Your Own Worst Enemy – How to stop being your own worst enemy

how to stop being your own worst enemy

how to stop being your own worst enemy so I got a great question from one of my

so I got a great question from one of my

so I got a great question from one of my newsletter subscribers Anna who wrote in

newsletter subscribers Anna who wrote in

newsletter subscribers Anna who wrote in to say you know she has his business

to say you know she has his business

to say you know she has his business she’s trying to get started but she

she’s trying to get started but she

she’s trying to get started but she she’s constantly shooting herself in the

she’s constantly shooting herself in the

she’s constantly shooting herself in the foot she she’s afraid and she

foot she she’s afraid and she

foot she she’s afraid and she self-sabotage and she’s her own worst

self-sabotage and she’s her own worst

self-sabotage and she’s her own worst enemy she wants to know what can I do

enemy she wants to know what can I do

enemy she wants to know what can I do how do I solve this problem so first of

how do I solve this problem so first of

how do I solve this problem so first of all I an that great question and I want

all I an that great question and I want

all I an that great question and I want you to know that you’re not alone okay

you to know that you’re not alone okay

you to know that you’re not alone okay people do not wake up every day super

people do not wake up every day super

people do not wake up every day super excited super motivated ready to tackle

excited super motivated ready to tackle

excited super motivated ready to tackle on any fear you know some people want

on any fear you know some people want

on any fear you know some people want you to believe that but it’s not true

you to believe that but it’s not true

you to believe that but it’s not true nobody it’s always that confident we all

nobody it’s always that confident we all

nobody it’s always that confident we all have our moments of crisis we all at

have our moments of crisis we all at

have our moments of crisis we all at some point self-sabotage we all are

some point self-sabotage we all are

some point self-sabotage we all are afraid of things as a result don’t take

afraid of things as a result don’t take

afraid of things as a result don’t take action on it this is totally normal

action on it this is totally normal

action on it this is totally normal everybody goes through it

everybody goes through it

everybody goes through it you know you have the only one going

you know you have the only one going

you know you have the only one going through this so know that now how can

through this so know that now how can

through this so know that now how can you get beyond it because you don’t want

you get beyond it because you don’t want

you get beyond it because you don’t want to be at the point where it’s constant

to be at the point where it’s constant

to be at the point where it’s constant and it just holds you back from doing

and it just holds you back from doing

and it just holds you back from doing something important with your life okay

something important with your life okay

something important with your life okay you have to let fear be a counselor but

you have to let fear be a counselor but

you have to let fear be a counselor but not a jailer let it get you to the point

not a jailer let it get you to the point

not a jailer let it get you to the point where it makes you worried and makes you

