
I don’t want to be average I want to matter I want to change the world I know
matter I want to change the world I know
matter I want to change the world I know those are big ideas but I remember
those are big ideas but I remember
those are big ideas but I remember freshman year at college those
freshman year at college those
freshman year at college those late-night conversations I’d have with
late-night conversations I’d have with
late-night conversations I’d have with my roommate I’d be lying up there on the
my roommate I’d be lying up there on the
my roommate I’d be lying up there on the top bunk staring at the ceiling of our
top bunk staring at the ceiling of our
top bunk staring at the ceiling of our prison cell I mean dorm room he’d be
prison cell I mean dorm room he’d be
prison cell I mean dorm room he’d be down on the bottom bunk and we talked
down on the bottom bunk and we talked
down on the bottom bunk and we talked about the big stuff of life right we
about the big stuff of life right we
about the big stuff of life right we talked about religion and spirituality
talked about religion and spirituality
talked about religion and spirituality and politics and who we wanted to become
and politics and who we wanted to become
and politics and who we wanted to become in the impact we wanted to make on the
in the impact we wanted to make on the
in the impact we wanted to make on the world and I didn’t understand it at the
world and I didn’t understand it at the
world and I didn’t understand it at the time but looking back it’s clear to me
time but looking back it’s clear to me
time but looking back it’s clear to me that those conversations were the first
that those conversations were the first
that those conversations were the first time in my life when I was saying out
time in my life when I was saying out
time in my life when I was saying out loud that yeah I do want to matter no I
loud that yeah I do want to matter no I
loud that yeah I do want to matter no I don’t want to be average yeah I want to
don’t want to be average yeah I want to
don’t want to be average yeah I want to change the world how do you change the
change the world how do you change the
change the world how do you change the world it’s a big question I think I
world it’s a big question I think I
world it’s a big question I think I figured it out
figured it out
figured it out handshakes let me explain humans are
handshakes let me explain humans are
handshakes let me explain humans are social animals from the moment we are
social animals from the moment we are
social animals from the moment we are born all throughout our life we’re
born all throughout our life we’re
born all throughout our life we’re constantly an instinctively seeking
constantly an instinctively seeking
constantly an instinctively seeking human connection we’re always looking
human connection we’re always looking
human connection we’re always looking for someone to love and who will love us
for someone to love and who will love us
for someone to love and who will love us someone we can trust
someone we can trust
someone we can trust who will trust us we even gathered
who will trust us we even gathered
who will trust us we even gathered together in groups around things we have
together in groups around things we have
together in groups around things we have in common or things that are important
in common or things that are important
in common or things that are important to us for whatever reason even into our
to us for whatever reason even into our
to us for whatever reason even into our old age for constantly an instinctively
old age for constantly an instinctively
old age for constantly an instinctively seeking human connection we seem to be
seeking human connection we seem to be
seeking human connection we seem to be driven by this evolutionary destiny to
driven by this evolutionary destiny to
driven by this evolutionary destiny to connect so how you doing on the whole
connect so how you doing on the whole
connect so how you doing on the whole human connection from what everybody do
human connection from what everybody do
human connection from what everybody do me a favor I want you to think about the
me a favor I want you to think about the
me a favor I want you to think about the last conversation you had your last
last conversation you had your last
last conversation you had your last little moment of human connection your
little moment of human connection your
little moment of human connection your last little momentary interaction was
last little momentary interaction was
last little momentary interaction was probably with the person sitting right
probably with the person sitting right
probably with the person sitting right next to you
next to you
next to you and Hughes I don’t want everybody here
and Hughes I don’t want everybody here
and Hughes I don’t want everybody here to do it everybody raise your hand good
to do it everybody raise your hand good
to do it everybody raise your hand good make fist pump your fist that was just
make fist pump your fist that was just
make fist pump your fist that was just for fun
for fun
for fun no okay state keep your fist in the air
no okay state keep your fist in the air
no okay state keep your fist in the air stick out your thumb close your eyes
stick out your thumb close your eyes
stick out your thumb close your eyes you’re gonna have to trust me in your
you’re gonna have to trust me in your
you’re gonna have to trust me in your neighbor here for a second here’s what I
neighbor here for a second here’s what I
neighbor here for a second here’s what I want you to do I want use your thumb as
want you to do I want use your thumb as
want you to do I want use your thumb as a rating scale I want you to rate the
