[Music] [Applause]
I’m the mother of four sons and the wife
I’m the mother of four sons and the wife of one husband together we have managed
of one husband together we have managed
of one husband together we have managed to stay married for 28 years which feels
to stay married for 28 years which feels
to stay married for 28 years which feels like 280 years we have loved I know no
like 280 years we have loved I know no
like 280 years we have loved I know no one feels this way we’ve loved and we’ve
one feels this way we’ve loved and we’ve
one feels this way we’ve loved and we’ve lost and we’ve loved and we flows but
lost and we’ve loved and we flows but
lost and we’ve loved and we flows but we’ve managed to carry on and today we
we’ve managed to carry on and today we
we’ve managed to carry on and today we are working our hardest at rocking the
are working our hardest at rocking the
are working our hardest at rocking the gray but I dye my hair gray to look
gray but I dye my hair gray to look
gray but I dye my hair gray to look older so how do you go from this to this
older so how do you go from this to this
older so how do you go from this to this to this why would you want to know wait
to this why would you want to know wait
to this why would you want to know wait wait wait in a culture where there’s so
wait wait in a culture where there’s so
wait wait in a culture where there’s so much divorce and you’re heroes and
much divorce and you’re heroes and
much divorce and you’re heroes and sports and Hollywood dispose of their
sports and Hollywood dispose of their
sports and Hollywood dispose of their marriages as swiftly as they upgrade
marriages as swiftly as they upgrade
marriages as swiftly as they upgrade their smartphones but I have good news
their smartphones but I have good news
their smartphones but I have good news after 35 years of writing about
after 35 years of writing about
after 35 years of writing about relationships and some 7,000 interviews
relationships and some 7,000 interviews
relationships and some 7,000 interviews exploring the mysteries of why I love
exploring the mysteries of why I love
exploring the mysteries of why I love less I do know that most people want
less I do know that most people want
less I do know that most people want long-term relationships even the
long-term relationships even the
long-term relationships even the Millennials so how do you make that
Millennials so how do you make that
Millennials so how do you make that happen first off we all must embrace the
happen first off we all must embrace the
happen first off we all must embrace the power of the ordinary there’s real power
power of the ordinary there’s real power
power of the ordinary there’s real power in the ordinary in the reliability of a
in the ordinary in the reliability of a
in the ordinary in the reliability of a routine and the predictability of a
routine and the predictability of a
routine and the predictability of a routine yet it’s often the ordinary the
routine yet it’s often the ordinary the
routine yet it’s often the ordinary the predictable that make people want to
predictable that make people want to
predictable that make people want to bolt from their relationships this one
bolt from their relationships this one
bolt from their relationships this one these people are our safe harbor they
these people are our safe harbor they
these people are our safe harbor they remain soothingly constant in a world
remain soothingly constant in a world
remain soothingly constant in a world that is chaotic uncertain and insecure
that is chaotic uncertain and insecure
that is chaotic uncertain and insecure these are the people that are our
these are the people that are our
these are the people that are our history holders the extraordinary is
history holders the extraordinary is
history holders the extraordinary is fleeting
fleeting
fleeting the ordinary is the steady rudder of our
the ordinary is the steady rudder of our
the ordinary is the steady rudder of our lives I’ve had extraordinary had an
lives I’ve had extraordinary had an
lives I’ve had extraordinary had an extraordinary journalism career
extraordinary journalism career
extraordinary journalism career interviewing everybody from Yoko Ono to
interviewing everybody from Yoko Ono to
interviewing everybody from Yoko Ono to mr. Rogers not on the same day I had an
mr. Rogers not on the same day I had an
mr. Rogers not on the same day I had an extraordinary wedding like many a you on
extraordinary wedding like many a you on
extraordinary wedding like many a you on a tropical island and I were an
a tropical island and I were an
a tropical island and I were an extraordinarily tight wedding dress
extraordinarily tight wedding dress
extraordinarily tight wedding dress before the age of Spanx but the
before the age of Spanx but the
before the age of Spanx but the honeymoon is over quickly and soon too
