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[Music] so when I was asked to do a talk about

so when I was asked to do a talk about

so when I was asked to do a talk about doing what scares you I was literally

doing what scares you I was literally

doing what scares you I was literally just like oh my god this is perfect okay

just like oh my god this is perfect okay

just like oh my god this is perfect okay this is an amazing topic it’s something

this is an amazing topic it’s something

this is an amazing topic it’s something that we don’t talk about enough and it’s

that we don’t talk about enough and it’s

that we don’t talk about enough and it’s something that we need to do more often

something that we need to do more often

something that we need to do more often we always look at our fears we’re always

we always look at our fears we’re always

we always look at our fears we’re always told to avoid fear as if it’s a bad

told to avoid fear as if it’s a bad

told to avoid fear as if it’s a bad thing as if fear is dangerous but

thing as if fear is dangerous but

thing as if fear is dangerous but personally I say the opposite

personally I say the opposite

personally I say the opposite I say we shouldn’t look at our fears and

I say we shouldn’t look at our fears and

I say we shouldn’t look at our fears and say why why doesn’t scare me

say why why doesn’t scare me

say why why doesn’t scare me and then we should look at them and then

and then we should look at them and then

and then we should look at them and then we should talk of them head-on so that’s

we should talk of them head-on so that’s

we should talk of them head-on so that’s what I’m gonna be talking about today

what I’m gonna be talking about today

what I’m gonna be talking about today and another thing not I wanna talk about

and another thing not I wanna talk about

and another thing not I wanna talk about is when I got contacted again by the tag

is when I got contacted again by the tag

is when I got contacted again by the tag group is that they said to me I said

group is that they said to me I said

group is that they said to me I said okay who’s the other speakers what do

okay who’s the other speakers what do

okay who’s the other speakers what do you guys want me to talk about and they

you guys want me to talk about and they

you guys want me to talk about and they told me the others talks and speeches

told me the others talks and speeches

told me the others talks and speeches that were gonna go down and there was so

that were gonna go down and there was so

that were gonna go down and there was so monumental stories and then there’s hear

monumental stories and then there’s hear

monumental stories and then there’s hear me with my little problems that

me with my little problems that

me with my little problems that literally don’t even compare but but the

literally don’t even compare but but the

literally don’t even compare but but the thing is fear is actually subjective and

