how to stop being your own worst enemy so I got a great question from one of my
so I got a great question from one of my
so I got a great question from one of my newsletter subscribers Anna who wrote in
newsletter subscribers Anna who wrote in
newsletter subscribers Anna who wrote in to say you know she has his business
to say you know she has his business
to say you know she has his business she’s trying to get started but she
she’s trying to get started but she
she’s trying to get started but she she’s constantly shooting herself in the
she’s constantly shooting herself in the
she’s constantly shooting herself in the foot she she’s afraid and she
foot she she’s afraid and she
foot she she’s afraid and she self-sabotage and she’s her own worst
self-sabotage and she’s her own worst
self-sabotage and she’s her own worst enemy she wants to know what can I do
enemy she wants to know what can I do
enemy she wants to know what can I do how do I solve this problem so first of
how do I solve this problem so first of
how do I solve this problem so first of all I an that great question and I want
all I an that great question and I want
all I an that great question and I want you to know that you’re not alone okay
you to know that you’re not alone okay
you to know that you’re not alone okay people do not wake up every day super
people do not wake up every day super
people do not wake up every day super excited super motivated ready to tackle
excited super motivated ready to tackle
excited super motivated ready to tackle on any fear you know some people want
on any fear you know some people want
on any fear you know some people want you to believe that but it’s not true
you to believe that but it’s not true
you to believe that but it’s not true nobody it’s always that confident we all
nobody it’s always that confident we all
nobody it’s always that confident we all have our moments of crisis we all at
have our moments of crisis we all at
have our moments of crisis we all at some point self-sabotage we all are
some point self-sabotage we all are
some point self-sabotage we all are afraid of things as a result don’t take
afraid of things as a result don’t take
afraid of things as a result don’t take action on it this is totally normal
action on it this is totally normal
action on it this is totally normal everybody goes through it
everybody goes through it
everybody goes through it you know you have the only one going
you know you have the only one going
you know you have the only one going through this so know that now how can
through this so know that now how can
through this so know that now how can you get beyond it because you don’t want
you get beyond it because you don’t want
you get beyond it because you don’t want to be at the point where it’s constant
to be at the point where it’s constant
to be at the point where it’s constant and it just holds you back from doing
and it just holds you back from doing
and it just holds you back from doing something important with your life okay
something important with your life okay
something important with your life okay you have to let fear be a counselor but
you have to let fear be a counselor but
you have to let fear be a counselor but not a jailer let it get you to the point
not a jailer let it get you to the point
not a jailer let it get you to the point where it makes you worried and makes you
where it makes you worried and makes you
where it makes you worried and makes you heartbeat it makes you sweat it makes
heartbeat it makes you sweat it makes
heartbeat it makes you sweat it makes you stress out but you can still move
you stress out but you can still move
you stress out but you can still move forward with whatever your goal is so
forward with whatever your goal is so
forward with whatever your goal is so here are three tips for you okay number
here are three tips for you okay number
here are three tips for you okay number one know where the magic is I had this
one know where the magic is I had this
one know where the magic is I had this great shirt that says your comfort zone
great shirt that says your comfort zone
great shirt that says your comfort zone and then where the magic happens you
and then where the magic happens you
and then where the magic happens you know let me I’m gonna find it I’m gonna
know let me I’m gonna find it I’m gonna
know let me I’m gonna find it I’m gonna find my shirt here here’s my shirt okay
find my shirt here here’s my shirt okay
find my shirt here here’s my shirt okay I love this shirt maybe a little
I love this shirt maybe a little
I love this shirt maybe a little wrinkled from the full let me come in
wrinkled from the full let me come in
wrinkled from the full let me come in here so your comfort zone where the
here so your comfort zone where the
here so your comfort zone where the magic happens this is important and this
magic happens this is important and this
magic happens this is important and this is what this is what I will tell myself
is what this is what I will tell myself
is what this is what I will tell myself right if there’s something that I want
right if there’s something that I want
right if there’s something that I want to do that I’m a little scared of that’s
to do that I’m a little scared of that’s
to do that I’m a little scared of that’s it I remind myself about right you have
it I remind myself about right you have
it I remind myself about right you have to step out of your comfort zone to
to step out of your comfort zone to
to step out of your comfort zone to achieve something great right if you
