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usually when I’m on stage it’s just to

usually when I’m on stage it’s just to share music with people or I might be

share music with people or I might be

share music with people or I might be playing a part in a show but today I’m

playing a part in a show but today I’m

playing a part in a show but today I’m here to talk to you about what’s going

here to talk to you about what’s going

here to talk to you about what’s going on in our country to offer my

on in our country to offer my

on in our country to offer my perspective as the daughter of a

perspective as the daughter of a

perspective as the daughter of a Holocaust survivor and to hopefully

Holocaust survivor and to hopefully

Holocaust survivor and to hopefully offer some solutions I don’t know if

offer some solutions I don’t know if

offer some solutions I don’t know if you’ve noticed but I have that a certain

you’ve noticed but I have that a certain

you’ve noticed but I have that a certain segment of our population has become

segment of our population has become

segment of our population has become very empowered in its bigotry lately

very empowered in its bigotry lately

very empowered in its bigotry lately hate crimes are on the rise bullying has

hate crimes are on the rise bullying has

hate crimes are on the rise bullying has become more and more intense I thought

become more and more intense I thought

become more and more intense I thought all this new hate would just dissipate

all this new hate would just dissipate

all this new hate would just dissipate and go away after the November 9th

and go away after the November 9th

and go away after the November 9th elections but that was not to be in fact

elections but that was not to be in fact

elections but that was not to be in fact quite the opposite happened so I knew we

quite the opposite happened so I knew we

quite the opposite happened so I knew we were all in for a very rocky ride what

were all in for a very rocky ride what

were all in for a very rocky ride what was my response to write a song it’s

was my response to write a song it’s

was my response to write a song it’s what I do I wrote I’ll have your back to

what I do I wrote I’ll have your back to

what I do I wrote I’ll have your back to inspire you to stand up for people who

inspire you to stand up for people who

inspire you to stand up for people who are being targeted and bullied and to

are being targeted and bullied and to

are being targeted and bullied and to let those people know that there are

let those people know that there are

let those people know that there are people out there that care about them I

people out there that care about them I

people out there that care about them I call it a safety pin song after the

call it a safety pin song after the

call it a safety pin song after the safety pin movement that started in the

safety pin movement that started in the

safety pin movement that started in the UK after their brexit boat which was a

UK after their brexit boat which was a

UK after their brexit boat which was a parallel event to our November elections

parallel event to our November elections

parallel event to our November elections after that happened people became very

after that happened people became very

after that happened people became very concerned because in public places

concerned because in public places

concerned because in public places people started being harassed and

people started being harassed and

people started being harassed and bullied so people started wearing safety

bullied so people started wearing safety

bullied so people started wearing safety pins on their clothes to let people know

pins on their clothes to let people know

pins on their clothes to let people know they were safe people to come to for

they were safe people to come to for

they were safe people to come to for help and also to send a signal to the

help and also to send a signal to the

help and also to send a signal to the would-be perpetrators that if they tried

would-be perpetrators that if they tried

would-be perpetrators that if they tried something they might come up against

something they might come up against

something they might come up against more than just the people they were

more than just the people they were

more than just the people they were targeting so without further ado I would

targeting so without further ado I would

targeting so without further ado I would like to sing I’ll have your back for you

like to sing I’ll have your back for you

like to sing I’ll have your back for you and I will sing I will have your back

[Music]

[Music] when people go low sometimes it’s hard

when people go low sometimes it’s hard

when people go low sometimes it’s hard to see the sky when the rains coming

to see the sky when the rains coming

to see the sky when the rains coming down

down

down you need some strength just to get by

if you feel afraid if you feel if you

if you feel afraid if you feel if you feel that suddenly this place is not

feel that suddenly this place is not

feel that suddenly this place is not your home I’ll have your back on your

your home I’ll have your back on your

your home I’ll have your back on your blue when the police come

blue when the police come

blue when the police come they’ll have to get through me to get to

they’ll have to get through me to get to

they’ll have to get through me to get to you welcome to wall down when the bricks

