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How to Have the Confidence to be Your TRUE SELF ft. @SKellyCEO


– Welcome everybody to another YouTube hangout.

Super excited to be back.

With you here on an amazing Thursday afternoon.

I have my special friend and guest CEO of Sage.

Mr. Stephen Kelly joining me again.

Stephen how ya doin’?

– Great Evan and belatedly,

yeah Happy New Year and it’s great to be back.

I think really to be back with your audience

loved some of the shows last year,

loved bein’ engaged and gettin’ fantastic questions

and conversations goin’ with your audience

and we’re going to make it even better in 2017,

so very excited.

– I love it and new year and I see a new logo

behind you, there’s a new blue color around Sage.

– Yeah new kind of green on blue,

I think it’s actually a pretty cool logo,

pretty cool logo.

Very sympathetic colors to speak to what we do.

– And I hear you’re now also on Instagram and Facebook,

I just followed you on Instagram five minutes ago,

so you’re pumpin’ up the volume on social now.

– We are yeah,

we’re gettin’ social steroids,

so the thing is Evan and you are kind of the leader,

you’re the beacon of light out there

and your profile is awesome

but also the content you publish is amazing

and I think Instagram is just a great channel,

and attracts a different audience from Twitter.

So I’m very, very excited,

I’ve been doin’ loads more on Facebook as well.

– Very cool well today we’re here to talk about

how to have the confidence to be your true self

as an entrepreneur and I know you love starting

and the audience loves hearing your quotes

to lead off so what do you got for us this month Stephen?

– Why we’ve got five great quotes.

Five great quotes, an awesome actor first of all.

And this guy Robert De Niro says,

“If you’re an actor, always be true to your character.

“If you’re not an actor have the character

“to always be true to yourself.”

So thank you Robert, hat tip.

Next one the late and great Steve Jobs,

“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition,

“they somehow know what you truly want to become.”

Great quote, a man with convictions Steve Jobs.

Next one, another fantastic entrepreneur,

“If you follow your dreams and spend your life

“doing what brings you joy,

“you are more likely to always find success.”

And that was Richard Branson.

And then the former first lady, Michelle Obama

and this kind of transcends everything

but I’ll explain it if it doesn’t translate

directly to Canadian audience.

“Whether you come from a council estate

“or a country estate, your success will be determined

“by your own confidence and your fortitude.”

A council estate is kind of social housing

for the more vulnerable.

So that’s kind of what Michelle Obama.

And the final one and the best one is from Evan almighty

and that is “believe, #believe.”

(laughs)

– I love it I always look forward to the quotes,

I know the people in the audience do too.

So today how to have the confidence to be your true self,

people who are already joining, welcome guys,

if you have questions leave them in the live chat,

we’ll try to get to them all as much as we can today.

But Stephen first off I’m curious,

why do you think people have a hard time

being their true self and having that confidence

to project that and use that and tell their story,

what do you think is the reason that people

have a hard time with it so much?

– I think part of it is a fear of failure,

and when I look at start-ups,

what 90% of them actually sadly fail,

only 10% succeed,

also if I look at the optimism,

particularly in the 18 through 30 year olds

in terms of entrepreneurs,

95% of ’em have a real belief in their own success

but I just look at my own kind of career

as an entrepreneur Evan

and I think there is some periods in your life,

where there are seeds of doubt

and it’s at those times where you really need

to galvanize your confidence to be successful.

It’s just human nature,

all of us have got that vulnerability

but I think you really need to dig into

your own authenticity.

Dig also into your core values.

What is your dream, how are you going to change the world?

What are you going to do for your audience?

If you stick to that then the dark days come along

and you hit some bumps in the road.

Then you can really kind of double down

and it builds your self confidence

and we can talk also about during the broadcast

how we kind of connect with other people to.

To galvanize our confidence and build it up.

Just an example from my career,

about 20 years ago when I was early stage CEO,

we were doin’ a big pilot for a company.

We kind of bet the ranch.

We bet the company on this

and it was the light Fortune 500 company.

We put all our best people on this pilot

and we actually turned down other business,

and the sad thing is the guy who was the VP

leading that project got moved,

left the company and we lost our sponsor

and the pilot got killed.

We were doing really well

and it was so demotivating for the team

’cause they worked crazy 80 hours a week,

they’d gone the extra mile,

it was a real story of human sacrifice

and blood sweat and tears.

When I look back what did it do?

It actually, we had some hard conversation,

we were runnin’ out of cash

and we did things like cut our own wages,

we sacrificed salaries, practically worked for nothing

and what it meant was,

when we tasted success for the first time,

boy did it taste sweet

but it took us honestly,

when we looked at the business plan we put together,

it probably took us about 12 months longer

because we hit a wall, lost that customer,

we’d sacrificed the opportunity cost of not working

while the business was immense

and it meant we really had to double down,

now why did we have the confidence to do that?

One is we really believed in this case

it was a product we were selling,

we really believed it solved

a massive need for our customers.

Two is we really knew that particularly,

actually through the pilot,

when we saw the cost it took out of this business

in the Fortune 500 and how they could be way more efficient.

That it had a compelling benefit.

Thirdly, when we looked around the room

on a pretty dark day when we lost the pilot,

we just looked at each other and said,

actually do we believe in each other?

Have we got a great idea, are we going to double down,

maybe draw no salaries at all

and go the long haul.

We said yeah we would and in reality it took us longer.

Now why I’m tellin’ you that is I think you have

to look at your inner self you really do need

to challenge yourselves as entrepreneurs

within your audience and you got to believe in your idea,

you got to believe it will make a difference,

and you’ve got to stay true to yourself

and absolutely have that confidence

to be authentic and honest,

to go the long haul on it,

if you got the belief and you got a dream

and you know it can change the world.