honeymoon is over quickly and soon too
honeymoon is over quickly and soon too soon in three years we were the parents
soon in three years we were the parents
soon in three years we were the parents of four children under the age of three
of four children under the age of three
of four children under the age of three twins made that happen
twins made that happen
twins made that happen and I just remember this day 70 pounds
and I just remember this day 70 pounds
and I just remember this day 70 pounds overweight having delivered twins in my
overweight having delivered twins in my
overweight having delivered twins in my gray polyester bathrobe and I thought
gray polyester bathrobe and I thought
gray polyester bathrobe and I thought you know that can II can’t sleep
you know that can II can’t sleep
you know that can II can’t sleep euphoric stage of love is into real time
euphoric stage of love is into real time
euphoric stage of love is into real time now I’m into the grind of the ordinary
now I’m into the grind of the ordinary
now I’m into the grind of the ordinary but you know that euphoric stage of love
but you know that euphoric stage of love
but you know that euphoric stage of love it’s biologically unsustainable our
it’s biologically unsustainable our
it’s biologically unsustainable our brain chemicals that lead to attraction
brain chemicals that lead to attraction
brain chemicals that lead to attraction and can ii cant sleep euphoria that
and can ii cant sleep euphoria that
and can ii cant sleep euphoria that period only last two or three years
period only last two or three years
period only last two or three years that’s why the fourth year of marriage
that’s why the fourth year of marriage
that’s why the fourth year of marriage is one of the most popular junctures for
is one of the most popular junctures for
is one of the most popular junctures for divorce that’s why a man I interviewed
divorce that’s why a man I interviewed
divorce that’s why a man I interviewed who’s constantly seeking the new and he
who’s constantly seeking the new and he
who’s constantly seeking the new and he keeps leaving the old constantly seeking
keeps leaving the old constantly seeking
keeps leaving the old constantly seeking the extraordinary because the ordinary
the extraordinary because the ordinary
the extraordinary because the ordinary is boring to him he married three
is boring to him he married three
is boring to him he married three Debbie’s I met him when he was divorcing
Debbie’s I met him when he was divorcing
Debbie’s I met him when he was divorcing his third Debbie he did not call them
his third Debbie he did not call them
his third Debbie he did not call them all Debbie there was Deb Deb R and
all Debbie there was Deb Deb R and
all Debbie there was Deb Deb R and Debbie and he had left seriously you do
Debbie and he had left seriously you do
Debbie and he had left seriously you do not want to know this man and he said
not want to know this man and he said
not want to know this man and he said you know so I was interviewing him and
you know so I was interviewing him and
you know so I was interviewing him and he said you know I don’t know I miss Deb
he said you know I don’t know I miss Deb
he said you know I don’t know I miss Deb she’s mother of my children
she’s mother of my children
she’s mother of my children you think it’s me you think I’m boring
you think it’s me you think I’m boring
you think it’s me you think I’m boring to myself said yeah buddy I think you
to myself said yeah buddy I think you
to myself said yeah buddy I think you got this one so um but I’ll take boring
got this one so um but I’ll take boring
got this one so um but I’ll take boring I don’t know but I’ll take predictable
I don’t know but I’ll take predictable
I don’t know but I’ll take predictable I’ll take the power of routine I know
I’ll take the power of routine I know
I’ll take the power of routine I know that when I go home after an evening out
that when I go home after an evening out
that when I go home after an evening out doing an event or out with my
doing an event or out with my
doing an event or out with my girlfriends now get rid of my fancy
girlfriends now get rid of my fancy
girlfriends now get rid of my fancy clothes and I’ll put on that gray
clothes and I’ll put on that gray
clothes and I’ll put on that gray polyester bathrobe maybe you have one of
polyester bathrobe maybe you have one of
polyester bathrobe maybe you have one of these and
these and
these and got those piles on it that you could
got those piles on it that you could
got those piles on it that you could just pick up and mine is splotch I’ve
just pick up and mine is splotch I’ve
just pick up and mine is splotch I’ve had it since the kids were little and
had it since the kids were little and
had it since the kids were little and it’s got peas on its Similac a little
it’s got peas on its Similac a little
