DISCOMFORT is Your FRIEND – Joe Rogan (@joerogan) – #Entspresso

– Good morning believe nation my name is Evan Carmichael

my one word is believe

and I believe that entrepreneurs

will solve all of the world’s major problems.

So to help you on your journey today’s message

is discomfort is your friend.

Over to you Joe Rogan.

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– Our bodies for whatever reason

most people their associations

are to avoid anything that’s uncomfortable

but it’s so illogical

because when you look at comfort

and you look at success and progress

and the eventual feelings of accomplishment

and of getting past certain hurtles

in terms of how you feel about life.

A lot of those are connected to discomfort.

Discomfort is your friend.

It really is.

Discomfort and not being happy and content

with certain situations in life

or certain feelings in life,

there are massive motivators

and they’re amazing at facilitating change

and yet our instinct is to avoid those

and just sit on the couch

and watch some reality show about dudes who make moonshine

with our jaw open like (gurgles)

it’s bizarre.

– You can measure your growth in life

as a human being by how much discomfort

you’re regularly experiencing.

There’s that old expression that you need

to scare yourself everyday.

Right we hear it in songs.

We hear it in radio.

We hear it on TV.

We read it in books.

You got to do something that scares you every day

and it’s great advice.

It’s amazing advice.

We just don’t do it.

Do you do something that scares you everyday?

When was the last time you did something

that actually scares you?

When you aren’t doing things that scare you

that’s when you see insane growth.

That’s when you see yourself developing,

your business developing

and it may not happen right away

but through that process of scaring yourself

and getting uncomfortable,

that’s when you start seeing amazing things happen

and you feel great.

You feel scared but you also feel great

because we love to grow

’cause as humans we want to grow.

We want to get better.

We want to learn.

We want to develop ourselves

and so what I would encourage you to do is

try to develop the habit

of you can either consciously say

I’m tryin’ to do somethin’ to scare myself everyday.

Right?

Which can be a good practice

but also can be reactive

in that when you have an idea

or somebody asks you to do something

and you get those nerves.

Right?

You get those nerves that scare you.

I don’t want to do that I might fail.

To recognize that and then to build and grow from that.

To start building that muscle of fear

and breaking through it.

I think it’s really important.

I think most of what we do is subconscious.

I think most of the actions you take will be subconscious.

You will just naturally play smaller

without even thinking about it.

You’ll rationalize the fear.

Right?

You’ll rationalize the discomfort.

You really want to start a YouTube channel

and the real reason is you’re afraid

to get in front of the camera.

You’re afraid of people’s judgment of you

but instead of recognizing that

you’ll say oh but I don’t have the money,

just to get a camera.

I don’t have the time.

I have a really busy life

and you know I got to get the gear

and the lights, the microphone

and I don’t know even know if I need

to go to school for this.

All the irrationalize the reason

but deep down it’s just fear.

You’re just afraid.

So the first step is just understanding

that it’s fear.

That you’re really just afraid of doing this thing

and then when you understand that,

practice developing the courage to go and do it.

Whenever I feel myself being a little bit afraid,

worried about other people’s expectations,

then I know I have to go up and do it.

So a couple examples,

I went to Paris not that long ago

and was speaking on stage at a key note speech

to close out a conference.

There’s about 2000 people in the room

and I’ve done tons of these speeches right?

I’ve done a lot of speeches

and every time I go I want to try

and do something new.

Something different.

Not just for the audience,

’cause a lot of the audience hadn’t seen me before.

For myself.

I don’t want to get up on stage and just do the same speech

that I’ve always done.

Every time I go I want to do something different for myself

and so this time I went up and I didn’t use any slides.

I had one slide the entire presentation.

Usually I had slides that would have pictures,

I’d follow it along the story of what I was saying.

I don’t read from slides I’ve never done that.

Well maybe probably when I started a bit from slides

but this time I was like you know what

I have a 20 minute presentation.

I’m going to get on the stage.

I’m just going to go.

And the initial fears that come back

like what if I forget what I’m going to say?

What if I lose track?

Because the pictures at least kept me on track

and what if I miss a point?

You know.

I shouldn’t do it you know,

I’ve been paid to come here

and I need to make sure I’m providing a lot of value

and that’s maybe not the smartest idea.

All of these fears come in.

Like no I’m going to do it.

I got to do it.

I need to push myself for me

and I was so nervous

there was a guy speaking before me

I just couldn’t wait for him to finish

’cause all the way through his presentation,

I’m thinking okay what am I going to say?

I got to say this, I got to say this.

Fears, fears, fears, fears.

They announce my name

instead of walkin’ around the stage

like everybody else does

I just jumped onto the stage.

I was in the front row.

Evan Carmichael.

I jumped on the stage and the MC

had to come and shake my hand upfront

instead of around the side.

I think it’s important.

I think it’s important for yourself.

That you do the things that make you feel uncomfortable.

I told this story before on my channel.

Even making videos here

I’m worried about people walking behind me

and doin’ it in a public setting instead

of closing the doors or doing somewhere else

or wearing different colored socks

because my son did it and then i was worried

that people would judge me if I tried to do it

because I was worried about the judgment.

I had to go out and do it.

Or listening to music when I’m walkin’ in the street

and dancing and then when I get to close

to a busy intersection.

Dancing smaller.

See that you catch it.

See you’ll dance smaller just naturally.

You’ll play smaller naturally.