where it makes you worried and makes you

where it makes you worried and makes you heartbeat it makes you sweat it makes

heartbeat it makes you sweat it makes

heartbeat it makes you sweat it makes you stress out but you can still move

you stress out but you can still move

you stress out but you can still move forward with whatever your goal is so

forward with whatever your goal is so

forward with whatever your goal is so here are three tips for you okay number

here are three tips for you okay number

here are three tips for you okay number one know where the magic is I had this

one know where the magic is I had this

one know where the magic is I had this great shirt that says your comfort zone

great shirt that says your comfort zone

great shirt that says your comfort zone and then where the magic happens you

and then where the magic happens you

and then where the magic happens you know let me I’m gonna find it I’m gonna

know let me I’m gonna find it I’m gonna

know let me I’m gonna find it I’m gonna find my shirt here here’s my shirt okay

find my shirt here here’s my shirt okay

find my shirt here here’s my shirt okay I love this shirt maybe a little

I love this shirt maybe a little

I love this shirt maybe a little wrinkled from the full let me come in

wrinkled from the full let me come in

wrinkled from the full let me come in here so your comfort zone where the

here so your comfort zone where the

here so your comfort zone where the magic happens this is important and this

magic happens this is important and this

magic happens this is important and this is what this is what I will tell myself

is what this is what I will tell myself

is what this is what I will tell myself right if there’s something that I want

right if there’s something that I want

right if there’s something that I want to do that I’m a little scared of that’s

to do that I’m a little scared of that’s

to do that I’m a little scared of that’s it I remind myself about right you have

it I remind myself about right you have

it I remind myself about right you have to step out of your comfort zone to

to step out of your comfort zone to

to step out of your comfort zone to achieve something great right if you

achieve something great right if you

achieve something great right if you just stay in your comfort zone it’s safe

just stay in your comfort zone it’s safe

just stay in your comfort zone it’s safe its warm its cozy there’s no risk

its warm its cozy there’s no risk

its warm its cozy there’s no risk there’s no fear you’re just gonna get

there’s no fear you’re just gonna get

there’s no fear you’re just gonna get the same results that you always get are

the same results that you always get are

the same results that you always get are you happy with your life right now are

you happy with your life right now are

you happy with your life right now are you happy

you happy

you happy with the results you’re getting you know

with the results you’re getting you know

with the results you’re getting you know if you are than great then just stay

if you are than great then just stay

if you are than great then just stay there but if you’re not then you have to

there but if you’re not then you have to

there but if you’re not then you have to stretch you have to step outside your

stretch you have to step outside your

stretch you have to step outside your comfort zone you have to do things that

comfort zone you have to do things that

comfort zone you have to do things that you’re not comfortable with yet that

you’re not comfortable with yet that

you’re not comfortable with yet that you’re afraid of it’s something new

you’re afraid of it’s something new

you’re afraid of it’s something new right and for me as scary as that is

right and for me as scary as that is

right and for me as scary as that is it’s also exciting it’s also a chance to

it’s also exciting it’s also a chance to

it’s also exciting it’s also a chance to learn and to grow and if you’re not

learn and to grow and if you’re not

learn and to grow and if you’re not continually challenging and growing then

continually challenging and growing then

continually challenging and growing then then I don’t know life stops being

then I don’t know life stops being

then I don’t know life stops being interesting and rewarding so remind

interesting and rewarding so remind

interesting and rewarding so remind yourself it does it helps me remind

yourself it does it helps me remind

yourself it does it helps me remind yourself that to achieve something great

yourself that to achieve something great

yourself that to achieve something great you are going to have to step outside

you are going to have to step outside

you are going to have to step outside your comfort zone number two remember

your comfort zone number two remember

your comfort zone number two remember why you’re doing this remember why you

why you’re doing this remember why you

why you’re doing this remember why you started your business so you didn’t

started your business so you didn’t

started your business so you didn’t start a business just to make money like

start a business just to make money like

start a business just to make money like if that’s the only reason why it’s not

if that’s the only reason why it’s not

