[Music] hello everyone what do you think of when
hello everyone what do you think of when
hello everyone what do you think of when I say freedom of choice maybe you think
I say freedom of choice maybe you think
I say freedom of choice maybe you think of the freedom to choose which path to
of the freedom to choose which path to
of the freedom to choose which path to take in your lifetime or what food is
take in your lifetime or what food is
take in your lifetime or what food is chose to eat today
chose to eat today
chose to eat today well basically the same thing well in my
well basically the same thing well in my
well basically the same thing well in my head when I hear freedom of choice I
head when I hear freedom of choice I
head when I hear freedom of choice I think of the freedom that is given to
think of the freedom that is given to
think of the freedom that is given to every single one of us
every single one of us
every single one of us it is a freedom that we take for granted
it is a freedom that we take for granted
it is a freedom that we take for granted in such communities as ours we never
in such communities as ours we never
in such communities as ours we never stop to think what it would be like
stop to think what it would be like
stop to think what it would be like without that freedom so I’m here today
without that freedom so I’m here today
without that freedom so I’m here today to talk about parents influence over
to talk about parents influence over
to talk about parents influence over one’s freedom of choice one of the
one’s freedom of choice one of the
one’s freedom of choice one of the factors parents influence is of their
factors parents influence is of their
factors parents influence is of their children’s relationships most commonly
children’s relationships most commonly
children’s relationships most commonly when it comes to forced marriages a
when it comes to forced marriages a
when it comes to forced marriages a forced marriage is a marriage in which
forced marriage is a marriage in which
forced marriage is a marriage in which one of the parties is married without
one of the parties is married without
one of the parties is married without consent such a thing happened to Jasmine
consent such a thing happened to Jasmine
consent such a thing happened to Jasmine there sang here 35 years ago in the UK
there sang here 35 years ago in the UK
there sang here 35 years ago in the UK when she at the age of 8 was told her by
when she at the age of 8 was told her by
when she at the age of 8 was told her by her parents that when she reached the
her parents that when she reached the
her parents that when she reached the age of 18 she were to marry her arranged
age of 18 she were to marry her arranged
age of 18 she were to marry her arranged husband of course as time flew by and
husband of course as time flew by and
husband of course as time flew by and the day came she ran away
the day came she ran away
the day came she ran away but the crossroads that she stood at it
but the crossroads that she stood at it
but the crossroads that she stood at it was either freedom or honor that day she
was either freedom or honor that day she
was either freedom or honor that day she chose freedom and has no regrets for it
chose freedom and has no regrets for it
chose freedom and has no regrets for it since now she has three kids and still
since now she has three kids and still
since now she has three kids and still lives in the UK she has also created an
lives in the UK she has also created an
lives in the UK she has also created an organisation named Carmen Ivana
organisation named Carmen Ivana
organisation named Carmen Ivana Carmen urbanism is an organization that
Carmen urbanism is an organization that
Carmen urbanism is an organization that focuses on raising awareness about such
focuses on raising awareness about such
focuses on raising awareness about such things as this it it gets help from
things as this it it gets help from
things as this it it gets help from awards donors and I would at least
awards donors and I would at least
awards donors and I would at least encourage checking out their website the
encourage checking out their website the
encourage checking out their website the organization was made all the way back
organization was made all the way back
organization was made all the way back in 1993 the motivation was a Jasmine her
in 1993 the motivation was a Jasmine her
in 1993 the motivation was a Jasmine her sister whose name was Rubina and Robina
sister whose name was Rubina and Robina
sister whose name was Rubina and Robina was driven to suicide after having to be
was driven to suicide after having to be
was driven to suicide after having to be married to her arranged husband who was
married to her arranged husband who was
married to her arranged husband who was way too abusive of her Jasmine Durr her
way too abusive of her Jasmine Durr her
way too abusive of her Jasmine Durr her sister and many others are victims to
sister and many others are victims to
sister and many others are victims to forced marriages but these are all
forced marriages but these are all
forced marriages but these are all extreme cases in which one’s future is
extreme cases in which one’s future is
extreme cases in which one’s future is affected by their parents what about
affected by their parents what about
affected by their parents what about some of the more subtle ways which
some of the more subtle ways which
some of the more subtle ways which parents affect one’s future which brings
parents affect one’s future which brings
parents affect one’s future which brings me to my second point about education
me to my second point about education
me to my second point about education sometimes parents oversee the fact that
sometimes parents oversee the fact that
sometimes parents oversee the fact that their child has a mind of their own
their child has a mind of their own
their child has a mind of their own sometimes parent so we see the fact that
sometimes parent so we see the fact that
sometimes parent so we see the fact that their child has different interests in
their child has different interests in
their child has different interests in them in those times the parent might
them in those times the parent might
them in those times the parent might force the child to study a specific
force the child to study a specific
force the child to study a specific field or his other skull like get a real
field or his other skull like get a real
field or his other skull like get a real job now during the 1930s the world’s
job now during the 1930s the world’s
job now during the 1930s the world’s perspective of what one can do was a lot
perspective of what one can do was a lot
perspective of what one can do was a lot smaller everyone was a lot more
smaller everyone was a lot more
smaller everyone was a lot more narrow-minded but during those times
narrow-minded but during those times