thing is fear is actually subjective and

thing is fear is actually subjective and what scares one person might not even

what scares one person might not even

what scares one person might not even faze the next person and you probably

faze the next person and you probably

faze the next person and you probably see your highlighted in red there and it

see your highlighted in red there and it

see your highlighted in red there and it doesn’t matter what scares the next

doesn’t matter what scares the next

doesn’t matter what scares the next person you need to address your fears

person you need to address your fears

person you need to address your fears because that is what is important so

because that is what is important so

because that is what is important so I’ll give you a bit of a backstory by me

I’ll give you a bit of a backstory by me

I’ll give you a bit of a backstory by me I did you know I bet three years ago I

I did you know I bet three years ago I

I did you know I bet three years ago I wasn’t in a bad place and I wasn’t in a

wasn’t in a bad place and I wasn’t in a

wasn’t in a bad place and I wasn’t in a good place I was in a bad place but

good place I was in a bad place but

good place I was in a bad place but actually almost hate saying no I was in

actually almost hate saying no I was in

actually almost hate saying no I was in a bad place because the kind of sounds

a bad place because the kind of sounds

a bad place because the kind of sounds like that you know what was me but

like that you know what was me but

like that you know what was me but that’s a I wasn’t where I wanted to be

that’s a I wasn’t where I wanted to be

that’s a I wasn’t where I wanted to be so I was in a negative a college course

so I was in a negative a college course

so I was in a negative a college course that I had no interested in I really

that I had no interested in I really

that I had no interested in I really didn’t enjoy it I was failing my exams

didn’t enjoy it I was failing my exams

didn’t enjoy it I was failing my exams repeating year after year

repeating year after year

repeating year after year and really just stagnant I was fired

and really just stagnant I was fired

and really just stagnant I was fired from a job that I hated and I actually

from a job that I hated and I actually

from a job that I hated and I actually don’t even blame my boss required me I

don’t even blame my boss required me I

don’t even blame my boss required me I say I walked into work and the fare was

say I walked into work and the fare was

say I walked into work and the fare was like oh not this guy again like he does

like oh not this guy again like he does

like oh not this guy again like he does not want to be here and you know even my

not want to be here and you know even my

not want to be here and you know even my family business went under so that

family business went under so that

family business went under so that wasn’t a roof that I could I go into

wasn’t a roof that I could I go into

wasn’t a roof that I could I go into either so I’m not saying that I had

either so I’m not saying that I had

either so I’m not saying that I had nothing at all because something that I

nothing at all because something that I

nothing at all because something that I really always remind people off is that

really always remind people off is that

really always remind people off is that there’s always someone worse off than

there’s always someone worse off than

there’s always someone worse off than you but I did feel like my back was up

you but I did feel like my back was up

you but I did feel like my back was up against the wall and that I was really

against the wall and that I was really

against the wall and that I was really just going nowhere so this kind of came

just going nowhere so this kind of came

just going nowhere so this kind of came from a little bit when I was in college

from a little bit when I was in college

from a little bit when I was in college now we’re often always told to focus on

now we’re often always told to focus on

now we’re often always told to focus on our weaknesses and try work on them

our weaknesses and try work on them

our weaknesses and try work on them instead of focus on our strengths I’m

instead of focus on our strengths I’m

instead of focus on our strengths I’m doing what we love to do doing what

doing what we love to do doing what

doing what we love to do doing what we’re really good at I’m doing what we

we’re really good at I’m doing what we

we’re really good at I’m doing what we enjoy so here’s me sitting in college

enjoy so here’s me sitting in college

enjoy so here’s me sitting in college doing quantitive techniques because

doing quantitive techniques because

doing quantitive techniques because that’s going to have loads of where I

that’s going to have loads of where I

that’s going to have loads of where I want to go and then I get funded by a

want to go and then I get funded by a

want to go and then I get funded by a big app and I feel like a failure I feel

big app and I feel like a failure I feel

big app and I feel like a failure I feel like an idiot and I feel really bad

like an idiot and I feel really bad

like an idiot and I feel really bad about myself and I was told you need to

about myself and I was told you need to

about myself and I was told you need to work on your quantitative techniques or

work on your quantitative techniques or

work on your quantitative techniques or whatever the hell it was and I need to

whatever the hell it was and I need to

whatever the hell it was and I need to work on my weaknesses whereas in my life

work on my weaknesses whereas in my life

work on my weaknesses whereas in my life there’s always been one thing that I’ve

there’s always been one thing that I’ve

there’s always been one thing that I’ve really enjoyed and I’ve been really good

really enjoyed and I’ve been really good

really enjoyed and I’ve been really good at and that is physical training

at and that is physical training

at and that is physical training strength and conditioning and fitness

strength and conditioning and fitness

strength and conditioning and fitness even when I played rugby since I was 12

even when I played rugby since I was 12

even when I played rugby since I was 12 years old I would always enjoy the

years old I would always enjoy the

years old I would always enjoy the famous the gym the conditioning more

famous the gym the conditioning more

famous the gym the conditioning more than the actual games to be honest with

than the actual games to be honest with

