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our insecurities

our insecurities sorry back slightly pretentious title

sorry back slightly pretentious title

sorry back slightly pretentious title but it’s the only way I can think of

but it’s the only way I can think of

but it’s the only way I can think of describing the concepts that I want to

describing the concepts that I want to

describing the concepts that I want to talk about so what I’m talk about today

talk about so what I’m talk about today

talk about so what I’m talk about today is the creature development of adult

is the creature development of adult

is the creature development of adult insecurities in specifically the

insecurities in specifically the

insecurities in specifically the development of imposter syndrome in high

development of imposter syndrome in high

development of imposter syndrome in high schools so imposter syndrome before I

schools so imposter syndrome before I

schools so imposter syndrome before I define it after it’s going to go through

define it after it’s going to go through

define it after it’s going to go through a checklist with you on see if you to

a checklist with you on see if you to

a checklist with you on see if you to suffer from our decision so one do you

suffer from our decision so one do you

suffer from our decision so one do you feel like we deserve your success too

feel like we deserve your success too

feel like we deserve your success too do you pray the acknowledgement and

do you pray the acknowledgement and

do you pray the acknowledgement and praise but feel uncomfortable when you

praise but feel uncomfortable when you

praise but feel uncomfortable when you receive it

receive it

receive it three are you unable to accept your

three are you unable to accept your

three are you unable to accept your accomplishments and four are you unable

accomplishments and four are you unable

accomplishments and four are you unable to internalize their success if you have

to internalize their success if you have

to internalize their success if you have to guess to one or more of these it’s

to guess to one or more of these it’s

to guess to one or more of these it’s likely that could be experienced

likely that could be experienced

likely that could be experienced impostor syndrome

impostor syndrome

impostor syndrome so impostor syndrome will have a term

so impostor syndrome will have a term

so impostor syndrome will have a term coined in 1910

coined in 1910

coined in 1910 the clinical psychologists clients and

the clinical psychologists clients and

the clinical psychologists clients and ice and they find it as a collection of

ice and they find it as a collection of

ice and they find it as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that despite

feelings of inadequacy that despite

feelings of inadequacy that despite evidence to the contrary people are

evidence to the contrary people are

evidence to the contrary people are unable to accept their success so people

unable to accept their success so people

unable to accept their success so people who suffer from this they experience it

who suffer from this they experience it

who suffer from this they experience it internally as chronic self-doubt and

internally as chronic self-doubt and

internally as chronic self-doubt and feelings of intellectual for difference

feelings of intellectual for difference

feelings of intellectual for difference so for the people who experiences they

so for the people who experiences they

so for the people who experiences they find themselves unable to accept that

find themselves unable to accept that

find themselves unable to accept that success instead choosing to attribute it

success instead choosing to attribute it

success instead choosing to attribute it to luck or timing or other X situational

to luck or timing or other X situational

to luck or timing or other X situational factors and they also believe that they

factors and they also believe that they

factors and they also believe that they are deceiving people into believing that

are deceiving people into believing that

are deceiving people into believing that they’re more intelligent than they

they’re more intelligent than they

they’re more intelligent than they actually are

actually are

actually are so in terms of it it’s even about 70% or

so in terms of it it’s even about 70% or

so in terms of it it’s even about 70% or more people at least once in their lives

more people at least once in their lives

more people at least once in their lives and this study was conducted on high

and this study was conducted on high

and this study was conducted on high feeling professional woman and it was

feeling professional woman and it was

feeling professional woman and it was then extended to men and my hypothesis

then extended to men and my hypothesis

then extended to men and my hypothesis which is well be told that

which is well be told that

which is well be told that two high school students that we also

two high school students that we also

two high school students that we also experienced it and this comes about from

experienced it and this comes about from

experienced it and this comes about from seeing it in my peers and also

seeing it in my peers and also

seeing it in my peers and also experiencing it myself so what I first

experiencing it myself so what I first

experiencing it myself so what I first wants to do is conduct an interview

wants to do is conduct an interview

wants to do is conduct an interview using for IQ students in my hair and

using for IQ students in my hair and

using for IQ students in my hair and sort of provide some faults to evidences

sort of provide some faults to evidences

sort of provide some faults to evidences claim so

Wow

Wow [Music]

so technotrekker to do better than the

so technotrekker to do better than the my pantry is to be magical the

my pantry is to be magical the

my pantry is to be magical the opportunity

opportunity

opportunity [Music]

