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Breaking the spell of loneliness | George Monbiot & Ewan McLennan | TEDxSouthampton


[Music]

[Music] our dominant ideology is based on a lie

our dominant ideology is based on a lie

our dominant ideology is based on a lie the idea that human beings are

the idea that human beings are

the idea that human beings are fundamentally selfish some economists

fundamentally selfish some economists

fundamentally selfish some economists even have a word for this they call us

even have a word for this they call us

even have a word for this they call us Homo economicus self-maximizing man

Homo economicus self-maximizing man

Homo economicus self-maximizing man elbowing other people out of the way in

elbowing other people out of the way in

elbowing other people out of the way in order to enhance our own wealth and

order to enhance our own wealth and

order to enhance our own wealth and power and it’s certainly true that some

power and it’s certainly true that some

power and it’s certainly true that some economists behave like that and some

economists behave like that and some

economists behave like that and some public figures behave like that but it

public figures behave like that but it

public figures behave like that but it does not describe the majority of

does not describe the majority of

does not describe the majority of humankind by a long talk we are in fact

humankind by a long talk we are in fact

humankind by a long talk we are in fact an exceptional species with levels of

an exceptional species with levels of

an exceptional species with levels of altruism and empathy that exceed those

altruism and empathy that exceed those

altruism and empathy that exceed those of any other species and and that

of any other species and and that

of any other species and and that capacity for altruism appears to be

capacity for altruism appears to be

capacity for altruism appears to be innate from the age of 14 months

innate from the age of 14 months

innate from the age of 14 months children will try to help others to

children will try to help others to

children will try to help others to reach something that’s out of their

reach something that’s out of their

reach something that’s out of their grasp by the time they’re 2 they will

grasp by the time they’re 2 they will

grasp by the time they’re 2 they will start to share valued possessions not

start to share valued possessions not

start to share valued possessions not just with family members but with

just with family members but with

just with family members but with unrelated people something which really

unrelated people something which really

unrelated people something which really marks us out from the great majority of

marks us out from the great majority of

marks us out from the great majority of animal species by the time they’re three

animal species by the time they’re three

animal species by the time they’re three and they will start establishing moral

and they will start establishing moral

and they will start establishing moral norms imposing on their friends and and

norms imposing on their friends and and

norms imposing on their friends and and and other people they know altruistic

and other people they know altruistic

and other people they know altruistic codes don’t behave like that that’s

codes don’t behave like that that’s

codes don’t behave like that that’s wrong and all these seem to be innate

wrong and all these seem to be innate

wrong and all these seem to be innate and embedded characteristics part of the

and embedded characteristics part of the

and embedded characteristics part of the normal human psyche but it is quite

normal human psyche but it is quite

normal human psyche but it is quite exceptional in in in terms of the rest

exceptional in in in terms of the rest

exceptional in in in terms of the rest of the animal kingdom

of the animal kingdom

of the animal kingdom when it comes to another characteristic

when it comes to another characteristic

when it comes to another characteristic – we are way out ahead of almost all

– we are way out ahead of almost all

– we are way out ahead of almost all other species which is our degree of

other species which is our degree of

other species which is our degree of social interaction the extent to which

social interaction the extent to which

social interaction the extent to which we possess social Minds perhaps the only

we possess social Minds perhaps the only

we possess social Minds perhaps the only species which goes further than us is

species which goes further than us is

species which goes further than us is the naked mole rat but I won’t go into

the naked mole rat but I won’t go into

the naked mole rat but I won’t go into that today and and these two

that today and and these two

that today and and these two characteristics brought together will

characteristics brought together will

characteristics brought together will create this remarkable moral sense and

create this remarkable moral sense and

create this remarkable moral sense and an ability to project our moral selves

an ability to project our moral selves

an ability to project our moral selves well beyond our immediate circumstance

well beyond our immediate circumstance

well beyond our immediate circumstance and a recent paper in a psychology

and a recent paper in a psychology

and a recent paper in a psychology Journal points out that Homo economicus

Journal points out that Homo economicus

Journal points out that Homo economicus is an excellent description of

is an excellent description of

is an excellent description of chimpanzees and it’s a really bad

