[Music] the year was 2002 I was invited to try
the year was 2002 I was invited to try
the year was 2002 I was invited to try my hand at a stand-up comedy workshop my
my hand at a stand-up comedy workshop my
my hand at a stand-up comedy workshop my first question may be my only question
first question may be my only question
first question may be my only question to you is if I can get you a gig tonight
to you is if I can get you a gig tonight
to you is if I can get you a gig tonight at a low of a comedy club how many
at a low of a comedy club how many
at a low of a comedy club how many people will jump on that stage I see two
people will jump on that stage I see two
people will jump on that stage I see two partial hands I can ask that in a room
partial hands I can ask that in a room
partial hands I can ask that in a room of a thousand people two thousand people
of a thousand people two thousand people
of a thousand people two thousand people and I usually get four or five people
and I usually get four or five people
and I usually get four or five people the number one fear in the world is
the number one fear in the world is
the number one fear in the world is public speaking it’s a bug death what
public speaking it’s a bug death what
public speaking it’s a bug death what Jerry Seinfeld has said is that means is
Jerry Seinfeld has said is that means is
Jerry Seinfeld has said is that means is that if you run a funeral you’d rather
that if you run a funeral you’d rather
that if you run a funeral you’d rather be in the casket than doing the eulogy
be in the casket than doing the eulogy
be in the casket than doing the eulogy so I will say this stand-up comedy is
so I will say this stand-up comedy is
so I will say this stand-up comedy is actually above public speaking in fears
actually above public speaking in fears
actually above public speaking in fears so the question is why is it not the
so the question is why is it not the
so the question is why is it not the number one it’s because so few people
number one it’s because so few people
number one it’s because so few people ever try it
ever try it
ever try it they can’t even register it so the point
they can’t even register it so the point
they can’t even register it so the point is whenever you’re invited to a workshop
is whenever you’re invited to a workshop
is whenever you’re invited to a workshop to try stand-up comedy you’re a little
to try stand-up comedy you’re a little
to try stand-up comedy you’re a little reluctant but the thing I know is that I
reluctant but the thing I know is that I
reluctant but the thing I know is that I can attend a workshop like a boss notice
can attend a workshop like a boss notice
can attend a workshop like a boss notice attend a workshop that doesn’t mean I’m
attend a workshop that doesn’t mean I’m
attend a workshop that doesn’t mean I’m ever going to get on a stage does it so
ever going to get on a stage does it so
ever going to get on a stage does it so what happened was we went to this
what happened was we went to this
what happened was we went to this workshop and what we were taught is
workshop and what we were taught is
workshop and what we were taught is here’s how you adjust a mic stand and
here’s how you adjust a mic stand and
here’s how you adjust a mic stand and that Dane Cook rules so you heard me say
that Dane Cook rules so you heard me say
that Dane Cook rules so you heard me say above the number one fear in the world
above the number one fear in the world
above the number one fear in the world and our teachings are lessons where
and our teachings are lessons where
and our teachings are lessons where here’s how you adjust a mic stand so
here’s how you adjust a mic stand so
here’s how you adjust a mic stand so week three was the week I was excited
week three was the week I was excited
week three was the week I was excited about because we were going to go to a
about because we were going to go to a
about because we were going to go to a local club and we were going to watch
local club and we were going to watch
local club and we were going to watch people entertain us this was exciting
people entertain us this was exciting
people entertain us this was exciting about 10 minutes eight show was supposed
about 10 minutes eight show was supposed
about 10 minutes eight show was supposed to start at 8:00 the audience is there
to start at 8:00 the audience is there
to start at 8:00 the audience is there we’re looking for the entertainers in
we’re looking for the entertainers in
we’re looking for the entertainers in the comics you probably see where this
the comics you probably see where this
the comics you probably see where this is going we said to the guy who was
is going we said to the guy who was
is going we said to the guy who was hosting the workshop who got us into
hosting the workshop who got us into
hosting the workshop who got us into this thing we said guy which is what his
this thing we said guy which is what his
this thing we said guy which is what his name was guy where the entertainers the
name was guy where the entertainers the
name was guy where the entertainers the comics so he turned to us and said
comics so he turned to us and said
comics so he turned to us and said you’re looking at them so now it’s 10:00
you’re looking at them so now it’s 10:00
you’re looking at them so now it’s 10:00 to 8:00 now the new debate is you can
to 8:00 now the new debate is you can
to 8:00 now the new debate is you can guess is who’s going up first
guess is who’s going up first
guess is who’s going up first nobody wants to be the sacrificial lamb
nobody wants to be the sacrificial lamb