it’s got peas on its Similac a little bit of tequila and I’ll come home and I
bit of tequila and I’ll come home and I
bit of tequila and I’ll come home and I know what to expect my husband of 28
know what to expect my husband of 28
know what to expect my husband of 28 years will be stretched out in his navy
years will be stretched out in his navy
years will be stretched out in his navy blue leather recliner drinking a rolling
blue leather recliner drinking a rolling
blue leather recliner drinking a rolling rock are ling-ling from a bottle
rock are ling-ling from a bottle
rock are ling-ling from a bottle watching hockey which goes on for ten
watching hockey which goes on for ten
watching hockey which goes on for ten months out of the year I hate hockey but
months out of the year I hate hockey but
months out of the year I hate hockey but I will snuggle up next to him and I’ll
I will snuggle up next to him and I’ll
I will snuggle up next to him and I’ll be so happy for this ordinary
be so happy for this ordinary
be so happy for this ordinary extraordinary life of ours you know in a
extraordinary life of ours you know in a
extraordinary life of ours you know in a long marriage and I know some of you
long marriage and I know some of you
long marriage and I know some of you know this it’s not always the roaring
know this it’s not always the roaring
know this it’s not always the roaring bonfire of romance but there’s a pilot
bonfire of romance but there’s a pilot
bonfire of romance but there’s a pilot light that burns deeply in our heart and
light that burns deeply in our heart and
light that burns deeply in our heart and our soul when I was in my 20s 40 years
our soul when I was in my 20s 40 years
our soul when I was in my 20s 40 years ago I interviewed a designer named Perry
ago I interviewed a designer named Perry
ago I interviewed a designer named Perry Ellis many of you might wear Kerry Ellis
Ellis many of you might wear Kerry Ellis
Ellis many of you might wear Kerry Ellis clothes and not realize there was a real
clothes and not realize there was a real
clothes and not realize there was a real Perry Ellis I was the fashion editor of
Perry Ellis I was the fashion editor of
Perry Ellis I was the fashion editor of the now-defunct Dallas Times Herald and
the now-defunct Dallas Times Herald and
the now-defunct Dallas Times Herald and I interviewed mr. Ellis when he was at
I interviewed mr. Ellis when he was at
I interviewed mr. Ellis when he was at the top of his game he was absolutely
the top of his game he was absolutely
the top of his game he was absolutely the most famous menswear designer in the
the most famous menswear designer in the
the most famous menswear designer in the country he was living with a man he was
country he was living with a man he was
country he was living with a man he was madly in love with they were soon to be
madly in love with they were soon to be
madly in love with they were soon to be both dead of AIDS and I said to him
both dead of AIDS and I said to him
both dead of AIDS and I said to him Perry you’re so famous
Perry you’re so famous
Perry you’re so famous what does Fame feel like to you it’s
what does Fame feel like to you it’s
what does Fame feel like to you it’s amazing you’re so famous and he said
amazing you’re so famous and he said
amazing you’re so famous and he said something to me that I’ve never
something to me that I’ve never
something to me that I’ve never forgotten he said Fame there’s nothing
forgotten he said Fame there’s nothing
forgotten he said Fame there’s nothing real about fame to me you can’t take
real about fame to me you can’t take
real about fame to me you can’t take fame to bed with you at night the only
fame to bed with you at night the only
fame to bed with you at night the only thing that matters are matters of the
thing that matters are matters of the
thing that matters are matters of the heart so speaking of the heart I’ve told
heart so speaking of the heart I’ve told
heart so speaking of the heart I’ve told you to embrace the ordinary remember to
you to embrace the ordinary remember to
you to embrace the ordinary remember to embrace each other
embrace each other
embrace each other my latest research is into sexuality and
my latest research is into sexuality and
my latest research is into sexuality and aging and I can’t tell you how inspired
aging and I can’t tell you how inspired
aging and I can’t tell you how inspired and hopeful I am I think I’m rocking the
and hopeful I am I think I’m rocking the
and hopeful I am I think I’m rocking the grey you should meet some of my hot
grey you should meet some of my hot
grey you should meet some of my hot grannies and probably you know them so I
grannies and probably you know them so I
grannies and probably you know them so I interviewed women and men in their 70s
interviewed women and men in their 70s
