good afternoon everyone when I was a kid my parents took me to the circus several
my parents took me to the circus several
my parents took me to the circus several times I loved animals performing there
times I loved animals performing there
times I loved animals performing there dancing to the music and performing
dancing to the music and performing
dancing to the music and performing various them amongst all the animals my
various them amongst all the animals my
various them amongst all the animals my favorite was the elephant elephants had
favorite was the elephant elephants had
favorite was the elephant elephants had considered as one of the strongest
considered as one of the strongest
considered as one of the strongest animals on the planet yet it was strange
animals on the planet yet it was strange
animals on the planet yet it was strange to see these huge creatures held by a
to see these huge creatures held by a
to see these huge creatures held by a small rope tied to their front leg that
small rope tied to their front leg that
small rope tied to their front leg that they could easily break it was obvious
they could easily break it was obvious
they could easily break it was obvious that elephants could at any time break
that elephants could at any time break
that elephants could at any time break away from the bonds they were tied to
away from the bonds they were tied to
away from the bonds they were tied to but for some reason they did not being
but for some reason they did not being
but for some reason they did not being surprised of this thought I asked the
surprised of this thought I asked the
surprised of this thought I asked the trainer how was this even possible he
trainer how was this even possible he
trainer how was this even possible he said this is because the elephants have
said this is because the elephants have
said this is because the elephants have been conditioned since childhood they
been conditioned since childhood they
been conditioned since childhood they have been conditioned to the use of
have been conditioned to the use of
have been conditioned to the use of heavy metals and chains which were
heavy metals and chains which were
heavy metals and chains which were impossible to break at that time in
impossible to break at that time in
impossible to break at that time in their life as they grew up they develop
their life as they grew up they develop
their life as they grew up they develop strength but they also develop a fixed
strength but they also develop a fixed
strength but they also develop a fixed mindset to be that they cannot break
mindset to be that they cannot break
mindset to be that they cannot break away and that associates them with their
away and that associates them with their
away and that associates them with their limits freedom and boundary they believe
limits freedom and boundary they believe
limits freedom and boundary they believe that the rope can still hold them so
that the rope can still hold them so
that the rope can still hold them so they never really track from Brennan
they never really track from Brennan
they never really track from Brennan only a rope is necessary to keep them
only a rope is necessary to keep them
only a rope is necessary to keep them from breaking bonds and realizing that
from breaking bonds and realizing that
from breaking bonds and realizing that restrain folks you do realize that I’m
restrain folks you do realize that I’m
restrain folks you do realize that I’m not talking about elephants at all don’t
not talking about elephants at all don’t
not talking about elephants at all don’t you how many of us go through the life
you how many of us go through the life
you how many of us go through the life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do
hanging onto a belief that we cannot do
hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something simply because we fail at it
something simply because we fail at it
something simply because we fail at it once we do not try just because we have
once we do not try just because we have
once we do not try just because we have a fixed mindset about certain things I
a fixed mindset about certain things I
a fixed mindset about certain things I want you to think of the word failure
want you to think of the word failure
want you to think of the word failure and go with the feeling that comes up
and go with the feeling that comes up
and go with the feeling that comes up when I think of it I feel tightness
when I think of it I feel tightness
when I think of it I feel tightness discomfort and pain it’s not pleasant
discomfort and pain it’s not pleasant
discomfort and pain it’s not pleasant but why do we feel this way the answer
but why do we feel this way the answer
but why do we feel this way the answer is our brains are wired to respond that
is our brains are wired to respond that
is our brains are wired to respond that way when scientists placed people in the
way when scientists placed people in the
way when scientists placed people in the functional MRI machine and asked them to
functional MRI machine and asked them to
functional MRI machine and asked them to recall a failure they discard something
recall a failure they discard something
recall a failure they discard something amazing
amazing
amazing they discovered that when we experience
they discovered that when we experience
they discovered that when we experience failure the same ideas of our brain gets
failure the same ideas of our brain gets
failure the same ideas of our brain gets activated as when we experience of
activated as when we experience of