narrow-minded but during those times people like Gillian Nene and Matt
people like Gillian Nene and Matt
people like Gillian Nene and Matt Groening persevered
Groening persevered
Groening persevered Gillian na was accused of having a
Gillian na was accused of having a
Gillian na was accused of having a learning disorder at the age of eight
learning disorder at the age of eight
learning disorder at the age of eight this was because she was very
this was because she was very
this was because she was very disorganized and distracted in school
disorganized and distracted in school
disorganized and distracted in school the school had immediately written to
the school had immediately written to
the school had immediately written to her parents that she that they would
her parents that she that they would
her parents that she that they would suggest that she would be sent to a
suggest that she would be sent to a
suggest that she would be sent to a school for kids with such disorders but
school for kids with such disorders but
school for kids with such disorders but before doing that her mother had taken
before doing that her mother had taken
before doing that her mother had taken her to a psychologist we’re midway
her to a psychologist we’re midway
her to a psychologist we’re midway through her the session of the
through her the session of the
through her the session of the psychologist her mother and the
psychologist her mother and the
psychologist her mother and the psychologist went outside to talk but
psychologist went outside to talk but
psychologist went outside to talk but what really happened is they went
what really happened is they went
what really happened is they went outside and peeked in through a hidden
outside and peeked in through a hidden
outside and peeked in through a hidden window that would allow them to see
window that would allow them to see
window that would allow them to see Gillian and she would not be able to see
Gillian and she would not be able to see
Gillian and she would not be able to see them the psychologist would want to see
them the psychologist would want to see
them the psychologist would want to see how they would be would react to music
how they would be would react to music
how they would be would react to music and his music filled the room Gillian
and his music filled the room Gillian
and his music filled the room Gillian started dancing gracefully it had turned
started dancing gracefully it had turned
started dancing gracefully it had turned out that all she wanted to do is dance
out that all she wanted to do is dance
out that all she wanted to do is dance and that’s why she was so distracted in
and that’s why she was so distracted in
and that’s why she was so distracted in school later on her parents had sent her
school later on her parents had sent her
school later on her parents had sent her to a music school and she grew up to be
to a music school and she grew up to be
to a music school and she grew up to be the famous ballet dancer she is now
the famous ballet dancer she is now
the famous ballet dancer she is now another example of a person who
another example of a person who
another example of a person who persevered in 1930s was a Matt Groening
persevered in 1930s was a Matt Groening
persevered in 1930s was a Matt Groening who by the way if you didn’t know
who by the way if you didn’t know
who by the way if you didn’t know created the Simpsons now Matt Groening
created the Simpsons now Matt Groening
created the Simpsons now Matt Groening was a very average boy at school he had
was a very average boy at school he had
was a very average boy at school he had decent grades he was never really that
decent grades he was never really that
decent grades he was never really that good at art but during his years of
good at art but during his years of
good at art but during his years of school he started getting very bored of
school he started getting very bored of
school he started getting very bored of it so during that free time that he had
it so during that free time that he had
it so during that free time that he had when he was bored he decided to start
when he was bored he decided to start
when he was bored he decided to start drawing he got so good at drawing to the
drawing he got so good at drawing to the
drawing he got so good at drawing to the point where he would literally be able
point where he would literally be able
point where he would literally be able to draw without even looking at the
to draw without even looking at the
to draw without even looking at the paper just to ruse his teachers he
paper just to ruse his teachers he
paper just to ruse his teachers he continued on drawing even after
continued on drawing even after
continued on drawing even after graduation and everybody had grown up
graduation and everybody had grown up
graduation and everybody had grown up except him his parents immediately took
except him his parents immediately took
except him his parents immediately took notice of this and told him that he
notice of this and told him that he
notice of this and told him that he cannot keep on drawing these silly
cannot keep on drawing these silly
cannot keep on drawing these silly characters all day in his room so but
characters all day in his room so but
characters all day in his room so but Matt never really saw himself in a suit
Matt never really saw himself in a suit
Matt never really saw himself in a suit and
and
and I going to work with some briefcase in
I going to work with some briefcase in
I going to work with some briefcase in some office building so this sort of
some office building so this sort of
some office building so this sort of mindset caused him to be able to create
mindset caused him to be able to create
mindset caused him to be able to create such a show as The Simpsons but both of
such a show as The Simpsons but both of
such a show as The Simpsons but both of these cases end with a happy ending what
these cases end with a happy ending what
these cases end with a happy ending what about some of the cases that don’t end
about some of the cases that don’t end
about some of the cases that don’t end like that let’s take for example more
like that let’s take for example more
like that let’s take for example more personal example of mine of my cousin
personal example of mine of my cousin
personal example of mine of my cousin let’s name him James
let’s name him James
let’s name him James now James’s father had recently told him
now James’s father had recently told him
now James’s father had recently told him that he has to inherit his dad’s company
that he has to inherit his dad’s company
that he has to inherit his dad’s company which relies on a good architect like
which relies on a good architect like
which relies on a good architect like his father to be successful but James
his father to be successful but James
his father to be successful but James was never really that good of an
was never really that good of an