interviewed women and men in their 70s and 80s and 90s who’d managed to stay
and 80s and 90s who’d managed to stay
and 80s and 90s who’d managed to stay married 50 and 60 years and you know
married 50 and 60 years and you know
married 50 and 60 years and you know even though they come from different
even though they come from different
even though they come from different backgrounds and experiences they all
backgrounds and experiences they all
backgrounds and experiences they all told me that the common theme as one guy
told me that the common theme as one guy
told me that the common theme as one guy said if you’re not talking you’re not
said if you’re not talking you’re not
said if you’re not talking you’re not touching and if you’re not touch
touching and if you’re not touch
touching and if you’re not touch you’re in trouble and you know it might
you’re in trouble and you know it might
you’re in trouble and you know it might not be fifty Shades of Grey I didn’t ask
not be fifty Shades of Grey I didn’t ask
not be fifty Shades of Grey I didn’t ask a lot of questions but I do know I do
a lot of questions but I do know I do
a lot of questions but I do know I do know that there was a lot of kissing and
know that there was a lot of kissing and
know that there was a lot of kissing and cuddling and one of the greatest things
cuddling and one of the greatest things
cuddling and one of the greatest things that I found in in these relationship
that I found in in these relationship
that I found in in these relationship stories was that the couples would often
stories was that the couples would often
stories was that the couples would often just sit next to each other and hold
just sit next to each other and hold
just sit next to each other and hold hands and maybe the woman would be
hands and maybe the woman would be
hands and maybe the woman would be stroking what was left of anyway I
stroking what was left of anyway I
stroking what was left of anyway I digress
digress
digress but what I loved about it was they said
but what I loved about it was they said
but what I loved about it was they said in so many ways that intimacy is a real
in so many ways that intimacy is a real
in so many ways that intimacy is a real fuel to long-term relationships so
fuel to long-term relationships so
fuel to long-term relationships so remember to touch and to remember to
remember to touch and to remember to
remember to touch and to remember to talk and touch my favorite species my
talk and touch my favorite species my
talk and touch my favorite species my favorite group in this older generation
favorite group in this older generation
favorite group in this older generation even I felt so young I mean at 62 I mean
even I felt so young I mean at 62 I mean
even I felt so young I mean at 62 I mean you know you’re only midlife when you’re
you know you’re only midlife when you’re
you know you’re only midlife when you’re talking to an 82 year old named Patricia
talking to an 82 year old named Patricia
talking to an 82 year old named Patricia who I met at a swimming pool she was
who I met at a swimming pool she was
who I met at a swimming pool she was wearing a diaphanous sheer long black
wearing a diaphanous sheer long black
wearing a diaphanous sheer long black see-through this is in Palm Beach and it
see-through this is in Palm Beach and it
see-through this is in Palm Beach and it she came walking into the swimming pool
she came walking into the swimming pool
she came walking into the swimming pool I remember I was wearing my LL Bean
I remember I was wearing my LL Bean
I remember I was wearing my LL Bean one-piece with little hole in the butt
one-piece with little hole in the butt
one-piece with little hole in the butt you know and he just loved it it’s so
you know and he just loved it it’s so
you know and he just loved it it’s so camouflaging and here comes Patricia
camouflaging and here comes Patricia
camouflaging and here comes Patricia walking and she has on this sheer
walking and she has on this sheer
walking and she has on this sheer coverup and you see the sinewy little
coverup and you see the sinewy little
coverup and you see the sinewy little body four-inch heels this at the pool
body four-inch heels this at the pool
body four-inch heels this at the pool we’re wearing flip-flops and she had
we’re wearing flip-flops and she had
we’re wearing flip-flops and she had this tight black Cher hair really long
this tight black Cher hair really long
this tight black Cher hair really long pulled so tight it gave me new ideas on
pulled so tight it gave me new ideas on
pulled so tight it gave me new ideas on a non-surgical facelift but I said to
a non-surgical facelift but I said to
a non-surgical facelift but I said to Patricia you are magnificent what’s
Patricia you are magnificent what’s
Patricia you are magnificent what’s going on with you she said honey I’m in
going on with you she said honey I’m in