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[Music] I never reach the deltas of that to

I never reach the deltas of that to

I never reach the deltas of that to reach yes

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[Music] now maybe yes now I need the same there

now maybe yes now I need the same there

now maybe yes now I need the same there are so many other telefax students

are so many other telefax students

are so many other telefax students didn’t okay so in the first question

didn’t okay so in the first question

didn’t okay so in the first question which was in there I talked about what

which was in there I talked about what

which was in there I talked about what they felt was responsible for their

they felt was responsible for their

they felt was responsible for their academic success and it was seen that

academic success and it was seen that

academic success and it was seen that they all activated it to outside factors

they all activated it to outside factors

they all activated it to outside factors or other people which is symptomatic of

or other people which is symptomatic of

or other people which is symptomatic of imported syndrome intelligence only 50%

imported syndrome intelligence only 50%

imported syndrome intelligence only 50% of them joke to believe that they were

of them joke to believe that they were

of them joke to believe that they were intelligent and the rest of them thought

intelligent and the rest of them thought

intelligent and the rest of them thought that and they weren’t because of

that and they weren’t because of

that and they weren’t because of comparisons to others and the third

comparisons to others and the third

comparisons to others and the third question talking about success and

question talking about success and

question talking about success and university offers only 50% of the people

university offers only 50% of the people

university offers only 50% of the people full

so I knew that this is quite small

so I knew that this is quite small sample size of only four people which

sample size of only four people which

sample size of only four people which you can wear that identify suppliers I

you can wear that identify suppliers I

you can wear that identify suppliers I then wants to go on to create a

then wants to go on to create a

then wants to go on to create a questionnaire that’s sort of a wide

questionnaire that’s sort of a wide

questionnaire that’s sort of a wide scope so I then took they locked it very

scope so I then took they locked it very

scope so I then took they locked it very close with their team achieving students

close with their team achieving students

close with their team achieving students and awesome and other questions so the

and awesome and other questions so the

and awesome and other questions so the first one of these was written columns

first one of these was written columns

first one of these was written columns from 1 to 10 and this ended up with a

from 1 to 10 and this ended up with a

from 1 to 10 and this ended up with a considering that these were all high

considering that these were all high

considering that these were all high tubers that easily scored in the top 20%

tubers that easily scored in the top 20%

tubers that easily scored in the top 20% of all students

of all students

of all students it still is relatively low and within it

it still is relatively low and within it

it still is relatively low and within it so it’s quite a large range ranging from

so it’s quite a large range ranging from

so it’s quite a large range ranging from as low as 2 2 up to confidence 10 I then

as low as 2 2 up to confidence 10 I then

as low as 2 2 up to confidence 10 I then ask them are you confident in your

ask them are you confident in your

ask them are you confident in your abilities and anything that only 5% of

abilities and anything that only 5% of

abilities and anything that only 5% of them said that they were we’re 60% said

them said that they were we’re 60% said

them said that they were we’re 60% said that they were fully unconfident

that they were fully unconfident

that they were fully unconfident we’re at 35% said sometimes so this

we’re at 35% said sometimes so this

we’re at 35% said sometimes so this isn’t great because haunted has adopted

isn’t great because haunted has adopted

isn’t great because haunted has adopted predictors of your workplace performance

predictors of your workplace performance

predictors of your workplace performance and your student performance and also

and your student performance and also

and your student performance and also the major factor in determining your

the major factor in determining your

the major factor in determining your happiness and then ask them if they fear

happiness and then ask them if they fear

happiness and then ask them if they fear failure and involving 90% celebration so