That’s where you get your confidence from

and reality of all of us honestly,

were the aspirations and dreams

when we put business plans together,

sometimes it just takes longer sometimes it takes longer

and the small entrepreneurs out there,

the entrepreneurs who double down

or actually change the idea to pick a new idea

to win the next time.

‘Cause then you put your lesson to work

and you create the next business.

– I love it you’re already gaining tons of love

in the chat for the opening statement there,

we’re gettin’ superb, love the topic,

hardcore #skel, he’s always hardcore that’s part

of why we love Stephen Kelly so much,

you’re gettin’ a lot of love here in the chat.

I want to get to some questions,

I mean we do this every month for you guys

to help you out and get you past whatever limitations

you’re facing right now.

So for those of you who have questions leave it

up in the live chat, ideally put it in all caps

so it’s easier to see ’cause the chat goes quickly

but first up is Lorraine.

Lorraine says hi I’m Lorraine from South Carolina,

I’m stuck I’m hopin’ that you can help me get unstuck,

my career, my livin’ arrangements all need an overhaul,

I’m so overwhelmed right now,

how do I start thank you, Lorraine.

– Hey Lorraine.

And then I’m going to ask Evan a question at the end as well

’cause he’s going to answer your question

as well really articulately.

Welcome we love the Carolinas by the way fantastic.

I think when you feel overwhelmed, you feel stuck.

I think you kind of in this moment Lorraine,

it’s really probably cool to just create

a bit of a reflective space

and come back to think of

what is your big idea going to solve and who is the audience?

What is their pain point and how can you help

them overcome that pain point.

A beauty about this particularly

when you become overwhelmed

and you got a to-do list this long

is cut back to the essence of your idea,

your product, your service,

why it’s going to change the world

and then the other thing,

you know the magic of simplification,

what does it do that you can actually

in a consumer product make the consumers like better

or in a b to b sort of world,

really try to take cost down or improve their top line

or take hassle out of their organization

and less stress.

So I think you just got to come back to basics,

just focus on where’s your audience,

what idea is going to really change the world

and create a market for your product or service.

And then if you do that, you can get really clear

about what’s important.

And actually one other thing,

I hope I’m not doing motherhood and apple pie here.

Loads of people get into this is urgent, this is urgent,

this is urgent and their to-do list grows and grows

and it becomes overwhelming and your head’s spinnin’,

I’d ask yourself if you’ve got ambition

what’s really important?

‘Cause everything can appear urgent

but there’s very few things that are really important

and what’s going to really move the dial.

And then just focus your urges about movin’ the dial

and actually Lorraine what you can do mentally

is create a bucket in the corner

and if there’s lots of good ideas

and they’re not fundamentally important

just write ’em down chuck it in the bucket,

come back to ’em in 90 days time.

Really focus on what’s important,

I’d say where you get confidence from

is not only the idea and then the strategy

but where you get success from

is awesome execution.

Really executin’ the hell out of an idea.

So Evan question for you,

obviously Lorraine’s question but also,

your inspiration I’ve met you in Toronto,

I’ve met you around the world,

where’s your source of confidence?

– I think two things for my source of confidence,

I think one is having,

trying stuff,

whenever I feel like I’m afraid to do somethin’

then I force myself to have to go out and do it.

Come and speak at this event, here’s a simple example,

I’m walkin’ down the street, on the side street

and I’ve got my ear buds on

and I’m dancin’ and I’m puttin’ on my favorite song

and then I come to an intersection,

it’s a busy intersection, then there’s people,

then my instinct is I got to stop dancing, go really small

because I’m worried about how people might think of me

and as soon as I caught that,

I’m playing small right now ’cause I’m worried about

what this person’s going to think.

Then I force myself to go out and do it

and then I’m dancing big on the street on purpose

to stretch my muscle,

so whenever you feel yourself shrinking down

if you can catch it,

a lot of times it’s so sub-conscious

that you don’t even catch it,

if you can catch it then force yourself

to step into that fear, step into uncomfortness

and start playin’ a bigger game,

the more you do that, the more you’ll get confidence,

The other thing is just havin’ a better environment,

I surround myself with entrepreneurs

who’ve done great things.

Whether you like quotes or books or videos

or meetings, or going to conferences,

surrounding yourself with people doing bigger things,

part of that seeps into you and makes you more confident

to go out and do your thing,

I didn’t have a ton of confidence at the start.

I didn’t know what I was going to do,

I didn’t have entrepreneurs in my family,

those two things forcing the uncomfortableness,

and then creating a better environment,

gave me more confidence to move forward.

– And what about thoughts you could give to Lorraine,

down the Carolinas, how could she become less overwhelmed

and really focus on her success?

– I agree with you, I liked a lot of what you said,

I think you just got to simplify,

I would look at what is the one thing,

that if I focus on that, that would really have a big impact

and have a ripple effect.

‘Cause once you start making progress on one thing

and you’re getting some results,

it bleeds into everything else you’re doing.

Once you’re more confident in a business deal,

you become more confident in your personal life as well,

it bleeds through everything.

So I’d be looking at, okay there’s a thousand things you

have to do, what’s the one single most important thing

that if you fix this,

It’ll not only help that one situation

but everything around it as well.

Then focus on doing that

and eliminate the distractions around him.

– That’s interesting, yeah I think actually

just thinkin’ about this Evan,

there’s an element here,

I’m not a psychologist , I would never pretend to be,

but the psychology of success,

Lorraine you know and I know if you start off in the morning

and you set yourself the toughest task,

and you don’t feel you do a good job of it,

it’s going to determine your mood and your confidence

for the rest of the day.

