Construindo comunidades: sensibilização pela dor do outro | Kelly San | TEDxUFRJ

I’m here today to speak with my heart.

in fact has no other way to

I speak as I was introduced soldier

rolling its out of the tidal complex

It’s good, and I want to tell you one.

bit of my story for you to

people get to travel together so

which I understand as a proposal of the

university university that I

I want it for my son when I was

small lap of 78 years

my parents they needed to work and

my father he very brave he changed

half a shack that was all ready for

a wooden shack on another street

because his expectation is always

build something that could give

children, nor did he want to have two

and then in that act of courage

he needed the family’s help

to make it happen

it was a moment when I met 78 years

my position was even

help unconscious right?

and then I remember that the two of them went out to

Work and mother worked in my home.

father always worked here in ufrj and was

A proud honor, my mother works in

uerj I think I even lied about the

Her position was in charge of cleaning.

she was not even the cleaning lady will charge

a management position

my father was a chery fu is president

of the committee responsible for

this is a temptation to

I did not need to be alone on

home I think I do not remember having

been spent a long time but there was a

of my life that I needed to stay

alone at home and in my community

had one in my favela had a

service of

the residents association that generates

phone us connected to this

phone and when the attendant arrives there

called people on the loudspeaker and then

My mother would call for five minutes to

to know how I was

and then I went there and left home

I answered the phone, that’s okay.

How is it that I have not had a good house?

Who go out to meet you and then I?

I think with this experience I

I managed to realize throughout my life.

how is it to grow in community because

It was not easy for my father, my mother.

leaving home leaves an eight-year-old daughter

by that age at home alone to

undertake a dream that was common to

family without the help of

neighbors of terezinha

You can see if anything happens.

It’s up to you.

Aunt who lived across the street from

leila neighbors there and my contact

with the university was in this context of

to keep these two workers from

spaces that in the moments of

What I needed, I ended up falling

accompanying them to ufrj she has always been

a purpose in my life

because of this different from mine

cousins for example some or tend

still what is this space

I grew up within this context

cool, I had my parents who worked

so that I could come here

privilege in the favela

is not anyone who has this

family that I think not only do not

only in the favela but I think one in our

society right to have a family

covers

and that it helps even within a

difficulty and would be willing to

make you grow within that

purpose of what you understand is the

better and I was started looking for

I started to grow in this dream of accessing

the university was already given to that house

was being built for a daughter

it would be at the university and it would

learn and that is going to bring pride and

what was going to happen

different from different statistics

cousins ​​and this is the first

advanced university building

country and when I got here I

well the nervousness

I spent at home at and suffering from that

post-strike situation all closed

he could not be sure if he had

past in the digital environment

and I said ready I came in

university open now

Now just study that you what I

I just want to be, not

in the middle of this process is pregnant

cool huh

but also not in this process of

In this our issue of pregnancy is a

of the first 12 in my

first actions was to arrive

bruno course coordinator and say play

here you can do it to help me

then he spoke thus no work so I

I wanted to draw some subjects here to

people to dedicate myself to set the

college was only there he spoke

so bosco made a mess of her

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Why do not you know this is not the case?

time to record is revolted with the

I live

Sorry, but we’re discussing the

my life from there he spoke like this to

I look at it but it was bullshit but it has

which to admit but is insisting on

there turned and said so I said it is more

does not have a solution since you

they think it ‘s a mixture from this

principle does not have a solution here.

I chose my life, you can.

to help

It’s only you want this with four

months

People I got away with law like that.

I’m not sure what this guy is

proposing to be invasive and scrotal

macho threat threatens to do everything I

I did not need it now and that’s it

university not white because I

I needed the bag was still there and

he discovers that he will be able to

bag was not there and then my son

I was born and I separated myself in this process

During this time I separated and I soon found myself

alone with her son with a university

for a college to finish and still

was a dream and was only implanted is a

dream is not a dream come true it was not

A dream only I was a dream built

together with the family so I had to

I have to do it all yet

still recording and that’s when I thought

Look, I’ll have to figure it out.