nobody wants to be the sacrificial lamb so what I did was I ran off to the
so what I did was I ran off to the
so what I did was I ran off to the bathroom to look for the exit window
bathroom to look for the exit window
bathroom to look for the exit window there was no exit window in the bathroom
there was no exit window in the bathroom
there was no exit window in the bathroom fifteen of us showed up that night when
fifteen of us showed up that night when
fifteen of us showed up that night when I came back into the bathroom eight were
I came back into the bathroom eight were
I came back into the bathroom eight were gone I’ve never seen any of those eight
gone I’ve never seen any of those eight
gone I’ve never seen any of those eight again so there were seven of us left and
again so there were seven of us left and
again so there were seven of us left and again the debate is who’s going to go up
again the debate is who’s going to go up
again the debate is who’s going to go up first so I had attended one pastors
first so I had attended one pastors
first so I had attended one pastors meeting and what I learned in
meeting and what I learned in
meeting and what I learned in Toastmasters was Toastmasters with her
Toastmasters was Toastmasters with her
Toastmasters was Toastmasters with her public speaking I learned you should go
public speaking I learned you should go
public speaking I learned you should go up first get it over with first so I
up first get it over with first so I
up first get it over with first so I said fine let’s do it so I jumped up in
said fine let’s do it so I jumped up in
said fine let’s do it so I jumped up in the stage and I grabbed that mic and
the stage and I grabbed that mic and
the stage and I grabbed that mic and they’re still over here by the way five
they’re still over here by the way five
they’re still over here by the way five after eight debating who’s going up
after eight debating who’s going up
after eight debating who’s going up first so they didn’t know I was going up
first so they didn’t know I was going up
first so they didn’t know I was going up so I grabbed the mic and I told what I
so I grabbed the mic and I told what I
so I grabbed the mic and I told what I considered to be the best joke that I’ve
considered to be the best joke that I’ve
considered to be the best joke that I’ve ever told in my life to dead silence so
ever told in my life to dead silence so
ever told in my life to dead silence so now the streams of sweat are running
now the streams of sweat are running
now the streams of sweat are running down my face I realized the stand-up
down my face I realized the stand-up
down my face I realized the stand-up comedy gig a little tougher than I
comedy gig a little tougher than I
comedy gig a little tougher than I thought so but I also realize if you’re
thought so but I also realize if you’re
thought so but I also realize if you’re already up there you’ve done the hard
already up there you’ve done the hard
already up there you’ve done the hard part so I jumped into the second joke so
part so I jumped into the second joke so
part so I jumped into the second joke so please let it be better than the first
please let it be better than the first
please let it be better than the first even though I thought the first was the
even though I thought the first was the
even though I thought the first was the best joke ever the second joke not only
best joke ever the second joke not only
best joke ever the second joke not only was it dead silence I think I saw
was it dead silence I think I saw
was it dead silence I think I saw tumbleweed go by the stage I’m not
tumbleweed go by the stage I’m not
tumbleweed go by the stage I’m not confirming that but I think I did
confirming that but I think I did
confirming that but I think I did I heard you hear about the crickets in a
I heard you hear about the crickets in a
I heard you hear about the crickets in a comedy room and no laughs happened I
comedy room and no laughs happened I
comedy room and no laughs happened I think I heard the cricket it was there
think I heard the cricket it was there
think I heard the cricket it was there and so finally guy calls me over to the
and so finally guy calls me over to the
and so finally guy calls me over to the corner of the stage and he hits me in
corner of the stage and he hits me in
corner of the stage and he hits me in the back of the head and he says you
the back of the head and he says you
the back of the head and he says you idiot we haven’t even turned the mic on
idiot we haven’t even turned the mic on
idiot we haven’t even turned the mic on yet
that was my first night in stand-up
that was my first night in stand-up comedy
comedy
comedy so that became my experience with
so that became my experience with
so that became my experience with stepping outside my comfort zone had I
stepping outside my comfort zone had I
stepping outside my comfort zone had I stepped outside it before yes but that
stepped outside it before yes but that
stepped outside it before yes but that was a pretty massive step inside my
was a pretty massive step inside my
was a pretty massive step inside my comfort zone so here’s what’s
comfort zone so here’s what’s
comfort zone so here’s what’s interesting what happened after that
interesting what happened after that
interesting what happened after that experience is that I started to have
experience is that I started to have
experience is that I started to have great things happen in my life I
great things happen in my life I
great things happen in my life I actually uncovered and discovered my
actually uncovered and discovered my
