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The Surprising Truth about Happiness | Gillian Mandich | TEDxYorkville


I never looked on Facebook and look

I never looked on Facebook and look through your newsfeed and felt

through your newsfeed and felt

through your newsfeed and felt inadequate have you ever opened up your

inadequate have you ever opened up your

inadequate have you ever opened up your Facebook and saw a picture of somebody’s

Facebook and saw a picture of somebody’s

Facebook and saw a picture of somebody’s bright shiny moment or their perfect

bright shiny moment or their perfect

bright shiny moment or their perfect family photo and then felt like your

family photo and then felt like your

family photo and then felt like your life might just not be quite good enough

life might just not be quite good enough

life might just not be quite good enough have you ever been scrolling through

have you ever been scrolling through

have you ever been scrolling through your newsfeed or watching the news and

your newsfeed or watching the news and

your newsfeed or watching the news and what you saw made you feel more or less

what you saw made you feel more or less

what you saw made you feel more or less happy we’ve all been there and we’ve

happy we’ve all been there and we’ve

happy we’ve all been there and we’ve gone through those experiences where

gone through those experiences where

gone through those experiences where we’ve let other things influence how we

we’ve let other things influence how we

we’ve let other things influence how we feel we live in this world of social

feel we live in this world of social

feel we live in this world of social media and social comparison where we’re

media and social comparison where we’re

media and social comparison where we’re constantly looking to other people we’re

constantly looking to other people we’re

constantly looking to other people we’re looking to the media and we’re looking

looking to the media and we’re looking

looking to the media and we’re looking to the news and we’re comparing

to the news and we’re comparing

to the news and we’re comparing ourselves so often we look at someone’s

ourselves so often we look at someone’s

ourselves so often we look at someone’s front story or what they post or share

front story or what they post or share

front story or what they post or share or with the media chooses selectively to

or with the media chooses selectively to

or with the media chooses selectively to share with us and we look at that and we

share with us and we look at that and we

share with us and we look at that and we compare it to ourselves and we look at

compare it to ourselves and we look at

compare it to ourselves and we look at the back story of our life the

the back story of our life the

the back story of our life the behind-the-scenes part that nobody else

behind-the-scenes part that nobody else

behind-the-scenes part that nobody else sees and when we do that it can leave us

sees and when we do that it can leave us

sees and when we do that it can leave us feeling happy sad depressed and you

feeling happy sad depressed and you

feeling happy sad depressed and you should full of herself such a range of

should full of herself such a range of

should full of herself such a range of emotions and what is that why is it that

emotions and what is that why is it that

emotions and what is that why is it that we create these stories in our head why

we create these stories in our head why

we create these stories in our head why do we consciously or unconsciously allow

do we consciously or unconsciously allow

do we consciously or unconsciously allow everything that’s around us to influence