activated as when we experience of physical pain that’s why even a small
physical pain that’s why even a small
physical pain that’s why even a small failure hurt so much when we think it
failure hurt so much when we think it
failure hurt so much when we think it should not because it causes an
should not because it causes an
should not because it causes an emotional pain however when we fear
emotional pain however when we fear
emotional pain however when we fear failure deep inside we know the reason
failure deep inside we know the reason
failure deep inside we know the reason behind our peer for the failure and
behind our peer for the failure and
behind our peer for the failure and hence we avoid confrontation by
hence we avoid confrontation by
hence we avoid confrontation by diverting thoughts to some new place
diverting thoughts to some new place
diverting thoughts to some new place fear of failure can actually be the best
fear of failure can actually be the best
fear of failure can actually be the best thing that one can experience because it
thing that one can experience because it
thing that one can experience because it often points us to the areas we need to
often points us to the areas we need to
often points us to the areas we need to investigate more closely fear itself
investigate more closely fear itself
investigate more closely fear itself isn’t a problem our reaction to our own
isn’t a problem our reaction to our own
isn’t a problem our reaction to our own fears is the issue it is the response to
fears is the issue it is the response to
fears is the issue it is the response to the failure that actually helps to
the failure that actually helps to
the failure that actually helps to buffer the setbacks you have experienced
buffer the setbacks you have experienced
buffer the setbacks you have experienced in life so I believe that the true path
in life so I believe that the true path
in life so I believe that the true path to success is through the fear of
to success is through the fear of
to success is through the fear of failure if you are not scared enough of
failure if you are not scared enough of
failure if you are not scared enough of failing you are unlikely to succeed and
failing you are unlikely to succeed and
failing you are unlikely to succeed and when I say success I only mean things
when I say success I only mean things
when I say success I only mean things that fall in places nothing else what
that fall in places nothing else what
that fall in places nothing else what ever happened to me was because I have
ever happened to me was because I have
ever happened to me was because I have always been petrified of failure in
always been petrified of failure in
always been petrified of failure in making fear of failure arrival we missed
making fear of failure arrival we missed
making fear of failure arrival we missed the challenge of perceiving the message
the challenge of perceiving the message
the challenge of perceiving the message that is being sent to us so I chose to
that is being sent to us so I chose to
that is being sent to us so I chose to make it an alert and gain so much out of
make it an alert and gain so much out of
make it an alert and gain so much out of it
it
it I feared public speaking so I
I feared public speaking so I
I feared public speaking so I investigated the reason behind it worked
investigated the reason behind it worked
investigated the reason behind it worked on the things that I liked even refused
on the things that I liked even refused
on the things that I liked even refused to think thoughts which created
to think thoughts which created
to think thoughts which created self-doubt and low confidence in me
self-doubt and low confidence in me
self-doubt and low confidence in me later on I started participating in
later on I started participating in
later on I started participating in public speaking events to conquer my
public speaking events to conquer my
public speaking events to conquer my fear of public speaking and as a result
fear of public speaking and as a result
fear of public speaking and as a result I earned around 85 words and
I earned around 85 words and
I earned around 85 words and certificates for public speaking group
certificates for public speaking group
certificates for public speaking group discussion debates and various of their
discussion debates and various of their
discussion debates and various of their competition
competition
competition I feared failing my engineering classes
I feared failing my engineering classes
I feared failing my engineering classes so I investigated the reason behind it
so I investigated the reason behind it
so I investigated the reason behind it I’ve worked as hard as I could manage my
I’ve worked as hard as I could manage my
I’ve worked as hard as I could manage my time efficiently understood the logic
time efficiently understood the logic
time efficiently understood the logic behind the theories and as a result I
behind the theories and as a result I
behind the theories and as a result I graduated in the top 10% of my class
graduated in the top 10% of my class
graduated in the top 10% of my class from this X
from this X
from this X I insist I learned that it is better to
I insist I learned that it is better to
I insist I learned that it is better to have a growth mindset rather than having
have a growth mindset rather than having
have a growth mindset rather than having a fixed mindset terms described by
a fixed mindset terms described by
a fixed mindset terms described by Stanford University psychologist dr.
Stanford University psychologist dr.
