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A Child’s Vision | Aliha Nasrullah | TEDxAdelphiUniversity


now let me start with a question the

now let me start with a question the moment I walked into this room what was

moment I walked into this room what was

moment I walked into this room what was the first thought that came to your mind

the first thought that came to your mind

the first thought that came to your mind woman covered hair Muslim question mark

woman covered hair Muslim question mark

woman covered hair Muslim question mark but let me tell you this that beneath

but let me tell you this that beneath

but let me tell you this that beneath this head scoff is a child whose parents

this head scoff is a child whose parents

this head scoff is a child whose parents believed in her more than they believed

believed in her more than they believed

believed in her more than they believed in themselves I was born and raised in

in themselves I was born and raised in

in themselves I was born and raised in Pakistan and conjured a popular belief

Pakistan and conjured a popular belief

Pakistan and conjured a popular belief no we do not live in caves and yes we do

no we do not live in caves and yes we do

no we do not live in caves and yes we do have McDonald’s actually our mcdonald’s

have McDonald’s actually our mcdonald’s

have McDonald’s actually our mcdonald’s delivers but that’s besides the point

delivers but that’s besides the point

delivers but that’s besides the point getting back to the subject I was born

getting back to the subject I was born

getting back to the subject I was born and raised in Pakistan and I moved to

and raised in Pakistan and I moved to

and raised in Pakistan and I moved to America around three years ago for

America around three years ago for

America around three years ago for college and since I currently have 7,000

college and since I currently have 7,000

college and since I currently have 7,000 miles away from my parents I spent most

miles away from my parents I spent most

miles away from my parents I spent most of my day reliving my childhood memories

of my day reliving my childhood memories

of my day reliving my childhood memories and while reading Charlie and the

and while reading Charlie and the

and while reading Charlie and the Chocolate Factory with my mom at night

Chocolate Factory with my mom at night

Chocolate Factory with my mom at night comes in as a close second my most

comes in as a close second my most

comes in as a close second my most cherished memory is from exactly 10

cherished memory is from exactly 10

cherished memory is from exactly 10 years ago when I was standing on a stage

years ago when I was standing on a stage

years ago when I was standing on a stage just like this singing Michael Jackson’s

just like this singing Michael Jackson’s

just like this singing Michael Jackson’s we are the world we are the children and

we are the world we are the children and

we are the world we are the children and with my middle school choir and I

with my middle school choir and I

with my middle school choir and I remember that while we were singing my

remember that while we were singing my

remember that while we were singing my parents dude up from the crowd and

parents dude up from the crowd and

parents dude up from the crowd and started clapping to the beat and the

started clapping to the beat and the

started clapping to the beat and the entire audience joined in and they all

entire audience joined in and they all

entire audience joined in and they all started singing with us that day my 12

started singing with us that day my 12

started singing with us that day my 12 year old self felt like she was on top

year old self felt like she was on top

year old self felt like she was on top of the world pun intended because that’s

of the world pun intended because that’s

of the world pun intended because that’s another song I thanked that day anywho

another song I thanked that day anywho

another song I thanked that day anywho today um that day I made me realize that

today um that day I made me realize that

today um that day I made me realize that my childhood is filled with countless

my childhood is filled with countless

my childhood is filled with countless such instances where my parents made me

such instances where my parents made me

such instances where my parents made me believe that I could conquer the world

believe that I could conquer the world

believe that I could conquer the world regardless of my age and gender from the

regardless of my age and gender from the

regardless of my age and gender from the way mummy clapped her hands after I

way mummy clapped her hands after I

way mummy clapped her hands after I played off-key tunes on the piano to the

played off-key tunes on the piano to the

played off-key tunes on the piano to the way papa calls me his heat abuja roughly

way papa calls me his heat abuja roughly

way papa calls me his heat abuja roughly translated as his diamond child

translated as his diamond child

translated as his diamond child my parents genuinely boosted my

my parents genuinely boosted my

my parents genuinely boosted my confidence and showed their support no

confidence and showed their support no

confidence and showed their support no matter what they supported my decisions

matter what they supported my decisions

matter what they supported my decisions no matter if they were spiritual or

no matter if they were spiritual or

no matter if they were spiritual or academic or extracurricular they made me

academic or extracurricular they made me

academic or extracurricular they made me believe that I could do whatever I

believe that I could do whatever I

believe that I could do whatever I wanted and today I see myself as a

wanted and today I see myself as a

wanted and today I see myself as a strong young woman who identifies

strong young woman who identifies

strong young woman who identifies herself as a Muslim I love to do

herself as a Muslim I love to do

herself as a Muslim I love to do photography because as you can see my

photography because as you can see my

photography because as you can see my mother literally documented every moment

mother literally documented every moment

mother literally documented every moment of my childhood through her Canon lens I