chimpanzees and it’s a really bad

chimpanzees and it’s a really bad description of human beings but the

description of human beings but the

description of human beings but the danger is that if we keep telling

danger is that if we keep telling

danger is that if we keep telling ourselves we’re selfish and greedy and

ourselves we’re selfish and greedy and

ourselves we’re selfish and greedy and grasping and we just shove everyone out

grasping and we just shove everyone out

grasping and we just shove everyone out the way that that could become a

the way that that could become a

the way that that could become a self-fulfilling claim that we start to

self-fulfilling claim that we start to

self-fulfilling claim that we start to see other people as a social threat we

see other people as a social threat we

see other people as a social threat we start to see them as being above all

start to see them as being above all

start to see them as being above all else competitive in their relations with

else competitive in their relations with

else competitive in their relations with us rather than the thing which humans do

us rather than the thing which humans do

us rather than the thing which humans do better than any other species being

better than any other species being

better than any other species being cooperative and I wouldn’t claim that

cooperative and I wouldn’t claim that

cooperative and I wouldn’t claim that this is the only thing setting us apart

this is the only thing setting us apart

this is the only thing setting us apart or the only thing responsible for the

or the only thing responsible for the

or the only thing responsible for the extraordinary levels of loneliness which

extraordinary levels of loneliness which

extraordinary levels of loneliness which that many of the 7 billion people

that many of the 7 billion people

that many of the 7 billion people crowded onto this planet paradoxically

crowded onto this planet paradoxically

crowded onto this planet paradoxically suffer plainly there’s been all sorts of

suffer plainly there’s been all sorts of

suffer plainly there’s been all sorts of economic and technological and social

economic and technological and social

economic and technological and social change which have also been responsible

change which have also been responsible

change which have also been responsible for these horrendous levels of

for these horrendous levels of

for these horrendous levels of involuntary social isolation but it’s

involuntary social isolation but it’s

involuntary social isolation but it’s bound to be a factor surely if this is

bound to be a factor surely if this is

bound to be a factor surely if this is the way that we see other people and we

the way that we see other people and we

the way that we see other people and we sense this social threat from other

sense this social threat from other

sense this social threat from other people that is bound to set us apart and

people that is bound to set us apart and

people that is bound to set us apart and Ewan and I came together to to challenge

Ewan and I came together to to challenge

Ewan and I came together to to challenge that myth and to challenge the idea

that myth and to challenge the idea

that myth and to challenge the idea which is completely unscientific that we

which is completely unscientific that we

which is completely unscientific that we are fundamentally as Thomas Hobbes

are fundamentally as Thomas Hobbes

are fundamentally as Thomas Hobbes claimed solitary poor and our lives are

claimed solitary poor and our lives are

claimed solitary poor and our lives are nasty brutish and short they are at

nasty brutish and short they are at

nasty brutish and short they are at least quite long not nice but to

least quite long not nice but to

least quite long not nice but to actually try to stand up to that myth

actually try to stand up to that myth

actually try to stand up to that myth which had its roots in an understanding

which had its roots in an understanding

which had its roots in an understanding of human evolution which was confined to

of human evolution which was confined to

of human evolution which was confined to the book of Genesis and now what we know

the book of Genesis and now what we know

the book of Genesis and now what we know from neurobiology from psychology from

from neurobiology from psychology from

from neurobiology from psychology from human evolution we know we are not like

human evolution we know we are not like

human evolution we know we are not like that but unfortunately that’s not the

that but unfortunately that’s not the

that but unfortunately that’s not the method that’s not the message that often

method that’s not the message that often

method that’s not the message that often comes across and what we’ve decided to

comes across and what we’ve decided to

comes across and what we’ve decided to do is to use the most powerful medium

do is to use the most powerful medium

do is to use the most powerful medium human beings have invented for bringing

human beings have invented for bringing

human beings have invented for bringing people together in order to spread that

people together in order to spread that

people together in order to spread that message and that’s music

message and that’s music

message and that’s music we wrote an album called breaking the

we wrote an album called breaking the

we wrote an album called breaking the spell of loneliness and the first track

spell of loneliness and the first track

spell of loneliness and the first track laid out our manifesto such a thing of

laid out our manifesto such a thing of

laid out our manifesto such a thing of society

[Music]