So maybe first thing you do is if you know

you can smash it out of the park,

and then you will feel 10 million dollars

and you will be able to crush the next thing,

what Evan said, you can build rolling thunder off success,

we talk about actually in Canada they talk

about gettin’ the moose on the table, cuttin’ it up,

in Europe gettin’ the elephant in the room,

all this sort of stuff

but if you can slice these things down into areas

where I know I can do that, smash it,

know I can do that smash it out the park,

you are unstoppable, you are relentless

but give yourself things,

treat yourself to some early successes,

that will really build your confidence honestly,

’cause you and I know,

if you start yourself and you hit your head against the wall

and you bounce off,

it takes time to dust yourself off

and go back and smash against that wall again,

but if you actually give yourself some things

on your list of priorities that are really important,

where you can deliver early success

then that success becomes insatiable and unstoppable.

– I love it!

Lorraine thank you for the question,

lots of love good luck.

– [Stephen] Good luck Lorraine.

– Relaxing sleep station,

I’ve started opening up very publicly using my story

as a differentiator, I’m still concerned

that I’ll need to get a job in the future

and keep my business as my side hustle

until it earns enough,

how do I be true to my story while not completely

turning off potential employers who will find

all this information with me with a simple google search?

– I think it’s great, I think actually

and I talk about the authenticity,

I’d say a lot of great start-ups

are spawned out of people like yourself

who work in doin’ a full time job for someone else

and then in the evenings and weekends,

creating their ideas

and then ultimately building a business,

it’s great if you can get a big corporation to pay

for you to be moonlightin’

and creating the next amazing business

that you’re going to create,

in your bedroom, or in the garage,

or wherever you’re doin’ it,

then that’s a fantastic thing to do,

so I don’t think there should

be any guilt associated with that.

I think that’s the way people operate in 2016,

I think the other thing honestly,

if people came to us in our company

and said actually I want to start a business,

I’d applaud you, they can be full time employees

and colleagues with me in Sage

and I think you will be surprised,

there’s a lot of entrepreneurs out there,

even leaders of big companies out there

who would really encourage their colleagues

and their employees to start their ideas

and incubate their ideas

and then get ready to fly,

I think it’s worth pursuing,

when I just look at the range of businesses,

I’ll give you an example,

Obviously I’ve mentioned this guy before,

he’s a genius and that’s Marc Benioff at Salesforce,

Marc Benioff’s worked with me bact at oracle

and Larry Ellison the chief executive and chairman

at the time of Oracle,

knew Mark was startin’ his business and was really happy

for him to be incubatin’ his business

while he was moonlightin’ and workin’ full time at Oracle

and now Mark, the evaluation of that company sells for

must be 60 billion dollars,

one of the greatest companies on the planet,

got huge respect for him and he does amazing things

around communities through the Salesforce Foundation,

giving back to communities, making a difference

and buildin’ and really leadin’ the collaborary revolution.

That’s a real example and that happened

what 16, 17 years ago,

I think we shouldn’t constrain ourselves to just say,

I work for a company, I leave them and do a start-up,

I think there could be almost a perfect meltin’ pot

where you can be workin’ and workin’ on your own idea

at the same time and startin’ your business

and maybe even getting buddies to start the business for you

and then at the right time you kind of flip over.

– I think this ties in really well to this theme

of havin’ the confidence to be your true self,

because if you are worried about a customer

not buying from you because of your story

or a company not hiring you because of your story,

that’s probably not going to be a great fit for you anyway,

if you’re looking for a part time job

to support your business on the side,

there’s going to be some companies who will

look at what you’re doing and won’t want to hire somebody

who has their own part time thing, they want to hire

somebody who’s only dedicated to their company

and there’s going to be other people who,

will look at that as an advantage,

oh you’re an entrepreneur, that’s great you can help us

’cause you understand entrepreneurs

and you could give us advice

and do a great job in your role,

by putting that content out there

and by being yourself, you’ll attract the companies

that are a better fit for you

and the companies that aren’t a great fit

they won’t be interested in you,

it’s the same thing with your customers,

if you’re sharing your story,

there’s some people who won’t connect to it

and that’s fine those guys would not be great customers

for you and there’s going to be others

who will madly, deeply resonate with it

and drive that extra 100 miles just to get to you

because they love what you’re about,

I hire people even if they have their own thing on the side,

I have 18 people on my team it’s not anywhere close

to what Sage is at,

but you just heard it from the CEO there too,

thousands and thousands of employees

and they value people who have things on the side as well,

I would encourage you to go in and embrace

what you’re doin’ and maybe even include it on your resume

as opposed to tryin’ to hide it.

– The other thing Evan the only area

where it could get a bit testy is if,

I think this speaks to authenticity, integrity

and your values, obviously it wouldn’t be appropriate

to work for a company and then steal their ideas

to become a competitor of that company.

– [Evan] Sure.

– I think the confidence comes

through having really powerful values

and part of that is integrity

and also connectin’ yourself to the customer

but I think as long as it’s not a conflict

and you’re not going to rip off

the company’s intellectual property or stuff like that

then I think there’s a lot of companies out there

where exactly to Evan’s point,

you can find a perfect marriage with you and a company

and their ambition for their colleagues

to be really happy, fulfilled,

I do believe companies of the future,

should believe they have a relationship for life

with the colleagues who work for them

and that might mean I’d say to these people here,

they might leave Sage,

they might go start their own business,

10 years time, seven years time,

they’re always welcome to come back to Sage,

so it’s not like the old days,

you have a career in one company,

I think it’s great for the economies

for individuals who are fantastic entrepreneurs

to really be able to express their business freedom

and really grow a lot of job creation and wealth creation

by goin’ to start your business

and then at the right time you can come back,

we need people who’ve got real experience

of livin’ the life of an entrepreneur,

goin’ for a start-up,

worryin’ about makin’ payroll for a month,

all that sort of stuff, runnin’ out of cash

because the more we have people who have lived

and walked in the shoes of our customers

then the more authentic we’re going to be as a company,

I’d really encourage you,

connect yourself to a company as Evan said

with the values that you respect

and actually I think it could be a great marriage.