a rating scale I want you to rate the
a rating scale I want you to rate the quality of your last interaction using
quality of your last interaction using
quality of your last interaction using your thumb here’s how this works if your
your thumb here’s how this works if your
your thumb here’s how this works if your thumb is straight up in the air it was
thumb is straight up in the air it was
thumb is straight up in the air it was the greatest conversation of your life
the greatest conversation of your life
the greatest conversation of your life you might have kissed on the mouth at
you might have kissed on the mouth at
you might have kissed on the mouth at the end good for you alright if you
the end good for you alright if you
the end good for you alright if you double straight down toward the ground
double straight down toward the ground
double straight down toward the ground one of you might have got injured during
one of you might have got injured during
one of you might have got injured during the course of the conversation now
the course of the conversation now
the course of the conversation now here’s what I want you to do I want you
here’s what I want you to do I want you
here’s what I want you to do I want you to honestly rate the quality of that
to honestly rate the quality of that
to honestly rate the quality of that last interaction and lock it in and open
last interaction and lock it in and open
last interaction and lock it in and open your eyes good job everybody can put
your eyes good job everybody can put
your eyes good job everybody can put your hands
your hands
your hands down I’m giggling a little bit because
down I’m giggling a little bit because
down I’m giggling a little bit because here’s what about 20% of the audience
here’s what about 20% of the audience
here’s what about 20% of the audience does okay and lock it in and open your
does okay and lock it in and open your
does okay and lock it in and open your eyes this seems like a silly little
eyes this seems like a silly little
eyes this seems like a silly little icebreaker you might do it summer camp I
icebreaker you might do it summer camp I
icebreaker you might do it summer camp I realize that but for me this matters
realize that but for me this matters
realize that but for me this matters right these little momentary
right these little momentary
right these little momentary interactions they add up to start with
interactions they add up to start with
interactions they add up to start with the quality of your little momentary
the quality of your little momentary
the quality of your little momentary interactions determines the quality of
interactions determines the quality of
interactions determines the quality of your day if you have a day full of
your day if you have a day full of
your day if you have a day full of interactions you rate like this you
interactions you rate like this you
interactions you rate like this you violate a day that felt like this right
violate a day that felt like this right
violate a day that felt like this right if you have a day full of interactions
if you have a day full of interactions
if you have a day full of interactions you rate like this brother today that
you rate like this brother today that
you rate like this brother today that felt like this if you had a day full of
felt like this if you had a day full of
felt like this if you had a day full of interactions of any sort but even one of
interactions of any sort but even one of
interactions of any sort but even one of them you’d rate like this fairly in a
them you’d rate like this fairly in a
them you’d rate like this fairly in a day that felt like this let me go
day that felt like this let me go
day that felt like this let me go further the quality of your little
further the quality of your little
further the quality of your little momentary interactions determines the
momentary interactions determines the
momentary interactions determines the quality of your organization’s your
quality of your organization’s your
quality of your organization’s your businesses your congregations your
businesses your congregations your
businesses your congregations your political parties your HOAs your PTA
political parties your HOAs your PTA
political parties your HOAs your PTA s-see because all those things I just
s-see because all those things I just
s-see because all those things I just listed are all imaginary social
listed are all imaginary social
listed are all imaginary social constructs they don’t even exist except
constructs they don’t even exist except
constructs they don’t even exist except when they manifest themselves in the
when they manifest themselves in the
when they manifest themselves in the space between the members of those
space between the members of those
space between the members of those groups the people who make up those
groups the people who make up those
groups the people who make up those groups and other human beings let me go
groups and other human beings let me go
groups and other human beings let me go even further the quality of those little
even further the quality of those little
even further the quality of those little momentary interactions determines the
momentary interactions determines the
momentary interactions determines the quality of your life most of us go
quality of your life most of us go
quality of your life most of us go through life having interactions we’d
through life having interactions we’d
through life having interactions we’d rate like this it’s no wonder we feel
rate like this it’s no wonder we feel
rate like this it’s no wonder we feel unfulfilled it’s no wonder we feel like
unfulfilled it’s no wonder we feel like
