a teacher who believed in me

wasn’t for a teacher who believed in me

wasn’t for a teacher who believed in me and my unique differences I most likely

and my unique differences I most likely

and my unique differences I most likely would have taken my own life and not

would have taken my own life and not

would have taken my own life and not been here with you today it wasn’t until

been here with you today it wasn’t until

been here with you today it wasn’t until I became a special education teacher

I became a special education teacher

I became a special education teacher working with brilliant unique students

working with brilliant unique students

working with brilliant unique students that I began to understand

that I began to understand

that I began to understand and how to use my uniqueness the

and how to use my uniqueness the

and how to use my uniqueness the strategies tools and environments I

strategies tools and environments I

strategies tools and environments I needed I began to think of this

needed I began to think of this

needed I began to think of this uniqueness as superpowers I have seen so

uniqueness as superpowers I have seen so

uniqueness as superpowers I have seen so much suffering cost by trying to get

much suffering cost by trying to get

much suffering cost by trying to get basketballs to fit into shoe boxes

basketballs to fit into shoe boxes

basketballs to fit into shoe boxes brilliant kind dedicated well

brilliant kind dedicated well

brilliant kind dedicated well intentioned people guided by systems and

intentioned people guided by systems and

intentioned people guided by systems and policies who just keep trying to teach

policies who just keep trying to teach

policies who just keep trying to teach or train or cajole basketballs to fit in

or train or cajole basketballs to fit in

or train or cajole basketballs to fit in shoe boxes or who realize that normal

shoe boxes or who realize that normal

shoe boxes or who realize that normal box is no longer adequate and so they

box is no longer adequate and so they

box is no longer adequate and so they keep moving it around and redecorating

keep moving it around and redecorating

keep moving it around and redecorating it with all that effort focused on the

it with all that effort focused on the

it with all that effort focused on the normal box they essentially become

normal box they essentially become

normal box they essentially become blinded to the superpowers that exist

blinded to the superpowers that exist

blinded to the superpowers that exist outside of it and everyone ends up

outside of it and everyone ends up

outside of it and everyone ends up frustrated defeated and usually not

frustrated defeated and usually not

frustrated defeated and usually not successful

successful

successful I created my company aligned education

I created my company aligned education

I created my company aligned education because I repeatedly observed this

because I repeatedly observed this

because I repeatedly observed this brilliant kind dedicated well

brilliant kind dedicated well

brilliant kind dedicated well intentioned teachers counselors parents

intentioned teachers counselors parents

intentioned teachers counselors parents and service providers who profoundly

and service providers who profoundly

and service providers who profoundly care about neurodivergent people who are

care about neurodivergent people who are

care about neurodivergent people who are not experiencing the joy and success all