– I love it

Next up is Chris,

knowing what you know today what advice would

you have given yourself when you were first starting,

different planning or other ideas.

– That’s a great question Chris.

I think I would’ve number one,

I would’ve absolutely my idea would’ve focused on,

what does the audience need, what does the customer need,

where do we find them?

The other great advice I’d give myself is surround yourself

with great people

and people who challenge you

but people who are on the same moon mission as you are,

the people with the same vision, the same ambition,

the people who want to literally fly to the moon

and if you do that,

you’re probably going to be hugely successful

and it might not be necessarily on your first venture

but you’ll come across as you evolve your idea, huge success

and in the context of this in confidence,

be really happy if you do fail fast learn quick

and you’ll do great business.

– This is a hard one for me because I’m so happy

and grateful for where I am now

that everything that led up to this moment,

has shaped who I am,

If I change something in the past would I still be here?

That’s the internal battle I have

when I get asked this question

but I would probably, if I had to answer it

would say believe sooner and harder,

finding belief and going all in on it

has had such a tremendous impact on my life

and on my business

and it’s been a newer phenomenon in my life,

maybe three, four, five years something like that,

If I discovered it sooner and went in on it faster

and was bolder and had more confidence in it

that would probably be,

hopefully further ahead then where I’m at now

but at the same time I’m really grateful for my spot.

– Also Evan you probably did this,

you’re a risk taker in some ways,

I think I’d say be a responsible risk taker,

I remember one job where I was workin’ really early

on in my career for a big safe company

and I resigned to go to a crazy start-up,

that did become a really successful company

but I went back for the weekend to talk to my mom and dad,

they were alive at the time and I said to Mom,

Mom I’m going to go and do this and she said

well who’s this company you’re leavin’

I know the company you’re with but why would you

go work for a small start-up

and she said you’re absolutely crazy,

you’ve got security, you’ve got a pension,

I was 24 years old,

with the benefit I saw, I didn’t take enough risks

in my early career, you’ll get loads of people

tellin’ you the reasons why you shouldn’t do stuff

but I think it comes back to your inner confidence

and conviction to say if that’s what you believe in,

then shoot for those stars and take more risks.

– So it’s an interesting question because a lot of people

get that, not necessarily the hate,

not the people who are jealous,

but it’s the people who are still close to you

like your parents, your friends telling you not

to go and do something

and for a lot of people that holds them back

’cause they really respect and they love their mom

and they want to make them proud,

and carry family traditions,

what’s your advice to people who want to pursue a path

but their parents are blocking them?

– That’s a good question and the other thing at the time,

all my buddies thought I was crazy for doin’ it,

’cause I said I’m goin’ to a start-up,

I’ll probably work 60, 70, 80 hours a week

and they said well we won’t see you anymore,

you won’t be able to come down to the pub for drinks,

I said well I’ll still come in maybe,

but I’ll get here at 10 o’clock in the evenin’

instead of six o’clock

but we’ll find a way to keep those relationships in tact

I think the key thing is,

I’ll directly answer to your question Evan,

The best advice I have at that age at 24,

’cause I went and said look everybody thinks I’m crazy

goin’ and joinin’ a start-up,

this guy I’d worked with and knew as sort of a mentor,

he said to me Stephen what’s the worst case

that can happen?

The worst case that can happen in a year

is the start-up folds or they fire you

and you know what you can knock on the door

of the company you’ve left and they’d welcome you back

with open arms and actually you would’ve gained even

more experience and great life experience

from dealing with that failure and learning from that,

you would’ve been a much better entrepreneur yourself,

when you look at it rationally

and you sort of divorce yourself from the moment,

and you say well what could really go wrong here?

If it didn’t work out, you can always go back

to where you were.

I think the way you have to deal with this Evan,

is you have to be true to yourself

and it kind of comes back to the essence

of where you get your confidence.

No one here is livin’ someone else’s life.

It’s not that profound but we only get one shot,

it’s not a rehearsal and you’ve got to make the most of it

and the only thing that flies past is time

and when you got the energy and you’re young

and you can work flat out

and you might not have responsibilities,

it’s a fantastic time to really pursue your passion

and really follow your dreams,

the folks who are listenin’ today,

it would be a time if you go home to your mom, your dad,

even friends and they say, the nay sayers, don’t do it,

if you really believe in it then absolutely

have the conviction to go and do it.

You’ve got to live your own life.

– I like it, I like it.

Here’s an interesting one,

gettin’ on the conversation with this guest Anna,

she’s in our chat.

She was just praising us and saying Evan,

you’re a natural host slash interviewer

and I wrote back to say it’s not natural at all,

it’s all learned behavior,

when I first started doing this I was terrible

and I’m curious for you,

some of the things that people may look at you

and say man Stephen is so talented at this

but really when you started you had no idea

and you were failin’, you were messin’ up

and it’s just a result of decades of hard work,

is there something that comes to mind

that you’re praised for and people might think is natural

but is really just a ton of hard work that went into it?

– Yeah I think,

this is true and I think even as you get older in life,

your soul remains the same, your passion remains the same,

your energy and your moral compass is always authentic

and remains constant.

The thing that, directly to your point Evan,

for me personally a lot of things I’ve learned through

a bitter experience to gettin’ on TV

and screwin’ up on an interview.

But boy oh boy did I learn,

when I’ve made mistakes,

they’ve been the best learnin’s I’ve taken away.

The other thing relative to confidence,

is the more you practice the better you get,

and you’ll notice Michael Jordan all these statements

about the number of times they’ve missed a winnin’ shot

in a game or whatever.