going on with you she said honey I’m in love I hated her at that point she said
love I hated her at that point she said
love I hated her at that point she said you know I just buried my husband of 59
you know I just buried my husband of 59
you know I just buried my husband of 59 and this is typical of this generation
and this is typical of this generation
and this is typical of this generation of women I hate to say and you know this
of women I hate to say and you know this
of women I hate to say and you know this to be true statistically women if they
to be true statistically women if they
to be true statistically women if they dodged the killer diseases will outlive
dodged the killer diseases will outlive
dodged the killer diseases will outlive their men by several years so Patricia
their men by several years so Patricia
their men by several years so Patricia had a great 59 year marriage like many
had a great 59 year marriage like many
had a great 59 year marriage like many widows in Florida I love Florida
widows in Florida I love Florida
widows in Florida I love Florida because these women rocket they have
because these women rocket they have
because these women rocket they have rock in the gray sofa Tricia married 59
rock in the gray sofa Tricia married 59
rock in the gray sofa Tricia married 59 years she waited the period the grace
years she waited the period the grace
years she waited the period the grace period of two years of mourning and then
period of two years of mourning and then
period of two years of mourning and then she started dating the widower
she started dating the widower
she started dating the widower next door and she looked magnificent I
next door and she looked magnificent I
next door and she looked magnificent I wanted her secret I wanted her intimacy
wanted her secret I wanted her intimacy
wanted her secret I wanted her intimacy secrets you know she said to me okay I’m
secrets you know she said to me okay I’m
secrets you know she said to me okay I’m Mary I’m I’m dating this man
Mary I’m I’m dating this man
Mary I’m I’m dating this man and I finally decided I go out with I’ve
and I finally decided I go out with I’ve
and I finally decided I go out with I’ve never even kissed another man you know
never even kissed another man you know
never even kissed another man you know people would get married at 19 they’d
people would get married at 19 they’d
people would get married at 19 they’d have one partner forever but then
have one partner forever but then
have one partner forever but then they’re dating again she said oh I was
they’re dating again she said oh I was
they’re dating again she said oh I was as breathless as a teenager particularly
as breathless as a teenager particularly
as breathless as a teenager particularly since our first date was New Year’s Eve
since our first date was New Year’s Eve
since our first date was New Year’s Eve and he said to me Patricia I just have
and he said to me Patricia I just have
and he said to me Patricia I just have to tell you I have a temporary front
to tell you I have a temporary front
to tell you I have a temporary front tooth and she said my luck damn I’m
tooth and she said my luck damn I’m
tooth and she said my luck damn I’m gonna kiss him at midnight and choke on
gonna kiss him at midnight and choke on
gonna kiss him at midnight and choke on that too so no she didn’t kiss him
that too so no she didn’t kiss him
that too so no she didn’t kiss him however as she put it once he got that
however as she put it once he got that
however as she put it once he got that tooth fixed one thing led to another
tooth fixed one thing led to another
tooth fixed one thing led to another I’m telling you to hate her she said oh
I’m telling you to hate her she said oh
I’m telling you to hate her she said oh my god and she kept saying oh my god
my god and she kept saying oh my god
my god and she kept saying oh my god this man is a gem in that he’s 85 this
this man is a gem in that he’s 85 this
this man is a gem in that he’s 85 this man is a gem in every way whether it be
man is a gem in every way whether it be
man is a gem in every way whether it be spiritual or intellectual or sexual it’s
spiritual or intellectual or sexual it’s
spiritual or intellectual or sexual it’s so fantastic it’s electrifying if you’re
so fantastic it’s electrifying if you’re
so fantastic it’s electrifying if you’re electrified I don’t want to know you
electrified I don’t want to know you
electrified I don’t want to know you however do put have intimacy on your on
however do put have intimacy on your on
however do put have intimacy on your on your busy lives there’s so many of us in
your busy lives there’s so many of us in
your busy lives there’s so many of us in two career marriages where we just run
two career marriages where we just run
two career marriages where we just run around and we’re married forever and we