Stanford University psychologist dr. Carol Dweck dr. to access that people in
Carol Dweck dr. to access that people in
Carol Dweck dr. to access that people in the fixed mindset believe that they are
the fixed mindset believe that they are
the fixed mindset believe that they are good at some things and they are bad at
good at some things and they are bad at
good at some things and they are bad at something based on that inherent nature
something based on that inherent nature
something based on that inherent nature because it’s just who they are on the
because it’s just who they are on the
because it’s just who they are on the contrary people in the growth mindset
contrary people in the growth mindset
contrary people in the growth mindset believe that anyone could be good at
believe that anyone could be good at
believe that anyone could be good at anything because their abilities are
anything because their abilities are
anything because their abilities are entirely due to directions I embrace
entirely due to directions I embrace
entirely due to directions I embrace this distinction so I learned to have a
this distinction so I learned to have a
this distinction so I learned to have a different mindset I learned from my
different mindset I learned from my
different mindset I learned from my flaws my mistake people’s mistakes and
flaws my mistake people’s mistakes and
flaws my mistake people’s mistakes and of course the elephants not being
of course the elephants not being
of course the elephants not being pompous but I succeeded in almost
pompous but I succeeded in almost
pompous but I succeeded in almost everything I did in my college earth and
everything I did in my college earth and
everything I did in my college earth and that boosted my confidence level
that boosted my confidence level
that boosted my confidence level after engineering I joined my father’s
after engineering I joined my father’s
after engineering I joined my father’s firm as a marketing executive with the
firm as a marketing executive with the
firm as a marketing executive with the hope to succeed in this one too but I
hope to succeed in this one too but I
hope to succeed in this one too but I failed even though I believe that I had
failed even though I believe that I had
failed even though I believe that I had essential skills to sell the products I
essential skills to sell the products I
essential skills to sell the products I fail next time with a growth mindset in
fail next time with a growth mindset in
fail next time with a growth mindset in place I investigated more closely work
place I investigated more closely work
place I investigated more closely work as hard as I could even encouraged to
as hard as I could even encouraged to
as hard as I could even encouraged to think thoughts about the positive
think thoughts about the positive
think thoughts about the positive outcomes and tried again and the result
outcomes and tried again and the result
outcomes and tried again and the result was I failed again
was I failed again
was I failed again right for eight long months but I failed
right for eight long months but I failed
right for eight long months but I failed repeatedly meanwhile our company was
repeatedly meanwhile our company was
repeatedly meanwhile our company was doing well other marketing executives
doing well other marketing executives
doing well other marketing executives and my dad were filing orders for the
and my dad were filing orders for the
and my dad were filing orders for the company and that I was contributing
company and that I was contributing
company and that I was contributing nothing for eight long months unable to
nothing for eight long months unable to
nothing for eight long months unable to sell a single product also I thought
sell a single product also I thought
sell a single product also I thought that I could not just sit and think
that I could not just sit and think
that I could not just sit and think about the problem rather I need to find
about the problem rather I need to find
about the problem rather I need to find a solution to it too so I consulted a
a solution to it too so I consulted a
a solution to it too so I consulted a wise man I know on the planet
wise man I know on the planet
wise man I know on the planet my father there were tears in my eyes my
my father there were tears in my eyes my
my father there were tears in my eyes my confidence was shattered my past
confidence was shattered my past
confidence was shattered my past achievements meant nothing to me I said
achievements meant nothing to me I said
achievements meant nothing to me I said dad I think I’m not capable of selling
dad I think I’m not capable of selling
dad I think I’m not capable of selling products if I cannot sell a single
products if I cannot sell a single
products if I cannot sell a single product how will I be able to run this
product how will I be able to run this
product how will I be able to run this business this Empire you created so
business this Empire you created so
business this Empire you created so successful in future my dad smiled at me
successful in future my dad smiled at me
successful in future my dad smiled at me and said a wonderful thing that changed
and said a wonderful thing that changed
and said a wonderful thing that changed my life completely
my life completely
my life completely he said karmani Avada caressed a
he said karmani Avada caressed a
he said karmani Avada caressed a marvelous yoga dijanna I had the same
marvelous yoga dijanna I had the same
marvelous yoga dijanna I had the same look what you guys are having it right
look what you guys are having it right
look what you guys are having it right now it is one of the seven hundred
now it is one of the seven hundred