[Music] we have

we have

we have [Music]

it’s working

it’s working be together

be together

be together human

human

human [Music]

and the glitz that our goal and the

and the glitz that our goal and the silver shirt we see ourselves in the

silver shirt we see ourselves in the

silver shirt we see ourselves in the image of me have we fought over the

image of me have we fought over the

image of me have we fought over the scraps since a very personal

scraps since a very personal

scraps since a very personal do we really believe

do we really believe

do we really believe [Music]

that such a big mess society keeps us

that such a big mess society keeps us from losing

together that makes us human

together that makes us human [Music]

it’s not to rehearse not how we live in

it’s not to rehearse not how we live in the depths of the SAS going money too

the depths of the SAS going money too

the depths of the SAS going money too we lend our hands a stranger’s be mates

we lend our hands a stranger’s be mates

we lend our hands a stranger’s be mates we go a mouse or the tremors tenants we

we go a mouse or the tremors tenants we

we go a mouse or the tremors tenants we go without smaller than others

it’s such a big mess society

it’s such a big mess society not me

not me

not me that’s what Kahneman laughing together

that’s what Kahneman laughing together

that’s what Kahneman laughing together that makes us human

that makes us human

that makes us human [Music]

[Music]

[Music] watch it all weather and the light of

watch it all weather and the light of

watch it all weather and the light of the Sun and the water about meat

the Sun and the water about meat

the Sun and the water about meat I’m alive

United will stand away

United will stand away [Music]

[Music]

[Music] to play

to play

to play [Music]

[Music]

[Music] and I such a big mess Society

and I such a big mess Society

and I such a big mess Society and losing their mate it’s black unity

and losing their mate it’s black unity

and losing their mate it’s black unity living together that makes us human

living together that makes us human

living together that makes us human [Music]

[Music]

[Music] [Applause]