achieve something great right if you
achieve something great right if you just stay in your comfort zone it’s safe
just stay in your comfort zone it’s safe
just stay in your comfort zone it’s safe its warm its cozy there’s no risk
its warm its cozy there’s no risk
its warm its cozy there’s no risk there’s no fear you’re just gonna get
there’s no fear you’re just gonna get
there’s no fear you’re just gonna get the same results that you always get are
the same results that you always get are
the same results that you always get are you happy with your life right now are
you happy with your life right now are
you happy with your life right now are you happy
you happy
you happy with the results you’re getting you know
with the results you’re getting you know
with the results you’re getting you know if you are than great then just stay
if you are than great then just stay
if you are than great then just stay there but if you’re not then you have to
there but if you’re not then you have to
there but if you’re not then you have to stretch you have to step outside your
stretch you have to step outside your
stretch you have to step outside your comfort zone you have to do things that
comfort zone you have to do things that
comfort zone you have to do things that you’re not comfortable with yet that
you’re not comfortable with yet that
you’re not comfortable with yet that you’re afraid of it’s something new
you’re afraid of it’s something new
you’re afraid of it’s something new right and for me as scary as that is
right and for me as scary as that is
right and for me as scary as that is it’s also exciting it’s also a chance to
it’s also exciting it’s also a chance to
it’s also exciting it’s also a chance to learn and to grow and if you’re not
learn and to grow and if you’re not
learn and to grow and if you’re not continually challenging and growing then
continually challenging and growing then
continually challenging and growing then then I don’t know life stops being
then I don’t know life stops being
then I don’t know life stops being interesting and rewarding so remind
interesting and rewarding so remind
interesting and rewarding so remind yourself it does it helps me remind
yourself it does it helps me remind
yourself it does it helps me remind yourself that to achieve something great
yourself that to achieve something great
yourself that to achieve something great you are going to have to step outside
you are going to have to step outside
you are going to have to step outside your comfort zone number two remember
your comfort zone number two remember
your comfort zone number two remember why you’re doing this remember why you
why you’re doing this remember why you
why you’re doing this remember why you started your business so you didn’t
started your business so you didn’t
started your business so you didn’t start a business just to make money like
start a business just to make money like
start a business just to make money like if that’s the only reason why it’s not
if that’s the only reason why it’s not
if that’s the only reason why it’s not gonna work you’re gonna you’re gonna
gonna work you’re gonna you’re gonna
gonna work you’re gonna you’re gonna quit on it when times get really tough
quit on it when times get really tough
quit on it when times get really tough you realize you know what this business
you realize you know what this business
you realize you know what this business isn’t what I thought it was they’re
isn’t what I thought it was they’re
isn’t what I thought it was they’re gonna drop it you have to have a bigger
gonna drop it you have to have a bigger
gonna drop it you have to have a bigger reason for starting this business maybe
reason for starting this business maybe
reason for starting this business maybe you’re starting it because because of
you’re starting it because because of
you’re starting it because because of your son maybe you’re started because of
your son maybe you’re started because of
your son maybe you’re started because of your mom maybe you’re started because
your mom maybe you’re started because
your mom maybe you’re started because you want to have an impact in this
you want to have an impact in this
you want to have an impact in this certain market maybe you’re started
certain market maybe you’re started
certain market maybe you’re started because whatever your reason is like you
because whatever your reason is like you
because whatever your reason is like you have to have a reason right you have to
have to have a reason right you have to
have to have a reason right you have to have a reason for starting this business
have a reason for starting this business
have a reason for starting this business and remember why you start it has to be
and remember why you start it has to be
and remember why you start it has to be powerful because that reason is what
powerful because that reason is what
powerful because that reason is what gets you through if you don’t have that
gets you through if you don’t have that
gets you through if you don’t have that reason you’re gonna quit you have to be
reason you’re gonna quit you have to be
reason you’re gonna quit you have to be a little bit crazy to be an entrepreneur
a little bit crazy to be an entrepreneur
a little bit crazy to be an entrepreneur to get through all that other crap all
to get through all that other crap all
to get through all that other crap all the hard times you have to be a little
the hard times you have to be a little
the hard times you have to be a little bit crazy because a normal sane logical
bit crazy because a normal sane logical