not experiencing the joy and success all

not experiencing the joy and success all that care talent and dedication warrant

that care talent and dedication warrant

that care talent and dedication warrant I partner with them to use strategies

I partner with them to use strategies

I partner with them to use strategies tools and environments to build on the

tools and environments to build on the

tools and environments to build on the strengths inherent and unique

strengths inherent and unique

strengths inherent and unique differences to teach people how to use

differences to teach people how to use

differences to teach people how to use superpowers well to share how to use

superpowers well to share how to use

superpowers well to share how to use superpowers well if it takes a village

superpowers well if it takes a village

superpowers well if it takes a village to raise a child it takes an entire

to raise a child it takes an entire

to raise a child it takes an entire culture to create a new normal no one of

culture to create a new normal no one of

culture to create a new normal no one of us can do this alone

adding together the percentage of the

adding together the percentage of the world population with just six of the

world population with just six of the

world population with just six of the recognized forms of neuro divergence at

recognized forms of neuro divergence at

recognized forms of neuro divergence at least thirty percent of the world

least thirty percent of the world

least thirty percent of the world population is neurodivergent at any

population is neurodivergent at any

population is neurodivergent at any given time that is a lot of basketballs

given time that is a lot of basketballs

given time that is a lot of basketballs for which the shoebox is inadequate we

for which the shoebox is inadequate we

for which the shoebox is inadequate we know that the world needs neuro

know that the world needs neuro

know that the world needs neuro divergence as a quote attributed to

divergence as a quote attributed to

divergence as a quote attributed to Albert Einstein says we cannot solve

Albert Einstein says we cannot solve

Albert Einstein says we cannot solve problems using the same kind of thinking

problems using the same kind of thinking

problems using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them we

we used when we created them we

we used when we created them we literally need outside of the normal box

literally need outside of the normal box

literally need outside of the normal box thinking to address the big global

thinking to address the big global

thinking to address the big global issues that normal thinking has created

issues that normal thinking has created

issues that normal thinking has created there are no broken unworthy people

there are no broken unworthy people

there are no broken unworthy people simply eat dominate societal standard

simply eat dominate societal standard

simply eat dominate societal standard abnormal that is inadequate for unique

abnormal that is inadequate for unique

abnormal that is inadequate for unique differences for superpowers for

differences for superpowers for

differences for superpowers for basketballs when we learn to recognize

basketballs when we learn to recognize

basketballs when we learn to recognize our unique differences our superpowers

our unique differences our superpowers

our unique differences our superpowers the superpowers and others and the

the superpowers and others and the

the superpowers and others and the strategies tools and environments to use

strategies tools and environments to use

strategies tools and environments to use them well we create a world filled with

them well we create a world filled with

them well we create a world filled with infinite possibilities we create a pack

infinite possibilities we create a pack

infinite possibilities we create a pack that includes both shoes and basketballs

that includes both shoes and basketballs

that includes both shoes and basketballs we create a new normal that’s about each

we create a new normal that’s about each

we create a new normal that’s about each person being who they uniquely are when

person being who they uniquely are when

person being who they uniquely are when the larger culture adopts this new

the larger culture adopts this new

the larger culture adopts this new normal

normal

normal there will be no more throwaway people

there will be no more throwaway people

there will be no more throwaway people because when someone’s a member of your

because when someone’s a member of your

because when someone’s a member of your pack they’re not throwaway abaut

pack they’re not throwaway abaut

pack they’re not throwaway abaut there will be many more brilliant people

there will be many more brilliant people

there will be many more brilliant people because when you’re being who you

because when you’re being who you

because when you’re being who you uniquely are and you’re recognizing

uniquely are and you’re recognizing

uniquely are and you’re recognizing others being who they uniquely are we

others being who they uniquely are we

others being who they uniquely are we each show up as we brilliantly uniquely

each show up as we brilliantly uniquely

each show up as we brilliantly uniquely are there will be so

are there will be so

are there will be so much more joy and success as we learn to

much more joy and success as we learn to

much more joy and success as we learn to utilize the strategies tools and

utilize the strategies tools and

utilize the strategies tools and environments individuals need to use

environments individuals need to use

environments individuals need to use their uniqueness well and there will be

their uniqueness well and there will be

their uniqueness well and there will be so much more love as we each learn to be

so much more love as we each learn to be

so much more love as we each learn to be our unique best selves it transforms our

our unique best selves it transforms our

our unique best selves it transforms our relationships from being about control

relationships from being about control

relationships from being about control and fitting in to being about

and fitting in to being about

and fitting in to being about authenticity I challenge you to be your

authenticity I challenge you to be your

authenticity I challenge you to be your unique best self so that you can access

unique best self so that you can access

unique best self so that you can access your superpowers and be a superhero that

your superpowers and be a superhero that

your superpowers and be a superhero that you truly are I challenge you to

you truly are I challenge you to

you truly are I challenge you to recognize support and celebrate the

recognize support and celebrate the

recognize support and celebrate the unique differences of others and I

unique differences of others and I

unique differences of others and I challenge us to be our fully present

challenge us to be our fully present

challenge us to be our fully present best selves shifting our focus from

best selves shifting our focus from

best selves shifting our focus from enforcers of that normal box to

enforcers of that normal box to

enforcers of that normal box to literally becoming the space expansive

literally becoming the space expansive

literally becoming the space expansive enough to include everyone making the

enough to include everyone making the

enough to include everyone making the choice to create new normal filled with

choice to create new normal filled with

choice to create new normal filled with more authenticity uniqueness and love

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