now it is one of the seven hundred verses of bhagavad-gita and those who
verses of bhagavad-gita and those who
verses of bhagavad-gita and those who don’t know what bhagavad-gita is it is
don’t know what bhagavad-gita is it is
don’t know what bhagavad-gita is it is an Indian text in Sanskrit language
an Indian text in Sanskrit language
an Indian text in Sanskrit language which has its importance in terms of
which has its importance in terms of
which has its importance in terms of literature and philosophy the meaning of
literature and philosophy the meaning of
literature and philosophy the meaning of that verse means you have the right to
that verse means you have the right to
that verse means you have the right to perform your prescribed duties but you
perform your prescribed duties but you
perform your prescribed duties but you don’t have control over the fruits of
don’t have control over the fruits of
don’t have control over the fruits of your actions he said son we have the
your actions he said son we have the
your actions he said son we have the right on the performance of our duty our
right on the performance of our duty our
right on the performance of our duty our actions it’s under our control but the
actions it’s under our control but the
actions it’s under our control but the results are not merely dependent on our
results are not merely dependent on our
results are not merely dependent on our efforts number of factors come into play
efforts number of factors come into play
efforts number of factors come into play while determining those results our past
while determining those results our past
while determining those results our past karma will of God luck place destiny
karma will of God luck place destiny
karma will of God luck place destiny time etc it’s complicated so just don’t
time etc it’s complicated so just don’t
time etc it’s complicated so just don’t think about the outcomes just act
think about the outcomes just act
think about the outcomes just act without having any desires of outcomes
without having any desires of outcomes
without having any desires of outcomes I was not totally convinced with what he
I was not totally convinced with what he
I was not totally convinced with what he was saying so I asked him that outcomes
was saying so I asked him that outcomes
was saying so I asked him that outcomes that basically driving force motivations
that basically driving force motivations
that basically driving force motivations for our action if I don’t desire to
for our action if I don’t desire to
for our action if I don’t desire to succeed if I don’t desire to have a
succeed if I don’t desire to have a
succeed if I don’t desire to have a positive outcome through my action then
positive outcome through my action then
positive outcome through my action then why should I even act to which he said
why should I even act to which he said
why should I even act to which he said protect the problem is that you have a
protect the problem is that you have a
protect the problem is that you have a result-oriented attitude which is not a
result-oriented attitude which is not a
result-oriented attitude which is not a bad thing but the time when you will be
bad thing but the time when you will be
bad thing but the time when you will be detached from the presume outcomes of
detached from the presume outcomes of
detached from the presume outcomes of your actions is the time you will
your actions is the time you will
your actions is the time you will progress in life a lot of time we view
progress in life a lot of time we view
progress in life a lot of time we view any outcome that does not meet our
any outcome that does not meet our
any outcome that does not meet our expectation to be a failure but we
expectation to be a failure but we
expectation to be a failure but we forget the most important part that is
forget the most important part that is
forget the most important part that is the experience that got us to that
the experience that got us to that
the experience that got us to that outcome so son actions are where all the
outcome so son actions are where all the
outcome so son actions are where all the lessons and growth life results are just
lessons and growth life results are just
lessons and growth life results are just the icing on the cake so it shouldn’t
the icing on the cake so it shouldn’t
the icing on the cake so it shouldn’t matter much I understood what he was
matter much I understood what he was
matter much I understood what he was saying so I trained myself to be what I
saying so I trained myself to be what I
saying so I trained myself to be what I call being de motional emotional about
call being de motional emotional about
call being de motional emotional about the things I do but detached from the
the things I do but detached from the
the things I do but detached from the outcomes of it that’s what being the
outcomes of it that’s what being the
outcomes of it that’s what being the emotional is
emotional is
emotional is whatever I did I did it with my full
whatever I did I did it with my full
whatever I did I did it with my full dedication perseverance positive
dedication perseverance positive
dedication perseverance positive attitude and with passion but at the
attitude and with passion but at the
attitude and with passion but at the same time I was detached from the
same time I was detached from the
same time I was detached from the outcomes of it if I had a good outcome I
outcomes of it if I had a good outcome I
outcomes of it if I had a good outcome I use that for my well-being if I had a
use that for my well-being if I had a
use that for my well-being if I had a bad outcome I used that for my
bad outcome I used that for my
bad outcome I used that for my well-being I perceived that the things
well-being I perceived that the things