than the actual games to be honest with you and more than the actual skill

you and more than the actual skill

you and more than the actual skill sessions so after a couple of years of

sessions so after a couple of years of

sessions so after a couple of years of really just going nowhere unlike I’m

really just going nowhere unlike I’m

really just going nowhere unlike I’m talking about very repeating doing the

talking about very repeating doing the

talking about very repeating doing the same year no real progress in life I

same year no real progress in life I

same year no real progress in life I said I really need to start focusing on

said I really need to start focusing on

said I really need to start focusing on my stress I’m just doing what I love

my stress I’m just doing what I love

my stress I’m just doing what I love because I’ve got nothing else to lose so

because I’ve got nothing else to lose so

because I’ve got nothing else to lose so this is that it’s got a funny and this

this is that it’s got a funny and this

this is that it’s got a funny and this is my fear okay

is my fear okay

is my fear okay and this is this was my number one

and this is this was my number one

and this is this was my number one biggest fear and this is how it all

biggest fear and this is how it all

biggest fear and this is how it all started for me

started for me

started for me so I told you I was really into fitness

so I told you I was really into fitness

so I told you I was really into fitness the gym everything learning about it so

the gym everything learning about it so

the gym everything learning about it so I want to start a blog I wanted to share

I want to start a blog I wanted to share

I want to start a blog I wanted to share this with the world so I started a

this with the world so I started a

this with the world so I started a facebook like page and I was so

facebook like page and I was so

facebook like page and I was so terrified to do this no like literally I

terrified to do this no like literally I

terrified to do this no like literally I put it off for weeks and weeks and weeks

put it off for weeks and weeks and weeks

put it off for weeks and weeks and weeks because I’m so literally petrified

because I’m so literally petrified

because I’m so literally petrified because other people would say oh God

because other people would say oh God

because other people would say oh God look at him he thinks he’s amazing he

look at him he thinks he’s amazing he

look at him he thinks he’s amazing he thinks he deserves a celebrity like page

thinks he deserves a celebrity like page

thinks he deserves a celebrity like page he thinks he’s you know he knows it all

he thinks he’s you know he knows it all

he thinks he’s you know he knows it all about fitness and cute I was very

about fitness and cute I was very

about fitness and cute I was very petrified and I didn’t do it and when I

petrified and I didn’t do it and when I

petrified and I didn’t do it and when I finally tackled my fear head-on and did

finally tackled my fear head-on and did

finally tackled my fear head-on and did it I had an anxiety attack I like to

it I had an anxiety attack I like to

it I had an anxiety attack I like to fell off my chair and it’s actually

fell off my chair and it’s actually

fell off my chair and it’s actually funny

funny

funny not a guy who never gives talks on

not a guy who never gives talks on

not a guy who never gives talks on social media marketing was petrified to

social media marketing was petrified to

social media marketing was petrified to start a Facebook page a couple of years

start a Facebook page a couple of years

start a Facebook page a couple of years ago so it just goes to show you how

ago so it just goes to show you how

ago so it just goes to show you how things can really do at 360 so I’m

things can really do at 360 so I’m

things can really do at 360 so I’m allowed to talk about people were saying

allowed to talk about people were saying

allowed to talk about people were saying to me oh yeah if you start this basic

to me oh yeah if you start this basic

to me oh yeah if you start this basic with life things you’re gonna look like

with life things you’re gonna look like

with life things you’re gonna look like you love yourself and we view that as an

you love yourself and we view that as an

you love yourself and we view that as an insult like no I love myself

insult like no I love myself

insult like no I love myself the officers I hate myself that’s an

the officers I hate myself that’s an

the officers I hate myself that’s an that’s a miserable so you should all

that’s a miserable so you should all

that’s a miserable so you should all love yourself that’s a little side

love yourself that’s a little side

love yourself that’s a little side tangent there but we’re always crippled

tangent there but we’re always crippled

tangent there but we’re always crippled by the expectations of others and when I

by the expectations of others and when I

by the expectations of others and when I was starting this page and starting out

was starting this page and starting out

was starting this page and starting out on social media I taught that I was

on social media I taught that I was

on social media I taught that I was almost ashamed to do it I taught that I

almost ashamed to do it I taught that I

almost ashamed to do it I taught that I have to do the school the college the

have to do the school the college the

have to do the school the college the internship the nine-to-five climb the

internship the nine-to-five climb the

internship the nine-to-five climb the corporate ladder even though you’re

corporate ladder even though you’re

corporate ladder even though you’re never gonna get to the top with y’all

never gonna get to the top with y’all

never gonna get to the top with y’all but I nice and then retired and don’t

but I nice and then retired and don’t

but I nice and then retired and don’t and that was it and I thought if I

and that was it and I thought if I

and that was it and I thought if I didn’t do that my family being going to

didn’t do that my family being going to

didn’t do that my family being going to me my peers would look down on me my

me my peers would look down on me my

me my peers would look down on me my friends would be like come on rock get

friends would be like come on rock get

friends would be like come on rock get your act together stop messing around on

your act together stop messing around on

your act together stop messing around on Facebook but I’m glad to say that I went