something is plainly going wrong for the

something is plainly going wrong for the most ultra ultra social of all species

most ultra ultra social of all species

most ultra ultra social of all species and the sector of our society which

and the sector of our society which

and the sector of our society which seems to be suffering from it most is

seems to be suffering from it most is

seems to be suffering from it most is our children childhood should be a time

our children childhood should be a time

our children childhood should be a time of lightness and joy but recent

of lightness and joy but recent

of lightness and joy but recent statistics suggest that for many it’s a

statistics suggest that for many it’s a

statistics suggest that for many it’s a time of horrible darkness one figure

time of horrible darkness one figure

time of horrible darkness one figure that came out well just last week

that came out well just last week

that came out well just last week suggests that children in children here

suggests that children in children here

suggests that children in children here in Britain girls have increased the rate

in Britain girls have increased the rate

in Britain girls have increased the rate of hospitalization for cutting

of hospitalization for cutting

of hospitalization for cutting themselves almost fourfold over the last

themselves almost fourfold over the last

themselves almost fourfold over the last ten years there’s something going very

ten years there’s something going very

ten years there’s something going very badly wrong here indeed and I think

badly wrong here indeed and I think

badly wrong here indeed and I think there are several possible explanations

there are several possible explanations

there are several possible explanations well what makes this strange is that

well what makes this strange is that

well what makes this strange is that parenting seems to have improved almost

parenting seems to have improved almost

parenting seems to have improved almost beyond recognition in the past 50 years

beyond recognition in the past 50 years

beyond recognition in the past 50 years that that parents are more engaged more

that that parents are more engaged more

that that parents are more engaged more switched on to their children than

switched on to their children than

switched on to their children than perhaps they’ve ever been before fathers

perhaps they’ve ever been before fathers

perhaps they’ve ever been before fathers are much more involved and yet all this

are much more involved and yet all this

are much more involved and yet all this really bad stuff is happening at the

really bad stuff is happening at the

really bad stuff is happening at the same time social media possibly has

same time social media possibly has

same time social media possibly has something to do with it if it has it’s

something to do with it if it has it’s

something to do with it if it has it’s great force for bringing us together but

great force for bringing us together but

great force for bringing us together but it could also set us apart especially

it could also set us apart especially

it could also set us apart especially when it becomes a means of social

when it becomes a means of social

when it becomes a means of social comparison and girls for instance using

comparison and girls for instance using

comparison and girls for instance using all these this retouching software to

all these this retouching software to

all these this retouching software to make themselves look slimmer and

make themselves look slimmer and

make themselves look slimmer and smoother than they really are and the

smoother than they really are and the

smoother than they really are and the the potentially devastating impacts that

the potentially devastating impacts that

the potentially devastating impacts that have has when you’re constantly trying

have has when you’re constantly trying

have has when you’re constantly trying to compare yourself to this idealized

to compare yourself to this idealized

to compare yourself to this idealized image which you can’t possibly reach but

image which you can’t possibly reach but

image which you can’t possibly reach but I think there’s something else happening