actually uncovered and discovered my passion for speaking from that comedy
passion for speaking from that comedy
passion for speaking from that comedy night so great things started happening
night so great things started happening
night so great things started happening inside my comfort zone so I started
inside my comfort zone so I started
inside my comfort zone so I started getting interested in this and saying
getting interested in this and saying
getting interested in this and saying most people it seems don’t step outside
most people it seems don’t step outside
most people it seems don’t step outside their comfort zone the first time I do
their comfort zone the first time I do
their comfort zone the first time I do great things start happening so I wanted
great things start happening so I wanted
great things start happening so I wanted to do an experiment with this so I
to do an experiment with this so I
to do an experiment with this so I started what I call the list so as you
started what I call the list so as you
started what I call the list so as you heard I have a radio show so what we did
heard I have a radio show so what we did
heard I have a radio show so what we did is I said I want to interview 100
is I said I want to interview 100
is I said I want to interview 100 celebrities 100 big-name either business
celebrities 100 big-name either business
celebrities 100 big-name either business liberties or celebrities I’ve been
liberties or celebrities I’ve been
liberties or celebrities I’ve been interviewing people this was way outside
interviewing people this was way outside
interviewing people this was way outside my comfort zone
my comfort zone
my comfort zone sitting with thought leaders people who
sitting with thought leaders people who
sitting with thought leaders people who were running major companies had helped
were running major companies had helped
were running major companies had helped shows way outside my comfort zone but I
shows way outside my comfort zone but I
shows way outside my comfort zone but I said you know what I got to dive in so
said you know what I got to dive in so
said you know what I got to dive in so my first interview was with Arlene
my first interview was with Arlene
my first interview was with Arlene Dickinson probably know who our lean is
Dickinson probably know who our lean is
Dickinson probably know who our lean is on TV show large marketing company very
on TV show large marketing company very
on TV show large marketing company very successful I can tell you that I did
successful I can tell you that I did
successful I can tell you that I did that full interview at a coffee shop
that full interview at a coffee shop
that full interview at a coffee shop covered in sweat for two hours I’m like
covered in sweat for two hours I’m like
covered in sweat for two hours I’m like why can’t this be a short interview why
why can’t this be a short interview why
why can’t this be a short interview why she’s so nice don’t be so nice cut me
she’s so nice don’t be so nice cut me
she’s so nice don’t be so nice cut me off because I was covered in sweat it
off because I was covered in sweat it
off because I was covered in sweat it was the worst experience I thought in my
was the worst experience I thought in my
was the worst experience I thought in my life it was as bad as stand-up comedy
life it was as bad as stand-up comedy
life it was as bad as stand-up comedy but guess what I started doing the
but guess what I started doing the
but guess what I started doing the second interview and the third interview
second interview and the third interview
second interview and the third interview now when I asked friends of mine
now when I asked friends of mine
now when I asked friends of mine colleagues business professionals how
colleagues business professionals how
colleagues business professionals how many people out of the list of 100 I
many people out of the list of 100 I
many people out of the list of 100 I gave them the names do you think I’ll be
gave them the names do you think I’ll be
gave them the names do you think I’ll be able to reach they looked at the list
able to reach they looked at the list
able to reach they looked at the list they looked at the names of those people
they looked at the names of those people
they looked at the names of those people and said ten the highest number anybody
and said ten the highest number anybody
and said ten the highest number anybody guessed was twenty a year later when I
guessed was twenty a year later when I
guessed was twenty a year later when I finished the 93rd interview I realized
finished the 93rd interview I realized
finished the 93rd interview I realized at that point I could probably jump into
at that point I could probably jump into
at that point I could probably jump into any other lap without even thinking
any other lap without even thinking
any other lap without even thinking twice so that’s how far outside my
twice so that’s how far outside my
twice so that’s how far outside my comfort zone
comfort zone
comfort zone I come so I wanted to understand this a
I come so I wanted to understand this a
I come so I wanted to understand this a whole lot more so I don’t know if you
whole lot more so I don’t know if you
whole lot more so I don’t know if you can see that you can probably guess who
can see that you can probably guess who
can see that you can probably guess who drew that but basically what it shows
drew that but basically what it shows
drew that but basically what it shows you is on one side it’s the small little
you is on one side it’s the small little
you is on one side it’s the small little comfort zone and what I discovered we’ve
