interpersonal relationships and I think that
as a society we are very interested in
spoke of the courtship ring
engagement weddings divorces the
second marriage the children and good
what better place to say what
monterrey where we usually give more
wedding gift that birthday on
some moment of my life
all my decisions are based a lot on
the sentimental situation or of couple in
the one that I was until one day
I decided to do something about it
I decided to change my way of thinking by
what to live a very experience
particular
some years ago they offered me the
labor opportunity the city of mexico
and being relatively young he accepted the
offer
I grabbed my laptop cut my boyfriend from
years and decide to the city of mexico
this makes me feel on the one hand very
brave but at the same time very
vulnerable and how not to feel like that if the
day that arrived in the city of mexico
with this feeling of success
professional but failed in love my
dad who I love with all my heart very
seriously he tells me everything in life barbaric
have a balance liz do not stay all
spinster when passing the time knows a
type a capital that filled my life with
adventure emotions of new places
and in less than I imagined I was
madly in love with him he did not leave
as everything happened very quickly I saw
how my love towards him grew and grew
as we were leaving but also
I noticed how the relationship stayed
back at that time I thought that
all those things that I did not love what
that I just did not love they were going to
fix when we did things
well that is when we were boyfriends
formal thought which he always
dismissed from provincial province a
day we went were boyfriends and the
reality was that nothing improved anything
mario all those things that I do not
they loved exponential
then I started living a
quite frustrating relationship where then
things do not happen that I wanted but
at the same time she is super in love
of him and as he progressed I left
saying goodbye to many things very
important
the first thing that lost that relationship
it was my self-esteem
then my dignity and the last thing that
I lost was kilos and all this started to
play against me and I started
wrap me in a situation in a
relationship that was not the best anymore and in
all of that starts to notice that it does something
Very particular
I started to lie about the time
every time they asked me how to carry
to and how you go with your new boyfriend either
incredible all this wonder
very nice is more I think it ‘s the good
they also asked me how perfect is
my birthday they ask me hey that you
gave your boyfriend as you passed and I
I said no super cute is a remedy
flowers was awesome
yes yes I had given flowers but the
flowers was not for my birthday was
because that day we had a skin
terrible and it was a flower of forgiveness I would
I grabbed on these things relatively
good and I would grab them to make
believe the world that things were
working lying all the time to the
others but mainly to me in this
relationship also suddenly I
I found doing things that I did not
they loved that they were not going with me
For example, this situation
birthday was because I discovered that
he preferred to go with her friends instead
to spend with me on my birthday is
and that this time some flowers and a
dinner were enough for the
problem happens every time I know the day or
that accepted things like these
Someone was telling me that I was not well
I knew it was not good
you know it’s like when something happens and
they have that bad taste in their mouth or bad
Thorn
they were hunches they were pure hunches
each
what happened this and good as they will have
realized the relationship did not have
future some
so one day finally someone
decided to finish it
the amazing thing here is that it was not me
it was obvious that he was not having a good time
in fact it was so obvious that everyone
I already knew when I started counting
the news that they are rolling with this
typeface the only thing he received was
of this we said should not be happy
and we knew it was not for you
it does not shut us up and also and
etc. etc. etc. will have
to imagine that it seems time I was
shredded and if there are people here
they have broken their hearts they know what
I’m talking
He talked about getting up every morning and
feel a real pain in the chest a
empty in the stomach and a head that
does not stop thinking and thinking and
think and go through the step by step
relationship that I lived and really seek
where I had been wrong and of
I was suddenly thinking about ok I’m going to do
to recover it and then I thought not
better I did not think it
it’s not that if I miss him a lot and all the
time I was thinking and thinking and thinking and
think my head did not rest and for
More than I told this to my friends
I ruminated my mom to my brother to my
other friends was not enough
it was not enough and I understand it perfect
they did not understand what is
happening they are not happening the same
situation
then while I was in that chaos of
emotions and thoughts and
stories that I was creating
head
one day I decided to stop telling him
the people that I know and started to
tell people I do not know and
in the most transparent way