of my childhood through her Canon lens I

of my childhood through her Canon lens I am a writer because I saw my grandfather

am a writer because I saw my grandfather

am a writer because I saw my grandfather spent countless hours working on his

spent countless hours working on his

spent countless hours working on his manuscript which is actually that

manuscript which is actually that

manuscript which is actually that picture at the end is of me and my

picture at the end is of me and my

picture at the end is of me and my sister with our grandfather from a book

sister with our grandfather from a book

sister with our grandfather from a book of his and I see myself as someone who’s

of his and I see myself as someone who’s

of his and I see myself as someone who’s passionate about healthcare because I

passionate about healthcare because I

passionate about healthcare because I saw my aunt changed lives through her

saw my aunt changed lives through her

saw my aunt changed lives through her medicine and I am a weird tech geek who

medicine and I am a weird tech geek who

medicine and I am a weird tech geek who loves to stay up-to-date with the

loves to stay up-to-date with the

loves to stay up-to-date with the up-and-coming gadget because my parents

up-and-coming gadget because my parents

up-and-coming gadget because my parents supported the geeky side of me and got

supported the geeky side of me and got

supported the geeky side of me and got me my first computer when I was 7 even

me my first computer when I was 7 even

me my first computer when I was 7 even though it was a toy anywho um when I was

though it was a toy anywho um when I was

though it was a toy anywho um when I was 16 I started reading Muslim scriptures

16 I started reading Muslim scriptures

16 I started reading Muslim scriptures and I realized I came across one of

and I realized I came across one of

and I realized I came across one of these quotations of Prophet Muhammad

these quotations of Prophet Muhammad

these quotations of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him that said make use of

peace be upon him that said make use of

peace be upon him that said make use of five before five your health before your

five before five your health before your

five before five your health before your sickness your wealth before your poverty

sickness your wealth before your poverty

sickness your wealth before your poverty your youth before your old age your

your youth before your old age your

your youth before your old age your wealth yours your free time before

wealth yours your free time before

wealth yours your free time before you’re preoccupied and your life before

you’re preoccupied and your life before

you’re preoccupied and your life before your death so when my 16 year old self

your death so when my 16 year old self

your death so when my 16 year old self read those words that was like a Eureka

read those words that was like a Eureka

read those words that was like a Eureka moment for me and I had found my

moment for me and I had found my

moment for me and I had found my personal mission statement so I spent

personal mission statement so I spent

personal mission statement so I spent countless days okay let’s be realistic

countless days okay let’s be realistic

countless days okay let’s be realistic not countless a week I spent a week

not countless a week I spent a week

not countless a week I spent a week thinking of ways I could implement that

thinking of ways I could implement that

thinking of ways I could implement that quotation and put it into practice so I

quotation and put it into practice so I

quotation and put it into practice so I decided why not go into the nonprofit

decided why not go into the nonprofit

decided why not go into the nonprofit world I started very small and I started

world I started very small and I started

world I started very small and I started off while caring for

off while caring for

off while caring for profits and welfare organizations in

profits and welfare organizations in

profits and welfare organizations in Pakistan such as SOS Children’s Village

Pakistan such as SOS Children’s Village

Pakistan such as SOS Children’s Village and Rising Sun Institute but considering

and Rising Sun Institute but considering

and Rising Sun Institute but considering the proactive teenager that I was I felt