failure and involving 90% celebration so

failure and involving 90% celebration so this also have been great because of

this also have been great because of

this also have been great because of your failure can often prevent people

your failure can often prevent people

your failure can often prevent people from taking risks and therefore commend

from taking risks and therefore commend

from taking risks and therefore commend them for achieving to their best and

them for achieving to their best and

them for achieving to their best and then ask have you ever considered

then ask have you ever considered

then ask have you ever considered optimal is there any mere

optimal is there any mere

optimal is there any mere accomplishments which again in the 90%

accomplishments which again in the 90%

accomplishments which again in the 90% of people said that they worked and

of people said that they worked and

of people said that they worked and shown that this is basically the

shown that this is basically the

shown that this is basically the definition of the pasta sticker so it

definition of the pasta sticker so it

definition of the pasta sticker so it was a clear example of people who suffer

was a clear example of people who suffer

was a clear example of people who suffer from it and in terms of the consequences

from it and in terms of the consequences

from it and in terms of the consequences of it it’s it’s the emotion devasena

of it it’s it’s the emotion devasena

of it it’s it’s the emotion devasena it means that we already view ourselves

it means that we already view ourselves

it means that we already view ourselves as an adequate whereas previously you’ve

as an adequate whereas previously you’ve

as an adequate whereas previously you’ve seen it and well-established

seen it and well-established

seen it and well-established professional people it’s now being

professional people it’s now being

professional people it’s now being intimate young students who have really

intimate young students who have really

intimate young students who have really achieved or accomplished anything real

achieved or accomplished anything real

achieved or accomplished anything real intense in the real world and so from it

intense in the real world and so from it

intense in the real world and so from it being in such a young age it prevents us