was never really that good of an architect he was always an engineer type
architect he was always an engineer type
architect he was always an engineer type of guy whilst growing up with James he
of guy whilst growing up with James he
of guy whilst growing up with James he would always want to know how things
would always want to know how things
would always want to know how things were manufactured how things worked how
were manufactured how things worked how
were manufactured how things worked how things were made yet when college came
things were made yet when college came
things were made yet when college came around he had to enlist in a college
around he had to enlist in a college
around he had to enlist in a college that would allow him to study in the
that would allow him to study in the
that would allow him to study in the field of architecture just because he
field of architecture just because he
field of architecture just because he was following his father’s dreams
was following his father’s dreams
was following his father’s dreams instead of his own the book called the
instead of his own the book called the
instead of his own the book called the element is a novel written by Ken
element is a novel written by Ken
element is a novel written by Ken Robeson that states that there is such a
Robeson that states that there is such a
Robeson that states that there is such a thing called the element which is a
thing called the element which is a
thing called the element which is a point in time where one is at maximum
point in time where one is at maximum
point in time where one is at maximum peace with themselves this point in time
peace with themselves this point in time
peace with themselves this point in time is achieved through doing the thing you
is achieved through doing the thing you
is achieved through doing the thing you love and disregarding anyone that’s
love and disregarding anyone that’s
love and disregarding anyone that’s telling me otherwise in this case what
telling me otherwise in this case what
telling me otherwise in this case what is parents now there is one more factor
is parents now there is one more factor
is parents now there is one more factor that I want to talk about that is a big
that I want to talk about that is a big
that I want to talk about that is a big what-if compared to my other two which
what-if compared to my other two which
what-if compared to my other two which were education and relationships it’s on
were education and relationships it’s on
were education and relationships it’s on the topic of religion now to really
the topic of religion now to really
the topic of religion now to really understand this topic we need to take a
understand this topic we need to take a
understand this topic we need to take a step back and evaluate the beginning of
step back and evaluate the beginning of
step back and evaluate the beginning of our lives where we add birth without the
our lives where we add birth without the
our lives where we add birth without the choice inherit our parents religion so
choice inherit our parents religion so
choice inherit our parents religion so should kids be able to choose their own
should kids be able to choose their own
should kids be able to choose their own religion at anytime they want
religion at anytime they want
religion at anytime they want this of course would only be possible if
this of course would only be possible if
this of course would only be possible if the parent were to agree to give the kid
the parent were to agree to give the kid
the parent were to agree to give the kid the right materials and knowledge of
the right materials and knowledge of
the right materials and knowledge of each religion so that in the end the kid
each religion so that in the end the kid
each religion so that in the end the kid can choose another one this doesn’t
can choose another one this doesn’t
can choose another one this doesn’t necessarily mean another one the kid can
necessarily mean another one the kid can
necessarily mean another one the kid can choose the same one as well let’s take
choose the same one as well let’s take
choose the same one as well let’s take another personal example of my friend
another personal example of my friend
another personal example of my friend let’s go home Joe now Joseph’s family
let’s go home Joe now Joseph’s family
let’s go home Joe now Joseph’s family are Christians his father even a priest
are Christians his father even a priest
are Christians his father even a priest yet he is an atheist the the family
yet he is an atheist the the family
yet he is an atheist the the family hasn’t has nothing against them or his
hasn’t has nothing against them or his
hasn’t has nothing against them or his belief this sort of mindset in my
belief this sort of mindset in my
belief this sort of mindset in my opinion is the correct mindset to think
opinion is the correct mindset to think
opinion is the correct mindset to think of yet there are other cases in which
of yet there are other cases in which
of yet there are other cases in which our parents and families embed the
our parents and families embed the
our parents and families embed the religion on to their kid not allowing
religion on to their kid not allowing
religion on to their kid not allowing them to learn of any other one narrowing
them to learn of any other one narrowing
them to learn of any other one narrowing their perspective of the whole world
their perspective of the whole world
their perspective of the whole world so I kids responsible enough to choose
so I kids responsible enough to choose
so I kids responsible enough to choose who they love our kids responsible
who they love our kids responsible
who they love our kids responsible enough to choose what career they are
enough to choose what career they are
enough to choose what career they are going to take our kids responsible
going to take our kids responsible
going to take our kids responsible enough to choose what belief they’re
enough to choose what belief they’re
enough to choose what belief they’re going to believe in in my opinion they
going to believe in in my opinion they
going to believe in in my opinion they are but in yours that might not be the
are but in yours that might not be the
are but in yours that might not be the case but of course I’m not saying that
case but of course I’m not saying that
case but of course I’m not saying that one should never listen to their parents
one should never listen to their parents
one should never listen to their parents or rebel one should probably listen to
or rebel one should probably listen to
or rebel one should probably listen to them most of the time but when it comes
them most of the time but when it comes
them most of the time but when it comes to one’s dreams don’t let anyone tell
to one’s dreams don’t let anyone tell
to one’s dreams don’t let anyone tell you otherwise thank
you otherwise thank
you otherwise thank [Applause]
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