the proactive teenager that I was I felt

the proactive teenager that I was I felt very limited by the opportunities that

very limited by the opportunities that

very limited by the opportunities that were available to me so I decided to go

were available to me so I decided to go

were available to me so I decided to go big and I started my own project a funny

big and I started my own project a funny

big and I started my own project a funny incident that comes to mind is from

incident that comes to mind is from

incident that comes to mind is from March 2014 yeah exactly three years ago

March 2014 yeah exactly three years ago

March 2014 yeah exactly three years ago when my mother answered the door and she

when my mother answered the door and she

when my mother answered the door and she found two gigantic trucks parked in our

found two gigantic trucks parked in our

found two gigantic trucks parked in our driveway she went to the truck drivers

driveway she went to the truck drivers

driveway she went to the truck drivers and asked what they were for and she

and asked what they were for and she

and asked what they were for and she found out that her daughter leha me had

found out that her daughter leha me had

found out that her daughter leha me had decided to start a fundraiser with her

decided to start a fundraiser with her

decided to start a fundraiser with her friend and forth her partner wickets for

friend and forth her partner wickets for

friend and forth her partner wickets for drought wickham’s in thir barker a

drought wickham’s in thir barker a

drought wickham’s in thir barker a desert in southern Pakistan and wait for

desert in southern Pakistan and wait for

desert in southern Pakistan and wait for it not only does she plan to raise funds

it not only does she plan to raise funds

it not only does she plan to raise funds she also plans to now pack $15,000 worth

she also plans to now pack $15,000 worth

she also plans to now pack $15,000 worth of food items imagine wheat barley sugar

of food items imagine wheat barley sugar

of food items imagine wheat barley sugar into 500 food packs and transport them

into 500 food packs and transport them

into 500 food packs and transport them to a desert that is 900 miles away from

to a desert that is 900 miles away from

to a desert that is 900 miles away from the city we were in at first like any

the city we were in at first like any

the city we were in at first like any sane adult she panicked and she refused

sane adult she panicked and she refused

sane adult she panicked and she refused to believe me when I said mommy I can do

to believe me when I said mommy I can do

to believe me when I said mommy I can do it you wouldn’t have to do a thing

it you wouldn’t have to do a thing

it you wouldn’t have to do a thing little did I know I mean so after like

little did I know I mean so after like

little did I know I mean so after like three hours and countless eye rolls

three hours and countless eye rolls

three hours and countless eye rolls later she realized that I had started

later she realized that I had started

later she realized that I had started losing my confidence and my energy and

losing my confidence and my energy and

losing my confidence and my energy and my optimism were dropping by the minute

my optimism were dropping by the minute

my optimism were dropping by the minute and I wasn’t even done with my 50th food

and I wasn’t even done with my 50th food

and I wasn’t even done with my 50th food package yet so she did what she had been

package yet so she did what she had been

package yet so she did what she had been doing my entire life she supported my

doing my entire life she supported my

doing my entire life she supported my idiotic idea and she called my dad and

idiotic idea and she called my dad and

idiotic idea and she called my dad and my younger siblings and they all joined

my younger siblings and they all joined

my younger siblings and they all joined in and helped me pack for the rest of

in and helped me pack for the rest of

in and helped me pack for the rest of the 450 food bags without saying a word

the 450 food bags without saying a word

the 450 food bags without saying a word although they probably thought I was

although they probably thought I was

although they probably thought I was crazy and thanks to their help that day

crazy and thanks to their help that day

crazy and thanks to their help that day I was able to transport those 500 food

I was able to transport those 500 food

I was able to transport those 500 food packs all the way to her Barker as

packs all the way to her Barker as

packs all the way to her Barker as promised and also fond to deeply dug

promised and also fond to deeply dug

promised and also fond to deeply dug wells for the victims over there

wells for the victims over there

wells for the victims over there so looking

so looking

so looking back at that incident I realized that my

back at that incident I realized that my

back at that incident I realized that my parents support has engendered this

parents support has engendered this

parents support has engendered this deeply ingrained you can do it attitude

deeply ingrained you can do it attitude

deeply ingrained you can do it attitude in me that not only turned me into the

in me that not only turned me into the

in me that not only turned me into the mature and a more independent person for

mature and a more independent person for

mature and a more independent person for my age that I am not to toot my own horn