comfort zone and what I discovered we’ve
comfort zone and what I discovered we’ve done 4,000 plus interviews now
done 4,000 plus interviews now
done 4,000 plus interviews now so I’ve looked back at these interviews
so I’ve looked back at these interviews
so I’ve looked back at these interviews I’ve asked these questions and what I
I’ve asked these questions and what I
I’ve asked these questions and what I discovered is most of these thought
discovered is most of these thought
discovered is most of these thought leaders their comfort zone was that
leaders their comfort zone was that
leaders their comfort zone was that small to begin with my comfort zone was
small to begin with my comfort zone was
small to begin with my comfort zone was that small to begin with what I started
that small to begin with what I started
that small to begin with what I started realizing is almost everybody starts
realizing is almost everybody starts
realizing is almost everybody starts with a small comfort zone what was the
with a small comfort zone what was the
with a small comfort zone what was the difference they found a way to take the
difference they found a way to take the
difference they found a way to take the steps and expand their comfort zone so
steps and expand their comfort zone so
steps and expand their comfort zone so you can see there these are just some of
you can see there these are just some of
you can see there these are just some of mine in my little comfort zone outside
mine in my little comfort zone outside
mine in my little comfort zone outside of there was stand-up comedy public
of there was stand-up comedy public
of there was stand-up comedy public speaking skydiving interviewing
speaking skydiving interviewing
speaking skydiving interviewing celebrities at the top expressing love I
celebrities at the top expressing love I
celebrities at the top expressing love I couldn’t even tell my mother I at that
couldn’t even tell my mother I at that
couldn’t even tell my mother I at that point so that was outside my comfort
point so that was outside my comfort
point so that was outside my comfort zone but once I started taking these
zone but once I started taking these
zone but once I started taking these steps guess what happened I started
steps guess what happened I started
steps guess what happened I started having these amazing experiences these
having these amazing experiences these
having these amazing experiences these experiences I never would had otherwise
experiences I never would had otherwise
experiences I never would had otherwise I discovered started discovering what I
I discovered started discovering what I
I discovered started discovering what I consider the best version of myself what
consider the best version of myself what
consider the best version of myself what I’ve learned is that most people’s
I’ve learned is that most people’s
I’ve learned is that most people’s purpose and passion is just outside
purpose and passion is just outside
purpose and passion is just outside their comfort zone so once I realize
their comfort zone so once I realize
their comfort zone so once I realize that we can all expand our comfort zone
that we can all expand our comfort zone
that we can all expand our comfort zone what I wanted to know is how do we do it
what I wanted to know is how do we do it
what I wanted to know is how do we do it so here’s what I discovered I discovered
so here’s what I discovered I discovered
so here’s what I discovered I discovered three things that these thought leaders
three things that these thought leaders
three things that these thought leaders are doing to expand their comfort zone
are doing to expand their comfort zone
are doing to expand their comfort zone that you can walk away tomorrow and do
that you can walk away tomorrow and do
that you can walk away tomorrow and do as well and I tested these so the first
as well and I tested these so the first
as well and I tested these so the first one is desire so we had silken lawmen
one is desire so we had silken lawmen
one is desire so we had silken lawmen Olympian on our show and I asked we were
Olympian on our show and I asked we were
Olympian on our show and I asked we were talking about public speaking and she
talking about public speaking and she
talking about public speaking and she told me that public speaking was her
told me that public speaking was her
told me that public speaking was her biggest fear which kind of surprised me
biggest fear which kind of surprised me
biggest fear which kind of surprised me because she’s a public figure and I just
because she’s a public figure and I just
because she’s a public figure and I just I just made an assumption that it came
I just made an assumption that it came
I just made an assumption that it came naturally said it was her biggest fear I
naturally said it was her biggest fear I
naturally said it was her biggest fear I said well how did you overcome it she
said well how did you overcome it she
said well how did you overcome it she said well I realized that my voice
said well I realized that my voice
said well I realized that my voice getting this message out was bigger to
getting this message out was bigger to
getting this message out was bigger to me that desire to do that was bigger
me that desire to do that was bigger
me that desire to do that was bigger than the fear of doing it it’s not
than the fear of doing it it’s not
than the fear of doing it it’s not there’s something here the desire to do
there’s something here the desire to do
there’s something here the desire to do it in other words you’ve heard of the
it in other words you’ve heard of the