well-being I perceived that the things that go right that is in which you
that go right that is in which you
that go right that is in which you succeed have a life of its own and they
succeed have a life of its own and they
succeed have a life of its own and they take care of themselves
take care of themselves
take care of themselves but the things that go wrong should
but the things that go wrong should
but the things that go wrong should never ever be forgotten I perceived that
never ever be forgotten I perceived that
never ever be forgotten I perceived that success is a wonderful thing
success is a wonderful thing
success is a wonderful thing we enjoyed perhaps we even deserve it
we enjoyed perhaps we even deserve it
we enjoyed perhaps we even deserve it but success is a bad teacher
but success is a bad teacher
but success is a bad teacher we neither learn anything from it nor
we neither learn anything from it nor
we neither learn anything from it nor acquire wisdom from it whereas failure
acquire wisdom from it whereas failure
acquire wisdom from it whereas failure failure is a fantastic teacher it always
failure is a fantastic teacher it always
failure is a fantastic teacher it always teaches you something or the other maybe
teaches you something or the other maybe
teaches you something or the other maybe this wasn’t meant to be maybe I need to
this wasn’t meant to be maybe I need to
this wasn’t meant to be maybe I need to work harder maybe my best was not good
work harder maybe my best was not good
work harder maybe my best was not good enough it always teaches you something
enough it always teaches you something
enough it always teaches you something or the other
or the other
or the other in my case repeated failure taught me
in my case repeated failure taught me
in my case repeated failure taught me that I am not invincible
that I am not invincible
that I am not invincible I guess this acquired wisdom was the
I guess this acquired wisdom was the
I guess this acquired wisdom was the reason which led to 23 percent increase
reason which led to 23 percent increase
reason which led to 23 percent increase in the sales next year for my company
in the sales next year for my company
in the sales next year for my company and the sole credit goes to the sage on
and the sole credit goes to the sage on
and the sole credit goes to the sage on the stage how’s that for being pompous
in our Indian Hindu mythology it is said
in our Indian Hindu mythology it is said that the person’s life journey starts
that the person’s life journey starts
that the person’s life journey starts with his birth and ends with his death
with his birth and ends with his death
with his birth and ends with his death death our ultimate destination success
death our ultimate destination success
death our ultimate destination success and failure are just the stepping stones
and failure are just the stepping stones
and failure are just the stepping stones in that journey the one who sees simple
in that journey the one who sees simple
in that journey the one who sees simple events of life itself as a goal of life
events of life itself as a goal of life
events of life itself as a goal of life for them there is failure and success
for them there is failure and success
for them there is failure and success but the one who sees simple events of
but the one who sees simple events of
but the one who sees simple events of life just as a stepping stone for their
life just as a stepping stone for their
life just as a stepping stone for their ultimate destination for them there is
ultimate destination for them there is
ultimate destination for them there is no failure or success the most horrific
no failure or success the most horrific
no failure or success the most horrific event happened in your life can also be
event happened in your life can also be
event happened in your life can also be used for your welfare if you perceive
used for your welfare if you perceive
used for your welfare if you perceive the outcomes of small events in the
the outcomes of small events in the
the outcomes of small events in the right way
right way
right way and when I say small events
and when I say small events
and when I say small events I mean your academics courier marriage
I mean your academics courier marriage
I mean your academics courier marriage children all those big things to ideas
children all those big things to ideas
children all those big things to ideas were sharing through the stock our first
were sharing through the stock our first
were sharing through the stock our first try to be devotional in life second
try to be devotional in life second
try to be devotional in life second never ever try to be like an elephant
never ever try to be like an elephant
never ever try to be like an elephant with a fixed mindset to wrap it up I
with a fixed mindset to wrap it up I
with a fixed mindset to wrap it up I would like to say it is impossible to
would like to say it is impossible to
would like to say it is impossible to fail completely and it is also
fail completely and it is also
fail completely and it is also impossible to succeed perfectly but it
impossible to succeed perfectly but it
impossible to succeed perfectly but it is always possible to perform
is always possible to perform
is always possible to perform dedicatedly hence only by controlling
dedicatedly hence only by controlling
dedicatedly hence only by controlling emotion and dropping negativity one can
emotion and dropping negativity one can
emotion and dropping negativity one can perceive failure and acquire wisdom from
perceive failure and acquire wisdom from
perceive failure and acquire wisdom from it thank you
it thank you
it thank you [Applause]
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