But if you can catch it that’s when you can say

no I’m not impacting these people.

I’m not tryin’ to make their life worse right?

My dancing,

my doing whatever I want to do in the street

doesn’t impact them.

If anything it’s giving them something different to look at.

It’s bringing a little more joy.

They might tell their co-worker

they saw this crazy guy on the street dancing.

Maybe they go back to their office

and dance a little bit more.

Maybe what I’m doing is actually inspiring them.

But an actual baseball so you can catch it.

That’s when you got to take the action.

There’s that great expression of doing something

everyday that scares you but we don’t actually do it.

So I would encourage you

so when you feel that discomfort

try to recognize it.

Try to see it as this is muscle building time

and go out and do it.

So the question today is I’m curious

what was the last thing you did that scared you?

Leave it down in the comments below

I’m really curious to find out.

I also want to give a quick shout out to Priest Willis.

Priest thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book.

Your One Word.

I really appreciate the support

and hope you enjoyed my book.

So thank you guys so much for watching.

I believe in you.

I hope you continue to believe in yourself

and whatever your one word is.

Much love and I’ll see you again tomorrow morning

for another shot of espresso.

♫ I wake up every morning

♫ Espresso keep me going

– If I had to rewind the clock 10 years

I would’ve insisted by people

that are close to me,

please push me into very unsafe projects.

At least every other one.

I think it’s professionally responsible

to not continue to remake the same role

over and over again.

What’s tonight?

Turkey TV dinner, turkey TV dinner.

[Interviewer] so it looks like you always

go out of your comfort zone right?

Coming onto an island that was completely deserted,

no fresh water you didn’t even have the money to buy it

and now you’re sleeping on a tent on the beach

trying to figure out how to get fresh water here.

You do that often.

You did it with the airline?

– I was just somebody that experienced

the bad experience of traveling on airlines.

I was actually trying to get to the BVI,

the British Virgin Islands one day from Puerto Rico

and the same lovely lady was waiting for me

and I’d been away for three weeks

and American Airlines bumped the flight

and so I went to the back of the airport

I hired a plane.

I had a black board.

I wrote Virgin Airlines one way $29 to BVI.

Went around all the people who had been bumped

and I filled my first plane.

And that got me thinking that airlines

do bump people they don’t care about you or me particularly

in the air so then rang up Boeing

and said do you have any second N747’s–

– No kidding I mean it was literally

that you just sat in the airport

and said I’m starting an airline right now

because I’m frustrated.

– Exactly.

And I think most of the best entrepreneurial ideas

come out of frustration I think.

If you’re frustrated about something,

the best way of sorting it out

is get out and do it.

And you’ve got yourself a business.

– Starting with Lincoln Lawyer was a time when I said

I wanted to recalibrate my relationship

with my career.

I remember saying that.

I remember thinking my career,

I’m enjoying it.

I love what it’s given me.

I like goin’ to work.

I like the things I’ve been doin’.

But everything I started reading

I felt like oh,

it’s another version of something I’ve done

or I feel like I could do it next week

and I remember going well wait a minute

before you get mad at thinking

you could do something next week,

that’s a valid feeling.

Don’t just say no to something

’cause you can feel like you can naturally do it

but then I said okay fair I’ll shake

with you on that McConaughey but…

(audience laughs)

Let me find something that I don’t know

how what to do with that next week

or the week after.

Anytime something that I really like

but I’m goin oh I’m not sure.

That scares me that shakes my floor

and I was fortunate enough to that schedule F.

Check I got in the Angels in the Outfield.

Didn’t know that my rent was paid.

I was fortunate enough that all my kids were going to eat.

I was just shepherding my first son into the world.

So I had that to take care of my time.

I said it’s a great time to go in the shadows

and be a father and sit back

and see if something turns you on from the inside

or if something finds you

if you’re the target.

We’re okay rent’s paid.

Kids are going to eat.

We can take some time off.

I in know way was thinking about oh I’m done

but I didn’t know how long the dry spell

was going to go so I said no to some of the things

that were similar to what I had been doing before

and it took awhile I had to sit down with my agent

and say hey I’m really going to do this

and I need your help with my commitment to this

because after eight months

if the same thing comes in with a big 10 million dollar

paycheck it starts to read better and funnier.

(audience laughs)

I promise you.

I mean the same words.

All the sudden I think this thing’s great.

(audience laughs)

I think I can find an angle.

No I can make it a different experience for me.

So I said I’m going to need your help

bunkering down there and saying no to some things

and so I’m going to need you to be a gate keeper

one to keep from getting to me,

two let’s be real clear I’m lookin’

for some different things to do.

He holed up he handled that.

My wife we said we don’t know how long it’s going to be dry

then after they quit sending those,

then it did get dry.

Then nothing came for about year.

There’s nothing.

I didn’t have any sleepless nights

or oh my gosh.

I was like no I’ll find something.

I’ll write.

I was writing a lot.

I was turning myself on creatively

and as I said I had my first son to shepherd into the world.

And then the funny thing happened.

The beautiful thing happened

that I somehow I was the target,

drew the arrow and I think my opinion is

I became a new good idea by removing myself.

I became William Frincken calls,

Steven Soderberg calls for the first time.

Somehow in that two years I became fresh new idea

that I don’t think I was two, three years prior.

How that works I’m not sure because

I didn’t send a memo out.

(audience laughs)