it in other words you’ve heard of the y4y was so big that she was willing to
y4y was so big that she was willing to
y4y was so big that she was willing to make the hal work so i found out that
make the hal work so i found out that
make the hal work so i found out that there’s something to this so i said i’m
there’s something to this so i said i’m
there’s something to this so i said i’m going to study this with our dog so that
going to study this with our dog so that
going to study this with our dog so that sprocket the semi-retired rocket on the
sprocket the semi-retired rocket on the
sprocket the semi-retired rocket on the other side you may wonder why this
other side you may wonder why this
other side you may wonder why this picture well the girlfriend bought him a
picture well the girlfriend bought him a
picture well the girlfriend bought him a this winter coat about a year ago and
this winter coat about a year ago and
this winter coat about a year ago and this christmas all of a sudden I get a
this christmas all of a sudden I get a
this christmas all of a sudden I get a winter coat
winter coat
winter coat do you notice a similarity I’m about to
do you notice a similarity I’m about to
do you notice a similarity I’m about to walk in the other day and she said I’m
walk in the other day and she said I’m
walk in the other day and she said I’m gonna put his coat and that’s when I
gonna put his coat and that’s when I
gonna put his coat and that’s when I clued in I said oh my god you trying to
clued in I said oh my god you trying to
clued in I said oh my god you trying to make us twinsies which I actually
make us twinsies which I actually
make us twinsies which I actually googled and is a word I didn’t know that
googled and is a word I didn’t know that
googled and is a word I didn’t know that was a word until recently so but
was a word until recently so but
was a word until recently so but sprocket we moved into this place with a
sprocket we moved into this place with a
sprocket we moved into this place with a lot of stairs and sprocket is terrified
lot of stairs and sprocket is terrified
lot of stairs and sprocket is terrified of walking up the stairs but here’s the
of walking up the stairs but here’s the
of walking up the stairs but here’s the cool thing I discovered as much as he’s
cool thing I discovered as much as he’s
cool thing I discovered as much as he’s terrified of walking up the stairs he
terrified of walking up the stairs he
terrified of walking up the stairs he has more desire to be up the stairs with
has more desire to be up the stairs with
has more desire to be up the stairs with us so lo and behold and I video this
us so lo and behold and I video this
us so lo and behold and I video this sprocket starts walking up the stairs
sprocket starts walking up the stairs
sprocket starts walking up the stairs next thing you know dayley sprocket goes
next thing you know dayley sprocket goes
next thing you know dayley sprocket goes up the stairs like it’s nobody’s
up the stairs like it’s nobody’s
up the stairs like it’s nobody’s business which is going to bring me to
business which is going to bring me to
business which is going to bring me to my second thing that I’ve learned but
my second thing that I’ve learned but
my second thing that I’ve learned but this thing that I discovered I started
this thing that I discovered I started
this thing that I discovered I started looking and with these four thousand
looking and with these four thousand
looking and with these four thousand enlightened thought leaders or
enlightened thought leaders or
enlightened thought leaders or enlightened super achievers I call them
enlightened super achievers I call them
enlightened super achievers I call them this was a common thread there Y was
this was a common thread there Y was
this was a common thread there Y was bigger than the fear their desire was
bigger than the fear their desire was
bigger than the fear their desire was bigger than the fear so they were
bigger than the fear so they were
bigger than the fear so they were willing to face the fear so if you can
willing to face the fear so if you can
willing to face the fear so if you can figure out in relation to the fear
figure out in relation to the fear
figure out in relation to the fear you’re trying to conquer what your why
you’re trying to conquer what your why
you’re trying to conquer what your why is why do you want to conquer that if
is why do you want to conquer that if
is why do you want to conquer that if you can figure out a way to make that
you can figure out a way to make that
you can figure out a way to make that bigger than the fear itself this is a
bigger than the fear itself this is a
bigger than the fear itself this is a first step to expanding your comfort
first step to expanding your comfort
first step to expanding your comfort zone so I said that would lead me to
zone so I said that would lead me to
zone so I said that would lead me to steps you can probably guess who drew
steps you can probably guess who drew
steps you can probably guess who drew this as well so baby steps
this as well so baby steps
this as well so baby steps beats big steps so the next thing I
beats big steps so the next thing I
beats big steps so the next thing I discovered when I started going back
discovered when I started going back
discovered when I started going back through our notes and going back to
through our notes and going back to
through our notes and going back to these interviews and looking what we
these interviews and looking what we
these interviews and looking what we documented is a lot of these people had