my age that I am not to toot my own horn

my age that I am not to toot my own horn but but it also helped me get over my

but but it also helped me get over my

but but it also helped me get over my crippling sense of self-pity when I was

crippling sense of self-pity when I was

crippling sense of self-pity when I was diagnosed with a chronic metabolic

diagnosed with a chronic metabolic

diagnosed with a chronic metabolic disorder in my late teens because of

disorder in my late teens because of

disorder in my late teens because of which I had to take a gap year from

which I had to take a gap year from

which I had to take a gap year from school and put in abrupt life to stop to

school and put in abrupt life to stop to

school and put in abrupt life to stop to my life and that very attitude gave me

my life and that very attitude gave me

my life and that very attitude gave me the confidence to found my own nonprofit

the confidence to found my own nonprofit

the confidence to found my own nonprofit when I was 21 that has not that has

when I was 21 that has not that has

when I was 21 that has not that has helped more than 5,000 underprivileged

helped more than 5,000 underprivileged

helped more than 5,000 underprivileged patient in just one year and I’m not

patient in just one year and I’m not

patient in just one year and I’m not even a college graduate as yet so um

even a college graduate as yet so um

even a college graduate as yet so um concep consciously since I was raised in

concep consciously since I was raised in

concep consciously since I was raised in a household where my parents supported

a household where my parents supported

a household where my parents supported my ideas I subconsciously followed their

my ideas I subconsciously followed their

my ideas I subconsciously followed their footsteps and did the exact same thing

footsteps and did the exact same thing

footsteps and did the exact same thing with my younger siblings Bernie and

with my younger siblings Bernie and

with my younger siblings Bernie and Mahan were 11 and 6 at the time and I my

Mahan were 11 and 6 at the time and I my

Mahan were 11 and 6 at the time and I my interaction with them over the years had

interaction with them over the years had

interaction with them over the years had made me realize how insightful children

made me realize how insightful children

made me realize how insightful children can be but I never truly understood the

can be but I never truly understood the

can be but I never truly understood the magnitude of their potential when I

magnitude of their potential when I

magnitude of their potential when I about two years ago I had this

about two years ago I had this

about two years ago I had this conversation with the baby of our house

conversation with the baby of our house

conversation with the baby of our house Mahan and he made a very complex

Mahan and he made a very complex

Mahan and he made a very complex connection during our conversation so

connection during our conversation so

connection during our conversation so this is what I did I started this

this is what I did I started this

this is what I did I started this awareness activity at home that was my

awareness activity at home that was my

awareness activity at home that was my attempt to make Barnea a proactive

attempt to make Barnea a proactive

attempt to make Barnea a proactive preteen so we’d read a book about that

preteen so we’d read a book about that

preteen so we’d read a book about that highlighted a social concern and we

highlighted a social concern and we

highlighted a social concern and we would after the book was done we’ve

would after the book was done we’ve

would after the book was done we’ve discussed how we could play our role as

discussed how we could play our role as

discussed how we could play our role as individuals to alleviate the problem if

individuals to alleviate the problem if

individuals to alleviate the problem if not completely eliminated so by the time

not completely eliminated so by the time

not completely eliminated so by the time we reached our third book I found out

we reached our third book I found out

we reached our third book I found out that Bernie I hated reading I hated it

that Bernie I hated reading I hated it

that Bernie I hated reading I hated it and that was a very heartbreaking

and that was a very heartbreaking

and that was a very heartbreaking realization for me since I myself I’m an

realization for me since I myself I’m an

realization for me since I myself I’m an avid reader so I was pretty disheartened

avid reader so I was pretty disheartened

avid reader so I was pretty disheartened and I thought the plan was falling

and I thought the plan was falling

and I thought the plan was falling through the cracks but to my surprise I

through the cracks but to my surprise I

through the cracks but to my surprise I found out that Mahan who was four at the

found out that Mahan who was four at the

found out that Mahan who was four at the time and used to sit in on our book

time and used to sit in on our book

time and used to sit in on our book discussions

discussions

discussions seemed pretty interested in the idea and

seemed pretty interested in the idea and

seemed pretty interested in the idea and wanted to continue with the project and

wanted to continue with the project and

wanted to continue with the project and a conversation that I distinctly

a conversation that I distinctly

a conversation that I distinctly remember having with him was when we

remember having with him was when we

remember having with him was when we were reading this book about this five

were reading this book about this five

were reading this book about this five year old child in Africa who starts an

year old child in Africa who starts an

year old child in Africa who starts an entire healthcare system for her with

entire healthcare system for her with

entire healthcare system for her with age just to help the people in our

age just to help the people in our

age just to help the people in our community so since we’re reading that

community so since we’re reading that

community so since we’re reading that book we ended up discussing things about

book we ended up discussing things about

book we ended up discussing things about personal hygiene and public health care

personal hygiene and public health care

personal hygiene and public health care and I suddenly ended up introducing the

and I suddenly ended up introducing the

and I suddenly ended up introducing the concept of smoking being a joyous to

concept of smoking being a joyous to

concept of smoking being a joyous to health yes I did that to a four year old

health yes I did that to a four year old

health yes I did that to a four year old so when I was reading the book to him he

so when I was reading the book to him he

so when I was reading the book to him he attentively listened to what I had to

attentively listened to what I had to

attentively listened to what I had to say and he made me stop for a second and

say and he made me stop for a second and

say and he made me stop for a second and asked me Ali hibachi do you smoke

asked me Ali hibachi do you smoke

asked me Ali hibachi do you smoke since smoking is looked down upon

since smoking is looked down upon

since smoking is looked down upon especially for women in the culture that

especially for women in the culture that

especially for women in the culture that I come from I straightaway said Noah and