The more they practice, the better they get.

I think it was Rory Mciiroy and then Gary Player,

golfers said the more I practice, the luckier I am.

And it’s the same in business

and I think Anna to your point,

look at me what was I?

When I was probably your age Anna,

I was a spotty not very attractive, not very confident,

but I just was kind of, I wanted to be not a street fighter,

but in the world of entrepreneurship,

I wanted to get out there, I had a dream,

I had a passion and I was happy to hunker down

and really work hard because I really believed in

what I was tryin’ to achieve,

for ultimately the customers I served

and to create a market place.

When I look back, yeah I’ve learned

and obviously Evan I think is a brilliant,

he should be a chat show up with Trevor Noah

and these sort of guys, I think he’s up there

with the best of them.

But a lot of it is a bit of learned behavior,

but I think what is constant,

is the essence of who you are

and your soul is always the same

and that’s why ultimately people buy from you,

that’s why people want to work for you,

that’s why people want to work with you.

That’s why partners want to build something

special, unique and magical with you,

you want to hang on to that and the confidence

really amplifies your soul

and your physical presence and whether you do hand gestures

or whether good openings on presentational,

whether you got skills in terms

of blamps and google hangouts and stuff.

The only thing I’d say there is the more you do,

the better you get, the more you practice

and the one vital piece of magic that I learned in life

is two things really,

one is empathy, put yourself in shoes of people

you’re tryin’ to serve

and the second thing is just always with two ears,

one mouth take feedback.

If people are prepared to invest in you

by giving you feedback even though it can hurt you,

and it can cut to the core,

take that feedback, learn from that feedback,

’cause it is magic.

– I love it, I love it.

Spittin’ fire.

Next up is Adarsh who’s asking,

where can I meet you guys personally?

– That is great now if you guys,

we’ve got to organize this Evan,

I’m definitely going to be in Toronto for the Invictus games

which is people I have the most massive level of respect for

people who have served out countries across the U.S.,

Canada, European countries that have come back

with some sort of disability or mental scars

and they run and they perform in this amazing

sort of Olympic Games,

now that is in Canada in Tornoto,

great city of Toronto in September

which is the hometown of a rockstar called Evan

and we need to do something, a live broadcast,

I just make this up on the fly

but we should have maybe it’s possible

to do a live audience or something like that,

we should just have some fun

and we should open up and go very social on that

and that’d be a great place to meet in person

and if you ask really nicely,

Evan could probably be persuaded to do a book signin’

– There you go, there you go.

– I travel a lot, I’ve just come back from the states

so we do a lot of things around Sage Summit as well

if you go to sage.com website,

we’re goin’ out to Berlin, Johannessburg,

we’re comin’ back to Atlanta

so we’re doin’ loads of those sort of things,

again we’re really informal so we love to talk

to entrepreneurs, we love to spend time with you guys

’cause we find you inspiring.

– We did a fun one at the top of the CNN tower

a little while back which is good,

we’re still gettin’ views and comments and responses,

September could work other wise Sage Summit,

it’s announced for Atlanta,

have you picked a date?

– Yeah I think it’s April, May,

we’ll be down in Atlanta so that’ll be a great opportunity

and hey Evan, confidence,

I had my confidence shrink from me when

I was on the CNN tower on the top of the platform

and Evan very supportively nudged me on to the bit

with the glass beneath it and I looked down

and I thought oh my God.

– It’s high, it’s high.

– It’s very high.

– Cool so April or May come out to Sage Summit Atlanta,

if not Toronto September, we’re excited to meet you Adarsh.

– We’ll check out the date on Atlanta,

let you know before the end of the show.

– Cool.

Cynna, sometimes I get tired

of pursuing my passion of rapping,

I’m wondering right now should I take a break

or keep at it, if so how long,

I get afraid of fallin’ behind, much love to you guys.

– That’s a good question Cynna,

I think if you’re lovin’ what you’re doin’

whatever it is, rappin’,

you probably need to say are you really energized,

are you fresh?

Are you really focused on achieving your goals

and invariably there comes a time

where you run out of energy

and you need to have a bit of recharge and reflection

so at those point in times,

whatever works for you, you could have a vacation whatever,

you get together with friends, you go and see mentors,

whatever it is that really works for you

and then I think that’s a great time

to reflect on what’s workin’

fundamentally just still believe in your big idea,

If you do what do you need to change

to make it even more successful

and then you can kind of get right back into it.

– This is an interesting one

’cause we’re just about to release a video

on Lindsay Sterling, I don’t know if you know Lindsay,

she’s a violinist and she had one

of the top YouTube videos for one of her songs,

and when she was doin’ violin,

she kind of got bored of it

’cause it was kind of classical

and the same thing and she just grew a little tired of it

and she wanted to put it down

and then she discovered electronic music and Skrillex

and Djs and all these people putting out beats

and she said that’d be really cool to combine my violin

with the electronic beats and she formed a new thing

that hadn’t existed before

and that reignited her interest and passion in violin

and also helped her differentiate herself

and create one of the top videos for music videos,

so I’m wondering if there might be something like

that in it for you,

where if you still love rapping

but you don’t like doin’ it the way you’ve been doin’ it

or the way other people are doin’ it,

to explore maybe combine it with another passion of yours

to continue to test the waters.

If you look at The Beatles,

none of their albums sound like each other,

the first album was way different than the next one

and way different than the next one

and people are like we like the early Beatles,

why don’t you keep doing those,

well we’ve grown as people, we don’t do that anymore,

we want to do new stuff

and I think that’s part of every entrepreneur,

especially artists, you have to continue to evolve

and test and try new things

and so if you’re getting a little bored

of what you’re doing,

I’d say how do I mix in something new?

Try out a new project that still involves the rapping,

but you can involve and incorporate something else

in it to push yourself and see if it makes it come alive.