I started writing in this blog it’s called
I barbarian dotcom and he did not leave
I suddenly started writing about what
I felt about what comforts me
I put in my ex’s shoes and write
about it
Two weeks later I put on my shoes
of his new girlfriend and write about that
and I started writing about all things
what was happening and I started
discover that people were interested in
what I wrote and were interested in
what were the same situation happening
that I discovered that it was
there were many more people who were
living the same as me at that moment
and that’s why they liked what they read
because it was just what they thought
It was just what they wanted to read it
they felt identified at that point
I understood that my life could not be the
same that I could no longer base the
decisions of my life in my situation
sentimental or couple
also if I did this one 29 thousand
people were going to be able to take no example and
I could not allow someone
I made the same mistakes without
least let me know that for me they were
that
this changed the chip this made me
question everything I did
what he did not do and why he did it
He talked about what I proposed that the way
to live my life was the best I could
come from me to others
He talked about what I set out to be a woman
different in an independent woman a
woman with initiative a woman with
dreams a woman who follows her dreams
and pursue their ambitions
spoke of the importance of having a young person
life of wanting your dog to take care of your
mom of procuring your friends talked about
issues that go way beyond a
wedding ring
he talked about that even though life is
difficult because it is if they put the
enough attention and you get caught
pants you can really be
Barbara
without a doubt some of the best things
have happened to me in this way has been to have
out that relationship
unfortunately it was not a decision that
I took what I repeat does not make sense
because I had not made that decision
If it was obvious that was not going
all right
when these three signs appear in
your life in some situation only
There are three ways to go the
ignored or hidden or eavesdropping
when you decide to listen to them everything is
closes a single path is to do something to
respect and make a decision is the
things that scare the most in this life and in
reality what scares us are the
consequences that are going to come after
to make that decision
At that time I was afraid of everything
that was coming if I cut to tell the
people who were good that well no no
it was good to actually go back to
be alone to be alone in the city of
mexico to lose those friends that were
yours but at some point they were
mine
I was afraid of not having to do
Netflix Sundays I was afraid of everything
whatever comes to mind
the consequences are that
generally come to our mind and
they limit us to making decisions
I see it like that, imagine that they are
that are in a puddle of mud
stinking disgusting that came to them
until here where it is obvious that no longer
they must be there
obvious and fear of leaving it to them
go to cold or that when leaving it
people are going to laugh because they are the
pigs prefer to stay and in the
foul, silent puddle
I know it sounds ridiculous but it’s almost what
same
the consequences are what leave us
be in the puddle of mud all the time
we should not be there I realized
that there is another extremely important factor
powerful that helps you take a
decision and that we generally do not take
into account and talked about the opportunities
and me at that moment instead of thinking and
have the consequences
thought of the
opportunities that I had had
lasted nor two seconds in sending the
scouring would have made the decision in
that moment those opportunities are the
that move you and are the ones that make you
make a decision
when we do not take the reins
of our life and I mean go for
those opportunities
life sends you sharp blows to
what do you do
the bad thing is that generally those blows
sharp week break the heart and I
I mean when you get fired from your
work is when you decide to undertake a
own business or when they put you in the bureau
of credit is when you get a course
of finance is a plan or when your mom
sick is the moment where he decides
forgive the one that when your dad dies is
when you decide to take charge of the business
family
this story that I told them the day
today that may sound trivial and
pathetic love story
I decided to make it highly relevant
in my life so relevant as to
bring her here today because the story that
he taught me that I can prevent the
life surprise me and break my heart
but that’s my story every one of
you have your story
that small or big but relevant
experience that made things
they were different that even though
surely they had a bad time in that
right now they could not be better
do not let those stories go from
night for his life
do not let them become recurrent
cache are telling lies feel those
hunches listen to the opinion of their
beloved
stop having the consequences and
emotions and for the opportunities they emit
at all costs
stay in the puddle of mud
ask yourself each day if you really
they are barbarians
thank you very much
[Applause]
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