around and we’re married forever and we
around and we’re married forever and we think oh home I’ll just wear my bathrobe
think oh home I’ll just wear my bathrobe
think oh home I’ll just wear my bathrobe and watch hockey that I hate but
and watch hockey that I hate but
and watch hockey that I hate but remember to put have sex on your to-do
remember to put have sex on your to-do
remember to put have sex on your to-do list I interviewed a 62 year old couple
list I interviewed a 62 year old couple
list I interviewed a 62 year old couple and they were like one of these that
and they were like one of these that
and they were like one of these that weren’t only hand-holding they were like
weren’t only hand-holding they were like
weren’t only hand-holding they were like Lomb Don to each other you wanted to
Lomb Don to each other you wanted to
Lomb Don to each other you wanted to leave it was too much even wanted to
leave it was too much even wanted to
leave it was too much even wanted to take a shower so you said to them I said
take a shower so you said to them I said
take a shower so you said to them I said what’s your secret and the man said we
what’s your secret and the man said we
what’s your secret and the man said we have sex once a week I said really and
have sex once a week I said really and
have sex once a week I said really and then the woman leaned over said yes
then the woman leaned over said yes
then the woman leaned over said yes every Wednesday I said really no no no
every Wednesday I said really no no no
every Wednesday I said really no no no really that’s that’s so spontaneous
really that’s that’s so spontaneous
really that’s that’s so spontaneous okay finally I told you to embrace the
okay finally I told you to embrace the
okay finally I told you to embrace the power of the ordinary embrace each other
power of the ordinary embrace each other
power of the ordinary embrace each other this might be the most important one
this might be the most important one
this might be the most important one never expect anyone else to make you
never expect anyone else to make you
never expect anyone else to make you happy
happy
happy you must do that for yourself in the
you must do that for yourself in the
you must do that for yourself in the early years of our marriage I remember
early years of our marriage I remember
early years of our marriage I remember and I used this old gray bathrobe often
and I used this old gray bathrobe often
and I used this old gray bathrobe often because I still have it and I just don’t
because I still have it and I just don’t
because I still have it and I just don’t want to throw it away because that old
want to throw it away because that old
want to throw it away because that old bathrobe I’ve had as long as I’ve had
bathrobe I’ve had as long as I’ve had
bathrobe I’ve had as long as I’ve had that old Chuck who’s a little younger
that old Chuck who’s a little younger
that old Chuck who’s a little younger than me and you know they are our
than me and you know they are our
than me and you know they are our history holders but in the early years I
history holders but in the early years I
history holders but in the early years I was sitting four kids under the age of
was sitting four kids under the age of
was sitting four kids under the age of three I had left my extraordinary
three I had left my extraordinary
three I had left my extraordinary journalism career and I was just
journalism career and I was just
journalism career and I was just thinking I hate marriage I just I’m not
thinking I hate marriage I just I’m not
thinking I hate marriage I just I’m not a marriage isn’t making me happy and I
a marriage isn’t making me happy and I
a marriage isn’t making me happy and I used to always call my therapist friend
used to always call my therapist friend
used to always call my therapist friend Leslie who gave me free advice and
Leslie who gave me free advice and
Leslie who gave me free advice and didn’t charge me I said I hate marriage
didn’t charge me I said I hate marriage
didn’t charge me I said I hate marriage it’s not making me happy she said iris
it’s not making me happy she said iris
it’s not making me happy she said iris lower your expectations
lower your expectations
lower your expectations [Music]
[Music]
[Music] hello expecting marriage to make you
hello expecting marriage to make you
hello expecting marriage to make you happy as a ticket to divorce and indeed
happy as a ticket to divorce and indeed
happy as a ticket to divorce and indeed you know all of us will go through loss
you know all of us will go through loss
you know all of us will go through loss in our lives changes in our lives but we
in our lives changes in our lives but we
in our lives changes in our lives but we know that we can handle every loss and
know that we can handle every loss and
know that we can handle every loss and every season and every change in our