I think there’s something else happening

I think there’s something else happening as well and I think it’s got something

as well and I think it’s got something

as well and I think it’s got something to do with one of the greatest and least

to do with one of the greatest and least

to do with one of the greatest and least documented social changes we’ve

documented social changes we’ve

documented social changes we’ve undergone which is children not going

undergone which is children not going

undergone which is children not going outdoors it is quite remarkable the

outdoors it is quite remarkable the

outdoors it is quite remarkable the extent to which this has taken place for

extent to which this has taken place for

extent to which this has taken place for example in the course of just one

example in the course of just one

example in the course of just one generation 25 years the unaccompanied

generation 25 years the unaccompanied

generation 25 years the unaccompanied home range of children the area that

home range of children the area that

home range of children the area that they roam unsupervised by adults has

they roam unsupervised by adults has

they roam unsupervised by adults has reduced by 90% and this not only has

reduced by 90% and this not only has

reduced by 90% and this not only has impacts on their physical health just

impacts on their physical health just

impacts on their physical health just not getting fit enough not developing

not getting fit enough not developing

not getting fit enough not developing physical skills

physical skills

physical skills not only cuts them off from the natural

not only cuts them off from the natural

not only cuts them off from the natural world and cuts off the possibility that

world and cuts off the possibility that

world and cuts off the possibility that those children could turn into the new

those children could turn into the new

those children could turn into the new generation of people loving and

generation of people loving and

generation of people loving and defending that natural world I think it

defending that natural world I think it

defending that natural world I think it also has a devastating impact on their

also has a devastating impact on their

also has a devastating impact on their social skills because when you’re not

social skills because when you’re not

social skills because when you’re not being supervised by adults when you’re

being supervised by adults when you’re

being supervised by adults when you’re running around with a tribe of children

running around with a tribe of children

running around with a tribe of children of your own age you have to work it out

of your own age you have to work it out

of your own age you have to work it out for yourself you have to develop those

for yourself you have to develop those

for yourself you have to develop those social skills by yourself you have to

social skills by yourself you have to

social skills by yourself you have to work out what’s a sensible thing to do

work out what’s a sensible thing to do

work out what’s a sensible thing to do and what’s not and you learn so much

and what’s not and you learn so much

and what’s not and you learn so much better that way when you’re engaged in

better that way when you’re engaged in

better that way when you’re engaged in your own learning process rather than

your own learning process rather than

your own learning process rather than being told and you develop the social

being told and you develop the social

being told and you develop the social skills and very often the friendships

skills and very often the friendships

skills and very often the friendships which will carry you through life and

which will carry you through life and

which will carry you through life and staying indoors staring at a screen by

staying indoors staring at a screen by

staying indoors staring at a screen by yourself

yourself

yourself well that makes you the subject of our

well that makes you the subject of our

well that makes you the subject of our next song the child inside

would stand near our quiets now when

would stand near our quiets now when once their anguish shouts and laughter

once their anguish shouts and laughter

once their anguish shouts and laughter the songs that echoed through the veil

the songs that echoed through the veil

the songs that echoed through the veil as children left it followed after

as children left it followed after

as children left it followed after streams that once we jumped and swam the

streams that once we jumped and swam the

streams that once we jumped and swam the old oak tree we can the child inside as

old oak tree we can the child inside as

old oak tree we can the child inside as philosophy sites the child inside us

philosophy sites the child inside us

philosophy sites the child inside us asked

asked

asked [Music]

[Music]

[Music] who would stand near love watched me

who would stand near love watched me

who would stand near love watched me grow from a child upon my father’s

grow from a child upon my father’s

grow from a child upon my father’s shoulders me across the bow and smell

shoulders me across the bow and smell

shoulders me across the bow and smell the tree as years grew older and I told

the tree as years grew older and I told

the tree as years grew older and I told one of these long gone we built it

Peter Smith I’m afraid

Peter Smith I’m afraid we smile ever

dandelion Club Sun lon

dandelion Club Sun lon conquers life bugs are neglected even

conquers life bugs are neglected even

conquers life bugs are neglected even though words of a winner now

though words of a winner now

though words of a winner now my queen sir leaves the line a collected

my queen sir leaves the line a collected

my queen sir leaves the line a collected Rena Stern

Rena Stern

Rena Stern the way

the way

the way and almost Weaver

and almost Weaver

and almost Weaver a Quisling the mansion built by my son

a Quisling the mansion built by my son

a Quisling the mansion built by my son nor by my daughter

nor by my daughter

nor by my daughter [Music]

[Music]

[Music] as busy roads no plane the place to run

as busy roads no plane the place to run

as busy roads no plane the place to run and laugh and play together switch I’ll

and laugh and play together switch I’ll

and laugh and play together switch I’ll decide is flat from D far from the sting

decide is flat from D far from the sting

decide is flat from D far from the sting and warm weather who woodland lead son

and warm weather who woodland lead son

and warm weather who woodland lead son trotting now the Rambo

trotting now the Rambo

trotting now the Rambo [Music]

[Music]

[Music] Sheldon say does lost me Saints child

Sheldon say does lost me Saints child

Sheldon say does lost me Saints child and save us bust

and save us bust

and save us bust [Music]

[Applause]