documented is a lot of these people had
documented is a lot of these people had taken baby steps to get to the big step
taken baby steps to get to the big step
taken baby steps to get to the big step so you probably notice with my stand-up
so you probably notice with my stand-up
so you probably notice with my stand-up comedy journey I didn’t know I was going
comedy journey I didn’t know I was going
comedy journey I didn’t know I was going to be jumping up on that stage so I
to be jumping up on that stage so I
to be jumping up on that stage so I didn’t have the opportunity to take baby
didn’t have the opportunity to take baby
didn’t have the opportunity to take baby steps and guess what happened eight left
steps and guess what happened eight left
steps and guess what happened eight left because they weren’t willing to take
because they weren’t willing to take
because they weren’t willing to take that big step public speaking a lot of
that big step public speaking a lot of
that big step public speaking a lot of people will never get on the stage
people will never get on the stage
people will never get on the stage because they’re scared to take that big
because they’re scared to take that big
because they’re scared to take that big step but what I discovered is you can
step but what I discovered is you can
step but what I discovered is you can take baby steps that will get you closer
take baby steps that will get you closer
take baby steps that will get you closer to the big step and when you reward
to the big step and when you reward
to the big step and when you reward yourself for those baby steps you’ll
yourself for those baby steps you’ll
yourself for those baby steps you’ll want to take more of them and eventually
want to take more of them and eventually
want to take more of them and eventually you’ve taken enough baby steps that
you’ve taken enough baby steps that
you’ve taken enough baby steps that you’ve built up your immunity that you
you’ve built up your immunity that you
you’ve built up your immunity that you can take that big step so as an example
can take that big step so as an example
can take that big step so as an example in the stand-up comedy what I could have
in the stand-up comedy what I could have
in the stand-up comedy what I could have done in the stand-up comedy world is I
done in the stand-up comedy world is I
done in the stand-up comedy world is I could have went to the club and
could have went to the club and
could have went to the club and interviewed other comics I could have
interviewed other comics I could have
interviewed other comics I could have went to a public speaking course I could
went to a public speaking course I could
went to a public speaking course I could have watched comics on TV and taken
have watched comics on TV and taken
have watched comics on TV and taken notes these would have been baby
notes these would have been baby
notes these would have been baby steps that will get me closer to
steps that will get me closer to
steps that will get me closer to performing on that stage so baby steps
performing on that stage so baby steps
performing on that stage so baby steps is number to be willing to take those
is number to be willing to take those
is number to be willing to take those baby steps number three
baby steps number three
baby steps number three what I learned number three as a
what I learned number three as a
what I learned number three as a strategy was a support system always
strategy was a support system always
strategy was a support system always beats going it alone so I had an
beats going it alone so I had an
beats going it alone so I had an opportunity a few years ago to avert go
opportunity a few years ago to avert go
opportunity a few years ago to avert go to a First Nations sweat lodge how many
to a First Nations sweat lodge how many
to a First Nations sweat lodge how many people here have been in a sweat lodge
people here have been in a sweat lodge
people here have been in a sweat lodge so I actually see a few hands so a sweat
so I actually see a few hands so a sweat
so I actually see a few hands so a sweat lodge if you haven’t been in one I mean
lodge if you haven’t been in one I mean
lodge if you haven’t been in one I mean this is probably the worst way to
this is probably the worst way to
this is probably the worst way to explain it but basically it’s a lodge or
explain it but basically it’s a lodge or
explain it but basically it’s a lodge or a teepee you go inside
a teepee you go inside
a teepee you go inside there’s stones that are there around a
there’s stones that are there around a
there’s stones that are there around a fire and you have somebody throwing hot
fire and you have somebody throwing hot
fire and you have somebody throwing hot water on those stones to basically sweat
water on those stones to basically sweat
water on those stones to basically sweat your toxins out so first of all going
your toxins out so first of all going
your toxins out so first of all going inside the lodge was a fear to me for
inside the lodge was a fear to me for
inside the lodge was a fear to me for that reason but the secondary part what
that reason but the secondary part what
that reason but the secondary part what I discovered whenever you’re in the
I discovered whenever you’re in the
I discovered whenever you’re in the lodge is that people share some of their
lodge is that people share some of their
lodge is that people share some of their deepest emotions and fears and I
deepest emotions and fears and I
deepest emotions and fears and I wondered why could those people share
wondered why could those people share