Facebook but I’m glad to say that I went

Facebook but I’m glad to say that I went oh my god

oh my god

oh my god I’ve heard that wrong so don’t be afraid

I’ve heard that wrong so don’t be afraid

I’ve heard that wrong so don’t be afraid to double down on your strengths and do

to double down on your strengths and do

to double down on your strengths and do that thing that may be scaring you and

that thing that may be scaring you and

that thing that may be scaring you and especially but for the crippled by the

especially but for the crippled by the

especially but for the crippled by the expectations of others in Ireland we’ve

expectations of others in Ireland we’ve

expectations of others in Ireland we’ve got this thing and I like to call it the

got this thing and I like to call it the

got this thing and I like to call it the island mentality or the small town

island mentality or the small town

island mentality or the small town mentality and basically the cutters if

mentality and basically the cutters if

mentality and basically the cutters if someone stepped out of line

someone stepped out of line

someone stepped out of line everyone’s quick to say hey get back in

everyone’s quick to say hey get back in

everyone’s quick to say hey get back in line

line

line do what you’re meant to do don’t break

do what you’re meant to do don’t break

do what you’re meant to do don’t break the norm get back in line and it’s you

the norm get back in line and it’s you

the norm get back in line and it’s you can kind of picture it’s like you know

can kind of picture it’s like you know

can kind of picture it’s like you know when you’re Dan and Pope or Dan the

when you’re Dan and Pope or Dan the

when you’re Dan and Pope or Dan the shops like Jesus did you see what John’s

shops like Jesus did you see what John’s

shops like Jesus did you see what John’s after doing there last week

after doing there last week

after doing there last week his mother would be proud you know like

his mother would be proud you know like

his mother would be proud you know like if that’s it’s a real Irish thing and I

if that’s it’s a real Irish thing and I

if that’s it’s a real Irish thing and I think that it’s just important to

think that it’s just important to

think that it’s just important to address that and to stop caring what

address that and to stop caring what

address that and to stop caring what other people think because there’s

other people think because there’s

other people think because there’s always gonna be some enough disagrees

always gonna be some enough disagrees

always gonna be some enough disagrees with you or what your mission is or what

with you or what your mission is or what

with you or what your mission is or what you want to do and that is absolutely

you want to do and that is absolutely

you want to do and that is absolutely fine so while these may sound like

fine so while these may sound like

fine so while these may sound like really small events and really minuscule

really small events and really minuscule

really small events and really minuscule stuff they can really add up over time

stuff they can really add up over time

stuff they can really add up over time so for example when I was on Facebook

so for example when I was on Facebook

so for example when I was on Facebook for a while I said okay it’s time to

for a while I said okay it’s time to

for a while I said okay it’s time to take it to the next level and I wanted

take it to the next level and I wanted

take it to the next level and I wanted to show people with my personalities

to show people with my personalities

to show people with my personalities like what I’m like on camera so senator

like what I’m like on camera so senator

like what I’m like on camera so senator ones start making videos so I want to

ones start making videos so I want to

ones start making videos so I want to bash your onto YouTube and I got that

bash your onto YouTube and I got that

bash your onto YouTube and I got that same feeling I did when I published my

same feeling I did when I published my

same feeling I did when I published my first youtube video okay the same

first youtube video okay the same

first youtube video okay the same feeling as I did when I publish a

feeling as I did when I publish a

feeling as I did when I publish a Facebook page in this feeling it’s it

Facebook page in this feeling it’s it

Facebook page in this feeling it’s it feels it’s scary but we need to actually

feels it’s scary but we need to actually

feels it’s scary but we need to actually look out for this feeling and go for

look out for this feeling and go for

look out for this feeling and go for things that make us feel this way so

things that make us feel this way so

things that make us feel this way so again a free time I said oh my god

again a free time I said oh my god

again a free time I said oh my god people are going to say I have a weird

people are going to say I have a weird

people are going to say I have a weird voice people are going to say I look

voice people are going to say I look

voice people are going to say I look funny on camera

funny on camera

funny on camera you are gonna say this a lot and of

you are gonna say this a lot and of

you are gonna say this a lot and of course everyone was super nice about it