everything that’s around us to influence

everything that’s around us to influence how we feel it creates a world that’s

how we feel it creates a world that’s

how we feel it creates a world that’s pretty hard to navigate where it’s hard

pretty hard to navigate where it’s hard

pretty hard to navigate where it’s hard to go around and not let everything else

to go around and not let everything else

to go around and not let everything else affect how they feel especially when we

affect how they feel especially when we

affect how they feel especially when we book add things like social media I can

book add things like social media I can

book add things like social media I can have a really profound effect on things

have a really profound effect on things

have a really profound effect on things like our happiness so this cartoon here

like our happiness so this cartoon here

like our happiness so this cartoon here is but I can’t talk right now I’m

is but I can’t talk right now I’m

is but I can’t talk right now I’m simulating happiness

simulating happiness

simulating happiness Facebook and especially in terms of

Facebook and especially in terms of

Facebook and especially in terms of happiness the reality is what gets

happiness the reality is what gets

happiness the reality is what gets posted can create an artificial picture

posted can create an artificial picture

posted can create an artificial picture of what it looks like or feels like to

of what it looks like or feels like to

of what it looks like or feels like to be happy now this cartoon here it says

be happy now this cartoon here it says

be happy now this cartoon here it says my project is simply this I want to

my project is simply this I want to

my project is simply this I want to study and prove once and for all but

study and prove once and for all but

study and prove once and for all but there’s more to the belief than money to

there’s more to the belief than money to

there’s more to the belief than money to buy happiness

buy happiness

buy happiness I’m happiness researcher this is a

I’m happiness researcher this is a

I’m happiness researcher this is a particularly my research question but

particularly my research question but

particularly my research question but I’m only interested in learning about

I’m only interested in learning about

I’m only interested in learning about happiness and why it is that it creates

happiness and why it is that it creates

happiness and why it is that it creates happiness in our world when we look to

happiness in our world when we look to

happiness in our world when we look to things like social media we can get

things like social media we can get

things like social media we can get really confused because this sort of an

really confused because this sort of an

really confused because this sort of an illusion of the world and when we take

illusion of the world and when we take

illusion of the world and when we take that illusion and compare it to our

that illusion and compare it to our

that illusion and compare it to our reality or we let it affect how we feel

reality or we let it affect how we feel

reality or we let it affect how we feel we can kind of start to create a reality

we can kind of start to create a reality

we can kind of start to create a reality that isn’t painting an exact picture of

that isn’t painting an exact picture of

that isn’t painting an exact picture of happiness

happiness

happiness I believe that oftentimes what’s

I believe that oftentimes what’s

I believe that oftentimes what’s promoted in terms of happiness is not

promoted in terms of happiness is not

promoted in terms of happiness is not correct I’d like to suggest today that

correct I’d like to suggest today that

correct I’d like to suggest today that the pursuit of happiness that common

the pursuit of happiness that common

the pursuit of happiness that common belief that happiness is something to

belief that happiness is something to

belief that happiness is something to eat she is in fact incorrect so if I can

eat she is in fact incorrect so if I can

eat she is in fact incorrect so if I can rewind a few years back when I was

rewind a few years back when I was

rewind a few years back when I was studying my PhD dissertation I was

studying my PhD dissertation I was

studying my PhD dissertation I was trying to decide on what topic to study

trying to decide on what topic to study

trying to decide on what topic to study and I couldn’t think of a better thing

and I couldn’t think of a better thing

and I couldn’t think of a better thing to study then that elusive unicorn era

to study then that elusive unicorn era

to study then that elusive unicorn era that is happiness when we look at what

that is happiness when we look at what

that is happiness when we look at what we do what motivates so many of our

we do what motivates so many of our

we do what motivates so many of our behaviors and what’s the core between so

behaviors and what’s the core between so

behaviors and what’s the core between so many things that we do it is happiness

many things that we do it is happiness

many things that we do it is happiness we want to feel happy even going to look

we want to feel happy even going to look

we want to feel happy even going to look having wanna be happy right and at the

having wanna be happy right and at the

having wanna be happy right and at the same time when I was looking at my life

same time when I was looking at my life

same time when I was looking at my life and I was looking at happiness always

and I was looking at happiness always

and I was looking at happiness always thought it was just beyond my reach so I

thought it was just beyond my reach so I

thought it was just beyond my reach so I wanted to study happiness and learn more