wondered why could those people share this and that Lodge but maybe not share
this and that Lodge but maybe not share
this and that Lodge but maybe not share that normally and again what it seems
that normally and again what it seems
that normally and again what it seems like is it’s because they had a comfort
like is it’s because they had a comfort
like is it’s because they had a comfort zone of other people that were there
zone of other people that were there
zone of other people that were there sharing similar vulnerabilities and then
sharing similar vulnerabilities and then
sharing similar vulnerabilities and then again I started look back and I noticed
again I started look back and I noticed
again I started look back and I noticed this was a common thread but you can
this was a common thread but you can
this was a common thread but you can even take the example of if you go to
even take the example of if you go to
even take the example of if you go to the gym and your fear is going to the
the gym and your fear is going to the
the gym and your fear is going to the gym for the first time what do you do
gym for the first time what do you do
gym for the first time what do you do you get an accountability partner right
you get an accountability partner right
you get an accountability partner right if you bring somebody with there’s a
if you bring somebody with there’s a
if you bring somebody with there’s a much better chance you’re going to go to
much better chance you’re going to go to
much better chance you’re going to go to the gym in the first place and keep
the gym in the first place and keep
the gym in the first place and keep going so find a buddy find a support
going so find a buddy find a support
going so find a buddy find a support system find somebody that can encourage
system find somebody that can encourage
system find somebody that can encourage you and one thing I can tell you about
you and one thing I can tell you about
you and one thing I can tell you about fears is they don’t necessarily go away
fears is they don’t necessarily go away
fears is they don’t necessarily go away you’re always going to probably discover
you’re always going to probably discover
you’re always going to probably discover something inside your comfort zone so
something inside your comfort zone so
something inside your comfort zone so late last year I get invited to do a
late last year I get invited to do a
late last year I get invited to do a talk in Brooklyn for at-risk youth and
talk in Brooklyn for at-risk youth and
talk in Brooklyn for at-risk youth and as we were booking the talk they
as we were booking the talk they
as we were booking the talk they proceeded to tell me about the gang
proceeded to tell me about the gang
proceeded to tell me about the gang violence that was taking place near the
violence that was taking place near the
violence that was taking place near the center and all the stuff that was
center and all the stuff that was
center and all the stuff that was happening in that part of town and what
happening in that part of town and what
happening in that part of town and what I should do to watch out for that so
I should do to watch out for that so
I should do to watch out for that so admittedly this was a fear to me it was
admittedly this was a fear to me it was
admittedly this was a fear to me it was outside my comfort zone so what happened
outside my comfort zone so what happened
outside my comfort zone so what happened is but I also looked at and said you
is but I also looked at and said you
is but I also looked at and said you know what the people that I’m going to
know what the people that I’m going to
know what the people that I’m going to speak to think of everything they’ve
speak to think of everything they’ve
speak to think of everything they’ve gone through that day to get there and
gone through that day to get there and
gone through that day to get there and maybe go through every day
maybe go through every day
maybe go through every day so I can take one for the team and go
so I can take one for the team and go
so I can take one for the team and go there once but here’s the cool thing
there once but here’s the cool thing
there once but here’s the cool thing going back to my three strategies I
going back to my three strategies I
going back to my three strategies I mentioned for stepping inside your
mentioned for stepping inside your
mentioned for stepping inside your comfort zone
comfort zone
comfort zone I noticed after I did it that the thing
I noticed after I did it that the thing
I noticed after I did it that the thing that made it possible where that all
that made it possible where that all
that made it possible where that all three of those strategies took place on
three of those strategies took place on
three of those strategies took place on that day so the example is the why what
that day so the example is the why what
that day so the example is the why what was the purpose well I was raised by a
was the purpose well I was raised by a
was the purpose well I was raised by a single mother and I was having an
single mother and I was having an
single mother and I was having an opportunity to go speak to almost every
opportunity to go speak to almost every
opportunity to go speak to almost every person that room who was also raised by
person that room who was also raised by
person that room who was also raised by single mother and I was able to share my
single mother and I was able to share my
single mother and I was able to share my journey with them and hopefully inspire
journey with them and hopefully inspire
journey with them and hopefully inspire them but what is possible the second