you welcome to wall down when the bricks

you welcome to wall down when the bricks of me with hate oh I’ll have you

come take my hand together we’ll stand

come take my hand together we’ll stand will stand so if we’re holding hands

will stand so if we’re holding hands

will stand so if we’re holding hands there is no chance that we will fall

there is no chance that we will fall

there is no chance that we will fall if you feeling lost listen to my song

you are my family together wit still

you are my family together wit still strong I’ll have your back on your

strong I’ll have your back on your

strong I’ll have your back on your friends

well he’s come they’ll have to get

well he’s come they’ll have to get through me to get to you love can’t it

through me to get to you love can’t it

through me to get to you love can’t it all down with a brixham made with hate

all down with a brixham made with hate

all down with a brixham made with hate I’ll have you back Oh

a will turn away I’ll be standing by

a will turn away I’ll be standing by your side cuz I’m willing to protect you

your side cuz I’m willing to protect you

your side cuz I’m willing to protect you with my

with my

with my [Music]

come you’ll have to get through me to

come you’ll have to get through me to get to you down

do you remember your first day of school

do you remember your first day of school or your child’s first day of school

or your child’s first day of school

or your child’s first day of school those mixtures of feelings that

those mixtures of feelings that

those mixtures of feelings that conflicting emotions of excitement and a

conflicting emotions of excitement and a

conflicting emotions of excitement and a little bit of fear of whether you can

little bit of fear of whether you can

little bit of fear of whether you can handle it all sense of pride of being

handle it all sense of pride of being

handle it all sense of pride of being grown up well my dad was feeling all

grown up well my dad was feeling all

grown up well my dad was feeling all those things on a morning in 1931 when

those things on a morning in 1931 when

those things on a morning in 1931 when he got all dressed up in his school

he got all dressed up in his school

he got all dressed up in his school clothes and my grandmother took him by

clothes and my grandmother took him by

clothes and my grandmother took him by the hand and led him down the tree-lined

the hand and led him down the tree-lined

the hand and led him down the tree-lined streets of Berlin Germany to the local

streets of Berlin Germany to the local

streets of Berlin Germany to the local school but what they found there was not

school but what they found there was not

school but what they found there was not what they expected they told my dad and

what they expected they told my dad and

what they expected they told my dad and my grandma that they were no longer

my grandma that they were no longer

my grandma that they were no longer accepting Jews at the school so my

accepting Jews at the school so my

accepting Jews at the school so my grandma took my dad by the hand and led

grandma took my dad by the hand and led

grandma took my dad by the hand and led him home that experience had a profound

him home that experience had a profound

him home that experience had a profound effect on my dad my dad was a Jewish

effect on my dad my dad was a Jewish

effect on my dad my dad was a Jewish person who survived being in Europe

person who survived being in Europe

person who survived being in Europe during a World War Two and many very

during a World War Two and many very

during a World War Two and many very severe things happen to him including

severe things happen to him including

severe things happen to him including being in a train station in in Brussels

being in a train station in in Brussels

being in a train station in in Brussels when it was bombed and the ceiling fell

when it was bombed and the ceiling fell

when it was bombed and the ceiling fell down on his head but nothing affected

down on his head but nothing affected

down on his head but nothing affected him more than this particular experience

him more than this particular experience

him more than this particular experience it was one that he recounted to me many

it was one that he recounted to me many

it was one that he recounted to me many times he said Laurie can you imagine it

times he said Laurie can you imagine it

times he said Laurie can you imagine it I was this little boy and I went to the

I was this little boy and I went to the

I was this little boy and I went to the school and and they rejected me who are

school and and they rejected me who are

school and and they rejected me who are these people that thought that a little

these people that thought that a little

these people that thought that a little Jewish boy could hurt non-jewish

Jewish boy could hurt non-jewish

Jewish boy could hurt non-jewish children in their school how different

children in their school how different

children in their school how different is that way of thinking from someone who

is that way of thinking from someone who

is that way of thinking from someone who tells their wife that they don’t want

tells their wife that they don’t want

tells their wife that they don’t want their kids to go to a particular private

their kids to go to a particular private

their kids to go to a particular private school because there are too many Jews

school because there are too many Jews

school because there are too many Jews there and too many Hanukkah books in the

there and too many Hanukkah books in the

there and too many Hanukkah books in the library except that

library except that

library except that that didn’t happen in 1930s Germany I’m

that didn’t happen in 1930s Germany I’m

that didn’t happen in 1930s Germany I’m recounting something to you that

recounting something to you that

recounting something to you that happened in contemporary America that’s

happened in contemporary America that’s

happened in contemporary America that’s directly from Steve bannon’s divorce

directly from Steve bannon’s divorce

directly from Steve bannon’s divorce papers so our president’s chief

papers so our president’s chief

papers so our president’s chief strategist thinks that way when a

strategist thinks that way when a

strategist thinks that way when a country falls on hard times when it

country falls on hard times when it

country falls on hard times when it seems like there isn’t enough to go

seems like there isn’t enough to go

seems like there isn’t enough to go around a more established in group may

around a more established in group may

around a more established in group may decide to target less established out

decide to target less established out

decide to target less established out groups and scapegoat them and blame them

groups and scapegoat them and blame them

groups and scapegoat them and blame them for the problems instead of actually

for the problems instead of actually

for the problems instead of actually finding out what the real solutions to

finding out what the real solutions to

finding out what the real solutions to these situations are at that time a

these situations are at that time a

these situations are at that time a leader can come along and tap into those

leader can come along and tap into those

leader can come along and tap into those feelings of hatred and aggression and

feelings of hatred and aggression and

feelings of hatred and aggression and capitalize on them and use them to take

capitalize on them and use them to take

capitalize on them and use them to take power it happened in Berlin Germany and

power it happened in Berlin Germany and

power it happened in Berlin Germany and it is happening today in our country at

it is happening today in our country at

it is happening today in our country at these times you can divide a society

these times you can divide a society

these times you can divide a society into three groups of people the

into three groups of people the

into three groups of people the perpetrators the enablers and the

perpetrators the enablers and the

perpetrators the enablers and the resistors the perpetrators are of course

resistors the perpetrators are of course

resistors the perpetrators are of course the government officials that design and