wanted to study happiness and learn more

wanted to study happiness and learn more about it so that I could grab

about it so that I could grab

about it so that I could grab happiness it just seemed almost right at

happiness it just seemed almost right at

happiness it just seemed almost right at the tip of my fingertips I can to look

the tip of my fingertips I can to look

the tip of my fingertips I can to look at the research and I began to see

at the research and I began to see

at the research and I began to see things like happiness is pretty much the

things like happiness is pretty much the

things like happiness is pretty much the basic human pursuit everybody wants to

basic human pursuit everybody wants to

basic human pursuit everybody wants to be happy and it almost looks like this

be happy and it almost looks like this

be happy and it almost looks like this hallmark thing that is like a symbol of

hallmark thing that is like a symbol of

hallmark thing that is like a symbol of good psychological health if you’re

good psychological health if you’re

good psychological health if you’re happy I was learning things like if you

happy I was learning things like if you

happy I was learning things like if you look to the literature you see that

look to the literature you see that

look to the literature you see that happy people tend to live longer they

happy people tend to live longer they

happy people tend to live longer they tend to experience a greater quality of

tend to experience a greater quality of

tend to experience a greater quality of life they tend to make more money and

life they tend to make more money and

life they tend to make more money and have longer and more fulfilling

have longer and more fulfilling

have longer and more fulfilling marriages than they’re unhappy peers and

marriages than they’re unhappy peers and

marriages than they’re unhappy peers and it was really starting to get

it was really starting to get

it was really starting to get interesting and I was like okay so this

interesting and I was like okay so this

interesting and I was like okay so this happiness thing I think I want that when

happiness thing I think I want that when

happiness thing I think I want that when you look at happiness it began to appear

you look at happiness it began to appear

you look at happiness it began to appear to be a key ingredient in terms of

to be a key ingredient in terms of

to be a key ingredient in terms of well-being and as I was learning that it

well-being and as I was learning that it

well-being and as I was learning that it kind of made sense it was tempting to

kind of made sense it was tempting to

kind of made sense it was tempting to conclude that happiness is always good

conclude that happiness is always good

conclude that happiness is always good and the more you chew or aim for

and the more you chew or aim for

and the more you chew or aim for happiness the better your life will be

happiness the better your life will be

happiness the better your life will be I was surprised however to find out that

I was surprised however to find out that

I was surprised however to find out that that isn’t necessarily the case it turns