I come from I straightaway said Noah and

I come from I straightaway said Noah and of course not why would you say that no

of course not why would you say that no

of course not why would you say that no no no I’ve never smoked promised and he

no no I’ve never smoked promised and he

no no I’ve never smoked promised and he very innocently asked again then why are

very innocently asked again then why are

very innocently asked again then why are you sick all the time although at that

you sick all the time although at that

you sick all the time although at that moment I could not come up with a

moment I could not come up with a

moment I could not come up with a satisfying answer for that little four

satisfying answer for that little four

satisfying answer for that little four year old brain to tell him why his

year old brain to tell him why his

year old brain to tell him why his sister was sick I did however realize

sister was sick I did however realize

sister was sick I did however realize how if that child could make such a

how if that child could make such a

how if that child could make such a complex connection and exhibit such

complex connection and exhibit such

complex connection and exhibit such insight imagine what he could do if that

insight imagine what he could do if that

insight imagine what he could do if that potential was directed into the right

potential was directed into the right

potential was directed into the right direction so here’s what I did every

direction so here’s what I did every

direction so here’s what I did every time I started a new nan a new charity

time I started a new nan a new charity

time I started a new nan a new charity project I make sure that Bernie and ma

project I make sure that Bernie and ma

project I make sure that Bernie and ma had were equal part of it from planning

had were equal part of it from planning

had were equal part of it from planning to collecting the nation’s do actually

to collecting the nation’s do actually

to collecting the nation’s do actually executing the whole plan with our very

executing the whole plan with our very

executing the whole plan with our very own hands so the very first project that

own hands so the very first project that

own hands so the very first project that we started was in 2012 okay was in 2012

we started was in 2012 okay was in 2012

we started was in 2012 okay was in 2012 called the children’s toy drive we would

called the children’s toy drive we would

called the children’s toy drive we would start planning a month in advance we

start planning a month in advance we

start planning a month in advance we would start spamming our friends for

would start spamming our friends for

would start spamming our friends for donations there was a point where my

donations there was a point where my

donations there was a point where my friends put me on a block list because I

friends put me on a block list because I

friends put me on a block list because I used to spend them so much and my

used to spend them so much and my

used to spend them so much and my friends in the audience who know me know

friends in the audience who know me know

friends in the audience who know me know how persistent and annoying I can be and

how persistent and annoying I can be and

how persistent and annoying I can be and we once we used to go to people’s houses