the government officials that design and

the government officials that design and implement programs against the targeted

implement programs against the targeted

implement programs against the targeted people that could be members of hate

people that could be members of hate

people that could be members of hate groups and even classroom bullies like

groups and even classroom bullies like

groups and even classroom bullies like the ones that go to school not five

the ones that go to school not five

the ones that go to school not five miles from here where a good friend of

miles from here where a good friend of

miles from here where a good friend of mine teaches and the little kids there

mine teaches and the little kids there

mine teaches and the little kids there yell build the wall build the wall in

yell build the wall build the wall in

yell build the wall build the wall in front of their mexican-american

front of their mexican-american

front of their mexican-american classmates the second group of people

classmates the second group of people

classmates the second group of people the enablers are not just the ones that

the enablers are not just the ones that

the enablers are not just the ones that sympathize with the perpetrators they’re

sympathize with the perpetrators they’re

sympathize with the perpetrators they’re also the people who remain silent and

also the people who remain silent and

also the people who remain silent and passive for their own comfort and for

passive for their own comfort and for

passive for their own comfort and for the comfort of those around them the

the comfort of those around them the

the comfort of those around them the last group are the most important group

last group are the most important group

last group are the most important group they’re the resistors are the people who

they’re the resistors are the people who

they’re the resistors are the people who say no that’s not how I’m going to add

say no that’s not how I’m going to add

say no that’s not how I’m going to add that’s not what my country is about I’m

that’s not what my country is about I’m

that’s not what my country is about I’m going to resist this I’m going to stand

going to resist this I’m going to stand

going to resist this I’m going to stand up for what’s right the next important

up for what’s right the next important

up for what’s right the next important event in my dad’s life was his Bar

event in my dad’s life was his Bar

event in my dad’s life was his Bar Mitzvah and that happened in November of

Mitzvah and that happened in November of

Mitzvah and that happened in November of 1938 at the Ohanyan bergstraße a temple

1938 at the Ohanyan bergstraße a temple

1938 at the Ohanyan bergstraße a temple which was the main one of the Jewish

which was the main one of the Jewish

which was the main one of the Jewish community in Germany two days later

community in Germany two days later

community in Germany two days later Cristal knocked happened he was the last

Cristal knocked happened he was the last

Cristal knocked happened he was the last Jewish boy to be bar Mitzvahed in that

Jewish boy to be bar Mitzvahed in that

Jewish boy to be bar Mitzvahed in that in that temple my my family didn’t lose

in that temple my my family didn’t lose

in that temple my my family didn’t lose their business on crystal knocked

their business on crystal knocked

their business on crystal knocked because it was located in on the top

because it was located in on the top

because it was located in on the top floor of the same apartment building

floor of the same apartment building

floor of the same apartment building where they lived it was protected by

where they lived it was protected by

where they lived it was protected by being located there it was a small rain

being located there it was a small rain

being located there it was a small rain coat factory where my grandpa and my

coat factory where my grandpa and my

coat factory where my grandpa and my grandma would sew garments all day

grandma would sew garments all day

grandma would sew garments all day sitting next to their workers one day my

sitting next to their workers one day my

sitting next to their workers one day my grandpa went upstairs to go to work and

grandpa went upstairs to go to work and

grandpa went upstairs to go to work and one of the employees told him that the

one of the employees told him that the

one of the employees told him that the business don’t belong to him what had

business don’t belong to him what had

business don’t belong to him what had happened was something designed by

happened was something designed by

happened was something designed by Hitler called area nization that was the

Hitler called area nization that was the

Hitler called area nization that was the transference of jewish-owned businesses

transference of jewish-owned businesses

transference of jewish-owned businesses into non-jewish hands so when my

into non-jewish hands so when my

into non-jewish hands so when my grandfather heard this he went back down

grandfather heard this he went back down

grandfather heard this he went back down the stairs and he announced the family

the stairs and he announced the family

the stairs and he announced the family that they would begin packing to leave

that they would begin packing to leave

that they would begin packing to leave and they were all packed when a second

and they were all packed when a second

and they were all packed when a second notice came to them that was one telling

notice came to them that was one telling

notice came to them that was one telling them to report to a work camp for their

them to report to a work camp for their

them to report to a work camp for their own protection of course this was a

own protection of course this was a

own protection of course this was a concentration camp so in an act of civil

concentration camp so in an act of civil

concentration camp so in an act of civil disobedience my family began the process