[Applause] and it’s not just it’s not just children

and it’s not just it’s not just children

and it’s not just it’s not just children who have been cut off from the living

who have been cut off from the living

who have been cut off from the living world through enclosure over the course

world through enclosure over the course

world through enclosure over the course of hundreds of years almost all of us

of hundreds of years almost all of us

of hundreds of years almost all of us were shut out by one means or another

were shut out by one means or another

were shut out by one means or another from the countryside losing the great

from the countryside losing the great

from the countryside losing the great fortifying Commons that provided so much

fortifying Commons that provided so much

fortifying Commons that provided so much of our subsistence but also so much of

of our subsistence but also so much of

of our subsistence but also so much of our social and community and ceremonial

our social and community and ceremonial

our social and community and ceremonial life as well we ended up in the cities

life as well we ended up in the cities

life as well we ended up in the cities Britain was the first largely urbanized

Britain was the first largely urbanized

Britain was the first largely urbanized nation on earth and there we developed a

nation on earth and there we developed a

nation on earth and there we developed a new Commons the street where so much of

new Commons the street where so much of

new Commons the street where so much of our community life and so much of our

our community life and so much of our

our community life and so much of our ceremonial life took place but then that

ceremonial life took place but then that

ceremonial life took place but then that Commons tomb has gradually been taken

Commons tomb has gradually been taken

Commons tomb has gradually been taken away from us in this case by another

away from us in this case by another

away from us in this case by another force the motor vehicle and the busier

force the motor vehicle and the busier

force the motor vehicle and the busier the traffic on the street the less

the traffic on the street the less

the traffic on the street the less social connection you have with your

social connection you have with your

social connection you have with your neighbors the fewer of your neighbors

neighbors the fewer of your neighbors

neighbors the fewer of your neighbors that you know but the good news is that

that you know but the good news is that

that you know but the good news is that many people are trying to reverse that

many people are trying to reverse that

many people are trying to reverse that they’re trying to take back that urban

they’re trying to take back that urban

they’re trying to take back that urban Commons they’re trying to reclaim the

Commons they’re trying to reclaim the

Commons they’re trying to reclaim the street

nice fixed fast seven billion lives

nice fixed fast seven billion lives alone together upside down

alone together upside down

alone together upside down oh love the beat and lay out the tables

oh love the beat and lay out the tables

oh love the beat and lay out the tables and flags and come on that’s – it’s open

and flags and come on that’s – it’s open

and flags and come on that’s – it’s open the white doors and stand together very

the white doors and stand together very

the white doors and stand together very clean in the streets once it to the

clean in the streets once it to the

clean in the streets once it to the streets are raise our children well no

streets are raise our children well no

streets are raise our children well no one died unknown windows no doors were

one died unknown windows no doors were

one died unknown windows no doors were locked

locked

locked once again let’s make the street

once again let’s make the street

once again let’s make the street shadowed three streets belong to

shadowed three streets belong to

shadowed three streets belong to everyone

everyone

everyone wait then comments that we share from

wait then comments that we share from

wait then comments that we share from the box to the playing fields and

the box to the playing fields and

the box to the playing fields and benches these streets are more than just

benches these streets are more than just

benches these streets are more than just a part of me so we’ll have the beer and

a part of me so we’ll have the beer and

a part of me so we’ll have the beer and laying out the tables kind of relax and

laying out the tables kind of relax and

laying out the tables kind of relax and come on out students open wider doors

come on out students open wider doors

come on out students open wider doors and stand together

and stand together

and stand together we reclaim the streets highways that

we reclaim the streets highways that

we reclaim the streets highways that select the term the father’s Godzilla

select the term the father’s Godzilla

select the term the father’s Godzilla laps all right like a nice one day at

laps all right like a nice one day at

laps all right like a nice one day at least let’s all obey the engines once

least let’s all obey the engines once

least let’s all obey the engines once again well fill the streets with life we

again well fill the streets with life we

again well fill the streets with life we dance on the pavements here together

dance on the pavements here together

dance on the pavements here together take back the road for the kids to play

take back the road for the kids to play

take back the road for the kids to play pull down the billboards and the places

pull down the billboards and the places

pull down the billboards and the places I’m toe up streets in the hallway

I’m toe up streets in the hallway

I’m toe up streets in the hallway we’ll have to be in a layout the tables

we’ll have to be in a layout the tables

we’ll have to be in a layout the tables hang the flags and among our students

hang the flags and among our students

hang the flags and among our students open wider doors and stand together

open wider doors and stand together

open wider doors and stand together they really clean the street we reclaim

they really clean the street we reclaim

they really clean the street we reclaim the street

the street

the street [Music]

is our belief that the health of a

is our belief that the health of a political society depends on the ability

political society depends on the ability

political society depends on the ability of people to come back together that if

of people to come back together that if

of people to come back together that if we are to see political renewal in this

we are to see political renewal in this

we are to see political renewal in this country or in any other is going to

country or in any other is going to

country or in any other is going to depend not on angry meetings of people

depend not on angry meetings of people

depend not on angry meetings of people shouting each other which is what most

shouting each other which is what most

shouting each other which is what most people will see the political engagement

people will see the political engagement

people will see the political engagement is being is going to depend on social

is being is going to depend on social

is being is going to depend on social and cultural gatherings of people once

and cultural gatherings of people once

and cultural gatherings of people once more reasserting community is going to

more reasserting community is going to

more reasserting community is going to depend on the recognition that we stand

depend on the recognition that we stand

depend on the recognition that we stand together or we fall apart

together or we fall apart

together or we fall apart thank you

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