– I think also if you’re really gettin’ bored,

go round and listen to rappers you really respect,

go and meet some of them,

maybe think about doing something collaboratively

with a partner ’cause it sounds like

you need new innovation,

sounds like you got a core idea, you love what you’re doin’

but if you need to evolve it there’s loads of opportunities

and Evan, Atlanta, May 9th to 11th.

Sage Summit Atlanta.

– Well we’ll both be there so Adarsh come find us in May

in Atlanta, that’s just before my birthday I’m May 20

so we’ll celebrate in Atlanta together.

Sherry is writing in talkin’ about her story,

saying her story is too long every time she tries to tell it

and she’s havin’ a hard time cutting

it down to the essentials,

so when you’re tellin’ your story to people,

how do you make it impactful without talkin’ for too long.

Probably the first thing is think about the audience

you’re tryin’ to serve, so I mentioned that word empathy,

what problem are you tryin’ to solve, what pain point?

If you can tell ’em your story reflectin’ against

their needs and really speakin’ for their hearts.

Then I think you’re on a winner.

Then make it really simple, use language that’s simple,

understandable, compellin’, exciting, evocative

and you are absolutely unaware,

I just think when I look at the companies

that have been turned down for money,

some of them because they probably had

to refine their stories,

there’s tons of ’em,

like Tangle Teaser revenue’s now 23 million,

they got turned down,

another Trunkie revenues 10 million dollars,

all these companies have been out there,

either a stage where they’ve gone

through friends and family and your investin’,

tryin’ to raise money and the key thing was their pitch

had to be evolved and shortened and crispened

so it is really good,

the other thing around this I think was fair to say,

just give ’em enough of the story

to tease ’em for the next chapter.

Don’t try and read the whole book at once,

just tease ’em and what you really want

with a great story, you want the forward which

is whatever elevator pitch, whatever you want to call it.

It’s compellin’, evocative, audience centered,

and it just gives enough to say wow,

I want to go to the next stage

and then the next stage is the next stage

and then they open the rich fabric of the whole book,

chapter by chapter.

– Just like bein’ a good sales person,

the best sales people use their ears

more than their mouth.

You want to be a good story teller,

it starts by listening before talking,

understanding who they are and what they need,

’cause you have a thousand stories you can tell,

Stephen and I could tell a thousand stories

about different things from out past

but it’s picking the three out of those thousand

that’s going to make an impact on this person in front of you

and so if you have no idea who you’re talkin’ to,

it makes it harder, you could pick your most effective story

but if you have a little bit more context in who they are,

what they’re going through,

then you can select the right stories from your past

that will have a meaningful impact on them

so you don’t go to long and get really boring.

– Just a final thing, Evan on that is,

I always love to listen to stories that tell me about

how customers have been successful,

so if you’re at a stage where you got some early customers,

go and listen to Evan’s point, to those customers

and they will tell your story better than anybody

could in the world and then you want to bottle that

and if you can tell a customer a story,

of your product, of your service,

how it’s changed their lives,

how it’s made their lives easier,

you’re on a winner, you’re absolutely unstoppable,

get customers to tell your story for you.

– I love it.

– Next up we got a couple people asking the same question.

Tinmag is sayin’ I have a lot of ideas in my life

and for my business, how do I decide which is the best

one to go for?

Brian asking kind of the same thing,

my question is what if you have more than one dream,

how do you pick the best one?

So Tinmag and Brian basically got lots of potential ideas

how do you find the one that’s going to be best for you?

– Good question Tinmag, Brian

and I think you’re obviously people with great ideas,

sounds like lots of ’em.

If you want to be an entrepreneur,

what is it that really motivates you,

do you want to be a billionaire,

do you want to be the next Zuckerberg

or something like that

or do you want to do it to change the world

or do you want to do it cause you’re alteristic,

do you want to do it ’cause you want to change your community,

you got to decide what the motivate

and then against that rank in terms of your mission,

then you can start sayin’ well if

that’s what the end game is,

what’s the best idea to actually get to that end game?

Again sort of stayin’ true to yourself

and havin’ the confidence to pursue it

and then there’s the obvious stuff,

if you’re drivin’ it to build a business and monetize it,

it’s lookin’ at what’s the market opportunity,

how do you change the market, how do you be disruptive,

from that you can put the bones in the skeleton

of a business plan together

and then you just ask yourself what do you need to do

to execute against that vision,

now the question than becomes,

if you wrote Evan and my epitaph

it would be one life was never enough.

One life was never enough.

You have to be ruthless with your time,

’cause the most valuable thing

is your energy, your passion and your time.

So then you can ask yourself,

’cause you might be able to start two or three ideas

and start them simultaneously

but you need to be careful there

that you’re not tryin’ to spread yourself too thinly

and you might find if you spread yourself too thinly,

all three ideas fail.

What you might find if you only focus on one,

pick the winner, if it’s monetization it’s easy to evaluate,

if it’s other criteria you’re drivin’,

just pick the one that’s authentic and closest

to what you’re tryin’ to drive in terms of your values,

but if you can happy days,

say you can drive three business ideas concurrently

then it’s all about just pickin’ a winner,

and you’ll find through the momentum in the business ideas,

the one that really gains traction will be the one

that you really want to double down on and really focus on,

I think there’s no perfect answer to this

but the question you got to be true to yourself

and it’s that moment on a Friday night

when you get home maybe have a glass of wine or a beer,

pick the winners always, pick the winners

and then be ruthless can I just do one,

can I do two, can I do three,

can you get some of your buddies

to start some of your ideas for you,

be involved as an investor,

get them goin’

and then ultimately what you want to do

is fundamentally have the confidence to pick a winner,

double down on it and really grow a great business

and express your passion.