disobedience my family began the process

disobedience my family began the process of escape which included hiding and

of escape which included hiding and

of escape which included hiding and going on the run for a number of years

going on the run for a number of years

going on the run for a number of years they say that about 25,000 people in the

they say that about 25,000 people in the

they say that about 25,000 people in the city of Berlin helped Jewish people

city of Berlin helped Jewish people

city of Berlin helped Jewish people survive in those

survive in those

survive in those x it’s extraordinary that these people

x it’s extraordinary that these people

x it’s extraordinary that these people risk their lives and their families

risk their lives and their families

risk their lives and their families lives to do what was right by hiding and

lives to do what was right by hiding and

lives to do what was right by hiding and helping Jewish people but 25,000 people

helping Jewish people but 25,000 people

helping Jewish people but 25,000 people are less than were less than 1 percent

are less than were less than 1 percent

are less than were less than 1 percent of the total population of Berlin at the

of the total population of Berlin at the

of the total population of Berlin at the time which was 4 million people what

time which was 4 million people what

time which was 4 million people what would have happened if five percent or

would have happened if five percent or

would have happened if five percent or twenty percent or the majority of people

twenty percent or the majority of people

twenty percent or the majority of people had decided that they were going to

had decided that they were going to

had decided that they were going to stand up for what was right what would

stand up for what was right what would

stand up for what was right what would have happened if everybody got letters

have happened if everybody got letters

have happened if everybody got letters in the mail telling them to report to

in the mail telling them to report to

in the mail telling them to report to concentration camps decided to run away

concentration camps decided to run away

concentration camps decided to run away and instead I think the result would

and instead I think the result would

and instead I think the result would have been quite different eventually my

have been quite different eventually my

have been quite different eventually my dad made it to liege belgium where he

dad made it to liege belgium where he

dad made it to liege belgium where he was hidden in a convent by catholic nuns

was hidden in a convent by catholic nuns

was hidden in a convent by catholic nuns yes just like in the musical sound of

yes just like in the musical sound of

yes just like in the musical sound of music these nuns gave him refuge in

music these nuns gave him refuge in

music these nuns gave him refuge in shelter when they saw someone on their

shelter when they saw someone on their

shelter when they saw someone on their doorstep needing needing help and I’m i

doorstep needing needing help and I’m i

doorstep needing needing help and I’m i can tell you i would not be alive today

can tell you i would not be alive today

can tell you i would not be alive today if it had been for the bravery of nuns

if it had been for the bravery of nuns

if it had been for the bravery of nuns that helped my dad and I wouldn’t be

that helped my dad and I wouldn’t be

that helped my dad and I wouldn’t be standing on this stage here at Bergen

standing on this stage here at Bergen

standing on this stage here at Bergen Community College if our country had not

Community College if our country had not

Community College if our country had not accepted my dad and his family as

accepted my dad and his family as

accepted my dad and his family as refugees after the war so what is the

refugees after the war so what is the

refugees after the war so what is the answer to this you have to resist you

answer to this you have to resist you

answer to this you have to resist you know in his famous quote Edmund Burke

know in his famous quote Edmund Burke

know in his famous quote Edmund Burke said the only thing necessary for the

said the only thing necessary for the

said the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good people to do

triumph of evil is for good people to do

triumph of evil is for good people to do nothing so it’s not good enough to just

nothing so it’s not good enough to just

nothing so it’s not good enough to just not be a racist you have to be an

not be a racist you have to be an

not be a racist you have to be an anti-racist it’s not good enough to just

anti-racist it’s not good enough to just