bit crazy because a normal sane logical person would give up would stop because
person would give up would stop because
person would give up would stop because it’s too hard so you have to have that
it’s too hard so you have to have that
it’s too hard so you have to have that driving reason and so when you have a
driving reason and so when you have a
driving reason and so when you have a tough challenging time think back like
tough challenging time think back like
tough challenging time think back like why am I doing this
why am I doing this
why am I doing this what’s my main reason for starting this
what’s my main reason for starting this
what’s my main reason for starting this business and if you can tap into that it
business and if you can tap into that it
business and if you can tap into that it will help you get over that fear that
will help you get over that fear that
will help you get over that fear that you’re facing and I sincerely hope that
you’re facing and I sincerely hope that
you’re facing and I sincerely hope that you have that powerful reason if not
you have that powerful reason if not
you have that powerful reason if not start a business where you do have a
start a business where you do have a
start a business where you do have a powerful reason and number three is is
powerful reason and number three is is
powerful reason and number three is is practice so
anytime you do something for the first
anytime you do something for the first time it’s scary it’s nerve-racking it’s
time it’s scary it’s nerve-racking it’s
time it’s scary it’s nerve-racking it’s stressful you’re gonna freak out the
stressful you’re gonna freak out the
stressful you’re gonna freak out the thing is after you do it the first time
thing is after you do it the first time
thing is after you do it the first time and you practice it it becomes easier
and you practice it it becomes easier
and you practice it it becomes easier let me give you a couple examples I saw
let me give you a couple examples I saw
let me give you a couple examples I saw these videos the first videos that I did
these videos the first videos that I did
these videos the first videos that I did they sucked I was I was a basket case I
they sucked I was I was a basket case I
they sucked I was I was a basket case I was nervous I was sweating I took me a
was nervous I was sweating I took me a
was nervous I was sweating I took me a whole day to do one video nobody could
whole day to do one video nobody could
whole day to do one video nobody could be in the room with me I had to be alone
be in the room with me I had to be alone
be in the room with me I had to be alone in the house I had to set it up I had to
in the house I had to set it up I had to
in the house I had to set it up I had to have everything ready
have everything ready
have everything ready I was anal you know it was it was just I
I was anal you know it was it was just I
I was anal you know it was it was just I was so nervous and stressed out and now
was so nervous and stressed out and now
was so nervous and stressed out and now you know a thousand videos later it
you know a thousand videos later it
you know a thousand videos later it doesn’t matter it was in a room it
doesn’t matter it was in a room it
doesn’t matter it was in a room it doesn’t matter what the setup is I look
doesn’t matter what the setup is I look
doesn’t matter what the setup is I look at the question I get in front of the
at the question I get in front of the
at the question I get in front of the camera I think about it and I answer
camera I think about it and I answer
camera I think about it and I answer right it’s pretty fast it’s only gone
right it’s pretty fast it’s only gone
right it’s pretty fast it’s only gone that way because because I practice
that way because because I practice
that way because because I practice because I got better I remember one of
because I got better I remember one of
because I got better I remember one of my most stressful moments was I was
my most stressful moments was I was
my most stressful moments was I was doing a presentation in Brunei I was
doing a presentation in Brunei I was
doing a presentation in Brunei I was asked to go speak in Brunei to a group
asked to go speak in Brunei to a group
asked to go speak in Brunei to a group of entrepreneurs I don’t know how many
of entrepreneurs I don’t know how many
of entrepreneurs I don’t know how many people in room huge room is being
people in room huge room is being
people in room huge room is being televised and they flew me you know
televised and they flew me you know
televised and they flew me you know halfway around the world to come and
halfway around the world to come and
halfway around the world to come and talk to them and I was nervous and it
talk to them and I was nervous and it
talk to them and I was nervous and it was my first big international speaking
was my first big international speaking
was my first big international speaking gig and I kind of hoped you know like
gig and I kind of hoped you know like
gig and I kind of hoped you know like the day before they would call me and
the day before they would call me and
the day before they would call me and say hey Evan it’s off don’t worry about
say hey Evan it’s off don’t worry about
say hey Evan it’s off don’t worry about it you don’t have to come you know how
it you don’t have to come you know how
it you don’t have to come you know how you kind of you get so nervous that you
you kind of you get so nervous that you
you kind of you get so nervous that you secretly hope they’re gonna they’re