we once we used to go to people’s houses

we once we used to go to people’s houses to collect those donations and

to collect those donations and

to collect those donations and we would use to go to stores to collect

we would use to go to stores to collect

we would use to go to stores to collect get all the toys and then a week before

get all the toys and then a week before

get all the toys and then a week before eat which is a Muslim holiday that we

eat which is a Muslim holiday that we

eat which is a Muslim holiday that we celebrate we used to distribute power

celebrate we used to distribute power

celebrate we used to distribute power goggles goody bags and then distribute

goggles goody bags and then distribute

goggles goody bags and then distribute them on the day of Eid and help bring

them on the day of Eid and help bring

them on the day of Eid and help bring happiness to those children who were

happiness to those children who were

happiness to those children who were spending their happy day in a

spending their happy day in a

spending their happy day in a not-so-pleasant hospital ward just like

not-so-pleasant hospital ward just like

not-so-pleasant hospital ward just like I had to once when I was on my gap year

I had to once when I was on my gap year

I had to once when I was on my gap year so we last we started our project in

so we last we started our project in

so we last we started our project in 2012 and by 2016 this year we were able

2012 and by 2016 this year we were able

2012 and by 2016 this year we were able to like distribute 1500 goodie bags in

to like distribute 1500 goodie bags in

to like distribute 1500 goodie bags in 2016

2016

2016 all because of pur neon and mahants

all because of pur neon and mahants

all because of pur neon and mahants efforts so um later on I founded my own

efforts so um later on I founded my own

efforts so um later on I founded my own nonprofit and I realized that why not

nonprofit and I realized that why not

nonprofit and I realized that why not take my parents legacy step further so I

take my parents legacy step further so I

take my parents legacy step further so I made sure that Barney and Mohan could

made sure that Barney and Mohan could

made sure that Barney and Mohan could use my foundation as a platform where

use my foundation as a platform where

use my foundation as a platform where they could implement their ideas and see

they could implement their ideas and see

they could implement their ideas and see them turn into actions so now I see my

them turn into actions so now I see my

them turn into actions so now I see my mother who manages the on-site

mother who manages the on-site

mother who manages the on-site management of the foundation in Lahore

management of the foundation in Lahore

management of the foundation in Lahore while I manage everything online from

while I manage everything online from

while I manage everything online from New York and then Bernie and Mahan

New York and then Bernie and Mahan

New York and then Bernie and Mahan accompany her to each and every health

accompany her to each and every health

accompany her to each and every health camp that we’ve held so far um and their

camp that we’ve held so far um and their

camp that we’ve held so far um and their interaction with birkut so far with the

interaction with birkut so far with the

interaction with birkut so far with the nonprofit so far has made me realize how

nonprofit so far has made me realize how

nonprofit so far has made me realize how in the past just six months they’ve

in the past just six months they’ve

in the past just six months they’ve morphed into tiny responsible

morphed into tiny responsible

morphed into tiny responsible individuals of their society that have

individuals of their society that have

individuals of their society that have become have understood how to be a

become have understood how to be a

become have understood how to be a productive human of your community or a

productive human of your community or a

productive human of your community or a productive beam of your community before

productive beam of your community before

productive beam of your community before they could even watch a pg-13 movie so

they could even watch a pg-13 movie so

they could even watch a pg-13 movie so now I see when I went back home this

now I see when I went back home this

now I see when I went back home this winter break I saw pornea redistribute

winter break I saw pornea redistribute

winter break I saw pornea redistribute medication with our pharmaceutical

medication with our pharmaceutical

medication with our pharmaceutical expert I mean how many of us over here

expert I mean how many of us over here

expert I mean how many of us over here can read a hand a doctor’s handwriting I

can read a hand a doctor’s handwriting I

can read a hand a doctor’s handwriting I have a pre dental student I can’t do

have a pre dental student I can’t do

have a pre dental student I can’t do that

that

that that 11 year old can I saw ma hen who

that 11 year old can I saw ma hen who

that 11 year old can I saw ma hen who was distributing tokens to our patient

was distributing tokens to our patient

was distributing tokens to our patient and when he realized that his task

and when he realized that his task

and when he realized that his task wasn’t serious enough if argued with me

wasn’t serious enough if argued with me

wasn’t serious enough if argued with me and forced me to change his

and forced me to change his

and forced me to change his Judy and make him do the medicine

Judy and make him do the medicine

Judy and make him do the medicine inventory a task I was very reluctant to

inventory a task I was very reluctant to

inventory a task I was very reluctant to give to a six-year-old my siblings just

give to a six-year-old my siblings just

give to a six-year-old my siblings just are weird and I just gave in to his

are weird and I just gave in to his

are weird and I just gave in to his requests because I didn’t want him to

requests because I didn’t want him to

requests because I didn’t want him to feel that I didn’t think he was smart

feel that I didn’t think he was smart

feel that I didn’t think he was smart enough to do that thing and once the cap

enough to do that thing and once the cap

enough to do that thing and once the cap was over I recounted all the medication

was over I recounted all the medication

was over I recounted all the medication and I tallied my list with the list he

and I tallied my list with the list he

and I tallied my list with the list he had and I realized it was a hundred

had and I realized it was a hundred

had and I realized it was a hundred percent accurate now um not that now

percent accurate now um not that now

percent accurate now um not that now that I’ve implemented this idea in my

that I’ve implemented this idea in my

that I’ve implemented this idea in my very own household for almost five years

very own household for almost five years

very own household for almost five years now I’ve kind of realized what a

now I’ve kind of realized what a

now I’ve kind of realized what a humongous impact this can have and I

humongous impact this can have and I

humongous impact this can have and I finally realized that I had fulfilled my

finally realized that I had fulfilled my

finally realized that I had fulfilled my goal when I got a phone call from Bernie