unfulfilled it’s no wonder we feel like we don’t matter Margaret Mead once said
we don’t matter Margaret Mead once said
we don’t matter Margaret Mead once said never doubt that a small group of
never doubt that a small group of
never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change
thoughtful committed citizens can change
thoughtful committed citizens can change the world indeed it’s the only thing
the world indeed it’s the only thing
the world indeed it’s the only thing that ever has and a lot of us have heard
that ever has and a lot of us have heard
that ever has and a lot of us have heard this quote before right it’s an off to
this quote before right it’s an off to
this quote before right it’s an off to use maybe even cliche quote at this
use maybe even cliche quote at this
use maybe even cliche quote at this point but it’s a good one and we all
point but it’s a good one and we all
point but it’s a good one and we all agree with the first part especially
agree with the first part especially
agree with the first part especially right never doubt that a small group of
right never doubt that a small group of
right never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change
thoughtful committed citizens can change
thoughtful committed citizens can change the world that’s exciting that sounds
the world that’s exciting that sounds
the world that’s exciting that sounds like us that’s inspiring but then at the
like us that’s inspiring but then at the
like us that’s inspiring but then at the end she buries something powerful she
end she buries something powerful she
end she buries something powerful she says indeed it’s the only thing that
says indeed it’s the only thing that
says indeed it’s the only thing that ever has Margaret Mead teaches us that
ever has Margaret Mead teaches us that
ever has Margaret Mead teaches us that the only thing that’s ever changed the
the only thing that’s ever changed the
the only thing that’s ever changed the world is when people gather together and
world is when people gather together and
world is when people gather together and organize
organize
organize she teaches us that when we gather we
she teaches us that when we gather we
she teaches us that when we gather we matter and this is why I think
matter and this is why I think
matter and this is why I think handshakes changed the world
handshakes changed the world
handshakes changed the world see because handshakes lead to
see because handshakes lead to
see because handshakes lead to conversations in conversations when you
conversations in conversations when you
conversations in conversations when you do those right lead to relationships
do those right lead to relationships
do those right lead to relationships relationships are when we care about
relationships are when we care about
relationships are when we care about each other to some extent relationships
each other to some extent relationships
each other to some extent relationships often result
often result
often result and collaboration collaboration happens
and collaboration collaboration happens
and collaboration collaboration happens when I see something out there in the
when I see something out there in the
when I see something out there in the world that I want to change and and and
world that I want to change and and and
world that I want to change and and and I mentioned it to my friend and my
I mentioned it to my friend and my
I mentioned it to my friend and my friend says hey I’ll help you with that
friend says hey I’ll help you with that
friend says hey I’ll help you with that and we work on it together and we go out
and we work on it together and we go out
and we work on it together and we go out there we start working on it together to
there we start working on it together to
there we start working on it together to try and change that thing but after a
try and change that thing but after a
try and change that thing but after a while we start to realize that that we
while we start to realize that that we
while we start to realize that that we could make a bigger impact a little
could make a bigger impact a little
could make a bigger impact a little faster if we had help right so what do
faster if we had help right so what do
faster if we had help right so what do we do we turn around we shake more hands
we do we turn around we shake more hands
we do we turn around we shake more hands we have more conversations build more
we have more conversations build more
we have more conversations build more relationships and we gather people
relationships and we gather people
relationships and we gather people together we organize see handshakes lead
together we organize see handshakes lead
together we organize see handshakes lead to conversations conversations lead to
to conversations conversations lead to
to conversations conversations lead to relationships relationships lead to
relationships relationships lead to
relationships relationships lead to collaboration collaboration leads to
collaboration collaboration leads to
collaboration collaboration leads to organizations in organizations change
organizations in organizations change
organizations in organizations change the world when we gather we matter I
the world when we gather we matter I
the world when we gather we matter I think you can apply this stuff in a
think you can apply this stuff in a
think you can apply this stuff in a couple different ways either a you’re an
couple different ways either a you’re an
couple different ways either a you’re an individual who like me wants to matter
individual who like me wants to matter
individual who like me wants to matter in which case you might be realizing
in which case you might be realizing
in which case you might be realizing that maybe the path to mattering the