if that’s the only reason why it’s not gonna work you’re gonna you’re gonna

gonna work you’re gonna you’re gonna

gonna work you’re gonna you’re gonna quit on it when times get really tough

quit on it when times get really tough

quit on it when times get really tough you realize you know what this business

you realize you know what this business

you realize you know what this business isn’t what I thought it was they’re

isn’t what I thought it was they’re

isn’t what I thought it was they’re gonna drop it you have to have a bigger

gonna drop it you have to have a bigger

gonna drop it you have to have a bigger reason for starting this business maybe

reason for starting this business maybe

reason for starting this business maybe you’re starting it because because of

you’re starting it because because of

you’re starting it because because of your son maybe you’re started because of

your son maybe you’re started because of

your son maybe you’re started because of your mom maybe you’re started because

your mom maybe you’re started because

your mom maybe you’re started because you want to have an impact in this

you want to have an impact in this

you want to have an impact in this certain market maybe you’re started

certain market maybe you’re started

certain market maybe you’re started because whatever your reason is like you

because whatever your reason is like you

because whatever your reason is like you have to have a reason right you have to

have to have a reason right you have to

have to have a reason right you have to have a reason for starting this business

have a reason for starting this business

have a reason for starting this business and remember why you start it has to be

and remember why you start it has to be

and remember why you start it has to be powerful because that reason is what

powerful because that reason is what

powerful because that reason is what gets you through if you don’t have that

gets you through if you don’t have that

gets you through if you don’t have that reason you’re gonna quit you have to be

reason you’re gonna quit you have to be

reason you’re gonna quit you have to be a little bit crazy to be an entrepreneur

a little bit crazy to be an entrepreneur

a little bit crazy to be an entrepreneur to get through all that other crap all

to get through all that other crap all

to get through all that other crap all the hard times you have to be a little

the hard times you have to be a little

the hard times you have to be a little bit crazy because a normal sane logical

bit crazy because a normal sane logical

bit crazy because a normal sane logical person would give up would stop because

person would give up would stop because

person would give up would stop because it’s too hard so you have to have that

it’s too hard so you have to have that

it’s too hard so you have to have that driving reason and so when you have a

driving reason and so when you have a

driving reason and so when you have a tough challenging time think back like

tough challenging time think back like

tough challenging time think back like why am I doing this

why am I doing this

why am I doing this what’s my main reason for starting this

what’s my main reason for starting this

what’s my main reason for starting this business and if you can tap into that it

business and if you can tap into that it

business and if you can tap into that it will help you get over that fear that

will help you get over that fear that

will help you get over that fear that you’re facing and I sincerely hope that

you’re facing and I sincerely hope that

you’re facing and I sincerely hope that you have that powerful reason if not

you have that powerful reason if not

you have that powerful reason if not start a business where you do have a

start a business where you do have a

start a business where you do have a powerful reason and number three is is

powerful reason and number three is is

powerful reason and number three is is practice so

anytime you do something for the first

anytime you do something for the first time it’s scary it’s nerve-racking it’s

time it’s scary it’s nerve-racking it’s

time it’s scary it’s nerve-racking it’s stressful you’re gonna freak out the

stressful you’re gonna freak out the

stressful you’re gonna freak out the thing is after you do it the first time

thing is after you do it the first time

thing is after you do it the first time and you practice it it becomes easier

and you practice it it becomes easier

and you practice it it becomes easier let me give you a couple examples I saw

let me give you a couple examples I saw

let me give you a couple examples I saw these videos the first videos that I did

these videos the first videos that I did

these videos the first videos that I did they sucked I was I was a basket case I

they sucked I was I was a basket case I

they sucked I was I was a basket case I was nervous I was sweating I took me a

was nervous I was sweating I took me a

was nervous I was sweating I took me a whole day to do one video nobody could

whole day to do one video nobody could

whole day to do one video nobody could be in the room with me I had to be alone

be in the room with me I had to be alone

be in the room with me I had to be alone in the house I had to set it up I had to