goal when I got a phone call from Bernie

goal when I got a phone call from Bernie on a few months ago saying that she

on a few months ago saying that she

on a few months ago saying that she wanted to initiate a fundraiser in her

wanted to initiate a fundraiser in her

wanted to initiate a fundraiser in her school for with her classmates to help

school for with her classmates to help

school for with her classmates to help out the patients that we helped at our

out the patients that we helped at our

out the patients that we helped at our camps so I being I was very excited I

camps so I being I was very excited I

camps so I being I was very excited I encouraged her and we started discussing

encouraged her and we started discussing

encouraged her and we started discussing how we’d go about the whole thing until

how we’d go about the whole thing until

how we’d go about the whole thing until we had an argument

we had an argument

we had an argument so Bernie I was off the idea that we

so Bernie I was off the idea that we

so Bernie I was off the idea that we should let people donate as much as they

should let people donate as much as they

should let people donate as much as they want no minimum limit no max limit I was

want no minimum limit no max limit I was

want no minimum limit no max limit I was off the opinion that Bernie ah we should

off the opinion that Bernie ah we should

off the opinion that Bernie ah we should have at least a minimum of $1.00 that

have at least a minimum of $1.00 that

have at least a minimum of $1.00 that everyone should today so that we can

everyone should today so that we can

everyone should today so that we can have a tangible amount that we raise so

have a tangible amount that we raise so

have a tangible amount that we raise so while we were arguing I accidentally

while we were arguing I accidentally

while we were arguing I accidentally actually not that accidentally ended up

actually not that accidentally ended up

actually not that accidentally ended up saying that Bernie I you have no idea

saying that Bernie I you have no idea

saying that Bernie I you have no idea what you’re talking about I have more

what you’re talking about I have more

what you’re talking about I have more experience in the field so I get to kind

experience in the field so I get to kind

experience in the field so I get to kind of wheedle your decision to which she

of wheedle your decision to which she

of wheedle your decision to which she just said to me the hibachi do you not

just said to me the hibachi do you not

just said to me the hibachi do you not care about the poor I will do it and you

care about the poor I will do it and you

care about the poor I will do it and you will see and she hung up on me so I took