that maybe the path to mattering the
that maybe the path to mattering the path to making your impact on the world
path to making your impact on the world
path to making your impact on the world is as simple as handshakes conversations
is as simple as handshakes conversations
is as simple as handshakes conversations relationships collaboration and
relationships collaboration and
relationships collaboration and organization or B you’re already a part
organization or B you’re already a part
organization or B you’re already a part of an organization or a business or a
of an organization or a business or a
of an organization or a business or a congregation or some group of some sort
congregation or some group of some sort
congregation or some group of some sort and that group wants to make a bigger
and that group wants to make a bigger
and that group wants to make a bigger impact on the world in which case you
impact on the world in which case you
impact on the world in which case you might be thinking wow maybe the key to
might be thinking wow maybe the key to
might be thinking wow maybe the key to our success is as simple as helping our
our success is as simple as helping our
our success is as simple as helping our members the people in our group have
members the people in our group have
members the people in our group have more thumbsup interactions more often
more thumbsup interactions more often
more thumbsup interactions more often either way it might be helpful if we
either way it might be helpful if we
either way it might be helpful if we explored what it looks like
explored what it looks like
explored what it looks like to be excellent socially here’s how we
to be excellent socially here’s how we
to be excellent socially here’s how we define social accidents a state of
define social accidents a state of
define social accidents a state of perpetual generosity curiosity
perpetual generosity curiosity
perpetual generosity curiosity positivity and openness to limitless
positivity and openness to limitless
positivity and openness to limitless possibility a desire to intentionally
possibility a desire to intentionally
possibility a desire to intentionally connect with others the ability to
connect with others the ability to
connect with others the ability to engage in deep meaningful conversations
engage in deep meaningful conversations
engage in deep meaningful conversations not the surface level vs that most of us
not the surface level vs that most of us
not the surface level vs that most of us spend most of our life in acting in a
spend most of our life in acting in a
spend most of our life in acting in a responsible and respectable manner with
responsible and respectable manner with
responsible and respectable manner with high expectations of others being
high expectations of others being
high expectations of others being authentic and living every day with
authentic and living every day with
authentic and living every day with integrity as the best version of you
integrity as the best version of you
integrity as the best version of you being confident vulnerable being fun and
being confident vulnerable being fun and
being confident vulnerable being fun and compassionate being open kind and bold
compassionate being open kind and bold
compassionate being open kind and bold the deepest level of societal
the deepest level of societal
the deepest level of societal participation and contribution I’m
participation and contribution I’m
participation and contribution I’m really proud of this definition and I’m
really proud of this definition and I’m
really proud of this definition and I’m proud of the work that we’ve done at the
proud of the work that we’ve done at the
proud of the work that we’ve done at the social excellence project to teach this
social excellence project to teach this
social excellence project to teach this definition and to spread human
definition and to spread human
definition and to spread human connection all over but I’m even prouder
connection all over but I’m even prouder
connection all over but I’m even prouder of something else my kids my wife and I
of something else my kids my wife and I
of something else my kids my wife and I have these two amazing daughters the big
have these two amazing daughters the big
have these two amazing daughters the big one is Elliot she’s seven the little
one is Elliot she’s seven the little
one is Elliot she’s seven the little ones Josie she’s five this is probably a
ones Josie she’s five this is probably a
ones Josie she’s five this is probably a more accurate
more accurate
more accurate representation of their personalities
representation of their personalities
representation of their personalities anyway the summer I had a I had a chance
anyway the summer I had a I had a chance
anyway the summer I had a I had a chance to take Elliot the big one with me on a
to take Elliot the big one with me on a
to take Elliot the big one with me on a work trip I was going to Memphis
work trip I was going to Memphis
work trip I was going to Memphis Tennessee and I was given a big talk on
Tennessee and I was given a big talk on
Tennessee and I was given a big talk on social excellence and a couple weeks
social excellence and a couple weeks
social excellence and a couple weeks before the trip I asked her I said
before the trip I asked her I said
before the trip I asked her I said sweetheart you coming on this trip with
sweetheart you coming on this trip with
sweetheart you coming on this trip with me but I sort of think it might be cool
me but I sort of think it might be cool
me but I sort of think it might be cool if you didn’t just come with me maybe
if you didn’t just come with me maybe