– I would first similar with what Stephen’s saying,

examine the intentions and make sure that it’s pure,

you’re doing this because this has to exist in the world,

you’ve got the passion for it,

it’s not on your list of ideas because you opened

up a magazine and here’s a list of hottest companies

and that’s why you want to go start and do it,

it’s got to come of a place where you actually

have the passion for it.

If your reasons are pure

and you’ve still got multiple ideas,

I would actually look for,

how can I combine these things together into one business

and use that as my differentiator,

so lookin’ at Lindsay Sterling

that we talked about, she likes violining

and she likes electronic music

and those have not typically gone together

and so by mashing them together

now she’s different and she’s unique

and she stands out

and she’s the only one doin’ it,

she found her own market,

so I’ve been lookin’ at how can I combine some

of these things together to form the ultimate business

that only you can do because

you have these different interests.

Good luck.

But again make sure that it has to be both things

are what you are deeply passionate about,

are true and pure and not just chasing opportunity.

– Great idea.

Good idea.

And if you can combine the ideas that’s even better.

– William is writing in, he’s okay with talkin’ to people,

he’s talkin’ about story telling,

he like talking with people but if the conversation goes on

for too long his mood goes down.

So for people who are maybe introverted

and don’t like having long conversations and it drains them,

what advice do we have on story telling

and being confident in conversations

when you’re more introverted.

– I think all of us have some degree of nature

where we’re introverted.

The other thing, there’s a unique skill

to have a rich conversation.

I think we get too excited as entrepreneurs,

we feel we need to pitch

and as Evan said the real uniqueness of great entrepreneurs

in my experience is people who listen really well,

listen acutely, so maybe William,

you just give ’em the value proposition,

the compellin’ reason why your big idea

can add massive value and change their world

but then you just sit back and you rely on some really,

really wise friends that you have.

Those friends ask just questions.

You’ve heard my idea what do you think?

How would this work for you?

Then you just listen and you take feedback

and then the interesting thing you say William,

your motivation goes down if you keep pitchin’

I think you get energized when you listen to other people

and you get their input and you get real engagement

and a rich interaction and that’s how you build

your products and service to be better and well beaten.

The power of listenin’ is such a great skill

an so often undervalued

and it just for me personally,

when I listen to whether I go to customers,

colleagues, partners, the accountants we deal with,

I find it really upliftin’

and it gives me a real sense of not only good karma

but tremendous energy,

if you find you’re out there pitchin’

turn the tables and start askin’ some wise questions

about what does it look like for you?

How do you feel about what I’ve talked about?

What’s the context, how would it solve a pain point for you

and then just listen, then the conversation flows

and it’ll be very energizing.

– So William, I’m an introvert that may not come across,

you may not feel that from me but I am,

a couple things that have helped me,

one I’d limit my exposure so I’d really chunk my time

so Thursdays are my day to be public facing,

it’s hangouts, I’m going into four meetings after this,

that’s my Thursdays

and then tomorrow is nothing,

introvert day just work and the rest of my week is similar

where I’m not meeting people,

I’m not having a lot of conversations

and that works for me so the one day a week

where I’m my extroverted self and then I can recover

for the rest of the week, may be helpful for you

and then also design a business model around

how you can win,

this theme is about having the confidence

to tell your truths

be yourself and tell your story.

It doesn’t mean you need to be out networking 24 hours a day

let the extroverts go out and do that.

I win by creating content,

I never go to events and conferences

’cause I hate networking and introducing myself,

I’ll only go if I’m speaking ’cause then people

will come up to me and I limit those too.

So recognizing what you’re great at,

you can still tell your story and create content,

you can make a video or you can write articles

and you can push out on social media

without having to go and talk to people all the time.

If my business relied on me being a sales person,

we would fail but luckily this is enough

of marketing and content creation

and all the other things that could help me win

that that’s what I stand on.

There’s a lot of different ways to build a business,

you don’t have to be the Mark Cuban,

yelling in your face super loud person to win,

you can find your way to stand as well.

– Evan what you say there is true.

I probably won’t articulate this very well

but you capture something in the essence

of the honesty and authenticity of what you say,

where you say look I’m not an introvert,

in this case to William as well,

sometimes if you’re doin’ a pitch,

I would feel pretty comfortable

with someone doin’ a pitch to me sayin’ look

I’m not the big I am, I’m not a big extrovert,

but I think I’ve got a compelling idea

that’s worth listening to.

If they said that to me, my heart would go out to them

and emotionally I’d feel tremendous resonance and connection

so I don’t think entrepreneurs

are stereotypical, clone extroverts,

I think there’s so many different types of entrepreneurs

and that’s the richness of diversity that we celebrate.

I just think part of that

is genuine honesty and authenticity

about acceptin’ who you are and just sayin’

I’m not going to change that ’cause that’s my soul.

But I’ve got a brilliant idea and it’s going to change

your world and I want to run it past you.

– I like it, I like it.

The heart, the Stephen Kelly heart.

Next question coming in,

what book should we read next?

What book would you recommend that people

watching this video then go and read next?

– I’m readin’ a book at the moment,

there’s loads of great books wow,

your book obviously Evan that’s a must read.

(laughs)

Big plug Evan’s book signed copies Toronto.

The other thing I’m readin’ about which is fantastic,

it’s around diversity and around the challenges women face

in terms of establishing an entrepreneurs career

and some of the sub conscious barriers that are out there,

it’s a book called What Works, we’ll send it to you,

so we’ll put it out on social media

but I think it’s a really cool book.

Why do I like it?

I like it ’cause it challenges so many assumptions,

now it’s a bit different,

it’s not related, well it is related to entrepreneurs,

it’s related to life, it’s a life book

so I think it’s pretty cool.

There’s loads of books you know

you can do From Good to Great,

Branson’s books are fantastic.