that isn’t necessarily the case it turns

that isn’t necessarily the case it turns out that there is an idea that there is

out that there is an idea that there is

out that there is an idea that there is a dark side of happiness and sometimes

a dark side of happiness and sometimes

a dark side of happiness and sometimes we value happiness it can lead us to

we value happiness it can lead us to

we value happiness it can lead us to feel unhappy and sometimes the more we

feel unhappy and sometimes the more we

feel unhappy and sometimes the more we strive for happiness the less likely we

strive for happiness the less likely we

strive for happiness the less likely we might be to attain happiness that’s

might be to attain happiness that’s

might be to attain happiness that’s quite the paradox right so it’s

quite the paradox right so it’s

quite the paradox right so it’s interesting so if you take into the

interesting so if you take into the

interesting so if you take into the literature a little bit on this we

literature a little bit on this we

literature a little bit on this we sometimes might think that happiness the

sometimes might think that happiness the

sometimes might think that happiness the more your happiness goes up the more

more your happiness goes up the more

more your happiness goes up the more you’re both being goes up turns out it’s

you’re both being goes up turns out it’s

you’re both being goes up turns out it’s not a linear relationship it morelos

not a linear relationship it morelos

not a linear relationship it morelos like this you curve here so for a while

like this you curve here so for a while

like this you curve here so for a while as we increase our happiness our overall

as we increase our happiness our overall

as we increase our happiness our overall well-being tends to increase however it

well-being tends to increase however it

well-being tends to increase however it hits a point after that point it starts

hits a point after that point it starts

hits a point after that point it starts to go down and once it passes that line

to go down and once it passes that line

to go down and once it passes that line there’s certain threshold it can

there’s certain threshold it can

there’s certain threshold it can actually detrimental effects in terms of

actually detrimental effects in terms of

actually detrimental effects in terms of our happiness there was a big review

our happiness there was a big review

our happiness there was a big review done in 2011 and what they found was

done in 2011 and what they found was

done in 2011 and what they found was that oftentimes striving for how

that oftentimes striving for how

that oftentimes striving for how this especially when you’re

this especially when you’re

this especially when you’re narrow-minded focusing Willie intently

narrow-minded focusing Willie intently

narrow-minded focusing Willie intently on happiness it can have negative

on happiness it can have negative

on happiness it can have negative effects in your life there was more

effects in your life there was more

effects in your life there was more research done looking at this idea

research done looking at this idea

research done looking at this idea because it’s very perplexing it’s very

because it’s very perplexing it’s very

because it’s very perplexing it’s very counterintuitive in this study what

counterintuitive in this study what

counterintuitive in this study what happened is they brought research

happened is they brought research

happened is they brought research participants into a lab and they had

participants into a lab and they had

participants into a lab and they had them listen you think some of the

them listen you think some of the

them listen you think some of the participants that control participants

participants that control participants

participants that control participants of the blue on the graph here they were

of the blue on the graph here they were

of the blue on the graph here they were told nothing they were told come on in

told nothing they were told come on in

told nothing they were told come on in listen to the music and tell us how you

listen to the music and tell us how you

listen to the music and tell us how you feel another group came in the purple

feel another group came in the purple

feel another group came in the purple bar here and they were told we’re gonna

bar here and they were told we’re gonna

bar here and they were told we’re gonna play some music for you and we want you

play some music for you and we want you

play some music for you and we want you to feel and happy try to feel that of

to feel and happy try to feel that of

to feel and happy try to feel that of course and so again the participants

course and so again the participants

course and so again the participants came in and they assessed if they were

came in and they assessed if they were

came in and they assessed if they were feeling happy and if they were feeling

feeling happy and if they were feeling

feeling happy and if they were feeling sad and at the end of the study what you

sad and at the end of the study what you

sad and at the end of the study what you can see is the people that were to hold

can see is the people that were to hold

can see is the people that were to hold to feel happy felt less happy than the

to feel happy felt less happy than the

to feel happy felt less happy than the people that weren’t told that at all so

people that weren’t told that at all so

people that weren’t told that at all so the people that were really trying for

the people that were really trying for

the people that were really trying for happiness and about not achieving it now

happiness and about not achieving it now

happiness and about not achieving it now these studies there’s several other ones