will see and she hung up on me so I took

will see and she hung up on me so I took a minute actually not a minute an hour

a minute actually not a minute an hour

a minute actually not a minute an hour to get over my bruised ego and I and I

to get over my bruised ego and I and I

to get over my bruised ego and I and I realized that I was doing the exact same

realized that I was doing the exact same

realized that I was doing the exact same thing my mother had done when she saw

thing my mother had done when she saw

thing my mother had done when she saw those two gigantic trucks parked in her

those two gigantic trucks parked in her

those two gigantic trucks parked in her driveway so I stepped back and I that

driveway so I stepped back and I that

driveway so I stepped back and I that Bernier do her thing and after a week I

Bernier do her thing and after a week I

Bernier do her thing and after a week I got a phone call saying that

got a phone call saying that

got a phone call saying that and her friends had raised enough funds

and her friends had raised enough funds

and her friends had raised enough funds to sponsor an entire medical camp that

to sponsor an entire medical camp that

to sponsor an entire medical camp that helped more than 100 patients now the

helped more than 100 patients now the

helped more than 100 patients now the reason why I bring this up trust me my

reason why I bring this up trust me my

reason why I bring this up trust me my point wasn’t here just to share my story

point wasn’t here just to share my story

point wasn’t here just to share my story or maybe it was because if you ask my

or maybe it was because if you ask my

or maybe it was because if you ask my friends in the audience they will tell

friends in the audience they will tell

friends in the audience they will tell you how much I love to talk but my point

you how much I love to talk but my point

you how much I love to talk but my point here was to tell you that the nonprofit

here was to tell you that the nonprofit

here was to tell you that the nonprofit world has come a long way since the 90s

world has come a long way since the 90s

world has come a long way since the 90s it was first dominated by men

it was first dominated by men

it was first dominated by men so we diversified it we started

so we diversified it we started

so we diversified it we started including women in it people of color

including women in it people of color

including women in it people of color people from different backgrounds

people from different backgrounds

people from different backgrounds nations ethnicities and then we kind of

nations ethnicities and then we kind of

nations ethnicities and then we kind of moved to the younger generation where we

moved to the younger generation where we

moved to the younger generation where we have 21 year old starting their own

have 21 year old starting their own

have 21 year old starting their own nonprofits but my question to you is do

nonprofits but my question to you is do

nonprofits but my question to you is do we just stop there is that it is it

we just stop there is that it is it

we just stop there is that it is it enough I think not we are still ignoring

enough I think not we are still ignoring

enough I think not we are still ignoring a major resource that we haven’t tapped

a major resource that we haven’t tapped

a major resource that we haven’t tapped into our children our children’s ideas

into our children our children’s ideas

into our children our children’s ideas are often undervalued just because they

are often undervalued just because they

are often undervalued just because they lack experience so my idea is why not

lack experience so my idea is why not

lack experience so my idea is why not include them in the nonprofit world and

include them in the nonprofit world and

include them in the nonprofit world and give them the experience that they need

give them the experience that they need

give them the experience that they need instead of passively making them

instead of passively making them

instead of passively making them participate in volunteering

participate in volunteering

participate in volunteering opportunities so although my my dad and

opportunities so although my my dad and

opportunities so although my my dad and my sister mo who is in medical school

my sister mo who is in medical school

my sister mo who is in medical school are not that actively involved with my

are not that actively involved with my

are not that actively involved with my nonprofit I know that I can always call

nonprofit I know that I can always call

nonprofit I know that I can always call my dad up if I’m feeling low and he’ll

my dad up if I’m feeling low and he’ll

my dad up if I’m feeling low and he’ll say beta u are my hero betcha you can do

say beta u are my hero betcha you can do

say beta u are my hero betcha you can do it or I will send email or text message

it or I will send email or text message

it or I will send email or text message if I’m confused about something and she

if I’m confused about something and she

if I’m confused about something and she will support me even if nobody else does

will support me even if nobody else does

will support me even if nobody else does or if she thinks I’m wrong she literally

or if she thinks I’m wrong she literally

or if she thinks I’m wrong she literally called me out on it without giving it a

called me out on it without giving it a

called me out on it without giving it a second thought

second thought

second thought that’s how sisters are unfortunately the

that’s how sisters are unfortunately the

that’s how sisters are unfortunately the reason why I’m saying all this is that

reason why I’m saying all this is that

reason why I’m saying all this is that we need to change the system by

we need to change the system by

we need to change the system by incorporating our children into the

incorporating our children into the

incorporating our children into the nonprofit world and giving them the

nonprofit world and giving them the

nonprofit world and giving them the experience that they need when a child

experience that they need when a child

experience that they need when a child comes to an adult with an idea we often

comes to an adult with an idea we often

comes to an adult with an idea we often trivialize it by saying it’s stupid or

trivialize it by saying it’s stupid or

trivialize it by saying it’s stupid or childish without realizing how that 10

childish without realizing how that 10

childish without realizing how that 10 second rejection

second rejection

second rejection can have long-term consequences so I

can have long-term consequences so I

can have long-term consequences so I suggest why not come up with ways in

suggest why not come up with ways in

suggest why not come up with ways in which we can empower our children and

which we can empower our children and

which we can empower our children and give them the tools to hone their

give them the tools to hone their

give them the tools to hone their potential and become the proactive

potential and become the proactive

potential and become the proactive citizens that they had the potential to

citizens that they had the potential to

citizens that they had the potential to be we have micro level actions from

be we have micro level actions from

be we have micro level actions from let’s say having meaningful

let’s say having meaningful

let’s say having meaningful conversations with your neighbor’s child

conversations with your neighbor’s child

conversations with your neighbor’s child next door to macro level actions of

next door to macro level actions of

next door to macro level actions of nonprofits and governments starting

nonprofits and governments starting

nonprofits and governments starting projects in which they engage children

projects in which they engage children

projects in which they engage children and actively let them think and make

and actively let them think and make

and actively let them think and make decisions we are planting a seed just

decisions we are planting a seed just

decisions we are planting a seed just like the one that was planted in me

like the one that was planted in me

like the one that was planted in me exactly 10 years ago when I was standing

exactly 10 years ago when I was standing

exactly 10 years ago when I was standing on a stage just like this thinking we

on a stage just like this thinking we

on a stage just like this thinking we are the world we are the children we are

are the world we are the children we are

are the world we are the children we are the ones who make a brighter day so

the ones who make a brighter day so

the ones who make a brighter day so let’s start giving there’s a choice

let’s start giving there’s a choice

let’s start giving there’s a choice we’re making we’re saving our own lives

we’re making we’re saving our own lives

we’re making we’re saving our own lives it’s true we’ll make a better day just

it’s true we’ll make a better day just

it’s true we’ll make a better day just you and me thank you

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