What you tend to find with these business books honestly,

is you can read ’em but there’s normally two or three

great ideas that you know make huge common sense,

it’s about trusting your instincts

and when you pick out these nuggets in these books,

and obviously you can apply them

they’re injections that give you new energy

and probably greater confidence

and really encourage you to support your conviction

but I think the thing that you should be thinkin’ of

is what’s your book?

What’s your book of your great idea

and how you brought that to market

and actually when you start your companies

and when you grow your companies,

it is worth thinking about the chapters of the book

that you’re going to write one day

about how you built a product,

changed the world, stuck to your big dream

and was always very true to yourself,

how you hire great people around you,

all these sort of things,

’cause when you do this it builds culture

and in your companies it’s great to have that culture

and that’s the reason why people want to work for you,

and be around you.

Read lots of books, get lots of ideas,

if there’s amazing mentors out there, learn from them

but think about writing your own book

and make it different, make it challenging,

make it the essence of your big idea but also who you are.

– I like it, I like it.

Stephen when are you comin’ out with your book,

I want the Stephen Kelly book,

we’ll call it Velocity by Stephen Kelly.

– Velocity.

And the speed of light.

We love it Evan.

What’s your ideas about books,

you read a lot of books you’re a great thoughtful–

– I just finished reading The Experience Economy

which is a good book basically talkin’

about how to realize you’re not

in a product or service business,

you’re not selling shoes, you’re not selling software,

you’re selling an experience

and tryin’ to give the best possible experience

to your customers in every scenario

so they have an emotional connection

to your business beyond just the benefits

they get from using your product.

It’s a great book.

I don’t know how much it relates to confidence

to be your true self which is this theme

so I just started a new one called Triggers

which is interesting

which is understanding the triggers that you have

that hold you back,

that when you want to go and do something big

and then you self sabotage somehow,

what are those triggers that then if you identify them,

you can change your behavior.

I’m just starting that

which is interesting,

but I recommend checkin’ that out for you guys

if you want to change some of your self destructive habits

and break through and have more confidence.

There’s a follow up question around this from Edwin,

saying how do you apply what you’re reading to your business

and personal life as an introverted person?

Are you introverted Stephen?

– I once did these, it’s funny actually,

when I went for one job they made me do these

sort of psychology tests and I had to answer

all these spacial awareness things.

I came out as an introvert,

I think you are what you are and I think you have to feel

very comfortable with your own skin

and be what you are and be authentic to that

but havin’ said that,

we all as Evan said, have learned behaviors.

I think Edwin the reality is when I look at,

and I read business books, I’ve read ’em over the years,

and I’ve read all the ones we talked

about From Good to Great and all that sort of stuff

but there’s probably a few great ideas

that you can apply to your business,

I think with this sort of thing,

you can read some business books

and it seems overwhelming.

If you read autobiographys of great entrepreneurs,

there’s so much but they’ve done

that over 30, 40 years sometimes,

if you read the books of the great entrepreneurs

it can be overwhelmin’ so just take one thing,

just take one magical thing

that is going to be transformin’ in your business.

Then do that really well and then maybe go

back to the next one.

It is definitely the case,

typically with both business books

and even fictional books that it can be very powerful

that it kind of reconnects you to your mission,

it allows you to maybe have some tools, some skills

that you learn that you can employ in the business.

– And just understanding that you can win as an introvert,

I have my channel, my audience

and had the success that I’ve had

and Stephen is running one

of the largest tech companies in the world

and at Sage Summit last year walks

in on the stage bangin’ a drum

with lights goin’ off and smoke flyin’ around,

he’s a performer, you can break through

the limitations you have to do things

that you never thought were possible

so just because you’re an introvert

doesn’t mean you can’t win.

Stephen we are at time.

It’s crazy how quickly an hour goes,

I want to leave believe nation

with a final summarizing message,

nuggets of wisdom from Mr. Stephen Kelly,

what do you have for us?

– Confidence to be true to yourself, couple of examples,

just looking back in the last 20 years,

you got to believe, it’s all about confidence,

it’s about conviction

and when people kind of give you darker days,

you got to dig deep so the CEO of Excite company George Bell,

got turned down Google for a million bucks

and then sold the business or valued at seven billion,

so why, because they believe,

I could give you loads of other examples,

entrepreneurs who’ve run out banged against the wall

or run out of cash and used that as a catalyst

to really invigorate their beliefs

and their conviction and their confidence

to build fantastic businesses

but I think you guys out there,

it’s been a brilliant session, fantastic questions

and I think the essence is you got two introverts here,

Evan and myself, we just are what we are,

we believe in what we believe in

and we’ve got a really clear mission,

clear moral compass of what we want to do,

and I think what we’ve shared with you today

if there’s one thing,

it is back to #believe,

if you believe in your idea, you believe in your passion,

you know how you’re going to stay true to yourself,

that will give you tremendous confidence

and let’s be very honest,

there are going to be bumps in the road,

when you hit those bumps go and get some spiritual upliftin’

whether it’s from mentors, friends, colleagues, customers,

to say I’m on the right track so I’m going to double down

and we’re going to be successful

and we’re going to make a difference to this world.

– I love it boom.

That’s the ending I love it.

Guys thank you so much for joining us again,

you can support Stephen with his new Instagram

and Facebook page skellyceo,

also for next month if you guys have ideas

and what you would like us to talk about,

leave it not in the live chat ’cause it’s going to disappear

but leave it in the comments afterwards

and we’ll check that out.

Stephen thank you again so much for spending time

to help enrich the lives of entrepreneurs,

I really appreciate.

– No it’s great we love you guys so thanks very much

for spendin’ time with us we really appreciate it.

We’re honored.

– Thank you guys continue to believe and we’ll see you soon.

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