in the house I had to set it up I had to

in the house I had to set it up I had to have everything ready

have everything ready

have everything ready I was anal you know it was it was just I

I was anal you know it was it was just I

I was anal you know it was it was just I was so nervous and stressed out and now

was so nervous and stressed out and now

was so nervous and stressed out and now you know a thousand videos later it

you know a thousand videos later it

you know a thousand videos later it doesn’t matter it was in a room it

doesn’t matter it was in a room it

doesn’t matter it was in a room it doesn’t matter what the setup is I look

doesn’t matter what the setup is I look

doesn’t matter what the setup is I look at the question I get in front of the

at the question I get in front of the

at the question I get in front of the camera I think about it and I answer

camera I think about it and I answer

camera I think about it and I answer right it’s pretty fast it’s only gone

right it’s pretty fast it’s only gone

right it’s pretty fast it’s only gone that way because because I practice

that way because because I practice

that way because because I practice because I got better I remember one of

because I got better I remember one of

because I got better I remember one of my most stressful moments was I was

my most stressful moments was I was

my most stressful moments was I was doing a presentation in Brunei I was

doing a presentation in Brunei I was

doing a presentation in Brunei I was asked to go speak in Brunei to a group

asked to go speak in Brunei to a group

asked to go speak in Brunei to a group of entrepreneurs I don’t know how many

of entrepreneurs I don’t know how many

of entrepreneurs I don’t know how many people in room huge room is being

people in room huge room is being

people in room huge room is being televised and they flew me you know

televised and they flew me you know

televised and they flew me you know halfway around the world to come and

halfway around the world to come and

halfway around the world to come and talk to them and I was nervous and it

talk to them and I was nervous and it

talk to them and I was nervous and it was my first big international speaking

was my first big international speaking

was my first big international speaking gig and I kind of hoped you know like

gig and I kind of hoped you know like

gig and I kind of hoped you know like the day before they would call me and

the day before they would call me and

the day before they would call me and say hey Evan it’s off don’t worry about

say hey Evan it’s off don’t worry about

say hey Evan it’s off don’t worry about it you don’t have to come you know how

it you don’t have to come you know how

it you don’t have to come you know how you kind of you get so nervous that you

you kind of you get so nervous that you

you kind of you get so nervous that you secretly hope they’re gonna they’re

secretly hope they’re gonna they’re

secretly hope they’re gonna they’re gonna cancel on you so you don’t have to

gonna cancel on you so you don’t have to

gonna cancel on you so you don’t have to go do it

go do it

go do it anyway they didn’t cancel I had to go

anyway they didn’t cancel I had to go

anyway they didn’t cancel I had to go and I was really nervous and I got up

and I was really nervous and I got up

and I was really nervous and I got up when I did it no it was it was pretty

when I did it no it was it was pretty

when I did it no it was it was pretty good you know I did an okay job I didn’t

good you know I did an okay job I didn’t

good you know I did an okay job I didn’t I didn’t faint you know didn’t pass out

I didn’t faint you know didn’t pass out

I didn’t faint you know didn’t pass out nothing super embarrassing they loved it

nothing super embarrassing they loved it

nothing super embarrassing they loved it and now getting up on stage is easier

and now getting up on stage is easier

and now getting up on stage is easier right because I’ve been through it so

right because I’ve been through it so

right because I’ve been through it so your comfort zone stretches and once you

your comfort zone stretches and once you

your comfort zone stretches and once you stretch it it doesn’t go back down it

stretch it it doesn’t go back down it

stretch it it doesn’t go back down it stays out and you something new it

stays out and you something new it

stays out and you something new it stretches and stretches and everything

stretches and stretches and everything

stretches and stretches and everything else becomes a little bit easier so

else becomes a little bit easier so

else becomes a little bit easier so whatever you’re trying to do whatever

whatever you’re trying to do whatever

whatever you’re trying to do whatever challenge you’re facing right now you

challenge you’re facing right now you

challenge you’re facing right now you get started do baby steps you don’t have

get started do baby steps you don’t have

get started do baby steps you don’t have to do like this huge ginormous step do a

to do like this huge ginormous step do a

to do like this huge ginormous step do a little step as you do that you’ll be

little step as you do that you’ll be

little step as you do that you’ll be able to do that step again with

able to do that step again with

able to do that step again with and do the next step in the next step in

and do the next step in the next step in

and do the next step in the next step in the next step and each time you’re

the next step and each time you’re

the next step and each time you’re stretching yourself a little bit and

stretching yourself a little bit and

stretching yourself a little bit and gaining confidence to know that you

gaining confidence to know that you

gaining confidence to know that you could do it again you know I look back

could do it again you know I look back

could do it again you know I look back and and I enjoy speaking so much and

and and I enjoy speaking so much and

and and I enjoy speaking so much and enjoy me an entrepreneur so much and I

enjoy me an entrepreneur so much and I

enjoy me an entrepreneur so much and I as much as I wished at that moment like

as much as I wished at that moment like

as much as I wished at that moment like the day before my presentation that they

the day before my presentation that they

the day before my presentation that they call and cancel I’m so grateful that

call and cancel I’m so grateful that

call and cancel I’m so grateful that they didn’t cancel and that I took that

they didn’t cancel and that I took that

they didn’t cancel and that I took that opportunity because I’ve gotten so much

opportunity because I’ve gotten so much

opportunity because I’ve gotten so much joy and happiness from speaking and a

joy and happiness from speaking and a

joy and happiness from speaking and a lot of it came out of that one moment if

lot of it came out of that one moment if

lot of it came out of that one moment if it didn’t happen I I’d be I wouldn’t

it didn’t happen I I’d be I wouldn’t

it didn’t happen I I’d be I wouldn’t have as big a comfort zone I wouldn’t be

have as big a comfort zone I wouldn’t be

have as big a comfort zone I wouldn’t be doing as much stuff as I love doing

doing as much stuff as I love doing

doing as much stuff as I love doing right now so you know it’s totally

right now so you know it’s totally

right now so you know it’s totally understandable that you’re afraid and

understandable that you’re afraid and

understandable that you’re afraid and that you’re self sabotaging but remember

that you’re self sabotaging but remember

that you’re self sabotaging but remember those things remember remember those key

those things remember remember those key

those things remember remember those key things and keep going you’re not alone

things and keep going you’re not alone

things and keep going you’re not alone in this find a way find your deep

in this find a way find your deep

in this find a way find your deep meaning for why you’re starting this

meaning for why you’re starting this

meaning for why you’re starting this business take your practice steps take

business take your practice steps take

business take your practice steps take your little steps and every day you know

your little steps and every day you know

your little steps and every day you know you’re fighting the battle you’ll get

you’re fighting the battle you’ll get

you’re fighting the battle you’ll get there

there

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