anti-racist it’s not good enough to just say I don’t hate immigrants you have to

say I don’t hate immigrants you have to

say I don’t hate immigrants you have to be active

be active

be active an anti xenophobe you have to be

an anti xenophobe you have to be

an anti xenophobe you have to be attacked anti homophobe you have to be

attacked anti homophobe you have to be

attacked anti homophobe you have to be an anti Islamophobe you have to be an

an anti Islamophobe you have to be an

an anti Islamophobe you have to be an anti anti-semite if that’s the thing

anti anti-semite if that’s the thing

anti anti-semite if that’s the thing because the perpetrators are counting on

because the perpetrators are counting on

because the perpetrators are counting on you to not resist to not rock the boat

you to not resist to not rock the boat

you to not resist to not rock the boat to make their job easy to be quiet but

to make their job easy to be quiet but

to make their job easy to be quiet but you have to stand up you know Hitler

you have to stand up you know Hitler

you have to stand up you know Hitler used to say used to use the word nugen

used to say used to use the word nugen

used to say used to use the word nugen press lying press it was something he

press lying press it was something he

press lying press it was something he invented every time people would find

invented every time people would find

invented every time people would find out about something horrible that

out about something horrible that

out about something horrible that happened he would just say oh it didn’t

happened he would just say oh it didn’t

happened he would just say oh it didn’t happen the press is lying how different

happen the press is lying how different

happen the press is lying how different is that from saying it’s fake news the

is that from saying it’s fake news the

is that from saying it’s fake news the other day I spoke to someone and said

other day I spoke to someone and said

other day I spoke to someone and said you know in an airport near us they

you know in an airport near us they

you know in an airport near us they separated a nursing mother from her

separated a nursing mother from her

separated a nursing mother from her child for a number of hours and she said

child for a number of hours and she said

child for a number of hours and she said that was fake news because you know what

that was fake news because you know what

that was fake news because you know what if you don’t know what’s going on around

if you don’t know what’s going on around

if you don’t know what’s going on around you if you don’t admit it you’re not

you if you don’t admit it you’re not

you if you don’t admit it you’re not responsible for it are you except you

responsible for it are you except you

responsible for it are you except you are you are so it’s not just for the

are you are so it’s not just for the

are you are so it’s not just for the vulnerable people and for the targeted

vulnerable people and for the targeted

vulnerable people and for the targeted people we have to stand up for what’s

people we have to stand up for what’s

people we have to stand up for what’s right for all of us because history

right for all of us because history

right for all of us because history shows and I urge you to go look at the

shows and I urge you to go look at the

shows and I urge you to go look at the history of what happens things don’t

history of what happens things don’t

history of what happens things don’t work out very well for countries that

work out very well for countries that

work out very well for countries that target their most vulnerable and weak

target their most vulnerable and weak

target their most vulnerable and weak people it doesn’t work out well for

people it doesn’t work out well for

people it doesn’t work out well for anybody so it’s the proportion between

anybody so it’s the proportion between

anybody so it’s the proportion between the enablers and the resistors that’s

the enablers and the resistors that’s

the enablers and the resistors that’s the key factor if everybody resists

the key factor if everybody resists

the key factor if everybody resists rather than if everybody enables as what

rather than if everybody enables as what

rather than if everybody enables as what happened in Nazi Germany if all of us

happened in Nazi Germany if all of us

happened in Nazi Germany if all of us resist what we know is wrong we are

resist what we know is wrong we are

resist what we know is wrong we are going to come through this okay so it’s

going to come through this okay so it’s

going to come through this okay so it’s up to all

up to all

up to all you I wish you courage in your journey

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