being in such a young age it prevents us

being in such a young age it prevents us from even starting upon top for success

from even starting upon top for success

from even starting upon top for success because we’re just too afraid and

because we’re just too afraid and

because we’re just too afraid and believe that we’re not worth it so for

believe that we’re not worth it so for

believe that we’re not worth it so for the source of impostor syndrome

the source of impostor syndrome

the source of impostor syndrome traditionally its salt that comes from

traditionally its salt that comes from

traditionally its salt that comes from parental overprotection and it’s also

parental overprotection and it’s also

parental overprotection and it’s also seen as a rite of passage in sense as

seen as a rite of passage in sense as

seen as a rite of passage in sense as you climb the career ladder but neither

you climb the career ladder but neither

you climb the career ladder but neither he’s really explained the increase rates

he’s really explained the increase rates

he’s really explained the increase rates and has the students because we haven’t

and has the students because we haven’t

and has the students because we haven’t even begun or first wrong with a career

even begun or first wrong with a career

even begun or first wrong with a career ladder so that the really make sense

ladder so that the really make sense

ladder so that the really make sense that you would be a right passage to

that you would be a right passage to

that you would be a right passage to there

there

there explanation so interview I think the

explanation so interview I think the

explanation so interview I think the explanation for this is I think the

explanation for this is I think the

explanation for this is I think the largest one is that armies of comparison

largest one is that armies of comparison

largest one is that armies of comparison with others has increased in terms of

with others has increased in terms of

with others has increased in terms of the scope of competition has now widened

the scope of competition has now widened

the scope of competition has now widened so much that to the point I can take it

so much that to the point I can take it

so much that to the point I can take it I’m making 12 we’re all on the Google

I’m making 12 we’re all on the Google

I’m making 12 we’re all on the Google and see someone who’s probably to your

and see someone who’s probably to your

and see someone who’s probably to your pants earth and can play the family else

pants earth and can play the family else

pants earth and can play the family else as well so because of it it’s no doubt

as well so because of it it’s no doubt

as well so because of it it’s no doubt that we feel inaccurate because it’s so

that we feel inaccurate because it’s so

that we feel inaccurate because it’s so easy to find someone who’s better than

easy to find someone who’s better than

easy to find someone who’s better than us where it’s previously you were

us where it’s previously you were

us where it’s previously you were limited to much smaller of social circle

limited to much smaller of social circle

limited to much smaller of social circle another explanation I would say is the

another explanation I would say is the

another explanation I would say is the increased competitiveness for

increased competitiveness for

increased competitiveness for universities and from this the

universities and from this the

universities and from this the increasing early pressures to succeed in

increasing early pressures to succeed in

increasing early pressures to succeed in academic life so each year it gets more

academic life so each year it gets more

academic life so each year it gets more more competitive to get into the best

more competitive to get into the best

more competitive to get into the best universities and because of this early

universities and because of this early

universities and because of this early another quick cold start making

another quick cold start making

another quick cold start making decisions about a future so as early as

decisions about a future so as early as

decisions about a future so as early as year 9 we’re told that we have to pick

year 9 we’re told that we have to pick

year 9 we’re told that we have to pick the right to see if these so we can go

the right to see if these so we can go

the right to see if these so we can go to the right I’d be horse that we came

to the right I’d be horse that we came

to the right I’d be horse that we came to the best university so we can get the

to the best university so we can get the

to the best university so we can get the best job and it forces an adult way of

best job and it forces an adult way of

best job and it forces an adult way of thinking on to young children by forcing

thinking on to young children by forcing

thinking on to young children by forcing them to think about a future so

them to think about a future so

them to think about a future so chromeless it’s no surprise

chromeless it’s no surprise

chromeless it’s no surprise that we take all these adult

that we take all these adult

that we take all these adult insecurities silviana a little battery

insecurities silviana a little battery

insecurities silviana a little battery is technology in terms of technology is

is technology in terms of technology is

is technology in terms of technology is positively increasing at an exponential

positively increasing at an exponential

positively increasing at an exponential rate and because of this it’s impossible

rate and because of this it’s impossible

rate and because of this it’s impossible to really see ourselves as experts

to really see ourselves as experts

to really see ourselves as experts because what it means to be an expert is

because what it means to be an expert is

because what it means to be an expert is constantly getting harder and harder to

constantly getting harder and harder to

constantly getting harder and harder to achieve finally I think that culture can

achieve finally I think that culture can

achieve finally I think that culture can also play all the clues the culture that

also play all the clues the culture that

also play all the clues the culture that we’re in does somewhat animosity bias in