every season and every change in our
every season and every change in our lives if we learn right now not only in
lives if we learn right now not only in
lives if we learn right now not only in marriage but in life that we need to
marriage but in life that we need to
marriage but in life that we need to learn to handle our own happiness I
learn to handle our own happiness I
learn to handle our own happiness I learned some really important lessons
learned some really important lessons
learned some really important lessons about life and loss and love from my
about life and loss and love from my
about life and loss and love from my Holocaust survivor mother who was born
Holocaust survivor mother who was born
Holocaust survivor mother who was born in Poland Helene crass now she lost her
in Poland Helene crass now she lost her
in Poland Helene crass now she lost her immediate family parents and siblings
immediate family parents and siblings
immediate family parents and siblings and seven nieces and nephews in Hitler’s
and seven nieces and nephews in Hitler’s
and seven nieces and nephews in Hitler’s death camps we were taught early on her
death camps we were taught early on her
death camps we were taught early on her three children about the eggshell thin
three children about the eggshell thin
three children about the eggshell thin line that separates life from death we
line that separates life from death we
line that separates life from death we were taught early on that the people we
were taught early on that the people we
were taught early on that the people we love most in our worlds could be
love most in our worlds could be
love most in our worlds could be snatched from us in a finger snap
snatched from us in a finger snap
snatched from us in a finger snap we were told over and over that family
we were told over and over that family
we were told over and over that family is everything and to love our loved ones
is everything and to love our loved ones
is everything and to love our loved ones while we have them within reach her
while we have them within reach her
while we have them within reach her wisdom and her tragedy and her joy is
wisdom and her tragedy and her joy is
wisdom and her tragedy and her joy is really at the core of Who I am and why
really at the core of Who I am and why
really at the core of Who I am and why I’ve spent a lifetime talking about and
I’ve spent a lifetime talking about and
I’ve spent a lifetime talking about and researching and writing about the power
researching and writing about the power
researching and writing about the power of family
of family
of family and the power of long-term relationships
and the power of long-term relationships
and the power of long-term relationships if you can weather these waves of
if you can weather these waves of
if you can weather these waves of malaise and boredom
malaise and boredom
malaise and boredom I think tequila helps but you know after
I think tequila helps but you know after
I think tequila helps but you know after interviewing thousands of couples about
interviewing thousands of couples about
interviewing thousands of couples about the nature of love and some remorse and
the nature of love and some remorse and
the nature of love and some remorse and some regret we all know to get rid of
some regret we all know to get rid of
some regret we all know to get rid of stubborn standoffs
stubborn standoffs
stubborn standoffs and push through it you can’t say I’m
and push through it you can’t say I’m
and push through it you can’t say I’m sorry let’s work it out at a Funeral so
sorry let’s work it out at a Funeral so
sorry let’s work it out at a Funeral so as I stand here today I’ve lived more
as I stand here today I’ve lived more
as I stand here today I’ve lived more life than I have left to live and this
life than I have left to live and this
life than I have left to live and this is a juncture where a lot of people say
is a juncture where a lot of people say
is a juncture where a lot of people say oh I only have 25 more years I’m gonna
oh I only have 25 more years I’m gonna
oh I only have 25 more years I’m gonna go find something hot new and
go find something hot new and
go find something hot new and extraordinary well there’s something
extraordinary well there’s something
extraordinary well there’s something really extraordinary as many of you know
really extraordinary as many of you know
really extraordinary as many of you know and I hope most of you know about our
and I hope most of you know about our
and I hope most of you know about our ordinary lives about the steady rudder
ordinary lives about the steady rudder
ordinary lives about the steady rudder of our lives and I’m even starting to
of our lives and I’m even starting to
of our lives and I’m even starting to like hockey thank you
like hockey thank you
like hockey thank you [Applause]
”
Be First to Comment