course everyone was super nice about it

course everyone was super nice about it I was wearing nothing but all these

I was wearing nothing but all these

I was wearing nothing but all these small little events will end up adding

small little events will end up adding

small little events will end up adding padding padding up and having a huge

padding padding up and having a huge

padding padding up and having a huge massive impact so not only do I think

massive impact so not only do I think

massive impact so not only do I think you should do things that scare you I

you should do things that scare you I

you should do things that scare you I think that you should do things that

think that you should do things that

think that you should do things that scare you often I think every day you

scare you often I think every day you

scare you often I think every day you should try do something that scares you

should try do something that scares you

should try do something that scares you I think it was Margaret Thatcher who

I think it was Margaret Thatcher who

I think it was Margaret Thatcher who actually said that or someone

actually said that or someone

actually said that or someone it doesn’t matter his laws really good

it doesn’t matter his laws really good

it doesn’t matter his laws really good so today this talk actually kind of

so today this talk actually kind of

so today this talk actually kind of scared me so that’s me sorted for today

scared me so that’s me sorted for today

scared me so that’s me sorted for today that’s my you picked off the list and so

that’s my you picked off the list and so

that’s my you picked off the list and so every day when you do this and you’re

every day when you do this and you’re

every day when you do this and you’re going against your fears it’s gonna idle

going against your fears it’s gonna idle

going against your fears it’s gonna idle and bring where you want to be and I was

and bring where you want to be and I was

and bring where you want to be and I was paying about something called the

paying about something called the

paying about something called the butterfly effect as well and it’s

butterfly effect as well and it’s

butterfly effect as well and it’s basically a theory that the smallest

basically a theory that the smallest

basically a theory that the smallest thing like a butterfly flapping its

thing like a butterfly flapping its

thing like a butterfly flapping its wings can trigger a massive massive

wings can trigger a massive massive

wings can trigger a massive massive event all the way across the world which

event all the way across the world which

event all the way across the world which I believe is true but in this case if I

I believe is true but in this case if I

I believe is true but in this case if I didn’t click publish on that needs to be

didn’t click publish on that needs to be

didn’t click publish on that needs to be Facebook page I would not have my own

Facebook page I would not have my own

Facebook page I would not have my own clothing line not have one of the

clothing line not have one of the

clothing line not have one of the fastest growing YouTube channels in the

fastest growing YouTube channels in the

fastest growing YouTube channels in the country not be able to wake up every day

country not be able to wake up every day

country not be able to wake up every day do whatever the hell I like literally

do whatever the hell I like literally

do whatever the hell I like literally travel whenever I want I wouldn’t be in

travel whenever I want I wouldn’t be in

travel whenever I want I wouldn’t be in front of you guys giving this speech

front of you guys giving this speech

front of you guys giving this speech right now and doing what I love

right now and doing what I love

right now and doing what I love so it may seem tiny amazing relevant and

so it may seem tiny amazing relevant and

so it may seem tiny amazing relevant and may seem small but it could lead to a

may seem small but it could lead to a

may seem small but it could lead to a life-changing advance so I’m not really

life-changing advance so I’m not really

life-changing advance so I’m not really over exaggerating at all when I say

over exaggerating at all when I say

over exaggerating at all when I say every single defining moment has come

every single defining moment has come

every single defining moment has come from doing something that puts fear

from doing something that puts fear

from doing something that puts fear inside me I can promise you that once

inside me I can promise you that once

inside me I can promise you that once you stop caring so much about what other

you stop caring so much about what other

you stop caring so much about what other people think especially other people

people think especially other people

people think especially other people that you don’t even know you saw

that you don’t even know you saw

that you don’t even know you saw carrying back people’s opinions I’m

carrying back people’s opinions I’m

carrying back people’s opinions I’m going beyond your fears life becomes a

going beyond your fears life becomes a

going beyond your fears life becomes a lot more

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