we’re in does somewhat animosity bias in

we’re in does somewhat animosity bias in that we believe that we are not opposed

that we believe that we are not opposed

that we believe that we are not opposed to our success and on our own

to our success and on our own

to our success and on our own intelligence

intelligence

intelligence especially in women we’re constantly

especially in women we’re constantly

especially in women we’re constantly told that we’re supposed to be modest so

told that we’re supposed to be modest so

told that we’re supposed to be modest so then

then

then it’s responsible for the higher things

it’s responsible for the higher things

it’s responsible for the higher things self solutions in terms of solutions

self solutions in terms of solutions

self solutions in terms of solutions you’ve already seen the first step which

you’ve already seen the first step which

you’ve already seen the first step which is becoming aware of it from becoming

is becoming aware of it from becoming

is becoming aware of it from becoming aware of it this instance these student

aware of it this instance these student

aware of it this instance these student classes experience because it shows you

classes experience because it shows you

classes experience because it shows you that

that

that natural part of human experience and so

natural part of human experience and so

natural part of human experience and so as soon as you become aware of it it

as soon as you become aware of it it

as soon as you become aware of it it brings as it’s almost unconscious

brings as it’s almost unconscious

brings as it’s almost unconscious behavior into the light and allows you

behavior into the light and allows you

behavior into the light and allows you to actively make decisions to not suffer

to actively make decisions to not suffer

to actively make decisions to not suffer comment in terms of whenever you see

comment in terms of whenever you see

comment in terms of whenever you see yourself suffering from a symptom of

yourself suffering from a symptom of

yourself suffering from a symptom of impostor syndrome you’re able to

impostor syndrome you’re able to

impostor syndrome you’re able to recognize it and therefore stop yourself

recognize it and therefore stop yourself

recognize it and therefore stop yourself by forcing yourself in a sense to own

by forcing yourself in a sense to own

by forcing yourself in a sense to own your success on your intelligence and by

your success on your intelligence and by

your success on your intelligence and by just telling yourself and if you just

just telling yourself and if you just

just telling yourself and if you just keep repeating to yourself over and over

keep repeating to yourself over and over

keep repeating to yourself over and over that you are intelligent and then you

that you are intelligent and then you

that you are intelligent and then you deserve your success one day you will

deserve your success one day you will

deserve your success one day you will believe it

believe it

believe it another thing would be to understand why

another thing would be to understand why

another thing would be to understand why we have these feelings so if all

we have these feelings so if all

we have these feelings so if all syndrome does have a evolutionary basis

syndrome does have a evolutionary basis

syndrome does have a evolutionary basis in that it prevents us from taking

in that it prevents us from taking

in that it prevents us from taking unnecessary risks and

unnecessary risks and

unnecessary risks and that focuses us to where a little harder

that focuses us to where a little harder

that focuses us to where a little harder so I guess if we understand it it does

so I guess if we understand it it does

so I guess if we understand it it does commend us from sort of making it seem

commend us from sort of making it seem

commend us from sort of making it seem more fairy finally the last solution

more fairy finally the last solution

more fairy finally the last solution would be to stop comparing yourself

would be to stop comparing yourself

would be to stop comparing yourself constantly dollars because at the end of

constantly dollars because at the end of

constantly dollars because at the end of the day you’re looking at their lives

the day you’re looking at their lives

the day you’re looking at their lives through a subjective lens and that means

through a subjective lens and that means

through a subjective lens and that means you never really going to be able to

you never really going to be able to

you never really going to be able to experience their reality and therefore

experience their reality and therefore

experience their reality and therefore you should really do compare all of them

you should really do compare all of them

you should really do compare all of them in this sense in terms of social media

in this sense in terms of social media

in this sense in terms of social media people always place a cultivated version

people always place a cultivated version

people always place a cultivated version of

of

of there that is the best person consult so

there that is the best person consult so

there that is the best person consult so really you can’t compare yourself to

really you can’t compare yourself to

really you can’t compare yourself to something that it is isn’t a real

something that it is isn’t a real

something that it is isn’t a real present so overall in hospital it is

present so overall in hospital it is

present so overall in hospital it is increasing in high school feedings but

increasing in high school feedings but

increasing in high school feedings but it doesn’t have to be a problem because

it doesn’t have to be a problem because

it doesn’t have to be a problem because if we catch it earlier that means we

if we catch it earlier that means we

if we catch it earlier that means we will just suffer a real consequences

will just suffer a real consequences

will just suffer a real consequences from it because wit some children

from it because wit some children

from it because wit some children innocent so by becoming consciously

innocent so by becoming consciously

innocent so by becoming consciously aware of it we’ll be able to overcome it

aware of it we’ll be able to overcome it

aware of it we’ll be able to overcome it through education and so hopefully

through education and so hopefully

through education and so hopefully people in the audience who relate to

people in the audience who relate to

people in the audience who relate to this and anyone else who’s watching I

this and anyone else who’s watching I

this and anyone else who’s watching I guess this can be the first step in

guess this can be the first step in

guess this can be the first step in becoming aware that and being able to

becoming aware that and being able to

becoming aware that and being able to overcome it and therefore be able to

overcome it and therefore be able to

overcome it and therefore be able to accept and deserve success that you’ve

accept and deserve success that you’ve

accept and deserve success that you’ve all worked hard thank you

all worked hard thank you

all worked hard thank you [Applause]

[Applause]

[Applause] [Music]

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