if you didn’t just come with me maybe maybe you actually helped me give the
maybe you actually helped me give the
maybe you actually helped me give the presentation maybe you could come up on
presentation maybe you could come up on
presentation maybe you could come up on stage wear a microphone and and talk to
stage wear a microphone and and talk to
stage wear a microphone and and talk to 600 people would you be interested in
600 people would you be interested in
600 people would you be interested in doing something like that yes daddy I
doing something like that yes daddy I
doing something like that yes daddy I said okay but you’re gonna have to have
said okay but you’re gonna have to have
said okay but you’re gonna have to have something to say you can’t do what I do
something to say you can’t do what I do
something to say you can’t do what I do could you come up with something I mean
could you come up with something I mean
could you come up with something I mean I’m trying to teach him how to be nice
I’m trying to teach him how to be nice
I’m trying to teach him how to be nice and make friends you know do you think
and make friends you know do you think
and make friends you know do you think you could come up with something to
you could come up with something to
you could come up with something to teach these 600 people yes daddy
teach these 600 people yes daddy
teach these 600 people yes daddy so a couple hours later I’m I’m working
so a couple hours later I’m I’m working
so a couple hours later I’m I’m working my computer minding my own business and
my computer minding my own business and
my computer minding my own business and and I give this a little tap on my
and I give this a little tap on my
and I give this a little tap on my shoulder I turn around it’s Elliot she
shoulder I turn around it’s Elliot she
shoulder I turn around it’s Elliot she says daddy I’m ready for the
says daddy I’m ready for the
says daddy I’m ready for the presentation oh okay what do you got for
presentation oh okay what do you got for
presentation oh okay what do you got for me she says I wrote a book so ladies and
me she says I wrote a book so ladies and
me she says I wrote a book so ladies and gentlemen I’m proud to present to you
gentlemen I’m proud to present to you
gentlemen I’m proud to present to you instead of just diving deeper into that
instead of just diving deeper into that
instead of just diving deeper into that long definition I read to you earlier
long definition I read to you earlier
long definition I read to you earlier I’m proud to present to you Elliot’s way
I’m proud to present to you Elliot’s way
I’m proud to present to you Elliot’s way of how to make friends a ten step guide
of how to make friends a ten step guide
of how to make friends a ten step guide the book that my daughter wrote you guys
the book that my daughter wrote you guys
the book that my daughter wrote you guys a ten step guide to building
a ten step guide to building
a ten step guide to building relationships and changing the world
relationships and changing the world
relationships and changing the world step one see someone you would like okay
step one see someone you would like okay
step one see someone you would like okay so I probably don’t need to offer a
so I probably don’t need to offer a
so I probably don’t need to offer a whole lot of commentary you know to add
whole lot of commentary you know to add
whole lot of commentary you know to add on to my daughter’s brilliance but I
on to my daughter’s brilliance but I
on to my daughter’s brilliance but I will say this there are far too many
will say this there are far too many
will say this there are far too many strangers in the world every day see
strangers in the world every day see
strangers in the world every day see someone you would like then move on to
someone you would like then move on to
someone you would like then move on to step two step two then say hello then
step two step two then say hello then
step two step two then say hello then tell them your name and then make them
tell them your name and then make them
tell them your name and then make them your friends okay there’s a lot going on
your friends okay there’s a lot going on
your friends okay there’s a lot going on a step two she’s sort of fast forwarded
a step two she’s sort of fast forwarded
a step two she’s sort of fast forwarded through the relationship building
through the relationship building
through the relationship building process but but maybe there’s a good
process but but maybe there’s a good
process but but maybe there’s a good reason for that right maybe she’s maybe
reason for that right maybe she’s maybe
reason for that right maybe she’s maybe she’s trying to remind us to think like
she’s trying to remind us to think like
she’s trying to remind us to think like a seven-year-old and when you do see
a seven-year-old and when you do see
a seven-year-old and when you do see someone you would like don’t overthink
someone you would like don’t overthink
someone you would like don’t overthink it just say hello tell them her name
it just say hello tell them her name
it just say hello tell them her name make him your friend soothing so that
make him your friend soothing so that
make him your friend soothing so that you can move on to the good stuff
you can move on to the good stuff
you can move on to the good stuff step three give them love
step three give them love
step three give them love and hope even little kids understand
and hope even little kids understand
and hope even little kids understand that all of us just want all of us just
that all of us just want all of us just
that all of us just want all of us just want to be loves and we all just want to