them but what is possible the second
them but what is possible the second part is the baby steps so the baby steps
part is the baby steps so the baby steps
part is the baby steps so the baby steps we actually got herself there earlier so
we actually got herself there earlier so
we actually got herself there earlier so he got herself there earlier in the day
he got herself there earlier in the day
he got herself there earlier in the day we got herself acclimatize we place we
we got herself acclimatize we place we
we got herself acclimatize we place we met everybody and that was the baby
met everybody and that was the baby
met everybody and that was the baby steps for me I didn’t just show up and
steps for me I didn’t just show up and
steps for me I didn’t just show up and walk in and start speaking and then
walk in and start speaking and then
walk in and start speaking and then finally the support system was my
finally the support system was my
finally the support system was my girlfriend she came along for the
girlfriend she came along for the
girlfriend she came along for the journey and she had so much excitement
journey and she had so much excitement
journey and she had so much excitement about this about reaching these students
about this about reaching these students
about this about reaching these students that have carried over to me but again
that have carried over to me but again
that have carried over to me but again these three things came up again so if
these three things came up again so if
these three things came up again so if you can figure out so that’s what I
you can figure out so that’s what I
you can figure out so that’s what I discovered and if you can take this and
discovered and if you can take this and
discovered and if you can take this and apply to stepping outside your comfort
apply to stepping outside your comfort
apply to stepping outside your comfort zone my experiences that’s going to be
zone my experiences that’s going to be
zone my experiences that’s going to be the difference maker so if you can
the difference maker so if you can
the difference maker so if you can figure out a why or desire that’s bigger
figure out a why or desire that’s bigger
figure out a why or desire that’s bigger than the fear that you’re going to face
than the fear that you’re going to face
than the fear that you’re going to face if you can take those baby steps and by
if you can take those baby steps and by
if you can take those baby steps and by the way map it what those baby steps are
the way map it what those baby steps are
the way map it what those baby steps are and reward yourself each time you take a
and reward yourself each time you take a
and reward yourself each time you take a little baby step because we love the
little baby step because we love the
little baby step because we love the rewards it keeps us coming back and then
rewards it keeps us coming back and then
rewards it keeps us coming back and then finally if you can get a support system
finally if you can get a support system
finally if you can get a support system for you to help you step inside the
for you to help you step inside the
for you to help you step inside the comfort zone
comfort zone
comfort zone make it public that you’re going to do
make it public that you’re going to do
make it public that you’re going to do this get some cheerleaders to help you
this get some cheerleaders to help you
this get some cheerleaders to help you that’s what I discover makes the
that’s what I discover makes the
that’s what I discover makes the difference and why should you bother
difference and why should you bother
difference and why should you bother because you’re going to discover the
because you’re going to discover the
because you’re going to discover the warrior within you if you take these
warrior within you if you take these
warrior within you if you take these steps my experience is the people that
steps my experience is the people that
steps my experience is the people that take these steps end up having the type
take these steps end up having the type
take these steps end up having the type of life they’ve always wanted to have so
of life they’ve always wanted to have so
of life they’ve always wanted to have so in other words they have that bigger you
in other words they have that bigger you
in other words they have that bigger you know that bigger experience life they
know that bigger experience life they
know that bigger experience life they end up having maybe they find their
end up having maybe they find their
end up having maybe they find their passion and purpose some people haven’t
passion and purpose some people haven’t
passion and purpose some people haven’t you know the stat but they say that some
you know the stat but they say that some
you know the stat but they say that some people go their whole life without ever
people go their whole life without ever
people go their whole life without ever discovering their purpose if you could
discovering their purpose if you could
discovering their purpose if you could say pick some steps outside your comfort
say pick some steps outside your comfort
say pick some steps outside your comfort zone and discover your purpose that much
zone and discover your purpose that much
zone and discover your purpose that much earlier wouldn’t it be worth the journey
earlier wouldn’t it be worth the journey
earlier wouldn’t it be worth the journey so become that warrior within thank you
so become that warrior within thank you
so become that warrior within thank you so much
so much
so much [Applause]
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