these studies there’s several other ones

these studies there’s several other ones that serve highlight the same idea this

that serve highlight the same idea this

that serve highlight the same idea this cartoon here says truth be told as a

cartoon here says truth be told as a

cartoon here says truth be told as a clam he’s talking to a therapist so

clam he’s talking to a therapist so

clam he’s talking to a therapist so truth be told I’m not that happy and for

truth be told I’m not that happy and for

truth be told I’m not that happy and for so many of us it might be that when we

so many of us it might be that when we

so many of us it might be that when we try really hard or we strive for

try really hard or we strive for

try really hard or we strive for happiness it might be counterproductive

happiness it might be counterproductive

happiness it might be counterproductive we might actually be further away from

we might actually be further away from

we might actually be further away from happiness than we thought could be

happiness than we thought could be

happiness than we thought could be perhaps that when we strive for

perhaps that when we strive for

perhaps that when we strive for happiness we might be a me at the wrong

happiness we might be a me at the wrong

happiness we might be a me at the wrong target there might be something going

target there might be something going

target there might be something going wrong it might be like we’re trying to

wrong it might be like we’re trying to

wrong it might be like we’re trying to run east to see the sunset so before we

run east to see the sunset so before we

run east to see the sunset so before we go off and explore that something that

go off and explore that something that

go off and explore that something that there is one other key piece of

there is one other key piece of

there is one other key piece of information that I think is really worth

information that I think is really worth

information that I think is really worth discussing and this is the idea of

discussing and this is the idea of

discussing and this is the idea of happiness and sadness now growing up I

happiness and sadness now growing up I

happiness and sadness now growing up I always thought that the goal was be

always thought that the goal was be

always thought that the goal was be happy and don’t be sad and whenever I

happy and don’t be sad and whenever I

happy and don’t be sad and whenever I felt sad

felt sad

felt sad you know I really wanna feel happy

you know I really wanna feel happy

you know I really wanna feel happy instead I was surprised and I started

instead I was surprised and I started

instead I was surprised and I started taking into the research that it turns

taking into the research that it turns

taking into the research that it turns out that happiness and sadness aren’t

out that happiness and sadness aren’t

out that happiness and sadness aren’t two ends of the same continuum there are

two ends of the same continuum there are

two ends of the same continuum there are actually two different constructs so it

actually two different constructs so it

actually two different constructs so it is possible to feel happy

is possible to feel happy

is possible to feel happy well feeling sad and it’s possible to

well feeling sad and it’s possible to

well feeling sad and it’s possible to feel sadness well at the same time

feel sadness well at the same time

feel sadness well at the same time you’re experiencing the feeling of

you’re experiencing the feeling of

you’re experiencing the feeling of happiness so to prove that we had

happiness so to prove that we had

happiness so to prove that we had another research study here and this one

another research study here and this one

another research study here and this one the same thing they brought a bunch of

the same thing they brought a bunch of

the same thing they brought a bunch of participants into the lab however this

participants into the lab however this

participants into the lab however this time instead of listening to music

time instead of listening to music

time instead of listening to music they showed participants clips from

they showed participants clips from

they showed participants clips from movies so in the controller the first

movies so in the controller the first

movies so in the controller the first group there this pins came in and they

group there this pins came in and they

group there this pins came in and they watched pretty neutral movies they were

watched pretty neutral movies they were

watched pretty neutral movies they were chosen to not really evoke a lot of

chosen to not really evoke a lot of

chosen to not really evoke a lot of emotion at all so not happy feelings

emotion at all so not happy feelings

emotion at all so not happy feelings kind of control the second group came in

kind of control the second group came in

kind of control the second group came in and they were shown clips from movies

and they were shown clips from movies

and they were shown clips from movies such as life is beautiful they

such as life is beautiful they

such as life is beautiful they specifically picked clips that were

specifically picked clips that were

specifically picked clips that were intended to evoke emotions of happiness

intended to evoke emotions of happiness

intended to evoke emotions of happiness or sadness and what we can see that

or sadness and what we can see that

or sadness and what we can see that condition is called the bittersweet

condition is called the bittersweet

condition is called the bittersweet condition so the one on the end there in

condition so the one on the end there in

condition so the one on the end there in that condition more people spent a lot

that condition more people spent a lot

that condition more people spent a lot of time in what are called mixed

of time in what are called mixed

of time in what are called mixed feelings so what that means they were

feelings so what that means they were

feelings so what that means they were experiencing happiness and sadness at

experiencing happiness and sadness at

experiencing happiness and sadness at the same time and we can see this

the same time and we can see this

the same time and we can see this patterning trend not only in research we

patterning trend not only in research we

patterning trend not only in research we can also see it in Hollywood so here’s a

can also see it in Hollywood so here’s a

can also see it in Hollywood so here’s a picture of Harrison Ford and he’s going

picture of Harrison Ford and he’s going

picture of Harrison Ford and he’s going to illustrate this for us so if we take

to illustrate this for us so if we take

to illustrate this for us so if we take a look and how to Paris at sports face

a look and how to Paris at sports face

a look and how to Paris at sports face there he seems pretty happy take a look

there he seems pretty happy take a look

there he seems pretty happy take a look at the other half of his face kind of

at the other half of his face kind of

at the other half of his face kind of the opposite so when we look at this

the opposite so when we look at this

the opposite so when we look at this picture of Harrison Ford it’s a living

picture of Harrison Ford it’s a living

picture of Harrison Ford it’s a living example of someone’s embodying this idea

example of someone’s embodying this idea

example of someone’s embodying this idea of mixed emotions so if we understand

of mixed emotions so if we understand

of mixed emotions so if we understand the difference between happiness and

the difference between happiness and

the difference between happiness and but there are different things that we

but there are different things that we

but there are different things that we don’t need one or the other we can have

don’t need one or the other we can have

don’t need one or the other we can have both and the fact that sometimes

both and the fact that sometimes

both and the fact that sometimes pursuing or chasing happiness might not

pursuing or chasing happiness might not

pursuing or chasing happiness might not let us be happy and once we get to a

let us be happy and once we get to a

let us be happy and once we get to a certain point of happiness in my

certain point of happiness in my

certain point of happiness in my touching have detrimental effects so

touching have detrimental effects so

touching have detrimental effects so perhaps we’re pursuing happiness might

perhaps we’re pursuing happiness might

perhaps we’re pursuing happiness might not be the question we want to ask there

not be the question we want to ask there

not be the question we want to ask there might be something different that we can