want to be loves and we all just want to
want to be loves and we all just want to matter somehow right love and hope might
matter somehow right love and hope might
matter somehow right love and hope might be the two most generous gifts you have
be the two most generous gifts you have
be the two most generous gifts you have to offer step 4
to offer step 4
to offer step 4 include everyone can’t you just feel the
include everyone can’t you just feel the
include everyone can’t you just feel the playground drama going on at the top of
playground drama going on at the top of
playground drama going on at the top of the slide in this picture as humans
the slide in this picture as humans
the slide in this picture as humans we’ve evolved to depend on groups and so
we’ve evolved to depend on groups and so
we’ve evolved to depend on groups and so deep deep deep down inside one of our
deep deep deep down inside one of our
deep deep deep down inside one of our biggest fears is feeling left out
biggest fears is feeling left out
biggest fears is feeling left out include everyone step 5
include everyone step 5
include everyone step 5 help them we’re all struggling with
help them we’re all struggling with
help them we’re all struggling with something at some point aren’t we most
something at some point aren’t we most
something at some point aren’t we most of us a little bit all the time help
of us a little bit all the time help
of us a little bit all the time help them you know whether it’s offering
them you know whether it’s offering
them you know whether it’s offering someone a gift of flowers or assisting
someone a gift of flowers or assisting
someone a gift of flowers or assisting someone with a skinned knee by the way I
someone with a skinned knee by the way I
someone with a skinned knee by the way I thought this picture originally was a
thought this picture originally was a
thought this picture originally was a gift of flowers turns out it’s helping
gift of flowers turns out it’s helping
gift of flowers turns out it’s helping someone with a skinned knee or maybe
someone with a skinned knee or maybe
someone with a skinned knee or maybe it’s offering a listening ear or sharing
it’s offering a listening ear or sharing
it’s offering a listening ear or sharing a moment of unexpected joy our world
a moment of unexpected joy our world
a moment of unexpected joy our world needs these little moments of humanity
needs these little moments of humanity
needs these little moments of humanity now more than ever now my wife and I are
now more than ever now my wife and I are
now more than ever now my wife and I are raising these two amazing little girls
raising these two amazing little girls
raising these two amazing little girls in a town called Littleton Colorado
in a town called Littleton Colorado
in a town called Littleton Colorado that’s where we live and many of you may
that’s where we live and many of you may
that’s where we live and many of you may be familiar with the name of that town
be familiar with the name of that town
be familiar with the name of that town is it’s the home of Columbine High
is it’s the home of Columbine High
is it’s the home of Columbine High School it’s also not terribly far away
School it’s also not terribly far away
School it’s also not terribly far away from a certain movie theater in Aurora
from a certain movie theater in Aurora
from a certain movie theater in Aurora Colorado and just down the road from
Colorado and just down the road from
Colorado and just down the road from Deer Creek middle school Arapahoe high
Deer Creek middle school Arapahoe high
Deer Creek middle school Arapahoe high school it’s a safe beautiful happy
school it’s a safe beautiful happy
school it’s a safe beautiful happy little place to raise a family except of
little place to raise a family except of
little place to raise a family except of course at all those places I just named
course at all those places I just named
course at all those places I just named or a recent public shooting arenas this
or a recent public shooting arenas this
or a recent public shooting arenas this is where we drop our girls off of school
is where we drop our girls off of school
is where we drop our girls off of school every morning and this is where we go as
every morning and this is where we go as
every morning and this is where we go as a family to see Disney movies in the
a family to see Disney movies in the
a family to see Disney movies in the movie theaters and I know our community
movie theaters and I know our community
movie theaters and I know our community is not alone you know my kids and most
is not alone you know my kids and most
is not alone you know my kids and most people of the most recent generation are
people of the most recent generation are
people of the most recent generation are trained on what to do if there’s an
trained on what to do if there’s an
trained on what to do if there’s an active shooter in their school so when I
active shooter in their school so when I
active shooter in their school so when I think about social excellence when I
think about social excellence when I
think about social excellence when I think about gathering people together
think about gathering people together
think about gathering people together when I and I think about spreading human
when I and I think about spreading human
when I and I think about spreading human connection I can’t help but think about
connection I can’t help but think about
connection I can’t help but think about that stuff and I’m reminded of how
that stuff and I’m reminded of how
that stuff and I’m reminded of how important these little moments of
important these little moments of
important these little moments of humanity are in our