secretly hope they’re gonna they’re
secretly hope they’re gonna they’re gonna cancel on you so you don’t have to
gonna cancel on you so you don’t have to
gonna cancel on you so you don’t have to go do it
go do it
go do it anyway they didn’t cancel I had to go
anyway they didn’t cancel I had to go
anyway they didn’t cancel I had to go and I was really nervous and I got up
and I was really nervous and I got up
and I was really nervous and I got up when I did it no it was it was pretty
when I did it no it was it was pretty
when I did it no it was it was pretty good you know I did an okay job I didn’t
good you know I did an okay job I didn’t
good you know I did an okay job I didn’t I didn’t faint you know didn’t pass out
I didn’t faint you know didn’t pass out
I didn’t faint you know didn’t pass out nothing super embarrassing they loved it
nothing super embarrassing they loved it
nothing super embarrassing they loved it and now getting up on stage is easier
and now getting up on stage is easier
and now getting up on stage is easier right because I’ve been through it so
right because I’ve been through it so
right because I’ve been through it so your comfort zone stretches and once you
your comfort zone stretches and once you
your comfort zone stretches and once you stretch it it doesn’t go back down it
stretch it it doesn’t go back down it
stretch it it doesn’t go back down it stays out and you something new it
stays out and you something new it
stays out and you something new it stretches and stretches and everything
stretches and stretches and everything
stretches and stretches and everything else becomes a little bit easier so
else becomes a little bit easier so
else becomes a little bit easier so whatever you’re trying to do whatever
whatever you’re trying to do whatever
whatever you’re trying to do whatever challenge you’re facing right now you
challenge you’re facing right now you
challenge you’re facing right now you get started do baby steps you don’t have
get started do baby steps you don’t have
get started do baby steps you don’t have to do like this huge ginormous step do a
to do like this huge ginormous step do a
to do like this huge ginormous step do a little step as you do that you’ll be
little step as you do that you’ll be
little step as you do that you’ll be able to do that step again with
able to do that step again with
able to do that step again with and do the next step in the next step in
and do the next step in the next step in
and do the next step in the next step in the next step and each time you’re
the next step and each time you’re
the next step and each time you’re stretching yourself a little bit and
stretching yourself a little bit and
stretching yourself a little bit and gaining confidence to know that you
gaining confidence to know that you
gaining confidence to know that you could do it again you know I look back
could do it again you know I look back
could do it again you know I look back and and I enjoy speaking so much and
and and I enjoy speaking so much and
and and I enjoy speaking so much and enjoy me an entrepreneur so much and I
enjoy me an entrepreneur so much and I
enjoy me an entrepreneur so much and I as much as I wished at that moment like
as much as I wished at that moment like
as much as I wished at that moment like the day before my presentation that they
the day before my presentation that they
the day before my presentation that they call and cancel I’m so grateful that
call and cancel I’m so grateful that
call and cancel I’m so grateful that they didn’t cancel and that I took that
they didn’t cancel and that I took that
they didn’t cancel and that I took that opportunity because I’ve gotten so much
opportunity because I’ve gotten so much
opportunity because I’ve gotten so much joy and happiness from speaking and a
joy and happiness from speaking and a
joy and happiness from speaking and a lot of it came out of that one moment if
lot of it came out of that one moment if
lot of it came out of that one moment if it didn’t happen I I’d be I wouldn’t
it didn’t happen I I’d be I wouldn’t
it didn’t happen I I’d be I wouldn’t have as big a comfort zone I wouldn’t be
have as big a comfort zone I wouldn’t be
have as big a comfort zone I wouldn’t be doing as much stuff as I love doing
doing as much stuff as I love doing
doing as much stuff as I love doing right now so you know it’s totally
right now so you know it’s totally
right now so you know it’s totally understandable that you’re afraid and
understandable that you’re afraid and
understandable that you’re afraid and that you’re self sabotaging but remember
that you’re self sabotaging but remember
that you’re self sabotaging but remember those things remember remember those key
those things remember remember those key
those things remember remember those key things and keep going you’re not alone
things and keep going you’re not alone
things and keep going you’re not alone in this find a way find your deep
in this find a way find your deep
in this find a way find your deep meaning for why you’re starting this
meaning for why you’re starting this
meaning for why you’re starting this business take your practice steps take
business take your practice steps take
business take your practice steps take your little steps and every day you know
your little steps and every day you know
your little steps and every day you know you’re fighting the battle you’ll get
you’re fighting the battle you’ll get
you’re fighting the battle you’ll get there
there
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