might be something different that we can

might be something different that we can ask that might give us a better approach

ask that might give us a better approach

ask that might give us a better approach I’d like to suggest that instead of

I’d like to suggest that instead of

I’d like to suggest that instead of taking the common approach which is kind

taking the common approach which is kind

taking the common approach which is kind of Christopher Columbus approach I’d

of Christopher Columbus approach I’d

of Christopher Columbus approach I’d like to call it so Christopher Columbus

like to call it so Christopher Columbus

like to call it so Christopher Columbus is an explorer and he set out to find

is an explorer and he set out to find

is an explorer and he set out to find new the new world so he’s very

new the new world so he’s very

new the new world so he’s very goal-oriented he did what he wanted in

goal-oriented he did what he wanted in

goal-oriented he did what he wanted in terms of happiness I could see this

terms of happiness I could see this

terms of happiness I could see this explorer approach as going out and

explorer approach as going out and

explorer approach as going out and finding happiness and getting it and

finding happiness and getting it and

finding happiness and getting it and seeing it and earning it and kind of

seeing it and earning it and kind of

seeing it and earning it and kind of really actively pursuing it instead of

really actively pursuing it instead of

really actively pursuing it instead of that approach what if you looked at

that approach what if you looked at

that approach what if you looked at having is a little bit different what if

having is a little bit different what if

having is a little bit different what if he looked at happiness the way that

he looked at happiness the way that

he looked at happiness the way that Beethoven

Beethoven

Beethoven looked at composing music I believe the

looked at composing music I believe the

looked at composing music I believe the truth about happiness lies in that

truth about happiness lies in that

truth about happiness lies in that approach and what I mean by that is a

approach and what I mean by that is a

approach and what I mean by that is a Beethoven said oh to create his music it

Beethoven said oh to create his music it

Beethoven said oh to create his music it wasn’t just narrowly focused on one note

wasn’t just narrowly focused on one note

wasn’t just narrowly focused on one note it looked at the entire musical number

it looked at the entire musical number

it looked at the entire musical number that he was creating we think about that

that he was creating we think about that

that he was creating we think about that in terms of happiness and we look at the