humanity are in our
humanity are in our old especially Tibet help them step 6
old especially Tibet help them step 6
old especially Tibet help them step 6 tell them how you’re feeling
tell them how you’re feeling
tell them how you’re feeling vulnerability is a scary thing
vulnerability is a scary thing
vulnerability is a scary thing vulnerability is a scary thing but even
vulnerability is a scary thing but even
vulnerability is a scary thing but even kids understand that all the all the
kids understand that all the all the
kids understand that all the all the most powerful conversations that we’ve
most powerful conversations that we’ve
most powerful conversations that we’ve ever had in our life and all the most
ever had in our life and all the most
ever had in our life and all the most meaningful relationships in our life all
meaningful relationships in our life all
meaningful relationships in our life all have one thing in common vulnerability
have one thing in common vulnerability
have one thing in common vulnerability step 7 follow the rules I don’t know
step 7 follow the rules I don’t know
step 7 follow the rules I don’t know what this was about you guys I really
what this was about you guys I really
what this was about you guys I really don’t I mean I asked Elliot asked her to
don’t I mean I asked Elliot asked her to
don’t I mean I asked Elliot asked her to explain it to me and she said yeah the
explain it to me and she said yeah the
explain it to me and she said yeah the rules are to grow crazy hair and I said
rules are to grow crazy hair and I said
rules are to grow crazy hair and I said okay that makes sense to me I mean maybe
okay that makes sense to me I mean maybe
okay that makes sense to me I mean maybe maybe she’s trying to remind us about
maybe she’s trying to remind us about
maybe she’s trying to remind us about the importance of the rules of human
the importance of the rules of human
the importance of the rules of human interaction right like handshakes and
interaction right like handshakes and
interaction right like handshakes and eye contact and smiling and positive
eye contact and smiling and positive
eye contact and smiling and positive body language social decorum and manners
body language social decorum and manners
body language social decorum and manners or maybe it was just crazy hair day at
or maybe it was just crazy hair day at
or maybe it was just crazy hair day at school she forgot okay so step 8
school she forgot okay so step 8
school she forgot okay so step 8 listen yes Elliot understands that we
listen yes Elliot understands that we
listen yes Elliot understands that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason
have two ears and one mouth for a reason
have two ears and one mouth for a reason step 9 do your chores at a friend’s
step 9 do your chores at a friend’s
step 9 do your chores at a friend’s house again you guys I have no idea what
house again you guys I have no idea what
house again you guys I have no idea what this is about do your chores at a
this is about do your chores at a
this is about do your chores at a friend’s house I mean again again maybe
friend’s house I mean again again maybe
friend’s house I mean again again maybe she’s trying to teach us about the role
she’s trying to teach us about the role
she’s trying to teach us about the role we have to play in a larger society
we have to play in a larger society
we have to play in a larger society you’re right I mean maybe she’s trying
you’re right I mean maybe she’s trying
you’re right I mean maybe she’s trying to teach us about about the importance
to teach us about about the importance
to teach us about about the importance of caring for our neighbors in real
of caring for our neighbors in real
of caring for our neighbors in real practical ways you know the deepest
practical ways you know the deepest
practical ways you know the deepest level of societal participation and
level of societal participation and
level of societal participation and contribution or maybe not either way I
contribution or maybe not either way I
contribution or maybe not either way I hope everybody remembers to do your
hope everybody remembers to do your
hope everybody remembers to do your chores at a friend’s house step 10 make
chores at a friend’s house step 10 make
chores at a friend’s house step 10 make them happy what else needs to be said
them happy what else needs to be said
them happy what else needs to be said you know when I got to see my daughter
you know when I got to see my daughter
you know when I got to see my daughter on that stage giving the presentation on
on that stage giving the presentation on
on that stage giving the presentation on the book that she wrote it was by far
the book that she wrote it was by far
the book that she wrote it was by far one of the proudest moments of my life
one of the proudest moments of my life
one of the proudest moments of my life and it reminded me that even kids
and it reminded me that even kids
and it reminded me that even kids understand that if we dare to shake
understand that if we dare to shake
understand that if we dare to shake hands if we build thumbs up
hands if we build thumbs up
hands if we build thumbs up conversations if we build meaningful
conversations if we build meaningful
conversations if we build meaningful relationships if we collaborate and
relationships if we collaborate and
relationships if we collaborate and organize around the things that matter
organize around the things that matter
organize around the things that matter to us we might just change the world
to us we might just change the world
to us we might just change the world thank you
thank you
thank you you
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