Let’s sell candy on the street that was not

the slightest meaning for me sold twelve

alone has no empathy with the

the pain of another human being

same thing as simply by

sell I said look, we’ll go

have to take something that meets

not only my need but also

need for other women

and that’s when I created the tips and

tips she’s a

a fan she is a

collective still has the information that is

for women especially favela mothers

who wants to create a collaborative network

income generation

this generation of income is precisely

so you can reconcile dreams

No mother needs to leave the

university to have one to ensure

basic things for your child the people

can work together can we create

a parental nursery

We can make things happen.

because we do not have the color of the

university does not have a crèche in

university

we do not have any bases there

to meet our needs and

as I was further from the

university in the year I had not

proposed university because I never

I understood the university as spaces of

to propose something

and with this idea of community that I

I have the community made me

So I think we change the world.

from the community from the

concept of community is not a

common unit that creates empathy and there

can sensitize by the other

as long as we do not organize this

the other’s pain is always going to be

I say that because before I

son I could not understand the

need or lack of a changing room

in the female bathroom of a university

or from anywhere else

while it makes a difference the owner was

my

Sat and Sun

how you are sensitized by the other

when you yourself are not

feeling this pain

You create this empathy and I believe

that this empathy is created when you

approach and how you approach

when you are in this context of

community

I knew that my mother needed some

help and to secure the house key

to look at me

she was near she was there or together

at least sensitive to the cause and there

that this process is different from

first speaker I think there was

Vanessa improved what she was talking about

she did not have friends at the university who

to welcome cell

I have a differential in relation to

she these my friends of

university understood the need for

of this community and I have a

now very great understanding of the

my condition but it’s what I think

which is what ufrj can do when

talk about ufrj

this was some of the discussions I had

with my body pain with guilherme is

talking about people and yes you can change

from the bottom up from

claims from the census of

community is the basis of sensitivity

we can change something

and so what I understand what I think

that hrj can do as a person is

you try these details and when you talk

of people or of you that I can

see here everyone who is here right?

that is exposed at least the people do not

will be able to handle everything

We can handle all of them.

the demands of others, but

willing to at least realize that the pain

from the other

It’s important that you account and yes.

when you understand it

you can change now know I’m

in the course of art history still

this history of art course he

is being coordinated by a woman

mother who understands all these

Intricacies of the bar

and you see that it ‘s another

You realize this is another idea.

of course of management

when you propose to at least

understand what the other feels if I do not

I’m a specialist of nothing.

I hope to be one day but I speak of one

painful experience because so I

I have here but there are millions of siblings.

my new Dutch mother who did not

You know what it is in this place that you do not know.

What can he do to be in that place?

that we have a university, I’m

talking about new people who are

completely committed to this

profile that is not willing to propose

some discussion that adds this guy

Because I’m here, I joined the

profile

I get beaten up if I say that

I live

I do not know about Botafogo. You all go.

to believe

Sat then, so what do I think?

we must create and if this

difference the concept of community

sensitize by the pain of the other

if you choose yes to discuss the

basic education so that this face in the

his profile comes here that he does not

need to be molded inside a

standard for the attack and always

sensitized by the life of the other

one of the things I could not

talking and insisting all the time is that

I am I am your wife’s hannah mother

of love in costa barros costa barros and

This makes me even easier this time.

plateau complex

my son was born there and changing a

bit the order of things

The university that I want my son is

a university that accepts this guy

it’s on

are these guys roberto litigation

sling and wilson are these guys who

were killed with 111 bullet

lost, who’s going to do a university?

What do I want for my son?

we can not ignore this

five mothers who lost their children there

You can not ignore it

We are a university part of the

society and the university that I want

that my son is a university that

he is here and not there I do not want

cry more for a brother

I do not want to cry any more for one with one.

Mother because the university that I want

the university that is willing to

discuss the relationship of these guys

We also stay, he ‘s a lecturer.

it also makes sense to speak

then so that’s what I want I

I wanted to share with you

The university that I want to go to mine

children is a university 5th year

profiles

the university that sensitizes itself to a

university that is willing to

less discuss this issue and I speak

of people

me and only you and everyone

This university I want for him

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