in terms of happiness and we look at the

in terms of happiness and we look at the Zen proverb here it says if the silence

Zen proverb here it says if the silence

Zen proverb here it says if the silence between the notes that make the music

between the notes that make the music

between the notes that make the music and when we look at mused and we played

and when we look at mused and we played

and when we look at mused and we played the same note over and over and over

the same note over and over and over

the same note over and over and over again we’d end up with one long

again we’d end up with one long

again we’d end up with one long continuous note the same all the time

continuous note the same all the time

continuous note the same all the time however that’s not the music that we

however that’s not the music that we

however that’s not the music that we enjoy when we look at music and we start

enjoy when we look at music and we start

enjoy when we look at music and we start to see for example this pauses at the

to see for example this pauses at the

to see for example this pauses at the spaces between the notes of the music

spaces between the notes of the music

spaces between the notes of the music and instead of looking at that as a void

and instead of looking at that as a void

and instead of looking at that as a void as a gap between the notes and the

as a gap between the notes and the

as a gap between the notes and the things that matter and we start to look

things that matter and we start to look

things that matter and we start to look at those spaces and see the potential

at those spaces and see the potential

at those spaces and see the potential for greatness not only in the notes but

for greatness not only in the notes but

for greatness not only in the notes but in those spaces between

in those spaces between

in those spaces between notes and we start to look at the range

notes and we start to look at the range

notes and we start to look at the range of notes you can have low notes and you

of notes you can have low notes and you

of notes you can have low notes and you can have high notes and a variety of

can have high notes and a variety of

can have high notes and a variety of different ones when they all come

different ones when they all come

different ones when they all come together collectively it makes a

together collectively it makes a

together collectively it makes a beautiful sound it makes beautiful music

beautiful sound it makes beautiful music

beautiful sound it makes beautiful music if we look at happiness from the same

if we look at happiness from the same

if we look at happiness from the same perspective and we look at how we can

perspective and we look at how we can

perspective and we look at how we can meet the composer of our happiness it

meet the composer of our happiness it

meet the composer of our happiness it really changes the conversation whether

really changes the conversation whether

really changes the conversation whether you take that and we look at it from a

you take that and we look at it from a

you take that and we look at it from a different perspective we might see

different perspective we might see

different perspective we might see happiness from a totally different lens

happiness from a totally different lens

happiness from a totally different lens I don’t believe that happiness all the

I don’t believe that happiness all the

I don’t believe that happiness all the time is the goal I don’t believe that we

time is the goal I don’t believe that we

time is the goal I don’t believe that we want to strive for that all the time

want to strive for that all the time

want to strive for that all the time when I look at my life and I look at the

when I look at my life and I look at the

when I look at my life and I look at the moments of sadness the heartbreak the

moments of sadness the heartbreak the

moments of sadness the heartbreak the challenges all of those envy be Who I am

challenges all of those envy be Who I am

challenges all of those envy be Who I am today and I feel so grateful for all of

today and I feel so grateful for all of

today and I feel so grateful for all of the experiences of my life because they

the experiences of my life because they

the experiences of my life because they also help me to appreciate those really

also help me to appreciate those really

also help me to appreciate those really happy moments I think that when we look

happy moments I think that when we look

happy moments I think that when we look at that all together and we acknowledge

at that all together and we acknowledge

at that all together and we acknowledge that we have happy notes and sad notes

that we have happy notes and sad notes

that we have happy notes and sad notes and all of them and they all come

and all of them and they all come

and all of them and they all come together to create this beautiful

together to create this beautiful

together to create this beautiful beautiful music that is our life it

beautiful music that is our life it

beautiful music that is our life it changes our perspective it can also help

changes our perspective it can also help

changes our perspective it can also help us when we start to look to social media

us when we start to look to social media

us when we start to look to social media to think like Facebook or we watch the

to think like Facebook or we watch the

to think like Facebook or we watch the news and we’re watching we’re looking on

news and we’re watching we’re looking on

news and we’re watching we’re looking on our screen we’re not having a really

our screen we’re not having a really

our screen we’re not having a really good day and see someone that is we can

good day and see someone that is we can

good day and see someone that is we can realize that okay that’s the note that

realize that okay that’s the note that

realize that okay that’s the note that they’re playing today and I have a

they’re playing today and I have a

they’re playing today and I have a different one

different one

different one it starts to take the pressure off of

it starts to take the pressure off of

it starts to take the pressure off of ourselves it allows us to be more

ourselves it allows us to be more

ourselves it allows us to be more compassionate and kind to ourselves

compassionate and kind to ourselves

compassionate and kind to ourselves because we can acknowledge that

because we can acknowledge that

because we can acknowledge that throughout our life we’re going to have

throughout our life we’re going to have

throughout our life we’re going to have different moments then they all come

different moments then they all come

different moments then they all come together in the end to create a

together in the end to create a

together in the end to create a beautiful style so I love to invite all

beautiful style so I love to invite all

beautiful style so I love to invite all of you today to start to think about

of you today to start to think about

of you today to start to think about your life and having us in a different

your life and having us in a different

your life and having us in a different way to let go of the idea that happiness

way to let go of the idea that happiness

way to let go of the idea that happiness something that you to seek and to pursue

something that you to seek and to pursue

something that you to seek and to pursue to embrace the fact that you’re going to

to embrace the fact that you’re going to

to embrace the fact that you’re going to have a variety of notes and they’re all

have a variety of notes and they’re all

have a variety of notes and they’re all going to come together to allow and

going to come together to allow and

going to come together to allow and invite every single note every single

invite every single note every single

invite every single note every single space because all of them together will

space because all of them together will

space because all of them together will come together and create the beautiful

come together and create the beautiful

come together and create the beautiful human experience of his life thank you

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